The month of Iyar - Kabbalah teaches how to build strong connections - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] we are today celebrating the first of the month ahead of the month of yahwah were similar in the first day of yahoo we're still in the lament the 30th day of the sun nevertheless it's still much kodesh rosh chodesh e al and tonight business ashram will be already a leafy al now usually once a month we have our class about the more mystical or cabbalistic approach to the month this is not the this is this is not this class there's other shame there will be on Tuesday that we learn more about the inner meaning REO then see if for a while more they boy not of Madoka show me you here now yeah usually we learn about the more mystical energy of the month now we're going to learn something else but specifically with the month of V Yahoo and more very connected to what we learned before yeah every month has a certain energy a very powerful energy that I need to know how to tune into Yahoo specifically has the power the energy of Kibo of connecting to things and not any material not every material can connect to things you want to take two pieces of paper and you want to glue them together and you need to put glue now put any other material between the papers put sand water ketchup whatever it is it's not gonna glue it only very few many types of materials will actually glue two pieces of paper and then you have two pieces of bricks or whatever it is but the power of connecting two things is a very unique power because it has to have a portion of both sides in order to to connect so in order for me to connect side a to side be the connecting power has to have some type of a common denominator that belongs to to both NER has the the power of connecting every month has a certain power and we just mentioned here in the class before how important it is to know how to connect if a person doesn't know how to connect then they'll never have a good marriage they'll never have a good relationship with their parents with their siblings with their friends with anybody around them now again there are always exceptions that there's gonna be maybe somebody on the other side it is not so healthy it could be a parent or a sibling and there's not gonna be a relationship there's always exceptions to the rules I'm saying in a in general person that doesn't know how to connect will never be able to have a good marriage constantly is gonna be backwards and forth and arguments and and it can be I'm just talking about marriages one example but it can be also with the kids or with business partners than anything we need to know how to to connect with anything and the power of connecting which is a very unique power that is very dominating in the month of year now anything that has to do with the teachings of Kabbalah is always corresponds to the Jew the letters the Hebrew letters Lashon kodesh a lot of the teachings of Kabbalah it's the the root of it and the explanation of it is based on the letters so we have one letter in the alphabet in the Jewish alphabet that is a connecting letter this called the letter is valved is called Vava Hebo the valve that connects the unity now we know based on the book of formation separate serie the first book of Kabbalah that the information was given to Adam or Ishaan who later on gave it over to his son shet who later on gave it to know who gave her to share and so forth till it reached Rama we know neva we know kind of organized the book and the book confirmations of a litera is attributed to Obama you know but this information came directly to toda marushin in this book very very small and thin book it says that every month was created with a certain letter because the letters are the power of creations of the tools of creation so that's when we learn in our monthly class every month we learn which letter creates which month and every month there's a star a planet that is connected to that month and there's a letter that creates the planet and so forth when it creates it's not only creating it's also sustaining and making it exist so the letter that is created the month of Els deliver valve and valve in the alphabet is called the vivace bow because we use that letter to connect two things together and for example where the first time we see in the Torah this vivace bow when Hashem created the world and then it says hashem i'm v8 Haaretz the heavens and the earth and we have the valve v8 Haaretz hashem took two completely separate entities you know we even have a saint in hebrew when you want to emphasize something that is so separated you say heaven and earth shall my violence this is a term that is used in friend action in practical hebrew when you want to emphasize and something is complete two opposites is a sham i valence can't compare so same thing here the collage babu took the heavens and the earth and then when it's saying the Shamim it's reflecting it's referring to the spiritual heavens and a Shem connected them together how with the letter valve at the shaman the earth harlots so this is the first time we've seen the Torah that house above connects two things together there terminabro about valve it says about valve that it's clue yeah true yeah mean is hanging because valve it looks like it's hanging like you take clothes and you put it on there on the well now you put everything in a dryer but in the olden days you put it on a rope so washing there yeah the line the wash line so love is like hanging there and so it says that love is like