Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier - Two Worlds, One Chance

good evening everyone thank you everyone for coming out to tonight's year um tonight cheer is being presented by the kazak organization and Sharia Muna first off we'd like to thank the sponsors for tonight's here uh zahavan Raleigh benjamini for their first dilemma of Frida bot Miriam devorah Rocco Yehuda Lei benadina Batya Caleb Marsha marayasha bet liba Rafael yaakov isaka Natan hakone Alta Elka and Lilo andishmas Israel and rebuhuda Arya and Leo Ben Sarah as well as foreign [Music] organization helps Jewish public school students transfer to Yeshiva in the last two years kazak has helped over 560 kids transferred from public school Yeshiva if anyone knows of a co-worker or friend a family member who has kids in public school and would like to transfer to Yeshiva they should contact the Kazakh organization kazak also organizes after school programs for Jewish public school students in different communities in Queens and the five towns and different areas as well as organizes different Sherman events different communities like tonight if anyone would like to help organize this year in their Community uh they should contact us authorization tonight we're honored to hear from Mary vincio Schaefer he just came out with a book called Two Worlds one chance after this year at that table over there we're gonna give out a free book to every person who came to this year Robert Shafer is the founder of the schmooz he's spoken around the world and is a very famous speaker and author as well okay okay um first of all I apologize for the time that I'm late um yeah I'm good okay good I also want to mention um so that's what I say I was hoping on that yeah I was banking on that I also want to mention that um is doing phenomenal work they're phenomenal phenomenal work I I've said this many times in the ashkenaza community in the 20s and the 30s a huge amount of Jews came over from Poland from Russia they came to America and one generation later they were gone there was nothing left you're talking about total complete assimilation and Hashem that there are organizations like khazak who are doing everything they can to make sure that that doesn't happen because 560 kids who were in public school and now in yeshiva's is a phenomenal number and I don't have to tell you the difference between a kid today being in public school of being an Yeshiva it's a difference of whether they'll be Jewish whether they'll marry Jewish or the kids will be it's a tremendous tremendous uh opportunity so please do whatever you can to help them okay one of the greatest Personalities in the time of the Gomorrah wizard of Allah Barbados was known as Mara de Erich Israel he was the Torah teacher of the generation to his address came all issues that a clients wrote to his home came all problems but despite the fact that it was at Sonic despite the fact that he was a tremendous Evan Hashem he lived a very difficult life's description was steer bitter difficult he suffered poverty illness disease to give you an example A Day in the Life of Barbados one day Herman Elizabeth went for a medical procedure and when he came home he found a bear cupboard but a bear Cuban meant nothing nothing to eat he reaches back in the cupboard he finds a clove of garlic he bites into the clove of garlic and he passes out for malnourishment the word quickly spreads you shalam the great the verbalosa Barbados unconscious the rabbis come to visit and when he's unconscious this is what they see he's lying there first he begins crying then he begins laughing then a beam of light comes out of his head key is our air when he awakes they say my high what's the meaning of this the crying The Laughing the beam of light scissor below at that moment Hashem himself came to visit and I said to hashema Hashem when will my suffering end and Hashem said to me Allah Allah my son is it good for you would you like me to begin the world again maybe you'll be reborn into a time of sustenance America have actually going to turn back the world to its moment of creation and maybe I'll be born into a time of sustenance the most short one of the commentaries helps us by explaining that Hashem was offering something unusual do you feel your life is too difficult do you feel it's too hard do you want me to find you a different generation put you into a different body into a different life do you want to start again and maybe I can find you a life that won't involve poverty and apparently or blizzard Barbados wasn't sure where to go his suffering was so acute and that he didn't know if he had the strength to go on and he said to Hashem did I live half of my life if I lived half of my life I think I can continue if not I don't know Hashem said yes you passed a halfway mark Ina if so I don't wish for you to put me into a different life put me back into the life that I had been leading at which point Hashem said to me that this is your world to come is in a state that's so wide and so vast that there are 13 Rivers running through it again in my show when the commentaries helps us by explaining that in the world to come there are no Estates there are no Rivers there's no physicality it's a muscle take a man in our world who so wealthy that he owns tracks and tracks of land he owns an entire State and that's a parable for this man's world to come at which point below says that's all just 13 Rivers and Hashem said if I'm going to give you more what's going to be with your friends give me Those portions of those who didn't earn it again martial explains to us what's going on when Hashem creates each Jew Hashem creates for that person a portion of the world to come if they earn it it's theirs if not it's left unclaimed Miserable as a proper dance don't take something from someone who deserves it Those portions of those who didn't deserve it who didn't earn it give me Those portions at which point Hashem touched him on the forehead said giri Bach to Shea as if you said well and that beam of light came out of his head and this is the gemara and I'd like to ask at least one obvious question on the Gomorrah and see if we can better understand what it's teaching us and here's that question we're dealing with a Sadiq and we're dealing with the Taman we're dealing with a man who lives his entire life to serve his creator as