What do you do when things go bad in your life? - Rosh Chodesh Av - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] today's roses very very very special day very special month every month is special and every rodes is special but the month of a is specifically special because we relate with the month of a for something negative because we're going to be fasting next week TSH the nth of the destruction of the Temple and many other bad things that happened in the past so we relate with this month as something negative but at the middle of the month the energy changes completely and from the 15th day of a till the end the energy is positive the energy is actually very very good and powerful to a point that our sages say we never had such good days like the days of the 15th of hour and on so it's a powerful month because it sign is something very very basic in our life that we perceive things that are negative and really it's not negative it's a blessing so the month starts with two weeks of mourning and negativity and the destruction of our temples and many other things that happened in the past but in the middle of the month it switches into something positive Something Positive Growth and much more and that's really what's going on in our life that many many times we perceive things as being very negative but really the negative is just a wrap of whatever hasem wants us to go through and if we're just going to be patient and persistent we can see how the negative is not really negative it's actually something positive that God is taking you on a little route for you to understand that something is actually it looks bad but Hashem likes covering everything that is good in very bad wrappings so before we start I want to actually add a little bit because it's important for me H to add on what she just said I was I wasn't born like this I was born in Isel and I grew up the most secular you can imagine you can't even imagine how secular the most secular that it comes in Israel that's how I grew up and I hated the Torah and I hated theem and I hated everything that has to do with the Torah I didn't didn't look like this uh most of my youth I had long hair my body is covered with tattoos I had piercings all over my face and I was actually not only far away from the Torah and the MIT I was even in the physical life I was going to the worst place in the world I used to use drugs I was a criminal many many many many bad things till theh decided to change that and 22 years ago I had a clinic iCal death as a result from Cardiac Arrest too much use of drugs and for 7 minutes I was flatlined and in those seven minutes I went to to Sham to the heavens bearing mind completely secular and the experience that I had in in those seven minutes that's what made that so I don't come from an orthodox lineage maybe yes maybe down the line there's something but the last few DEC and the last few Generations my entire family is not observant so what's important to take from that is is that even the person that is furthest away and I'll dare to tell you publicly I wasn't just secular I was a criminal doing a lot of bad things uh I actually recently started more talking about it cuz many many years pass so now it's easier to talk but I came from the furthest place in the in this world what the Holy zor says the deepest pit in the world there's certain levels how how low you can go but the Z says the holy book of of Z says that if a person falls down spiritually and goes down and down and down hits the the the most lowest pit and from that to climb up is not easy so why is that important to know because I want to talk to you today about a few things a I want to talk to you about how to bring blessing into my life because at the end of the day secular not secular it has nothing to do how the person behaves and dresses at the end of the day we all share the same thing we all have a soul in our body and it doesn't matter how you dress on the outside because many people on the outside they look like Torah observant but it's just a suit a suit costs a few hundred to grow a beer a few years and to put a yamako on your head is a dollar so I found unfortunately in my long long journey that what's looks looks on the outside is not what's on the inside I learned a long time ago not to judge the book by its cover because many times you look at a person the external looks one way and inside is completely different so when I look at people I don't look how they dress or how they show themselves to the world that's how they want to look in the eyes of the world but the way is to look at a person is to look at their at their soul at the level of the Soul that's where you can see the actual individual not not on the external part so and the same thing either way that's how God looks at people God doesn't get impressed if a person looks from top to bottom the part and pretends in this world this is the world of she the the the biblical term to this world is called Alika the world of deception everything here is a lie everything that you look at it's not real it's like a bubble of air and the real things you don't see them in front of you the important things in life and not only that most things in the world the world will represent it as sheel and then we go after this she the she is a lie and we go after whether it's Fame whether it's I want to be popular whether I want to have a lot of money and there's nothing wrong with Fame popular and money it's just what's the sake you're doing it for so important to know and that's where a lot of people miss people think that the kadh the master of the universe looks down at people and he gives them points according to how they behave or how they pretend to behave what the Torah says but I know people that might not be praying every day and might not be so particular about the ker diet but when it comes to business they're honest they don't steal and that's huge but when it comes to their family they respect their family members the wife the kids and many other things so it's important that when a person wants to know how does the master of the universe looks at me is the master of the universe looks at your heart aka the famous RAB AKA says the K the master of the universe he's looking in your heart he doesn't it doesn't get impressed what you did around you can fool the entire world you cannot fool the boss he knows exactly what's in your heart and that's what he's looking at and if you're pure inside and you have good intentions and you don't want to hurt anybody and all you want to do is good and many other things that's what he's looking at not at the external part and the reason I'm saying that because we all doesn't matter in what status you are it has nothing to do even if you're Jewish or not we all seek one big thing in our life which is a blessing we want a blessing in our life I want a blessing in my parasa I want a blessing in my relationship with my wife I want to have a blessing so I can raise my kids to Torah and I want a blessing in everything that you do and everything that I do the problem is that most people are seeking the blessing in the wrong places the blessing obviously comes from the master of