Soul mates, Reincarnations children and family tree - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] so if a person's told that they're carrying many Nas on their back or something like that but it's not necessarily inside them like what does that mean or is there such a concept of caring other n on your back first of all the easiest way to explain it is a father and a mother they have eight kids they're carrying eight nishas on their back they're responsible for these nishas that's carrying them on my back I I'm carrying on me The Souls of my kids because what I do affect my kids right away when they're 30 40 that's still different thing till bar and Bar Mitzvah I'm 100% responsible for my the of my kids so we're making our lives harder basically excuse me we're making our lives harder your life harder every child you have what about making your life harder I wouldn't look at it as harder I I look at it as a huge Merit that hasem gave me a bunch of to take care of it's a huge Merit it's not harder but it's about being non selfish I mean cuz she that's for sure having a life doing anything she wanted probably and these children are or any children keep you you have to give up your life basically you think the person who has person who hasem has given more kids to has more issues of their own to work on no because your kids basically forget the best in you but it's to help you no you don't have more issues if you have more kids it doesn't work like that really you sometimes I would call you every day if I sometimes people have one kid that is than 10 kids right A lot of people say that you could have 10 good kids and a person has one kid who pulls out more energy why every family is there always like one like do you think every family is one that's just like like what are you doing where did you come from maybe I don't know I don't think it's I don't think it's a right analogy I know families that they have five of that one well the more you have and I know families that I don't know it's not I the thing is that there's no black and white and there's no rules here and a person doesn't mean that he has more issues cuz he has more kids and it doesn't mean that hm has more trust in you cuz you have more kids than another one doesn't that's not how it works there's a reason why you have eight kids and she has six kids and he has five kids there's a reason for that she chose the CH the kids choose the parents by the way not the parents choose the kids I've heard that they choose the family they come the soul that comes what do you mean they the worst mother ever no no the kids The Souls of the kids they choose the parents he chose her to be the mother to take care of him when he died we don't have those choices in this world we don't we we can't pick our parents we can't pick our in most cases no in most cases when the soul is about to come down to this world if the soul has enough enough merits then they ask the soul they tell the soul this is what you have to fix where do you want to get born you following wow if the soul in sh in the Bas has they're telling the soul you have to go back down to this Ro and you have to fix this this and this where do you want to get born so the the the soul has to fix the sin of sealing so it will ask to be born in a family with a lot of money that he doesn't going to have such a to steal and if the soul has to fix the the the sin of forbidden relations of arot he will ask put me in a very FR family that I'm not going to have to deal with boys girls sometimes the souls choose where they want to go and yeah and they choose the parents I tell my kids that but do do not all them but not all them someone told me thatas stay in family groups not always not always but but do they is there a reason why they would go out of their soul group some of the some of the I think this kind of answers your question sh that that one some of the they're probably coming from a different tree and it's where did you come from honest the bottom line nobody really knows we don't understand these are things that we really don't understand how it works in general we know that the only type of Nish that is stick to the same one constantly is the husband and wife it's not kids not parents there is a connection excuse me not Brothers no only husband and wife is the same and they always come back together again no only a husband and wife is one and they come back together what if someone young whate what is divorce and what the first one it's not about agreeing invent these things it says that I want to know it says that that a husband and wife are the same the same wow she was said what if they are divorced what if someone pass away early young then they be mared you come back with my kids ask like after REM married at 80 does she come back with the first guy the first guy the first guy listen there's many rules of all these exceptions the first guy but the the you divorce you don't like him why would you so might could very much be that it's not the right you know that 90% of the people who are married in our generation it's not the real other half that sounds so scary but that's the reality how how how do you know that how do you make it how do you for your own kids how do you make it in our generation and even in other Generations but our generation there's a lot of chaos and a lot of the couples are not the right couple because in our generation 100 years ago they would go on a sh and then get matched and get married are doing it right you're saying I didn't say that who's doing what right I'm just saying I'm just saying that in our Generations people Jews go on dates they date for 3 years I'm not talking about from people they date they live with each other for 5 years who says it's the right one half of the marriage is because it's convenient because she's beautiful he has money you know the family whatever who says it's the right it's not ask how do we know how do we help to plan the right one how do we find the right one for our well first of all and most important that when you live the path of the Tor then you have what's called say you have help from above and when you don't go in the path of the Torah you don't have this assistant assistance and a lot of the couples in Our Generations are not the right they're not the right they might live with each other can't maybe they can't even stand each other how do you you really know yeah you have to you have to to to go on the right path that you know that it's the other half now a lot of times yeah one loses one of the spouses lives it doesn't mean that the next one that comes is you know and knows the first one from being the right other half the other sometimes it's the second one sometimes you you come down here and you get married then you lose your other half the other half is somewhere else there's so many different variations and I'm not make making it up that you're saying agree not agree you know this is this is what of the the teachings of cabala teaches us the sources and cabala teaches us that the only two that are one that they keep coming back together and they're together later is only the husband and wife when it's the real it's not that you disconnected from The Souls of your parents and your and your kids or siblings ultimately we one big thing we're all United but in the place you have to understand that it also depends where we are holding because right now all the souls that are in gedan gedan is a waiting place it's a it's a it's a temporary place so one shama can be in this place in ganeden one is this place in ganeden why cuz this guy was doing a lot of Mitzvah and learning Torah and his son wasn't 100% so he's here here's here are there separate spiritually they're in different places but they're still connected [Music]