he's supposed to and he's suffering but he's not suffering lightly he's suffering in such a real way that the very first question he says to God is when will my suffering end so here's the question if Hashem is more merciful more kindly more loving than any human being that we could ever imagine why nasham just say Okay Allah you're a good man you suffered it's been hard I'll take over from here on in but that's not what Hashem said Hashem said do you want me to turn back the world to its moment of creation maybe you'll be born into a time when they'll be pranasa if I were below say don't turn back the world to its moment of creation how about a cup of coffee and a tuna fish sandwich he's not asking for luxuries he's asking for Basics why Hashem just say okay I'll give it to you and I'd like to see if we could understand what the gumar is sharing with us and understand a different perspective and to do that I'd like to share with you a martial a parable imagine a following imagine a very famous actor gets a call from his agent and the call sounds something like this Hey listen Jack we got this great script it's a guaranteed Oscar I'm going to send it by we're gonna do it the next day the actor reads through the script his agent calls him jack we're gonna do a guy right nope I'm not doing it Jack what was it the other actors will change him out I'm not doing it is it the cash we'll get more cash guys I'm not doing it why not why not why not the part the part yeah me playing is is an idiot he's a Down and Out yeah but Jack it's just the part but we're gonna do a guy right I can't stand the whole world seeing me as a luckless idiot he hangs up the phone now that conversation never happened because anyone going to the theater as well as any actor on the stage understands that the actor has a role to play the actor has a part to play and the actor is judged on one criteria how well did you play your part if your part to play is the most successful human being in the world but you played your part poorly the critics will rip you to shreds if your part to play is an idiot savant but you played the part well you wouldn't Accolade you win Awards the actor is given a script and the actor is judged on one criteria how well did you play your part and I believe that that is a very apt muscle for life before we were born Hashem gave each of us a very exact amount of talents abilities Hashem chose a given generation Hashem gave us an exact amount of intelligence and said this is your life I want you to become the great human being you can become but each of us will give in vastly different Talent abilities strengths and weaknesses and each of us were given a part to play and when we'd done our job here they don't ask me how close I was to you they don't ask me how good I was compared to you and they asked me the most demanding exacting question how much of me did I become you see each of us were given different strengths on different talents different abilities and each of us are asked one single question how much of you did you become and it doesn't take a rocket scientist to realize that different people are given vastly different life settings vastly different abilities and all of it doesn't matter because they're but stage settings we are but actors on the stage and when we've done our job here they ask one simple question how much of you did you become but I'm not compared to you and you're not compared to him none of us are compared to sadikim who lived hundreds of years ago each of us are compared to that standard of me how much of me did I become eighty percent forty percent twenty percent they've seen the name of the village in the most painful moment in a person's life it's not that fatal car crash not even when you recognize that the solar guys are there for you and not even when they pull that sheet over your head they say in the name of the girl that it's not even when you're at your funeral and not even when you hear this them say those words about you it's when they put you in the ground and they cover your body with a layer of dirt and you separate and I stand in front of the Beast and show my life standing from the Heavenly tribunal and they hold up this picture this picture of this great man this Sadiq this time and they say to me why didn't you become that me little me you want me to be that great person I thought what do you want from me and he's saying the name of the girl the most painful words human being will ever hear are the words that is you that is you had you become what you were destined to be that as you had you actualize your potential that is you had you lived up to what you could have been but you see folks the picture is a picture of me I'm not asked to be you and you're not asked to be him none of us are compared to any other human being I'm compared to the most exacting demanding standard the standard of me and when you understand that you begin to understand that people are given vastly different lives if you look around this room you'll see there's tremendous differences in intelligence and personality in temperament inabilities no one I know woke up in the morning and said Hashem I think you should create me with a 180 IQ brilliant sure no Tim give me an ad IQ kind of Daft kind of slow should I make me six foot two biggest no I shall make me four foot six kind of scrunched over and scrawny we don't get to choose our physical settings and as we don't get to choose our physical settings nor our intelligence much of our personality we don't get to choose either Daniel Goldman in his book emotional intelligence writes about the fact that there are studies that they do today that are 22 months of age they can determine the nature of the child bold or shy extroverted or introverted and because hardwired at Birth is much of the temperament the nature the talents of the person can you go further yes within whatever abilities you have you can go as far as you can but you if you look around you'll quickly see that there are vast differences amongst people some people are gifted and some people aren't some people are brilliant and some people are just not and even if you tell me that intelligence is not the end-all and be-all you ever notice that some people are socially gifted they just know the right thing to say to each person in each situation and some people are social klutzes