Rabbi Alon Anava is live! - Very Special and powerful Rosh Chodesh event! - Queens, NY!!

Are you like sleeping here? Like I don't know what's going on. You shocked to see me. Everybody doing good? >> They treated you well. They gave you food. Now you can start learning Torah. >> Okay, let's try it one more time. DV, we're going to have a very, very, very special lecture tonight. Thank you all for coming. Sure. Everybody, we're in one of the most amazing nights of the year. and we're going to have a very very very powerful lecture. I'm sure you all been waiting to hear the the jewels of the topic that we chose for tonight. But before we start, first of all, I want to dedicate the class to a few a few nishimoto votes. The first one is for lema for Miriam but Heleni and Zoya but ya and see I kept a name in my pocket now I don't have it I'll remember in a second but leunish also Lilia Leia Rena But is it bey? Is it >> bey? Okay. Ben Rosa. David bini. David bin Mashiach Mashiach Ben and Bi and Ali Ben Kana should all have aliyah and a special blessing for an easy birth for Tamar Matadina should have not only an easy birth should labor should be easy and both parents should have a healthy child and raised that child. I think the thing went out, right? Yeah. But you can hear me in the back. >> We don't need the microphone, right? >> You hear me upstairs? We hear you upstairs. >> And a special from Batima. And whoever needs a should bless you on this wonderful powerful holy night that anyone who needs should have. Anyone who needs should have anyone who needs to get married should find their true other half. Whoever needs kids should leave, whoever needs to be happy, Hashem should make you very, very happy and you should all be full of happiness, true success in everything that you do. Hashem should bless you in everything that you need to do in order to serve him in the best way possible. >> Before we start, I want to give a very special thanks uh to Noah. I don't think she made it tonight, but for all her help in organizing the event and a very special night to Rafael Aquin who started a few years ago a very special uh not organization but something very special to get Jewish souls to be interested in Hashem. It's called Walk with Hashem. It started as a little bit of divor and some stuff like that, but it evolved to something very very special that sends the daily inspirations about the Torah, practical things. And uh I I highly recommend to join it. It's great. And Rafael who runs the show, he organized this beautiful event. And uh I want to thank you personally and bless you, your wife, your family to always be evolving and helping and promoting Torah. And everybody should should take a example. A person to organize an event and bring a rabbi and run the show and all that is a huge every person that sits in the crowd and takes on themsel a good decision. And uh even more than that, needless to say, the level of the blessing is uh unfathomable. I wish there would be much more who do stuff like that. Everybody needs to be involved in one way or another in promoting Torah and creating events. So should bless you and your family with everything that you need in order to serve Hashem in the best way possible. should be in everything that you do and Hashem should bless you with great abundance in everything that you do. And last but not least, everybody on the line on the live can hear me if you can wave your hand or say free Palestine or something like that [laughter] or that. Uh okay, I don't want to even give you ideas what to say. Anybody can hear me on the live. If you can, please say yes. Thank you. To I hope you ate good and that you rested because it's going to be a very long lecture. Now I saw all the faces like at least on YouTube. I can turn the lecture on now. I'm stuck here for 3 hours. So, don't worry. I have a flight to catch, so it's going to be short. My short starts at two and a half hours. So, so without further ado, first of all, that everybody should know it's Roshesh. Every rosh kesh is amazing where one can gather the energy of rosh kodesh focus on it and that will apply for the rest of the month definitely not a day that one should miss or let it pass I believe strongly how the work that one does on roesh is same idea is how you set your bed that's how you're going to sleep on it or to more to our terms is whatever you You are setting the energy for the rest of the month. The month of ad has very strong power to transform anything in your life as the concept is known as if you know how to focus the energy then you can switch situations from bad to good. Just take that to consideration. But now I have a big question because you all well most of you came to me before I came in and asked for a blessing. I need to get married. I need parasa. I need whatever schlomite and I just told you that purim has a very strong power the entire month of purim especially of transforming something from bad to good. So everything I just said in the last minute contradicts our topic because the topic is that everything is bes right so we're going to have to kind of break down this big question if how can it be that if everything is predestined and everything is known by Hashem then what what is my role here do I need do you need to come to me for you think I'm changing something when I'm giving you a blessing why am I giving you a blessing blessing or even better to ask why are you coming even for a blessing. So let's go to the beginning where we do know based on our holy sages that when a husband and wife are conceiving a child then a certain angel comes down that angel is in charge of pregnancy angel's name is Laya and the angel comes down while the husband and wife are conceiving a child and takes the drop that will get the wife pregnant takes that drop goes up to the Master of the universe presents the drop and says this drop what's going to be the result or a strong individual or very weak individual smart wise or fool rich poor and it goes into more details blonde hair brown hair blue eyes tall short fat skinny happy, sad. The answer that this angel gets is everything is in the hands of Hashem. Everything is predestined, written from the beginning besides one thing. Everything is in the hands of Hashem. Easier to explain. Everything is predestined. Everything is re it's written. How is that happening and how is that called? It's not so important at this point. What's important is that the drop before it forms into a human being then that drop is already decided everything that's going to happen with it. But the can be explained in two different ways. Is fear is that I fear God. How much do you fear God? I know a lot of people don't like using the word fear, but we have to use the word fear because if you're not afraid of something, you don't do nothing. Most people don't do anything most things from their their love. They do it from fear. And the Torah explains that you need the fear of God. You need the love and you need the fear. The holy book of Tanya explains that the fear and the love are like two wings. And you cannot imagine a bird that takes off with flapping its wings with one wing. It needs doings. It needs the love and it needs the fear. Here we're looking at is how much I'm afraid of Hashem. Practically saying afraid of Hashem. Most people are not afraid of Hashem because you are not you know what you're allowed to do and not allowed to do. But if something is blinding you then the fear moves away. If I have a desire, I have a lust, I want to achieve something, I want to get something, the fear of God disappears. So every person has a different level of mind. That's one expla way of explaining it. [snorts] The other way of explaining it, you write in Hebrew, which you can read it also. Just change the punctuation, the punctuation, the the dots. means to see. So now if I read it, it means that I see heavens or God in everything. How much do you see the hand of Hashem in everything? Sham goes on Hashem that every situation that happens to me in my life, it's from Hashem. How much are you focused on that? Now, it's very easy to say, "Yeah, yeah, I know everything is from Hashem." Till the disaster hits you, and then you're not too sure if it's from Hashem already. And that's where the is measured. How much do you see the hand of Hashem in everything that happens to you? That's very hard to actually apply. It's very easy to apply when you're looking at the big things. But when things don't go well in your life, it's very easy to say no. So, Hashem says everything is predestined. Who you going to marry? Where are you going to live? How much money you going to make? Who are going to be your parents? Who are going to be your kids? Where you going to live? Everything is predestined. The only thing that is required from you is so remember the two ways is that I am afraid of Hashem. I fear him. Not afraid in a negative way. And of course that how much I see Hashem in everything in this world. Now we have to understand a little bit the concept of everything is predestined. Because if this is the case that everything is already predestined then why do I bother on yipur? Why do I bother on shana? Why do I pray? Why do I ask for a blessing? Why do I do anything? Everything is predestined. So only required for me is to fear hashem which that throws us off completely to live in the mindset that doesn't matter what I'm going to do it's going to happen. So I'll give you a quick example before we dive into it. A few months ago we did an event with Walk with Hashem in Bet Gabriel. Great event. Some of you were there and over then we already spoke that the next time that I come we're going to do an event. And when the time came we chose the date. Took about a two weeks to choose a date. And then another two weeks to choose the topic and where and how and who and when and woo. You don't even know what goes on in the back scenes to create an event. And we were going backwards and forth on the date. We were going backwards and forth on the location and the topic and if there's going to be should be pizza, should be sushi, what should we serve, which song should be played? Everything all these thoughts. And I can tell you already that everything that we planned, thought, and wanted did not work out how we wanted. And everything worked out completely different to work out not how we planned. So now let's go back to the map and say, ah, everything was predestined. The event was supposed to be across the street. That's what we thought. And a few days before the event, Hashem revealed to us that that wasn't predestined. It was predestined. It's going to be here at this time. this location. So technically when you're looking at everything in your life, something needs to happen, you work towards it and then it doesn't happen how you plan. The way it works is that Hashem plants the thought in your mind, puts the situation available for you. Now you need to do it. In most of the cases, you plan, plan, plan, plan, and then Hashem changes the plan. So it's not that Hashem changed the plan. You just didn't know the exact points of the plan. But Hashem is the one who will put the thought in your mind, the idea, the opportunity. He will now maneuver you to go on the path that you need to go on in order to do what you supposed to do. So in general, yes, everything is predestined. The map is predestined. where you going to born, where you're going to live, where you going to grow up, who is going to be your parents and every point of your life is a predestined. >> So you cannot change the >> I didn't say that and u as I speak probably you will get all your answers. So I would give we'll see how much time we have at the end of the class. I'll give some time for questions. But try to hold the questions till the end. There's a very good chance that I will answer a lot of them as the lecture goes which will save you later and if not later on you can ask. I will try to answer all your questions. But I didn't say you can't change the the map. I'm actually going to tell you you can change the map and you cannot. Whatever is predestined that's what's going to happen. In order you cannot in order to change something on your map, you need such a powerful prayer that's done by probably powerful souls to change something as big. That's in many cases you might not want to. There's a story in the about a certain Tana. It wasn't really a Tana actually. Sorry. He was just a a Talmid a student but he was a very high level student everything good and had a horrible life and one of the things that he had he had a poverty he didn't have any money and at some point he spoke to Hashem when he says well why are you giving me such a hard life I'm dedicated to your Torah I'm dedicated to you why why why do I have to be so poor so Hashem told him you want you want me to change that you want to be not poor. He's like, "Yeah." He's like, "I can do that, but it might cost to destroy half the world. [clears throat] You want?" He's no no. Okay. No, it's fine. I don't I don't need the pound. So, technically, certain things can be changed, but it requires something in the level of a miracle. I'm not saying that it doesn't happen. I'm not saying it cannot happen. I'm just saying that in order to change the script, it requires a lot of power. It mainly requires from you a transformation of 180°. If you ever know someone who did that, then you can see how the transformation can bring forth such a change. And I shared with you in this place, on this chair, in this table, well, not this table. It was a different table about a year and a half ago how when you go from here to here then Hashem changes things. So let me go through the entire lecture and you'll see because in really you cannot change the map and you don't want to change the map. You want to stay within the limits of the map or the predestined script. Now let me explain to you something. Look at this beautiful big shaw. When they built the structure, they built it huge, large, wide, high. Now you can change this. This is unchangeable. But you know what you can do in this space? I can close now a huge ceiling, make here two floors. I can cut the room in half, make here four rooms. I can inside change a lot of things. And I can change a little bit the outside. They can change a little bit the decorations but the structure stays the same. The location stays the same. You cannot move now this sh to the next block. So the location stays the same. Everything stays the same but the the inside the design that can change right when Hashem decides for you where you're going to be born that's not going to change. Who are you going to be your parents? It's not going to change who you going to marry. All these things are key points in your life. What you can change is the scenario around it. For example, you cannot change who you're going to marry. But you can choose if the marriage will be a good marriage or a less good marriage. That you can choose. You can choose many different things when it comes to your life. And when I'm saying choose, you have some type of an effect. I want to in the beginning simplify things by telling you you can't change things. You don't want to change things. Why change the design that Hashem did? Everything is sitting exactly how it should. Hashem designed your life for you to reach the perfect tikun. He created already the