Rabbi Avrohom Walkin | Battle for Generations: Yaakov vs. Eisav | Parshas Vayishlach | CHAZAQ

[Music] good evening everyone thank you for coming to the weekly kabura this week's par is par um like I always do I'd like to thank Torah any time and kazak for all that they do for the cloud very special work I would also like to dedicate this sh to a very special helmet of mine just 18 years old his name is Rose Mansour I was to be with him this past week in ER we were looking at different yesos and the I get from yose is really tremendous I'm 56 years old he's 18 yet he gives tremendous amount of with his love for Torah his dedication to do AEM and the battle that he always battles to make sure that his re's happy with him his family's happy with him and most of all that cu who is happy with his aod thank you R for everything that you do and the that you give me and many others so this week's paraa we know um starts off with yov Vu leaving his father-in-law's house uh love on and he waited obviously till till um till yose was born because we know kazal tell us that Bas asov lash BAS yob and b y that with the K of Y he knew he could overcome ASA even though Ys was young but the kak the Rus the spirituality that yose embodies was enough for him to be able to he believed to uh to fight uh to fight asov he's on his way back and ASA finds out that um that jakov is coming so he prepares 400 men and what was his preparation his preparation was to kill to kill Yakov he was coming with anger he waited for all this time that finally yob is going to come into his territory and he will and he will kill yob and his family so what does yob do yob um prepared himself T tells us prepared himself for three things and one of the things he prepared himself was by sending gifts and we learn from that that yes when you're dealing with the Enemy it is important to do a certain of sending gifts a second thing obviously not which was more important but the second thing was he prepared he prepared with f of course which is the most important and he also prepared for war now the question arises why does he need the other two things like preparing for war and gifts if runs the world and you D and everything you D for hopefully is in this so I do believe that there's a certain that yov needed to do but what does H really do what is in reality what does it do do so I want to be mber that what it does is it creates a certain illusion for certain people that what that you do a person might think that it was your that caused it not that it was that did it it wasn't your it was your that caused that caused the the thing that happened to you that you wanted to happen happen and therefore some people will say oh he's a good businessman he's a good salesman he's got money he's got a good business head and therefore he succeeds in his in his Endeavors without realizing that in reality it's Hashem so people will be challenged people will be challenged in theira do you see that it's all coming from Hashem or do you realize and think that it is coming from a different source so therefore that's what sometimes you causes it causes a person not the person you know what the person himself too he might think that it's hisas that did it so wants a person to do his giving the gifts sending uh uh uh preparing for war and you think you're a great General you're a Napoleon you're such a great General and that's why you overcame the war and uh not realize that it was really your F and closeness to Hashem so therefore a person has his by sending the gifts and by preparing for war two things that can actually take him away from realizing really what what is the essence of why he was successful so what does he do so he tells a message to these three Ang Three Angels that one of them they kept sending gifts with these angels and to who to asov and he tells them tell asov that I kept the tayak Mitzvah which in alone is a fascinating thing because we know the Torah wasn't given till har SII and we know certain Mitzvah didn't take effect for clel till many years later yet yet we know that yov said he kept the T mitzvos so like I said many times before the AOS were on such a high level that they were capable of looking in the nature through their Holiness and seeing the tayak Mitzvah they were able to understand that the world needs the 613 mitz by looking at the world and the nature around them they saw that the world is already built on the Torah like it says that looked into the Torah and created the world which means that the world in itself had in it the Torah and they were on such a high level they were able to look at it even before it was uh it was given so yakob was able with his own understanding and Holiness and kadus he was able to learn the Tarak Mitzvah even though only three of them were in his lifetime actually only three were in his lifetime Peri of arivia the first one Brisa the second one and later on GHA didn't even happen yet so yakob was actually only privy to two of the mitzvos at the time that he was learning the so what does Rashi tell us cuz from the word you change the letters Rashi tells us and it means um tag now truth of the matter is what is he impressing as ASF couldn't care less ASF cares that he kept mitz what was he what was he telling him but we're not going to go into that now famous question is asked what I want to discuss is that Rashi says and I didn't learn from the evil ways of laan you you learned 613 Mitzvah you were able to see in the nature in the nature you were able to see the Torah and and able to write it down by looking at the at the nature of the's world why would we think he would learn even from the evils of love you know what level yob had to be on we learn from