10 Most Powerful Junctures to Daven For the Spiritual Success of One's Children {Shavuos}

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we could be misal for our children so I would like to share with you this morning 10 places in daving where one could be M for one's children as it is known the is Malala that in his opinion Ares is predisposed and designated for one to be Miss for one's children and the even composed a special for this occasion if anybody needs the be happy to share with you but it's pretty available in many sedor now it's even printed but we're going to speak about the important obligation to DAV for one's children really not not only not only at specific occasions but really throughout the entire day and thees writes in the it should always be frequent in the mouth of every father and mother to pray for their children that their children should learn to and righteous and possessors of good character character traits the says one should have great intent when they say when they say the words when one says and we and our descendant should be those who know and those who are frequent those who are familiar with the shab so the first location that is identified to DAV for one's children is in explains further in I'm sorry in the is RA M the of the mar he says in Theus of us praising and thanking Hashem for the T genuinely if we genuinely thank hasem for the T we will be to gain greater why because just like when we make if you make a on bread if you make a on food then the fruit is be is blessed the fruit increases and if you're not careful in BR because of that sin one loses and one's sustenance is diminished so to when it comes to T in the the T proliferates the T increases not only for you but for your descendants and for your grandchildren on the other hand if one is not careful in it can cease from one's descendants like we find in that why is there a phenomenon that commonly their children are not Rina says because don't make a proper so the Likens just like on food if you make a on food properly it engenders Greater blessing with food if somebody does not make AA on food properly it causes blessing to cease from food likewise when it comes to T if you make a proper it causes one's Tyra to flourish and Thrive somebody does not thank and bless hasem for toy properly it could adversely affect the continuity of the legacy of toyra in one's family so the first place that is identified regarding daving for one's children is Friends the quotes an astounding Med the tells us there's a story with a who was a secret God-fearing person and he had 10 sons from one woman six male four female six Sons and four daughters and every day he would pray and he would prostrate himself and he would lick his tongue so that none of them would come to sin or to anything M disgusting and the med says that year did not cease did not stop until Ezra came and he brought the Jewish people from B and he brought up that Coen and that Coen did not die until he saw his descendants and children and grandchildren for 50 years and only then did he go to his world what do we learn from here we learn from here the that the essential ingredient in raising children is prayer with all the methodologies with all the techniques with all the various skills that we may learn the most important ingredient in raising children is RBA explained as follows we all know that if somebody kills B they have to go to the AR mlot what until when does the murderer have to go to the AR mlad until the K godal dies why until the K godal dies because K should have daved that nobody killed B in his watch question where in the tah does it say that a has to DAV that when he's nobody should kill B friends it says that somewhere are you familiar anywhere in the T where it says that a one of his jobs is to DAV that nobody nobody kills B in watch I mean it doesn't say such a thing anywhere where does it say that a k has to DAV that nobody kills where does this come from why does thear say that a k is obligated uh to that the should stay in the until the dies because have says from here we learn that anyone who is in a position of authority has an obligation to Davin for those who he is responsible for and therefore it is the most fundamental principle of a parent to Daven for the spiritual welfare and the physical welfare and the emotional welfare of their children that is the primary obligation of a parent to Davin for the welfare of their children and the first place that we're identifying is BAS okay number two says by the way the codifies these words of the always it should be frequent in the mouth of the father and the mother to DAV in for their children that they should be and the first location of course is number two the says when you say or if you [Laughter] say when we say put in our hearts to understand to comprehend to listen to hear to accept Li to to learn to teach lar to observe to fulfill when you say these words one should think about their children and their grandchildren forever don't think I already got my children out of the house they're all and now I could go on vacation no you have to pray for your grandchildren and if you you were successful with grandchildren you have to pray for your great grandchildren the second location is in aaba or like re of ismer says one should pray always for their descendants from now until forever that no disqualification should come from them like we say the says and the sh brings the story that we just learned from theah and by the way the sh adds any time in where you pray for fear of God your kavana should be for your children and your grandchildren for example in aarab when you say [Laughter] when you say Hashem unify my heart my heart should singularly be designated for your love and fear one should also have in mind their children so number one number two here's number three comes Ram was just Ram's yard site you says in the first par of one should be to strengthen yourself in the love of God when you say have in mind