the universe but the blessing depends on us I need to do something I experience that many places that I go people come up to me and tell me remember give me a blessing so blessings to give are free but it's not that when you learn Torah or learn to be a rabbi they give you a secret book with how to give blessings or where the blessings are the blessing comes from the master of the universe and I can bless you and other people can bless each other but really the blessing comes from yourself you will affect your own in your life not not other people a lot of people think okay let me go to him he will bless me and it will work the great Rabbi when he blesses you or holy individual or anyone when they bless you that blessing will work when you are worthy for this blessing which means you have to do something the way we do that the Kad created a wonderful world and he asked us that whatever we use in this world that we should uh we should say we should say a blessing this commandment came through the rabbis that every time that we do anything that has to do with we have to say a blessing and the blessing is as follows and the reason is as follows first of all I'm sure you're familiar with the blessing that we say blessed are you the master of the universe the king of the world and then we add what we're about to do whether it's when we eat something or we do a mitvah then we continue and and saying what is the Mitzvah or what is the blessing but just just that you understand the technicality here when we say bar in Hebrew means blessed but in proper Hebrew bar means pull down to bring something down so what do I want to bring down so the word after comes means you who's you then we continue in the blessing Hashem who's you Hashem what is AEM Our God the god of the entire world so I want to bring down God into the world so I say please you come down who the king of the world Our God the king of the world and then whatever I want to continue that's what I add to the so really what am I doing I'm bringing this Godly light into the world and it's important to understand a lot of people think that God is some I don't know some image or some tyrant in the heavens with a long beard and tells you you know you're not a good child you're not a good person that has nothing to do the reality for 28 years when I perceived the Torah I looked at the Torah as very demanding and very oppressing and why do I have to do all these things and why if I want to believe in a God why can't I believe in that that God my way I was I was rejecting everything that the Torah said but the Torah comes from the word the word Torah comes from the word in Hebrew to teach the Torah is a manual you buy a electronic device in this world you get a manual how to use it so the same thing Hashem created the world put us in the world and he gave us a manual this is how you use this world like I tell my kids if you put your hand in the electricity in the socket then you'll get electrocuted you want to try that go ahead but I warned you same thing hasem says I'm warning you don't do a don't do B don't lie don't steal don't cheat because it's going to cause a spiritual short circuit exactly how you will put your finger in the in the in the electricity in the wall so when the tells you don't not to lie or not to cheat or not to steal or not to gossip the the guide is basically telling you don't do this because it will create a problem in your life and vice versa when the Torah tells you do a do be do see eat koser or or whatever it is then the Torah is instructing you that's the order that's the code to put something together in order to activate this blessing in your life so when I come to speak in front of a crowd I have one purpose that the crowd will listen go out of the door and apply if you sat here listen now for 40 minutes and then you go out back to your daily things you didn't do anything you sat here for nothing you might have heard some nice words of inspiration maybe the food was great but a smart person from every situation listens and takes something that's my Approach I follow King David in the book of and he says from all my teachers I have learned something and it says on David on King David that he was so humble and such a great man that even from his enemies he learned and even from the ones who came to do wrong to him he learned something so most of us we have some type of an ego and arrogance that nobody can teach me what are you talking about I have experience 30 years I'm in the business I'm 40 50 60 years old you will teach me smart people know how to listen and the ones who talk a lot the Tor says talk less do a lot smart people listen so we don't have much time we have a few minutes that we want to go out from this room with a good spiritual present specifically ones KES is the head of the entire month in Hebrew technically it should have been called the beginning of the month but when it's called Roes it's the head of the month the head has everything in it which means today everything that's going to be happening in the coming month is in this day all concentrated kind of like you take a seed and when you're looking at the seed it looks like a little I don't know few millimeters of some little Stone but when you plant it in the ground waiting and and and watering the ground suddenly a tree comes out which means the seed holds in it everything that's going to happen in the tree same thing Ines whatever is going to be laid out for the entire month is decided today whatever you do today that's how the entire month will be which means that if today you take to to to the effect of the day whatever you do today and whatever you decide to do for the rest of the month and whatever blessings you prepare today the whole month will be like that and by the way the same way it's not only Ines it's on what we're going to celebrate exactly in months and two months on the day is it's just around the corner whatever is decided on R in the heavens that's what's going to happen the entire year more than that this is the month and the year but whatever you do on Shabbat that's what's going to be the rest of the week all says whatever you do on Shabbat the preceding week is going to be the echo of what you did on Shabbat so what we need to take from that that at the end of the day or what they call here in America the bottom line is what you do not what other people do and not what God does which means when I want to see something in my life and of course I want to see positive things then I have to do something the most wisest man in history King Solomon says this is a verse from the book of mish and what does it mean I'll I'll explain then Translate because the translation won't won't mean anything the translation means like water to the face but what does it really mean now in our days we have mirrors in the olden days they used to look at the reflection in the water so it says when you look in the water there's a reflection whatever you will project that's what the reflection will show back at you which means that if you looking now forget the water looking at a mirror you're looking in a mirror and you smiling at the person you see in the mirror which is you