Rabbi Benzion Klatzko - What is Daas Torah & How Can I Find It?

the the topic for tonight is gonna be less Lum dish and more practice and in order to sort of give you a background so you'll know we're where I'm coming from I'm gonna give you a little bit of my background because it's important to understand when I speak about das neue like who is this guy and what was his connection to das player that exists so here's a little bit of my background I grew up in Cleveland Ohio and I went to tell zu Shiva I was close with rabbi gift there and my son is sitting right over here his named after another gift there his name is Mordechai and after that I went to Staten Island is Shiva where I spent Shabbos by Russia before before he was lifter one of the last Shabazz 'some over certain Kufa I had the opportunity to get to know many of the Godoy llem and I encouraged my own children to make it a quest to get to know good ol Elam that's a quest so I've had three children learn by really and it our shores in the mirror you have a thousand buqun so my first my first bucker when I sent him to Russia he said I said I want you to get to know about sure he said no one can know Rivage sure there's too many people I said does anyone always a few people know him so I said you'd be amongst those you push your way in and and sure enough he didn't he got close to Russia then the next cerebral Hashem my son who was in the mirror right now is again close to Russia really so I have tried to give that to my children that that paycheck to connect to the good or them to the Doster the big questions in my life some of the larger questions I was I said to sit by or boishakh a number of times he gave me a lot of time and I was able to as am I even married my wife LP rib shock and he was the one who gave his house comer to my sheriff and ever the kind of a kind of many of us have had opportunities you know I spent Shabbos fire of palm I was his guest and every opportunity that I add I try to shop Orien as a matter of fact I'm sat learn baccarat with rahama can have ski many years ago and my regret is when I was a bunker I never met the stapler and I feel bad about that but I didn't meet the time I used to go into him time to ask him questions and once he was just at down thrown learn with this conversa he said why don't you join us sighs that was I didn't know what was flying but it was still cool das hier that's her the truth is the parsha this week and next week that great struggle was the struggle of - Clara where a moisture Boehner says go enteric sister all and they say maybe not and many of them wanna see him um they were they were Nasim and they were very harsh of the people there were people who had given my tunnels they were there were there were very big people in Cairo and it must have been a little bit confusing to figure out who is the da sternum I mean we know much as my shot they know but there's Jim repents allah' there's there's every one of the new scene that exists what about a chef and then what did I call have any food who is you know chef and who shall have been hurry who are these people they were the good or them and some of them had after and some of them did not now you and I think that should have been a no-brainer when you've got a motion a news so then you have good oilman you have the gallbladder and I'd have good the goggle of alders who you know pal pal Dabra boy right they they there should have been no question but my so that was the question who do we listen to and next which posture as well in partials correct the exact same struggle car you saw head when when Clara gets up and he says Holly look Holly the computation for myeloma duties Nassau Coliseum why are you being shy over Kaiser we'll play there's plenty of those players to go around you're not the only doubt story the buck does not stop with you so Dan was a struggle that we had to identify who that does Ferrer was and one can even argue that even Miriam and Aaron they struggled a little bit to understand that maestra Dana was the da stirrer so Hashem is lamellar a stolid a baba ijebu Misha why weren't you scared he is the DA splitter of the dark it's hard to identify that sir and and today there is a there's this tidal wave it's part of this very very modern doridori case of assault oh this is this is a strange kind of a daughter generation that we're living in where you could use the word yeshiva and it's derogatory kalila I we're living in a door where when you say doctor says this and people mock and they scoff and it's up to us to community mark South Carolina what is das Clara doesn't exist who has doubts for today who do we turn to how do we know how to identify and then connected to that is also who should I make as my Rebbe can I assume my Rebbe has doubts right now I'm not going into the prostitution world so much although I have my own customers a pedigree I'm a grandson of the Belzer ever bad eye my father was a little ox oh I will speak Justin in pure Letitia terms who how do we identify das people ask after this generation this generation is good eylem Akram a the estrin pass passes on who is the next generation of das theorem and I could compare them so let's give a working definition of das theorem I'm