Rabbi Benzion Klatzko - The 7 Ways to Connect to Shabbat

this Torah class is brought to you by Torah anytime calm so the young man they just introduced me his name was Robbie aber I want to give him a lot of credit because he's a very persistent and devoted and committed Jewish person who arranges these Sheeran and these are the heroes of the Jewish world those people who are unsung and they're behind the microphone of the behind the cameras like Iran over here as well one of the real heroes of Judaism and you know there you may not be able to see them on Torah and anytime but they are the ones who create he de bruit on tour anytime on Kazak and make sure that wherever Torah is they are there so I wanted to acknowledge you so did the car want to acknowledge you so I was asked to speak about Shabbos Shabbat and I want to share something very interesting you know I've been speaking now for thirty or so years since I've been a rough and as was mentioned I have Shabbat calm so you would imagine that I speak about Chavez quite a bit and yet I don't recall ever dedicating a shear specifically to Shabbos so I get sort of excited like Shabbat calm I'm in love with Shabbos Hashem granted me all sorts of Shabbos goodness you want to call my phone number to one to Shabbat that goes right to my phone look at my license plate Shabbat in New York that I didn't buy it someone someone bought that for me a vanity plate and it made me very happy because I would I never would have thought it was available and he just called up and and interestingly enough Shabbat calm was available and people say wow if if I had known I would have bought it someone was holding on to but no one was doing anything with it so it just goes to prove that sometimes things that are out there and we think okay this is already spoken for it's actually not and there's a lot of things like that like bikkur holim is not really spoken for aside from a few organizations and teams at risk there's a lot to do so don't think that all the good projects are taken hardly hardly so but I'm excited to speak about Chavez I want to thank the young Israel for having me over here and and I want to thank the Kazakh Organization for having me as well and for all those Dossi and everyone else for arranging this talk so what's the goal of tonight you're all Shabbos observant you're all Sharma Shabbos you all understand the Chavez is important what's the goal now I I will confess that when I speak and the cameras are on me and I know that people are gonna be watching on Torah anytime so it's not I'm not just speaking to a 40 or 50 people here but I'm speaking to thousands who end up watching this video so I'm gonna have that in mind I want tonight to lay down a definitive talk of why we should cherish Shabbos I want this to be the talk that when somebody wants to inspire someone so that's gonna be the goal for tonight so if you hear things that you know are stories that you've heard B Michael and you know like the Messiah charme says very often we know things but just hearing them again gives us the proper physic so that's what our goal is this evening Shabbos Shabbos Shabbos is the cornerstone of Yiddish Kyte the cornerstone if you want to know if somebody is a an observant Jew we ask are they shomer Shabbos out of all tired mitzvahs we say are they shawarma Shabbos shabbos is that day that we reflect and we understand what we're doing here in this world and when I hear somebody say you know I'm a good joob I don't do Shabbos anymore my heart breaks into a million pieces because you just threw away the cornerstone Evan masu a boy named helios Pina it was the cornerstone and in masu you have you've made it disgusting you've made it trivial and chomps is not trivial so what I'd like to do is I want to approach the importance of Shabbos through seven avenues now the number seven is not an accident I think it'll be easy to remember the future so here are the seven approaches or the seven reasons to be passionate about Chaves okay and I did bring my phone over here because I do not remember them all have them written down and we're going to go into those seven reasons and I'll share with you both stories and ideas and also how to answer people who are struggling with keeping Shabbos so the first thing that I want to mention is that Shabbos is important Tosh M now that may sound like a blamed statement but it's an incredibly important statement Shabbos is important - M Hashem consider Shabbos very very important now there are some mitzvahs that we don't know right we don't know mahtim scorn of mitzvahs so we try to keep all mitzvahs but we know Shabbos is important - Eman and when we're Marsh of Shabbos when we keep Shabbos when we respect Chaves when we cherish it it is macabre Fukishima Cara Branko everything that is good that is supposed to happen - in your life finding the right chitta having a good par Nosa having children that are a sham I am the source of that Brava is not a rebel it's going to a cover the source of that bracha is Shabbos Shabbos everything pours out of Shabbos it's important - em I once met a fellow and he knew I was a rabbi somehow and he said to me he said you know I'm a good Jew you know no I would keep everything but I'm a good you like I do the ten commandments I keep the Ten Commandments I'm a good Jew I said amazing amazing you keep Shabbos so he looks at me because that's one of the ten I think number four that's one of the ten he was shocked because in his mind I don't think I'm not using this in his novels leave it over here in his mind Ten Commandments equal be a good person don't kill don't steal that's what Ten Commandments are but Chavez is a ritual so you were shocked to hear that Chavez is one of the ten not only is it one of the ten but right after the big three of how to understand - em - Emily katka there's one there's no other have respect for EM boom the next one keep Shabbos that our lockers of Shabbos are so important there's our love and the Gemara coolin we're learning it in death yummy and the Gemara says that there are three people who's Rita doesn't count person number one is a mum or law is to govern if somebody eats trace and there is shake it then their sleep is not a good treat that why because we say you don't care about cashiers you eat tray so if you shacked in but you shafted improperly you did she addressed how long a grommet acre you did something