CCY Not Speaking Lashon Harah Even When Permitted When You Are Deficient In That Area {Day 75}

Okay friends of what could be better than to learn the forab here is a very interesting and important ingredient when it comes to lash and that is even when there's a to speak lash if you have the same problem of the person you're talking about you can't speak about it if you have the same deficiency You may not talk about it. This is only if the person who sees the infraction is better than the person who he's talking about. But what if you yourself you yourself are dishonest? You say this guy is a a thief, but you you cheat on your taxes, so you're also a thief. So you can't talk about him. You're also a thief. Or let's say you say, "Oh, he's stingy." Stingy. You give less than he does. Can't talk about him. So So if you're a sinner like him and you're also a sinner like him and I'll talk about him. You know why? You say, "Why not? I'm trying to help the guy." No. then obviously you're not because it can't be you have for this terrible infraction because you yourself do it. So obviously you're just trying to badmouth him. A guy like this his in revealing his hidden faults is not for a good purpose. You're just trying to rejoice about his downfall. and to shame him already says what's the story was commanded to kill out in Israel. The Nvi told him do it and he did it and he was rewarded with Maluca for four generations. Nevertheless, he was considered a murderer even though the Nvi told Yahoo to kill Akav and he did and he was rewarded with four generations of Malos. But since he also served a little bit like so now he's killing an innocent person. He can't say no I'm killing him because he was no you weren't because you yourself were in that. This is a very great principle that even when you're authorized and commanded and obligated to reprimand someone or give them or talk about them if you have even a smattering of that fault then everything you did is considered spilling innocent blood. Even though you're required to do it anyway, you're still going to be punished. I'm going to visit the blood of Israel on the house of did a say by cutting off the house of Israel. He was commanded by the prophet and he was rewarded with with four generations. Since it was in my heart what you did to the house of four generations will sit on the throne of Israel. In the end he was punished for the blood of Ra Pesh because Yahoo was also of great sin. This comes by the way from the fifth ingredient that we said earlier is as we will explain. You know what it means to be? It goes without saying if the people who you're talking to could help the one who it was stolen from or oppressed or damaged or embarrassed, it's certainly import uh correct to speak about it. What if you're not really going to be helping the person who was harmed? He's not going to get his money back. If he's going to get his money back, of course, you should speak about this wrongdoing. But even if he's not going to get his money back, your covenant is just is you just want people to distance themselves from the bad path when they hear. Let's say you saw Py going to the fruit store and he ate a cherry. Now Ply is not going to pay for that cherry. But when people hear that you're bad mouthing the guy who stole a cherry from the store, people are going to stop stealing cherries. When people hear that you're now to steal money not from a not from a Israel and not from a gazuma and if some let's say you know someone stole from an aum and they're not going to give the money back, are you allowed to badmouth them? Yes. Why? So that people learn their lesson that you're not to do that and maybe he's talking about maybe the guy himself will repent from his bad ways and correct his actions when he hears people. This is not it's considered a benefit. You're not trying to benefit by putting the guy down. You're just trying to be zealous for the truth. Maybe it will bring a benefit for the future says in this case. Very interesting. If the guy will be able to get his money back, you're allowed to talk about the oppressor even if the one who was oppressed doesn't know that he was oppressed or was stolen from him. But if you're just trying to be then you can only do it if the person who was oppressed knows about it. If they don't know about it, you can tell others now. Now we're dealing with because since the person who was hurt doesn't know about it yet. So then by you talking about it, he's going to find out about it. So if he's going to get his money back, you could do it. If he's not going to get his money back, it's just a matter of standing up for the truth. Then you can't talk about it. And and not only could you not tell him, you can't tell anybody. Why? One friend has a friend. It's going to cause animosity. In other words, there are two levels of for to help somebody retrieve recoup a loss. You're allowed to talk about it even if the person who had the loss doesn't know about it. If it's not going to help him rec recoup a loss, it's just standing up for the truth. You can't talk about it if the one who was hurt doesn't know about it. However, let's say you estimate there will be no benefit. You're just shooting the breeze in front of bad people. Let's say you're saying he drives recklessly. He hits people. He damages their car and he drives away. So if you're and who you're telling to, you're telling people who they themselves do this. They don't consider it a sin at all. Let's say you say this guy, he has no respect for the he walks in and he has a phone on him. Can you imagine? Not that there are even people like that nowadays that do that cuz everybody knows you now do that. But in the last generation before it became well known that you can't bring a phone into a shul there were people who used to do that. So let's say you badmouth somebody that they bring a phone into in front of people who bring now actually bad example because that's okay this cl is talking about if you if you say let's say always insults people right it's more you have to be more guarded they're more uh they're more ingredients that have to be fulfilled if you're telling people who they themselves have the same deficiency then you're not to tell to such people to be careful not to say anything aside from the fact that no benefit will come from his speaking. It could also bring about a great destruction. He they're going to tell the robber and the oppressor the one who embarrassed and they're going to be violating it's going to cause big fights especially if it could come to tattling on a Jew to the government even if the details are all fulfilled you're not to say anything so the has to be only if you're disparaging it in front of god-fearing people and it will lead to the violator or to others being careful about this uh area. There is no difference in whether the one who was hurt asked you to help him out or he didn't. When it's you could do it even if he didn't ask you. When it's prohibited even if he asks you when it's permitted it's even if he didn't ask you and when it's prohibited that you didn't meet meet the above criteria it's not going to help even if he asks you even if he's your relative with this many people are if they hear that someone anything to the relative even though it has not been verified to them whether it's true or why it was done they go and they pay back with bad immediately they think they're being they think they're fulfilling the mitzvah of not to ignore your own flesh there's no between a relative or a distant individual. The prohibition of do not ignore your relative, do not ignore your flesh and blood was not said regarding any of a great day and a wonderful Shabas everyone. I guess we'll do uh tian mats shabas. That's what we usually do. Okay. Have a good day. Call >> recording stopped.