Rosh Chodesh Elul - Time to act & start your new path!! Rabbi Alon Anava (Monday's live lecture)

Hold [Music] the stove everybody. >> Oh, okay. But you don't understand English. >> It's very dark and very humid. >> So, I might have to start getting undressed very soon. Well, not all the way. I mean, just taking down the jackets and I don't have to be that official and I rather be less official and less sweat. So, you know what? I might even start like that with your permission. >> We're outdoors. I mean, the people online can't see, but we're in this beautiful microphone jacket. And this beautiful huge gazebo one stand there. >> Tough. But let's we'll soak in nature, right? The birds. >> It's not birds. It's crickets. Crickets. Okay, we're going to have a very short lecture. All right. >> I don't think this is enough water. >> If you see me fainting at some point, >> just uh you know some ice. >> I think this is enough water. >> I'm going to ask the people online because I see I hear an echo. Do you hear the sound? Good. >> Just some ice. Does it come? Maybe it's coming in a delay. That's maybe why >> the people online because I hear an echo. >> Okay, we'll start if you can from the people online just to give me some thumbs up. At least I know to start. Echo. Yeah, I hear the echo too. So, you hear me twice? >> Maybe Hashem made it in such a way there'll be echo. Did you hear it? You didn't get it the first time. I'll tell you another time. >> Echo. >> Yes. Echo. Okay. Echo. >> Yes, there's an echo. Okay, let's start. >> Make the echo stop. Then if not everybody, it's great to see you all. Thank you all for coming out in this heat where you can sit in the air conditioned room. The people hear echoes. So you know, you get a very big reward just for your efforts. I was now here Shabbat by friends in in Miami here in plantation. So the walk to the shul was a very short walk like 40 minutes something like that. Wasn't that bad. I'm used to walking 40 seconds to my sh. I go out of my house and I take one breath and I'm already in my sh here. It was 40 long breaths. So by the time that I came to the shul I was like I lost 30 lbs. I my I was very very pale. My tongue was out and they took like 15 minutes to to catch to go back to myself not to talk about the scent right now from the the great workout that I did. So I happened to run into another man in the shul right when I came in. I wanted to get myself something to drink and there was another man there. He saw me like all sweating like as if I ran now 50 miles. So and we started talking and I explained to him that that the Mishna says in chapter in the ethics of the father in the Mishnaote it says that when a person goes to the synagogue but doesn't do anything he still gets a reward for walking to the synagogue and when a person goes to the synagogue and prays so he gets the reward for walking and for the praying and if a person doesn't go to the synagogue and doesn't pray so he doesn't have reward for anything of course So first of all remember that Mishna about the reward you get for the work that you do for the effort. Uh not for nothing. That's what I'm starting the the class with. At the end we're going to uh close the circle and you will understand what I mean by the the work makes a big difference. But nevertheless, >> normally I don't have what's called the the reward of walking when I when I'm at home because I just roll out of bed and and I go into the synagogue. So there's no reward for walking. What I need to do is to go far away to a mikvah and then I'll have the walking all the way back. But nevertheless, so here at least I got this. Why am I telling you that? For two reasons. Hey, you have the reward for coming. And for the ones online, I hope you don't hear an echo, but you have the reward of tuning in and not watching some junk on Netflix tonight. And uh and really the the the reward is that you're hearing these words on time, but pay attention especially for the fact of the effort because tonight we're going to talk down to action. I don't like talking too much. erh in the air. I like uh very quickly performing acts that will take me to the next level and not to talk too much or think too much and plan too much. >> So yesterday we spoke about what one needs to do on yesterday. I hope that all of you did it and if you didn't then go watch the recording of the class. It's on YouTube and watch it very quickly because every day that passes, you're losing one more day into the opportunity and I highly recommend. I mean, I don't know how many people here or online actually did what we said yesterday, but uh with the amount of emails that poured in today, I can understand that many had a lot of questions. I understand that many took it to consideration. So the more the better but as I mentioned yesterday it's for your own benefit. If you didn't start then I'll instruct you tonight how to but yesterday we spoke about that you have to prepare your mindset for the change because to summarize yesterday's lecture so we can go into today's lecture. >> The last 11 months each and every one of you including myself had a lot of challenges this year. Challenges with making money, challenges with finding your other half, challenges with dealing with your spouse, challenges all over the place, relationships, uh your emotions, whatever it is, each one is going through whatever challenges and all day long that's what I deal with. Divorces and lawsuits and sicknesses and relationship as I mentioned yesterday is decided what's going to be your challenges for the for the next year. So the entire year you go through challenges. Half of them you're going to pass, half of them you won't pass. Most of them you don't pass. And you don't necessarily don't pass it because you failed the challenge because the the attitude while you were going through the challenge. If you were whining and crying and complaining while you were going through the challenge or you had strong amuna thanking Hashem for the difficulty, you understood Hashem's work behind the scenes. The attitude was pos positive. You didn't lose sleep over it. You passed the the at least the that part success because a lot of your challenges you're not destined to to pass. That's Hashem's way of causing you to want to become better. Somebody asked me over Shabbat, why why why Hashem does this entire system that we have to kind of like work hard and and have challenges and why why does Hashem want to have a and evil inclination and desires? Why couldn't he designed it in such a way that we just serve him out of love? The qu the answer is very simple. We did that before the world was created as souls. But at some point the souls came to the master of the universe and told him you know you do so much good with us. You give us so much. You bless us and you pour on us your godly light and we want to do something for you. We want to feel that we're also contributing that we're doing something. The calls this concept bread of shamefa like a poor person knocking on your door every day asking for some bread. So Hashem says no problem. I'll build you a a world that you actually earn your your reward. And what's this reward that we're focusing on? How close I am to God, not how many how much money I have. That's not a reward. The reward is how close I get to the master of the universe. That why do I want closeness? Because the closer I am, the more I'm exposed to his godly light. Very simple. So, Hashem created the world that we want to pursue and work hard for the results. It's all about how much work you put into the to the to the to your effort, how much effort you put in. The result is less important. And this is the key what you need to focus on because we're going to talk in the next 30 days about many many different ways how to apply what we spoke about yesterday. And I will repeat it. Don't worry if you didn't listen to yesterday or if you did and you need a reminder then tonight will remind you everything. But I want to first start by everybody acknowledging the fact that in the last year you had a lot of challenges. That's it. Say it however you want. We all had challenges. You need to ask yourself >> not only on a daily basis but now you need to ask yourself today, tomorrow, the next few days. >> How did I pass these challenges? If every challenge will give me a rating or a a mark, a grade, however you wherever you would call it, how much did I make from one to 100? In this challenge, I failed. I got 36 out of 100. In this challenge, I passed it by 56 and a quarter. and try to imagine the the list of your challenges because you can write down on a piece of paper all the challenges that you had this year. You write down I had a challenge and between these months I was sick and this month I went through that. You can kind of remember your big challenges, daily challenges that's not right now to focus on. And the reason why I'm constantly talking over the challenges because that's your daily er daily service to Hashem. Hashem wouldn't want you to work in that department. He wouldn't give you these challenges. If Hashem would want you just to serve him all day long jumping up and down from joy and you have billions of dollars and healthy and everything is good, then he would give that to you. >> So you already need to understand if Hashem would want me to be in that level, he would give it. Obviously, Hashem wants me to work hard and to yearn this spiritual level that I want to achieve. And when Hashem takes something for you, it's only for the fact for you because he wants you to want it and to ask for it and to pursue it and to do something. All my life I grew up with a father that when I was a kid, I resented him because everything that I wanted, he never gave me. His answer was very simple. Go and work. So, and I didn't like that because all my friends would get what they want when they asked from their father and I didn't get anything. I got go and work. So, when I was young, I resented that attitude. Now, when I look back, I praise my father and I thank him because he gave me the right morals that you don't depend on somebody to do something for you. You go and get it and you put a lot of effort. And you know, many of the times you're going to fail, but it's not about if I'm going to fail or if I'm going to succeed. It's about how much effort I'm going to put to get it. And I'm not talking right now some physical things that I'm trying to get. The effort counts, but the the result also counts here. We're talking about something completely different. We're talking about what one needs to do in the month of Aul in order to get to the level that you require to get to. Now it's very important that every person makes this uh separation in their mind between what they want that doesn't really contribute much to their life and what they need to receive in order to serve Hashem. And I don't ask for Hashem. I don't ask anything. Hashem knows what I want. And to be honest with you, I don't think he cares about what I want. >> So I stopped asking And you know what? I also found that he knows what's good for me >> and he knows what's best for me and when to give it to me and in what portion. >> So myself and you don't have to mimic me. Each person does whatever they want. I don't really pray for things that I need. I don't you won't find me like I need this or that. I pray the prayers that I need to pray and I pray for other people. That's it. You pray for your friend then your needs will be addressed before. So I pray for other people. It's a easier system and if you follow me well long enough then you know that on the right times I go to the right places and I pray and I pray for other people not for myself. >> So not that I'm telling everybody to do that every person can do whatever they want. I feel that I don't need to mention too much to Hashem what I need. And I stopped asking for stuff like that cuz I really didn't don't know what I need. >> I know that Hashem knows what I need in order for me to serve him in the best way possible. So let him give me what I need >> and whatever he does, I'm happy and I know that's what I need. If I think that I'm lacking something, that's my problem, not Hashem's problem. With that attitude, one needs to understand that my goal in life is not how much money I have or if I own a house and how beautiful my car is. That's definitely not what needs to interest me or definitely not what everybody around me thinks about me. >> What needs to be the focus in my mind all day long is two things. How am I being the best servant to God? And how am I fulfilling my purpose in this world? That's it. That's what you need to care about. That's what you need to be occupied every day. >> That's what I'm occupied with every day. I don't focus on certain things. And by the way, I'm as human as you and I have expenses of living and worries just as you. >> It's not that I'm some VIP like they told me when I drove in. Mike was like, "No, no, go and park over there." And then he looked in the car. Oh, no, no, you're a VIP. park inside just as you. >> So I am VIP when I'm coming into a lecture but not when it comes to paying the electricity bill. When I call the electricity company, they don't tell me, "Oh, you're a VIP. You don't have to pay your bill this month." So I also have to make money by the way >> and I have kids to support >> and many other responsibilities and expenses. So I'm not different than you. But I don't run after money. I do what I need to do. the basic part and that's it. And the rest I leave to to Hashem >> because that's not my problem. >> It's not my responsibility. Most people they're focusing on the wrong things. So that's the key for you to understand that I'm assuming that all of you here including the people online are tuned in because you are looking to uh upgrade your life. I don't know many people who come to a lecture or tune in or go to an advisor and say I want to ruin my life. How was the best day of doing it? Most people will go to their guru to their advisors to ever how can I make my life better? I want to be healthier. I want to be happier. I want to be more calm, more patient, less angry, more successful in life, more successful in business, more successful with performing my goals, health, whatever it is. >> So, I'm assuming all of you are here to figure out or to hear how can I better my life. So, the first key to understand here is bettering your life is not nor usually what you think you need. >> That's that's the first thing is to let go of your opinions. Oh, I need this and I need that. And I hear all sorts of weird I need. I needs. Two weeks ago, I did a Shabbaton for singles. Oh, I heard a lot of a lot of bad things, a lot of weird things. I need this and I need that. Some guys 52 years old, never got married. I need her to look like this. I need her to look like that. She has to be 32. Did you look in the mirror any time lately? Have you looked at the birth date on your driver's license? you're living in some la land like uh so that's a lot of this is one one category I'm not I'm talking about the some people living some dream lands that I need this and I need that if you want to upgrade your life it has nothing to do with your financial situation and it has nothing to do with what people around you think about you it has nothing to do with that you're you're bettering your Life >> is going after your purpose in life. So if you're not on that path then you are completely going in circles and that's why your life is dead ends and no success in everything. If this is the situation person needs to pursue what's my purpose in life what does God want me to do and the rest let him do. If Hashem wants me to have money he will give me money. He will bring to me the whatever opportunity. You don't have to push too much. That's what I tell people for the last 20 years. That's what I do. I don't go after things that I think I want because maybe that's not what Hashem wants. I cannot go wrong by pursuing Torah and