scenario for you to be the most successful. Why would you want to change it? Now it brings to a very big problem because if [clears throat] I humbly what is called me I anullify myself in front of Hashem and I accept everything that Hashem gave me. So that should bring me to a place that I don't need to do much because for it doesn't matter what I'm going to do. It's going to it's going to be the result will be the same. And that's not far from the truth. In order for me to be motivated, then I have to have the ability of sweetening things and changing things. Because if you would get the message that nothing can be changed, you wouldn't be motivated to do nothing. Not to pray, not to do chuva. Because in really if I need to summarize the entire topic and I'll read for you and I'll read in in a second from the text really the entire visit to this world is to affect your place in eternity. That's it. If you haven't figured this out till now then a big piece in your relationship with Hashem is missing. Everything that you do in this world is only for your world to come. We did not come here to this world to benefit from this world. Anything. The more you benefit from this world, you are going to reduce what you're going to benefit from the world above. First rule that one needs to understand and knows and if you don't live by that, you have to completely change the way you think. And I know that most people don't think like that. But the reality is that your visit in this world is to determine your place in eternity. Where are you going to be in eternity and every act that you do in this world will determine your place in eternity. When you understand that the name of the game is different because you only care for your eternal success and not for your immediate success. What interests you is [snorts] how do I get a better place in the world to come? not how I get more money in this world. I look for what will get me a much more greater reward in the world to come than what I'm looking for here. So first of all, it's important to understand and I'll give you a little background why we need to care about the world to come. The Zor says that before the world was before the world existed, there was only Hashem and at some point Hashem had the desire to be a king. And if you want to be a king then you need to have a nation. When are you going to be a king or nobody? So he created a so to say a nation. That's was all our souls. And in the beginning the souls were marveling the beauty of Hashem all surrounding Hashem enjoying the glory of the light of Hashem the wisdom everything was good. And of course I'm I'm making it sound very little something that we can't understand. What does it mean to just enjoy the beauty of Hashem? But for the level of the soul, this is the highest level one can reach enjoying the wisdom of Hashem for an eternal in in an internal eternal state. But at some point, the Zoro says that the souls felt very embarrassed in front of Hashem and they told Hashem, "Listen, we we feel very shameful. All you do is give and give and give and we we don't do anything." The Z calls it bread of shame. like a poor person that comes to your door, knocks on your door every day and you gladly give them some food or money, but at some point that person is like like you only give me I I I didn't do anything. So Hashem says, "No problem. I'll create a system where you earn your rewards where you earn you what you get." And Hashem created a system. It's very familiar to you through this world where you earn let's call it now credit points to the world to come. So next time when you come to the spiritual world and whatever is given to you you earned it. So one can can't come and say oh it was just given for free I worked for it technically that's how it should be. That's how it should be in every realm. You know, now in this uh realm, many different forms are trying to make what's called that every should everybody should be equal. Even your great mayor, that's what he's going for. That should be equal here. That the rich will give the poor. That's what he's trying to do. >> Excuse me. >> Socialism. >> Uh socialism on the on steroids. But uh go look at your mayor. Well, tomorrow we're going to talk a lot about your mayor. And uh I'm sure it's not your mayor. You didn't choose him. Hopefully neither one in this room chose chose him. And if you did, come and talk to me after. But nevertheless, I don't know why your mirror distracted me. >> It's predestined. >> Yeah, of course it's predestined. You do. When a person understands the concept of the world to come, then everything changes and I have the opportunity to set myself in the place to in the world to come. That's really the what everything boils down to. If your mind is not uh set on that, you miss the point. You actually miss the point. You live your life with no point because our entire focus is on the world to come. This is a very small stop that I can accumulate whatever I need to take with me to the world to come. Now, I know a lot of people say, "Ah, it's not a it's not a fair system. Hashem should give everybody equally." Okay. Well, that can be your opinion. The souls themselves in a democratic way voted for that. So as a soul, that's what we asked. As a one entity, as a soul, that's what we asked Hashem. We want to work for the reward. Why? How? Is it good? Is it bad? All this is irrelevant right now. I can tell you already as looking at the approach that that's how everything needs to be done. Even in this world, that's how I was educated. That's how I educate my kids. Nobody's going to do nothing for you. You do it for yourself. And if you think you're going to need to lean on somebody to get something, you have you have it wrong. You need to understand and Anily Millie, if nobody for myself, who will do that? And there's maybe three people in the entire world that will do something a little bit for you. All the rest will just use you. and what you need to do. Nobody will do it for you. Maybe you came all the way tonight to hear just that because I was taught that a long time ago in the most hardest way. I don't depend on anyone. I don't trust anyone. I don't let anybody do anything. I do it. I don't wait for anybody to do nothing. Of course, in my level where I am running a very big organization, I have to delegate. But even when I delegate, it's with me overseeing every step. Nothing moves in my organization without me looking at it, touching it, seeing it. And yeah, that's why I have to work 20 hours a day. But my attit my my attitude is that nobody will do it for me and nobody will do it like me. I need something to get done. I need to get it done. That's the education that I got and I attribute a lot of my success to that fact. And I can tell you that most people that I meet don't do that. They think the world owes them something. They put all their trust in he this person, that person. And then what happens is that every situation they need somebody to help them the right way. You need to educate yourself. You need to work towards that that you are independent. That's what Hashem wants. Shem doesn't want you to lean on somebody. He wants you to do it. And in any situation, I have a very very very big nonforprofit that helps a lot a lot of different h causes. The majority of course is poor people and we help in many different ways. Whether it's with actual money for food or food itself or help with expenses, utilities, rent, whatever it is. I have different funds. You all know them. you donate to those funds every time I go and pray for you in in in graves in Israel and you donate that's where that money goes to and I just decide who gets when how and what and my rule is that you get but I rather teach you how to help yourself every situation that comes to my desk and I need to look at it and approve it I approve it if the person will actually do something after You're not going to come here and milk my system. You can enjoy it once, twice, three times. You're going to get from me tools how to not come back to me again. That's how I help you. So now we're dealing with a a couple old people, very old, no money, no nothing. They're only depending on the kindness of of the community. So they came to me, three months rent back has to be paid, utilities, this. Okay. Okay. We we can cover that. But what's your plan? What's your plan for the fourth month? What's your plan for the fifth month? You're going to come to me every month. No, I'll help the emergency. But you need to create a system, a plan, a way how you take care of your own business. That's what Hashem wants. Hashem wants you to be independent. Hashem wants you to achieve it, not to lean on the entire world. So Hashem designed a system where he wants you to grow, where he wants you to achieve things. Unless you understand that your life is going to be walking on a treadmill, and no offense, most people that I look at walking on a treadmill or a conveyor belt. You're walking in the same place, smiling to all directions and not understanding that you're in the same place. And that's most people. And you might not look at it on yourself. You might think that you grow. And maybe a small amount of the people do know how to grow. But when you're looking at somebody from the outside, then you see different like I can't see myself. You can see yourself. You know, there are people even in this room right now that I've see I see them every time I come. 15 years. Yeah. Yeah. Some people even in this room have been following me from over over 15 years, which means that I've seen them 50 times. Some of them look exactly the same how they look 15 years ago. Not in the beauty in where they're holding. And some different. I saw them 15 years ago here. And every year that I return different person different person you need to be now humble and think on yourself if you're same or different. So first of all and most most most important that you need to understand that your only purpose in this world is to work towards the world to come. I know it sounds superficial, but one day you'll wake up and you'll realize that if you did it, you won. And if you did it, you'll regret it. Trust me, I was there. You do not want to come to the moment where you realize that your time is over. That's it. That 78 years are passed. Life goes like that. And most people wake up at the last moment of their life realizing how they much they didn't do and then it's too late. Now what's going to be the after that? That depends on you. Now you have a problem because up until now when you got to that situation you had no option of coming back here in an incarnation. Mashia comes tomorrow no incarnations. Mashia is coming very close. So there not going to be much more incarnations. That's why each and every one of you are now dealing with 500 tons of problems because whatever you didn't do in the last previous 10 lives is all together now before Mashiach comes. So all of you are juggling 15 million things at the same time. Right? That's it. No difference between me and you by the way. And it's not that you're a bad person that things don't work out. It's just that you accumulated so much to fix and you're not doing it on a daily base and now the burden is hard. Now all the challenges that you need to go through in order to reach a rectification are together. It wasn't like that 20 years ago and definitely not 30 or 40 years ago. Last 10 years it's intensifying and last five years it's even worse. and last two years the amount of challenges that every person has to go at the same time increase now maybe you all think that you're doing something wrong I don't know whatever whatever your rabbis is telling you the fact is that 80% of the challenges that you're going through is it's not that you did something you need to you need to do a rectification you need to fix something Hashem is now giving you all the opportunities to do it so First of all and most important one needs to set the mindset is changing everything. The mindset should be I am living for nothing in this world. I don't care so much about this world. That's I'm telling you how I operate and how I see things and how the Torah is teaching you. Don't be impressed by this world. This is this is the world of decept. The world of deceit, the world of lying. Everything here is lie. Why are you focusing on this world? Why you putting all your effort about this world? Don't you see how everything here is fake? Don't you see how everything here doesn't have any meaning? You taking your iPhone with you to shamim. You take your BMW to Shamim. No, it's nice to have nice things, but it should be this much of your interest. I also live in a nice house. I also drive a nice car. I also like to dress nice. I live in this world just like you. But I don't get affected by this world. I don't take anything from this world. I don't want this world to affect me. This is a very very narrow corridor that I don't want to rub my shoulders too much on on this corridor. I'm here for a very short time. I'm 51 years old. You know how fast the 51 years old went by? like that and only thing that focuses me is how am I getting to the world to come? That's the only thing that ma matters to me in my life. And again, if you don't think that, then that's what you need to do right now. The only thing that needs to be on my mind, the next world. Really, the only thing that needs to be on your mind is Hashem. And the only thing that needs to be in your mind is what am I doing? What do I need to do that Hashem wants me to do? If that's what how your mind operates, then you're on the right track and you going to go to the place you need to go to. The sad reality is that most people that's not what they think. Hashem is 20 30%. The rest 70% is me. You want to be successful in this world, happy and come to the world to come the right way. The number one focus is Hashem. Nothing else. You think for nothing I printed hats and shirts. No, you need to wear it and every time you see yourself ah and everybody that sees you when you understand that there's nothing but Hashem which means that I need to work in his rhythm to listen to what he wants to make him happy. I need to to do what makes him happy, not what makes you happy. I know it sounds a little bit fanatic and OCD, but it's not. That's my focus. My focus is Hashem. First of all, I incorporate in that that my focus is my spiritual life. I rather suffer for 70 years with tremendous suffering as long as I'm guaranteed that in eternity I'm good. That's what should be your attitude. Most people care about this world and they don't care at all about the world to come. You know that when I walked in here, half of you approached me for a blessing. And that's every lecture. And when I finished the lecture, the other half approached me for a blessing. And when I'm not here, then people send emails, WhatsApps, SMS, pigeons, whatever. Wherever they can, people show up to my door. Everybody wants a blessing. I can tell you that maybe 0.0000 000000 and add a few more zeros. 