they say the dumbest things all the time listen I know two brothers two brothers live in Muncie one brother everything he touches turns to Gold financially very very successful beautiful marriage each of his children one is more unique than the other and he has a brother the other brother and everything he touches turns to Mud Cannon a living hashan bias his marriage is on the Rocks his kids excuse my expression one's a bigger misery than the other but here's the point two brothers born to the same parents brought up in the same home went to the same yeshiva's living vastly different lives and don't tell me one's trying and the other one isn't they're both trying but some people are given vast amounts of talent some people aren't and all of it doesn't matter when I'm done my job here they don't ask me how much money I had they don't ask me how handsome I was they don't ask me how much Charisma I had they asked me one single question this was your role to play how much of you did you become and I'll share with you something interesting there is what I call the Mantra of the high school girl I have Ken her four daughters they're all Birch and past the stage but anyone know what the Mantra of the high school girl is you know the Mantra is online you say over and over and over repeating so if you don't know the Mantra of the high school girl I'll tell you what it is the line that the high school girl will say over and over and over is it's not fair she has someone gets clothing and she's so pretty and she has so many young friends and her parents treat her so nicely it's just not fair now would you like to know that she's a hundred percent correct if you look around any class you'll see their tremendous differences if you have 25 children in that classroom they're different from a left to right center and there's so many differences in abilities and talents and if you believe that Hashem put us on a planet for our station here and if you believe that this is the end-all and be-all then you should ask that it sure does seem unfair but once you understand that we're here for a few short Years and we're given a mission we're given a plan and a purpose then you begin to understand that all of it is irrelevant these are all state settings these are all props the only question they ask is how much of you did you become how much of your strengths did you use and I have a muscle that I think well defines us there was a book written many years ago the story was about a football player and it was getting in shape for the Super Bowl Sunday and and to get in shape he's riding his bike on a country road it's a secular book in any case it was a novel and according to the book The Story Goes Like This the angel of death was new on the job that day the angel of death sees the football player going this way into the tunnel the angel of death sees a car going the other way the angel of death says why wait for the blood the mess instead of waiting for the actual Collision the angel of death takes a football player out of his body they bury the football player everything is fine and well except one problem the angel of death made a mistake any normal person would have hit the car deserves to be in heaven deserves to be dead but this man was an athlete with Keen instincts the last moment he would have veered off would not have hit the car he deserves to be alive the problem is his body's in the ground what did he do now they decide to do the only thing they can do find someone whose time in fact is up and put the football player back into the body of that person so the cute part of the story is that the football player opens his eyes looks around this Mansion sees the Butlers and the maids and then feels the flab when he realizes he's now occupying the body of this Rich Tycoon so the key part is where he has the Butlers and the Maids on the front lawn running football drills as he tries to get his arm in shape for the Super Bowl Sunday three weeks forward but there is a punch line here that exact experience happened to every one of us I am the guy inside Hashem took me from under the Keyser covered and said this is the generation into which you shall be born this is the family in this birth order in this situation because this is the ideal State setting for you custom designed hand crafted to allow you to become the great person you can be and I believe that's the antebellosa Barbados you see great wealth is a life test when you wake up in the morning and you're rich but I mean really really rich there's a sense of power Independence I don't need anybody I don't need my kids I don't don't need my wife I don't need God I can buy and sell the world that's a life test when you feel that sense of power what you do with that moment is a major test and as great wealth is a life test so too is poverty when you're so poor that you don't know how you're going to pay your bills and over and over you hear the calls and the Creditor and the word foreclosure keeps coming up and over and over and finally scrape together just enough money to make that mortgage payment and that night you hit a parked car you look left you look right and no one saw do you leave your phone number or do you not as great wealth is a life test so too is poverty and I believe that's exactly what Hashem was saying it's not that I ran out of cash in your generation it's not that I'm short on money this generation this life setting has been handcrafted custom designed for you perfectly made do you want me to find you another generation do you want me to put you into a different life that might allow you to become the great person you can become why it's possible but maybe not because this one has been handcrafted designed for you to challenge you to allow you to become the great person you can become and I believe that's what the gumar is sharing with us and this understanding that Hashem creates for each person the ideal stage setting I didn't get to choose it I didn't choose this body I didn't choose this temperament I didn't choose this level of intelligence but Hashem put me into this world and put me into this generation into exactly the state setting and said go out there for those streams climb those mountains and when I'm done the only question they ask me is how much of meat did I become what I do with it and I believe that this understanding helps us