one of the big five you hesitated you pushed it the knife wasn't sharp you're gonna say who cares i'ii trade silly trip that's called the mummer Llosa dollar if the very thing you transgress is the thing that you want to be believed in you're not believed number two if you're over ever desert if your worship I'll buy the Zara your sheep does not culture you don't believe in God number three if you don't keep Shabbos now that's strange it don't keep Shabbos that found out very desire and it's not more lawyers endeavor it's a mitzvah what if it said if you don't put on tefillin it doesn't say that it says if you don't keep Shabbos your sheet day is not counted why because if you don't keep Shabbos it is akin to somebody doesn't believe in God believing keeping Shabbos means I believe fascias yom tov owed because i cutters borrow who was ivan encourage bravo awesome either science or value on my street show us why unifies hashem made the six days and on the seventh day he rested what that means maybe we'll talk about but he made it on six days and on the seventh day stopped and if you don't keep the seventh day it means you don't believe in the first six and therefore your schita and nothing that you do counts that's why I know the Lower East Side which is where I'm speaking from there used to be Windows they don't have those anymore months you don't see it but there are windows that were up and down of their choice them with the butcher shops and it said on the butcher shop shomer Shabbos now you may have wondered if you see those anymore here sharmini used to have on the butcher shops Sherman you stole em sharma Shabbos why Sherman Shabbos what do I care for Sherman Shabbos I care because the street does not a good treat if you don't keep Shabbos Shabbos is so important that if a person transgressive Shabbos they are Chi of sila now I want to talk about this for a moment because I'll mention this in certain crowds and it will work them why because we live in a very liberal and when do you speak about things like death penalty even for a mass murderer people get all shaken up how is it that you can speak about a death penalty how who are we to take a life how much more so something that they don't even consider that important like flaking on alight really you're gonna stone me to death are you the Taliban how are you taking stones and stoning me this because I flicked on a light so I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm gonna share with you such a beautiful insight it'll make it all make so much sense laws in a society work within the context of the society I'm still an intellectual idea I'll give you an example in in the Torah if somebody kills somebody w chuffing we kill them you're a murderer you get killed however it is practically impossible to get the death penalty says the Gemara that if a best and kills once in seven years or even in 1070 years it's a best in Kalpana's first of all in order to get the death penalty they have to be to aid them to witnesses and those witnesses can't be related and they have to see each other and they have to see whether the person was doing it that they can't be related to each other or that person and then they have to warn him and when they warn the person they have to warn the person and they have to know which of the four death penalties they get as it's killa is it strafing is a heretic or henyk what is it so they if they don't know which which if they say if you click on that light you're gonna get the death penalty but they don't say which one because they're not tell me that how common you don't get the death penalty if they say if you do this you're gonna get the death penalty and they say which one then the person who was committing the crime has to say the words I felt became even so I'm gonna do it what if they judge did it without saying I thought became no death penalty not only that but if they said I fell pea cane but then they waited longer than Tushka de Boer which is about two seconds again they don't now this may not apply to murder this applies to many things within halacha including schmira Shabbos so if I go over to a person I say if you flick on that light you're gonna get Scylla and they say a poppy cane then they say one two three four five then they did it they don't get Scylla it's almost impossible the Gemara thing c'mon Marcus says rather he keep it and I would never kill anyone because how do you know the person is not a traitor it's it's so hard to get it so that's the case and it's so hard to get the death penalty why even threaten with one the answer is that the threat alone for a Jewish person matters listen carefully the idea that were all the conditions to be met you would get the death penalty tells us that this is important - M and therefore it's not a matter of you're gonna die it's a matter of Hashem considers this so bad that we're all the conditions to be met you would get the death penalty so you're not gonna get it but that's how much it means to sham so it's true it's very hard to get it so if they look at us all you're the Taliban you're stoning people no that's Tony it's very very rare but even today 2,000 years after herbin bias where it's there's no sign of headroom there's no way to kill somebody still we know in our minds Oh No if I'm a Howell Shabbos it would give me Stila were all the conditions to be met that's the deterrent you get it that's the deterrent it's almost like larval a person who is thinking of being unfaithful in their marriage but they know they'll never be caught but if they if the spouse would find out it would hurt so much that itself stops and it's the relationship with Hashem Hashem it means so much that you wouldn't give Stila you would stone to prison wow this is a big deal I'm not gonna flick on a light so point number one it means a lot - M now why is that important now today there's a book came out a few years ago and every person Jewish not sure everyone's quotes this book it's called the five love languages how many people here have heard this concept yep no no okay we have some people here it's a good book for hatate elena Michael um shotcalling ever drew the five love languages the basic concept is that when you're in a relationship with somebody things may mean a lot to you right for instance let's say I like I like to give gifts I like to get gifts I like to get gifts and therefore if I'm married