is hanging now another thing why valve is called clue yeah is because to a hook to put something or is also called a valve love Clea so in Hebrew sometimes explaining words are a little bit easier but we call valve of crew yeah and not only that I recalled the valve Aki boo to reality bull it has the the characteristic of hanging and also the characteristic of connecting through things together we also know when we see another time when the valve was connected now we just learned a few weeks ago for parashat about everything about the Mishkan and we learned that they had cern hooks that were connecting all the boards of the Mishkan it's called Vevey hammoudi me there was these pillars a modem that working that were like a structure and then there were certain hooks they got them all connected is called Vivino valve pavayne is plural so again we see how these vadim these hooks they connected all the barrier all the walls of the Mishkan together and every time they wanted to take it off they took out the hooks and then they were able to dismantle the whole thing now what i want to take from the power of al is we call it in hebrew he bullhorn the right connection the the metaphor or the parable to understand what it means a good connection if you're making a jigsaw puzzle you you you're not going by the picture because it's way too big you don't see the picture you're going by the shape of the pieces now sometimes the when the piece is the right piece then it fits perfectly but sometimes it's not so perfectly and you you you bang it in so that's what little kids do so sometimes there's a connection but it's not a good connection it's not going to be firm it's not going to be solid it's gonna be a little bit flimsy this is where you see a not good connection when a man and woman are trying to when they're dating wanna see if there is a good match so you quickly see there's not a good connection here there's maybe 50% common denominator but the rest is not so I want to know how to find the right connection good connections because before we were talking about how to make connections now I have to know what's a good connection and specifically the month of am the power of the entire month is revealing this power of how to find a good connection to an one thing and another thing now as we mentioned before the month was created with a letter valve we explained already couple times that only repeated too much what does the mean the month was created with the letter valve so the book of formation explains that every letter is like a house like a brick you put a lot of letters together it's like building a wall so if you put the brick in a certain order it will build a certain type of wall can be wide and long take the bricks riddle them on top of each other will be very tall take the letters put them in different orders then it Korea will create different words you can take now we just learned about last week about the affliction of Sirat of leprosy a neighborhood called nega nega is a negative affliction something that is dank negative but take the exact same letters switch the orders around it gives you a word in hebrew called Oneg or Negus pleasure so here we have something very positive and here we have something very negative all I did to switch the letters the order of the letters so connote the kailash babu takes these letters as tools as building blocks and he creates things with the letters like Lego well now as the little boys to love Lego I had a lot of pieces of Lego and I used to build anything anything you'll give me from Lego I would build it like you go to Legoland and you see this beautiful beautiful things Sawako sham sham gave me good talent that's what I liked when I was a little kid and it's a talent to take different shapes of cubes like Lego and to put put it together the same pieces one time it will be a car one time will be I don't know what a dog it's just throwing something but the point is to be able to take different Kaleem different vessels and switch the order and create something Hashem creates the world where Shane wanted to create the world he created the letters and it says with the letters I'll be able to create whatever I want so sometimes I like seeing the world like Lego that it's put together and different colors and if you want you take it apart and you can build whatever you want so these are the letters and this one means that the month was created with the letter everything has to have some type of a tool or a vessel that's how its created and explain that another time more deep now I don't want to stop - jessalyn what it means but the month was created with the letter valve and they something very unique about this month is what I mentioned before is it's the only one that we have one Mitzvah throughout the entire month and this is ferrata no that's not such a month even though a month of Tishrei is full of meteoroids probably one of the most full mitzvahs month of each word because their position on Yom Kippur when Sukkot in all the four species and and the month of Nisan is full of Meatwad but the man that we have is the only man that is one Mitzvah throughout the entire month because Fiat Romans considered one sphere that one Mitzvah so already we see that the that the the month has already a quality of a unity that it's taking all the days and making them one so to say one piece excuse me now the most important connection in the universe is between one man to another man this is the highlight and the most important thing in the eyes of a