1% have asked me for a blessing to have a great amaba. Most people don't ask please Rabbi bless me that I should be welcome in the world to come that I should have a very nice comfortable place in Ganedin. I never heard such requests. I hear I want a wife and I hear all the time a wife and a husband and then they don't realize that half five years later they come back to me. You asked me to get your wife now you want me to get her away. So the majority of of requests that I get isola very few people come up to me and tell me please please give me a hashem should forgive all my sins that I should go into Grenada please I don't get these requests why that's what interests me I am looking for a ticket to the world to come but you think I care about a Mercedes or whatever it is so Most people how they view their life and the structure of this world is incorrect. And you probably all came in tonight and joined the live to hear that you need to shift what you're looking at. That's what's going to give you your success, by the way. That's what's going to give you what you need. Half of what you are requesting, you'll never get. deal with it. Don't live in some laala land. That's why I don't wish for too much because I don't want you to be disappointed. I don't ask Hashem, please give me parasa. I need parasa. I need I need I need I want I need I tell Hashem just give me what I need. I'll deal I'll deal with that. It's not in the in the front of my mind nagging to Hashem about my parasa. or in anything. Not when I looked for a wife, not for anything. I let Hashem do his thing. I go on his path because I understand that the majority is already there. It's not going to change. I don't get upset. I don't get angry. I let the the rhythm of the world finalize things like this lecture file. how much emails, how much WhatsApp said, you know, in hours how much it is and do this and do that and then it's going to do it here. We're going to do it there. Maybe we should do this. What do I need to tell you the cliche? You plan and Hashem laughs. >> Yeah, you need a microphone. My voice is loud enough. If somebody wants to hear, he'll hear me standing on the street. You choose what you hear. I can talk like that and you're going to hear very well what I'm saying. It all depends what you want to hear. Most people have it completely wrong. And you're in them, by the way. And it took me years. Listen, it's not that I was born, but I figured out, of course, I have a little bit of a a step forward with my own experience, but nevertheless, I can tell you already rule number one that you need to change when you leave this room is your outlook of your position in this world. Highest priority is my spiritual world. That's the eternity. Because the second that I leave this world, that's it. I leave everything behind. I even I never even thought about it what I just said. You leave this world, you leave everything behind. Ay, I liked it because you leave everything behind. The only thing you take with you is your Torah, your mitzvot, and your growth. I know it's very hard for people to realize that, but that's what you need to constantly work on. Change the way you think. That's why I keep saying in all my lectures, Hashem has to be number one. Hashem is number one. My spiritual life is number one. My [clears throat] goal in the world to come. If you don't see eye to eye, what I'm saying now, why are you here even? Why you wear a yamaka? Why you come to pray? Why you put fain on? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why you doing anything? because you want the blessing in this world. I see how people operate when they need a blessing in this world. They get their act together. It's very sad. I see the people who come to my synagogue. I don't see them the whole year. Once in a blue moon, they come pray with us, throw money to all directions. Suddenly, they're very large, very generous. Then they go start kissing the for two hours. I don't know what they're doing there. Why are you here? I didn't see you for half a year. Oh no, I have to do a trial. I need to I need some uh Now you remembered. You know that if you would come every day to the bikes and kiss the like you do, then you wouldn't have that trial. And even if you still have that trial, you think that one effort is going to make a change? Because if it's predestined for you to be in that trial and be under stress, that one prayer is worthless. I'll get to how you with your prayers and all that sweeten things, change things. Don't go out of this door by saying I don't need to pray now or do anything like no no I'll touch that those little touch-ups what to do. But let's first get the concept. The idea is that your focus has to be on my spiritual world, my spiritual life. That's it. The same way that most of you don't care about your physical health, some of you are my students and you do care about your physical health. Why don't you care about your spiritual health? Assuming listen, I know half of you don't care about your spir your your health. You drink Coca-Cola. That that's enough for me. If you're willing to put this junk in your body, you don't care about your body or your health. And a lot of you are you want to nod, but you're like, if I nod, then I have to stop drinking Coca-Cola. And it's not that I'm trying to insult anybody, but most people don't care about their health, which is everybody can do whatever they want. But I can see already that most people who don't care about their physical health, they don't even care about their spiritual health. And the reality is that most people don't care about their spiritual health. Period. If a doctor will tell you to take a certain pill because it will reduce your cholesterol or your blood heart, how do you say the blood pressure or whatever, why you believe the doctor with all sorts of chemicals and junk that you think it's going to change your situation. But to believe Hashem that you will do a certain act, it will change your situation, then you don't believe and you don't do. So first of all, hopefully tonight you get your priorities check. You get your priorities set the right way because if the priorities are not set the right way, you will never operate the right the right way. So first of all, you have to understand that your goal in this world is how you getting to the world to come. If up until now you're not with me, leave the room. Okay? Nobody's getting up. So you all agree with me that the world to come, your spiritual world, that's what counts. Now apply that cuz neither one of you got up. Now apply that. Which means that starting from this second, what's in your focus is my spiritual existence which includes everything that I talked about. My spiritual existence in this world, my spiritual existence in the world to come, the future for me in the spiritual world, eternity, etc., etc., etc. Don't worry right now G know I'm going to end don't worry about this right now first understand that one day you close your eyes in this world and then you go to the next world all of you equally it doesn't matter who you are where you come from your your faith your background Jew non-Jew tall short it doesn't matter we all die at some point and when we die we all go to the same place and we all go through the same journey and of course not exactly the same you can uh help to make the journey worse or better. But at the end of the at the end at the end at the end at the end we all going to come to the place where we came from a spiritual world and neither one of us can imagine in our mind. We don't really know what it means and it doesn't really matter. This is not the end. This is nothing. This is sorry this world is is is a stop. You have to really put it down to do you want them to understand. Do you I I asked this question for the last half a year over and over. You're all noticing how time is going like that, right? You don't worried that it's over. It's over. It's almost over. then everybody's worried right now about nonsense. So first and most important is the view is the how you see things is that what I need to care about is my I need to care about what Hashem wants me to do. I need to care about my spiritual health because it will affect everything in your life. So before you come and ask for a blessing for parnasa for a child for your other half understand that your spiritual acts will affect your spiritual status which will affect what you get in this world. So before you ask for a blessing do an action. Once you understand that my goal is then this world becomes this much of a significance. It's the world to come that has now the significance and now my choices are based on that. Do you agree? Does anybody here don't agree with me? Once I understand that whatever I do here it's for the end result my approach changes my outlook changes the importance of this world changes reduces now my focus is on something completely else that's what you need to start with you don't do that you are walking on the same spot very very important I'm telling you as an outsider looking from the outside and gave me a very sharp eye. I can look from the outside and see many many different things. Sometimes people come and ask me a question, they give me a two-hour introduction. I don't need the two-hour introduction. I need the details within 3 minutes. I will understand and what I don't understand, I will ask. So, I can tell you already I see things as they are and I see how most people are walking in the same spot. In the beginning, you smile at everybody, but after 20, 30, 40, 50 years of going on a on the you know, the wheel like the hamster does, you get tired. And when you get tired spiritually, it will manifest in this world that you are tired physically and you're unhappy physically most of the cases. And thank you. Yeah. Yeah, we're going to do that. Most people are spiritually tired. Everything is a effort and everything is hard and everything is a challenge. No, I had that stick. It broke. Now, did you see the what he does? Half of your miseries. Half of your miseries you are in charge of by the way. So again to summarize and move to the next step priorities. Your priority your priorities have to be the right priority. Okay. Now we're going to have a an adjustment break. If you don't have the right priorities, nothing will work. Nobody do now. I don't know if it's affected the live. So maybe the people online if you can hear me or see something or don't see that you let me know. Wait a minute. Okay, the ones online, can you hear me? See me? Oh, good. Good. I just did something on the screen. I don't even know why I did that. Okay, as long as you see me. You see me? Well, you hear me? Well, good. First step, priority. What you need to do when you leave this word room tonight is set your priorities. And I know it's extremely hard because tonight you'll be excited to set that priority but tomorrow that priority moves to the side because you wake up hungry so you need to think of food and then you wake up tired so you need to want to sleep more and then you got a few messages that you need to pay some bills so you need to work and suddenly you are distracted and you need to go to the next uh to the next step. So here up. So you have to make sure this is your priority. And my recommendation, write it on the wall, put it on your fridge, put it on your screen saver that this is my priority. I already have it natural. I already constantly think four steps how it's affecting my spiritual state and how it's affecting my there's a story in the Gar and there's different versions I'll tell you the short version about certain Tana that was very very holy but at the same time was very poor and at some point they were so poor they didn't even have money money to eat and the short version of the story is that at some point he was praying to Hashem, I I really need I don't even have food to buy food for. I don't even have money to buy food for Shabbat. Hashem made a miracle after his prayers and threw down to this world a leg, a [clears throat] leg of a table made out of gold. >> Gold. Can you imagine like a leg of a table made out of a piece of gold? Needless to say, he had a lot of money to buy food, to do many things, buy some Bitcoin. Well, 2,000 years ago, Bitcoin was like a cent. But uh but nevertheless, once his wife saw all this money, she was like, "Where do you have this money?" He's like, "Oh, don't I pray to Hashem and there was a miracle. I got some gold." At night, she went to sleep and she dreamt about a beautiful meal in Ganedin. beautiful big table, a lot of sadikim around the table and something was very difficult to see is that that table was missing a leg. And she told him, "You give the leg back. I don't want my table in Ganedan to miss a leg. If I need to be poor in this world, then I'll be poor in this world. If that's what Hashem wants me to be, if that's what Hashem wants for me, then I'll I'll I'll I'll accept it. But if I'm not going to change what Hashem wants. Now to reach to a level that you accept everything that Hashem puts in you, that's a high level. But that's what is requested from you. Hashem wants you to understand that everything is done for you. So when Hashem puts you in some corner or with some difficulty, he's guiding you. He's guiding you where you need to go. Because most people don't see the road map that Hashem made. Trust me, you do not want to change the code that Hashem wrote your mazal. You don't want to change your mazal. Everything is written there. If you want to change your mazal, you it's going to come on the account on something else. I already took to consideration a long time ago. If Hashem wants me to have money, he'll give me money. If he demands me not to have money, then I'm not going to have money. Whatever Hashem wants me to have, that's what I'm going to have. Two big things that are worrying many people is money and finding their other half. When it's coming to finding your other half, most people operate on what they think. How many times have I met a couple or a a woman or a man which a shiduk a match was presented the person brushed it off right away he's like this he's like that and the answer is always the same but what if that's your basher or you think you're going to marry a Mr. perfect. Your basher, you either have has a lot of problems, a lot of difficulties. He's not a perfect individual or a perfect girl. Nobody's perfect. First of all, look at the mirror. You're not coming with such perfection to the to the to the relationship. But you such a hit. No, look at the mirror. You know, understand you're not that great yourself. Now, that means that the other person is not going to be that great. But you really look in the mirror and you think that you're that great. I hope not. I hope you don't look in the mirror and be like, "Wow, wow, Hashem, what he did here?" That's the sad reality of most people. They look in the mirror and they see perfection. You're not close to perfect. You're not even close. Me, too. Not that I think that I'm, but I at least I'm realistic. I look in the mirror, I I see what I see the truth. I don't look in the mirror and see like a a 20-year-old attractive man. No. So, don't look in the mirror and think you are you. Besides, who says that your other half is going to be a symbol of perfection? That's the problem with most people. They turn off the the shid the match because it's not Mr. or Mrs. perfect. Then I have good news for you and bad news for you. They're both the same. Your spouse is not perfect because you're not. That's it. Once you understand that your goal is the world to come, then you need to add on that that the road map, your mazal, the predestined information, you don't want to change. Trust