TBC - Day 20 - 'Inspire others...' - Rabbi Alon Anava | Atzmut.org

[Music] [Applause] [Music] so on our path to chuva i told you that we've been going through some of these classes lately about a different approach when we're looking in chuva and this is not negating or canceling or writing over other methods of chuva rather this is another approach of chuva as we called it a little bit out of the box and i took the word chuva we divided it into five letters and we went through all the letters how to approach it so now we're in the last letter letter hey so if you remember we went through this through the entire week and now we're going to repeat so we're not going to take over time but the last letter well first of all last class was the letter bit if you remember a bet of chuba and we we explain it as bahar to bahrain you have to choose life this is about your free choice now we're left with the letter hey and the letter a is corresponding to the verse that can be found in the book of chapter 19 verse 17 and the verse says this is again the the hay of the words of chuba you shall surely rebuke your fellow now when you're taking it on the surface you have the obligation it's actually a mitzvah to rebuke somebody that did a sin you see somebody sinning you are obligated to come to this person quietly in the beginning not to embarrass the person out loud quietly tell the person by the way what you did here is a sin you're not allowed to do that are you aware of that you can't embarrass a person in public and scream in front of everybody hey what are you doing quietly you go to the person says by the way what you're doing here is not allowed you have to rebuke a person this is on the surface and you have to do that no questions here there's no other way to approach it you have to rebuke people and a lot of people say listen i don't want to rebuke them because they're not going to accept it from me who cares if they're going to accept it or not you're still obligated now there are sensitive situations it's your child it's your mother it's your father it's your neighbor you don't feel so right to come and tell them but anyways this is not what we want to talk about today we want to talk about something completely different a person when it says we really want to focus on our chuva it's not only to rebuke other people that's very noble of you and very nice of you sometimes a person has to take responsibility of his surroundings and to to feel the the urge of responsibility and some people they they choose to ignore things in hebrew we call it rosh catan small head don't think out of the box you see something you ignore it has nothing to do with me this is not a good approach you have to think a little bit out of the box and to broaden your your horizon and to seek to initiate how can i affect another person now when i became observant all i wanted to do is to go and climb on some mountain with a goat and some lettuce in the ground and to isolate myself from the world i said that's the best way to do chuba i don't have to talk to anybody so there's not going to be a little genre i will be isolating the middle of nowhere so i'm not going to be able to look at things that are not appropriate and i'm going to be in my little corner with my goats and some potatoes and tomatoes and i'll don't chew my learn to all day long but that's not how hashem wants you to do chuba chem puts you a lot next to people so you can battle the shaunara and battle jealousy and anger and all this so i need to initiate how can i find a person to affect them in a positive way now how can you do that if you live on a mountain you can't you need to live next to people so when it says the literal text yeah you have to prove another person or rebuke them when they did something wrong and the story but we're taking it now to the next level what does it mean how can i make another person how can i influence how can i affect another person to benefit now if i'm seeing a person that is sitting all day long and doing nothing and i can find some type of a colorful way or an interest rate to pull him to learn some torah one hour a day whatever it is maybe pay him some money maybe bribe him with the good food maybe bribe him with beer i don't know what you know i used to i'm saying that seriously because i used to be invited when i lived in america to a group of people and this man on thursday night would bring all the kids of the community he would bring them beer and do a barbecue and that's how he got them all there and then i would talk there and you know inspire them so he pulled them with beer and meat but eventually they would sit and listen to what i have to say that's going out of your way to seek how can i affect another person for his his or her benefit so i need to ask myself i need to do what's called nephesh an account am i changing other people's life for the best now this is the question you need to ask yourself and then you of course have to come up with an answer and if the answer is no wrong answer you have to initiate how can i affect another person's life for the better causing them to come to the minion i'll pick you up what's wrong you don't have to come to the man i'll pick you up i'll send the taxi come and join us to the minion no i don't want to i'm tired i wake up late come and join us no that means to be such a heavy person how am i affecting another and i'm giving you one example and many you use your own your own uh imagination but the hay of the word how can i i don't want to use the word manipulate but how can i sophistically in a smart way cause another person to better his life and it's not only with toran mitzvot by the way you see a father that is very harsh on his kids or a man that is very not nice to his wife how can i soften him up so he will be a little bit nicer to his wife that she will have a little bit of a nicer life so you have to seek it don't wait for it to come to you you have to seek how can i make another person's life better you see a child that is neglected the parents are busy all day long how can i make this life of the child a little bit more interesting maybe once a week i'll take them and teach them something or whatever i'm just throwing out some examples i can give you now now 500 examples the bottom line is a huge part of my chuva is how do i go out of my comfort zone to make sure that your life is better you have to ask yourself how am i making another person's life better on a daily basis and as many people as possible why because i'm really giving over from my comfort zone my time my money my quality time with myself or with my kids to the benefit of another person and this is where you're taking your chuva to a completely different level [Music] you