I may think well my wife must like to get gifts but that's not her love language maybe her love language is time that she has my time or talking as a lovely she wants it all to speak things out so here I am giving gifts gifts kids and stop doing anything because that's not her love language when you want to love somebody you have to you you shouldn't look at what your love language is we have to figure out what their love languages you get it that's called the love language Hashem love language is hollow huh and a shuns love languages Shabbos Hashem says I have a love language there is a way that you can love me there's a way that you can connect to me that's called Chavez and that leads us to point number two and I've said this before but if you haven't heard it or even if you have it cuts deep Judaism is a relationship and not a religion it is called a relationship in the Torah almost 500 times it's never called a religion except for one send the Megillah by hummin relationship not a religion relationship not a religion it is the most important thing you'll ever hear about Judaism how does that connect to Shabbos well think of it like this if Judaism is a relationship that's how we look at it so I take my wife out to eat and she says do me a favor turn off your phone so I'd turn off my phone but I didn't really turn it off I left it on buzz so while we're while we're eating it starts to dance on the table right like this like uh-uh so she looks at me she goes oh you're gonna pick it up no no we're going on a date we're dating over here even he could be married and still date right as long as you can get get rid of the kids that's called a date so here we're dating and it's rude to pick up your phone and live it over there right you're supposed to be focusing on the person or at my house or in my office and I'm on my computer I'm doing work and then she comes in to speak with me and I'm responding but I'm still doing my work stare and get the screen says she'll stop and she'll say do me a favor I mean I came to speak with you don't make me compete with this screen close it I came to discuss something with you when I leave turn it back on make some sense right what is that that's of course Shabbos it's exactly what Shabbos is it's a sham saying I know how busy you are all week I know what midterms and finals are bills and mortgages insurance and deadlines I know what all these things are you know how I know cuz i'm a sham and I made them all but if once a week you and I don't have our special time our relationship is gonna die so once a week put away your phone put away your hammer close the computer put away your homework once a week get ready go take a shower or go get dressed so we take a shower and we get dressed beautifully and then we come and we put a white tablecloth on and we light some candles and weep some wine and you know what it looks like it looks like a date Shabbos is built exactly like a date we get dressed we wash up we have the China dishes we like candles we pour wine we buy flowers and we begin to sing our song look on diary lacrosse kalla pinay shabbos Lonavala come my beloved my sweetheart my bride my queen I've been so busy all week I couldn't focus on you be Michael but now my phone is away my computer's away everything is the way you have my undivided attention by halle come my bride Judaism is a relationship and Shabbos is the bonding it's the date it's the connection so that's point number two point number one is that Shabbos important Tosha it's a Shems love language Hashem takes Shabbos so seriously that he put it on the Lukas in the first half right away zonkers join Shammar be careful be careful be careful I have to cover Moscow because everyone everyone everyone make it your thing at point number two is Shabbos is the key to the relationship with Hashem it's the key it's when we go when we Center ourselves it's the special time I do marriage counseling at one of the things that I speak about often is make time for the one that you love you can't just say I love I love I love I never spend time if that happens then you don't really love because what you love you spend time doing you love baseball you're watching the baseball game you love collecting stamps that's what you're doing so if you love a person you spend time with the person Hashem says I'm gonna make sure that you spend time with me and you're gonna focus on me and I'm gonna focus on you so we're going on a date with our Shem you know the column that we eat wears a collar come from why why do we eat braided bread is braid of bread more delicious because it's braided don't answer what do you think we'd braided bread it comes from the Gemara consumers think Amara says when I Shem when I Shem made Java before introducing Java to Adam and says a sham braid in her ear so that the first connection between the first man and the first woman should be one of attraction and affection so we braid our challah to remember that beautiful encounter that took place Erev Shabbos right before Shabbos between that first man and their first woman Hashem saying I want to be in that relationship with you the two candles that we lied Friday night wanting us and the other one being a Hashem that were challenged can we be in a relationship of love and if we do Shabbos right how we sing and we dance and we feel the romance of Shabbos what happens to those two candles come have a dollar time come out dollar what happens one candle I just want can't watch them come off dollar after all 24 hours the two candles become one they embrace that's the half dollar candle so point number two is Shabbos is the key to the relationship imagine please if there's a Shem you'll all be married one day and you come to me and you say what's the key to my relationship I want I want to rock that one thing that's going to make my relationship last and grow and be inspired and I give you that key you would do something with that you wouldn't say oh that's just another thing Hashem says the key to my relationship with you is Shabbos so that's that's point number two point number three is something that I think doesn't get discussed often enough when you ask somebody if you had one wish for the world what would it be many would say world peace world peace and you know we don't just want world peace but we also want peace amongst ourselves our brothers and our sisters we want peace from anti-semitism