Increasing joy in your life!!! Applicable all year round - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] was yesterday and as our sages teach us so when comes in we have to increase enjy how it doesn't say it just says if you start asking every second person if you can now be in a state of Happiness they'll be like no looking what's going on around the world dealing with my own problems how can I be really B so I'll be five minutes means to be happy so are we are getting commanded to be in Joy the fact is that we are commanded to be in joy every second and every day of the year that's actually a Mitzvah we have to serve AEM in a state of joy in a state of happiness every day so now you're asking me to go even more than every day what I did up until now now I have to increase it comes a big question of course how am I expected to increase the joy like what is the part that's going to give me joy so on I go and Shop do shopping because I'm going to get myself some new things and that maybe will increase enjy or I need a vacation so go on a vacation what do you need to do to increase injy subscribe to H Spotify and play music all day long the the definition here is not clear and not only that it's not clear how do you expect me to be more happy really the reality looking at the at the world as is hard to be happy hear bad news all day long every second day there's something going on people are struggling people are sick people are struggling financially emotionally physically mentally everybody's going through a very hard time that's the reality right now you can argue or you can maybe deny or live in some denial that everything is fine and I'm not talking about having a good attitude if you have a good attitude that still doesn't mean you don't have challenges and difficulties but the fact fact is that when you see what's going on or even if you're looking at your own your own life hard to find a lot of moments of Happiness so now we are looking at a at a Commandment that I have to be happy not telling me how and I need to increase in Joy so what I want to do tonight is clarify this concept of that you have to increase in joy and then practically what one needs to do PES is in a few weeks it's not enough just to clean the house you also have to prepare matah and wine this year I am happy to present my special edition four cups wine for PES Shalom my name is Rabbi ala and let me tell you a few words about my wine from Israel this wine is vintage 2023 from my best vineard located in the Galil in the North of Israel this is coming from holy soil as a war is going on as we're harvesting The Grapes the grapes are all natural and organic the wine is totally natural no sulfites and no preservatives the Kut the kosher supervision is by the badat and by my supervision 24/7 everything that goes on with the wine goes through my hands this wine is so amazing and it's taken care of with silk gloves from the the packaging to the shipping we ship it to the United States by air in refrigeration this wine is top quality according to the rambam according to this is the most suitable wine to drink in the four cups during the L S as the wine is natural no preservatives no sulfites and the process how the wine is done is exactly according to what the Torah tells us how the wine needs to be handled for the special Mitzvah of four cups our spiritual partner is the great mbal the great Rabbi AR do c fromia who blessed the wine blesses my Vineyards blesses everything that we do so you're getting a very special blessing from myav on this wine who blessed everyone who will drink this wine it will affect their heart with happiness and true anava as the name of the wine and that's how we also selected the price of the wine based on the gimat on the numerical value of the name of the wine by the orders of the Holy R do cook from Taria so this year you have the opportunity to fulfill the four cups Mitzvah in the best way possible this wine can only be found on my website anava winery.com or can be purchased in the next events that I'm coming to the United States in Florida and New York this wine is only available in the United un States and in Israel and cannot be shipped to any other country in the world I'm sorry next year B so Harry make your reservation fast so we can ship the bottles fast enough that you can receive it way before p and the amount that we have is very very limited so hurry up make your order today and may hasem bless you with great happiness and success and I'm going to take you take the opportunity to wish you happy PES kosher PES and may we all be redeemed from this horrible Exile like our forefathers in happy p and thank you for your support first of all when a person is standing in the question how do I increase in joy you first have to ask yourself the question what does bring me joy good food good movie sitting and learning Tora for one hour doing kindness to another person every person will have another that will cause them Joy some person will be a good movie maybe good music every person is in a different level what causes them to be happy I'm now on a trip here in Florida next week I'm going this week and next week I'm going to be in New York the other day I uh made a video call with my wife and I uh my my son was in the background and I was trying to call him through the video and he was like my mom my wife was like he's not in a good mood and then he she was like come come speak with ABA come and talk to Aba and he's like 5 years old he's in his bad mood for whatever maybe I don't know what and uh I tried to to get his attention how are you I miss you let me see your face that didn't work so I told my wife did you order those presents that I told you to order for ELO suddenly suddenly he was like uh he woke up and she's like yeah uh he chose she he told me what he wants but I told him it's too