of course but the person in the Mirror by default smiles back which means what you do to the world that's what will reflect back the examples when you're looking in the mirror of course the person in the mirror will do what you do it's you but that's for us to understand that whatever I do to the world whatever I project to the world that's what reflects back if I wake up in the morning grouching and every person that I look at um um my face is frowning and I'm not in a good mood that's the energy that will come back right at me from this individual and on the other hand I wake up in the morning I'll smile to you how are you then you by default we'll smile to me and worst case your reaction just will be a little bit less than mine what do you take from that that whatever you throw into the world that's what comes back to you so if I want my life to be smooth and not too much challenges and not too much issues then first of all I have to initiate something more than that like I told you before the energy of the month that it starts negative and ends positive every month in the 12 months of the calendar has a different energy to take you a little bit now to the more saic the mystical part of the Torah the teachings of explains that every month has a certain energy that enlivens the month based on the combinations of the letters of the name of Hashem so Hashem has many different names but the main name is yud and then a and then a and then a we don't pronounce the name but that's the name that creates everything in this world it's called Hava the the forming of everything now when you write and then a and then a and then a that's the right order of writing God's name but you have 12 combinations how you can write the name because you can switch the order of the letters now once you switch the order of the letters the name is different and again we do not pronounce it but if you would look at the letters of the name each and every one of them acts as a filter and the easiest way to explain it if I will take now a be light and I will project the beam of light on a wall then you will see the light projected on the wall you don't see the light in between if this is right now the projector and that's the wall you see light here you see light on the wall but in between you don't see light but if you will take now any object and put it between the light and the surface that is projected then that will be on the wall if you remember I'm sure you remember that some of you at least 40 years ago when we used to go to to to the cinema to watch a movie before the movie would start there was a lights projecting on the wall and everybody would do with their hands stuff like that and it would be on on the on the screen the idea is when an object is stopping the light the shadow of the object will project on the on the wall or on whatever surface you're projecting now imagine that Hashem is projecting his light into the world if there's nothing in between then the light will hit this world and will reflect and we will see what we see in front of our eyes any object that will come in between distracts the light and changes the way of the light so every month and this is based on the teachings of cabala that every month the order of the letters change and according to how the letters change the letters are the objects that are in fearing the light that goes on to the wall that is projected how do we perceive it that every month The Godly light comes shining into the world and when I say Godly light I'm sure you heard that term a few time Godly light what is Godly light it's not the like light like that Godly light is energy Godly light is power of existence and creation so it's easiest to say Just Energy or some type of godly power that enlivens everything we perceive everything as physical but the reality is that the physicality is just a a design on the spiritual world so with that said every month the energy is completely different cu the order of the letters change and the way it works is that we have two groups of letters you have a UD and a VAV and a he and a he whenever the ud and the and the VAV are in the beginning it's a form of kindness of blessed whenever the he is in the beginning it's a form of Judgment of din so when you write y the right way then it's only the the she the energy comes in a flow of kindness and every month it changes happens to be that the previous month T it's all opposite it's he he completely opposite means the energy is only the opposite of only judgments but in the month of it's starts negative and then it turns into positive saying that the beginning of the month the energy is heavy energy seems not so positive but once we hit the middle of the month it changes what I like from this specific month is that that's how we perceive everything in our life very few people see situations in their life and understand that it's good for them we see situation situations in our life and we perceive it as something negative and when I'm talking about situations it can be a day-to-day encounter with another person and it can be as big things as you want to travel you want to buy property you want to get married whatever it is every day our life is full of challenges and it doesn't matter again with the background of the person and it doesn't matter the faith of the person we are all equal it doesn't matter the outside of us yes of course the Kosh wants each and every one of us to be closer to him as close as possible and he will do whatever he can to constantly push us that will will be close to him Me growing up for 28 years I didn't see any value in being close to the kadosh to the master of the universe my mind was more focused on what's going on in this world I want to be successful I want to be rich I want to marry I want to have kids my mind was going according to what this world gives us and that's what everybody does and little did I know that all these walls that I would keep bumping into and all these challenges and all these problems were actually only for my own actions so all day long we've run into challenges and all day long we have certain difficulties we don't realize that half of it is our own doing half of the problems that is are thrown to me as challenges I'm responsible to that and how does most people react they start blaming the entire world he did it she did it he said instead of taking responsibility and saying I wasn't right I shouldn't have said that I should have done that I should have be acted like this and like that and the most important thing is that you do that in a very a calm way not in an OCD way that every little thing you're like oh my God I said this then this happened that's already that's already not healthy that you start psychoanalyzing every little thing I said and if I would say like that then she would do this and you that's already not so healthy so what we want to take from that is first of all that I can set the blessing in my life and again it's not how observant you are it's how close you are to Hashem CU Hashem only gives Hashem is nice H hm doesn't punish anybody if you heard from anyone that hasem punishes then don't listen to that person because it doesn't say