gonna give you a working definition it's a laid definition it's a cinema perhaps a psychological definition of that story but it works for me and I hope it'll work for you as well many many years ago when I was a younger Barker there was a video craze that was going around called Petrus I don't know how many of you you're not if you've heard of Tetris Tetris ok touches touches to use the good Yiddish in again marathon again I'm dad I ended it out and I didn't over then you're dashing again Tetris and Tetris is the kind of a game it's a puzzle basically it's a puzzle and you've got different shaped blocks that are falling from the top of the screen to the bottom and you've got a complete lines by rotating the blocks so that there's no gaps than the line and after a whole line is filled up with blocks that line disappears but if you miss even one block then their line doesn't disappear and the string gets smaller and smaller until you lost the game so throughout the game you're flipping over blocks different shapes so they fit into different slots ok there was one day in my life where I I heard that was yeah I was pretty young I picked it up and I was hooked and after one day I said this is terrible but um we don't have video games in our house because they're shame for that but I was young there was this video game and after one day I am I try it was ours I'm rotating blocks to spot that but you're not doing you're rotating the blocks now anyone who's ever done this game Tetris when you put the game down something very bizarre happens and what happens is you put the game down and you look around you walk around and suddenly every shape in the room you are rotating no the horites to ID every shape of that door if I just made it sideways it would fit in between the washing station and right nemesis everything begins to rotate in your mind because of the past few hours you were rotating shapes until I want everything fit perfectly so when you put it down you're still in that mode of rotating shapes and after a few minutes it goes away but there was first few minutes after you put it down it's very it's very trippy thinking oh my goodness what's going on everything's being turned around what really happened was your mind became calibrated to rotating shapes when you rotate shapes enough time then your mind begins to think in terms of rotating shapes when you learn Torah and you learn a lot of it very often your mind begins to calibrate itself tada soshim dad starts Laura Doster simply means that I courage borrow who has a certain way of looking at the world he made the world a certain way and he has a certain way of looking at it and that way of of course is Emma's it's commercial I gotta borrow it's authentic it's real there's no fighting fascism it's a mistake we live in a fashion world and we're very confused what is right what is wrong ever since Adam and how they related Oz were confused but what we tried to do is we tried to care great our brains so they so that they line up with the way a Shem looks at the world how do you calibrate your brain to think like God how do you calibrate your brain so that the a Brazil's thinking is you're thinking and the answer is the more you learn of the way I Shem thinks the more you'll think like Hashem think about us the more you learn about the way as Shem thinks the more calibrate here - to think like I said so a goggle by their very nature is somebody whose mind is calibrated to the way I Shem thinks I have this very bizarre eye this very bizarre meeting last week someone came to my house and they'd raid me a cup for an hour about something that just it was so ridiculous and I didn't know what what am i what am I gonna do with a guy like this he's just going on and on and like my time is precious I can't sit down and what he wanted was preposterous he had his proposal that was not Albie Tyra but he felt it was very dark can you bring down rise it was not finally I said you know what you have such a big proposal if you're gonna if you want the oil to adopt your proposal you gotta go to the top LaRouche will come a netsuke go - I'll give you every smalls number I haven't sell quite as small yeah and I felt bad because maybe I'll tell this kind of did Dre over smoke up but I figured if um small says nonsense and nonsense then maybe that'll end the story instead I get an email from them a few days later thank you so much for your suggestions this is very small he told me such and such and such and such he says my ideas not viable however I disagree because I think so and so these guys I'm Arthur I sir and what you disagree like on what grounds do you see how much funnier do you know how much time have you spent learning if I saw the Rambam he's seen every round bomb multiple times with the noise okay like what are you sweating so the very fact that a person says they have da stirrer it would have to be that they're a person who is I sake entire now I'm gonna jump ahead a little bit but I want to say something about this very often we look for Robin for ourselves who will give us Hydra huh and we hope that those are they in have das hier so um I'm going to say it's not controversial but it's something that it's kedai to absorb if you want somebody