BASELESS HATRED - The Real Story {Tisha B’Av}

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we're speaking about a very important topic in preparation for thear tells us Ina one of the most well-known garas in why was the first B destroyed because of three sins idolatry adultery and murder the big three in the times of the first bikash they violated The Big Three the few lines down the asks the second they engaged in learning they performed why was the second B destroyed they didn't survival abolish that they were notal they were not murderers why was the second destroyed because they had baseless hatred baseless hatred so one second first Bas MD because of the three cardinal sin you have to give up your life for second BD because of baseless hatred are those equal says must this teaches you that is the equivalent of three sins this teaches us that is the equivalent of three sins the gar says um Gil and in other words if the first B was destroyed because of the big three and the second was destroyed because of it must be is equal to all three a okay that's gar in Yuma let's think about that for a moment is equal to all three sins is that possible how is it possible that is equal to all three the big three sins you have to give up your life not to violate do you have to give up your life not to hate another Jew no what if you hate another Jew is there Punishment No it's a sha not only you know the big three there's capital punishment and if you're not warned there's and you have to give up your life for you don't have to give up your life for you're not you don't even you don't even get Mal it's what we call how in the world could be equal to the big three sins does that make sense also is it such a terrible sin that theik was destroyed because of it why is so terrible it's a the guy's not doing anything wrong he's not actively doing anything wrong now the has very interesting take on this you know learns that this is says the does not mean just because we have another says we learned in the Academy of anyone who speaks he magnifies sin he increases sin King three big a so wait a second isn't that interesting the says is equal to the big three the says someone who speaks it's like he violated the big three so what is it is equal to the big three or is lar equal to the big three says could it be both they're both so now we have two a that are equal to to the big three says in the times of the second became very prevalent and from the from there it led to says even though the doesn't say that says it doesn't make sense to say that Hashem would have destroyed the bdash just because of it's a sh it must be that what the g means it must be that to and says the proof is we have two garas in one says equals the big three one says equals a big three it must be when the says in the times of the they violated it's referring to lashara as well okay but does that make it any better why is lashara equal to the big three what's the if we warn someone don't speak lashara and the guy speaks lashara is it a capital offense no do you no do you get malus for speaking no you know why it's a talking is a it's the same so how could Lara be equal to the big three lashara is the equivalent of how's that possible how could be equal to all three comes sh cha comes R and Ru says no lashara is not equal to the big three by the way there's another gamarra inin it's also in the says someone who speaks is like he's K that doesn't sound like that's not a good thing to do by the way not a good thing to be so why is like even asks look at number four we have to explain how could be even more than the big three for the big three you have to give up your life you don't have to give up your life not to speak lashara so RAB says a famous idea R says that speaking lashara one time is not the equivalent of the big three but somebody who usually speaks lashara if you if you hear somebody speaking lashar you think that's the only word of lashari said that day the guy's on his phone the whole day he's texting he's whatsapping he's emailing and he's talking about people and every single thing he says about people is negative and in one minute you could speak 200 words the guy had seven 10minute conversations in 10 minutes he said 2,000 words of lashara in seven in all the seven uh minute seven different conversations he spoke 70,000 words of lanara so it's very nice he helped an old lady cross the street he put Onan he put on Talis so he has 70,000 AO and three mitzvas this guy's going to have to do mitv from now until the the you know I don't know when just to catch up on one day of lanara so one time speaking lashen Hara is not the equivalent of the big three but typically when people speak lanara they can glomerate effect gives the mus if you have a strand of silk it's easy to tear if you have two it's easy to tear if you have three it's easy to tear but when you repeat it again and again and again again it becomes a very thick rope and generally when someone speaks lashan Hara the the conglomerate effect of all the acts of speaking lashara will end up being even worse than so in other words if you have two people one guy