anywhere that Hashem punishes Hashem just gives you the rules and he tells you if you bang your head at the wall it you're going to get a headache so you go now and bang your head at the wall and you have a headache and you start blaming the entire world but God told you but I told you you'll get a headache that's it I like looking at everything as reactions you do a certain act and you bring on yourself a reaction so God doesn't come with a stick and hit you God just gives you the rules of the world then you do the action it's negative then you are responsible for your own action if you're looking at it on the positive side that I can bring constantly blessing into my life now I can tell you that when I travel around the world every everywhere that I go even locally people come from all over the world to come and visit me for one thing not for selfie for blessing everybody Rabbi please give me a blessing I need to get married I need the blessing but again like I told you before why do people go to other holy rabbis to get a blessing so first of all if you're already wondering why I'll tell you why because most people in their day-to-day life they're not fully observant and they're not fully going according to what hasem says so they do many things that affect them in a negative way first of all their diet is bad and I'm talking right now the Kosher diet when you don't eat kosher it affects your body simple as that it's not a punishment it's not to make your life harder I also didn't understand the concept of goer till I understood it how through health because I I was very aware of eating healthy food and then I understood that when you eat healthy food then your body reacts the right way the body is more stronger it's a less to get Shalom sick the exact same idea that works for coer just for other aspects of your life when a person eats kosher their mind is sharp sharp not only that your mind is stable there's no confusions there's no distortions of of things most people are very confused about every situation they deal with it's like this imbalance in the in in the in the brain and it's coming from kosher food and then how calm you are most people are so like uptight and kosher food and many other things when you change your diet when I started changing my diet I saw a change that I sleep better I wake up stronger with more energy during the day I'm happy even when I to deal with challenges I'm calm I'm not so H crazy in my mind I'm much more relaxed so I saw clearly how the the the digestion what I put in my mouth affects me to to a way that most people don't even realize that during the day their day-to-day life they're either uptight or they're very full of anger or full of anxiety and this is all coming from your own action don't blame it not on the weather not on your boss not on the financial situation when a person is centered with hem doesn't matter the challenge he's still the same way in regards to his happiness he's being calm most people are worried all the time all the time worried what is going to be here what is going to be there when you worry you know how you say worry in Hebrew Thea has the the alphabetic letters in order just missing one letter it has an Al has a gim has a has a he it's missing a bit and the bit stands for that I have trust in hem when I have trust in hem then hasem can do whatever he wants Hashem is the master of the universe he's the one who created the world he's the one that enlivens the world he's the one that runs the world whatever you want to happen that's the the address he decides what's going to happen he knows what's good for you like you know what's good for your kids when you raise kids when they're 3 years old 7-year-old 9-year-old my 5-year-old he doesn't know what's good for him if he would have to run his own life he will be in front of a screen all day long with a LLY pop in his mouth I need to tell him what's good in this world I need to help it's a 5-year-old he doesn't know how to think for himself I need to push him and educate him and make sure that he's getting what he needs same thing here so we have to understand that the master of the universe I call him the master of the universe cuz he's Master over all everything he decides what's going to happen every challenge that you have he's going to decide what's going to be the challenge and if you're going to pass it and all day long we are challenged with so many different things and we blame the entire world little do we know that if you take a little break and you let the energy of the world do its thing you will see that half the things that are coming to stop you from doing something and you perceive it as something negative it's actually for your benefits as AEM looking out for you and you're about to run into a Junction full of cars and he stops you and like a little kid we are upset because God took our little toy and we are not unhappy why is Hashem doing this and why is this is not working but really that's hashem's way of saying I'm actually helping you you don't see it you don't see the steps in front of you but I am taking care of you and the more a person is connected to hem through their prayers and through following theor and mitv and really through changing their inside the more you are connected to Hashem the more you see how God runs your life and he knows how to run your life much better than you that is 100% Hashem knows a what is good for you and how to get it and we just go like this in circles zigzags not no not seeing the blessing in front of us that hashm says I want to bless you with whatever you want but there's a way how to achieve it and what path to go on so I learned a long long long time ago that the more humble I am then that's how Hashem operates in my life and when Hashem operates in my life then life is good there's no mistakes and there's no anger and there's no issues because when somebody is running my life I know it's a little bit hard to accept that somebody else Hashem has control over my life but whether you want to accept it or not that's the reality you can not accept it and try not to live with that thought but at the end of the day there's only one entity that decides what happens that's the Kosh so the earlier you develop a personal relationship with the master of the universe better and I can tell you it's might hard for you to understand I should have maybe come with a picture did you see how I looked because people see this and you're saying okay you know Rabbi it's easy for him to to keep the Tor and the mitv and he's in a completely different place 30 years ago I was worse than you 100 times in every aspect that you will put your finger on so I can tell you that years of me becoming closer to was not about going to Yeshiva and learning Torah and having a long beard and five years of my cha nothing changed externally my change was only inside not to lie Shem hates lies the entire Torah many many many prohibitions and many many warnings don't do this and don't kill and don't steal and there's one thing that the Torah says run away from it it doesn't say run away from idolatry it doesn't say run away from incest it says run away from any deception and lie see we