me, you don't want to change that. Hashem designed it perfectly for you to a point that it cannot be done perfect. Now why did Hashem design this path for you? Because the path that Hashem designed for you in this life is the perfect path for you to reach to the highest place in the world to come. I'll repeat that. The path, the mazal, the predestined situation in your life is the best option to bring you to the highest level. Why would you want to change anything? You don't want to change anything. So now it means that you are with the mazan that Hashem gave you. If Hashem decided for you not to make money, is it a bad thing? >> You all don't agree. You all, I need money. >> Which car? >> Nissan Pathfinder. >> There's a Nissan Pathfinder who's blocking what? A driveway >> across the street. >> Across the street? Nissan Pathfinder. Anyone? >> Okay. >> They're very upset. >> They should be. But if anybody maybe it's not anybody from the crowd. If anybody here has a Pathfinder Nissan. >> Oh, okay. >> Maybe announce downstairs. Uh you do not want to change your mazal. Bad idea. Hashem designed it the best way for you. So why would you want to go against it? You need to now figure out what's the mazal. what's the path, what's predestined and work around it and come to the the realization that you're not going to get all what you want what you want in this life. Life is like a ferris wheel. One time you're up, one time you're down, one time you're rich, one time you're poor, one time you this, one every life that you come here, you have a different role. It takes a long time to disconnect the thought of what I want in this world versus what I want in the world to come. Right now, most people are in the mode that they care about this world because the option of the world to come doesn't come to you. Can you imagine somebody coming and showing you a beautiful BMW? What do you want? This beautiful BMW or another another elevation in the world to come. Then nobody can present to you this situation for you to say, "Oh, I actually want a better position in Grened and I forget about the money." Therefore, I came to tell you that whatever you want in this world, it doesn't mean you're going to get it. That's why my prayers are not for things in this world. I don't waste my time on things for this world. Whatever wants me to have, he will give me. I have the option of making it more or less. We'll talk about very soon. Don't worry. But why do I want to change anything? Why do I want to go against the the the the path? Why do I want to go against the stream of what Hashem gave me? Therefore, the Torah comes and teaches you always humble yourself. You know, the highest level of of self refinement is to reach to a place of of humility and and and shaflut. Now, it doesn't mean that you become ashmate. Mosher Rabenu was the most humble person in the history of all mankind to a point that that's what the Torah defined him. It didn't define him as a great prophet. You know that there's nobody going to be ever a greater prophet than Moshe Rabenu. Not even Mashiach. Mashiach is smarter in wisdom. Greater than Mosher Rabenu in prophecy Moshe. Nobody will ever be a prophet like Moshe Rabenu. So why isn't he called Mosh Moshanavi? Should be Moshanavi or Moshame. He's called Mosher Rabenu. our teacher, he's teaching us that the way to come to Hashem is through an is through accepting what Hashem wants from me. It doesn't mean that you're making yourself less. It means that I humbly accept what Hashem wants. Mashem wanted Mosha Rabenu to be a leader. Moshe says, "No, I'm not interested. I don't want to. I don't want to be a leader." Hashem told him, "I'm not asking you. I'm telling you what in the design you are." So, he accepted. He didn't like it. He didn't want to. But that he didn't ask any questions. Mosher Rabenu is our teacher to teach us that the way to come to Hashem is through Anava. And the Anava means that I don't have much of a say. I don't have much of an opinion. My opinion doesn't really matter. What matters is Hashem. That's it. And when I humble myself in front of Hashem, then I jump three steps forward to start walking on the path that Hashem wants me to go on because I don't fight with with the results that I'm not happy with. If I'm unhappy with the result, then I try to do things. Now imagine now just for the sake of the example, the path that you need to walk on five years, you need to have financial struggles. Now what happens in those five years? All that you do is occupied with the financial struggle. How am I going to get more money? Maybe I get another job. And you worry and you stress and you lend money and all. Can you imagine just stepping back and saying, I don't need to stress about all that because it's not going to change. If Hashem wants me now to be without money, there's a reason for that. He wants me to work on my ama. He wants me to work on my prayers. He wants me to work on a million things. >> Not going to answer. So I know you have a lot of questions. Hashem is the one who's guiding you. If you ever try to do something by yourself, you have to be very very special individual to do it by yourself. Most people need some type of a guide. They need a trainer. They need a uh somebody who gives them inspiration. And I mean everybody needs some type of a mentor or some somebody who kind of guides you what to do, a coach because most people don't know how to do it by themselves. Now, now imagine now the personal trainer that comes to make you work. He tells you do A, B, and C. Do you agree with everything that he tells you? A dietician or a physician comes and tells you you need to do A, B, and C. Do you agree with everything? No. But in most of the cases you just listen because that person is the professional and I need to listen to them. You go to guidance to many people and you listen. Hashem says you don't need all that guidance. I am the guidance. I am putting you in the path you need to go on. All you need to do is make room for Hashem. Humble yourself and understand that's what Hashem wants me to deal with right now. Why? I'll get to that in a few minutes. So like I told you first focus on that's the switch in your mind. If you don't do that you're wasting your time. You'll wake up every day in the morning in same place. You're not going to move much. I'll see you in more and more and more lectures and I'll tag you as the ones who look the same for 10 years and not in your appearance in your spiritual growth. My entire focus is how am I growing in this world and how am I achieving what Hashem wants me to do and the only way of doing it is walking on the path that Hashem designed for me. I'm not trying to reinvent the wheel or make a path that it's not my path to reach to that level of understanding only through there's no other way of doing it. And I know a lot of people are not familiar with what does it mean? How do I do it? Anava means that Hashem is number one. I'm always number two. That's it. Whatever he says, that's the last word. Whatever he wants, that's what's going to happen. If I'm successful, thank you, Hashem. I'm a failure. Thank you for giving me the opportunity. I'm never upset. I'm not disappointed. I understand that I'm being led on a certain path because I need to walk certain steps which I don't understand. Don't try to understand. Just walk on the steps and walk on the steps with humility and a smile on your face because Hashem is doing you a favor. So when you are going through a challenge, it's not to torture you. It's not to drive you crazy. It's that's the path you need to walk on. And if you are single for 10 years and you're not so happy with the situation, then that's the path Hashem wants you to walk on. So don't complain and don't whine and have the the the hope and the amuna that Hashem is do. He knows what he's doing and take advantage of the time that you're single for doing many different things because once you get married you can't do most of the things that you need to do while you're single. So you have to seize opportunity. If I'm single right now, Hashem wants me to be single. It's not [snorts] that I'm doing something wrong. is not that you're stopping your mazal. You know what you need to do in order to stop your mazal? You know what sins you need to do? You need to do well a lot of people do that. Mazal comes from the word in Aramaic what's called lzol something that comes from the world above. Your mazal is all the spiritual and physical tools that hashem designed for you to reach to your best rectification. Every person that has a job in this world like a profession there's tools for that. You are a carpenter you have tools for a carpenter. You are a mechanic there's tools for a mechanic. You are a dentist there's tools for a dentist. You cannot switch the tools. So Hashem gave me what's called the mazal. That's the predestined map. But that's the tools for me to use to reach to my to my perfection. So that's what needs to interest me. Not if I make money, not if I'm happy, big house, small house, that's secondary. I'm not telling you not to think about it. I'm just saying that's secondary. The highest priority spirituality, less priority, the physical. And the mazal that Hashem gave me I'm repeating is my is the spiritual tools the khim that hashem gave me to reach to my tikun. So if in my mazal is to be very rich that's the the tools that hashem gave me to lead me to my tikun. I must need to give a lot of charity. I must use my money for a lot of good things. Hashem gives somebody a lot of money. It's not to buy properties. That's the business plan. That's the the the business part of it. But the money has to be used if somebody's extremely rich. Not telling you in percentage, but that person is the tikun is just giving all this money. You use the money for your wealth, for your business, for all that. But the majority has to go for it's a big to be rich. And by the way, when you have a lot of money and you're not using that money, you'll come up to Shmay and then you're going to have to deal with that that they gave you a lot of money that is not yours to do a rectification and you did not and that's a problem. You're going to face a problem one day. And if Hashem gave you wisdom, it's for you to teach it and to share it. Hashem gave you kindness. Whatever Hashem gave you, you need to figure out very quickly what is the map, what is the route you need to walk on. Because everything that Hashem gave you, it's your tools, perfect tools to reach their perfect tikun, your rectification. Take my word, trust me on that. You do not want to come to the world to come and find out that you wasted 70 years in this world. And that's most people. That's most people. And they already realize that when they're still alive in their 70s and 80s. What did I do? What did I achieve? What did I change? Who did I affect? Trust me, you do not want to go through this world and wake up one day and understand and realize that you missed your opportunity. It's not about scaring and not about getting on. You're going to be burning and g. I'm not telling you that. I'm just telling you you're going to be extremely disappointed the moment you leave your body. And then you can't reverse anything and then you can't use any of the tools that Hashem gave you. So really in this world you have the opportunity to reach to the highest level of your existence. That should be your highest priority. How are you leaving this world? Now that you understand that, take all the tools that Hashem gave you, your mazal. And I'm saying tools and mazal. Hashem gave you a wife. She gave me a very special wife. In many situations, she pokes in the right place to go get me out of all my khim. She is the most professional to find the the point where can drive me the most nuts. I told her once, she's the person that knows me the most. She knows all my secrets. She sees me sleeping. She sees me in the shower. She sees me in the bathroom. She sees me in stress. She sees me in all situations. So, she knows the most of me. And Hashem gave her the talent to find very quickly all my my points. She doesn't need to work hard. One word it takes. What would take you five months, she does it in a blink of an eye. >> Sometimes she smiles, sometimes she doesn't. It comes naturally, doesn't not that she's focusing on it. Now, do I need to perceive her now as an evil individual, as a bad wife? I want another wife. I need to find another wife. That's what I hear from many men literally today. I hope he's not watching cuz he says he's was always watching the live. [laughter] >> Yeah. No, no, no. He's I don't know if he's here. I don't see him here, but somewhere today I stopped to get a cup of coffee. I walk in. Obviously, you understand it's a coffee shop and not a mechanic store. But nevertheless, I walk in, you just run away, pictures, all that. And and then he looks at me. And I'm not giving any details, so don't worry. Nobody knows it's you. [laughter] Uh and then he tells me, "What's going on with the women today?" I don't know. I don't know all of them. I know only one. No, it's not like my mother. Doesn't matter what I do. Can't make her happy. And then he's questioning me. You know, I'm in a huge rush. And he's I have a question. I heard that. I wanted to answer him. You know, that maybe you are the problem. No offense, I don't know you, but every coin has another side. And in every marriage there's somebody on the other side. It takes two to tango. So it's not that you are the symbol of perfection and she's like driving you nuts. It's 50/50. By the way, take responsibility. The attitude of most married people is that the spouse is here to make my life a living hell. Hashem brought me this man to just make me miserable. That's what most people think. So when I say that my wife knows all my points where depress is not because say she's evil. She's her. I don't try to change her. I don't ask her to change for me. I never did that. Please do this. Please do that. No. the form she came in, that's how she is. And I'm telling you, with all the great love that I have for her, she knows how to get me. So, in my eyes, that's the best candidate for me to live with. I don't need a wife that smutzes me all day long and cooks for me whatever I want. And, oh, you're so amazing. And I have you guys to tell me that. I don't need to hear that from my wife. Le my wife is the complete opposite. Never heard any of my classes, maybe three. My wife is not here to be my fan. My wife is here to make me a much better man. That's what that's the design. That's the role. Pretty, not pretty, it doesn't matter. good cook, less good cook, irrelevant. This woman was placed in front of me to make me the 2.0 version of myself. So, I have great admiration, great respect, huge patience, and I understand that she's not coming ever from a a bad place. Even when she says something or [snorts] Hashem gave her all the tools to find all my weak points to bring me to realize that you can say whatever you want about me. I don't care. You know what people say on me online. I read sometimes the comments. Some of them are very entertaining. You should see the comments that people wrote about me five six years ago after corona when I started to talk. the comments that people wrote about me. Very entertaining. I don't care. I actually don't care what people think about me, what talk about me. I