mitzvot. Why? That's for sure Hashem wants. Can you go wrong with that? No. Now, needless to say that when you elevate yourself spiritually, eventually you get to a point that Hashem just talks to you very, very clearly and you know exactly what you need to do. >> But many people, they're not in that level. >> So now you have the opportunity because on Hashem comes down to the world in a new form that is less familiar to us, which I'm sure you heard the concept that is called the king is in the field. When I first understood this concept of the king is in the field then I thought okay I imagine uh president >> or somebody wants to be a president and before the presidential election goes to one day after another to do the visits wherever they go how they call that there's a name for that when the president goes every day how >> yeah partism campaign but there's a name for that >> canvasing >> canvasing thing. >> You're all right. But yeah, no, no, no. It's more like the campaign that you know what I'm talking about. It doesn't matter. But then that man, whether he's the president, the current president or the wannabe, >> he's the nicest person in the world, shakes his your hands and takes selfies and promises the world. So I thought that's the concept of the king is in the field that the king goes out of his chamber lowers his so to say level and he comes to the simple people to shake hands so we can see there's a real president that's a real king that's what I thought in the beginning and then I started searching more and more to try to understand this concept what does it mean the king is in the field how what he's more accessible to me so let's say it is what is it How how does it come about? >> How does it affect my life? >> If the king is now in the field and we have the concept that he's like doing his campaign, he's closer to us. He's more accessible. So one, how how is it changing my life in the last few years that you are all following this concept? How did it change your life? How did it affect you? >> Some of you are observant that year, some of you are observant from from birth. I it doesn't really matter at all of you at some point I'm assuming unless you're completely newbies but at some point you learned the concept that the king is in the field and Lul is a very aspicious man and okay how did it change your life >> it didn't assuming >> I'm assuming it didn't change your life but I I I think my assumption is pretty close to the reality because what do you do with this information okay so the king is in the field so every day what do I do or I'll ask you different. What did you do? So I I I wanted to know more clearly why are sages say that in the month of the king is in the field and you know what was one of the first questions that came up to my mind why is it a field mine on an orchard if it's some cabalistic concept isn't it better to be in an orchard of cabala is talking about the structure of the orchard and the secrets behind the orchard and why the king is not in the orchard. Couldn't find an answer for that. So, I went to my passion. Why isn't he in a vineyard? >> Why isn't the king in the vineyard? You know, >> good wine from Israel. >> Why isn't the king in the vineyard? >> Dafka in the field in a dirty place. Vineyard is more special. An orchard can be, you know, with good scent. The field, there's rats in the field. I don't know how many of you ever touched a field, but I grew up on a field. I mean, I grew up in in my in my many adventures. When I was 15, at some point, there wasn't even one institute in Israel that wanted to accept me as a student. So my father somehow found the last option where they can put me and it was some boarding school to all the misfits and uh and uh since neither one of us had the desire to learn. So we were all but it was like two three hours a day learning and the rest of the day you had jobs. So you had all sorts of jobs and I chose to be in the field. So for a whole year I was like a farmer which is great. I enjoyed it and I uh and I got great benefit from that. But nevertheless, I can tell you the field is not such a pleasant place. There's no shade to start with. In an orchard, there's shade. And in a field, you know, if the field is a normal field, there's insects, there's bugs, there's rats, there's snakes there. >> It's not that you're walking there and there's beautiful butterflies. It's not such a nice place. So, you know, when you're really digging into the concept, why do you bring him into into a field? Couldn't be the the the king is in the Hilton, >> why why couldn't they say, "Okay, the king I don't think it's even fits to the king to come to the to the field. Field is a disgusting dirty place." >> So, it bothered me many many years to I didn't understand why why why our sages teach us that the king is in the field in this month. Why this month? It's that's that's not important. I mean it's pretty obvious he's now in this month before Hashem is so merciful and so kind and so patient that he says the whole last year on Shana you promised the world >> and you are what you promised in Roshana it lasted three minutes and then on Yipur you promised more things and and throughout the year nemised you actually did uh every little challenge that I threw to you direct fection. You whined, cried, complained, and uh >> so I'm still going to give you another month of opportunity to get your act together. That's really what Hashem is telling you. I'm giving you a month to get your act together. The holy books explain that what you do in the month of ill you can so to say retroactively affect the entire year back, the whole month of but you have to put it your the best you have. Not like one day yes, one day no. And that's really the opportunity I spoke about yesterday. Take advantage of this 30 days because what you're going to do this 30 days retroactively will change what you did the entire past year. >> And the reason why you want to do that is very very simple. Each and every one of you has uh your desires, your requests, your goals, your your dreams, the things that you challenge with and you want those challenges to be removed. So basically in in simple words you all want next year to be blessed with a good sweet year. That's the bottom line and doesn't matter what's your needs right now. I don't know anybody who sits and says this year Hashem just disasters please right. So we all have the same common denominator. We all want to have a blessing next year. Each one for their reasons. Yesterday I said that your desires your prayers and your hopes should be hem shine for what he wants not what you need. Don't worry, Hashem knows what you need. He'll give it to you if it if it's needed. But the point is that we're all seeking to do something that by Shana hopefully I will be blessed with a good year and hopefully some things in my life will will be upgraded whether it's my parasa whether it's my my livelihood my my god-fearing my connection to hashem each one has their desires but since we all share the same ground then we need to work for 30 days till shah that's that's the purpose that's what we need to focus on >> anything that you want to change in your life right now. I told you yesterday to make a list if you did it. If you didn't, then make today the list of all the things that you are not so happy with with in your life. Now, don't write your mother-in-law. That doesn't change. That's not that's not your in your hands. Write things that you have control over. So, you know, don't write nonsense. My Mercedes is not beautiful enough. things that really bother you in your life. You know, it's hard for me to wake up in the morning. It's hard for me to to shut up when I get insulted. I'm very quick to anger. I'm very judgmental. I'm I'm impatient. Right? At least know your faults. >> I told you yesterday, dude, when you break the word tishua as an acronym, the vav of chuva is vidi. Confess. Be be true with yourself. Pour out your heart to Hashem and confess. I did this wrong. I this this wrong. What am I kidding? I told you yesterday. >> Soron >> in the month of Aul you have the opportunity to bring yourself to the level you need to come to by Roshana and that's really what we're focusing on. Now again going back to the concept of the king is in the field. I never understood why the sages explained that the king is in the field. Like I mentioned it's I think there's much better places to bring the king to. So I already not reject it but I didn't go by the concept that the Hashem is just more accessible to me. Okay. Okay. Let's not take it away from what it is. Hashem is more accessible which means in the month of it's much much easier to do what will what takes very very hard throughout the year. So if you're serious about making a change in your life in alul will be very very easy. That's the energy in the world. That's really the I would take it as the the literal level of that Hashem is you know like your buddy and he's closer to you and it's easier to slip in a note and where you will never be able to go and talk to the king. Now he comes and he shakes your hands and uh and uh you know you can give him a note with your request. You take a selfie. >> Not that I'm shalom comparing myself to anything. But for many many months I sit in my place in I teach for thousands of people like the people online right now and they only see me through a screen. So I'm just like another image on the screen. And then once a year I come to a certain city and people come and see me and they see the real thing. >> They want to have a selfie, just want to shake the hand or ask me a 4 and a half hour question. One of the one of the three. >> But uh I I I respect that. I I I in some way I like I like meeting my followers, my my students. But in the same respect, imagine now you're an avid follower and you watch the screen for a year after a year after a year and finally you get to see me face to face, shake my hand, you know, talk, get a blessing, whatever it is. So I the theat here is the same idea that something that usually is far away from you is much more accessible right now. If you have a question for me and you would send an email or an SMS or whatever, WhatsApp, Facebook, it doesn't matter, you're not going to get directly to me because you're one of 5,000. >> Yesterday we had a lecture the the day later thousands of messages. How do I do this? Where do I found that? What does the rabbi mean about this? So like you you send a message, you're not going to get me. until you get me, we'll go through a lot of tinsum, a lot of will be here and a descending chain like from the other way around. Now, not that I'm some big shot. It's just I'm busy and I can also answer a handful of people a day. I can't talk with 5,000 people every day and I definitely cannot answer 500 emails every day. So, that's the situation. So, you want to send a message through the system, you will have to wait. You will have to be patient. But now you're sitting here, you come up to me. I have a quick question and you get your question or whatever that is. So on the on the simple explanation of the that's kind of the concept. Yeah. Hem is much more accessible. You you can see it in a different form. You pray your prayers are stronger. You you you do some actions, they're they're more stronger. You you have much closeness to Hashem. So clarity comes to you on situations that you're not too sure what to do, how to do. >> So not to take away from the the fact, yeah, Hashem is more accessible. >> But that wasn't sufficient for me for many many years because I said that no, it has to be something much more to it with the concept that the king is in the field. So I came to the conclusion as follows. A field is a place of work >> in an orchard or in a forest or even in a vineyard. I go to do it bud in a vineyard. I go, of course, to check the the grapes and do whatever maintain maintenance for that. There's the workers that do that. But it's such a gorgeous place. And I'm talking right now my personal vineyard. It's such a peaceful place. Besides that during the war, I was 50 meters from Lebanon and they were shooting at us. But there wasn't wasn't that peaceful. But nevertheless, when they're not shooting at us, it's one of the most peaceful places. It's such >> amazing air. And I pray there and I do my Buddh there and and then I even have a swing there and because it's, you know, imagine Rabbi swinging. Yeah, the swing is not for me, but there's a swing there. But nevertheless, why am I saying that? It's a much more pleasant place to be in a vineyard or in a nice orchard. The field is not a nice place. A field, the meaning of a field is a place of work. You go to work. Like when the Torah wanted to paint for us as he said that he's ah he's like a a hunter is he's in the he's in the field. So the field the conclusion is is that it's a place of work but nevertheless it's a place where you plant things where you saw things >> have to now follow now the depth of why a field and the field is a place of hard work. It's not that you just go and throw a few uh seeds and you go. First you have to plow the land and you have to take care of the land and whatever you need to do. There's a lot of a lot of uh stages and then of course you need to to maintain it and so forth. Hard work. The field is a place of hard work >> but it has the ability of growth. And then of course >> it's one of the only places when that when you plant in if you put hard work will come growth from that >> but it depends on one thing. It depends on the blessings of Hashem. >> You can plow the ground, you can saw, you can do whatever you need to do for the land. But if Hashem didn't give his blessing, nothing will grow. You need to do the hard work. You need to put the effort and then you need to have the the faith and the belief that Hashem will give you your blessing that all your hard work will grow positive results. So it means that you need to do the initial work. You need to be in the field to show Hashem how you work. So when you thinking of the fact that Hashem is in the field for 30 days, he's not there to greet you or to give you a selfie or to shake your hand. He's here to see how you work. >> When he's sitting in his chamber, so to say, he doesn't see you. Of course, Hashem can see everything. Everything we're talking here is metaphorical. He's busy with these things. He doesn't look at you how you work. He just wants to see the bottom line. Now you have the opportunity to show the king how you work because like I told you in the beginning what matters is the effort and not the result and not your desire and not what you want. And you know that many times your desires are 100% for Hashem. I know many people who tell me I want to make so much money. I want to be a millionaire. Why? Because I want to give Daka. Yeah. Right. So, uh, but really I do know many people who really want to do good in the eyes of Hashem. I know men that really want to learn more Torah and and and broaden their horizon and the depth of their knowledge and they just can't because they're busy and occupied with their palm and they genuinely praying to Hashem, give me more time. I want to learn more Torah. That's really what one needs to pray for is good things for Hashem. But assuming that the mazal of this person is not to have time to learn Torah and assuming that that person realizes that that he needs to work 9 10 11 hours a day to support his family and traveling and and and going to work coming back to work and then the man comes to the conclusion I'm I'm not going to have time to learn but he wants to and whenever he does have time he puts the effort to that and whenever he does have free time he doesn't go to Facebook or nonsense like that or Netflix or going like this with his phone. He puts the five minutes of the learning. >> He didn't reach to the level that he wanted that was the will of Hashem. But the desire to want to know that he gr he gained he he he reached to that level just