murdered someone he once committed adultery and he bowed down to an idol in his basement four times in his life the other guy gets on the phone every day and badmouths his friend for 10 minutes a day who is worse the guy who murdered committed adultery and bowed down to Buddha or the guy who speaks slan heart every day 10 minutes a day the guy who speaks lashara 10 minutes a day is much worse I know you don't like that it's not politically correct too bad I don't run for office here he's worse the guy who speaks SAR is wor he's a worse guy he's the worst guy because he in one minute of lanar spoke 200 words and in 10 minutes he spoke help me out here 2,000 words yeah 2,000 words a week it's 14,000 so this guy only killed one person it's not a good thing we don't endorse that but at the end of the year this guy is far worse he's going to be in a worse place so that's the idea that AO that are repeated again and again and again and again and again and the same thing could be applied to sin well you think he only hates this person one minute a day he hates the guy the entire day he can't stand this the whole day he's thinking during the daving during shakas he hates the guy during he hates the guy during Mar he hates the guy during breakfast during lunch during his coffee the entire day again and again and again and again every moment is's an AA this the mar says explains the the format of how many time how many begin with the word three three par Alf per B perad actually that's peric Al peric B and then perim doesn't begin with giml begins how many Al 22 for every letter of the AL how many B 22 for every letter of the alas how many 66 three for every letter of Al the difference is has long long little yeah little bang sometimes you don't even have anak um you don't even have just so begin with 22 each parl does not begin with the word but the are short 66 says what does mean what's the the says 36 why because they violated the 36 cise they got all them they hit each one they violate all 30 during which Bas ofd do they violate the second they just didn't like each other yeah B was destroyed because of how many a primarily three therefore there three for Al per and per one for one for G one 36 36 is not for for they didn't violate so it doesn't start with the word what did they violate little a not Big Al and are long they they violated biggies they violated little therefore the are short but they're three for every letter of the AL because it's worse to repeatedly violate a small a than to violate a big AA that's the format of meaning from we see that who is worse the murderer or the bashara the adulterer or the guy who hates his friend in his heart it's worse to speak lashara and hate your friend than to do the big three that's the format of okay so for starters when tell us the second was destroyed because of and is the equivalent of all three the way learns not one act of if let's say ruin doesn't like Shima for one time for a small reason okay it's a small it's relative speaking it's not a it's not a big deal it's not a good thing but relative to bigger AO it's on the smaller scale but these type of AOS are frequently violated and therefore the conglomerate effect ends up being much worse than the big sins but let's try to explain why did Hashem take away the bikash because of you know clol has violated AOS in their history in the midbar we didn't keep shabas Hashem didn't take away the mishan by the of K Hashem didn't take away the Mish by didn't take away the Mish when entered they weren't perfect Hashem didn't take away the mikdash why da cause the destruction of the B mdash so I would like to present to you at least two revolutionary approaches why the punishment for sin was hasem took away the mikdash but I would choose to look at it not as a punishment but as a natural consequence what is the B of mdash it's a house for Hashem have a question if you're Hashem why do you need a house you need a house what do you need a house for God needs a house you ever think that oh this is the house like we come into the we come into a show hashem's in the house he's in the house why does hasm need a house the girl says what you told you hasm doesn't need a house it says I will dwell in them who's them the Jewish people so doesn't need a house he needs you God dwells on Jews not on houses fine which Jew does Hashem dwell on me God's not doell on me I'm not worthy you no individual is worthy that hashem's going to dwell on them so who's Hashem going to dwell on he's going to dwell on CLA is we are in CLA is hm dwells in the LA so whose La my La no he's not delling you're La you're not worthy so who La the LA of the Jewish people so friends how in the world are we going to create something called the LA of the Jewish people where everyone's going to have go to a Cardiologist K is going to remove everyone's La we're going to take a big pale everyone's going to throw their La in there okay that might be that that would be something you'd have beating hearts and a lot of dead people and then the hearts would stop beating how is God going to dwell on the collective heart of jewi the answer is if I donate if I