understand life and while this understanding helps us understand life I believe that there's one muscle that clearly clearly defines if you want to understand life in a very very clear way I want you to imagine the following imagine that you're invited to a exclusive health club you've never been there before but you know the basic layout on the right side is the gym and on the left side is the spa you know the gym is all the equipment you need to work out the Nautilus the weight machines left side is the Spas the steam room the swan everything you need to just relax anyway you decide it's been a very stressful week you're heading right to the spa but because you've never been there before instead of turning left you turn right and you find yourself in this room and all this equipment and all these red-faced people grunting and sweating and you say the words whoever designed this Spa did a terrible job explains that when Hashem created the world Hashem created Two Worlds there's this world and the world to come each with its plan each with its purpose this world is the gym we're put into this world to grow to accomplish to be challenged when I'm done my job here I go to the world to come that's a spa whatever I accomplished here is what I enjoy there but two worlds each with a plan each with a purpose when you understand that you understand life if you don't understand it then there's very little under the sun you understand and I'll share with you what I mean anyone here ever suffer a headache okay having a migraine anywhere migraines migraine have a little arthritis that's right I walked a man up three steps on Yom Kippur I helped them up I think he suffered more pain in those three steps and I suffered my entire year so here's the question why does shim design pain what does she make pain but here's the point when you smash your elbow it hurts but that's a very different feeling than when you smash your shin a stomachache hurts but that's very different than a toothache an abrasion hurts but that's very different than a burn you could write poetry about the different flavors and textures and nuances of pain why do it what good does it do anyone if Hashem is loving kindly giving light a shim creates such a complex pain delivery system also I could say ouch and suffer and if you believe that we are like Elsie the cow you see when Elsie the cow dies her nephesh goes just evaporates if you believe that when you hit the grave it's black and it's done and it's over then that question is profound but it's not just that question it's suffering it's illness disease pain a stupefying immune system in man so complex with clearly designed holes in it and diseases that seem to be handcrafted to penetrate those very openings in the immune system why does Shem do it and if you believe that life ends in the grave you will find no answer to these questions once you understand that this is the gym who were put here to grow to be challenged there'll be many many situations that you will be challenged with in life that you'll have a choice to make you either transcend you rise above it or you crumble but choose your must once you understand life once you understand there's a gym in the spot thank you and then you understand fundamentally much of life you may not know the answer to every individual situation but you understand I'm here for a few short years many many challenges what I make myself into is what I'll be for eternity then you understand life and while this may seem obvious I don't think it's obvious at all I get a chance to speak in different communities and I get this shoes I no longer say it's called the death series number 23. I was speaking out of town community and I've said this rules you've gone to site this rooms.com whether she was happy you could see it but I don't say the schmooza anymore because the reaction I got at this audience I was speaking I did about 40 minutes about what it's like after we die what it's like Etc and after many many people that question many people like comments and I noticed at a corner of my eye an older couple kind of hovering on the side when it was finished and everyone came over asking asking asking finally the older couple came by and the woman came by first and she said oh Rabbi I love the lecture oh thank you very much husband followed suit Rabbi I loved the lecture but now I've been around the block often enough to know that when you hear the words Rabbi I love the lecture but this is going somewhere so I waited to see where this was going Rabbi I love the lecture but according to what you've just said I've wasted my entire life now when you're on this side of the standard and an 80 year old man is on the other side saying according to what you've just said he's wasted his entire life and you know that he might be correct it's a very uncomfortable position to be in so I stopped saying that she moves in public however I want to share with you some of the highlights just so you understand where this man was coming from explained that we make a fundamental mistake about death ask someone what's death like oh I don't know Blackness if I can go to sleep at rest he's at rest rest in peace Harvey was a good man he's in his final resting place and says there's no secrets it's not difficult to understand in fact it's very simple if you want to understand death imagine the following imagine I walk into the room and I take off my coat I hang my coat off I walk into the room and it says the resource wanted that is death this part is the body this part is the coat the coat's put in the ground and I separate but you see it's me it's not my distant cousin not my Alter Ego not some other part of me it's me with my thoughts my memories I the one who occupy the body leave now this concept is very difficult for us to understand so I'll give you a muscle so you make it a little bit more clear um and for a little bit of social adequate um anyone very familiar with the laws of social Behavior here's a question from the time you get a text how much time do you have to respond before you're considered rude anyone know the exact uh amount of time well I don't know the exact amount of time either but it's a small sliver what do you mean you're in a shower I don't care I texted you over 10 seconds ago why'd you okay I don't know exactly how much time but you're given a very very short