have things completely the wrong way we think that being Orthodox and being close to Hashem I have to sit in a synagogue all day long you don't have to be in a synagogue all day long you come in the morning you pray and you come in the afternoon in the evening that's it but all day long you are required not to lie and not to cheat and not to slander so it took me 3 to 5 years to start changing myself from the inside just to be a nice person and be not to lie hasem hates liars and exaggerating by the way it's a lie if you want to take one thing out of this talk today cuz I told you you have to leave this door something if you sat here now for the last few minutes and then you go out of this door and nothing changed our sages say the reward that you get is nothing he didn't get anything that's your reward what's my reward air and like I told you smart people listen and they apply so why am I saying all this because God gives us jumping boards every now and then and what I talking about a jumping board is that like a trampoline you jump up and down two three times and it gives you the momentum and then you can jump real high these specific times one of them is likees hasem tells you this is like a trampoline make a few jumps and you can jump so high whatever you do on R KES I told you will affect the entire month so I like focusing now today on two things a how do I bring blessing into my life and B is how do I recognize that everything that I do and everything around me is all God everything is God around me and there's nothing but him when you switch this mind frame and God is the one who's running the world you know what's going to be the first result and God is going to show you how he's running the world and then you're going to start connecting all the dots understanding there's a Master to the universe that puts everything together and when I get something then I need to thank him 50 times a day you have money thank him 50 times a day thank you that I don't have to struggle with money you have health you thank him 50 times a day thank you that you gave me my health that I can breathe that I can walk that I have teeth that my joints are working you thank him 50 times a day not one time I I thank Hashem all the time I walk I tell them thank you thank you that I can walking I'm looking at people they're limping for many many years I had I didn't have teeth took me years and thousands to fix my mouth now every bite I give thank you that I have teeth you know what it is to chew without teeth so you have to understand a few basic basic things in the relationship between me and Hashem Hashem gives you so much you need to look constantly and understand that hm gives you all day long money to live off he gives you air to breathe food you have much more than what what you think we just tend to look at the things I don't have complain all day long instead of saying I have a wonderful husband I have parasa I have a beautiful home I I breathe I'm so blessed I live in the nicest place in the world that's what I think nicer than all these beautiful houses here in Beverly Hills I live on the top of the mountain of the holiest city in the world well second holiest city and my panoramic view is the mountains of Rish Shimon and the entire gal wake up in the morning it's like gedan and blessed us with a gorgeous gorgeous house my why am I telling you this now I came to the United States two months tour I was now a week in the east coast in New York now a week in Los Angeles from here I'm going to many other cities Phoenix Dallas Houston Denver Florida happens to be that now when I come I I have to stay in other in different places now when I travel by myself usually I get hosted people host me and then I get hosted in real nice houses so I don't complain now I'm here with my entire family nobody can host 9 people or at least want to so so we're staying somewhere and I'm not complaining this is not coming as a complain I want to make a point the place where we're staying is not so nice very rundown very dirty very old and everybody around is complaining and I said instead of complaining look what Hashem is doing you live in a beautiful home when was the last time you thanked Hashem for the beautiful home that you have when did you last thank AEM that your bed is comfortable and then you can afford a cleaning lady to clean your house cuz you're busy or whatever I told my my my family I also don't like the place where we're staying but I take it as a lesson appreciate what you have so one week out of your life you're going to sleep on not such a comfortable bed and one week of your life you're not going to be in your comfort where you like it instead of this taking you down this should take you up by thank thank you Hashem I can't believe how good you do in my life and it's not only with the physical I didn't seen my wife for two weeks now I miss her my wife doesn't understand why I go on tours all the time I tell her if I would be close to you all the time when will I miss you and when I don't miss you sorry that I'm saying that we start rubbing shoulders in a negative way let me go everyone every now and then I'll go on a tour two weeks you won't see me I won't see you you miss me I miss you I miss my wife how many men in their 50s can say I miss my wife most people say she can she go to another two [Laughter] weeks but life is much better than you think life is shining on you hasem is shining on you all day long you just by you sitting here Hashem is blessing you already my personal request is that you acknowledge that that that you see that God blesses you in everything don't look at the bad things and don't look at the things God takes from you when he takes something from you it's not good for you when Hashem moves a person away from you he did you a favor you think oh my God the business deal is not going down Hashem is saving you from a bigger headache now if you acknowledge it then you'll see how he saved you if you fight it it's not going to work and and then you go into some circle of of of of a dizziness in that specific thing the trick is that everything that happens in your life you stop you look up to Hashem and you say I understand it comes from Hashem let me see the blessing here I can guarantee to you that everything Hashem does to you is a blessing whenever Hashem stops you is to save you whenever directs you somewhere else is to better your life and I'm telling you put it to the test humble yourself let Hashem be the driver he will show you how he's running the show to a point that you'll be floored now once hasem shows you his greatness that's when you need to kick in with one thing gratitude in Hebrew we call it that I recognize the good that was done for me you need to practice it with other people that a person does something good to you you have to recognize it that person did something good to me they didn't have to once you start recognizing it with people then eventually you'll start recognizing it with God that God does good to you and then of course you have to apply so what I want you to do now before we leaving is I want you to internalize everything that we said now the problem with most people and again