donate with generosity of heart and you donate with generosity of heart then the entity that we all donated to is now reflective of the collective heart of the Jewish people that's why in Pas chuma the emphasis is on call have a question let's say Dave let's say you had a Shaw yeah you're trying to build a Shaw and somebody comes over to you he gives you a check for a million dollars and you know the guy is giving it with such stinginess and such tarus ey in what do you do with the check you cash it right away so why does the T emphasize that all generous of heart should donate to the B mikash who cares whether they're generous or not as long as they give right there's a rule you take it you know you don't question what the guy's motives are so why the emphasis is says the we don't need the money we need the heart we don't need your money we need your La so how do you give your La you give BAS so what is the Mish says the this is the okay look look at these words it's a look in number six dwell in the heart of all of they needed a place to gather together they selected a choice place how will we unite the hearts of all of Israel together so commands and everyone gives so the Mish is the collective heart of the Jewish people so I ask you one simple question what is a what is the B mikdash is a building now the buildings are theik is the heart of the Jewish people whose heart everyone everyone but what if I can't stand you what if we're not one heart I don't like you I don't like you because now if people think what I don't like you because you wear a different y than me if that's why you don't like that you're just a fool that's not you're stupid is you don't like the guy for who he is if you don't like people because they dress differently than you you need therapy it's you really don't like the person you don't like them for what they believe in for what they stand for so it's not a punishment Hashem doesn't take away the B mikdash as a punishment it's a natural consequence it's not a b mikdash what is the is the heart of the Jewish people but if you don't have you don't have instead you have you don't have a it's not that hem destroyed it it doesn't exist it's not a punishment it's a natural consequence it's not that is an a andem punished the Jewish people you have to understand what a b mikdash is B mikdash is the United heart of the Jewish people we don't like each other and we're not United then we don't have anything we have a building but the building is irrelevant that's approach number one based on the v in sh it's very P I never saw it anywhere but it's very clear number two there's a med tanuma I'm EXC medish Raba peral in sh the med says that God says to the Jewish people you're my children and I'm your father like it says I'm your father like it says in it's an honor for children if they live near their fathers and it's an honor for a father to be next to his children like it says say says make a house for your father that's the reason for the building of the mikdash so we see a very interesting thing here that the concept of the mikdash is God's our father and it's fitting and it's appropriate for a father and a child to live together in fact fi in the who famously brings 36 proofs that we are B he says one of the proofs that we're B is from the building of the B mikdash cuz the concept of B mikdash is God's Our Father you know if he was our Master why would we want to live with him why would he want to live with his slaves you know it's not a covet for the master to live together with the slave and the slave usually doesn't live together with the master with this I believe we could understand why destroyed the there's another teaching of where says what does it say after it says what are the next words you're the children of Hashem if you're the children of hem what do we learn from don't make yourself don't make yourself into different camps and movements and groups meaning in order for us to attain and preserve our status as hashem's children we can't be a we can't be fragmented we have to be United in fact fi writes elsewhere in the sa that even though there thousands of them tens of thousands of them refers to us as one entity why because he loves us so much so he considers us like his only child but that's only when we are but when we are disparate and fragmented we are no longer worthy of the title in other words in order to be considered the Beloved children of hem we have to be United if we're not United then we cannot we don't warrant the the status of being beloved children of in fact you ever hear of this expression there's there's an individual in the in you ever hear that sh so the says a on this have you ever hear that that phrase he says AI God could be a father s he could also be our Master a what's the barometer whether God is our father or our Master shom if we're B he's our father if we're not B he's our he's our the difference between father and master is shom if there's Shalom he's our father if there's not shom then he's our master so there's a a safer called that suggests that the reason why C the destruction of the bikash is it's not a punishment it's a