here invaluable lesson rash is teaching us that yob was teaching that I could be a big I could be a big Ben Torah I could be a big Ben to but I could still have bad bad bad MOS I could still do bad things it's called a man a person could be a man he can know all of tag he can be on such a high madrea but yet yuu still felt obligated to tell asov that I didn't learn from the bad actions of who of Lavan so that's one thing I wanted to mention now I saw today in the morning actually right after ding I saw mam lawers that really blew me away really was unbelievable unbelievable thing I saw and I love using theam leas it's actually my cheap safer where I use it I learn it a lot and when people ask me questions most of the questions I'm asked I do find answers actually in in the mam lo I can you know figure out things yes that's the safer in English it is a fantastic English in even in English written very well but it is it is my go-to it's it's almost like my suas David which was a safer by my rebi davat who many R would use to prepare themselves for Shear cuz he had all the raid he knew all the T pretty much on every sugya so people would use it without having to work hard so I go to the m LA today in the morning and the M La says something that was very like I said it blew me away and he said it on the PK yob was terrified on when he's going to encounter ASV he was terrified on the account encounter that he was going to have with Asa and the M Lois says there was two reason why yakob was fearful number one the question really arises he kept tyak Mitzvah he is on a spiritual level even if he felt that maybe his level that he that he that some of his credits were used up or most of his credits but as is a russer as is a real russer what is he scared of to hasem he's close to hasem what is he scared of so the mam Lois says in the name of the Zohar he says that yov was scared of two things that ASV had over him and I will tell you the second thing theam Lo brings down and then I'll tell you the first cuz it's the first that I want to discuss the second thing that yakob was fearful that ASV had over him the Lush is yon he had something added over over over yov was the aim that he was able to do for the 22 years 20 years that that Yakov was away and ASV even though he was a Russia had a certain amount of KRA a and yo felt that that would maybe be enough to overtake the the 11 other tribe members shift was born later but the Holiness of Ys the Holiness of the the Holiness of the the Holiness of Yu yet he was still scared that theim or even only of asov was enough that's the second answer he gives now your question should be on that wasn't yob also doing Kim his parents told him to go and find a wife which he did which he did so he was also being M but could be that because Asa was constantly helping his father being there at all times maybe he felt that was a greater K maybe otherwise Yakov also was doing K and aim when he when he went to and he got married and he raised a family okay it was the first answer that just was really fascinating for me the Z brings down that the first reason he brings down why yobu was scared that as might be have certain that would overtake him was that as was living the whole time in ER where yob was living in now this is fascinating if you think about it I broke it down right after daving asov was a russer in Isel koras tell us that doing a sinning in erus Ro is greater and more punishable than sinning in arts because when you sin in AR Kaz garas tell us is sinning is sinting in the Palace of the king and when you sin in the Palace of the king it's worse if you go to the White House kav and you act crazy over there it's a lot worse then you're acting crazy in M Avenue where I live okay so when you're acting crazy in the white house and I'm not trying to put down M Avenue but anyone that knows what I'm referring to will know what I'm referring to in in farak so somebody that sins in the King's Palace is worse ASA was a Russia he sinned all day and night in arel which is worse Jakob was in away from his family yet he kept the T mitzvos yet he was worried zor teaches us that the of as of just being in eres was greater than even him doing mitzvos and keeping the tyak mitzvos unbelievable think about it it's unbelievable Asa was doing AA after AA in erw worse worse worse yob was away from anything good yet he kept yes the of living physically in might be greater and a bigger Merit than everything that yov did I found that to be unbelievable you see the K and kadus of er unbelievable unbelievable now let's go a little further in theim it says here that night he got up you know he was preparing and he sent gifts to as and the says who he got up that night a certain night I guess it was the night before he was going to meet he took his two wives and his two maid servants and 11 of his children so rash right away asks popular question I mean anything Rashi says is popular Rashi asks a question thank you Rashi asks what about Dena what about Dena Dena was with them so why does he only say he took 11 children he really took 12 and there also sheas that held that when every shave it a twin was born but that's AAL rash I guess didn't hold of that or the P I don't know how he learns it into thek but andash where was Dena so Rashi says that Dina was put in a a a box and jakov HIIT her away from asov because he knew that if asov would cast his eyes on Dena she wasn't married he might want her because she was very beautiful and she was very person you know personable and yet and asov would want to marry Dena take her take her for a wife and Jakob was worried that if he takes her for a wife who wants to marry I'm worried who wants his daughter to