by wanting. I mean Ahmed says that if you have a desire to do something holy and Hashem doesn't want you to do it for whatever reason but you really wanted to do it and you have the desire Hashem will will fulfill your need like when you come to the heavens like as if you did it. >> Of course you want to do it yourself. But when you really want something, sometimes Hashem says, "It's not your time. I need you to focus on other things." So again to understand the concept with the field, the field is a place of work. You are meeting now Hashem. When Hashem is in the field, you're coming to a place of work. You're not coming to a place of a rendevu with Hashem. You're not having now a cup of coffee and a croissant. You came to work. That's the first thing you need to understand. And the field is a place where you work hard. And the concept of the working is that you have to plow, you have to plant, you have to saw. It's not just coming to get a tan. A lot of people come to the place they need to come to. They don't perform what they need to do. >> So you have to come to the place of the field. Your your hard work is not running after your money right now or your next whatever it is. It's running after how do I plan and plant the right seeds? Because if I want my next year to be blessed, >> which means that now I need to plant it >> when Hashem is in the field. >> Now I'm planting my hard work so I can saw it next year, >> the entire year. >> Now you can start understanding the concept of the the king is in the field. It's nothing to do with him taking selfies with you. It's you have to come now and step forward and say oh so now for the 30 days next 30 days I'm going to have to put a lot of hard work not what I did the last 11 months what did I put the last 11 months wasn't enough wasn't good wasn't even in the direction >> so the next 30 days I need to fulfill what I didn't do the last 11 months so I came to work hard and what do I need to to what's the hard work is I need to plant the right seeds needs that after with Hashem's blessing everything that I planted will grow what I need and why do I want to do it during because Hashem gives me points now in alul by my hard work not my the results you know that I once hired a worker he wasn't such a good worker his results were not that great but you know what I loved about him every day he showed up on time. >> He never took off. Once when he needed off, he told me in advance. One time he was late, he apologized 50 times, he showed up every day to the job on the dot. And I respected that because even though he wasn't the greatest worker, his abilities maybe wasn't that great, >> but the dedication to come, I'm I'm I'm showing up. That's it. Show up. that >> in the last whatever amount of alul that you celebrated you didn't show up guarantee >> because you didn't realize what it means that Hashem is in the field you thought it's just some okay she's more accessible Hashem is in the field >> like the boss like the foreman he's waiting to see who's coming to work >> of course your work of course is your spiritual change that you're going to have to focus on during like I told you yesterday, the prayers, the thanking, the everything that I said yesterday, I will recap it in a few minutes so it will be fresh. That's your work in this month hard. >> Whatever you didn't do this year, you're going to you're going to have to do in this month. And that's why I told you to make a whole list of the things you're not happy with because that's what you're going to need to work on. >> And not everything, by the way. If your list is very long, you're going to concentrate on one or two or three. You don't focus on too many things at the same time. make a whole list of the things you don't have. >> But now you need to understand, oh, I have 30 days not to rub shoulders with the king. That's not going to give me nothing. I didn't gain anything from this concept in the first 15 years of my cha when I went through the month of in the back of my mind, the king is in the field. What do I do with that? What does it mean? >> I didn't understand that the bottom line is is that I am now coming to work. This this is a month of work. >> Whatever you want to always take on yourself. A lot of people make a lot of resolutions and some of them last for a day, some of them for a week. Most people, the resolutions don't stick. Because you need to make a change, not a resolution. A resolution is nice. It's kind of like throwing a dart to the wall. Of course, it's going to hit. What's going to happen from that? I don't know. Did it hit the target? No. But it hit it. That's a resolution. You want something, you need to do a change. Nobody will do it for you. >> Nobody's working for you. Hashem didn't send any assistance. Whatever you need to change in your life, you need to do it. That's it. The advantage that you have on Alo is that Hashem is giving you much less pressure about you being late to work for the last 11 months. He's kind of, how do you say there's a nice way of saying it? giving you slack or whatever is giving you >> is giving you like ah okay okay okay let's see what you'll do this month and then I'll decide so once I understand that the field is a place of the hard work it's a place where I plan things that has the ability of growth now I'm going to ask you a questions how many times did you plan things metaphorically you put a lot of effort into a business you put a lot of effort into a relationship you put a lot of effort in fixing some relationship or whatever it is, you put it some effort and nothing came out of that. >> Can I fairly say that you all had it at least once in your life? >> Yeah. >> Whatever it is, >> was it the wrong thing that you were putting effort to >> you all nodding no, but maybe yes, maybe no. We don't know. >> But at least you put effort. The problem here is that where do you put your effort? How do you know I'm not putting effort in the wrong place? >> You know, many times couples come to me to to to consult, talk, they want some advice. Of course, the the idea, the concept and the the the the idea is never to go towards a separation. Always see what's not working. Let's fix it. But there are situation that it's pretty pretty obvious and uh stop with the effort. That's it. It's time to just let go. >> You need to know a when you're in a situation like that, how to let go and of course when but you need to know how to not to get to a situation like that that you're putting effort into something that nothing will come out of that. So right now you have 30 days and I'm sure you heard it one way or another. You need to know where you're putting your effort. That you're not going to put a lot of effort in the month of alul that doesn't go to the right place. >> Therefore, our sages come and tell you this month the king is in the field. That's where you go to. You go to the field. You go to a place of hard work, but you have to be very particular where you plant your seeds because you want them to grow. Now, let me ask you a question. And if you plant your seeds and you want asking Hashem for your business to make a lot of money because you are dying to buy this be beautiful BMW and go to this next vacation in the Bahamas or whatever, then that's not really what you need to ask Hashem for your partners. >> That's effort that will not necessarily be planted in the right place and you're not going to sew anything good from that. >> And that's an example withI finance. It can be in any other thing. You have to know and be very careful how and what you ask for. >> But what you need to focus on that your effort is going to be placed in a place of grow growth and the field is a place of growth. >> What do you take from that? That where you put your hard work from that you'll have growth. >> If I'm telling you you need to put your hard work and to focus on A, B, and C, that's where the growth is going to come from. And the blessing is going to come from Hashem for what he thinks that is good for you to get. Hashem wants you to have good. As long as you go in a good path, he will give it to you. You don't have to nag all day long and looking for all sorts of ways how to add another dollar to your account. And you want to find your husband or your wife. You don't have to all day long be on all the available websites and every available single event and and all day long uh do this and that and before you go on a date 5 hours in front of the mirror. You don't need all that. You need the basic and pursue with your precious time effort that will be placed in a place of growth that you'll receive your growth because eventually at the end of the day I know most people don't translate spiritual growth to really what they need people coming to me in a superficial way asking me for a blessing to get married a blessing to have health a blessing to have money a blessing to move to Israel a blessing to whatever Whatever it is, >> very few people come and tell me, I want a blessing that will be much easier for me to fight my evil inclination and I want a blessing that it will be much more successful the minutes that I have to learn Torah that it would resonate and I will benefit from that. >> This is where you put effort that will bring you growth. My understanding how Hashem works is that you you want this you you go there. >> But I already brought myself to a level many many years ago that I don't ask for what I don't have any desires or requests. I let Hashem bring me what I need. That's it. And I just know to surrender myself much more to Hashem that Hashem brings me much more than I need. And what he brings me that I need the best way. That's the attitude because I have a lot of things that I can complain on. I have a lot of things that I can put on a list of of a long list of complaints. My kid is like this and my wife is like that and my business is like this and but I choose to look at every step that Hashem puts in front of me as a huge blessing. That's it. Maybe I don't see the blessing right now, but it's a blessing. And when I put effort into whatever I believe will bring me growth, that's really what I get in a very indirect way. Exactly what I need. >> As it says in I never seen that Hashem just, you know, lets go and that his offsprings ever go after, let's say, Daka and money and bread it's talking about. So deep down inside you wish for yourself a big change in your life >> but unfortunately you might have the struggles to get to that place. I'm telling you that the loophole here is to not pursue the things per per se that you think are what you need is to pursue your spiritual connection to Hashem and pursue your spiritual growth that will bring you what you need. you have issues with your spouse, we have problems with don't just go to every available rabbi or every seminary or read every book. That's not necessarily going to bridge between you and your spouse. >> Bring yourself to a place of spiritual elevation. The disagreements or whatever doesn't work out will work out. >> Hashem brings to you these difficulties to wake you up where you need to put the right effort. So going back to what I said the field is a place of with the the potential of growth. You need to put the effort where will be growth not something where won't be growth where won't be growth in a place that is completely against Hashem. You go now and ganging against somebody with lon and slandering or whatever there's not going to be any growth there. And I'm saying that because in the last month and a half when I was traveling in the in the United States, Florida is my last stop. I started in New York all around that area and then traveled to the Midwest and then a little bit into the West. I've been in the last month and a half all over the United States. And the thing that I can conclude from the the month and a half is that everywhere that I go there's a lot a lot of a lot of baseless hate between congregations, between rabbis, between shs, between people, between groups. I see it in a very very strong way in ways that you can't even believe. the the the disagreements and the makot and the the the the it's unbelievable. It's actually unbel it's sad sad to see it because it's coming in most of the cases from observant people who you would expect have the god-fearing to let go to give in to step back to to move in a motion of peace and not in a motion of a disagreement so >> I I I had that last year and I got disappointed last year and I got disappointed again this year when I go to different communities and I see rabbis fighting he's coming to me why Why is he going to you? Why are you going to that? Oh, you going to that rabbi? You're not invited to my What kind of nonsense is that? And everybody's putting me in the middle. >> And unfortunately, I'm telling you, it was almost in every city that I went to. Horrible things. >> So, you are busy with something like that, that's not going to give you any growth in your life, any blessing in your life. And every person in their way has some type of a disagreement with somebody because they owe you the apology. But >> nobody's saying you need to be right. >> The fact you need to take that when you are in the field and when you work hard in the field but you work the right way, that's when you activate the blessing of Hashem. Like the worker that I had, he went he he came on time. He did what he was supposed to do. Again, like I told you, he wasn't the best quality worker, >> but he came on time. He already got a good a good mark. He was obedient. No, I'm saying I'm not saying it in a negative way. I'm saying in a very positive way. Didn't ask questions, didn't contradict, didn't argue. Yes, sir. No, sir, whatever. He did everything the right way. So, he gained his job even though he wasn't such a great worker because of these qualities. So you have to understand that when you work in the field the right way, that's when you're going to get Hashem's blessing. And it's not because Hashem doesn't want to give you the blessing. It's because you're not preparing the right vessels. And many of the times people have very big vessels. They have a lot a lot of desires, a lot of good ideas, but they don't have enough blessings to fill these vessels. And I know a lot of people who want to do a lot of acts of kindness. And they want to help and they want, they want, they want, they want, they want. They have this strong desire Which means spiritually their vessel is very very big but they don't have enough blessing to fill this vessel. So a they're not successful. B they feel their emptiness. >> When your vessel is big and there's not enough light to fill it in your the effect is is emptiness >> which will of course translate to loneliness, sadness and then will manifest to many other things. And sometimes you can have a family surrounding you with kids and parents and brothers and sisters and a community and you still feel by alone. It's not about how many people are around you. >> You can be surrounded with family and friends and people who love you >> but still you feel alone and you feel isolated or you feel >> not connected. Why? Not because you did anything or your family did something. is because you have big desires not directed to the right place. So your vessel is very big but you don't have enough blessing to fill this vessel then it's comes about as an empty vessel. So the effort that you need to put has to be in the right way >> and like I told you when I put an effort the right way hashem gives you the right blessing. That's the thing that's how you activate the the blessing. And when everything goes the right way when the field it gives its produce that's it very simple math >> but I have to understand that the when is the time to work in the field not throughout the year >> is in the when the king is in the field why is he in the field I don't ask any questions >> none of my business I didn't consult why he chose the field he's there I'm going that's it like somebody told me the other