Shem Hashem says I will forgive you for all the sins you do in front of me but for you and another person there's nothing to do with me I will not even forgive you for that that's why before Yom Kippur we have 40 days from the beginning of Elul till young people exactly 40 days to start apologizing to everybody and making amends and and and making ends meet and she says don't come to me and show on Yom Kippur and ask for forgiveness if there's people out there that are upset at you so we have two ways how we conduct connections in this world one of them is between me and Shem so Ben Adama McComb and another one is between me and another person Ben Adama however I can tell you ready for my experience that Benna dominic ago between me and another person it's much more important to shim sham says I don't care what you do between you and me but between you or another person that I can't forgive I can't interfere even I'm not gonna even take even sides here the most important connection is between one person to another and again we see another great connection to the month of Iowa because the one who told us that is Rabi Akiva who says we have Tara hakama ha you should love a fellow person like yourself the clog and Alberto ah this is a major rule in the Torah and now we are commemorating the death of these 24,000 students so besides counting the omen part of the commemoration of the omen you see people don't shave the ones who don't have beards and we don't do weddings parties we don't listen to music the live bands and so forth and they I know a lot of people had questions but this week with other Shem will have a class about the music because there's a lot of things that people don't know there are a lot of people asking me what type of music can I listen can I listen to music when I'm working out can I listen to music here in there there's a lot of rules so we'll make a class so it will be clear because because certain things you're not allowed to and some of the things you're allowed to just need to know how and what and when but nevertheless we do take this period for 33 days till like vow mail to commemorate it to the death of the 24 thousands of lb Akira that why did they die because they didn't treat each other nice with all the Torah that they had with all the greats Torah and knowledge that they had they still didn't treat each other nice so biee Akiva who's the Rebbe says we're after a hakama has a cloud at all but alive you to love another person is a great rule in the top so the greatest the most important connection is between me and another person that's what kind of what we talked about it before but now we're going to more explain it now one thing that we do in the month of Siva oviya is we refining our middle Gnomeo but the way to do it is connecting all the media together in case you didn't notice when we count the mid out what do we do today with defero chip has to be different yesterday was mochi begorrah we're taking to my daughter and reconnecting them together technically one can say okay to ask i said i don't know what has it means but okay but to send to this this energy back I said I'm taking to me dots and I'm connecting them together again there is this whole idea of the connection now the idea of the counting of me of the RL is Takumi daughter nefesh is to refine and to rectify the mid out of my nefesh of myself specifically the part of the narration of the war and the neshamah wishes different levels of the soul now counting of the OMA even though it's a biblical mitzvah many that it was given to us in the Torah it's not something that our sages invented and/or brought down shouldn't use the word invented but rather this is a mitzvah from the Torah was felt Mme Maharaja Shabbat this is a commandment from the Torah but nevertheless the idea behind the spirit or meal is a very mystical idea very cabbalistic idea because that's we're getting involved in a to the spirit really the counting of the Oh male they started counting or melissa is a sacrifice that they used to offer the day after pizza and they had to count 49 days till the next sacrifice which was unsalvageable and since the mitzvah was so dear then they used to do the counting they didn't count as such a big wah 2,000 years ago just came a little bit later but nevertheless we see that even the connecting of the this Fiat oh man there is a connecting toward to the world's above because we relate to the world's above through the spirit that's the only way for us to relate to the world's above now if we know already to this float and that the world above is created governed and controlled through this revolt then obviously when it manifests its it it manifested into minor fish which means it the same way that is the order of civility in the world above there's also the order of the spirit in my name fish in my soul and we know that our nefesh nefesh is the lowest level of the soul from below to above we have nefesh neshama height leader these are the five levels of my soul then we explain so many times that that's even divided to 125 125 level because each one of them has five levels in it that has five levels in it five times five times five but nevertheless in the nefesh there are tens rewards we don't call it spheroid rather we call it cohort a nephesh and and this is a manifestation of the spirit in the world above so if this fill out in the world above meaning that within my spiritual existence there is also the same structure of this few month so if in the world above when I'm showing the