expensive and if you let then we going to get so I obviously so we were playing this game of course Very quickly suddenly Hi how are you suddenly I get attention I miss you ABA he's smiling and of course my wife and me look at each other so every individual has something that will cause him to smile even in times that you're not in a good mood now I'm not talking about that Shalom you lost a loved one or a disaster in front of your face that's not what we're talking about I'm talking about on a regular day you wake up in the morning and it's not a good day the second you woke up things don't work out for you everything went out throughout the day doors Clos in your face you're getting those phone calls or messages that you don't want to hear you're not having such a great day and on top of that somebody comes and annoys you now you get more aggravated I'm sure you all had a day like that once in your life see many people it's every day or every second day so in a day like this when you're extremely aggravated you're extremely exhausted from life or whatever challenge you deal with there's always going to be something that can make you smile in that in that in that day because if Shalom you dealing with something negative lawsuit or I don't know what you got audited by the IRS the FBI is after you I don't know what you're you're dealing with something big and suddenly you're getting good news we let you go suddenly within a split second from complete sadness you jump up and down in Joy why because the news changed the status right now changed in your life so you need to find out what of these things that are making you happy now a lot of the times it's going to be very superficial things by the way and in many of the times it's okay it's okay it's okay to get some Joy from something superficial a new dress you know what I mean or something that you were waiting for even if it's nonsense it brings you a little Joy brings you a little bit of a smile it helps it's good but first first of all I need to understand what are the things that are causing me to be happy so I can put aside some knowledge okay these are the things that at time of need will cause me happiness and at some some so for some people it can be ice creams for another person it can be something a little bit bigger and for a lot of people it might would not be anything but the point first of all what you want to understand is what causes you to be happy and then start working on what causes you to be sad once you understood what causes you to be happy and again it can be very superficial things and it can be also very significant things what I would suggest is if you're doing this task and I hope you will after this class and not just sitting here and and nodding is that you write down on a piece of paper and you can do on one column the things that are very superficial and other Callum the things that are more significant but then that you put aside more important right now let's start seeing what's the things that making me unhappy and then you'll start making a list of the things that make you unhappy and you need to see first of all one of the things that are making you unhappy because in most of the cases they're not so important and then you're going to have again another type of list the very very important things that are making you unhappy and then little things that make you unhappy and the reason I want you to do this list is first of all to have some type of indication where where you holding and after that to realize that it's not this or this that it's making you happy or unhappy confusing right good what makes you happy and unhappy is not necessarily the little things in your life and the big things in your life these are just like the background noise in in your life what makes you really happy or unhappy is the state of your soul where where your soul is holding if the soul is unhappy then you will be unhappy doesn't matter how much ice cream you're going to eat how much new clothes you're going to buy and what car you drive and how much money is in your bank account the soul rules the show that's how it works still I would advise to do that list because you might be able to see very quickly the very superficial things make you unhappy and that in itself should be your drive to be like that's making you unhappy okay that should go off the list and then on the other hand things that make you happy that's a good a good way for you to realize where you're holding but once you do that for your indication you have to focus on the fact that what really is going to make you happy or unhappy in your life is not situation that goes on in your life rather how your soul is inter acting with you and what the soul is feeling so if we're already talking on the level of the Soul so we have to understand okay what bothers my soul to be unhappy so the first title of all is If You observe the Tor and the mitv the more the soul is involved in Tor and mitv the needless to say it gets its spiritual nourishment and the soul will be happy and content the same idea if you if you're going to go now two days without without eating so the first hour okay everything is okay after 5 hours stomach ache after 5 hours a headache after 10 hours you're already feeling a little bit more weaker next week we're going to fast tanita still so once you start fasting and you see how your body is reacting you don't give your body food the body reacts in in pain and and discomfort same thing with your soul don't feed your soul what it needs to eat the soul will start finding it's in a place of discomfort and what is the food of the Soul only T and so if you are fully observant and you're feeling feelings of sadness depression a confusion whatever all under the title of being unhappy then you have to question yourm maybe there's something there that you putting a drop