Hey, Rabbi was there. I'm going. I'm not asking questions. Live, not live, recorded. I can see him with my eyes. I'm coming. And again, not that I think that I'm some great big shot. I'm just giving you examples from real life. And I would do the exact same thing. An opportunity comes, a great rabbi will come to my town. You think I'm going to say, "I'm going to watch the video on YouTube. I want to see it face to face. I want to feel the energy. Maybe I'll get a blessing or a selfie. Maybe I'll be the lucky one who goes out to dinner with the rabbi after. I don't know. We lottery. We do a lottery. And if you win, you go out to the do coffee with me and get to ask me all your questions for four hours. But you have to pay for the coffee. >> Very few people get to do that. But wouldn't you want to go out to coffee with me? Yes, >> all your questions. >> So if tomorrow I'm available between 11 to 1, by the way, >> I like a puccino and very good cakes. >> But if I would give you now the opportunity, and again, it's again, I'm not trying to in any disgusting way think or or say in any way that I think that I'm that great. I'm trying to make an example. Wouldn't you want to spend some time with me tomorrow in a nice restaurant? See how I chew and how the food is on my beard? >> No, you wouldn't take me to a restaurant. We'll go to a cup of coffee. But nevertheless, the concept is it doesn't matter me or any other person, but somebody that you really look up to, you like, you admire, you you you're going to benefit from, you can get so much more. They're in town. You're not going to go and see that person. Most people will go on the live and like >> it's to drive 40 minutes. >> But nevertheless, now I'm telling you the king is in the field. Don't you want to go to the field and at least see the phenomena? Yes, you do. But you don't go to the field to take pictures. You go to the field, you pull your sleeves up and you're saying, I came here to work. So I have 30 days to work hard and if I put all my effort in a very positive way, then it will grow and it will bring me benefit to my life. It will take me to another level spiritually of course. >> And don't worry about your needs. I told you that many times and I will repeat as many as I need to. Hashem knows your status, your marital status. He knows how much money you don't have. He knows where you have aches and pains. He knows your wishes and your desires. He knows all that. You don't need to nag him all day long. >> I have seven kids. Amazing kids. I have the ten commandments of Abba. I'm Abba. Aba is dad. But there's the ten commandments of Abba. And it's kind of like the seven laws of Noah that it's really not seven laws. It's 70. So my ten commandments is more like 150 commandments. But the 10 big ones are, you know, you put yourself to death. You don't want to cross that line. So I'm a nice guy till the red line is crossed. And one of the rules in the Anava Bible is the more you ask, the less you get. >> Two weeks ago, I was in a Shabbaton and I used this example and there was a room filled with 200 people and all my kids were next to me because we had the meal. It was a Shabbaton. My wife is now on the trip with me. My kids are with me. So all my kids were sitting and I gave this exact example to the crowd and I said the more you ask and I went like this and all my kids together and it wasn't planned or anything the less you get. So because that was the rule. Don't ask. I know what you need. You once you said it once. That's all I need to hear it. I still have my faculties. I remember it. Didn't went out of my brain. The fact that you asked for something. I know you asked for whatever it was. I heard. I will decide when I'm going to give it to you, if I want to give it to you, and how I wanted to give it to you. And that's it. And that's exactly what Hashem says. You asked once, >> I heard. >> You hear the echo. I hear myself. >> I will decide when I'm going to give it to you. How I'm going to give it to you. That's it. That's how I deal with Hashem. >> I don't pull his shirt. I want ice cream. I want ice cream. Already. >> I know you want ice cream, but I told you the first time. I'm not giving it to you. Stop bothering me. Can you imagine how much you bother Hashem sometimes? >> Now, I'm not telling you not to pray. Mosher Raenu prayed 515 times till Hashem told him, "Stop. >> I don't want to give it to you." So, I focus on what Hashem wants me to do, where Hashem wants me to go. >> What are the things that I need to put my effort on? Because I know that when Hashem sees me coming to work on time and punching the clock and saying, "I'm here." Even if I didn't do the job right, even if I tried and I failed, but I showed up and every day I show up. Even if I'm not that great, but I show up. So, you have 30 days to show up. Can you imagine how it's going to look that one day you didn't show up? >> I failed, but I showed up. >> Now, I need to work >> only for Hashem. It's nothing for me. I need to work >> in the field when the king is in the field because I want him to see my efforts. >> I don't know about you, I know when Hashem is kind of acknowledging what I'm doing. >> And I don't know if it took 20 years to get to that point, but when I do something that is right, I feel the acknowledgement of Hashem. You're doing it. It's the right thing to do. >> And and uh don't ask me how I get this understanding. I just understand when I'm doing the right thing, I get my confirmation. I get my Hashem says, "I'm happy with you >> because you did the right decision." And many times in my life, and I'm I I can name now 20 just in the last year that I did a certain act or I made a decision not based on what I wanted, based on what I thought would be the right thing to do in the eyes of Hashem. And very quickly, I saw Hashem's acknowledgement. It it's the right way. It's the right decision. You gave me >> nat. So when I show up to the field, I show myself to Hashem in a different eyes. >> Imagine how Hashem is a CEO. And I'm now taking away for one second the abilities of Hashem because Hashem knows everything. He sees everything. He's everywhere. He doesn't need the example that I'm about to give. But let's say just for the sake of the example, you work for a very big company. You think the CEO knows you. You think the president of the company knows you. You're just another employee. But can you imagine that you can spend the weekend with the president of the company and you swinging yourself classy around him? You know, you don't come straight out and ask for that raise. You just, you know, make him laugh and you break the ice and you, you know, you compliment him right the just the right way. Not too much kissing of the toes. You know, you know, doing it like classic. Don't you think after that weekend you have already a little in with the CEO? >> Now, Hashem is not a CEO. But don't you think that it's the right thing to do to kind of show the boss how you work? >> And everything that I'm saying is metaphorical. Hashem knows what you're doing. But that's the idea. >> Don't think that you showing up to the field which you never even understood how to show up to the field or which field or where the field is. and everything that I'm saying. >> Now you understand that the field is your hard work. You are going to have to put in the next 30 days. >> And Hashem is going to come every day to see if you came up on time or if you were late or if you didn't show up or if you came even when you're sick. You know that worker that I had, he would show up sick and I would tell him, "Why are you coming sick? Just tell me you don't feel good." No, I come. He's like, "I'm not dead." That was his answer. I'm not dead. >> Okay, I'm lucky you're not dead. >> But he would show up. So you need to show up to the field >> and give it your best and give all your effort and try to gain all the points because Hashem is looking at you because he's in the field right now with you >> and he sees all your efforts. That's when you're doing your showcase. Not on Shah. You think that Shah Hashem has the time to look at your case right now. Rosh Shana is judgment day. He's sitting on his throne right now. He's looking now. He's already talking to the lawyers at this point. He's not talking to the defendant. 30 days you can talk to the judge and sweeten the the the the judgment just by showing character. >> You know in the last few months I've been I started sharing a little bit more private parts of my chuba story happened to me and I'm leaving tomorrow to Tampa have be two beautiful lectures in Tampa. One of them is my near-death experience and the second one is the story that I'm talking about. Some of you were there a few months ago. I spoke in case if you remember I don't think how how much of this lecture is online because it's more private >> but nevertheless the topic of the story is the miracle how hashem got me from a very difficult indictment I was facing 40 years in jail with a federal indictment 49 counts on a federal indictment >> and what shifted it besides the miraculous miracle how hashem walsted in and changed everything to show how he controls everything. But nevertheless, the so to say every miracle has to be dressed in nature. The nature how Hashem dressed it is the fact that was the character change that the judge was constantly congratulating by telling me I see you're a different man. I think you went I see you going on a different path. I I see you chose a path of of change. That was the the the sweetening of the judgment. >> So not that Hashem needs to come to the field to see your personality, but you have 30 days to show Hashem really what you're willing to give. You want something in life has to come with a sacrifice. >> You're not going to get nothing in life without a sacrifice. That's how it works. And if you get something in life and you didn't sacrifice something for it, that's >> whatever you got won't sustain long, won't remain or if it stays in your life, it's going not going to benefit you or not going to bring you any joy or any type of benefit. That's how the this world works. That's uh the twominut explanation of the entire concept that takes 70% of our Torah which is called sacrificing on the altar. 70% of the mitzvot in the Torah is about sacrifices and how and what and who five parot in the Torah just explaining everything in the in the in the Mishkan and all the khim and everything and everything in the Torah is around the sacrifices all the time sacrifices even before we got the Torah Noah goes out of the ark he builds altars au builds altars all the time we hear this concept of taking animals slaughtering them and putting them on an altar which a lot of people saying ah it's barbaric paganism whatever no you can't learn the Torah or practice the Torah in any other language but Hebrew sacrifice in Hebrew is kurban comes from the word from the root when I sacrifice something the result is that I become closer that's it who do I become closer to to my creator that's it Very simple. That should be the only goal in your life. How close you are to Hashem. >> Not how much money you make, no how you look, not anything in your life should bother you, but how close you are to God. >> And by the way, your closeness to God is not measured by how long your beard is or if you're walking with a suit or a hat. That's an exterior garment. Not saying anything other but that the exterior part makes >> an effort makes a difference >> but it's not the essence. I know people that the inside is way more pure and way higher level when their exterior is not that great and some people that the exterior looks very very pious and the inside is rotten like a I don't know you want to say what so don't judge a book by its cover but the reality is >> that the exterior does make a difference the interior also but you have to understand how to get what what you what you need and what you want. And that's really the concept. And I have to understand that when I'm working in the field, Hashem is looking at me. He's observing my efforts, my focus on my determination. Even when I fail, you know that half the challenges that you failed in, it's because Hashem wanted you to fail. >> Only to see how you wake up the next day. If you lose your temper, if you lose your patience, if you try again, if you give up, if you curse, if you use foul language, how do you react when you fail the challenge? Many people are not even in the level to understand that they are going through a challenge or a test. But assuming you are in that level, most of the times Hashem will make you fail your tests just to see how you react to, >> how you're dealing with the challenge. If you get angry, you get upset. If you accept that it's from Hashem, you say, "Thank you, Hashem, but genuinely or you whine and cry and complain." >> So, how I perform my behavior gets me a lot of credit points. What are these credit points? You can call it blessing. I will tell you the growth that comes from your hard work of planting in the month of you want a blessed year throughout the entire year. It's not what you pray on Sh. That's what you did the entire month of alul. >> If you put a little bit of effort on alul then that's how the blessing will come to you in the next year. That's it. It's very very simple. And again blessing is not how much money you have. Blessing is what how much you got of what you deserved and what you need to for your spiritual growth. And I find that the true blessing in your life is how your days pass. Are you happy? Are you fulfilled? Are you full of energy, hope >> or the complete opposite? >> That's should be your gauge. Where are you holding? >> If most of the days of the year you're unhappy, you feel a failure, you feel un unfulfilled, unwanted, un whatever it is, whatever you have to make the the the Wayne. >> Most of the days of the year unhappy. I feel successful when I wake up in the morning and I don't have a reason to smile and I smile and I'm happy inside. But real happy. The other day I was driving, my daughter was like, "Why are you smiling?" I was like, "I'm just happy. I just have a good feeling inside. I feel I'm on the on the I'm going on the right path." So why would I feel happy? >> Not tired, not deflated energy because I feel I'm going on the right path. So I feel true peace and true happiness. And it's not because I don't have challenges and I have tons of money falling on me. No, I have a lot of challenges. I just don't count the challenges. I, you know, the same way that you do like this on Instagram, I do like this to the challenges. I throw them off and I roll it over. That's what you need to do, by the way. I roll it over to Hashem. It's not my problem. >> You you you sink into the sinking mud of your own challenge because you think you can handle it. You can't, by the way, I roll it over straight to Hashem. And the way to do it is that I I deal with what what is my problem. My problem is getting up in the morning and going to pray. That's it. And following what the Torah says and being kind to other people and that's that's my problem. Not dealing with the tuitions or an angry principal or a lawsuit or a lawyer or whatever. That's not my problem. and following the >> one time many years ago I have a big organization that has a big budget to deal with many different things I don't I don't only teach online I have many other parts in my organization we have a big institution in fat food bank whatever say youth program it takes a lot of money one time many years ago and I have a video it online I was missing a lot of money for the budget to pay to pay stuff and my argument with Hashem was listen I'm not the treasurer of this organization I'm the rabbi of the organ organization. My job is to teach Torah, not to run after money. You want me to run after money, then I can't teach Torah. You solve this problem. It's not my problem to run after money. And sure enough, go see the video. The video title is, "Can Hashem make money from thin