to give you a hard raka that is das foil then they have to be the kind of people who are still AIESEC and Tyra why do I say this there are many Monhegan today who at a certain point in their lives were we're late to learning but because of the oil of the sea were there not anymore they're being shaken that see were there answering questions are there mediating and this and that but they no longer are like the learning and maybe they hadn't been elected learning for 25 years so they may have Estella they may have you know they may be tell me that how come but it's hard to say that a person who's not like the learning is a dostler anymore and this is not that all impugning somebody who is not able to sit and learn all the time you know intel's rubella mayor of block i once heard this when i was a bunker I couldn't believe why why this is such a big deal but the LMAO block said that he wants a resolution that he would never go a day without learning an hour now here I am I'm above her and he's she like an hour you're the rest you see he's here learning like 10 hours 12 14 hours you're not gonna go by one day about an hour and then they tell this story about he was on a fundraising trip with somebody else and it was past midnight and they had been going since you know nine ten o'clock in the morning and they've been going for house I was door-to-door and it was 12 o'clock at night and if le mayor said you know what the other guy said point to sleep he said I didn't do my hour and he opened up a safe for an alert for an hour and I remember as the bucker thinking I'm not in his file over that story he's a Raja Shiva you should be learning but then I realized the facts of life which is that the dude eylem the man he gyum had the oil of the people on their shoulders and there are there are Cooper's and times and sometimes is a lot of time where they just don't have time to learn and I find this I'm now always think didn't see if I do Q of and all sorts of other things and I find it a struggle and I not today I'm the spoil of register their attacker it's 12 o'clock at night in your zonked and you got to get up at 6 o'clock the next day or 7 o'clock and but if you want to go to a DA spur they have to be calibrated and the only way you're calibrated is if you're like the learning at that cut openlm I'll come check on the area that's actually something that Carl has been very Mokpo dong if you look at the good dalam who we considered a star like Eric and Kenny our ski the highlight of these gadot Liam are that they are still very much licked and learning they're still sitting and learning day and night they say about the Vilna garden that the month is only going had a a big question from the community what should they what should the community do they say that the only going wouldn't answer a llama come instead he would sit and he would learn for six hours now the only grind in six hours that's well he always learn six hours half an hour's sleep six hours seven hours spent but what he would do is he would sit and learn for six hours and then the first answer that would pop into his mind about the question of the Seaboard is the answer he gave the Seaboard the first answer that came to his mind why for the exact same reason that I just said his mind was calibrated tutorial that's what he wanted to do he wanted to calibrate his mind I'm gonna learn for six hours I'm not gonna pick my head up from the safer and I'm gonna be sore struck away and learning that the moment I pick up my mind is still flipping flipping shapes my mind is still flipping surges it's still clear exactly what the - those lessons now there's no question that we witness and we're witnessing this cotton or outdoors there's no question and when I was young we add their emotions the Rebbe Yaakov Kamenetz keys we had their hook neurs we had it we had very very big people and we had the staplers and even before that we had you know two thousand each we have very very very big people and we look around and we say where's today's or moysha where's today's cousin ish and we may lose confidence that maybe a does horror that we can rely on in absolute terms is lacking so cuz I'll speak about this this is not my question because I'll give you a few different answers and I want to give you the answers that has I'll give and it's very important to hear this because I know especially the old timers here who was I said we're in Muncie you know Tora anytime is watching say if they don't warn Muncie months he was was coming at seal and you well you had heard Yakov kamenetsky walked around the streets they there was nothing like that and the written answer every and very big people so one thing one answer because I'll give us is the answer called gift aqua darkish morbid re-gift op who was not a great Sadiq in the way that the Navi explains his story he was somebody with a problematic background he was a warrior he made a mistake with a certain Shavua the Gemara says the first one that comes out becomes a mock their stomach turns out to be his daughter if not he was it was big he was for sure bigger than we realized but shmoo if dr. Kirsch mover how could that be we know about smaller tears my shed are the clay enough push more because my schwöre