actually don't care. I care what Hashem thinks about me and that's it. It's the only entity that I care what thinks about me. What you say about me. There's one person in the world that I do care what they say is my wife because I know that every word that comes out of her mouth is divine. It's a message from Hashem for me to learn and to hold my anger and to hold to be patient and to forgive and to know to step back and to lower my ego and lower my cavode. It's just to make me a better person. If I answer back, if I lose my temper, if I think of her anything less than amazing, then I'm a I'm the fool. Shem gives me the tool to make me a better person. And I would look at that tool and try to replace it. If I need to be without money now, that's part of the kaleim, the tools, the mazal to get me to the place that I need to get to. And I will try to change it. Now, I'm saying that as a side note that I'm not going to forget. It doesn't mean you don't have to pray for your and if somebody's sick to pray for the health that's a different aspect right now you know that if you wouldn't lack anything no offense you wouldn't pray for anything and you wouldn't do nothing. So when Hashem takes a little some things from you because he wants you to pray. So many of the time, Hashem takes your parasa, takes your other half, takes something in your life, puts it on hold for you to get to do something. How many times you did something, you gave extra charity or another chapter of the or something cuz you wanted something to happen in your life. >> [snorts] >> So, Hashem is actually using that for to kind of like pull you, you know, like you put it in front of an animal, you put like something and the animal it goes around. That's what Hashem does with you. >> So, next time something is negative in your life right away, you stop it. It's not negative. It's the best thing that ever happened to me. Hashem now sent me now a clear message where I need to go. It's the best thing ever. Hashem made a map to my life. I don't need to think of anything. Everything is ready for me. I just need to read the signs. That's it. Now, if I want to read the signs, there's only one way you can do it. If you humble yourself, it's not about what I think. It's about what Hashem wants. It's not about what I want. It's what Hashem wants. That's the I'm talking about. Somebody comes and insults me. Hashem wanted me now to be insulted. Shut up. You are going to win your eternity if you just know how to hold your mouth. Hashem is leading you to the best place you can reach to the highest level of your success to a point that you're going to look back and be like, I cannot believe what I have achieved. Therefore, the tools that Hashem is throwing into your directions are the best things that ever happened to you. Whether you lonely, whether you poor, whether you sick, I'm not wishing you all that. I'm wishing you success, health, everything. I'm wishing you all the best. But the reality is that when you have some misfortune, I see it as where Hashem is putting the hints on the way for you to figure out where you're going. I don't look at the problem and try to find a solution. I look at the problem and reverse engineer what Hashem is telling me because Hashem cannot talk to you face to face. So he gives you hints and the hints come through situations and these situations are your guide. So first of all in order to summarize this part of the lecture everything in your life is to get you to the world to come to your eternity to the place where you're going to be eternity for all you realize what eternity means. Most people don't understand that. I hope you all realize I know it's hard to swallow that one day you close your eyes and your eyes open up in a different place and usually happens like that. It's not with a preparation. And a lot of people are afraid of that. I don't want to die. I'm afraid what's going to happen. You wake up from this 70 years dream. That's what happens. Now, do you want to wake up from a 70-year nightmare or a dream? So, first of all, what you need to do tonight when you walk out this door, switch. Switch in your mind. Doesn't mean that tomorrow you have to become the Babasali. It means that you need to have a switch in your mind that every step that I do is for the end. The Torah says in every path that you walk, recognize Hashem. Yeah. Because that's what takes you to the place you want to come to. Do you want to have now a very big meal and to be hungry for the rest of the week or you want to eat every day the same portion? Don't look at what you lack in this world. Look at what you gain in the world to come. Being poor for 20 years is nothing compared to being poor for eternity. So first step you need to apply is the switch in my mind. Everything that I do is designing my world to come. Second thing I need to understand that the ganu has designed for me the perfect path to reach to the best option, highest success. I don't want to change that. Let me figure out that path. Some of the paths are very similar. In most of the cases, it's ups and down and ups and downs and one time you up and one time you're down and one time you're good and one time you bad and happy and sad. And that's that's the rhythm of life. And all that again is the khim is the tools that Hashem gave you to reach to the next step that you need to reach to. If you apply that, A, you'll guarantee yourself a good place in eternity. B, you guarantee yourself that this life will be successful according to the design of Hashem and you will be happy. Now comes the big big question. If everything is predestined, then why do I need to do anything? Does my prayer make any difference? Sometimes I give charity. I mean the Torah says I give charity can save me from death. And we do find many references that when I do something it does affect me in this world. You know that if you give 20% of what you earn, the Torah guarantees to you you're going to be rich. Who gives your 20% of what they make? Charity. Wow. No one. Oh, you're just shy. You really? >> Yeah. I'm talking about by the way. Who? Who? No. No. 20% not 10%. 20% is called the Torah says give twice% you'll be rich to a point that Hashem says test me on this. You don't have to test Hashem. I'm the proof. It works. It works. It actually works. Test Hashem. But I know for a fact that there's maybe three people in this room that actually give masil. The majority just give saddaka and they say, "Oh, I give a lot of charity. It's it's in the 10%." Wrong. To give myself, you need to calculate your income and to calculate your expenses and to reach to an amount that is exact. $37822. That's the check, not 400. It's about 10%. So, I'm already telling you, you're doing it wrong. Two weeks ago, a week ago, I gave a class in in in Denver and I explained about the masot. And I also said that soon after I returned to Israel, I'm going to start a whole series of teaching how to do masot with a lot of interesting things coming with it. started developing an app that will help you calculate the masro something very very special. I highly recommend for you to join it and learn it because that is something you all don't do and you're obligated and it's not even your money. So going back to what I'm saying, how the Torah can come and tell me, oh give more money and you'll be rich. So now I changed now the the map or if I go now to some sadik and he gives me a blessing. How many times you went to a rabbi he gave you a blessing and it happened or how many times you went and it didn't happen but you still go but there's a many references in the Torah that says that if you will do A B and C it will affect you. So that totally contradicts what we just said. It's extremely important to know that you have the ability to change things in this world. Extremely important. [clears throat] The structure you cannot change. Like I told you with the building, you cannot change the structure. You don't want to change the structure. It's extremely not recommended to do that because the the suffering that will have to come in that respect is not worth it. Besides the fact that you have to understand that Hashem created the code to the world to change your part is changing everything. So Hashem can do whatever he wants. But you don't want that. You want to stay with the structure what Hashem gave you inside. Then you have a way to affect it. How I said the design and all that. I like looking at in a completely different way. The origin where you start cannot change. The destination cannot change. The path is the you can only go on that route. Now imagine that what I said now you're going on a journey on a train. Train is very long. You can sit in the front of the train. You can sit in the back of the train. You know that if you sit on the right side of the train, this is your view. And if you sit on the left side of the train, this is your view. Same origin, same destination, same train, same driver of the train, same stops, same company, everything is the same. That's your journey. how you walk on that journey. Ah, you decide where you position yourself. You can look at this view. You can look at this view. Shem will give you the same wife. You can choose that she's the most amazing woman in the world or you can choose that she's annoying you. So, you kind of affecting your marriage. She's going to be the same wife, same cooking, same everything. Amazing wife, less amazing. Good marriage, less good marriage. No, it doesn't work like this black and white because if in the mazal is to have a bad marriage, it doesn't matter how much you're going to like her, it's going to be a mad marriage. And unfortunately, some people that's their mazal. Some people their mazal is to lose a child for the person that has to go through that. Some people their mazal is to lose their health as they live their life. They lose an arm, a legal, [snorts] their eyesight. Every day there's car accidents. Every day people change their physical way of living. That might be the mazal. You can't change that. So there are many things in your life that you cannot change. And the mazal is very bitter. Losing a loved one, losing a child, losing parts of your body, health, people go through things. That's the mazal. That's what you have to go through. Fight it as much as you want. It's not going to change. So, some things you cannot change. Sometimes I look at certain couples and I say there's no there's no hope. That's your mazal. Don't get divorced because it's going to make it worse. Stick with it. That's what you need to do. Swallow the pill. I know you don't want to hear it. That's what you have to hear. And that's the same thing with parasan. Many many different things. But then it leaves me again with the question. So do I need to pray? Do I not need to pray? Should I pray? Should I ask? Should I do anything? There's so many different remedies. Why is there remedies? I will bring it back to the same example. You're riding on the train. You can change the view, but the origin and the destination stays the same. You choose how you see the view. So you can come to terms with the fact that you don't have much money and and enjoy life in another way. I have a friend, I mentioned him in my classes so many times. Brilliant guy for many many years for about 15 years. every idea that he had the next startup ideas you can't even imagine but brilliant ideas and he always had the the tools the excitement he would develop it nothing worked ever and he would push and push and woo and you know what it made him do how much he would pray and how much sedaka he gave and he did everything because he wanted the business ventures to be successful After a decade, he told him, "No offense, my dear friend. I don't think your mazal is to be rich or wealthy. Your mazal, I think, is in a completely different way. You are bright in the Torah. You're smart. Your mazal is to to be in the world of the Torah." Okay. Our paths parted for a while. And when I met him again after a few years, he told me, "I learn in koh all day long. I have a wife. I have two girls. I'm happy." He was just a happy individual. Took him a long time to realize that that's his path. Took a lot of work for him to understand I will not ever be rich. It's not my mazal to be rich. It's not my mazal to be the next startup. You know what the joke is? That now he's a he sits and learn to all day long. Could very much be that in 10 years then he's going to get the money. Sometimes it's the it's the time when you get it. If I'm going to give now a 17-year-old $10 million, he'll blow it up. So sometimes Hashem says, "You're not mature to get now the money. You're going to waste it. You're going to do nonsense. I have to give it to you when you're going to be mature. So, I don't want to go too much with examples because it's going to waste too much of our time. I think you get the idea. The reason why Hashem tells you to pray and you hear many remedies and we hear many references that you can change things like I told you you change the view of your route you change the view of your path but you don't change the structure of the map now is the secret that you need to focus on the route you cannot change destination the origin the form that stays the same. Enjoy it and not only enjoy it, benefit from it. Be appreciative. Most people are not appreciative. I thank I I thank Hashem for giving me a good wife. Could have gave me a not good wife, which I will deal with, but he spared me and he gave me a very good wife. Now, if you're looking from the side as a third party, you would say, "I don't think she's a good wife to him." If you would observe from the side, and if I think about it in my physical brain, if I would go by my list of demands, like most men, she needs to be beautiful and gorgeous and thin and tall and cook like. And when you go by the list, it never fits what you want. I don't I never had a list. When the Shar came to me, what are you looking for in your wife? I said, she needs to be a woman. That's where it ends. No, but how you tall, short, I don't care. [clears throat] Blue eyes, I don't care how she looks. I don't care about anything. Just give me the right wife. Because of the attitude, the external part and many others was exact what I looked for. And why? Because the map was already predestined. Which means that Hashem already programmed in my mind what I'm going to like, what I'm going to be attracted to, what's going to be the points of interest that will be attracting me to her. The reality is that my wife holds a spark that belongs to me. Like godly spark. So I'm attracted to my wife because I want that spark, not because she's beautiful or because she has beautiful hair or eyes because that spark. So I didn't look for the external look. I looked for that spark that pulls me towards her. And when I was dating, I didn't care what was the date. She's young, old, married, divorced. My wife 10 years is driving me crazy. She's like, "You got to do shim." Yeah, I'm really bored. I have nothing else to do. But then to deal now with a bunch of single people. So she's like, "No, no, you got to do shim. You got to do shim." So finally, we got to do it. We developed a very special software that works in a certain way. You fill in all your information, all the questions that the the application will ask you and it will go into the database and find the matches