this is not Shalom to offend anyone most people when they walk out of a door of a tour class like that 20 minutes to 40 minutes all the excitement goes down whatever you got excited now or inspired give it 20 minutes to 40 minutes out the door all the excitement goes down you forget what I said you said oh yeah he talked nice but no action you might remember yeah yeah he was very inspiring everything that he said made sense I liked what he said and now I come and ask you so now what what do you do like I told you smart people listen and apply so we have an unbelievable opportunity today because Roes is a very supicious time it's a time that Hashem forgives our sins when we pray to him it's a time when hasm blesses us for the entire month in everything that we need and it's the time that I need to reflect and make myself a plan for the next month what am I doing in the next month next month I want to work on myself and I want to work on my impatience and I'm going to be in the next month much more patience to my kids and much more patient to my spouse and much more patient to people in the street and why not because anybody around me needs my patience I need to work on myself that's the difference we don't do things to other people because we say why why does that person deserves my kindness or my patience or my time but it's not about the person that what you're doing it do is what it's for yourself so we have a very very asici month and we have a very powerful day today where we can change a lot in our life I mean at the end of the day why did you come today you were invited to a t to read theim why did you come ask yourself why did you come you came to mingle with all your friends you came to have a nice breakfast you just went out of the house cuz you wanted to dress nice and clear your mind what did you come for so if you came for everything that I just said that's good but if you want to add on that and say I came because I sat here for half an hour I want to walk out of this door with something you know when they told me about this event yesterday can you come tomorrow morning and talk a little bit yeah I'm free what are the odds what are the odds that I'm going to be in Los Angeles Andes I'm free you're here you're special you know many people call me from all over the world can you come and give a lecture well I live here I can't go there and when somebody people invite me to like it's 3 months in advance and you got it they after the no preparation so what do you take from that you're special hasem wants you to hear what I have to say and he and hasem wants you to go one step higher he brings you the message that tells you what you need to do so now you have to be smart and say when I leave this room I want to change something in my life my recommendation to you A lot of people ask me like I told you for blessing give me for a blessing in parasa I need a blessing to marry my kids I need a schom bite I need this and I need this and I need this I understood a long time ago that God knows exactly what I need God has access to your bank accounts and he knows exactly how much money you have or how much money you don't have God has access to Social Security he knows if you're married if you're not married if you're divorce if you're with kids hasem knows everything about you you don't need to say I need this and I need this and I need this it's actually annoying to Hashem I have seven kids I know what they need they don't have to come and tell me I need this and I need that before they come I know what you need you need CL clothes you need school books you need toys you need a vacation I know what you need I also know what you don't need you don't need to be on the phone for 10 hours and you don't need to eat sugar all day long I know better than you so hasem knows better than you what you need so to ask from Hashem all day long what you need I'm telling you as a father it's annoying to hear it I know what you need Hashem is telling other words do something I don't need you to tell me what you need half your problems and half of what you're lacking that Hashem does that he wants to get your attention I learned a long time ago when you're missing something in your life it means you haven't given hasem enough attention and not that I figured some big secret says if you're lacking something in your life either you didn't pray for it or you didn't pray enough for it now praying it doesn't mean hash I need a car a I need a car H I need a car that's not praying that's annoying hasem praying is you pray toal him you pray shakar you say that's the prayers not Hashem I need Hashem I need so you pray for yourself and hasem will provide you what you need so but like I told you when I looking for blessing in my life cuz we all need a blessing in every little things that we do we need a blessing I don't ask ask for requests I come forward and do and the tip that I want to give you is that you want a blessing in your life then you have to say blessings you have to do the blessings of course you have to do much more but the minimum of the minimum I told you God gives you so much and if you need to leave with one thing out of this room I told you a few things but one I'm not asking you to leave from this room with 10 things one thing grab one once once I I I give a class I have a Learning Center in spat and I gave a class and I said in the class the following sometimes I teach for an hour and a half in the all hour and a half you have maybe 20 things that you can pick on but I said that usually most people one thing sticks to them from the half an hour class you're getting now 45 minutes each person here will hear something that I said along the way and that's what they wanted to hear or needed to hear and that's what they go out with as I said that there was a guy who kept walking in the back in out in the building out of the building in the building out of the building he came to me the next day and he said you know which part I heard I heard of your lecture that every person hears one thing and that's what he remembers and he's like that's what I remember you saying that everyone hears one thing and that's what they remember and you put it to the test in a half an hour we'll see how much you remember from what I said but I guarantee to you that each and every one of you we will remember one thing at least and that one thing is what needs to stay in your mind and that's one thing is what needs to go out of this door whether it's what I said to stop lying whether it's to work on your patience and your anger whether to work on yourself whether to pray more it doesn't matter yourish will pick something so I can tell you already when I want a blessing in my life I thank Hashem Hashem gives you so much you need to feel honored blessed and pampered by Hashem every day and when you start thanking him you'll see it will increase Hashem loves when you thank him and I relate with AEM I look at me as a mother for the last 20 years and I understand how hasem operates I don't need anything from my kids just appreciation when I do things for them I do it with all my heart I just want to hear a thank you and in many of the cases even a thank you I