amount of time before you consider rude okay imagine the following imagine you have a son who you brought up very well and he's very very polite he just got his license and he's not the best driver in the world but he is very polite okay anyway he gets behind the wheel of the car and you're sitting next to him and he's driving and you do notice that the speedometer is going from 65 to 70 75 80. you don't want to say anything but this is like getting a little scary over here and all of a sudden uh he gets a text now I did mention he's not the best Drive in the world but he is very polite so of course he texts back back and forth and back and forth and wow lights out you wake up three days later in a hospital bed you look up the doctor looks down and says hmm sorry to be the one to tell you this but you'll never move another muscle in your body again and you realize hey I can't move my arms hey I can't move my legs my head my just help help I'm stuck in here imagine it's you in the hospital bed and locked in and imagine for a moment that your friends come to visit and your friends say those things their friends say when they don't know what to say oh you look terrible thanks a lot I'm better than I'm like I'll be stuck on tell me how bad I look here's the question you in that hospital bed can't move your arms can't move your legs can't move your head your chest are you alive are you alive so if you're not sure whether you're alive and I'll share with you an interesting observation that exact experience happened to a man the editor of L magazine in Paris he woke up in the hospital locked in in fact that's the name of the syndrome Latin syndrome he couldn't move a muscle in his body not his arms on his head not his legs on his chest and he wrote a book the book is called the butterfly and the diving bell now interestingly enough he was able to move one muscle he was able to Blink his left eye and through that a speech pathologist devised the method for him to communicate she would put her finger down a card with the alphabet on it and when she got to a letter that he wanted a signal he would blink his eye hence he was Community able to communicate now that book describes the weeks the months that he lived in that hospital he describes the nurses some are so kind and so sweet someone and when he called it till it a hun so here's the question that man in that body locked in Was he alive so if you're not sure whether he was alive and I'll share with you that observation and that is that book that became a bestseller in France translated into English later made into movie was written by that man you see in the mornings he would compose the sentences and the paragraphs in his mind in the afternoon his secretary would stand at the foot of his bed taking dictation letter by painstaking litter because he died in that state and if you want to read a testament of a man being vibrantly alive while his body is effectively dead read the book The Butterfly and the diving bell but you see that's the point I'm the guy inside I'm the one in here the body is the shell the body's put in the ground and when I'm done I separate and when I separate it's me I'm not asleep I'm not my distant cousin not my Alter Ego not my new shama it's me with all of my thoughts all of my memories and that understanding should change the way you think about life because every action that I engage in shapes me molds me makes me into a different person when I said this over to that audience this 80 year old gentleman said a rabbi according to what you've just said I've wasted my entire life and I asked him what he meant and he said well I made a lot of money that's what I focused on since I'm a little kid I've done very well but this idea that every action every thought in every conversation with another human being shapes me into who I'll be that forever I am when I make myself I never thought about that and according to what you're saying I wasted my entire life now folks here's the punch line the man was dominating in an orthodox Jewel he put on fill in every day he kept Shabbos he kept kosher he was a functional operating religious person but this thought why does him create me what's life about what am I never seemed to have crossed his conscious mind isn't it a little unusual I mean imagine the following imagine this man woke up at 60. imagine you woke up at 40 and said wait a minute I get it show me the whole world Hashem made the Sun and the Moon and the start I get it I should have made it everything wait a minute she made me yeah Hashem made maybe maybe Hashem it a purpose maybe there's a reason why Hashem put me into yeah maybe there's a reason could you imagine had this man woken up at 40 and asked himself why did Hashem create me what am I doing here could you imagine the different Life Choices he would have made if you wake up at 80 it's a little late in the game if you wake up at 40 it's a lot better and certainly a lot better if you wake up at 20 but here's the point Hashem put us into the world and gave us tremendous potential gave us a Torah as the system as a guidebook to grow to become what you can be and when we've done a job here they don't ask us how rich we were they don't ask us how pretty we were and they don't ask us how clever we were they ask one thing this is the great person you could have been did you follow the Torah did you grow did you accomplish did you become what you put on the planet to be but you see folks it's me it's not my distant cousin not my Alter Ego my body's put on the ground I separate and it's me who's there and if you'd like to understand life on a very deep and fundamental level I think you just have to understand that one concept that I am the guy inside I think what this commercial shares with us is a tremendous tremendously sold and that is that Hashem was saying to her blood it's not by accident that you put into this generation it's not by accident that you're born into poverty hand-crafted custom designed for you this is the ideal State setting for you and much like that football player finds himself in the body of the Tycoon Hashem puts each of us into a life that ideally suits us I didn't get to choose my level of intelligence I didn't get to choose my temperament I didn't get to choose much of my life but what I do with it I sure do get to choose and why become forever is based on my