of bitter taste that the soul is affected so the first level is doing introspection to doing chuva maybe I'm doing something I am 100% fully observant if I am feeling all the time not talking about one time talking about that heaviness and sadness and if it's all the time then start looking into your maybe you're doing something that is very wrong and here I'm talking to a much higher level individual in regards to I'm talking about right now but a person who's observant observes shabat T everything an orthodox individual but still might be some action that that person is doing and listen yeah I know many many people who are fully fully observant from top to bottom but they still talk they slander they gossip so how is that going to come across and many other sins that it doesn't really matter right now the ones who sins know what they're doing doesn't I don't need to give examples right now but could be many many many Orthodox it doesn't matter that are fully observant they're not sikim they're human beings which means that also these human beings have some sins and some of the sins might be big and that will affect the soul it will depress the soul and when the soul is depressed then the body will be affected it's very simple simple math so if you fully observe it and you still unhappy and the definition for me right now unhappy is being not in a good mood and feeling unworthy and feeling depressed and heavy and lazy and can't deal with your life can't find a a moment of peace or happiness and you're dealing with one thing then you go to another thing that's kind of what I'm talking about so if you're fully observant and you still have these feelings I told you you something's wrong with you there might be some sin or something that is making the water bitter now we'll talk to another level individual that is not so observant that is a somewhat observant then here's your answer it does somewhat which means then you need to take it up to the next level that's that's AEM talking to you and giving you a message through yourish step it up which here comes a definition when we know the term there's no real commentary on this verse there are a few ways of explaining it we are obligated to do the that's an obligation it's you have to all the curses in the Tor come because you didn't serve AEM in great joy and happiness that's why all the problems come it says clearly in the Torah which means you have problems in your life go to the reference and the reference tells you because you didn't serve h with joy and happiness in your heart what's not not clear here how to do it all that that's irrelevant right now first let's understand the the Commandment so anyways I have to be in so one commentary he says of when a Dar comes in you increase in Joy what does that mean increase in Joy increasing in mitv because the mitv you have to do in Joy right so increasing mitzvot will increase in a lot of Joy one commentary just just increase in you give charity once a week on ad give three times a day you help people or whatever whatever charitable work you do once a week then I'll do it twice a week whatever you're doing throughout the year in increase in that's one simple commentary the are equal I do aah now the soul will be very happy so comment number one increasing increasing so for category number one the observant individual I told you feelings of unhappiness and ET what I said then check your your Tora something is making the the the water bitter and I gave you one example that we something that everybody fails some fail miserably and some once in the Blue Moon which is slandering gossiping and so forth but there are many other sins and you if you sin you need you know what you're doing wrong okay I I don't need to come and give you examples so here's your answer because you're not fully observant or you're not being very particular about certain things then that's how it's affecting your n it's not a punishment from hem it's not any other excuse that somebody might tell you and that's what our sages say you have hardship there's no such thing hardship equals you did a sin if you're going through some type of hardship and our sages you know what they Define hardship that you're putting your hand in your pocket and you want to take out a dollar bill and a quarter comes out of course in the gar term it's not a dollar but I'm giving you in our in our translation in our currency but it's like something minor that's so I don't know I'll tell you what's another isim driving in Miami isim it's getting worse by the second listen I lived here 20 years ago every month that I come here another half hour to your destination that's sitting like this in traffic for 45 minutes that's small can beim is hardship and suffering it depends I mean it can go up and down but if a person is going through hardship you did something no such thing that you will hurt have any type of hardship and you didn't do a sin that's how it's continuing and there's no such a thing that a person died and he didn't have any sin of course you had a sin if you died now more than that if I experience any type of hardship then our sages say a person has some type of hardship he should go through his actions what's called introspection and see maybe it is did something that you need to do every day you need to do every day at the time of time sit for two minutes 3 seconds 10 minutes it doesn't matter do a review of the day and do a CH anyways you need to do that and it's good for you so so much more so when you have difficulties go through your actions your financial difficulties go through your actions maybe you owe somebody money maybe you stole without even noticing what's called gazel gazel is not that you break through the through the window G is gazel is that you took something that without permission and that other person has a a a damage from that and