was as big as my shed so by the law of transference are you saying that you've talked was as big as my sure that the if doc was like smallish was a mite sure they know he thought you can't say that you get me how do you even utter those words and the answer is yes every generation needs a different kind of dance fire and the gas fire that each generation needs is catered to understand that generation there's an interesting thing it's I'm sure we're very aware of it but you know we go through different Cooper's and that the Cooper from deadly annoying to namah rhyme that I am to the guiding them to the Regina mother crinum the way that how do we know when it ends how do we know maybe where the end of acronym are we the acronym summonses with a must medium I mean it's it's a drop-off right so our understanding of the end of it Kufa works like this and the scanner odorous means that the generations even within the same Kufa keep falling so for example if when the COO father item well guess who else is in this Kufa where the key behavior is there a really key vaguer that we know of no does not have a key vague or walking around there's no villain again walking out there's there's no one like that and yet we're in the same Kufa as Ricky Vega so what happens is the generations go down further and further until suddenly there's somebody who's so great there as great as the as the adult at the beginning of the to Kufa so if you are looking at graph the graph would look like this right over the years the level of the goood olam and their torah knowledge and their connection writing were further away from our scene i further away from the messiah from the transmission so it's going further and for them and then all the sudden you have a goggle that's out of place he's so much bigger than everyone else that the drop off from that goggle tells you why that's just a totally different Kufa survive the mission eyes by the by the 10:00 a.m. it was robbed you Donna see by the Gemara by the AMA Ryan was Raveena and her MA she they were so big you're a bygone by that Cronin we shine our kind of hood you have who is who is that cutoff person it was Moran Rubio suburbia Joseph Kyle herb Yosef cow was so big he was so huge that I have to because of Carol there was a drop-off and then we saw okay that's we're closing that to cover so did that cool for clothes maybe maybe it takes a few years and a little bit of distance to say wow that's good because maybe your mom can have ski is then let's cover I don't know you know what I recall is anyone else out there in those cars or a cooler like that maybe there is maybe react of August who knows we don't know but the idea is that every generation gets the goggle that it needs and our generation is a very perplexing generation it's a difficult generation and it could well be that you put her at the shore like disken and he try to explain the kids of Instagram and they they they and at Facebook and there's such a distance there's such a gap that that was sure this would not be the goggle that a cottage bar who puts for our generation and maybe dad goggle is somebody who's a little bit more down in the trenches which means that he understands this world and the people and the youth and the challenges that we have which are unique maybe better than those earlier good item but the the the the Torah learning is not as great now one of the second point when it comes to what about the disclosure today maybe the dostler is not actually ad asked her I don't I feel as confident as I did when I learned in Staten Island when they very much defined Steen was just a subway ride away the second shot is the the the second fort comes actually from Russia there's a very famous story with her masha and the story with her masha involves an akuna it's a very famous story it was the end of the war and some a lady came into her much affine steam and the lady said that she was crying what was she crying about she said after the war she thought her husband had passed away they didn't have clear proof that she did that he did so they ended up going to a certain goggle and that goggle I don't remember which gobbler was but that goggle said that she can remarry so she remarried and she's married she's happy and then one day she gets a knock on the door who was at the door her first husband he did not pass away and now she was crying I don't know if the kids were mom's era but there was she was definitely in Asia's ish and she's married to this person I'm dead it was a polygon it was a tragedy and she's crying in front of Misha and she's what should I do and her marshal looks that are in the owner of my she says I didn't understand the story can you say it again say it again yeah say it again she okay I would kid I was in the war and someone said he was seen in a gas chamber and a some won't go in and we went to this goggle and this goggle said we can remarry sorry married and now my husband showed up what should I do she's crying room I see she says I'm not getting it and I can you say it again and at this point that Tommy the room I see were standing around and they're like what are you torturing this girl this lady and she says it a third time and then as she's saying it a third time