marry a Russia like ASA imagine somebody setting up his daughter with Adolf Hitler of course you're going to keep her away from him what are you kidding me why was yet kazal held that yakob was actually punished and Dina was taken forcefully later on by because he hit her in a box when she could have rash she says maybe of ASV she could have actually brought ASV back to chuva but you don't take a gamble the gar tells us many places that a person should always marry try to attempt to marry his daughter off to a common sense who doesn't want to marry who's which father doesn't want his son to marry a k i mean today it's a little different but in those days t k was was top of the line today it should be also of course but I'm just saying you today sometimes people marry for money but maybe because they're hoping that that they were able to S learn more you know their children but the bottom line is yakob was held responsible why because he hid Dena away from asov and who knows maybe maybe far chance but maybe she could have brought him back to Chua now you could ask this question on Leia also CU Leia was crying all the time that she would might have to marry as of one day she's not punished for that maybe she could have changed ASA also how come she's not punished not only that because she cried and she used to cry to Hashem Hashem heard her cries and she ended up marrying yov also why wasn't she punished that she might be able to marry as and change him so the Bali mus like to say they say most of the Bal mus that I saw almost they all say the same thing that it didn't bother Yakov that he had to do it yov even though his intentions was pure and he could have been correct in his intention but it didn't bother him that he had to do it now how does that coincide with the actual that she could have changed them that's a good question the bottom line was the reason is she could have changed them that's the real reason but the B muser say that they like to say that he he uh he nailed the the Box shut hard which means there was no emotion that he had to do it even in CL when bezan has to punish someone there should be an emotional feeling that you had to do it you should have r on a Jew that needs to get punished for what he did he needs the cleansing but not to be happy that you're that you're punishing the Russia like they always say hate the sin not the sinner hate the sin not the sinner train yourself that you're not hating the person but you're hating his actions okay so yet we see that yakob was punished why because he didn't feel any feelings of bad that he had to do what he did that's what the Bali musard say and I saw an unbelievable thing from a gamar that one of the Bal mus actually bring it down that we know that Yehuda hanasi suffered for 13 years the most painful sufferings in his stomach called it was stomach I don't know to say cancer but it was something that the gor tells us is the worst suffering a person could have stomach problems to that level that for 13 years he would lay on a bed and he couldn't move and he suffered and they had to take layers off of him and it was terrible suffering yudi and gar tells us why was he punished with that punishment because one time one time a baby calf that was about to be shed felt that you know they feel it Hashem causes them to feel certain nature that they're going to be slaughtered and it hid behind reasi and he looked at the calf and he told the calf he didn't say anything bad he told the calf go this is what you were created for and I saw aot on that that really what he was telling the calf was this is Aus for you for an animal my son once showed me that for an animal to be Sheed and eaten p is a ticken whatever that means for the soul of this animal it's a uplifting for the animal when it gets Sheed for something D this animal was going to be brought as a carbon and I saw also that that it's a and aen for the animal that a Ben Torah somebody that keeps Torah and mitzvos eats this animal and because he ate this animal he's able to keep the Torah and mitz because he's full it's a ticken for the animal so rud he really was telling the animal this is what you were created for not in a in a callous way not in a non you know you know you know feeling for that calf he actually was telling the calf this is H for you go yet he was punished for 13 years that he couldn't learn Tyra the way he wanted to and he suffered terrible suffering why because he still should have felt Rus on an animal even though it was for the animal's benefit he as a human should have understood that this animal was scared and there was no emotion and therefore the gar tells us he was punished so you see how a person has to be so sensitive so sensitive whether it's a principal whether it's a rebi whether it's a parent that if you have to discipline feel bad that you have to discipline don't say he deserves it he caused trouble in class he's going to learn a lesson feel bad that he deserves the discipline but but feel bad that you have to be the one to give it to him and not going to be you know a good feeling for this person so that's one thing I wanted to mention in the in theot of Dina being being taken captive and why was yakob punished that Dena herself was taken forcefully now the Shila is also by Dina why would she actually punished because Yakov committed a sin like that so the PK teaches us also that Dina it says that Dina went out to um to check out the land okay simple nature I'm going out to check out the land no kazal tell us that she went and she would walk a certain way knowing that she was a very pretty woman and she did get a certain enjoyment when other people would stare at her which is terrible I have to know where that