peace from the world hating Israel we want peace it's elusive it's almost like we are hard-wired to fight you put us in a room and something somebody put us in the elevator you know the elevator jams forget about it you got four or five or six people in the elevator and you're stuck it's terrible we have a hard time with peace that's why the great vision of you Shia Navi that great vision Laurie Segall guys Arab for L'Oreal Madhu I'm okama we're going to make peace that's why we end off every Kaddish or you said Charlene rhyme of whoo yeah - Allah Malay no it's all about peace and of course when you get married the great bracha to give your friend to give yourself to davon for is Shalom bias peace in the home the source of peace is Shabbos the source of peace for the whole world is Shabbos think about it it says if the Jewish people would keep Shabbos machette would come machetes all about peace so if we teach the world about peace we're gonna have peace it's it's it's math it's simple that's why Shabbos is is the the the the man hug him involved peace that's why when we when we meet somebody we greet somebody especially in Israel and America was Edgar Chavez could Chavez the Israelis or the smart him they were what will they say shabbat shalom Shabbat sure I remember I used to I used to live in Yerushalayim near the blue car near the old bukhari section and these old bukhari men they look at me and they were like spit up shabbat shalom Shabana and soon I don't even think they were saying word lecture my god Shobha Shobha shabbat shalom but I like rolled out shabbat shalom it's all about the piece of Shabbos that's why what why do we light candles on Shabbos there are many reasons but what's the what's the simple shot why do we like candles on Shabbos why do we like we like candles because there's a Lanka and the Lanka is loads of ROH becau motion for sake of me on my Shabbos we don't light fire on Shabbos and until this past century all light that was in the home was fired now when did people kindle fire in their home every night when did they light those oil lamps and put them in that little look in the wall they did it when it got dark when they got dark they would like the oil camera oil lamps here's the problem come Friday night Shabbos we we are might be to begin Shabbos early at skia we don't wait till taste and it's still light outside and normally in the olden days before a hundred years ago you wouldn't lie to get light it because you can still see and people wanted to preserve oil so they would wait until it got much darker then it would be Shabbos so imagine this you got a home it's getting darker and then the husband the wife they say it's dark light the candles light the fire can't do it at Shabbos now we're gonna sit in the darkness on Shabbos so the main reason that we light candles on Friday night is to make sure there's light in the home before Shakya so that we don't get caught in a situation where the house is all done now we don't appreciate that today we don't appreciate it because today we flick on the lights and they stay on we don't care about the electricity right but it used to be it was a big deal so we lit candles in the home we let them know because that was Shalom bias there shouldn't be anger in the house this is a very beautiful story the toughest kind was by his rebbe menachem despite his Rebbe and he was there he was there on Hanukkah and was Konica and you're you're supposed to like before I chick arrived I mean I shook you're supposed to light it before people leave leave the shook and they're not they're the marketplace and they won't there won't be pretty so mean Issa so the conference time was by his rabi's house and the conference time is waiting for his rabbit to light then it gets getting darker and darker and the cup of time is waiting and waiting and and remote was not lighting three hours later Rebecca's wife comes in the door his or shum alaikum Rebbetzin come we're gonna light Kanaka candles so the conference kind of said I have a question why did we wait three hours it's already there the sugars empty Sir Malcolm said I learned it from the candles of Shabbos because the halacha is the following let's say you only have money for Shabbos candles or Chanukah candles what gets lit what what gets the money Shabbos candles or Hanukkah candles the answer Shabbos candles you know why because Shalom bias is more important than Hanukkah listen carefully Shahla bias is more important than Piersol Manisa therefore if you only have money for one set of candles you use Shabbos candles says of knock'em my wife would be hurt if I lit the Konica candles before she came home so it was a shala bias issue so if we would be avato Chanukah candles because the Shalom buys how much more so should we wait to make sure that Shalom bias exists so I waited until she came up so there would be solemnized so psalm is what it's all about the first song we sing shalom aleichem Malafaia shia is what is that all about we know the my lock him come in and they say is there peaceful house it should be this way next week so this is point number three I want to say one one thing about this a person who appreciates peace and wants to work on it should cherish Shabbos even more so Shalom from the word Shalom and other mashallah I used to do quite a number of funerals as a rabbi I was a rabbi in Perth Amboy New Jersey it's an older community there are a lot of people a lot of funerals and you were able to see in a moment when he went to someone's funeral if they were the kind of person who promoted peace in their community or if they were what we call a rabble rouser somebody who made at aram somebody who who cooked things up but they weren't a person of peace by are not calling it says value that you could call on everyone cried but my short man who doesn't say kobu Myron I claim having me tell me they shall learn or even show them their right and show them so this source of Shalom is Shabbos so let's let's share let's share an idea the ideas like this Shh is Yom Tov avoid there are seasick all melodica over Yama Shri Shama Shama lukashka so six days you should work tabloid first season you should do common article all of your chores I can't do all my chores lon well I might am I supposed to finish every week I'm not gonna finish every week my desk is still full of papers how can I be Mac I'm faster - come on Tucker practical