world above and referring only to the world of what's allowed not to the other world so in the world about this the media the sphere of Crescent which means that I have rested in me and if there's a sphere of guha then I have one of the powers of my so it's also grew up now resin is the the character trait of giving of love spreading the love in the spiritual tense that's the power of giving but in my physical life if I have a powerful me - I said I'll be very charitable very kind very giving very helping and then of course same thing with all the MoDOT whether it's one to ferret or whatever it is without one the world above we have a new still student here so she already joined just a few times a couple of the classes so later on she's going to teach you a little bit about much about solutes so if in the world above there is the ISIS Fira the power of grúa of the name of judgments of severity there's also it would be manifested into my body that I can apply it of course everything can be applied in a positive or negative way but nevertheless hmm so nevertheless everything will manifest from the world above into toom to my existence now I need to know how to reveal the media within me and to find a common denominator with the rest of the videos this is why we count them adults in pairs like today the furniture back lesson tomorrow will be worshipping Shiva Shiva today is constant Roberta favorite tomorrow big washer but Affairs and so forth but I need to know how to find what's called calves Amida calves Amida we mentioned before that there are three sides this is cold it's a Kabbalistic term that is called three lines shallows calving gimel calving the right side the left side in the middle side I need to know to redefine which Meena is coming from which side it's coming from the right side coming from the left side coming from the middle side and then of course has to be a common denominator between the middles that's why every month you'll have every week you'll have the same to me dot but coming in a different order can be tested ribbit affiliate and before will be definitely be cleansing and later on normally that will be the same leader twice a hazard Shiva Crescent and that can be transformed to Varsha bagua so there's different ways how to wear it hold on careful with this there's no quick clasp the point is to recognize the line the curve of the media itself now each and every one of us has something that is equal there's no such a thing that a person is completely different than another person I can be eighty percent different from you ninety percent different from you but they'll still be ten percent two percent thirty percent that is perfectly aligned and equal and that we can recognize it in each other now if the ladies in the back if you don't mind maybe you can speak outside ladies in the back maybe you can speak outside the talking is very disturbing so there's a beautiful day there's nice chairs outside and so the points of creation is to transform the darkness into light and Obi Shimon bar Yohai was approached and was asked why was the world was created then we gave a very quick answer and he said the top hakusho holy nova is to transform the darkness into light the world was created in a certain way but right after the sin of Adam and hava would brought a lot of darkness into the world and our job is to take this darkness and to transform the darkness into light and specifically how do we do it by step doing the other side of holiness in coffee and sit Rafa when I said to do the other side of kedusha holiness then it transforms the darkness into light now again we mentioned before with the valve that the valve has a connection the valve is has the power of connecting the letter valve has another quality that is called Vava he poo that it transformed something ups up upside down and where do we see it again the first time in the Torah is that Valve was able to transform the off switch so to say between the past and the future and we find all the times in the Torah when the letter valve is used if you attend the prayers on Shabbat in the synagogue I'm sure you hear behind the curtain that when the person who's reading from the Torah makes a mistake says vine said of whoa whoa everybody start screaming oh so suddenly everybody's very accurate so that that's the funniest thing when it comes to praying learning nobody pays attention to how they pronounce the word but when that poor person is reading out of the Torah and he says by mistake Oh instead of e everybody suddenly is grammar teachers e so so but that's where we see how sometimes switching a little a little pronounce the agent makes a completely different way not only our order but a completely different meaning so where do we see the first time in the Torah the tip of switch between the past future that it says by Omaha Shem via he all vie hero and vaio Mel Hashem as he say he said and via hero it will be and then it says by a he o and there was light so this is where we see that the valve can switch and something that was in the past becomes the future or something from the future becomes the past and this is the power of love is taking two opposites and switching the order so to say now the main point what I want to take from that is I need to know how to reveal two ends in Hebrew the term to it is called stick to vote when two things are completely different and separate from each other and usually what's completely far away from each other and to know how to to turn them around that to make a connection