she gets up to the part of the story she says I went to that goggle no I didn't I didn't I didn't I just assumed that my husband was lifter I thought it was the right thing and my sis listen you or not you you you're an agency SH what you did was wrong and all the tummy them were there and they were in a small room I see how did you know how did you know that she didn't go to the gun he's because I know that goggle had taken upon themselves the oil of the Seaboard and I couldn't bear who would never allow a person who takes the oil of the cheaper to to give up sucks I would end up in an agency SH he would never do that because when you take the oiler that zebra on your shoulders when you say you know what the buck stops with me I may not be the smartest that may not be the greatest but crying cells turning to me I have to give an answer at some times I'm the only one who could give the answer when a person was macapa the oil of the zebra Hakadosh barukh who is Mack bed that day this person should be should be saved and he should give a good shock and if he doesn't it's not our fault that par LM Dover's if it's it's not higher cells fault more than that when a person goes up to show mine a person will be allowed to say if they say wow that lock was like this the person could say I went to my dad's turn I went to my Rebbe and they are blocked their whereabouts are Miami we listen to argan oil SS shamily cafeteria literally the column so even if today's Godoy them llamas argan are not on the level of a div 'real they're not on the level of a closed in Burger ever who's on the level of a clergyman you're a but my goodness also call a tire cooler who's on that level that the good Island today have taken upon themselves the oil of its uber and when they've taken the oil of the seaboard we could philosophy on that as a disclaimer that's the second point now we're gonna make a different point there was a little bit of a scandal a little bit of a little bit of one a few months ago and it was unfair and I think once we're speaking about destroyer and how to follow it we have to clarify it and stick up for - player someone in Australia done a radio interview about shidduchim it's a very famous who went around raided interview about sulukim and they interviewed a person who was a valchek honest I know who the lady is she's made many many shidou him and this lady spoke to this interviewer and the lady began to say I don't know what's going on - Toyo today they're advising the boys I guess this is an arat Israel to not marry unless the girl not just as money but unless they commit to an apartment now baruchel we don't have that in America but an arid soil it is a almost like a hopefully a ver you get married you need to buy the kid an apartment now an apartment in Erickson soil even an inexpensive apartment even in a waterborne these new Moshe much of him you're talking about a hundred twenty hundred and thirty thousand dollars and may be much more than that and if a person's living in there it's the shell and even if they're if they're a person who is sitting and learning in clothes and they've got many children and they've got to buy apartments for every one of their children I mean that's our that's right man territory who which Claremont could buy 12 apartments then the numbers don't add up they're not even numbers they're like monopoly money so this lady was ranting that the Russia Shiva's are advising the boys you want to sit and learn take a girl's gonna the father's gonna buy you an apartment that's what the boys are doing and then she said even more so that not only that she was at a constant or recently and the father of the caller had a heart attack in the middle of the cosna the the stress assumed that that's what it was about the stress of committing to buying in a bar and I didn't like it because number one it was really putting down the rushes Shiva but you never heard that they said this okay so so she so then she said she's heard it from Russia's Shiva that's what she said but it's like that that part doesn't bother me Rakesh am I have an uncle is a must yet and I learned a lot about making making a red from him his name is Rochelle Eisenman what was in Eretz Israel and he once explained to me whether it's again everything about Rebbe and you know yeah for example if a rabbi or a place ever have you passed him something in front of your Robert see what didn't become part of it there are all sorts of things that you could do that you can be kind courage and he would explain to me exactly how how to approach a duster and one of the things he explained was that it does her answers Lefevre was asked and we know this from all sorts of stories hebrew salsa laughter the person was asked can I use milk for the iBook crisis so he saw that she doesn't have money she probably doesn't have meat so he bought her meat and the Godoy listened to the way the question was asked it could well be that a buckler goes to her Russia Shiva and says to the Raja Shiva Shiva ie I want to sit and learn what ate sir can you give me I don't have pon also but I want to be able to sit and learn so the Russians would say well if you want us to learn find somebody who'll support you or sabor you buy an apartment