question do you have to finish your homework before Shabbos it says what Cisco Malacca you can't leave any over what does the Torah mean does this become a lark tanka the answer is not that you have to finish it but in your mind it has to be finished meaning it's as if it doesn't exist there's a saying the saying is attributed to a man in a bridge Abram Joshua Heschel was a conservative of Rabbi but it's unfair because this saying is not is the same comes from the Maharana the morale says that everyone else is able to build a mikdash in space and we build a mikdash in time we build a temple in time which means Shabbos is a base on Mick - but it's not a big - on gravity on the ground with a foundation and with bricks and mortar it's a Mick - in time we're walking into a base on McNish and therefore we don't think about our homework we don't think about anything the book that changed my life when I was young was a book called all for the boss that's straight from straight from right here the Lower East Side it is and I've said this I had a radio show we once did a show about what is the most influential book you ever read you know not referring to Torah books but those kind of books and I said without a doubt the stories of rocof Yosef Herman affected me more than any other book it taught me how to be a warrior so there's a very famous story Reb Yaakov Yosef Herman was a furrier and it was Friday night and there's a banging at his door and if dr. pol opens up and there are firemen and they say mr. Herman rabbi Herman your first door has burned down the fire trucks are there trying to put out the fire you may want to go and salvage whatever is there and Rabbi Herman said thank you so much but at Shabbos so I'm not gonna be going down and they said are you crazy Ferg for every mink coat every stole every throw thousands of dollars what do you mean you're not going down he sets my Shabbos Chasez y'all I'm David buss he said come alive Stefan this is not my work so I'm not doing it not today his wife looks at him his commish aim looks at him they saw a soldier shabbos it was rahama Shane was the author of the book she said she kept looking at her father on Chavez to see was there any stress nothing he made a very casual of dollar after a beautiful Myra's and after Shabbos was complete and finished and through rebuked evasive says okay let's go see what fer is left what's left of the store and they walked down become ashamed holding her father's hand and they walked down and they saw that it wasn't his store but it was the store across the street which was also a fur store that had burnt down but not his store all that aches wasn't even his store that sort of means to be a soldier that sort of means calm elastica I had my own story I collect Jewish art and I sell it to support Shabbat that calm years ago before Shabbat that calm I had already started figuring it out that one day it was on a Friday I decided there I was living in Los Angeles I decided to go to a thrift store as the Jewish Federation thrift store it's a painting I decided I'm gonna find some Judaica people used to donate people died they sold out their all their property you don't know the owners were and they gave it they gave it away the kids gave it away they donated it to there's this thrift store and they would sell it and I came to pick up something Jewish and I looked around and there was really nothing there a little disappoint didn't want you know sometimes you just got want to walk away with something and there was nothing but I did find in the corner to edgings and they were from the 1800's by a very famous etcher actions are worth that much usually and one of them was bossy Abbas Perry taking baby moisture in a basket okay it's better than nothing I went up to the counter I said what do you want for this they said we like 35 or so I'll do 30 okay you can negotiate we did 30 I'm on the way back I can't almost it's you know a little before Shabbos and still have time somebody one of my kids notice that on the back of this painting like the back is is sort of there's a piece of cardboard and a little bit of that has bent they said Tati there's something in the back of this painting so we take away the back this cardboard back and sure enough there was a map from the 1600s that whoever this owner was years back had hidden behind this painting a map from the sixteen hundreds how cool is that that's amazing but before I could even figure out what it's worth I thought to myself one second there were two etchings if there's something behind one there's gonna be something behind the other one also perhaps maybe I should run back and get it then I said no it's not worth running you know it's not worth being full of angst for Shabbos you gotta come at the Shabbos with her cover sad-ass so my kids said you're gonna go back and said no we're gonna board if somebody buys it I said so someone bought it Shabbos is more important in the middle of Shabbos my kids said are you thinking about what spy the other bad thing I said no I'm trying not to I'm not right up in Shabbos we're not gonna think about it out of the whole shop as I remember the feeling by Abdullah pushing it away sunday came I was there right when the store opened expecting it to be gone and it was there no need for angst and that's the story oh that's we want to know so I took it and I brought it up to the counter I said how much they said 35 I said okay I didn't negotiate that figured okay they deserve the extra five maybe we went we ripped off the back and there was a painting behind that one that was worth much more than the map of painting by the most famous female african-american artist named Margaret Burroughs and I sold it for quite a bit of money Hashem Hashem helps out but you have to think a seasick home a lot I've done everything that I should everything that I could even if there's work to be done that's not my problem I'm in my temple I'm in my Macduff in time I'm in a totally different let me ask you something did you ever think Shabbos afternoon at two o'clock in the afternoon you're in the middle of enjoying your chalant and it's delicious or maybe one she everything what would I be doing if this was a Tuesday not often you don't think about it often you know why because you're in a different you're in a different space it's so different the mikdash that you learn is so different that time is irrelevant