based on all your answers. But then once the match is in a certain level, then the Khan will come in and start doing it manually. When you're looking from the side, this software is designed not for your interest. It's working on a I don't want to use the word AI, but it's working on a system that it finds the true match, not what you see because you see something that you you're looking for something you want to see. That's not what Hashem wants you to see. So the right way I'm giving you constantly examples with my wife. Nothing wrong with her, by the way. I love her. She's beautiful. She's amazing. Cooks great. Everything's good. By the way, I'm not complaining. She's an amazing wife. I'm just saying that how Hashem designed her, he designed her in a way that I will be attracted to her. He planted in my mind whatever I need to be attracted to that woman. And it works the same way with everything. If you're destined to live in this stinky city, then Hashem will make it for you that you like it here. The reality is that neither one of you like it here. You're just stuck here. I was stuck here for 20 years. Come tomorrow, I'll teach you how to get unstuck. But the reality is that if I'm supposed to live in a certain place, Hashem will pred pre-programmed it in my mind that I like the view and I like the weather. I don't know how you're living in this weather. I actually don't know how human beings live in weather like this. I suffered when I lived in New York. I actually suffered when I lived in this country. that you said. Can you write this for me now? Go up to Shamine with us. >> She said that the suffering that I went through living in New York is reducering suffering in the world to come. So I asked her to write that and and sign. I'll come and show it to God when I go up. So if this is the case, stay in New York. You're going to go to Wherever you're destined to be, whatever you're supposed to do, Hashem pre-programs in your mind that you're going to like it, that you're going to look for it, that you're going to go after that. You are attracted to blue, I'm attracted to green. You are attracted to to to sweet, I'm attracted to sour. Whatever it is, it's not you. It's Hashem leading you where you need to go. So you have to bring yourself to a place of great appreciation to the kindness and the that Hashem did to you instead of complaining that your wife is annoying or your husband is annoying and your is not doing that well. When things go bad in my life, I don't turn to find a solution to the problem that I have. I read between the lines. You know, you're very good with doing this. So start reading between the lines. Open the lines and liberty between the lines. If right now I am lacking parasa and what drives me now to go and pray more is because I'm lacking the parasa now reverse engineer and understand that hashem is telling you in other words I need you to pray more that's your for your you don't pray enough you don't pray with the right intention you don't put importance to that so I'm going to take away something from you so you will come back to the line where you need to go to like the lane assist when the cars you go off the track then they the system throws you back into the lane. So 50% of the things that you've been that Hashem takes from you is just to get your attention just to get your attention. Therefore, and the holy books tell you something lacking in your life, increase in prayer, increase in charity, do chuva. That's it. Do chuva. Repent for something you did. That's what I do with my kids. Now, I'm not an annoying father that if you do something bad, I take your your bike. That's not the system. The system is that I try to teach my kids what Hashem is teaching us. Take responsibility for your own actions. Something is lacking in your life. Don't pursue what's lacking. Whether it's money, your other half, a place to live, you have some type of a deficiency in your life. Something's lacking in your life. Don't focus on what's lacking. Reverse engineer. What is the hint? What does Hashem want you to do? you have issues with paranas. Hashem is telling you maybe you have gazel, maybe you're stealing something and you're not even noticing. Maybe you're not working in in an honest way. In most of the cases I can tell you, you're not paying you are a thief. You don't have to raise your hand. It's just for the I want to for the for the example. Who here has financial difficulties, struggles? You can raise your hand. So we can see what's going on. Only one person. I didn't see much Mercedes and BMWs outside. Anybody here has issues with Parnosa finding it struggle to make money? Only two people. I cannot believe. How come you're not buying all my life if you have so much money? I guess you're all shy. It's okay. If Hashem takes away your parasa or he's making it difficult for you with your parasa, with your livelihood and everything that has to do with your parasa, it does not mean that your mazal is to be poor. It means very simple, Shem wants your attention. And why does he want your attention? Because as you're walking on your path, you are neglecting the true and important details for your tun. So he's going to have to help you with that. If you have problems with your pan, you might not be giving charity. You might might not do give m. Most of you don't give mas and you are obligated. It's not your money. You're not giving that money. You're stealing money from Hashem. Worst of all, it's not your money. I know sometimes it's hard. I'm educating my kids. My kid told me, you know, I just made 5,000 shekels. You know, 500 shekels 10% it's a lot. I say, "Well, sir, thank you. One day you want to make $1 million." No, you're dreaming. You're making money. When When are you going to make that $1 million? You're going to have to pay $100,000 in Mel. Are you ready for that? Not so easy to give 100 grand just like that. It's not your money. And if you don't give it, you are a thief. You are stealing from Hashem. And then you wind it. you don't have parasa and that can be one reason out of many. I'm just trying to enlighten you that something lacks in your life. It's not that the mazal or the predestined and all that is not work. You are doing something. Now I don't want to take you to the department that that when you sin severely all that you do is you blocking the abundance the shea to come down to you through the spiritual channels from the world above to the world below then there's nothing wrong with your mazal there's nothing wrong with what you're you're predestined you are damaging it you know there's an application in Israel it's called bit. You transfer money. It's kind of like a PayPal. It's only like a zel. It's like a, you know, a third party. But when you send me money with bit, I need to approve it. Sometimes people send me money and I didn't get it. You didn't approve it. Many times Hashem sends you something. As long as many of the times when you're lacking something is you stopping the abundance from coming down with your sins. So it's not that something's wrong with the map or you were predestined. You are responsible for that. That's already your sins that you are stopping the shea and then of course you're missing parasa health marriage problems come that's for Hashem to tell you wake up you you are damaging something here that's it. So that's one department. But in many of the situations, you are the one who are stopping from getting what you're supposed to. Whether it's with your sins or whether with your decisions. That's why is required humility. Now I want to read to you something very very powerful and this I think will kind of conclude for you what what's the major point that we need to to focus on. I want to read to you something what teaches the Rambam Rambam teaches that inva chapter [clears throat] 5 and he says something interesting the choice is give it to every person if he wants to turn himself to a righteous path and be at sad He has his own choice to do that. If you want to look to the other direction and be wicked, you have the choice to do that. Why is that? Because Hashem wants you to know with your own understanding and your own thought that you should separate between good and bad. That's what Hashem gave you a free choice that you can contemplate ah good bad and not only that that you should now choose what you want to do. This is good this is bad. choose. Nobody's standing to stop you from doing the good or the bad. Him by his own opinion and his own path and his own decisions, he will choose the path he goes on. This is not contradicting what I said before. The path the mazal is predestined. What the raam is just saying is the analogy I gave you with the train. You choose if you look to this direction or you choose to look to that direction. Where are you positioning yourself on the train? You looking to the right, you choose the good or you choose the bad. The destination will be the same. The origin was the same. The result is going to be different. Mainly in the world to come and some in the world below. Now we have to understand that we are the only creature that was given that choice. Animals don't have this choice. A lion doesn't choose if he's going to eat today pasta or sushi. He goes after the prayer and that's it. And that's his nature and you cannot change it. Same thing with any animal. They don't have a choice. They eat what they eat. They grow where they grow. And that's it. They just function. Why am I different from every creature? Cuz I can choose good or bad. And this free choice is and and my actions are not necessarily contradicting my path. And from here comes the entire fundamental concept of what's called the sanctuary that the holiness of a human being that you can choose and you choose what's good and you choose what's bad. And in the reality of this world we see that we have array of types of behaviors. Sometimes I'm nice, sometimes I'm patient, sometimes I'm sleepy, sometimes I'm tired, sometimes I'm excited, sometimes I'm loud. I have many many ways of ways of expressing myself. But the person can express himself and behave like an angel and be good or express himself the complete opposite. You choose. It's not going to change the path you walk on. It's going to change the result. Do you understand the difference between changing the path and changing the result? You can change the path. Don't try to change the path. That is the path. That is the perfect path for you. You need to choose as you're walking on this path. The good and bad. Good and bad. That's the secret of existence. Hashem created the world. Put in told them Eat whatever you want. This tree don't touch. This is the tree of knowledge. This is the tree of life. And the whole concept of ganeden is when they sinned with the tree of knowledge is the concept of was called to when Adam and Kavas sinned they b brought down to this world the concept that there's other than kadusha other than hashem that there's some things that are good and some things that are bad. My job as a human being is to come to this world and to figure out what's good and what's bad. So the Torah tells me this is pure, this is impure. This is holy, this is not holy, this is kosher, this is not kosher, this is permitted, this is not permitted. The entire Torah is good, bad, good, bad. Now you need to walk on your path and to do it yourself. And why the result the master of the universe wants to give you a lot of merit a lot of place in the place to in the world to come. So he gave you a lot of Torah and mitzvot. Why do we come here? To better our behavior. That's why we came to this world to make my midot my attributes and my action better and that's why I told you in the beginning the result I started here says I want you here then when it comes up to the world above they show her where where it's holding we all want to come to Ganedan right great place to be do you think your Ganedan is the same Ganedan of Raishimon No, by the way is closest to you now. You're close to me. You see me. You hear me, you feel me. You at the end there. Woo. That's ganed. How close you are to Hashem. Because the closer you are to Hashem, you feel him more. You see the wisdom, you enjoy it. That's it. And gum is the opposite. how far away you are from Hashem. You determine your position in eternity. Can you understand that? You understand that? Now you have the ability to determine your position in eternity. Now just for the sake of example, imagine my position in eternity 30 years ago. Where was it? The exit. What can a person do in 20 years? Can you imagine the position right now in eternity? A little bit better than how it was 25 years ago. Now, when I'm looking at this business transaction, I'm like, "Oh, so you're telling me that if I learn another hour, a whole hour, my position in the world to come will be here? I don't want to do this cuz this doesn't get me anywhere. I want to learn that our Torah. Forget about how it's affecting my life right now. The reality is your your behavior does affect your life. I like bringing myself to the place that I'm not dependent on that. I don't wait for that. I do what I need to do not to get parasa. I don't give charity to get parasa. I give charity to have a better place in the world to come. I don't learn to or come and kiss the or whatever it is to figure out the situation. I do that because I want a place in the world to come. >> The reality I do that because that's what making Hashem happy. >> That's what I want. I want to make Hashem happy. I made him miserable with my 27 years of horrible behavior. It's time to give him some for all the good that he does to me. I want to give him something in this world. So to have in your back on your mind, I don't want reward in this world. I just want to make Hashem happy. The reality is that you get everything that you want when you want to make Hashem happy. You're like the number one child. When was the last time you thought of, "Oh, how can I make Hashem happy?" Ask yourself this question right now. Have you ever even asked yourself this question? What can I do to make Hashem happy? He gives me food. He gives me water. He gives me sustenance. He gave me a wife. He gave me kids. He gives me happiness, health, clothes, everything. I need to do something. I want to do something. Doesn't it make you want to do something to Hashem? That's the attitude. So going back, why are we created? Why we did were we brought to this world to refine your midot your attributes and my actions. If you behave the same today, how you behave 20 years ago, you wasted 20 years of your life. I told you some faces I recognized from 10, 15 years ago. Some look the same, some changed. The question is, how long is this challenge? The gone from VNA says till the last day of your life, you're going to have to fight this. But now listen to the most important message. what they going on from illnesses means to go through hardship. But he adds on that is not expecting you to fast and to do all sorts of torturing to yourself. Just controlling your mouth and your desires. That's the name of the game. controlling your mouth and your desires and the gna says that's chuva that's chuva are you doing that no that's the fruit to the world to come master that you are fulfilling your purpose your purpose is not to be a doctor or a lawyer or whatever you want to That's your mazala. That's a piece of