natural consequence why do we have a b mikdash why do we have B mikdash we have B mikdash because a father should live together with his children the reason Hashem wants to B mikdash is hm says I'm your father I'm your Tata I need to live near you I need to live together with you but there's a stipulation we're only his children if we're United if we're not United God says you're not my children so it's not that says bad boys I punish you I take away the if we're notas we lose the status of being the children of Hashem we're not children of hem we don't need to be living next to our next to someone who we don't deserve to be to consider our father Hashem says I'm your father you earn the title as my children as long as but if you're then you're not you're not B him there's no Bash so number one what is the bik it's the collective La of the Jewish people yeah but the LA has to be Collective if there's P there ain't no there's no Collective La we can't have a bash the other the second approach is that the function of the M is for the father to live near his children however our being B is predicated upon if we're then we're not B him not bu him the bias is uh what do we have a bias for here's the third approach this comes from a saare on Pam this you know already you all know this the most misunderstood and abused Concept in Judaism is akas akas every good CD not CD I'm dating myself I was about to say tape even but every good what are they called every good no not song album has to have a song about together forever AK and you sh preferably or you need an akas song a wedding song a sh he good to go why is AK so important I understand we shouldn't fight it's not good if we fight it's it gets ugly but why do I have to like you I'll do my thing you know I'll wake up in the morning I'll down with kavana I'll have my sad you do your thing why do we have to like each other I mean I guess it's not good if we hate each other but why do we have to like each other I have to like you why I have to like you I'm not a good Jew if I don't like other Jew why do I have to like other Jews say but it's so much nicer and fuzzier and warmer you know it makes me feel good really that's why that's why God wants you to like someone because it makes you feel good why is AK so important and the second was destroyed because of so this is one of my favorite ideas the writes in it is impossible for the honor of hem to be magnified only when CL is redeemed and in the magnification of the honor of one is dependent on the other God cannot have elevated honor unless the Jewish people are elevated hashem's honor will never be elevated unless the Jewish people are redeemed why God's dependent on us yeah he is Hashem is dependent on us hashem's honor will never be magn ified unless the the Jewish people are elevated you know why cuz we are the ambassadors of Hashem in this world the Jewish people represent Hashem and if we're down in the dumps then it's a hasem people have no idea what is think if you throw something out of a school bus it's a it is a but that's that's not the definition of is when God's name is defiled God's name is defiled when the Jewish people are downtrodden because we reflect Hashem in this world now we say every day You Are Holy your name is Holy therefore those who are holy praise you every day God if you're holy then your holiness will only be fully realized and appreciated through the Jewish people who are holy one of the most important features about Hashem is Hashem is one you knew that you know that there's one hasem there's one God now if we're the ambassadors of Hashem and we reflect Hashem then guess what we have to be we have to be one cuz if we're disparate and we're fragmented then we are actually be speaking heresy about the creator of the worldus is not a warm and fuzzy feeling let's let's you know have a comet and have akas akos is one of the central roles of the Jewish people in this world if we are the ones who brought monotheism to the world the way we do it is through the unity of the Jewish people therefore we say you are one and the way you are manifest in this world is one has to be one because if CLA is is not one then it's as if we're saying there's more than one God it's heresy and one time we were to understand you know in the we say about the Russ where are the next words we knock out his teeth that's why there a lot of Jewish dentists C Baker someone who said separates from the community he's a ker why is he a ker he's a ker everyone's doing a Mitzvah and this guy is not joining why is he a ker he's a he's Anan he's lazy why is he a ker cuz if you are dispar from theor then you're reflecting that is not and you're reflecting that is not so you're and hasem giving you mat today the [Applause] says anyone who speaks lashara is a heretic why is he a heretic he's not a nice person he badmouths someone why is he a heretic the answer is because he's causing P he's fragmenting the Jewish people you know the writes that by the Paras it says it uses the word and says what are we being biased are we saying only we're man and they're not man no the meaning is the word Adam has no plural