but they have semarchy Shiva if the father of the girl would come over and say should I buy this guy apartment he would say no are you crazy he did you have money for an apartment in other words he's answering the boiler fee his question I didn't answer the father and them can't be there question for the boy that correct answer is you should you should try to get par nonsense wants of learn after the girl are the girl's father the correct answer is it's it's lunacy to overcommit you'll stretch yourself out you'll be out of learning yourself so a goggle asks will feed the way the question was asked and I want to say that you know it the questions what to Ellis is they're saying this entire anytime but I think I think there's toyless one of the reasons I think that our door has lost a certain amount of confidence in what we call das Clara is because the way questions are asked to the good eylem very often are agenda-driven there's an agenda when someone goes to a goggle and you can give the girl information that you want to give him and you twist it the way you want to twist it and then you get the answer that you want and then you printed them you make you make them aha you make it you make a big tear on but and I brush I'm having been around alone I've seen it I've heard it with my own eyes and my own ears I've heard the wait questions I ask if you asked it a certain way personation kinda there and they answer the way the question was asked and therefore we've lost a certain amount of confidence because if someone just told me really I heard the story recently butter of Steinman that someone had come to him that there was a concert in Eretz Israel and this concert wasn't one of the American singers you know you know you know I'm good a nice American you know I've been tardy Lord Shiva now he's a singer I'm not judging and he was gonna go to Aaron Susur Lee was gonna have a concert now whether you have concerts in Eretz Israel they do remise do they do and for many years since I was about her but the these you never had an issue with this one guy and if I told you the name of the person you've been you're like really definition but these two guys they have mission so they want their assignment and they said you've got we've got to answer him with that to make sure he doesn't make the continent strong you know and this is why why because I'll make a concert and people are gonna come yeah and they're gonna look at him and you know and the ladies are gonna look at him and they're gonna want to leave their husbands because of the style that gives us my like really other assignments though you know yeah he's not gullible so there's a joke Italy the husbands and there's final looks to them and says now what's gonna be with his partner sir that's gonna be let's do it this year he you what do you wanna do you want me to ride in my car so take away its - I'm not gonna do it but of course he saw through these these these can I'm to the point you can have a car noise about anything and you can go to a goggle expecially a god was busy and you can have five six seven eight people standing around them and Edwards throwing questions out there and you're one of those questions I've been part of that group third question the question has no context it's not explained you hear something and then you get in writing I have a fish ask so it's an issue it's an issue because we lose confidence when we hear things said but shame this cardboard that God I'm sure we've felt that before but for ourselves when we want to get a DA started sock what we need to do is we need before we before we come with the question to try to clear ourselves on the gears that's how we get a dust tire answer to clear our minds of course we may want the sack to be like this or like that but ultimately we want the cottage borrow who we want a lot of college Barca wants and because a goggle answers the way that the gobbler was asked if you come with new gears I remember I had a certain certain question I went to a glow I went to I went through Butte Scott Kaduri at that time I was in I was near I'm not a sorority but I was you know he's of a couple and it was a terrible couple kind of the question I there were six seven people around him and I blurted out the question and I said would this be a good eight she goes yeah and then I came well yeah I got a shock for her haircut it was that that started in my heart of hearts getting really really question no of course not and later on I went herb shock about that question and he said no of course not he didn't hear that he said this is what you should do and I had rubbish ox ear and he listened to me the power of a goggle is that the dude oiled the real the real - turn they're very busy the car wants them but they're able to focus when the time comes they could blot everything out this is a tremendous story I just I think the stories should be spread I was shopping in Muncie and there was this young boy in front of me remember 17 18 years old and he was a kid at risk okay and I was I was shopping and I was on the phone and I mention of Shmuel kamenetsky on my phone call I mentioned him and when I finished with the phone call the young boy turns around and the young boy says I know Ruby