as a matter of fact we don't have a clock in our dining room I don't want anyone looking at the clock we are love my lammie knives on Shabbos own time so that's it has to be karma after you finish it up and that's number three number four we're gonna go a little bit fast tonight I want to keep your all-night number for Shabbos is about deep reflection again that sounds simple let's understand it who made the world who made the atoms who made the electrons who made the protons who made that Huma Huma the alligator who made planet Venus and Mercury who made the nebula and the Comets and the supernova who made who made math who made everything keepin Shabbos acknowledges that our Shem is the broiler it acknowledges it in a very very deep way Shabbos says I am a believer that I sham made science science didn't make Hashem and I Shem having God is not an opiate of the masses like Karl Marx says but Shabbos is a time when we reflect back but it's deeper than that there was a very interesting article yesterday in a the New Yorker magazine no I don't read The New Yorker magazine I don't even get it but it ended up in my inbox and it's a fascinating article it's called the new religion of America and in it the person writing the article writes that science and atheists that have their own religion which is called the religion of science tries to pay pledge allegiance to how to live the most comfortable and the most progressive life and the god of the atheist is progress that's the God if you want to know if you're an atheist what's the God the word is progress progress means today we're using phones this big tomorrow they're gonna be damping you know we're gonna have computers in our forehead they're gonna be embedded we're gonna have flying cars that's the God how do we know that what's the meaning of life the meaning of life is progress the meaning of life is that we can live longer lives but wrote the author who I don't know whether they believe in a god or not that seems like they do but though you'd imagine the New Yorker magazines already very left-wing writes the author it never gets to the question of what are we doing here what it's all about it tells you how to make progress science tells you what you need to do what the steps are but why make progress why live a good life why help the next person those things science doesn't answer because it can't answer and the atheist will always get stuck in the why science tells me how but it doesn't tell me why you know what Shabbos does Shabbos is the why Shabbos tells me what am I doing here you know when you work in a company sometimes they have those days thinking their chakras a call to your moon that day where you get together and figure out what are we doing here sometimes they have that for teachers what are we teaching why are we teaching are we reaching the students are we fulfilling our potential is our school doing a good job we have some principals sitting areright yeah that one day a year all the teachers get together well guess what that thing is Chavez for each person Chavez is meant to be a freshman huh nefesh yeah fix things are gonna work but why are you working che shish Yom to avoid yeah you'll work a seasick 'martha but why what what's the purpose so we know we have to work because that was the curse of of other Mauritian for eating sawdust but the point is not to work I wish I'm a college rabbi I teach college students I wish I could convey to them the message is not to work and your job is not your identity your job is a vehicle for you to pay the bills and maybe make the world a better place but it's not your ma hoose it's not your identity it's not your resume their thread it's not your reason for existence what is your reason that's what Shabbos is therefore to think about it to connect ah Shem you know if you do Shabbos right then you get the credit for the other six days having Shabbos one day when we don't have to work we're gonna have you I'm sure Shabbos really have the UM Bakula Shabbos of Manuka why because work is a curse we have to work we were supposed to be like other Mauritian and have innate Siddarth but we have to work but the tufted the topless the point is Shabbos we're supposed to be living in Shabbos day and night all day long we're not so Shabbos is the time to make their husband on a fish what are we doing and why are we doing it and when you when you look at job it's like that tell you a very interesting story I was at a fellow's house older gentleman and he was a Holocaust survivor my wife and I were there and it was after the meal and we had this very surreal conversation he was sitting on the couch we were sitting on the couch now he spoke to each other and he was a man of few words didn't speak didn't speak a lot but I told him you know I know his story the story involves the closure burger ever our family was very close to the closure but grab of my son's name is he castelia who died after the closure of my grandpa I said I know a story with him it's a famous story they were on a death march the cause of macGruber and many other people and they were marching for many miles it was blazing hot they were thirsty and the Nazis iam a Sherman was a crumb then odds he said you know what we're gonna stop over here and they stopped a few hundred feet away from the most beautiful Brook a stream with crystal water and they said whoever goes to drink will be shot on the spot and you know my kids used to have this this question this trivial question they want to ask each other what do you want what is mortgage smock food when you're hungry or a drink when you're thirsty whichever you're that there's no question a drink when you're thirsty how they called psalm a look right that Tigers compared to water because when you're thirsty you can go much sugar if you don't have water so all these people who have been fixing and going and dropping like flies and they turned to their cousin Maghreb and they said what can we do it's right there and there were some people who couldn't hold themselves back and they weren't running it to the brook and they began to splash water and drink water and on the spot they were shot their bodies went floating down the river and everyone else read but what should we do the rebus said right where you are begin to dig right right where you are they began to dig each one and by each person's feet a spring of water sprung up and they