every other word for man is and R is the reason only CL is called Adam because only we are one entity we're called Adam because the entire Jewish people is one entity and and when you speak lashara you break that entity and therefore you're breaking the status of Adam and maybe the reason why soone speaks the same way someone who someone who speak he breaks the one unit the the Oneness of the unity of he's a because now he's reflecting that there's more than one God by the way the in the writes this explicitly he says if you look at number eight in second to last paragraph God is one God's spiritual illumination can only be strengthened in something which is one meaning we believe that the Jewish people are the ambassadors of God in this world meaning the sanctity of Hashem is reflected through the Jewish people but theam as one entity will only reflect his sanctity through a nation that is one the moment we are not one God says you lost your job you you do not reflect me you cannot reflect me okay now you want to hear the biggest of the year but you know it already you thought that when you come to and you say you're declaring listen up listen to what I'm saying hashem's our godem you thought you were declaring the unity of God no says what do the words sh is mean sh is doesn't even mean listen up shma means gather together like in the the says gather the people so you ready for a new explanation for the word sh this is only from the and the sh is gather together as one cl is you're not talking you're not saying hey pal listen to what I'm saying I'm telling you there's one God no no sh gather as one cl is and when CLA gathers as one you know what that bespeaks you know what the messaging of that is Hashem elu Hashem when we gather together as one it cries out to the world there's one God when you say shma you're not telling your friend to listen you're telling your friend to gather together with you it's a Clarion call that the Jewish people should unite because when we unite the message is we're one nation and therefore there's one God and now we understand also another dimension of why sinam is a crack in the very foundation of the Jewish people because there what could be more fundamentally problematic than if the Jewish people call out to the world that there many uh there many Powers up there it's crack in the foundation of the Jewish people it's a crack in the foundation of what our role is in the world sh is gather together CL is and when we do so we can be seen in our Unity as okay one more idea why is the opposite that there's many gods rather than just there's no why why would people see us as oh many I mean if it's fragmented then somehow distorting the whole idea of one God just distorting okay maybe you could say like that I mean the of is so it's like it's like you're uh denying the existence of that one God just a fragmented na just doing okay so here you have a guy let's say he's missing uh a kidney could still function let's say he's missing a kidney and an ear can still function let's say he's missing a kidney an ear and an eye and a leg and an arm he's uh not oper ating on all cylinders this guy let's say he has like most of his body parts it's a rough existence we believe that we have 248 Limbs and senu yeah I mean we we not we believe we have them right what fuels them what gives them capacity what gives them the ability to operate so we have 248 positive Commandments and 365 negative Commandments and every Mitzvah fuels a different part of the body so for instance when you uh when you do alul an I don't know maybe it gives to your spine and your heart and F to your arm every Mitzvah fuels a different part of the body and every a refraining from every AA fuels uh blood vessel in your body the problem is raise your hand if you're Cen okay raise your hand if you're a Ley raise your hand if you're Israel raise your hand if you're not here you know there's some mitzah only K could do some MIT only a Le could do some MIT only is could do some MIT only women could do some MIT only men could do some MIT are very rare yum doesn't happen every day if each Mitzvah fuels a different part of the body and without that Mitzvah that body part can function certainly in a spiritual capacity then how does any individual and CLA function spiritually how does any Jew V writes about the importance of making sure to fulfill every single Mitzvah in the T because every single Mitzvah in the T each mitzvah fuels spiritually a different part of the body and you know that means that on a spiritual capacity we're we're very we're our tank is very low because nobody could fulfill all the Mitzvah it's not even physically possible you can't you can't be you know kadan gumus you can't be all of the above even if you want to identify as all the above it's not going to help you how do you fulfill all the Mitzvah in the [Applause] T I'm not a Cen but I get along with the Cen on my on my block I don't I don't fight with him we're on the same team we're both members of the Jewish people and I get along with the Ley and as if I belong to the entity called CL is I'm able to benefit from the entirety of the to