yourself in the love of hasem meaning that you should love Hashem with all your heart and all your soul and all your resources and that that love and that kadus should extend not only to you but to your children and to your Offspring to your sat and that's why right after we say why do we say immediately is because we're saying that we're asking that the love of and the fear of hasem and the Kad of should be to and that you should be M all your states of being whether so in other words when you say do you want to extend to your children as well so that is a third juncture where you could be for your children when you say number four in the first request we make of hem we don't ask God Hashem please help me live long we don't ask God for money we ask Hashem for which isem please give me true knowledge understanding comprehension but then adds place your kavana for your sons your children they should be Ben if one merits to have one that they should be and they should not learn but this is a fourth juncture when you say you should be that should endow to your children that they should be able to be number five in the brings from theer he brings from the saer of the Aral that someone who has a son or a brother or a relative who shom went off the street in the narrow if you have a relative you're responsible for them whether your son or your brother or any relative you should Beal Inu the following we'll see what it is and then it's vouch sa that the heart of your relative will turn and in order for this to be effective you need to have this in mind 30 days especially during L especially during L and even someone who's not knowing to say this in other days at least between and needs to say it what is the he says he doesn't have to bring it here because it's already printed in many s but we'll see in the pre of the of he brings that he heard the Mah is asked the AR the had a son who needed to be and said you should have when you say and you should say you should dig a tunnel from under your throne of glory and accept in Repentance as so another juncture to DAV for one's children is in hash you could add in the but even without it if you're for one's children not only but in hashu you know the B zerba was asked that why didn't an formulate a designated bra a designated just for one's children it's like we have to find razm to it or secret places is why is there no open and clear and designated spot to DAV for one's children and he says because it's a very what could a parent want more than this there's nothing in this world that one should DAV for or one needs more than children who are it is the most important need of a parent in this world it's such a we're afraid the Heavenly angels will try to prosecute and instigate and in order to hide it from them so therefore the kazal so to speak tucked it away in secret places and the Bel identified that in his opinion the most designated spot is when you say we say says the B when you say you should be for one's children this is the most open designated spot to DAV for one's children when you say the words that is where designated that one should DAV for their children why there because anything more open anything more blatant the Mal will try to intervene and interfere they asked Zin somebody wants a DAV for they wanted DAV that their children to grow up to be where is this alluded to in so he quoted the in the words is for children likewise he says if you say that's another spot but that that is also a uh important designated spot to D in for one's children number seven this is a real secret one we say at the end of those who curse me my soul shall be still and my soul should be like dust just like dust is not ma destruction so too you can't destroy dust you could step on it you could try to crush it you could try to blow it up the dust will always be there there's no way to destroy dirt so when when when one says my soul should be like dirt what you're saying is that my descendants should not cease like it says okay furthermore in the this is the he brings that this is another location to DAV for one's children when you say V now I want to interject that my good friend rakov Tubi based on this year created a beautiful bookmark here we have it of the 10 most opportune moments to doin for one's children this way you could put it in your Sid and it's a reminder uh of where these spots are if you uh come to our you could pick one up yourself or we have a link that you could order this as a sticker okay but if you have this year you'll remember the 10 spots we're up to number eight number eight this spot is designated by the schah by the Misha as one of the three main spots at the end of say he should open My Heart in his place in our heart his love in his fear to do his will so that we don't toil for nothing and give birth to emptiness this is a that our children should have and the brings that actually in the beginning of when you say there you furthermore the also says you should have in mind when you say but again the original source of Weir the instead says it's at the end of the when you say so there's a question why didn't the say when you say and I found the who addresses this question of why the and the M chose the end of as one of actually not just one of the 10 but one of the three most primary places to Davin and he offers a number of interesting suggestions number one he says the idea from the belba that the more we could hide that you're doing for children the better off we are so theim don't instigate furthermore the we don't say it on we don't say it in the house of an so better have in mind the that you always say also in the beginning is referring to the but at the end of we're talking about as well and and this is a way of highlighting that to without is mitigated furthermore in the beginning of when you say it's not a request it's a so better to say better to focus on a of furthermore we know that says on unknown test that this is only if the father and grandfather and Grandson see