Shmuel I really smoking you know every shortcoming that's good you know kid any little streets jelly I don't know what he was into he goes yeah I'm nervous more he calls me every week as a shortcut max calls you he goes yeah I once met him and you know we talked to me to give me physic and he told me he's gonna call me every Friday so we're short coming actually calls me every Friday that wishmaker Chavez what young kid from from four months he's getting a call from reverse world wishing good Chavez we don't understand what it takes to be this - Clara that takes the oil of the feebler on your shoulders there's so much there's so much compassion that's needed you know they say that a person came to the conference time and he had a question somebody was very ill he was very ill and said it'll come time please dive in for me and the conference time said I don them but there's a year down the street get her brought her from him he's the one who got to get a Bronco from and he went got the Bronco from the Yid and the person who was ill got better a while later someone else got sick once again and he goes to the conference cryin and he said should I go to that person he says yeah yeah you should use this but I don't know if I can help you I don't ever I don't have Clara to make eight diners for a month like I did last time from time to answer for a month you know maybe a Monday Thursday I know what that meant but he danced it for a month he didn't tell this kid he's a go get a bra from him not saying the Hoff it's crying is dominant for a month so that this year should get batteries I don't have the energy to fast again for a month I can't do that who knew the conference time was doing that you all know the famous story of the conference time the person who was smoking on Shabbos and you brought in from the coffin sky and bunker from the Rodney Shiva he stands in front of the cuff it's time comes time to set the whole world on his shoulders to cover time looks at the boy picks up the hand and he begins to say Shabbos Shabbos Shabbos Shabbos and it begins to cry Shabbos and the tears went on to this boy's hand and this boy was discovered many years later when someone was saying over that story and he said years later he still feels the burn of the hobbits crimes tear on and that's what a - Tyra is okay let's bring this down practice and then I ended the story practically speaking many of those who are in destroyer who have the sperm are inaccessible their heart the heart to reach so we know that a sailor Karev means that if somebody is bigger than you and they're at Ventura you could follow the condom my students often ask me is it better to go to the top the greatest of the great or is it better to make a rough or Rebbie who is accessible to you that gets to know you and of course we know that having a rough was accessible who you can get to know who knows where you're coming from as a matter of fact the advice that I give my children that I got from my Zeta is when you move into a city the first thing you do is you go over to the rub you and you're married go over with your wife and say I just want to introduce myself and you sit down for a few minutes and tell the Rob who you are you didn't come with a question you didn't come with an H you just want the rough to know you so that when they give up shock it's not a generic shock but it's abstract that's catered to you in your matzah that's the beauty of a destroyer and secondly when you make that downturn find somebody who like I said is still lived and learning someone who's still learning so their minds are still calibrated and I'll end with this story my grabby and Eretz Israel is name is herb Hoshi Weissman if her shoe Iceland's Rebbe was remembered solvents room alkanes Rebbe was from crime Elevens you go up or barf Erica up a bumper scrub all the way up were part of the Messiah that could trace himself back to my shrah boehner many many many documented papers that exist out there where if you get up to a certain rod you could definitely chase yourself back up to my shop they know and of course Marshall Keeble term is seen I and so on and so forth from the ten million tadam arrived are they going to be showing luck writing them and then and then was you whoever your Rebbe was whoever their Rebbe was her best Wiseman was the much gift in yeah I'm sorry he was the rush coil in a culinary shop called master Karuma very strong coil very very right-wing strong courageous shackle and I learned there for a number of years my uncle was the muskie F of that coil and he learned by mahkum and he used to give a share on the dot that was beautiful one day a younger man comes in and says I needed to go back to America and our venture Wiseman was not a fan of people going back to America he said but I need to my mother-in-law wants us to come back to a visit and we have a question should we go the longer period of time or there's a different time period we can go which is somewhat shorter and there I guess it was a little more complicated than just longer or shorter there were other variables which one should I go the longer the short of an herb has she heard it and has she said I think Myra BAM would have said you should go to the shorter period you