air?" Something like that. Watch this class. It will give you a lot of inspiration. Because I had I dealt with the biggest situation. I needed a lot of money. If I wouldn't have that money in the bank account, checks will bounce. situations would be wouldn't would be so good. And instead of whining and complaining and losing sleep over it and losing my anger and temper and screaming at every poor person around me and worrying and worrying, I did I took an hour to pray and then I rolled it over to Hashem and I said, "I got to prepare a Torah class right now. I don't have time to ask for money. You worry about it." And sure enough, an hour later, the money came. That's it. That's how it works. you roll over responsibilities that has nothing to do with you. >> So, going back to what we need to do because I see the time is not running out, but the time is running fast. >> I thought we're like talking like 15 minutes. I see it's already 74 minutes. >> This is the introduction. >> So, I'm the one who needs to do the work. The meeting with the king in the field is not some rendevu with the king to get a selfie. The meeting with God in the field is for me to work. If you don't understand that, then don't come to Shah with great expectations. And by the way, I hope you don't feel or think or take from my words that I'm threatening you that if you don't do what I'm telling you, Hashem won't bless you with a good year. That's not what I'm saying. By the way, I'm I'm not on the committee of the blessings. Hashem should bless you with everything that you need in an abundance. I'm just telling you how to receive that blessing because many of you don't go in the path that you are plowing the land the right way. You're not planting the right way. So, the blessing won't come as much as you want and as much as Hashem want because Hashem wants you to learn his lessons. So, you need to put the the effort. Hashem will do the rest and each one will gain the bra which where wherever they need it. >> I know a certain individual that's like many that can find their other half and while other people pray all day long and go 40 days fast and going to all the graves in the world and doing all these things. She's proactive in other things and not you know you know going directly to the problem. You know what I mean? Instead of dealing with the symptom, I'm not saying not to pray and not to do all these things, but you need to to understand if Hashem now is taking something away from me, it's for me to focus on something that I something else. If I'm single right now, it's because Hashem wants me to focus on something else than a husband. The time for the husband will come. Don't try to bring something faster than when it needs to come. And same thing with money. Sometimes you're like, "I need now I need thee." No, I need you right now to do chv. I need you to learn to I need you to work on your relationship. I need you to work on your mid. Don't worry, I'll give you the little that you need to survive. >> Same thing with money and it's in the right time you'll get your partner. >> So, I need to do the effort. Nobody else will do it for me. Nobody will come and spoon food you, feed you, however you say that. You need to do the effort. You need to understand that the king is in the field. You need to go to work now. >> You want the next year to be good, different, upgraded, then it's not going to come for free or by you coming on Shana dipping the apple in the honey and that's it. You you finish with what you need to do and you give $18 to your favorite organization and that's not how it works. You are required to give a lot a lot of effort. You have to first of all do the effort. the mammats, right? Whether you're successful or not, it doesn't matter. If your issue is waking up in the morning to go to the minan, even if you're late every day for the next 30 days, but you have the effort, you did the effort. You did the effort. Try not to be late. Go one hour earlier to sleep. >> But you have to put in the effort. That That's the first thing you need to do. I'll explain everything. By the way, you're not in the dark. I know we are in the dark, but you're not really in the dark. Ironically, we're sitting in the dark. But Hashem is telling you, you're not in the dark. There's a light above us. They will guide us. >> You need to focus first of all on the effort. That's your first point. The next thing you need to focus on is your will, your desire. I want to do this. You have to bring yourself to a point that you want to do something. Many things many things in my life I had to get rid of as bad habits, addictions to also to substance and many other things >> and before you get rid of something that is unwanted in your life you have to bring yourself to a point to want to get rid of it. If you don't want it won't work and many other things. >> Not too long ago I used to smoke for many many years and 22 years ago I quit smoking through hypnotism >> and 22 years I don't smoke. My sister is a very heavy smoker. I saw a group of hypnosis that came to close to where she lived. So I sent her a link here. book. I That's how I quit smoking. >> And she told me, "Thank you for the link, but really I don't want to quit. >> That's it. You don't want to quit. It's not going to work." >> And you know what? When I did the hypnosis to quit smoking, the the hypnotist, he started by saying, "If you don't really want to, it's not going to work. You have you want to want to to do >> to do the change or to gain whatever level you need to build this desire >> nobody will do it for you by the way you need to do it that's why we're talking here constantly sad field hard work >> I'm sorry I'm not a man of good news for you I'm a man of telling you you're you're going to need to work hard the next month if you want some big change in your life and not only that you need to understand that without any sacrifice, nothing will work in your life. >> And that's why I told you yesterday to write a list of things that you don't like in your life because it's going to be a sacrifice for you to get rid of it. You're going to have to sacrifice a few things in your life. You want something, you're going to have to give something. That's how it works. You're not going to just get get. That's not how it works in the world. And if you feel that you're getting getting getting something's rotten in the system, be very careful because it might >> explode in your face at some point. The system how it works, you want something, you give something. >> You want next year to be blessed with whatever you need. You want to find your husband, you need money, you need peace in your heart, you need peace in your mind, you need peace in your house. Every person needs certain things to bring them to a place that they're much more calm, much more happier, much more productive. much more focused on what they need to do. They're not falling into depression, sadness, confusion. I mean, if you're on that side, you got to get out of that. And if you're not, then you need to strengthen your path. But anyways, we're all talking about the same thing. So, you need now to prepare the ground before Shah. And by the way, everything that I'm telling you now is not from a book. I didn't read a book. It's 22 years of doing cha. and I apply my systems that I come up with and I see what works for me. >> Whatever works, then I come and give it over to you free. >> It's not even the better the beta part. It's the 2.0 you're getting. It's not like the beta version. So I can tell you from uh looking back 22 years I test all the time >> what works what doesn't work that's it very simple and I can tell you already I shared that story yesterday in the yesterday's lecture I'm not going to repeat the whole story but nevertheless when you don't prepare yourself the right way on on onul doesn't matter what you're going to do you're not going to come the right way to sh and if you need to if you didn't hear yesterday's lecture go here yesterday's lecture just the beginning I know it's two hours just the beginning when I'm sharing the story about Oman where I understood clearly how I didn't put the right effort throughout and sh was not as pleasant and you know what you can buy your world in one second the Talmud says you can do chuva in one second and it's such deep chuva that years of work won't be equivalent to that but not everybody's on that level. Nobody not everybody has the merit to do such level cha you can come to Shana and really do serious change and affect the heavens in such a way that you will get the blessing like as if you did hard work on alul but that's usually not the case usually the effect of alul will carry out throughout the year and from my record every time that I saw when alul was good the following year was good s and and successful Whenever Alul was like like that then the following year wasn't that great. And I measure my success not by how much money I made that year. I measure my success by first of all how did I pass and deal with the challenges that I had throughout the year. That's my first mark of success. Did I deal with the challenges the right way? Was I successful? What is my average in the entire year? And then I measure my success if I was able to fulfill goals, desires, whatever that I put in my path. Was I was ever able to succeed in that? I set myself a goal or I set myself a certain path that I want to walk. Was I successful? >> That's how I measure my success. And then I look, of course, back in my spiritual level, I want to see if I grew. And if I grew that year, I feel that year was successful. And if I don't feel that I grew too much, then the year wasn't that successful. >> And again, money is at the end for me. How much money I made that year, if I was I had financial struggles or not. Everybody has financial struggles. >> You you already have to understand that. And the more money you make, the more struggles you have because the car is more expensive to maintain and many other things. So don't put that in front of your your vision. How much money you make, how you making money. you go do your job and that's it or run your business the right way and that's it. >> So the keys you need to focus on in your uh work your labor in the field is the effort. Don't focus on the result right now is how much effort you're putting and you need to set it up. I mean you need to do everything tonight already that you need to do it already yesterday. Now I'm telling you what you need to do effort. And the next thing is is what is my will? >> I'm doing it. And you have to this will will take a lot of convincing. And your desire is to do something. You're doing it for Hashem. You're not saying Hashem, I'm being a good Jew now or a good Jewette or a good Noahite or whatever you are because I want to get A, B, and C. Doing it, Hashem, because that's what you want me to do. And I didn't fulfill your desire and wish the last 30 years. You do everything for Hashem without conditions. I'm doing this because I want that. You're doing in the back of your mind. You can understand that if you do good in the eyes of Hashem, he will probably grant you what you need. >> And in many of the cases is what you want too. Hopefully throughout the month of Aul you can also reach to a level we'll address that topic also is how to get get to a point that you walking towards what is good for you and not and recognizing where something is not so good for you. You can pray for money at some point in your life and Hashem says no right now money is not good for you. You're going to need to wait 10 years till I give you money. And there's good reasons for that. Why? Because right now I need you to focus on your relationship with your wife. You'll have a lot of money. You'll be busy with all your little toys or whatever. I'm just throwing you an example. It's everything has its time. And when you try some to bring something premature, you'll you'll suffer tremendously from that. So don't pray for things that you think that you need. Pray and work towards the thing that you feel that is right for you and is good for you and what Hashem wants to do. and Hashem will fulfill the voids. Don't worry. Leave leave that to Hashem. But you need to focus on your effort. You need to have the right desire. I want to do it. I want to that I cannot do for you. You're going to have to work on yourself. That's why I told you yesterday to write down a list. And many people didn't understand why to write down because every day you're going to read this list. That's what I'm going to tell you to do is to read every day the list. Now, if it's in your mind, what are you going to read? What what are you going to go back to? You think you're going to think today and tomorrow and the next day the same thing? No. >> So now you want to make yourself a list. And by the way, you can add to that list as the day go. But the trick here is to now read that list every day that you bring yourself to a place that you want to do the change. You know how I stopped all the bad habits that I had is I brought myself to a point that I wanted to get rid of it. >> And I'll give you a few examples. How I used to speak prior to me changing my way was not a nice way. Every word that came out of my word, my mouth was some some curse or some derogatory or word or some foul language. >> And I'm not going to even say which know the a word, the b word, all the letters. Okay? Every sentence would have 50% curses. And every encounter that I would talk to people would always be in a some derogatory way. Pass me the soul, you stupid whatever. Oh, you fat. >> Sorry that I'm saying like that. I want you to understand my how I spoke was not a nice way. >> With no respect to other people, with no respect to whatever >> that was the first thing that bothered me when I became observant, how I spoke. So I had to go now on on a speaking diet and I had to bring myself to a point >> that I dislike how I talk. So you know what I did? I recorded myself talking. >> Now today it's easy. You have an iPhone. 