I'm part of the team I'm part of entity of this is the idea of because without the you're like a guy missing an ear missing a nose missing a kidney missing a leg and missing another 50 parts of the body so lots of luck you know lot like getting out of bed in the morning that that in other words a person has to Envision themselves as one person that without the entity of clel they're completely incapacitated as much as you learn and as many mites as you do but as a spiritual entity you cannot function and you cannot exist unless you are part of the greater entity called the Jewish people that is the importance of the Mitzvah of and now we understand how how fundamental of a crack it is if someone has sin toward other members of kol so then they're basically removing themselves from this entity and they're Island unto themselves and as an island unto themselves on a spiritual capacity they are completely incapacitated so we is literally another idea this time almost for real okay um I'm I'm almost ready to sign off and he also he's bothered by this question what is so problematic why is uh so severe that destroy theik and refers to this idea of V that every Mitzvah in the T corresponds to a different limb some Mitzvah correspond to the eyes some Mitzvah correspond to the legs some Mitzvah correspond to the arms but it's possible to survive without arms it's possible to survive without legs it's possible to survive without eyes but the central limb of the whole body that the whole body is dependent on is the heart says when a person Harbors sin in their heart they defile their spiritual heart and if you defile your spiritual heart the whole system is finished so somebody looks at something improper you need eye eyes are a good thing not easy to function without eyes it's not easy to function without spiritual eyes but the person is still viable if somebody defiles a different part of the body the end the spiritual entity is still viable but if somebody has cardiac arrest spiritually that's a problem that's a problem it just occurred to me I was just in Rome so who asked if I'm going to talk about the trip you knew it was coming out somewhere right I was just in Rome I was in uh the Arch of Titus you know who built the Arch of Titus not Titus Titus was dead Titus died two years earlier Titus died in the year 81 of the Common Era Titus became he destroyed the temple in the year 70 he became the emperor in the year 79 the year he became the Emperor God sent him a special present God destroyed the city of Pompei the year Titus became the Emperor God destroyed Pompei and then Titus goes back to Rome there fires in Rome that destroyed Rome in any event his brother deian built the Arch of Titus Titus comes to the temple and he sticks a he sticks a dagger into the Paras and the par gushes with blood and Kaz say Titus thought oh he killed he killed God so is Shar asks I understand um that's what Titus thought but why did God perform this miracle God's making a miracle for Titus so if Isaac Shar gives an answer we always say it over on tshav but maybe we could say that Hashem was showing the Jewish people that during the times of the second M mikdash the heart of the Jewish people was pierced and they were gushing blood because we violated so we have a problem with our leave we have a problem with our heart it's like the heart has been punctured and it's gushing with blood in other words Titus so much blood was coming out of that Paras as if the collective heart of the Jewish people was gashed and uh and pierced and maybe this was a message to the Jewish people that we have violated the AA that sullies and contaminates the Heart of the Jewish people and that's only loves someone who loves the Jewish people and to the extent that a person increases his love for the the Jewish people increases his love toward him so today we learned um and we reviewed many important ideas the tells us that is equal to the big three says how is it equal to the big three through repetition that's why the rep but but many small him because repetition of is even worse than the big three we learned from the V that the BD is the collective heart of the Jewish people accordingly if there's P then the whole entity of the bash is pointless there is no bikash there is no we mentioned the idea that the purpose of the B mikdash is so that our father could live near his children but our being the children of hem is predicated upon when there's P there cannot be a mikdash we learned the idea that the unity of the Jewish people reflects the Oneness and the unity of Hashem and if we are not then we reflect a problematic view of the existence of we mentioned the idea that a Jew can only be spiritually viable through the MIT without it is not possible for any Jew to complete all of his spiritual a and says specifically corresponds to the LA of so we hope as Tish comes and we know right after Tish what do we lay in I might say this again so if I do you'll forgive me right after in order to rectify the says okay I'm giving you a par I'm giving you the par of sh everyone announce now gather together and we should to see the and am quick question