began to drink and the Nazis looked on and they were astonished they did not do anything to the Jews they knew they were witnessing something miraculous so his custom over there they said rabbi how did you know the cause of Agrabah says I have a kabbalah from my Zetas and there's a thes that the Bears shall Miriam that the air that follows the Jewish people that follow the Jewish people around in the desert that bear never disappeared it's still around and whenever the Jewish people are in trouble they're in dire straits the bit error follows them and I said ah Shem if there's one place that the area million Mary must be it's right here amongst you your sons and your daughters who are dying of thirst so you all drink from the Bay Area's show Miriam so this elderly gentleman who was sitting there in Barra Park and 53rd Street mr. stern he not he says I know that story I was one of the people who dug so I I was astonished to hear that so I said I have another story at the very end of the war April 27th 1945 the Rebbe was with his seed them on a cattle car and the cattle car suddenly stopped and the he's opened up the doors and the nods he said you're free to go you're all free to go and they ripped off their SS badges they said the war is over we have lost you're free to go it was right before Shabbos and the rebus said we shouldn't leave we shouldn't leave it's right before Shabbos stay here in the cattle car and the rebel also whispered to somebody next them something's not right and they went running out many people who didn't listen to the Rebbe they went running out and the Nazis there were Nazis there on bicycles with machine guns and hundreds and hundreds of people were murdered in addition the Allies were bombing and more udin were killed through the bombs and the only people were saved were the people who kept that Shabbos and they stayed in the cattle car and they saying as a mirus can you imagine April 27 1945 the clothes maghreb instead of running out for food for a drink to find out about family they stayed because of Shabbos and they were saved and mr. stern said I know that story also I was one of the people who ran out and I did not listen to the Rebbe but Bar Hashem I did survive pehle dick Shabbos watches over Clouseau brass tacks number five Shabbos is our mission it is our mission to enjoy it and it's our mission to enhance it I'm explained to like this growing up I don't recall love in Chaves I don't because Shabbos can be boring if you don't make it your mission to enjoy Shabbos if you don't prepare for Shabbos in a proper way it could be boring so you've got to take Shabbos picture like this one day there's a Shem most of the room here is women people are watching us they don't most of the people are women one day you're gonna get proposed to if not if it didn't happen already you'll be proposed to so the person could say hey want to marry me you don't like it do you hey want to marry me is not much of a proposal get a little creative buy a few helium balloons and some streamers have someone hiding with a phone with a video on so we can video it get down on one knee maybe have a airplane with your name embarrass you right you want to do it you want to be in that relationship don't hey want to marry me hey it's Shabbos hey ciao okay another shot it's okay no every Shabbos has to be amazing because you have a limited amount of Shah busting in your life count it up you'll be shocked it's scary you don't have that many Shabbat some don't aren't that many left and for some people my age or so a few hundred a thousand maybe less not that many shove us in every Shabbos is so precious so you've got to do what you need to do to make it beautiful by the finest I have a wine I'm pretty late I just noticed okay you're a good audience wulfenite will finish soon buy a wine I get a special wine she bottled it's not a three dollar bottle it's a $23 bottle I'm not worried you know why cuz a sham pays it back her showers of young people I'm not worried not for a second Hashem will give it back and that wine is microwave is and it's chilled in case you're watching you're wondering which wine alley it's I should say I'm lying didn't pay me okay Darren Hertzog late harvest Riesling the yellow bottle you know though on that sit-ins chilled and because I have to say wine every Shabbos when I drink it I feel Chaves like all the Shabbos Shabbos is back prepare for it you wanna have music Erev Shabbos so you could dance as you're setting the table do it my wonderful kinder luck you know we have 60 70 80 people every Shabbos Michael except for 80 people each week so you put on the music and then go dancing around they have their rollerblades on and they set the Shabbos table you like sushi by sushi doesn't have to be able to fish there are reasons we have is for Boyer but you like sushi by sushi Hashem will pay you back you like tongue by tongue key like a good scotch you don't like the smears you grew up with so you choose different smears unfortunately I've seen Shabbos tables where they went you could see when they're singing they don't like the song they're doing it out of you but Kalayaan I sure know you don't like it don't sing it get a good tune make up a tune make up a tune fines get a tape something don't just you would out of wrote buy a nice dress by a beautiful suit don't worry about the money as Shem will pay you back prepare for it it's up to us to make it amazing I'll tell you something I do if you're watching you have kids you could do this every Friday night after the meal even 60 70 80 people we serve a delicious dessert then I say goodbye and I say goodbye to all my guests and I go upstairs to the bedroom and all my kids come onto my bed and we schmooze for hours that's it special time with Tati every Friday night are they jumping they make plays and they speak about seminaries and it's just all lots and lots of wonderful fun that's what it means to be to to enjoy Shabbos so you have the right food you go to a minyan you like to go to you buy yourself a good Schumacher book or a beautiful safer you like to read on Chavez after wonderful go to the library going to the library to get a book that you're gonna enjoy becomes clay Chavez and if you're a man and you're watching this don't don't gobble up kiddush I don't care if you have a good voice or not take your time yo ma she she vehicle wash um I'd like let let the kids see lay