that many people H fail by the way in gazel taking you know shampoos from the hotel that's gazel unless they allow you to do that if they don't allow you you took a that is worth 10 cents that's gazel and it's the same thing with taking a little bad of k a little bag of ketchup at 711 cuz you're going to need it to your picnic or something unless you buy a hot dog at 7-Eleven which I don't necessarily recommend it looks like it's from the Biden Administration the the dogs there but nevertheless if Shalom you should eat in such of a place then or let's say a k one then you're allowed to take a napkin ketchup whatever but if you're going into a 7-Eleven to buy water and on the way out you grabbing a few bags of ketchups or whatever cuz you know you're going to need it later that's gazel who told you you can take it and there's many many examples for gazel gazel is like it's not really theft it's can translated as robbery but really it's stealing and there are so many different things that you can fail by gizel that you can't even imagine so you need to do some type of an account maybe I owe somebody money maybe I I insulted my maybe I insulted somebody and I need to come and and apologize maybe I took something maybe I promised something you know many times you promise things and you don't do that that's breaking a vow you know how bad that is and you can be fully observant and you don't understand what's going on I'm dealing with some dead ends doors Clos in my face well years ago you promised somebody something and he didn't do it and you're breaking a vow every second now I know to many that might seem like oh I know that's an neotic okay so what so I said I'm going to take them to the airport and I didn't but it doesn't matter you said something that you promised you said said a another on Shabbat you know they sell theot in the everybody raises their hand 100 200 the second that you raised your hand you did a NE if you don't pay it right away or come to some type of a deal with the gab of the you are transgressing a vow every second you wanted to do you raised your hand 100 after the holiday you have to go and and fix it if you don't have the money till the Gabby I'm going to give you four checks or I'll give you a credit card or whatever but that's one example out of many what's a n so there are so many different things that you can be is fully observing not even noticing what's going on so again based on what our sages teach you you have all sort of hardship look at your action you have issues with money maybe you owe money maybe you promised money maybe you have debts somebody's insulting you to a point that it's becoming unbearable maybe you insulted somebody in the exact same manner in many of the cases you reverse engineer and you try to understand what where the are coming from now of course on that same talmud it says that if a person has should look in his actions and if he can find means that he might have t he's not learning T every opportunity that he can and it's a long but it can concludes by saying and if you looked in your actions and couldn't find nothing these are a hardship of Love loves you so much he's giving you hardship why because that's your ladder to the next level every time you deal with a some type of a challenge if you pass it you go to the next level you fail in many of the cases you also go to the next level because you put up a fight and you argued and you tried and so much more than that so anyways you are obligated to do that I don't know if it matters but somebody's calling and the video went down thank you so in many many cases you do any type of CH you do any introspection and you find you can find okay am doing this and this bad so that's a valuable information but not necessarily what I want to focus on now it's valuable information because we want to get to to the point it's going to be a 45 minute explanation to explain to you a concept that will take 3 seconds but first let's understand the idea we were talking about a person that is not so observant has all sorts of sins on their record and then again unhappy and all these types of feelings and then you need to see what what am I missing now then comes the big question let's say you pinpointed the problem and then you need to make some type of evaluation is the hard work of Performing this mitvah or holding myself from sinning worth the my happiness or sadness that's the hard question because let's say you do a certain sin okay we'll call the sin whatever X and that sin causes you to be unhappy cuz you repeat the sin and you fall and you get up and you get fall to Despair and then you get and then you fall and then you manage not to do the sin you do the sin like a yoyo so let's say you figured out what's the sin now you're coming and say wow the Torah tells me that if I'm not going to sin in this particular case I'll gain back my happiness now make a calculation what is what is more important to you to be happy or to enjoy the sin that you're doing and that's called the the beaver system the beaver you know he goes in the morning to work and he puts on the ground a whatever like marks that he knows to come back at night and the story is that the beaver is is going on the on his path and he starts crying they ask him Beaver why are you crying so he tells them I see on the path the the Trap so I'm crying cuz I know I'm going to go straight into the Trap so they tell him dear Beaver why don't you just go like that no I can't I can't get off my that that's my path but you're going straight into the Trap I'm sorry I can't do this little that's a beaver so if you are a beaver then you go straight into the Trap and then the next day you get sad again and you're unhappy again or you manage to make a little detour and The Detour is that you fight your desire you fight your urge so this is two types of individuals