choices but again my body's put in the ground I separate and forever I am what I made myself into and this idea I used to be very difficult to relate to it's very difficult to understand the idea that I live on after my body the idea that I'm not a body it used to be a very difficult concept but I believe in our day and age it's very very easy to understand you see in 1979 Raymond Moody wrote a book the book is called Life After Life Raymond muri was a physician in the hospital an emergency room and he dealt with many many patients who were clinically dead they died no respiration no heart rate and if within four to six minutes of cardiac arrest or stopper respiration they were revived he found that about 35 had what he called a near-death experience he invented that word no one ever had heard of it before but basically he described that patients would come back when they were resuscitated and they would describe things that they couldn't have possibly seen because they were unconscious they knew things that they couldn't possibly know because they weren't there and he says they all had this Eerie commonality they described kind of popping out of the body kind of hovering over the ceiling and kind of watching when he wrote this book he chronicled hundreds of cases of near-death experiences and when he published it it created a tremendous stir in the scientific Community because he was a physician it was scientifically based but it can't be what do you mean I live on after I'm dead the body's dead I'm dead what do you mean to live on since that time there have been thousands upon thousands of near-death experiences that have been chronicled have been corroborated and has become an accepted medical fact we don't understand it we don't know what it means but somehow something lives on after death ok in any case landsat magazine is a prestigious British medical journal and they did a summary survey of all the different surveys of studies of near-death experiences and they were trying to sort of bring together all the wisdom that man has discovered about near-death experience now I'm not going to share with you I'm not going to bore you with the details of the study but I want to share with you one story that they bring in this magazine landsat magazine ladies just a little warning ahead of time is a little bit of blood and gore in the story but it's it's well worth hearing in any case the story that they brought down goes as follows a 36 year old woman was brought into the hospital with an aneurysm in her brain bleeding in the brain now normally the medical procedure calls for cauterizing the area meaning they'll put a hot probe and sear the tissue stop the bleeding the problem was that the bleeding was so deep in her brain that if they went into corduroys they would cause so much residual bleeding that you would bleed to death and the surgeon said to a Madam there's nothing we can do for you if I go in I'll kill you I can't do it this head surgeon was effectively sending her home to to die in the case on that team was another surgeon who asked to meet with her and he said as follows he said I've been thinking about your case I've studied very carefully it's theoretical but I believe we might be able to save your life if we drain all the blood from your head and the surgeon goes in and quickly cauterizes the area you can't bleed because there'll be no blood in your head in theory if he works quickly enough I believe we can save your life she consulted with other medical professionals she consulted with a clergy there was no alternative so she agreed to undergo the procedure however this was the problem there could be no bleeding whatsoever they put her under anesthetic and put the tape over eyes probes in her ears put her body into a bath of ice they had to get our core temperatures low as they could and still hopefully revive her when she was fully under and a blue in the face and they drained all the blood from my head the surgeon opened the scalp found the area corduroized it closed it back up and they took her out of the body bath body on the bath of ice put the blood back in and miraculously she survives few hours after the operation the surgeon walks into the room where she's recovering and she begins laughing doctor Doug I must share with you when you were operating on me I had this strangest hallucination I I dreamed that I popped out of my body I popped out of my body and I was hovering in the ceiling kind of looking down at you the surgeon opened his ears very carefully to listen she said and and then then the strangest thing happened you you took out this electric toothbrush and you tried to put into a vein in my thigh but it didn't fit you said it doesn't fit so the nurse next to you said try again you try it again and he said it doesn't fit she said try another time you tried another time and it fit doctor isn't that funny the doctor didn't laugh the doctor turned white because part of the procedure involved taking a medical instrument that from a distance could look like a electric toothbrush he needed to put it into a vein in her thigh but the vein was occluded it was too small I couldn't get it in I tried it said it doesn't fit the surgical nurse next to him said try again he tried a second time he said it doesn't fit the nurse said try another time he tried another time and it fit but that conversation between doctor and nurse was held while the woman's body was in a bath of ice she was blue in the face you could have screamed it or you could have yelled at her she wasn't there and when you read about thousands of thousands of people who all describe the same sort of reality that the body is dead but they saw they remember they experienced things you begin to get it I'm not the body I'm the guy inside put into this world for a few short years to grow and accomplish and then ask one question how much of me did I become I believe this commercial sharing with us a fundamental concept the Shem said turbo it's not by accident you're born into this generation a handcrafted exactly for you this is the stage setting that will allow you to become the great person some State settings involve wealth some poverty some health and some different situations but each one is but a stage setting because one but actors on the stage and when we've done a job they don't ask us anything other than how much