don't need to hear to see that the person appreciates what I did that's how hasem Works he wants your appreciation so one thing that you should do is to make sure in order to bring a blessing into your life that you also say a blessing and it doesn't doesn't take much sometimes you put something in your mouth all it takes is 5 Seconds it took me just to learn the Hebrew you write it down today you can find everything translated everything transliterated when I say blessings that's how I bring the blessings into my life if I want the then I have to say a the ultimate is that you pray three times a day and when you eat you say and many other things not so simple to all day long but the minimum of the minimum that's how I started by taking something small and saying the designated blessing and that's it and remember to say that because again when I say the blessing that's how I bring the blessing I'm not telling you now to go and turn the whole world around I'm telling you something that will take you 5 Seconds every time you want to do it and that's when you see the ultimate blessing is when you willing to give some of yourself more than that like I told you master of the universe is constantly around you making sure that everything in your life Works according to how he needs when you start recognizing the good that hasem does to you and when you start thanking him for that then you will see how Hashem controls your life and he everything that he does he does for the good call man everything that hasm does to you might seem to you like a disaster it's for the best thing possible and I see with my own eyes how hasem when he moves me from place to place I I don't try to argue too much with the changes I go with the flow and hasem tests me all day long I'll give you example one example many when I flew into the right now from New York we missed the flight I always miss flights I have Karma with traveling I don't even know what I did in the previous life I don't know what the t is I miss flights doors open Clos in my face every time this is like a normal if I don't miss the flight it's like what's going on so we missed this flight and that means okay flying in a different flight if we have a flight my luggage went on a different flight landed hours after me most people when some little thing like this happen oh they they they they completely lose their anger and oh my gosh and anger and depression and that's when Hashem telling you in other words I I run the world I decide on which flight you're going to be when you're going to land and how everything is going to happen now if you start struggling with it you become so upset so angry so impatient and then you let go at the person in the counter you know the when I came to the counter to change the ticket the person wasn't that courteous very easy to lose your temper on that person that's just I'm testing you I'm going to now push you into a situation let's see how you react are you going to react with anger are you going to react with impatient Shem tells you I made you miss the flight now sit down and relax and let me show you how I operate in the world and how I can do Miracles that you can't even imagine I learned on my flesh that when you give God the opportunity he will do Miracles that you can't even imagine go to my YouTube channel half my videos are Miracles that Hashem intervened and I was just like I cannot believe this this is only Hashem can do that I'll give you a quick quick story then we're going to end we're going to say and we'll have a wonderful event many many years ago I just want to share to sh share with you how Hashem can do things and when you put trust in Hashem how AEM operates a few years ago we bought a beautiful building inat to make a Torah Learning Center and that has a synagogue in there and a Learning Center for Women and for men and and a hostel and and rooms for people to rent when they come to visit at Israel and we brought bringing groups to Israel very amazing amazing Center and we feed tons of people we have shabat meals and unfortunately the community inad is very un very poor that's the other way there's no other way of saying it so we have a food bank there and Shabbat meals and a lot a lot of amazing amazing activities but that costs a lot of money a lot of money so a few years ago came the 15th of the month where all the payments go down credit card mortgage everything goes down and a huge amount had to be in the bank account and I'm looking at all the numbers I see money coming in in the future but right now the bank account doesn't have that money to cover all the payments that are about to go down being responsible I start okay let me see where I'm bringing the money what are we going to do and when I saw there's no other solution I go to the bank and I sit with the bank manager and I tell him okay here money's coming in in the near future I need to payments are coming and he's telling me no I'm not giving you nothing not even one shek and he tells me if you're not going to put cash in the account everything balances I'm not going to let any payment go that's like thousands and thousands of thousands of dollars worth of payments and how am I going to know what everything was going to bounce and needless to say that's a lot of pressure and I'm of course sitting in front of the bankman manager and you know how hard it is not to be upset at him and not to curse him he's the person that if he says yes my problem now is solved and he's telling me straight out I'm not helping you that in itself is a test not to curse him and not to get angry at him and for about two hours I I don't know what to do what am I going to do I you know even when I call people can you help till I transfer the money it has to be now and today and in C and doesn't matter who I called or what I tried nothing helped which I understood okay this is in the hands of hem I go to my porch I start praying when I by the way the story I'm telling you you can find the entire story on my uh YouTube on my website the title of the video is called how God can make money out of clear air so you'll hear the whole story but anyways I'm praying to Hashem I need a miracle and I'm pray pring and learning and doing everything that I need to do in my mind and and and the decisions that I'm taking I'm doing my spiritual work and then I left it off to that's it I did my part my wife walks in after a few hours into the house holding cash and I'm not exaggerating like this that's how thick it was and she waves and she tells me oh look somebody gave a big donation and I'm looking at the cat cash and I'm like where did you get this she was like well well I'm joking it's not a real it's not a donation but I picked it up for somebody and tell her how much money is here she tells me $28,000 and that's exactly the amount that I needed on the dollar and I'm like where did you get this money and she's like you're not going to believe our building was once a hotel cuz when we first initiated it the point of the building where we used to bring organized groups and they would stay in beautiful rooms and that how we would do the Seminary or whatever visit or and that's it was designed specifically