that we're kind of addressing because if a person is not observant at all and that person is desecrating Shabbat and eating uncos food and all sorts of other things that are affecting the mind the body the soul then uh there's not really much to analyze here to come to see a person oh do a b and c in life will be better because I can come and tell a person yeah be a sinner desecrate Shabbat desecrate everything it says in the Torah but do this act I promise you true happiness now I'm going to have to say in a side note in parenthesis how many times you see people who are Blitz Sinners and they're happy beyond what you can imagine I'm just saying that as a side note cuz I'm sure this question will come up a lot so of course you heard the term sometimes a person is a wicked individual and Hashem tells him no problem you get everything in this world for the half Mitzvah that you did because he gave some money or something or for whatever three and a half mitv that you did you're going to get your reward in this world we cashing up the reward you'll be happy you'll have healthy kids you'll have money everything but when you come up to sh and you'll try to cash the mitv that you did you already found out that you cashed them and that's why you were rich and that's why you were happy and that's why you were content so don't always look at another person's happiness and be like look at that person Wicked individual and just everything is going on well in their life first of all you can never say such a thing how can you judge a book by its cover you really know what's going on so if the person has a nice Mercedes means he's happy or he has a lot of money I know the long ago went to some community in a different state beautiful Community something I the idea of here south Florida gorgeous houses beautiful cars I was there for the Shabbat throughout the Shabbat almost every person came and told me quietly how they had financial problems and the house is in foreclosure and this and the but the outside Ferraris Porsches Mercedes is a person has a nice car it means he has money so just to clarify that point if you see a person who is a complete rasa a wicked individual and happy a don't judge a book by its cover because you don't what's going on behind closed doors B know that in many of the cases for the little mitv that person did because everybody at the at the end of the day does mitv maybe he honors his parents huge mitvah was and in honoring his parents number one in the history of mankind that's what the thear says so you see many Wicked individuals that they have one Mitzvah or two Mitzvah or three now let's go back to a an individual that has a connection with the master of the universe because if you don't have any connection Tov either you completely messed up in regards to sadness confusion depress anxieties fears worry your life is chaotic or is it complete opposite but that's the that that you don't want to be in that level I can already tell you if you're living a life that the sins all the time you might have a few periods of quiet time but at some point it's going to catch up Hashem doesn't let anybody go especially now when the countdown to the gah started then Hashem is making sure that everybody is going to be included so everybody's now going to get pulled up and hasem is going to try to get their attention to do chuva so now that we understand that really this happiness is the level where my soul is then now let's let's address how do I need to relate with that and it's not only about finding out where I'm holding spiritually physically it's about being true to yourself everything in the Torah is about AIT about truth I'm not going to even start elaborating on that but if you know a little bit of Torah you know that the Torah is called Tor and in many different situations how the Torah was named as em as truth the sons of Kor when after kak sinned and the ground open and everything that kak owned properties fam everything got swallowed into the hole his sons did chuv and as they did chuva like a Little Rock came out from the whatever pit that they were all falling into and they fell into G and they fell on that Little Rock and it saved them and it says that they were screaming from the from the from this big hole in the ground Moshe T Moshe is the truth not what K said the the Tor is a the Tor is all about a a means truth that's the key to everything why is that important because if you're not true to yourself anything that I'm telling you tonight won't work if you lie to yourself for any type of a reason then anything that we're talking about tonight is not going to work and lying to yourself is not going to work for you anyways that's the problem with most people that a lot of people are liars and it sounds like oh why you calling me a liar because most of the day you lie that's the reality deal with it now it's not that you all day long on the internet doing scams that's not what I'm talking about but it's sometimes little things how many times somebody calls you you really don't feel like dealing with that person where are you I'm at the mall or I'm at home and that person I'm right in front of you and that's like the daily things now how many times you lay to an appointment and the person is calling calling where are you where are you and you're looking at the GPS GPS tells you there in 42 minutes I'm there in 10 minutes I'm trying like as if you're trying to buy time like because even that half hour that you're still late like the person is going to get some concoction is going to uh fall down not going to remember what happened then you show up and he thinks it's 10 minutes so that's a lie and like this is all long if you notice if you look at yourself you see you lie all the time and a lot of people call it exaggerating well I'm telling you exaggerating is a lie if you said I walked four