20 years ago I had to buy that they had like these little tape recorders. You know that I still have some of them that do with the little the mini tapes. You know, all the old people in the crowd are like, "Oh, yeah. Yeah." The young ones are like, "What? What? What mini?" So, once we had these tapes and uh the big ones was videos, if you remember, the small ones was tape cassettes. And then you had like these little ones like in the answering machines. >> Everybody's very young here. Everybody's like answering machine. Is that like a service that answers your calls? No. was a box that you would run to when you go the same way that you run to your stupid phone to look at the all your messages. We used to run to the answering machine when we came home before the bathroom, by the way. And if the answering machine would blink, then you see nine messages and then call the ID call came. Remember when we first time when we would see who's calling us, you start were able to to to screen calls. >> Caller ID. Yeah. >> I don't even know how I got to the phone right now. What was I talking about? >> Recording your language. Thank you. Some people are listening. >> So, how would I hear how I talk? I would record myself. I had this little tape recorder that like executives used to be like, "Susie, order for me." Uh, so I used to pretend I'm some executive and I had this recorder and I would just let it play, let it record. And then I would play it and I would hear how I sound to a point that I was like I was disgusted with how I talk. >> I'm just telling you one way how I would bring that about. But you need to want to get rid of what you dislike in your life. >> And that's part of the big change and the effort that you need to focus on. It doesn't mean you're going to be successful. >> If you wrote some stuff on your list and some of them will require a lot of hard work. It doesn't mean you're going to get rid of it in two days. You might have to work two, three months or maybe a year to get some unwanted thing in your life. I hope that on your list it's very very important things and things that make sense, not some nonsense that you want to get rid of. But the reason I told you yesterday to write a list that you can read it every day because you need the desire to to the change. You need to understand that I need to change some stuff in my life. The reason I told you >> and of course you have to understand that it will have to come with a lot of giving in. You got to have to give some sacrifices. That's how things work in in life. Without a sacrifice, nothing's going to happen. >> But when I do all this, that's when Hashem will give me my blessing. >> Not because I pray and cry my eyes out or that I donate a lot of money or whatever you think is going to change the situation. And I know the people towards the end of ul donate a lot of money. >> Somebody donated to my organization a very large amount on ul. We were shocked. Never such a donation came into to my organization. >> And a few months later he writes us an email that he did some tax calculation wrong and he needs the money back. >> So we told him, yeah, money spent. What do you think that we're we're investing it in the stocks? Money is spent. You give money. I I buy food now to to people. And later on as we spoke cuz he asked to speak to me. I told him, "Why did you donate the money?" Because you wanted to feed poor people. You wanted tour to be spread around the world? Did you want to help widows pay their bills? What? Why did you donate the money? Or did you donate the money because you wanted to find favor in the eyes of Hashem before Shana and you thought you're going to convince him by giving him a lot of money to charity that he will score points. >> So he was honest enough to say yeah option B. So I said and that's why now you need the money. That's it. You thought you're going to get a blessing by giving a lot of donation. He came and told me listen I'm in trouble. I need the money. Says I said well first of all the money is you can say goodbye to the money. The money is already in the toilet. Sorry that I'm saying that. We give them money for food. It get digested. Okay. What will remain is a very satisfied individual and birkaton. That's what you gain. But other than that, you can go to the sewage. I don't know what you're going to find over there. But say thank you. You fed a lot of hungry people. That's it. But if you have an ulia motive and you gave that money, you're thinking you can convince Hashem, you're not going to get nothing. Hashem is going to prove it to you that you're going to now going to lack money. So you have to be very careful with how and what you do. But when you do it the right way, which means that it's genuine and you're true to yourself and you really want to get rid of bad things. And that's why I told you be very particular with this list. And the bad things you want to get rid of is very particular things that has to do with your spiritual growth. And you need to be very humble when you're preparing that list. And if you raise your voice too much at your spouse or your kids or your employees or whatever, then write down in the list, I need I need to control my anger. I need to put my anger under control. That's something I want to get rid of. I'm very judgmental. I want to be much less judgmental. How can I become uh uh judging people in a more positive way? You have to be humble here. Listen, I can give you all the tools how to do it and that's it. You need to do it. It's not going to work another way. You have to bring yourself to a place of humility. I told you yesterday that ones you have a discount in the month of Aul. It's easier to do that to bring yourself to a place by saying listen who am I kidding? >> I'm not good here and I'm not good here. If I go now to most people and I'll tell them a husband or wife doesn't matter. Do you think you are a good husband? Yeah. She should thank me every day. But the fact is you're not such a good husband >> because you're not so patient. You're not considerate. You don't spoil her. You don't treat her nice. And in your eyes, you think you're a great husband. So of course, if I would ask you if you are a good husband, a good wife, a good father, you're doing this, like this, you're doing, of course, you would give yourself the best grade. Of course, I'm the best. You're going to have to take that uh that cape of arrogance off for two minutes >> and to understand that let me look at myself with true eyes with eyes of truth and I told you that in many many of my classes throughout the year I had many I have many different mantras in my mind when I need to do some type of change in my life my own brainwashing and one of my mantras when it comes to stuff like that when it comes to a place that I need to bring myself to a place of humility to see the true true face of myself. Then my mantra, my my voice in my mind tells me, "Who are you kidding? >> Who are you kidding? >> You think you're such a great father? Who are you kidding? Look how you lashed out at your child yesterday cuz he spilled a cup of water and he got your pants wet like you screamed at him like as if I don't know what." And I'm just giving you one example, not that I scream at my kids. I'm just giving you examples. And I would say to myself and Silda, who are you kidding? >> You pretend you're such a a great A, B, or C, look at yourself with the right eyes. And I'm telling you, it's the most healthiest way to look at yourself. I don't tap myself on my back too much. I give the credit when it's due. >> Same with my rabbi. Never gives me a good word. >> At the beginning, I was discouraged, but now I'm like, "Okay, I understand. He's not he's not that's not his job to tell me he's doing so good. loves you. His job is to tell me you can do much better. That's it. >> I don't need a a rabbi who tells me that I'm doing great. I need a rabbi who tells me, >> you know, yeah, I'm a little bit disappointed. >> That's what I need to hear. And you, too, by the way, you don't need a personal trainer that tells you how great you are. >> You need a personal trainer that tells you move that to you wanted to burn that fat. Get him again on the tread treadmill and start running. Subwini, by the way. >> That's it. That's what you need to seek in a in a in a I'll call it a personal trainer, but I don't I'm not expecting compliments from my rabbi to tell me that I'm doing great. I need to hear where I'm doing bad. >> Every person needs compliments in a certain level, but the right way is don't seek for compliments. Just do what you need to do. >> Impress Hashem. Don't try to impress people around you. Compliments are important. It's good to give and to share. >> But I kind of like hearing from people around me where I don't do well. >> Needless to say, it's a higher level not to get upset at your wife or your kids or somebody who comes and tells you where you fail. Most people, they get upset when you do that. I told you once I had an employee who came and told me something bad that I did. uh not like shalom something mean or evil something that I did that wasn't 100% appropriate wasn't such a good thing and this individual comes and tells me that which of course when the individual told me that bad thing that I did luckily for me I had some type of resistance and I kept a serious face and respectfully said thank you for bringing this to my attention I appreciate that you have the courage to come and tell me that and I was very kind on the outside, >> but inside. >> Oh, >> what a volcano. Fire inside. I I feel the bubbling of the volcano. I feel it in my brain. Like steam coming out of my nose. She she she didn't see it, but steam was coming out of my nose, my ears, my eyes, and in my thoughts are like, "How dare she tell me that? Who does she think she is to tell me? >> But luckily, I had a little bit of self-control to smile and patiently say, "Thank you. I appreciate it." >> And without punching her in her face, I left. And then I sat in my office for about two hours, so angry that I couldn't even function. My mind is I couldn't talk, I couldn't think, I couldn't do nothing. I was angry. I was upset. But it took me about two hours to bring myself to a place of relax. First of all, relax. Okay. >> First relax. It's kind of like a Moroccan cookbook. You know how a Moroccan cookbook starts. First relax and put the knife down. For the ones of you who don't know the Moroccan attitude, they're very angry, quick to anger. It's that's the joke. Like they say that certain ethnic groups are cheap. So they say the Moroccans are quick to anger. So the Moroccan cookbook, the Moroccans have very very good food. But the cookbook starts with first of all relax. Of course in Hebrew the joke sounds much better, especially if you have the add the Moroccan accent. First of all, >> so first of all, I told myself, relax. No need to punch anyone. No need to now curse, break things, shout, throw things. Relax. >> Take a take a chill pill. And after two hours of a lot of hard work, I said, "Okay, why am I so angry? >> I'm angry, right? I can't function. I can't think. I want to open my my mouth to do a comeback. You know, when somebody puts you on the spot and you humiliated, you degraded, whatever, you approved wrong. You want to shoot back your first arrow. And lucky for me, I was holding back. My mouth is deadly when it opens the wrong way. Move aside. So, I asked myself for two hours, why are you so angry? And the conclusion that I came to that she was right. >> And right away the RPM went down from 9,000 a minute to cuz I understood. Why am I angry? Because she's right. Learn how to accept the rebuke. Learn how to look at the mirror without breaking the mirror. You know, people come to you. All the people around you until yesterday are your mirrors. It's all reflections. And you want to get upset at the mirror, you're getting upset at yourself, you fool. Balento says, "Whatever you see in other people negative, that's what you have in yourself. It's a reflection." And then you're judgmental towards these people. That's why I told you, don't be judgmental towards people. Always judge a person favorably because right now that person is doing you a favor and he's reflecting your junk on yourself. And now you see something negative in that person, but really it's you. It's what's negative in you. And if you humble enough, you understand. Thank you, Hashem. You just showed me where I'm failing. >> Now add it to your list. >> You understand what you need to do for 30 days. >> The little things that you need to do is like I told you yesterday, and I will repeat that every day. Go to atmood.orgul and you'll have you have there a page that explains to you everything you need to do. what you need to read every day, how often you just click on a button, it opens to you the page. You don't need to work too hard. There's certain things that you want to do in the month of I told you yesterday the acronym of chuva. First, you have to add increase in in praying. I don't need to teach you, but you have to increase in Torah. So the two things that you want to add every day in the month of alula read one chapter of the book of Mish of Proverbs every day one it's 31 chapters it's on the my website very clear for you to follow and you want to read three t three chapters of tim every day and again it's all organized just read the instructions I'm not going to waste my time now on instructions go to that page it has everything that you need to do whatever pray whatever you need to recite that's very little how long would it take you 10 minutes every day, 15 minutes, but you packed in your your your prayer. You packed in your Torah, your little Torah. Of course, anything above that is a blessing. And you packed in what I said yesterday, the tada, thanking Hashem. That's it. You make a V. You make a check. >> But either than that, and don't worry, I told you we're not in the dark. If you're interested, then follow the next month. There's going to be a lot of materials coming up. You need to be on one of my platforms. It's not going to come to you any other way. Don't email me how do I find the video. You have to follow one of the platforms where we're going to post it. And some of you participated in stuff we did like that a few years ago. We did the 40-day journey and the little chuva boot camp and many other it's going to be similar different but the point is just to get every day you get your dose instead of getting it in one lecture. >> But you have to understand what's what's required from you. where where you where are is your head faced in the next 30 days >> in the next 30 days you have to understand that every day you have a meeting with Hashem and he's not now look at looking at your resume you know why because you can lie on the resume he wants to see you work he's giving you a 30-day money back guarantee he says why don't you work for 30 days if I like how you work you're hired >> can you imagine you would come to a place of work >> and they would tell you okay we want a free month. You have to work for one month and if you're good, we'll hire you. Would you accept such a job? >> Why are you not answering? >> Depends on the job. If you earn $5 million a month, you will give that one month free gladly and you will be the shining star that month because it depends on the job. $5 million. >> So you're going to give the effort in the month of Aul because you know that it depends on what's >> what's going to be the bra and with the back of your mind that I'm not doing it to gain anything. I'm not going to do A, B, and C because I need this this and this in my life. >> The equation is very simple. I want my life to be better. >> Period. >> Do you all agree with me up until now? Yes. Toa on the on the live. Everybody's agree. Everybody fell asleep on the the internet, too. Free Palestine. That's what I'm getting >> again. It's not in my hands. I don't have any control. Free Palestine. No, they're very bored people. Don't educate yourself in something positive. Free Palestine. Yeah, you really bothered us right now. Now you convince us, guys. Free Palestine. Cuz Muhammad said right now it's nonsense. >> If I would offer you such a job, you would take it, right? >> That's it. >> That is it. Don't come with some uh condition. I will do this because I need that. We all agree that we all want an upgrade. I'm not saying even a change right now. An upgrade in my life. Everybody will say yes. And if you're really on top of your game and you're looking at yourself with eyes of truth, of course, you need that upgrade. You need a a truckload of blessings in your life. >> Like I told you, I see hundreds and hundreds of people every day. I'm somewhere else. Thousands of people contact me. I'm saying this like a broken record from thousands of messages. Very few messages are from people telling me, "I just wanted the report. Everything's good." Most of the messages are just catastrophes. >> Nobody stands in line after the lecture for two hours to tell me, "Jas Rabbi, I wanted to tell you you're good-looking." [Laughter] They're all standing there for two hours and telling me like a boatload of disasters in their life. >> Now out to the people, to the world, it's all smiles. Hi. Hey. They're all standing here. >> So, we all need an upgrade in our life. Correct. >> Free Palestine. Where is he? >> No. That's it. We freed Palestine. Okay. >> I think everybody in line got frozen. But nevertheless, we all agree we need a change in our life. I don't see the change necessarily because of my life is negative. I'm looking at as I constantly want to upgrade my life. So if I'm happy this level, I want to be more happy. If I'm successful with my path, I want to be more successful. If I have closeness to Hashem, I want to have more closeness. I'm not asking for anything materialistic or anything superficial. That's the upgrade I'm looking constantly because I constantly