Tiferet of Yesod – “The beauty in the connection” | Counting the Omer - Rabbi Anava |#sefirathaomer

the count of this is the 38th day of the OM and I explained that the entire week of yod 38 yeah we're already 38 we're almost done so I explained that the entire week of yod is mainly concentrating on relationships and especially marriage I mentioned that we'll talk a lot about marriages but also relationship now if you're looking at the a man is allowed to sanctify a woman with anything that is valuable it doesn't have to be a ring can be anything that is what's called that has a value cuz when a man sanctifies a woman it has to there's three conditions how a man will marry a woman and one of them he has to give something that has value to it so the ring is representing the beauty in the marriage or the beauty in the in the relationship because the beauty in marriage is that there's Unity there's closeness there's the togetherness so the ring is coming to represent the beauty in the relationship and this is is the beauty and is the connection is the Covenant is the relationship so is the beautiful part that represents the unity now the the recommendation specifically in marriage is that the woman wears the ring all the time it's not good to put the ring away that's why in Judaism it's good to have a ring that you do the kushin later on you buy a nice diamond ring that's just a present but the actual sanctification the kushin has to be done on a on a simple ring to many people they buy gold based on cabala better to do silver but nevertheless or white gold but that the color itself will be silver not gold there's a lot of mystical reasons why but nevertheless best for the woman to constantly wear the ring on her not to show other men that she's taken just to R to constantly remind the beauty in the connection after 40 years of marriage you don't remember so much the beauty you remember in the first week or two and the weing I'm talking of course of a normal marriage not the you do remember after that's if it's a good marriage this if it's a good marriage then for sure remember but unfortunately most people they don't remember so much this is just to remind that there's Beauty in the relationship now another part for the beautiful ring is that you want the marriage the relationship to last last forever like a good solid piece of metal it lasts forever gold doesn't lose value silver doesn't lose value a cheap piece of plastic will lose value metal a good metal will stay forever that's why I want the relationship to stay forever