of meat did I become and I believe this concept is fundamental to understanding life and I want to close with one last thought when the rabbis walked into the room and they saw below unconscious there were three things that happened first he began crying and then he began laughing then a beam of light came out of his head now why he laughed I understand if you were just told that your world to come as an estate that's so wide and so vast that the 13 Rivers running through it you'd also find it very entertaining the beam of light I also understand Hashem said you're going to have such a huge Obama and the 13 Rivers running through it and he said I could do more I could accomplish even more Hashem said giribat touche greed is ugly ambition is great Hashem did not take any human being from under the Throne of Glory put us into this world for whatever and it's great Ezra belosa Barbados was and there was more to accomplish more to grow and Hashem said as if you've done well he touched them on the forehead the Beamer light came out because it could be Hashem was entertained by it so the laughing I understand the beam of the light I understand but widerables about the Dust cry so if you look in Russia on that Gomorrah and Rashi says crying and remember the very first question he asked Hashem when will my suffering end and Hashem said you want me to put you into another life and he didn't know if he had the strength he said did I live half of my life when Hashem said yes half of your life is gone he began crying half of my life gone he starts crying that Rashi is very difficult to understand why this man is living in gehenam poverty illness disease the most description of his life is austere and difficult and he's halfway through it he should be dancing a jig he should be overjoyed Hashem half of my life gone is think will get him gone it's like imagine a man running a marathon and a mile 20 the judge system you're setting a world-class record just keep it up wait 20 miles gone cry because half his life is gone he should be overjoyed and I believe the answer to this question is understood life you see when he opened his eyes in the morning there was a love of Life 24 hours to change myself change the people I live amongst change the very generation I live in let's go because he understood life there was such a love of life that when Hashem said to him half of your life is gone that was the worst news available and my friends if you want to learn some Musser this is the muscle lesson the next time one of your friends fetch I my life is so difficult my kids am I Vanessa and everything I guarantee this suffering didn't come within miles is suffering disease illness you know Steer bitter life despite that he loved life he had such a love of life that when Hashem said half of your life is gone and it was the worst news imaginable because he understood life when you understand that we're here to grow when you hear we're here to accomplish there's a tremendous love of Life there'll be rough moments yeah it's not all going to be a walk in the park but there's such a simple and I believe that's exactly what the Kumar is sharing with us I want to thank Kazakh and I want to wish them tremendous and in their work please take a copy of the book two worlds one chance it's available here it was sponsored by khazak and all the shoe Museum are available on the shoes.com or the shoes app and again please uh please Avail yourself of the book Thank you very much [Applause] anyway anyone have questions questions obligations thoughts okay pain does something incredible pain forces a person to think differently act differently it makes you sober it's not pleasant but it's a very sobering experience sometimes it's mahapur but more than anything going through difficult troubles changes your perspective and you become a different person what you do with that is you know many people crumble but people rise above it become different they understand life differently and they become different human beings and they wouldn't have been the same and they not gone through it all right so what's the observations questions anything on this subject or any other that's not a question that was a statement Yeah question yeah I mean he's not really suffering was really suffering you know I mean the muscle isn't exact um the muscle the muscle means to bring out this point that I was given a stage setting and I'm not judged by the stage setting let's say my I'm the richest guy in New York and I'm the most brilliant person and that's the role the question is what did I do with that what did I accomplish I'm not judged by the role I have to play I'm judged with by what did I do with that role meaning so many times we judge people no he's smart he's very wealthy or he's he even if a person is that doesn't tell me what he's doing maybe he had the potential to be twice as big as he is maybe he's only 30 percent of what he could have been so we judge people on the externals and we assume that that's who they are the externals are the stage setting and we're judged by what we do with what we're given you know I'm saying that's that was the the point of the Marshall to did he couldn't have achieved his potential right without poverty right handcrafted for him not always comfortable but allowing him to become the great person that he could become and he wouldn't have been without it yeah so then it raises the class I think it's a classic question what's the point of dominating to change your situation if God said this is the perfect situation then what am I diving for right it's a very good question okay so many rushonim learned that Dominique is akin to any history that you do let's say a person says you know what Hashem determines how much money I am to make and so I'm not going to go to I'm not going to get a job what's going to happen so watch this here I'll make it even more clear it's imagine a jump Kipper I'm chuckling away it's Roshan it's a little clearer on my talents on my head I'm struck me away and I hear a Bosco shave what I was sent from yeah what what I was sent to tell you this year you make a million dollars whoa a million a million bucks I leave the base vendors happy as a lark quit my day job I don't do a thing what do you think is going to happen that year I heard the bus go I'm gonna make a million dollars but I quit my day job I don't