miles and it was really one mile and you just tried to make yourself look better that's lying exaggerating according to is lying be accurate don't say oh we walked 10 miles no you didn't you walked barely half a mile this big it was was I'm telling you no it was a little cockroach so exaggerating is also lying when I became observant almost over 20 years ago the first few years of my chuva wasn't in Yesa and putting and learning Tor the first few years of my Chua was refining my character traits and preparing myself to be clean enough spiritually to come and stand in front of God that was the first few years of my cha and one of the first things that I worked on is the fact that I used to talk very very not nice foul language every second word that came out of my mouth was a not nice word and how I would talk with individual there will always be some type of a derogatory comment what are you stupid and stuff like that of I my mouth was disgusting not talking about now I'm talking about the thou language you know that most people they walk Barefoot if they toe if their little toe hits the bed in the middle of the night the definitions that come out just say ah instead of saying you know words that start with s or F or any other I mean what's the connection even I that's it so you you don't even notice how the junk that comes out of my mouth so that's the first thing that bothered me the junk that that came out of my mouth how I talked so what did I do for months I would go on what's called not talking now that's easy when you're single and you have nothing really to uh take care of when you have a wife and seven kids you can't just sit there for three days not talking but um that's how I I worked on myself not to talk and the next thing that bothered me was how I how I lied and why am I telling you that cuz I made myself a a practice that I bought a notebook and every time that I would lie I would write the lie and the time and then at the end of the there I would look at the list and find 20 lies 40 lies 50 lies that 90% of them are nonsense like real nonsense like I told you I'll be there in five minutes and slowly slowly I worked on myself that every word that came out of my mouth was exactly how it is that's the result you're getting now after 20 years that I just say what it is how it is but that's the that's that's what I worked on I I don't want any words of Deceit on my mouth the mouth that is supposed to praise God and pray that's how would that work that I'm praying in the morning and then cursing in the afternoon I'm already telling you it's not going to work the prayer is going to be not a good prayer it's it's called a disgusting the prayer you prayed but not nice so you invest so much in your prayers and then you damage it with how you talk so why I'm focusing on this because I understood very very clearly mainly because the experience that I had that caused me to become observant that in sh it's all about a met truth that's why the world the B is called the world of Truth and this world is called the world of Li so in the world above there's nothing but the truth in this world there's two sides to the coin and in the world above there's only one side the side of a there's no side of you can't hire a lawyer in sham and hide behind a lie it doesn't work like that exactly how Adam and when they sinned Hashem saw them and what does it say in the Torah that Adam and were embarrassed they were trying to hide and then of course theem goes into a dialogue what is causing you to be embarrassed and the man says I'm naked oh who told you you're naked says God same with you nothing different with you when you go up to Sham think you can hide behind something in this world you can hide behind things lies stories and whatever you invent but it doesn't work in the world above so you better prepare yourself in this world not to Toom deal with it in the world above but the foundation of my connection to God and the basis of everything in your existence is B is leaning on em on Truth how truthful you are everything that you say has to be truthful and more than that you have to be truthful to yourself you cannot make all these excuses and I now I'm tired and this and that Rabbi said and just be truthful you know what Mantra I had for years when I was working on that I would constantly tell myself who are you kidding who are you kidding cuz your mind starts telling you but you build up whatever in your mind and then I would do the counteractive and tell myself what are you kidding are you kid you you're fooling if you think you're fooling the world you're fooling yourself you lie to yourself with all sorts of excuses the only only one that you fooling is yourself and a lot of people also lie to Hashem like as if it's going to work so first of all we have to take the whole concept of lying out of the window it cannot be any type of she if you have to take something out of the night it's this my first few steps steps in ch is that I can never lie because that's hasem that doesn't tolerate theem hates liars I'm already telling you from my experience how I saw in sham the worst is Liars Hashem cannot stand that and more than that I can tell you that the negative feeling that I experienced in my experience was only because I knew there's no li no emit that I can hide hide behind everything all the cards are on the table therefore you need to live a life of AIT you need to look at the mirror and be truth truthful over yourself not to light yourself and you know what when you admit your weakness to Hashem he forgives 99% of what you do just admit that's why our sages they added to the prayers three times a day to say do confession that's the part of the prayer that nobody likes everybody's waiting for some something to happen that to be exempt from the V and the that's the peak of the that's the part you should