want to go up. My eyes are up all the time. Who's going to climb the mountain of Hashem? Says King David. I need to constantly grow and grow. So I constantly want to upgrade my life. And we all agree with that one way or another. So I know what brings me my upgrade to my life is the fact that I step forward and I come closer to Hashem and I'm willing to give that 30 days free job because I know the reward from the master of the universe is unfathomable. >> So I don't come with conditions. >> I don't come I'll do this and you do that and give me this. That's the attitude. But you have to understand that now 30 days, Hashem wants to see if you're coming to work on time. If you're coming with your lunchbox or not and how you work, he's not looking at your resume right now. The resume doesn't mean anything. In every situation that I had, I lied on résumés. Half of you pro probably also sometimes people come to work for me, I look at the resume, I'm like, "Wow, very creative." >> Who wrote that for you? Fiverr. >> So, so to to to lie, yeah, everybody can lie on their resume. And for you to understand the lying on the resume is me standing in promising Hashem the world. That's lying on your resume. By the way, I'm going to start praying every day. You'll see. >> And I'm going to do this and this and that. Three days it lasts. That's it. >> So that's lying on the resume telling Hashem, I will do that. I'm going to pray and I'm going to give charity and I'm going to forgive and apologize to whoever Bob kiss. >> Don't lie on the resume on do that in the month of that's it. do that in the month of that's how you're showing Hashem what you're willing to do what you worth what you willing to give in what you give to what you're willing to sacrifice >> that's how you convince Hashem and measure for measure whatever you do in that's what you're going to get the following year >> I'm not telling you now that you're going to be rich next year and all day long weddings and healthy kids and and you're still going to have a lot of challenges by the way but at least you're going to have the challenge and you're going to have a smile on your Yes, that's it. >> You're not getting rid of your challenges. You're not getting rid of your difficulties. That's your stepping stone, stepping ladder to go to a higher level. >> But everybody needs to be a little bit more healthier, a little bit less pressure with the finance, a little bit more guidance in my spiritual growth, much more comfortable and calm relationships, spouses, parents, and so forth. I mean, everybody needs some uh sugar in their life >> to sweeten up all the bad and bitter situations that we live in. So, that's it. You if you want to get something, you need to give something. That's it. >> And now's the time for you to prove to the king how hard you're willing to work. >> And you know what's the key here? And that's what I like the most and everything that I'm telling you is is experience, not f not theory. to the king. >> The harder you work on, showing to Hashem what you're willing to do, that same level will maintain throughout the entire year in a very easy way cuz you worked hard in alul because you worked hard in the field. Now you're just enjoying the fruits of it. And what's the fruits that whatever you worked hard during for your spiritual growth, I'm not talking about anything else. The next entire year >> will be easy. You woke up every day hard. It took all your energy to wake up early to go to the minan >> and every day was a challenge and half the times you failed and came late. But you did it with all your might, all your determination. >> The next year will be easy for you to wake up in the morning to go to the minan early. >> Guarantee. I'm telling you, I'm saying that from looking back and analyzing the last 22 years. >> You have an odd problem with anger. this month, buy yourself these balls that they give Rottweilers and stuff it in your mouth. Okay? And every time somebody says, "Bite that rubber ball like my dog does and shut up >> and hold your anger." >> Okay? And you know what's going to happen the next year will be very easy for you to hold your anger >> because you put a lot of effort during alul where hashem is looking at you and he's so impressed >> and he says ah that's what you really want I understand you want to come first and early to pray oh you want to work on your manners oh you want to work on your on your midot on your characteristics oh you want to work on this and that I see I'll give it to you the next year so first of all you upgrade ating yourself spiritually to levels that you wouldn't get by yourself. >> And once you're in a higher level spiritually, by default, Hashem gives you the things that you need so you can serve him in a quiet, peaceful way. You come in from the back door. >> Where's Free Palestine? Sometime oh in regard to the Palestines ah rabbi thoughts on Palestines we're talking about alul right now sometimes I need to read this junk it's I mean they tell me later don't don't read it's all like nonsense and junk and but I'm pretty sure it's pretty entertaining why don't you listen to the lecture instead of typing nonsense >> yeah you >> either write notes >> why don't you Listen to the lectures that >> I like that echo. I think I'm going to ask YouTube to put an echo on my videos all the time. You get a double dose. It's like you listen to the lecture twice. See, this is what this is the perfect example for you. Live example how Hashem works. You come to the lecture. you came. What is this again with the >> I was just reading some of the comments. That's why it's entertaining to me. You come to the This is what I don't understand. You made the effort. You came to the lecture. The lecture is already 118 minutes. It's two hours. Instead of listening and getting some points, people write their nonsense. >> This is what I don't understand. >> You made the effort. You came to the lectures. [Music] It is entertaining. I need to cr to read these. Uh >> but this is a perfect example. People make the effort to come to the lecture instead of listening to the material they write comments. >> That's you in the month of Aul. You come to the month of Aul instead of listening to doing what you need to do. You you're full of fluff. So change it. Change it. You have a good opportunity in the beginning of alul. I want to meet you in the end of Aul that you can tell me in a clear way. I gave it all I could. I did the best I could. And I'm telling you already if you have the poison seed in your mind that you're doing it because you want to get something, it won't work. You know, I gave an example. I was last Shabbat in the synagogue and uh the rabbi asked me to elaborate on something that happened to me 20 years ago that I shared in that synagogue and I'm going to share it with you because I think it's a it's a good example. >> 20 years ago is actually annoying. >> Wow. coffee with a rabbi. Yeah, you wish. >> Anyway, so 20 plus years ago, 20 plus years ago, I got married and we were very poor, my wife and me. Very, very poor cuz my wife wanted me to learn Torah and I learned in yeshiva and we didn't have money and that's what Hashem wanted. And I didn't care. I just was happy to learn Torah all day long. and uh and then it was Yonipur and u Yonipur and I didn't care and then >> I didn't have any money. We were very very poor and needless to say that was in my back of my mind is I needed to I needed money. So you know the rabbi was selling there the all the aliot opening of the ark and all that and it was a very small sh though and not with a lot of money. It's not like in some sh the opening of the ark $15,000 was >> this was like a corner shaw in the neighborhood. It was like maximum $3 for for things. But nevertheless, then the rabbi came and said on that if you go up to the mafiona, it's a a remedy to be rich. I was like, "Oo, that's something I need." So the rabbi was very clear. You buy the mafiriona, you'll make a lot of money. I was like, "Okay, I'm in." So the bids started $18, $36, three times high. It went up. Suddenly it went over the three digits of where 101. Some Bkarian said 101. And then it went to all sorts of weird numbers. 143 and.70 cents. It's Gimatria. Get out of here. >> Give me the money. Show me the money. Gimatia 232. Anyways, with all jokes aside, it started going higher and higher. 200, 300, 400. But I was determined. I'm getting this. Mafiliona came already to 600, 700, 710, 720. It stopped at $770. I was already changing colors in my mind. I'm I'm going to have to mop the floor of the shoe for the next three years. I don't even know where I'm going to have money to buy this. But nevertheless, Rabbi said, "I'm going to make money. I'll make money." So, end of the Yamipur, I go home. My wife greets me after not seeing me 25 hours. That was the whole day in Yum Kipur in the in the sh. How are you? Great. How are you? Great. >> Yeah. How was your prayers? That was great. And then she asked me if I feel that my prayers were meaningful and good. That in other words, she was asking, "Do you think we're going to have a better year this year?" So I told her, "Honey, >> I took care of everything. >> Don't worry. This year >> really, what did you do?" Told her I went up to the Torah on Mina and she was like, "That's it." Said, "No, no, I bought the mater." Oh, what do you mean you bought it? Like, no, there was an auction. We're both newbies, right? We don't understand. And then she was like, how much does it how much did it cost you? And I was like, >> it doesn't matter. You know, money comes, money goes, >> no. No. How much did it cost, honey? Money between us and Hashem. What are you being greedy with? It doesn't matter. >> How much did it cost? I told her it's it was $770. Oh, $7.7. And I was like, >> the dot is one more to the right. I almost got I almost got a divorce that night. Are you crazy? Are you out of your mind? We don't even have money to buy food. And I was like, no, but the rabbi said we'll make money >> that year. I said okay if this is my uh goal is this is my vision that year we opened up a business and uh and no I really needed to make money three years we were very very poor I had already a child and uh and I didn't want to I the thing is that I I didn't know what to do as a man I opened the business that year and throughout the year the why am I saying to this story because I used to learn in yeshiva that every summer they used to go to the mountains in New York and be completely isolated. >> It was such a great experience that there wasn't even cell phone service there. >> So for two months that you don't even have a phone I would wake up at 4:5 in the morning, go deep in the river, go and learn Torah all day long. I would come after Shahid. Come down. Breakfast is on the is on the table. Come down from lunch is on the table. Come down from dinner's on the table. Gorgeous place. Birds squeaking all day long. No, no cell phones. No, no service. We had to go Friday to the nearest city to listen to messages. >> And that's when I started realizing everything that I told you in the last two hours. So the entire month of Aul I said okay I the level that I want to reach next year that's what I'm going to do in Aul >> and I put so much effort in that in in in my work on alul and in my mind was I don't it's not about money it's not because I need to get out of my poverty my state of poverty it because that's what I need to do that's what I understood that's what happens when you immerse in Torah you learn Torah all day long with nothing disturbing you the spiritual enlightenments come to you like that. So I understood that what I need to wish not for money and you know why am I selling you this whole story because we were really poor we didn't have money we were literally living like that and listen with a big smile on my face because I learned to all day long but what it sat as a burden I need money I I need to make some parasa here but the attitude was not I'm going to do something because I need the money the parnasa I'm going to do it because that's what I need to do to go to the next level by default Hashem is going to give me what I need and what he finds that that's the amount that I need. >> So the entire month of came a lot a lot of effort. I I everything that I did disliked in my life I worked hard to to change it. I was focused on the target. That was my target. And then when came Rosh Shana and Yumipur and all that that was like the cherry on the top. I can tell you from experience that the level of observance that I put in the month of Alo remained the entire year. I had a very successful year spiritually in learning Torah and working on myself, refining myself. And since the success spiritually was very very strong because my entire target was what I need to do not what I want or what I think I need because I brought myself to the understanding I think I need money. No, not not necessarily. But nevertheless, since the effort was genuine, the desire was real, the the the work that I did was in the level that what I wanted to achieve with a little cherry on the top that I added this charitable act because really it's I gave much more than what I could handle >> which is not my personality. I give what I have. I don't give what I don't have. >> But there was the the the element of amuna. I believe Hashem is going to give me the money to cuz really I know it sounds not a lot of money but I was in a place that $770 was a lot of money that was food for 3 months. So for me it was a lot of money. So I was like but I have the amuna that Hashem is going to fulfill it. And you know what happened that year? That year I opened the business and at the end of the year when I did my taxes and all the calculations that I needed, not the fake taxes where people add on their expenses, you know, the every little thing I'm talking I did it real. >> You know how much I made that year? >> 77,000 exactly >> 100 times more. planted in the field for the whole year. He worked out and what was the result? A hundred times. >> And I'm not lying. I'll show you numbers if you need to $77,000 that year. And this is going back 20 years ago. 77,000 20 years ago was a lot of money. Today you can really buy toilet paper. And that's what you can do with that. >> $77,000. But 20 years ago, that was a nice salary. >> And why? And not because I went after the money because I went after the spiritual growth. What interests me was where does Hashem want me to be? Nowhere I want to be. Where does Hashem want me to focus on? If Hashem wants me to be another year of of poverty, then he will give it to me and I'll still have a smile on my face. All the resolutions that you do on Shah, sorry to tell you, are worthless. That's lying on your resume. Don't do resolutions on Roshana. Do the acts on. That's it. That's how you do it. And when you're already doing it on Alo, then even if it's not perfect, but you have to strive to focus on the effort, not the level level of success. That's what you need to put all you have. >> You just want to show Hashem that's my will. My will is not A, B and C which is superficial or not necessarily I will get it or is good for me. My will is to be good with you Hashem to real elevate myself to refine myself. Hashem will give you everything that that is missing from that year. I'm telling you that's when I learned everything that I'm telling you and then practice it. If you focus throughout the month of I need this and I need money and I want to get married and I need this and I need that. >> You might get it but not in the way that Hashem wants to give it to you. Not for nothing in the Anava Bible is the more you ask the less you get. That's what I apply. I tell Hashem one time what I need and that's it. Once in a blue moon I will pray for something that is very very big. So you have to understand that even if you don't do it perfect, you just need in this month to plant and to plant and to plant efforts, efforts, your efforts is planting. You