because the points in this world is to know how to build this connection is to know how to take two things that are separate and put them together like a matchmaker and the power to do that first of all is in the month of ER that's where does the power is taking two things and making a connection but not only that gives you the power to reveal the common roots because we all have the same roots ultimately if you go all the way up we're all rooted in the same place but even when you don't go all the way to the essence of the root at some point we are rooted from the same place and we are connected so some people you will find a much more closer connection there's a very good chance that the the root we're sharing the same root that's why when you want to find your other half and everybody goes and say different prayers there's a common prayer that they that people say that you should find your other half mushara snitch motto from the root of the soul that you're sharing the same root because when they're the same root is a common denominator here everything has a common internal among common or nominator and everything has a certain that we're sharing together so practically saying we like taking everything that we learned practically is that in my life I'm surrounded with with relationships my parents my wife my husband I don't have a husband yet but but I'm fine with just a wife but I have a lot of a lot of relationships and if a relationship is not a good relationship then it can ruin your day or entire life I feel bad for people who have a very bad relationship in their marriage no they long this fighting and arguments and disagreements and sleeping in separate rooms and all there sometimes I hear what's going on between a husband and wife how can you live like that if I have a little bit of a disagreement with anybody my old days disgusting you know when you have a disagreement you carry this energy with you all day long and you start going in your mind you building in your mind I'm gonna see this and we're gonna see that and all day long you are occupied with this argument in this disagreement I don't know how people can live in a in a not in a harmony way that is considered some people that's all the relationship is like that all the relationships disagreements so obviously we are creatures that are depending on relationships if not the nation' will put us on deserted Islands it would make billions of islands and we would have the system that we just on islands and we wave to each other and we're on are on an island but ashame wants us to know how to bridge to each other so it puts us together in units families and groups congregations communities and in most congregations and communities is constantly fighting constantly arguments the point is that I need to know how to rise myself above my own limitations and how am i creating now these connections with everybody and the way to create the connection is we need this valve the valve is the power that connects and not only that is the power of transforming to opposites that are completely far away from each other and you put them together and the essence the power the route to the in the month of the app so the entire month my agenda my focus has to be on my refinement of my own characters and needless to say the entire energy of the month is to apply this healing the cloud the month of ER as a month of healing the way you write the yahoos Aleph ugh it's the acronym of a near shame or favor I am God your healer in a very powerful month to heal my own emotions to heal relationships to build relationships to connect relationships and it's an auspicious time every time in the year there's different times that are enthroned an auspicious time so practically saying I want to take all this information it's like okay what relationships in my life need a little bit of a healing maybe my wife maybe my parents maybe a cousin maybe a co-worker my boss whatever it is there's not such a thing that all your relationships are perfect and needless to say how do you approach that you have to refine your own we don't because it takes two to tango if there's a relationship is an issue I'm part of it maybe I'm impatient maybe I'm not sensitive to the other person's needs and so forth so the reason why I want to do it a so I will have a much better life healthier relationships by the default I'll become a much happier person much more positive person and needless to say when we apply that here in this world then when we have unity in the world below then we cause unity in the world above and there's at this unity when there's arguments and a macro quote the separation in this world below then there's a rocket in the world about so our entire agenda is just to create unity and to make peace and to make people come closer to each other so another shim this is what we need to emphasize and to focus on the whole month and to know that we have this extra power this specific month to work on that and needless to say that the only one that benefits from it the most is yourself so again only take the moment to wish you success and everything that you do successful outcome in your efforts and you have to remember that that's this is our goal to grow spiritually emotionally and physically and to bring love and unity into the world and now that is not seen acronym and needless to say that is another big component that Hastings the redemption resolution assured married to see very soon with her own eyes a beautiful successful restful healthy month [Music]