for mature women that's how be started and that's we would get groups of 10 women 15 women they would come toat sit there for a week two weeks and have a whole program so uh one of the shabbatot the the building wasn't busy with the regular activities so we rent the rooms anyone wants to come so one guy was in a room and then he went to a different Hotel he calls my wife and he tells her I need you to do me a huge favor there's a city where I stayed over Shabbat when he calls her she's on the bus and my wife barely ever travels and she's exactly in the city where he needed her to be and she's like I'm here now and he says but I need you to go off and this and this stop the bus stops that's the bus stop my wife walks off the bus with my daughter and he tells her please go to that place I rented there an Airbnb and I left something there and my wife is going down the street and a dog runs out to to and attacks them and all sorts of things crazy crazy things she gets to the hotel she bribes the person to get into the room and that person left $28,000 in cash in a pillowcase who lives $28,000 in cash in a pillowcase and forget it K turns everything the whole world around the whole world is turning now I'm holding $28,000 in cash and that's what I need and I told him uh how do you want me to get you the money he's like no I'm sending a car now somebody will pick it up so I told him do you actually need the cash or you just need the money he asked me why am I asking and I told him the situation and he tells me listen and I'm an art dealer I now I need that $28,000 to buy a certain art that I bought if you want pay for that however you want keep the cash so I pay for the for his expense in my credit card so I have now another whole month to get the money and I walk in with a cash to the bank and I show like this to the bank manager and I put it on the table and I was like he couldn't believe it now one of the odds that on the day that I need $228,000 I'm not telling you $5 or $200 who can come with $228,000 and put it in cash on the table only God can do that what are the odds what are the chances that everything is in the same place same day God prepares everything for you to just make room for him to save the day you have to see the entire video online you will get so much out of it even now when I landed in New York just to show you how Hashem works I land in New York I rented a car I paid for it in advance I come to pick up the car forget about that I'm waiting there for 2 hours out of nowhere he tells me I need the credit card that was done the reservation with I said I don't have this credit card with me I have seven others no I need that one to make a long story he tells me in other words I can't rent you the car you're going to have to bring somebody else to do the rental I'm mean JFK now where am I going to find now a person I started calling a few people who I know live around JFK the third person that I call I tell him are you next to JFK by any chance you know what he answers me I'm in JFK I told him I need help he came there in 2 minutes solve the problem I told him look at that Hashem made made me so to say suffer for you to get the Mitzvah Hashem prepared that man in the airport already who took his in-laws who missed their flight or the flight was delayed Kos says I'm going to make your life difficult for her to get the Mitzvah now if you humble you let hem do his thing and that's how it works we don't understand how Hashem puts us in different places then so the bottom line is Hashem is running the show let him operate in your life and you'll see such a huge change in your life you're seeking for a blessing in your life then you need to do the blessing you need to bring it into your life nobody's going to do it to it for you and don't think that it has to do with how religious you are there's no such term even I'm more religious than you I made that mistake 20 plus years ago and I told my Rabbi who matched me and my wife I said to her to him I'm more religious than her that's what I told him o what my rab did to me how dare you say you're more religious than her wof in a whole hour I got a whole M how dare I say I'm more religious than her there's no such thing Kosh doesn't look in levels how religious you are and by the way Judaism is not a religion take this word out of the out of the vocabulary but why am I saying that that the when he sees that you appreciate when he sees that you let him operate in the world when Hashem sees that you invite him into the world that's when you're going to see the that's when hasem is going to intervene in your life and shine on your life problems will start dissolving challenges will be much easier to deal with and half the problems in your life will just disappear when you give Hashem the keys you do it you take care of it I'm going to take care of what I need to and you're going to take care of what you need to so now what is left is what you do with the information that you got today you can leave the door and we'll have a wonderful day and a beautiful month and life will be the exact same or that you leave through the door and you understand that God invited you today to this meeting cuz he could have been anywhere else I could have been anywhere else this is the Divine supervision of God now you have to decide what you do with that so you can leave the door inspired and the inspiration will go down and you can leave the door inspired and apply something like I told you smart people listen and they do so I highly recommend that you take this Holiness of the day day because it's a jumping board it's an asici time that what you want to do you don't need as much as effort as a regular day it's a day to reflect to repent to see what are the bad things in my life that I don't like in myself and to change it's all about how you change and how you work on yourself and when you change you change the world around you your family around you don't wait for people around you to change you change and you will see that it will affect you you want to blessing in your life be gr grateful to the kadh you want more blessing in your life then you have to say the blessings you have to initiate the blessing and if you take on yourself a good decision then with the Merit of will will help you he will make it successful and he will bless you so I want to take the opportunity to give you a blessing on this wonderful powerful day that first of all that Hashem should be revealed in your life that you should feel God in your life in your heart in your mind in your home that you have the ability to open your heart your mind your soul in your house to Hashem and with that I bless you that Hashem should always shine on you with great happiness with strong Health with true peace in your heart always to be truly happy always to be appreciative and may hasem bless you with by with great parasa everything that your heart desires hm should provide it to you in the best way possible and as a whole as a nation hasem should bless us to be finally redeemed and see Messiah coming and all of us go to Isel I want to thank you for inviting me and giving me the opportunity thank you so much again [Applause] [Music]