each other and learn together so therefore we prefer to use the for a situation where the is not applicable furthermore to the to CLA as a entity as a unit not to individuals number nine you know I got a call from my my friend in Panama yonatan Ruben that one time we said over in air that when they open up the AR it is such a time of and such an that one should almost fall on his face and Pray by Rolling in the dust and I could not remember when we learned that I remember learning it in reference to the a r that is El listed when we open up the AR but shortly ago when I Was preparing this year I remembered it is in this context that we learned this idea you know the custom is that when we open up the we say the which comes from the Z in but here the Z tells us something very powerful when they take out the in the to read it the Gates of Heaven of Mercy are open and it arouses the love above and a man should say as follows blessed is the name of the master of the world blessed is his crown and his place his love should be with us forever or and the Redemption of his right hand he should show his people and it should extend to us from the goodness of his light should accept our prayer with Mercy may be his will before him before you he should extend to us life in his goodness be counted among the righteous to have mercy on me to watch me to Watch Over Me whatever belongs to me whatever belongs to all of Israel you support everyone and sustain everyone you rule over everything onto the you are The Sovereign I am a servant of God I bow before him before the honor of his at all times I don't trust in I don't rely on humans only on God that he's a true God he has a true and true Prophets and he does goodness and Truth Now listen to this in him I trust His holy name and precious name I praise and now the Z adds something that unfortunately is taken out of May It Be Your Will that you open up my heart in your and you give me male progeny that does your will fill the requests of my heart on the hearts of all of Israel so at this opportune time when the Arin is opened that the Z says in his a and by the way rebelar Papa the author of the P he says that on shabas and we say it's interesting he doesn't say to say it during the week some say was was enacted for shabas but you should at least say it on chabas by even if the CRA is not saying it however we utilize this to say the amazing to include the of the and he says that many have a great error they're missing and we know how important it is for a person to strengthen and ask for on his children and therefore says make sure you say the phrase say says the great great grandfather of that when the says that when they take out the he says the is when they open the gates of the to take the saer upstairs also they open up the gates of Heaven which are the next to the was called to take out the it's and therefore person should pray at that time comes and he says something so powerful a person should always be misar himself to pray for his sons and his daughters that they shouldn't sin in any sin the FI cites the story we brought uh and that the quoted about the who is to tremendous from his progeny says that from that any request that a person makes from Hashem even if a person himself is not Roy but if the is to honor Hashem Hashem will listen to the like we say we say so therefore says he says one should pray that their sons and daughters should be a source of honor to Hashem that they shouldn't sin they shouldn't do a and Hashem will listen to such a because it's for the honor of hasem therefore listen to these words this is what a person should do when he's in a b and he comes before the to bow down to it and to DAV when they open up the you should fall on your face before to ask for Mercy smooth out your tongue from the dust that's there this is a figure of speech fall on your face lick the dust meaning it should be an opportunity to exercise the utmost emotion when they open up the Kesh and if you have in mind Tav for the honor of that you sayem please grant me the my children should learn for your honor such AA cannot go empty-handed as we have a tradition even if you're not worthy and finally the 10th place to DAV for one's children the day is over you put in a full day you're ready to hit the sack you say sh the final you say every day is the of H where you say where you should think my bed should be whole before you my progeny should be whole before you have in mind says the the P on the have in mind that your they should be God-fearing so just as about you're about to end the day and close your eyes One Last Time friends these are the 10 spots and number one number two number three number four number five number six number seven the end of number eight at the end of number nine when they take out the and number 10 I want to point out a very important observation many of these instances where we're doing for our children it's in the context of where we're doing for oursel we say you should put in our heart and we have in mind our children when we say you should open up our hearts in the to then we add and when we say God open up my heart in the we say you don't think it's a coincidence that every time we DAV for the spiritual welfare of our children we're daving to hasem open up my heart in your T because this is not just a magical formula to D in for your children but it's most effective if your heart is open in Tyra and you're learning Tyra and you have and you have you got a fighting shot to should be but if it's not in your heart if the and and is not in your heart and you're just going to D inem put it in the heart of my children that's a very underwhelming the has to be preceded by then we could be as teaches us today is the day which is most that the for our children could be accepted so I wish everyone and again if anybody would like to be in the next that is available everyone actually I'll see you Monday see everybody Monday at 11:45 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