tool to help you get to where you need to go to. So to summarize what you need to know first is your attitude is your how you see things your approach and the approach has to be very simple. Focused on myab that's it >> mayaba may the world to come. You know that one day eyes close it can happen to you tomorrow. I wish for your long life and I wish for Mashiah to come and we're not going to have to die. But the sad reality is that people die every day from car accidents, diseases. All day long I hear people die. Horrible things and many of the deaths are instant. You didn't have time to say goodbye. Literally a few weeks ago, friends of ours, the child goes on a how do you call them? These scooters, electric scooter, 21 year old boy. He falls. There's a pothole in the street. He falls, hits his head somewhere, internal bleeding, dies. Now, what happens to that man the second that that he dies? You think that he wakes up and [applause] all the angels from Jamaim are waiting for him? Most people they that's the point they realize that they messed up. So the outlook the focus is I want to do the good in the eyes of Hashem. I need to do what Hashem wants me to do. That's why I was brought to this world. Not to eat, not to drink, not to vacate, not to drive beautiful cars, not to enjoy po procreating, is to serve Hashem. And when I do it the right way, I will get what I need, not what I want. what I need my end goal is to come to the world to come much better than how I came to this world that's what my goal that's what my my oath that I took I asked that you did our soul asks to come down here and to refine itself when it sees a soul can be in ganed here it realizes that if it do does one little mitzvah it can go to the next ganedan Oh, how I see Ganed Eden is like a long big big big building. I just came now to New York from sunny Florida. I don't know why you don't live there. Well, I will recommend to live in Israel, but who needs all the these coats? Beautiful place. And I drove on the shore. Beautiful buildings. And I looked at the buildings and I was like, this is Ganedin, not Florida. the buildings because we all come to live in the same Ganedin. Some of us live on the second floor, some of us live on the 10th floor, and some of us live on the 40th floor. So the second floor, a two-bedroom apartment facing the gar the garbage bins. That's your But there's somebody who worked much harder in this world and he's on the 10th floor. four bedroomedroom apartments and a nicer view. And somebody worked even more hard in this world and he's in the 20th floor, six bedrooms, view to the beach. And some people live in the penthouse, threef flooror penthouse, indoor pool, outdoor pool, view from same building. Everybody's in the same building, same door, man. Just that some people are on the top and some people are on the bottom. You know what happens onesh there's a party in the penthouse the ganedon is opened for all the to come up for a glimpse in ganedon how it looks so you are all invited to the penthouse to a party caviar champagne beautiful everything gorgeous Monday enjoy now go down can you imagine what's going on in the thought process of that soul. I want to be in this ganedin. Ah, but you were too lazy complaining all day long and you didn't bother to learn Torah, give charity, do acts of kindness. You just went like this all day long. So you're in the third floor with a view to the garbage bin. Same building. And you had the opportunity throughout your life to grow to the 10th floor, to the 20th floor, to the 30th floor. Your life won't change. It will be the same life, same husband, same house, same problem, same issue, same kids, same same. What did you do to change? The focus is on the end result. That's the focus. What do I need to focus on? Only on Hashem. Not on my misery, not on my misfortune, not on my sadness, not on my singleness, not on anything. I focus on Hashem what Hashem wants me to do. First do what you are asked to do then complain. Do you do what Hashem asked you to do? You didn't. So don't complain. Now of course many will say ah I know many people who follow the Torah forbidden and they also suffer. That's their mazal. I know people who follow the Torah and they're very successful and everything is great. Half of our sages were wealthy, successful, and half of the sages were poor. That's the mazali was very wealthy. That was his mazal. Did he make him less of a rabbi? No. Did he make him less of a made him a better? He took the tool that Hashem gave him to apply for his tikun. Rebusha was very poor. very poor to a point that he didn't even have he was sleeping on on crates. po. You think he saw poverty? He didn't see poverty. When they asked him, "How can you live so poor?" He's like, "I'm poor." I'm not poor. Everything that you go through in your life is the tools to bring you to your destination. You can be ignorant and ignore it and suffer because you're going to bring on yourself much more suffering because you're not going on the right path. So Hashem closes all the doors so you to wake up to go back on your path and do chuva. So many of your misfortune is Hashem just taking your lollipop away so you can get your act together. But don't be mistaken because a lot of the misfortune that is the mazal and it won't change and don't fight it. And if you want clarity if that's the mazal then you need to spiritually refine yourself. You cannot see Hashem's e er h erh signs if you're not spiritually refined. So if you look at the wrong places, don't think you're going to be refined. And if you listen to the wrong things like or whatever, don't you're not going to be refined. And then it means you're not going to see the signs of hashem. What did he tell us the gna? Control your mouth >> and your that is what you need to focus on. Most people don't know how to control their mouth. Not with not with foul language, not with anything, not with how they eat, not with anything. So when you're wondering if your life can change, yeah, yeah, you can affect your life with good things, with bad things, the route cannot be changed. Don't try to change it. Don't pray to change it. Don't ask to change it. Don't work to change it. Walk humbly on the path you need to walk on. Have in your mind that my highest priority is what Hashem wants me to do. That's the mantra I have in my mind in every situation that I get into. What does Hashem want me to do right now? He wants me to laugh. He wants me to be quiet. He wants me to be patient. He wants me to be proactive. What does he want me to do? And you know how I get my answer? Not because I go to some rabbi and he tells me I work on myself. I refine myself. So the answer comes very simple. And how do I refine myself besides on a daily base that if the situation that I'm dealing with right now brings me to a place of anger? Then I need to refine myself. Don't get angry. Don't use foul language. Don't be judgmental. Be patient. Work on yourself. The situation will work out. Why get angry? I had a situation two days ago that I had all the rights to be angry. I was 100% right. I had the choice to scream, to yell, to be not nice, to be rude. Now, what would be the result? You think the other person would help me? You think the other person will work to my favor? You think that I'm doing any kushem here? Or maybe I'm doing I don't impulsively react. I kind of wait to see what does Hashem want. So this the order is very simple because you need to have it set very well in your mind when you're leaving the door tonight because Malik is waiting outside. It's like what is it 32 degrees outside? It's freezing. That's what Malik does. He freezes you. So is waiting outside to freeze you, to make you forget, to make you calm, to make you ignore. But you need to have a few set points in your mind when you leave this door tonight. It's all about my amaba. It's all about my spirituality. It's all about what Hashem wants. That's where it boils down to. And you don't need to have a long beard. I know what a lot of people say, "Oh my god, he wants me to be a religious." Now, I didn't tell you to be religious. I told you to walk on the path you need to walk on. You don't have to have a long beard or to be super duper observant to understand that that is the truth. If you argue with it, good luck. And it doesn't matter if you're observant or nonobservant. If you're Ashkanazi, Safari, Jew, no, it doesn't matter. It's the same thing. Doesn't matter who you are. If you don't live with this understanding from this door tonight, you wasted your time. That's the understanding that you need to go. That's what needs to motivate you. That what needs to drive you. my spiritual place, my spiritual result, the end result. Rule number one. Rule number two, the mazal that Hashem gave you, don't try to change it. Hashem designed it perfectly for you. For you. Exactly what your nishama needs. If your nishama needs more money, less money, nicer house, less nicer house. Exactly like what this lady said. Many of the sufferings that I'm going in this world is to clean me. Why are you trying to save that? You know that most of the problems that you go through is to clean your sins that you don't know how to do. You can't even do. You sin many. And even in a previous life, Hashem says, "I will bring some suffering to you. It will wash off the dirt." Shut up. You ever saw dirty clothes? A little kid goes out to the mud comes out. The clothes full of mud. You need to wash it with hot water. Put chemicals. Well, I don't do chemicals. You can do vinegar. You can do lemon. You can do many healthy things. Don't put the the what they you buy here, Tide Schmid, full of chemicals. Don't do that. Bad. Take care of yourself. But nevertheless, the washing machine removes all the stains. So now comes and tells you, "I'm going to put you in the washing machine." You say, "I don't want to." So just know some of your sufferings you. It's you. Don't complain. When I go through something, I right away look at myself. First of all, I look at myself. Maybe I did something wrong. And most of the times I find that I did something wrong. And in a very humble way, I do show up. That's it. If I can find that I did something wrong, then I take into consideration that this is removing now sins and dirt from my soul that I don't know or I can't do. Well, it doesn't matter how much Shuva I'm going to do, it's not going to work. I have to go through suffering. Suffering washes the soul. When you do sins, you damage the garments on the soul. like you put now I'll eat now a pa with humumus all over my my suit you think it's nice me coming now to lecture and having here ketchup no you want to walk into Grenedan with dirty garments no Hashem says I'll wash you so when I don't see a cause for my suffering meaning my behavior then I know that's why I say you say accept the hardship with love Hashem is cleaning you is doing you a favor got up, be humble, and accept it. And when you smile, the process goes faster. And if those two don't apply, then Hashem needs your attention. Something goes wrong, red lights, you're running out of fuel, the the light is blinking, running out of oil, the engine heats. Don't you want warning lights? So, all these are warning lights. Then Hashem is warning you. Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Something's going on. Let let me reverse engineer. That's your challenges. So the path you can't change. Don't try to change. Stay on the path. Learn the path very well. Learn yourself. Most people don't even know what they need to do. What's your difficulties? What's your challenges? Where do you need to refine yourself? And everything you need to get get better. that I cannot tell. You need to know where you're lacking and you need to constantly strive to become a much better person, much better husband, much better neighbor, much better everything. So the structure you don't change most of the stuff you don't change and you don't want to change. The reason why many people pray and give charity and do all these remedies is not for you to change the path. It's for you to remove the blockages of what you created with your sins. If you sin over and over and over and over and over, and I'm not judging anybody. I sin, too. We all sin. And don't b don't be hard on yourself. Learn how to fix it. If you sin and then you go to the next sin, you lost. If you sin and you do chuva and you return, that's what Hashem wants. So I cannot change the path but the prayers that I'm required to do and the charity and the remedies and all these things that I'm that's chuva that's chuva for the damages that you did. Now in many of the cases you feel that it changed something but that what how it's supposed to be. Imagine in your mazal you have to be very wealthy and you sin all day long. You steal you everything. You damaged all the channels of your blessing so you don't get your money right. But in your mazal you're supposed to be rich. Do chuva p the shea start. So you saying oh my god the blessing of that rabbi worked. No it didn't. You did chuva. You reversed the situation. Now you're getting what you're supposed to get. Many of what you don't have. It's because you create a situation that you're stopping from the blessing to come. And Hashem created that system not to torture you. It's for you to understand. For you to understand, oh, I'm missing this. This is not working. Let me see. Maybe I'm doing something wrong. So when you ask yourself, is everything predestined? Yes. Is everything decided for you? Oh yeah. You'll bet you how much everything is decided to you to a point that half of your thoughts, desires and hopes and dreams and plans, Hashem puts it in your brain. You didn't do anything. You didn't come up with a bold idea. I would actually be nice and more accurate of saying that 90% of what's going on in your mind, Hashem plants it there and puts you in the situation to manipulate your opinion and thought in order to test you if you choose good and bad. But on the whole, Hashem blesses you with a lot of things. You are the ones who kind of affect it. Now I want to add one more important thing and then we can end and I'll take your questions. What happens on that I'm taught that on everything is decided. Whoa. Did you just say who's going to leave? Who's going to die? So it's decided on it wasn't decided when I was a drop. And Roshana you can change the entire year. So to simplify it, you do not change your mazal. You do not change your path. You don't change anything. On Rosh Shana is decided your challenges. The levels of your challenges. That's really what's decided on Roshana. What are going to be your challenges? We all have to go through challenges. Are they going to be this big? this big financial health what are going to be your struggles and that needs to teach you that the majority of your struggles are just the tool for your exercise that's it your spiritual exercise of course because if I need to work on my prayers I don't prayer enough or I don't pray the right way then Hashem is going to take something out of my life he'll choose a woman money parasa p some lawsuit some neighbors like this to get my attention. If I'm smart, I reverse engineer what Hashem wants from me and then I just apply it. Now, if I would do it without the test, then Hashem wouldn't test you on that. So, I gave you enough information to understand simple