your wives see lay your husband see that you're not in a rush to get it over with make a beautiful Havdalah the last to anticipate and prepare for it we spoke about this as well if the anticipated and if you are somebody who's not married yet and you're somebody who has to find a place each other's first I've gone to Shabbat calm that's a little self-promotion go out to the website and find a place but you should know what you're doing on Monday on Tuesday I speak to people and they wake up on Friday afternoon hey I wonder where I'm going you didn't prepare you didn't anticipate it make up your smock prepare for it and the last thing number seven is the Holocaust of Shabbos are incredibly important the mission Brewer says they are telling t Langella Locke has mountains of all of us they're hanging on a thread but they're so important to spend time if you're still in high school and you're doing Ilkka Shabbos it's not for a test if the answered learn it because you're gonna live it because it's a Shems love language now for people who are watching I get this unfortunately people say I Drive to shul I have to I want to enjoy a Shabbos Domini and that's how I feel connected - em now that may seem very silly to you but it's not silly to people they connect to Hashem by being in Jew and they live too far away so they drive to shul and unfortunately you have other denominations that have okay to reform forget about an even conservative that conserve the head of thing that you could drive but only to show no driving to the beach if you got a show then you could drive you're laughing but it's a serious thing so how do you explain it it's a beautiful beautiful muscle well we'll make it very simple my wife she pours cereal she realizes that were out of milk she knows I'm going to the store I'm gonna pick up a doughnut or something she says do me a favor pick up some milk for me I poured cereal I didn't realize we had no milk I go to the store and as I come in I see these beautiful red roses oh I'm feeling in a romantic mood so I buy her the red roses and I say here this is for you I come back she says thank you so much but where's the milk I said oh yeah I didn't have money for both so I got you the roses she said I appreciate the roses but my cereals cried for some milk it I need my milk making an A and overture of love means doing what that person wants not what makes you feel good if a sham says don't drive then the fact that you feel connected is not connection Hashem says is much much better to stay home it's much much better to diving in the corner it's much better to move to the community where you don't wouldn't have to drive your nearest shoe but that sort of means to be in a relationship I'll finish with this story you know Sean McColl BOC made up a tune form is more sheer miss Martinez Marcia here Shelly you're my Shabbos the whole world is waiting to sing this song of Shabbos every or that and we are also waiting to sing the song of we're waiting to sing the songs of but what's the song of Shabbos slamacow Bach never tells us what the song is the song is the song ezra show the Amish Ava's the song is the song miss Michelle what is the song but you have to continue their capital you know what the song is the song is llaha God Bob ouka hayasaka their moon acaba Lalo's to tell us that sometimes things are gonna look great for you in your life do you have good friends and good relationships and good should look about going your way and prognosis going your way well I give a bokor KOSDAQ of things in the Boca in the day and the brightness cousin but sometimes things are full of night we suffer we have angst we have depression and we have anxiety and should become I not going our way and Parana say is difficult and our relationships are not good and it's scary and we don't know how we're gonna press on the moon our Scoble Leila's Hashem says even in the darkest times even in the times of Holocaust even in the times of abuse and neglect when we feel so alone a moon escoba Lalo's Hashem says trust me when I made the world it didn't make any sense what are you doing making grass who needs grass who needs trees who needs molecules who needs Hashem says wait wait wait you understand it you here's a year here's Canada and here's life we didn't know the answers is Barlow ADA a silly person he hasn't no feeling of Venus's he doesn't understand that darkness has a lie to the end that everything has a plan before Irish I'm come I am when wicked people sprout my grass you know what it's for they some dumb are they add Hashem says I'm just making them grow so they're easier to mow down they're easier to chop down a silly person oh why do bad things happen to good people Shabbos is the answer what is life about Shabbos is the answer what are brung us all about Shabbos is the answer what's important - I'm Shabbos is the answer what makes a person feel connected and gives them peace in the world in their relationships in their marriage inner peace shabbat shalom Shabbos is the answer I'm privileged I'm so happy to be speaking about Chavez because it is that answer that we've been looking for but only if we take it and understand it is the crown jewel of the borough eylem it is the crown jewel it is the most important jewel of all the mitzvahs now imagine if you learn Torah on Chavez it's worth hundreds of times imagine if you speak loshon Hara on Chavez McHale kale Shabbos by speaking Russian our imagine wasting even one more Shabbos you'll never be the same you can't waste one Chavez treat every Shabbos like it's the lash Ibis in the world like this is the Shabbos that's gonna bring machine like this the Shabbos that will bring will bring a mullah or instead their dasa sham the world is gonna understand combined my young mahasin everything is gonna make sense with Shabbos understand that Shabbos is that that we've been looking for and if we understand this then maybe other people will get inspired by the way that we conduct our Shabbos and they'll be proud and they'll invite guests and they'll make a nice kiddush and they'll spend time with their kids and they'll learn Shabbos is their brother so I want to give you each abraca then never again should you look at Chavez as anything but the source of everything you've been looking for in connection - em thank you very much you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you back torah any time calm