understand the equation, the math here. Your efforts is your planting. >> That's it. And the efforts are genuine. What you planted, you will sew unbelievable products. >> And those products will be your success in whatever you need to be successful. you put the effort in your spiritual growth. Hashem is going to make you successful where you need to. In the next month, I'm going to start sharing and teaching one of my favorite teachings in the Torah. It's called the letters of the Nakmonades. It's not even a book. It's a letter with two pages that if you really really follow that, I guarantee to you a great life. And one of the first things that he says there which I will go through the entire letter and explain it but one of the first thing that he says there humble yourself and Hashem is going to raise you. >> That's all required from you. Just humble yourself. Hashem is going to raise you to the level that you need to get to. You think that your business you want to make a million dollars. Hashem says, "What are you talking about? Your business is destined to make a hundred million. Why are you asking a million? I'm willing to give a hundred million. But you focus on the million. You're not going to get that too. Humble yourself. Work on your midot. Work on your characteristics. Work on your character traits. How you talk, how you behave, your manners. Refine yourself. Get yourself to a level that you can work in front of Hashem and impress him. Hashem will cover all the missing pieces. You just need to show Hashem your will and plant and plant and plant and plant. That's it. >> Let Hashem grow whatever he wants to go. That's Hashem's blessing. The more your gen your effort is genuine, let Hashem rain his blessing on your field and grow the perfect product for you but without any ulterior motive, without calculations, without conditions. I want this because I need that. Try it once. Try to do something for Hashem. That's why I told you yesterday the foundation of chuva the t of the chuva is tora learning Torah applying prayers and the last was thank hem. So you thank Hashem with your words. Thank you Hashem. Don't overdo it because you sound fake. Okay? And don't put the m the song thank you Hashem and think that that's how you're thanking Hashem. Thank you Hashem. I come to Florida all the women in Range Rovers. Thank you Hashem. Of course you're thanking Hashem. You're in a Range Rover. >> But nevertheless, >> I'm joking. Drive whatever you want. I can care less. >> I would probably thank Hashem driving a Range Rover, but that's a different thing. But nevertheless, >> what I'm trying to say is don't be fake. >> And in this case, don't fake it till you make it. Be genuine. Thank Hashem. And I told you yesterday how I thank Hashem. I don't tell him thank you. I do a kind act. that has nothing to benefit me in any type of a way. That's called lashem shamim. I'm going to help this individual. I'm not asking for anything, any reward, any money, any cavode, any honor, anything. Doing it for the sake of doing this good act. Do that every day of your life. I guarantee to you, Hashem is going to pour a lot of sugar on the bitterness of things in your life when you're willing to do a nice act. And I'm not telling you now to donate your kidney. I'm telling you to do a nice act. And it sometimes it can be just patience with a person that now is having a bad day. That's it. And moving aside a little bit and lowering your voice or whatever it is. >> But you need to have a completely different attitude. If you're not going to change the attitude, it's not going to work. If you are impressed by everything that you heard tonight, it doesn't end here because I go back home in a few days. you're going to need to put a lot of hard work. If you are are focused and targeted, then do it yourself. >> But if not, then follow me on WhatsApp or Instagram or Facebook or one of the other pits of hell that you are on or just register to my email list, whatever it is, but that you can get the information fast. A lot of people send us messages. I didn't get the video. Excuse me. You want me to send you now a video to your email? Go to YouTube. Watches over there. Ah, I didn't know it's on YouTube. >> Okay. So, >> I wonder if the people online hear the echo. It's extremely annoying. But I think we got rid of the free Palestine. >> You can donate your kidney. >> You don't need to donate a kidney. Gaza restaurants are >> tough. >> I think the volume is what's doing the echo, but maybe then they're not going to hear me. Anyways, we're finishing in 3 seconds. Now it all depends on you how you leave this bungalow now. May maybe I know the viewers can see the bungalow. The bungalow like this is huge. Luckily there's no mosquitoes. I don't know how they got that h to happen. But uh that's pretty amazing, huh? That's Torah for you. The Torah is pushing the mosquitoes outside. Other than that, I don't know how there's no mosquitoes here. And neither one Oh, now you start scratching. You have your mosquitoes. Where are they? two hours I'm I'm here nobody I didn't see anybody like this so no mosquitoes right that's what the power of Torah and we don't getting much cool breathe we'll go into the synagogue and pray we'll calm down a little bit but listen with all the jokes with all the the the examples and our sages say the act is what counts or how they say in America talk the talk but can you walk the walk. So now it's required from you to do the walk. I can't do it for you. I can explain, I can guide, I can inspire, I can elaborate on whatever, use all my experience to bring whatever I can, but I can't do it for you. You going to have to do that. You are going to have to bring yourself to a point that you're saying, I want to do it, not I have to or I don't have any other option. That's not the attitude I like hearing. I don't have any option. Then you already surrendered and failed or because I want this or that. No, I'm doing it because that's what I want to do and I understand that it's the right thing for me to do. Can you imagine now a 9-year-old kid comes to the to the parents at the end of the night and says, "Mama, I want to brush my teeth. I want to take care of my teeth. Please don't give me that candy anymore. I really want to take care of my teeth and it's not good for my health. Can you maybe give me some vegetables instead of giving me this junk that you're feeding me? Now, usually it's the kids are like, "Give me more treats and more food coloring and more sugar." It's the other way around. So, you think Hashem is going to come and tell you, I need you to be kind. I need you to be patient. I need to be ne next less judgmental. You have to come to tell Hashem, "Hashem, you created me with these character traits. I'm not interested in them. I want to get rid of them. That's why I told you in the list that I told you to write yesterday is not to write that you need a better car or you're not happy with the color that the Mercedes Raden bought you. Write important things that you understand and you realize that are stumbling blocks in your spiritual growth. Write things like, "Let me help me, Hashem, forgive this individual that is driving me crazy or doing whatever they're doing to me and give me the power to overcome this challenge and that challenge." But it all depends on you. It's what you take from the from this class tonight. How you leave this class. You can either write comments to free Palestine or apply it. And by the way, my message is to also the Palestinians. By the way, you're asking me what's my opin opinion on the Palestinians? They should listen to what I just said and do chuva too. >> Yeah. No difference. It's Shana is for all the world. It's not just for Jews. It's the entire world. Jews, non-Jews, and you think I have issues with the Palestinians. No, the Palestinians, we have to understand we have issues with Hashem. Palestinians is just Hashem sending them to bother us. I don't have any issue with them. I know that when I have such a thing bothering me or my nation or my country, we have a we have a problem with God that he's sending us that measure up with God. We're not going to have Palestinians bothering us. When enemies come to attack me, I'm not going against the enemies. I'm going and looking to Hashem. Why you sending me people to bother me? If you're asking already my opinion of Palestinians, it's irrelevant at this point. What's relevant is what do you do with that? It doesn't matter who you are, how observant you are. If you're a Jew or non-Jew, if you believe in Hashem this much or this much, this is global to every living soul. you want to affect your life in a certain way, watch this video 50 times. That's it. You don't think you guided enough, then follow all my platforms. I highly recommend the most is is WhatsApp because it comes directly to your phone and other platforms. Block things, move things, whether it's Instagram, Facebook. That's it. I'm going to post as much as material as I can to help and guide and and and and teach whatever you need. But it all depends on you. If you go out now without a massive big change in your mind, nothing's going to happen because Amalecch is waiting on out there. He's going to cool you down. Now you're all inspired here. We're sitting in this little igloo. You know, good energy, crickets in the back, free Palestine in the front. We're all laughing and enjoying great water. Don't take this energy and throw it out. I'm joking. And all the jokes are good. The jokes is to get you to a higher level. You're more relaxed when you are when you're laughing. You're not uptight. That I'm going to throw in you some bomb now and tell you the world is about to be destroyed and and the next pandemic or No, no, no. >> Don't worry. Hashem is going to do a lot of interesting things in the next few months and few years. You don't need me to come and say that. You saw it yourself and just wait and see. Now we want to take this good strong happy vibe and energy and to apply that that today you go home and you're saying okay I want I want to gain that level and I don't want Hashem you don't have to give me anything. I'm not doing it to gain anything. I'm doing it because that's what Hashem wants me to do. Apply that once in your life. You'll be shocked how Hashem gives you in an abundance what you need and what you want. That's how it works. When you say no to something, take. No, no, no. It's okay. I have a few. Take. No, no, but I have already. Take two. Okay, give me three. But that's where you want. You want to get to a point that Hashem is for take. I want to give you happiness and joy and money and a spouse and kids and health and so like I told you it all depends on you. I can give you the titles. I can explain the words and you need to walk on the path and you need to do the change and my main message that I can give you that this year don't be asking. Don't be begging. Don't be whining. This year don't be asking. This year just do be doing. That's what my father told me when I was 15. In Hebrew, it sounds much better. Malasot, what should I do? What should I do? Do. Don't ask too many questions. Just do. And now, now's your opportunity. 30 days of just do. Don't don't don't let it go between your hands because you all know that you're going to hear from me a lecture two days before Rosha Shannan. You'll be like, "He was right." Don't let the opportunity go through your hands. You can't really convince Hashem how great you're willing to be and how much sacrifice you're willing to do in three days. It's not going to work. You want something change in your life, you want improvement, you want blessing in your life, then I'm telling you the switch in your mind is that it's going to have to come with sacrifices. You decide what you're willing to sacrifice. Your sleeping hours, the hours that you're spending on a phone with no with no no destination junk. You decide what you're doing with your how you utilizing your time. You decide what's the priorities in your life. Some people running after money. Some people the priority is to refine their speech and to refine their midot. And all that's going on in their mind 24/7 is how can I be nicer next time when I have some encounter and be a little bit more considerate and be a little bit more patient and a little bit more thoughtful and thinking of another person rather than myself. This year don't ask this year you do. >> Thank you. Now I'm going to bless you that Hashem should bestow on you his great light and bless you with great success in everything positive that you decide to do. And he should give you strong positive feedback that when you're going on the right path, it would be obvious to you. >> And Hashem should give you the right approach to see the good in everything and how he wants to bless you and what's the right thing for you to do and where you need to put your focus. And the ultimate blessing is that Hashem should bring you to the right place that you know what you need to do clearly in the next 30 days. So that will be the effort that you're plowing and you sewing and you're planting. The next year the baka will just be growing by itself. You're not going to have to do much because you're going to be focused on your spiritual growth, on your spiritual connection, on your closeness to Hashem. And that's it. That's what you want to get to. And now you have an opportunity because every day that passes, your power of success is less. I'm going to give you one analogy. I don't even know why analogy this analogy came up to my mind. Maybe there's one person online that's going to listen now that he knows what I'm talking about. This individual, of course, I'm sure you're online. Uh it's funny that this is the example but he trades in the market in the stock markets and uh in this particular case you know you can buy a a stock let's say for $10 a stock okay and then it starts going up and you're very happy with its motion so you start buying more but in the beginning you bought it for $10 then it went up to 13 you want to buy more so you bought more in $13 then you want bought more in $17 eventually What it will tell you is what's the average cost per share that you did throughout the entire time, right? You maybe sometimes you bought it for $10, sometimes for $13, sometimes for 17, but the average will be 14.67. That's your average how much you spend for the stock at the end of the day. And then you calculate your profits. You're laughing, right? I know you're laughing. This is the same thing what you want to do throughout the month of alul is that you have an average of everything not how much you spent in every time that you put an average of everything. So I really hope that you will take every word that was said tonight and will apply it and realize that the real blessing that Hashem wants to give you is is waiting for you. You just need to put the effort. The effort needs to be genuine. You need to bring yourself like I told you that's why I told you yesterday to write a piece of paper is to read the things you constantly going to read them and you want to bring yourself to a point that I don't want that in my life anymore and I want to change and I guarantee to you that you apply what I'm telling you you're going to have a very very blessed year and the following year hopefully you'll be convinced you'll have even a better year and a better year and your point will be to come closer and closer to Hashem. So, I want to thank you again for coming for also the ones online, even the ones with Free Palestine. I'm thanking you, too. Hopefully, you'll do chuva. Uh, you're laughing, but I did meet a few that eventually they did chuva. Okay, listen. Everybody has a place to do chuva. But with all jokes aside, I want to thank you and bless you at the same time. Hashem bless you with a successful year, happy, sweet new year. Shem should fulfill all your desires, all your wishes, and bless you with everything that you need in order to serve him in the best way possible.