information, simple key points. Everything is predestined. Everything is decided by Hashem. You have no say here. Don't try to say, don't try to argue. It's the best thing that Hashem decides what's best for you and that is the best for you. Which means that anything that you're going against you, not only that, you're not walking on your path. You won't be successful. You'll finish the the race, you think you were successful, they'll tell you, "Sorry, you didn't do it right." You trust me, you don't want to get to that point. I know a lot of people who will come up to Shamim because they think and they they think they're doing great because they prayed three times a day and they ate kosher and observe Shabbat and and did everything. But while they were praying, while [snorts] the fain was on their head every day, they would talk and talk and do business in the path of the Torah, which they think they did it right, they messed it up somehow. And then they come up to Shamim after 120 years and they tell them you were a great Jew but you messed it up. You turn. What you need to nail down is a very important fact that you don't have time. You're running out of time. And it's not to scare you or to put you under pressure. Is rather to make you understand that time is of the essence. There's a lot more what to do. There's no time. So don't waste your time on Instagram. Don't waste your time on Tik Tok. Don't waste your time on running after nonsense that doesn't give you anything. Not satisfaction, not wealth, not knowledge. Value your time. Understand that every second that Hashem gives you is for your benefit. Hashem will cater to you every day all the medicines you need to do to cure your soul. And if today I need to be lonely, that's to cure your soul. And if today I need to struggle with whatever, it's for me to go to the next level. If you don't focus on that, you're missing the point. The only things that you can change with your prayer, with your charity, with great actions is the reversing of all the stains that you created. Don't think that you are changing your path. In order for you to change a certain path, you need such a miracle. And it needs to fit well with Hashem's plan. Now, I can tell you already when Hashem created the world, he already created to every situation 20 backup plans that if something changes, the whole gosh changes with gazillion details. So, it's very dynamic, but the structure doesn't change. What you want to try to do is to try to figure out that structure. What does Hashem, what's the structure that Hashem want for me? Do I need to focus on these things, those things? It all boils down to your chuva and how you are designing your path to walk in to the world to come. And when you will walk there, you will see that the predestined map that Hashem created was designed custom for you with all the details that you need to. So all is required from you is to just open your eyes and to see where is Hashem trying to thank you not to be judgmental. Why do you think the Mishna tells you why judge every person favorably? Because most people are messages for you are mirrors for you. And if you judge it favorably that person, then that mirror helps you. And if you're very judgmental towards that mirror, then it doesn't help you. Then you kind of walking in circles and you're walking on a conveyor belt. You the destination is so far. Now when your indication when you're doing good is that you're spiritually happy. If you wake up happy, then you know that you're walking on the right path. If you wake up not happy, start asking yourself questions. And it's not because you do have money or don't have money or you're single or you're not single or you married your child or you didn't marry your child. That's not making you happy or unhappy. What makes you happy is you're in a sh. If you are constantly in a state of true happiness with money, without money, single, poor, it's because your nama is happy. And every word that I'm telling you, I tried it. I I [clears throat] I practice it. I wake up happy. There are days that I wake up less happy. And I don't blame it on my misfortune. I blame it that I did something that my nishama is speaking to me. I'm constantly observing my emotions. That's my nishama talking. So now you have the last factor here. You understood now all the steps. Now is how you decide to walk on the path that Hashem gave you. Are you going to walk on it straight back, proud, strong, determined, happy, appreciative? thankful. How are you walking on this path? When was the last time you thanked Hashem? >> I know a lot of people say every second, but I only heard three people saying every second. The 3,000 people didn't say every second. When you're going like this, you're not thanking Hashem. But nevertheless, I'm not. By the way, it's very important that you understand I'm talking to a large crowd here. Not everything that I say applies to you. I know a lot of people say I know a lot of people pray. I know a lot of people are on the right path. Don't don't don't think my words so personal. But the fact is that most people are not so grateful to Hashem. Now you know it's very easy to thank Hashem when things go well. Do you thank Hashem for the bad things? >> Hashem happy to hear. You have to be appreciative. So what you need to decide right now is how are you walking on the path? That's it. The path is there. You can't change it. You need to know how I walk on the path. Now just to elaborate on one more thing like in ways sometimes there are three paths you choose the long one the short one the expensive one but sometimes the expensive one makes it shorter. So the path is designed how you walk on the path that's your choice. When you are asking about free choice, Hashem gives you free choice to choose to do the good thing or to choose to do the less good things. Unfortunately, many choose to do the wrong things. Be smart. Use the information we spoke about today. Take advantage of the fact that today, and I'm not exaggerating or trying to make it sound better, is the time when you can set new beginnings. It's the it's the head. It's not the beginning of the month. It's not called, it's called. Now, every month has certain attributes, certain energy. The month of Adal has strong power, very strong power to activate miracles. And by the way, a miracle is when the path changes that Hashem upgrades the path and decides this path was good up until now. I'm adding two factors here that you can do in that you can do in everything you flip it. Now on most of the cases you're not changing the path. You're just changing the attitude walking on the path. So take advantage. It's a very powerful night. Very powerful night. And tomorrow too. And the whole month is powerful that you have the ability of changing something. That's the power of ad. So it's your choice. You have here another choice how you walk out of the room. I hope you're going to choose the right thing. I hope you're going to walk out of this door and understand that you've been walking on the path the wrong way. Minor adjustments and you're walking on the path the right way. When you walk on the path the right way doesn't mean you're going to be ripping rewards every day. You might be going through a lot of hardship for 10, 20, 30 years. The ripping of the rewards is at the end. I don't look for blessing in this world. I ask for Hashem. Please give me good kids. Please give me please give me health. Please I I hope that's the but whatever you give me, I'll deal with it. And I'm humble enough to understand that I I I don't ask for presence. I don't have a wish list. I don't pray for things. I pray what tells me to pray and that's it. I don't really pray for myself because I don't want anything. I don't need anything. I want just give me what I need. That's it. And I have ups and I have downs. But I have one thing that hopefully that's what's going to be when you walk out of this door. I'm focused. I don't let myself get distracted because when I'm distracted, I'm not focused on what I need to do. And this world is about distracting you. That's why we all in mit. That's why the entire Torah is talking about mit. That's why all our blessings, all our prayers is all about EVERYTHING. MIT. WHY? Because we're all in mit. We are all in a state of limitation. And Hashem wants me to rise up by myself and go out of my mit. that you need to do 20 times a day. But there's the power of that doesn't allow you to do that. He's the king of mit in Hebrew is written same letters switch the order distraction. That's the that's what Po is here for to distract you. Throws at you all the time. Catch catch catch. You need to be focused. I don't let po distract me. Leave him there. I'm focused on Hashem. You focus on Hashem, you walk on your path. I'm not guaranteeing success. I'm guaranteeing results. You walk on the path, you'll get results. So, I want to wish you and bless you that you're going to walk successfully on your path. >> Hashem should bless you with >> that you should see the path, recognize the path, understand what Hashem wants from you, and know to hold your mouth and to hold your desires and by that you're going to do chuva. By that you're guaranteed a place in the world to come. More important, you're making Hashem happy. >> I wish you all the best. Thank you for coming and please [applause] wait. I said please and you didn't listen. First of all, uh before you leave, where anybody has questions, we're going to stay here for a few minutes for questions. But please, on your way out, I have brought my wine from Israel. I have addition wines, special wine for Purim, special wine for Pesak. On your way out, please find your way. >> Thank you very much. So, you can ask why. So, >> I didn't say to ask. I didn't say you can't ask. Why? >> How long should we be in the state of depression if we're >> not even one second? >> I want to ask you. >> No, no. One should not be in a place of depression and I don't ask qu you know what there's certain questions that I ask there's one question no no no that's the worst question the one of the worst questions is why doesn't matter what comes after the why if it's a me or you don't ask why cuz 99% of the times you won't get an answer the next question I don't ask is what if because it doesn't matter it's irrelative the only question that I ask myself is what do I need to do to change the situation and the answer that I always get is not on the topic that I'm focusing on. And Hashem works in a way that kind of like in Chinese medicine. It hurts here. Press here. So something's going on here. Well, that's the problem. >> No questions. >> Humility. >> Takes time. >> Not next time. This time. >> Oh, takes time. >> Yeah. >> And unfortunately, you don't have much of it. >> We're running out of time. >> Question. You have a >> I prayed. But uh how many didn't pray? >> H there's a minan forit. >> So men who didn't pray, let's make a minion on the side. >> What's the name of the app for dating app? >> It's not released yet. >> Oh, the dating app. I thought the mas app. It's still it's now sitting on it. It's not separate yet. >> Quick quick questions of clarification. Um so before We're not supposed to benefit from from this world because we got this vault like gold in the table. Okay. But that says that Hashem asks us like why did you enjoy my world? So to enjoy the pleasures of the world and the fruits and the you know the >> you you just answered your own question. No no you just said the enjoy what Hashem gives me. >> Okay. Enjoy. Enjoy the benefits of this world that takes me to the world to come. Enjoy the food. You said enjoy. I gave you food say don't go like a kazer and eat >> right. >> Enjoy it. Not because it's tasty because I can see a blessing. >> So you drink the water because you want to make a shahak, not because you have to fulfill your title. >> Correct. >> Okay. And then the second one I had was um Mosher who was called he's not called because he taught us humiliation. The thing is he actually did accept >> he tried. That's his he did his effort. to a point thinking that he can change something as Mosher Rabenu and Hashem wanted to make sure that in the Torah everybody knows that even Mosher Rabenu is even he wants in the Torah for us to learn everything. So he gave one opportunity for Mosher Rabenu not to succeed that we should understand that even a Mosher Rabenu can get can get a can get a that's not in your path. It's not your mazalan. >> Okay. And so the question I guess then the question is how do you know when to try to change something? >> I said we're supposed to change the not the mistake you've been making. Yeah. Shut up. Instead, it's not >> the >> Sorry. Go back for the last things. >> So, if I understand correctly, I'm not trying to push in this. >> Oh, no. No. Okay. What I wanted to answer you, you asked, how do I know when and how and what? I I answered that before. You need to refine yourself and when you refine yourself then the answer comes very clear. >> And then also what about divorce? Because if you're divoicing something >> no no no when it comes to divorce the problem is that in our generation let's be nice and say 50% of the marriages started by not being the right marriage. >> Right? But how that she was gorgeous, he was rich, the parents said whatever it is >> whatever it is if it's whether it's a secular world, religious world, even in you know many I know I see inidic world that they was just forced on. So when it comes to marriages that's a whole different thing because if it's not the right person then get divorced then get divorced and unfortunately many many many choose the wrong person based on some mistake but even in many of the cases that was the path they were supposed to >> mistake of course. Exactly. >> Yeah. >> On the day you will die. That was plan A. >> Exactly. So what's the what's the idea behind is that if I'm already trying to change your I can't change. I mean >> the thing is that Hashem constantly wants you to focus on what he's trying to tell you. So in many of the cases let's say this divorce that is the path that the person was supposed to walk on and why and how and it's irrelevant but it doesn't mean that okay now I'm suffering in a marriage I'm going to tickle myself suffering for the rest of my life. Most people come and say how do I know right now if that's my other half and I need to be in this marriage and try to make it work or just to say it's not my other half that did sometimes in many of the cases people get married for them to bring a child to the world and then they they they separate when in certain situations you need good clarity then I find that you humble yourself you pray you and I do other things and Hashem gives me the answer. >> What do you do? I usually stay up all night and learn Tawra. >> That's what the Zor says. >> If you learn you stay up all night, >> which is you you're taking sleep. That's you know most people don't like doing that and you learn to but you learn Torah. You don't watch Netflix. Learn Torah all night and then without some intention just learn Torah all night and pray it first thing in the morning after you prayer you I ask Hashem and the answer comes and it comes in many different ways. Do >> you learn the topic questions about >> sometimes? Amen. Amen. >> Amen. The clarity, the answers come in many forms. Comes in dreams. It's