came from but um it says that Leia got punished also because she went out to Yakov ainu the day that um she gave the Roses the D whatever they are the the flowers those Roses that she gave to um the gave that she gave to ra instead it says she went out the over there in the went out which was a little unne she should have stayed in her tent she didn't have to run out of her tent to run to yov it was a certain uness on the level of our OS and therefore she was punished Dina that Dina went out so there was a there also but then again why is Dina punished for that the answer is cuz she also had a problem she went out to check the land a woman's I won't say job but a woman's beauty is her is her staying at home that she's humble she like sah was in the tent telling look at your wife sah she's said NOA she doesn't come out to us we're guests she stays in the tent on her level she knew she was going to serve but she had a certain sne I'm not going out I'm not going out even in her own tent she didn't go out to the Mal the Mal was showing wow what a sneck a woman you married therefore therefore the fact that Dina went out to see doesn't say to see the the the men of of the town of the city of she went out to see B the daughters right the daughters but even though she went out to see the daughters there was a certain lack of that she how she walked around when people would stare at her she felt a certain goodness and for that she was taken forcefully and that's why she was punished for that but I want to end I want to end actually with a um with an unbelievable V with an unbelievable V on two actually things I want to mention I want to mention with the fight that Yakov had with the Malik it says here that Yakov went back he after he was about the next day he was going to meet asov he realized he left PanAm and PanAm are small jars okay now I don't think in those days you were able to return bottles for 5 cents deposits you know so if then maybe it would make sense no it wouldn't actually but why did yaku Vu take a gamble take a gamble of leaving the flock he's not supposed to go out alone it's dangerous it says that should not go he can't go at night alone felt that for a few jars he's going to go out and get it so I saw a different shut on it and one of them is that that Yakov wanted to show that he acquired these items without gazel he acquired it without stealing and it meant a certain value to him okay that's one I saw that the value that he that he would constantly see through these jars that he used to get everything he got was to honesty would be a lesson in for him but I saw another that yako felt that everything at K who gave him was valuable everything KES who gave him was valuable and put in his possession empty jars some people say there was oil in it and we learned Kaneka story from it I hear we're not going to go there but basically he went back to get jars that were not as important as going to get it but for him because Hashem gave it to him it meant it was important and I want to tell you from that when I leared that as a little boy I would never want to pick up a penny or nickel before that a little boy 11 12 13 years old I never wanted to pick up a penny cuz I didn't want people saying oh cheap Jew is picking up a penny besides I don't want the penny what I'm going to have extra change in my pocket how many people just give away nickels and pennies even said ster even toer they'll give it away just because they can't have the extra change in their pocket right so I would wait I would always wait to make sure no one's looking and I'd pick up the penny not because I wanted it believe me I didn't want it but I wanted to show myself because of this the that hasem put a penny which is not valuable in front of you but it's worth something what right do I have to walk by it and not pick it up obvious wanted me to see it obvious wanted me to pick it up what right because I don't want to bend down and I would make sure obviously that nobody saw me cuz they're not going to get it why I'm doing it if I knew they would get it then I would I would I would pick it up in front of them but they wouldn't get it I felt maybe the would be greater oh he's picking up a penny NE on him but I wanted to mention that I used to pick up all these pennies and put them in a certain jar because I felt hasem gave it in my direction I it's meant for me to pick it up and I put them together and almost every single year I don't remember what time of the year but but after they accumulated a certain amount I would even it has5 $10 it wasn't just a penny it was 5 cents a dime on the floor a quarter in the machine I would say if it's coming my way it's meant to be by me for a reason and I would put it together and every twice a year I would give it to takaka sometimes it was even $30 $40 Believe It or Not pennies nickels dimes and quarters so very very important the power of um that if hasem send something your way what right do you have to say it's not worth anything that's that's one thing I wanted to mention anyway what happens is we're going to end with this that he's fighting oh he he goes back for the and because he was left alone and is not supposed to be alone the is able to attack him I will tell you that we learn from here very valuable thing also CL needs when CL remains alone that's when trouble starts when separates from each other when yob is left alone when separ R that's when the sitra is able to come and and get get CL so therefore we obviously especially in our terms the akas is very important because when we come together as a unit we're able to fight the sitra that's that's one thing I want to mention on this episode what happens this Mal comes and he fights