even look in the paper I don't do anything I just sit down what do you think is going to happen say what's going to happen I'm gonna go hungry that year why because when Hashem decrees I'm to make so much money Hashem doesn't handcuff a person to any fate and that's what's available that's what's accessible but you got to do your part to earn a living you got to get a job to get married you have to go out if you decide I want to smoke two packs of cigarettes a day and eat 50 ounces steak and you weigh 400 pounds and you're 35 don't complain to God when you get you have a heart attack go Hashem why me I'm only 35 why you because look at you you know it was meaning before we were born Hashem determines a certain appropriate proper life for us but we got to do our part to do our part you got to do what you're supposed to do part of that is dominating so if in fact I'm supposed to suffer this situation and it really is slated to be my dominating isn't going to change it but it might just be that I have to do this to unless and this down this will get me out of it just like I might just have to get a job to earn a living so two a big part of the establish is dominant so if I'm hearing this right it's that I may be suffering now but that's not actually supposed to be my ideal State it's really more of a motivator for me to dive in so I can affect myself and get to my ideal state is that what you're really um close to that I mean I I would say this there are life settings there are some people are born to Poverty some people dwell some people to hell some do the opposite and then there are things that we go through in life the things that we go through have many different reasons why however often time Fila can change it whatever the reason that I'm going through this now maybe it's a punishment maybe it's to help me wake up me I don't know why there could be a lot of different reasons but dominating is a good the best to get me to allow Hashem to have mercy on me and hopefully extricate me from this from the situation the clear clear as mud Chile change it right but it's astardless much like going to work much like any establish that we do right right I guess just the really one last thing so that great man in the Gamora was as poor as poor is poor should he have been dominating not to be poor I mean that's the question I assume he was now that doesn't mean that it's going to change it if it's your life setting it's not going to change it but he should because who knows and and you don't know um you know and there were great people you know who were poor that that's it's again the different life settings that different people were given and that you know Teala won't change if it's it's really what you need but again it's it's usually circumstances and those usually do change um okay any less yeah so it was an emotional problem meaning his life was so difficult it was such a heavy burden that he didn't know if he had the strength to continue when Hashem said yes you're halfway all right if I got past half I can I can I have the strength to continue but he didn't know meaning his it wasn't like lightly suffering his pain was so acute his life was so difficult that he didn't know if he had the strength to continue Hashem said you passed away okay then I I got this far I think I can continue but the point is it wasn't necessarily an easy life yeah but despite that he was happy he loved life pain and tremendous joy in the same human being how could it be it's called being a real human yeah okay so don't go on the internet if you do go to the shoes.com don't get a dumb phone that dumb phone that starts with the eye the eye that stands for what idiot phone right don't get one of those if you do get the schmooze app on the Android or or on the iPhone and its shoes 23. I'm sorry oh okay good ladies any questions thoughts observations yes say it again please I'm sorry Life After Life is it Eternal yes Eternal yes yes it's physical entities have an end and I am the physical I'm spiritual I'm the one inside the my body just putting the ground and it ends I live on forever I'm not limited by physical limitations because I'm not physical I'm spiritual by the way that's one of the deepest thoughts you ever have this you know I'm so strange it was a Shabbos and I had this spiritual experience here I am this physical being having this spiritual experience there's nothing further from the truth I am not a physical being every once in a while having a spiritual experience I am a spiritual entity temporarily having a physical experience I put into this body for a few short years but I the one inside and completely utterly spiritual I'm not physical I I don't want to thinks I'm going to remember this I'm not a feels but I am not the arms I'm not the legs I'm not the chest I'm the guy inside do you know what I remember that and that part isn't governed nor limited by physical rules and therefore lives on forever yes it was a question yeah foreign okay that's a fine question and um the rambam defines mashir as the world exactly as we live in now meaning you'll go to work you put a seed in the ground there's one distinction [Music] every human being sees Hashem right here every human being gets it everyone being understands physically everything is the same but that one reality recognizing that Hashem runs the world recognizing Hashem is here changes every decision changes every priority changes everyone's life so it's the physical world as we are now but a totally different reality so but again that's all within the existing physical world when I'm done my job my body's been the ground I separate there's no physicality that's yes yeah okay so this one is above my pay scale that's an accurate answer um so it's a Swati shul here so you believe it's it's a machocus amongst the Quran about Google how many people are or not the cetera I know this in the slaughtering world it's very it's very mukubal um I I don't know but if if we've been here before then you'll know you know why you've been here it's that area of weakness it's that you ever notice that you have one area that's like your weakness if you've been here before that's why you're put back to work on that area um and uh to improve to grow in that uh if you have two areas of three or some people have four or five ten how many I don't know all right folks thank you very much