with him it's a very interesting conversation happens here yov sees the the Mal and the Malik says um they start fighting and we all learn we all learn that yov was able to win against the Mal but what happens is the Mal ask what's your name he says my name isov your name will not be that your name will be because you fought against the no problem then for some reason asked ask me tell me your name now this is not kindergarten here where what's your name hi what's your name no none of your beeswax what my name is you know the bullies used to say what do you need to know my name for what's going on here yov he asked him what his name is yov asked him what his name is but the answer of the Mal is is very very strange he says to him toob and he says to him why are you asking my name He blesses him there what are you asking my name for you asked me my name I told it to you so I'm asking your name common sense now what was yob asking the name for he wanted to know what evil is attacking him this wasn't just a physical fight this was spiritual I believe I believe well guess what I believe but I understand from my learning that even the the ganha that was hit it wasn't a physical hit because of a battle that they had spiritually he was able to do something physical to Yakov because the physical is connected with the spiritual therefore because of a battle of a spiritual deficiency that he was able to overcome a little bit yakov's physical hip was damaged even though the measure says that later on the next day that next morning it was healed people think he limed his whole life I'm sure this is first one to say that but I saw him at first that he was healed right after um the day began because it's happened in Twilight or between where it wasn't noticeable um you know what's going on which is also a lesson that when it comes to the Satan you know when he gets us when we're not clear as night even if it's night but you know it's night that's also a Mila when you know something is bad that's also a Mila and you know something is good of course that's it's when you're not sure that's why there was a a little bit of aak where it's not clear that's when the Satan is able to get somebody when somebody's amuna is not clear that's when he's capable of being attacked and capable of succumbing to the Gara now what does he answer him why do you ask me my name what type of answer is that what type of answer what do you ask me my name so the Bali a few of them that I saw actually they answer the same answer that he was answering in what his name was and what was his name L why do you ask is my name that's my name what does that mean a Malik and as of what type of ideology were they don't ask questions do whatever you want you don't need to know rules you don't need to know regulations you're on your own you could do whatever you want why do you aski is my name that's not my V I've seen it in many places they say it that they did answer is is don't ask questions give it into your hearts desires don't need to know the right and wrong don't learn Torah don't ask your rabbis do whatever you want so he did answer him by telling him L me that is my name and the last thing I want to end with is with ro Manu she was n teres in this week's paraa and she died during child birth and while she was dying while their child came out she called her son Ben Oni son of my Affliction son of my mourning son of my suffering yet yaku aino right away switched it to Benyamin to Benyamin son of my right hand benyamini son of my right hand what's going on here first of all a why was Ru pessimistic by calling it Ben Oni why would she have to do that for this child watch this child walk around with a negative connotation that this is the son of R's suffering and mourning that died and why did yov switch it if that's what ra called it I saw an unbelievable V on this Ra was worried that now that she won't be alive who is going to be M the child when he's young a mother's not obligation but a mother's Torah a mother's upbringing when a child is Young is the most powerful influ influence on a child cuz you're building the foundation of this child therefore what happened she was worried that being that the mother won't be in the picture who's going to take care Y is busy with his Torah and Y is busy building the other other the older ones like Ys he has to learn with so she called it Ben Oni because she was terrified that this child will not be brought up with the that a mother instills in a child when they're young the mod the wearing of the ti the taking to theer in the morning the being home when the husband's at work and and being that when he's young she was worried that she won't be there for him therefore yob switched the name and says no ra don't worry benini I will be there I will be there I will be this this he will be the son of strength and he won't be the son of mourning because I will take the role of the mother and the father I won't just let him go I won't just be be an absentee father I'm going to be there from the beginning through his growth which you would normally have been therefore he Let rul Die in peace in Peace by changing the name to benyamini no he is a son of strength because I will give my strength jakob's strength of to and Ras will be in that child and that's why he was protected all the years by Yu he didn't want to send b at the end he didn't want because he knew that he made that promise to Ru that I have to protect this child and this child is going to be a child protected without a mother and I have to play that role thank you all for coming have a wonderful shabas and I want to tell you there's so much more D I just told you a drop in a bucket but it was very special Stu