wait for and say it clearly slowly with all your intentions and most people are looking for excuses why not to say you do I once used to pray in a they had a book of all the Y of all theim every day there's some yite they never said he never seen anything like it there 500 kilometers North from here and 300 km is a Brit any excuse not to say and is the part of the prayer that you confess your sins and you you say a few other Psalms of and Shalom on Sunday on Monday and Thursday when you take the seph T so you add another three pages on Facebook you can be three and a half hours but to say three pages of forgiveness to Hashem that's so what does theem say admit and I will forgive that's what has says that's the the the how we read on yip yip the how we prayer the Yip if you admit you will be forgiven that's what has wants there admit so that's why you want to live a life of complete complete truth and that's why I said if you have to take something from tonight that's what you need to take there's much more but I can already tell you that the medicine to all my problems when I started my journey was this when you you live a life of a lie and it doesn't matter if the lies are this big it doesn't matter that brings so much tum and so much impurity into your body and into your system that by default you are unhappy you're sad life doesn't ma fit well how you want to you aim here it goes over there why because everything in the your life is based on deceit and you might say what are you talking about I'm an honest person okay I'll give you 50 examples if you need to how to find out that you're not that honest and maybe you or you or you or one of you are that person that are extremely honest but from my encounters with many people most people are liars and you need to make a if you one of them if you lie now once you pass this entire ER Journey so to say then now we want to get to the point how do I start bringing myself to a point that I can experience true happiness with exper with all sorts of challenges I can tell you that what I teach that's what I practice so I have a interesting life my life is not calm I have a lot of drama in my life a lot of challenges a lot of things going on around me but as you can see it doesn't bring me to a place that it's affecting me I also deal with things people sometimes look at me they think that I sit like on next to the K and I'm like uh taken care of so let me give you news you know I also have to pay my bills I also have bills believe it or not and you know I have seven kids that's seven tuitions that's prom DBL than what all of you have I have a wife that in itself is also challenge of schlom why are you laughing you're all giggling but I'm I'm it's challenges of schlom we think every marriage is easy I have a wonderful marriage I should say anything negative I'm saying that's another part of the many challenges a human being has so I have the same challenges that all of you have so you can come and tell me but you I also need to cloth kids and put them through yes and pay for things and educate them same thing I also have to pay for a house and car and bills nothing different from me and you and I also have a million and one other challenges like any other person it's just the difference with me is that I already mastered what I'm trying to relate to you that you know those people who juggle and they do like with three cones and then they bring the fourth and the fifth and three swords and fire and a rabbit and like they're juggling like 500 things with one hand so when you master how to deal with your life it's you're just juggling the the the challenges and the rest of the life is just smooth the rule here that I invented this is not some biblical rule this is my rule my rule is nobody body in this world is worth me being unhappy or depressed or in any type of mood and no one is worth my peace of mind and my Serenity and everything else I don't care who you are nobody's worth that so I don't let anyone take me out of my calmness that's it it's very very simple some might say okay maybe you're so arrogant that you just don't care about what people say or how they treat you and well you have to have some type of arrogance AR you know ego is not always a bad thing if Hashem created a certain characteristic it's only for you to refine it I gave many many times classes and series about the concept that is called t the refinement of character if you don't know what I'm talking about go to my website just write refinement of character T you'll see dozens of classes because that's really what you need to do in this world the go from V says you came to this world all the Tora and the it's for you to to give food and air to the soul but what's your job in this world to refine your character traits you are born quick to anger work on your anger you are cheap work on that you are judgmental you're impatient you what what what what's the bad character traits that you have everybody has bad character traits it doesn't mean that you're a bad person it means that that's you're sure to refine them you're sitting in a diamond Factory and Hashem gives you dirty diamonds and you need to refine them and polish them and then you give them to Hashem so creates it with a lot of characteristics that are negative and he tells you now refine them and if you need to work on your patience then I'm going to give you an annoying wife an annoying kids and an annoying job and an annoying boss and everything is going to drive you nuts because you need to learn how to work on your patience and after 40 years maybe you'll work on it a little bit I'm highly recommending to you if you don't know what I'm talking about the concept of T to go and and research it you have a lot of information on my website about that that's the main thing what we came to do here is ref find myself I walk into this world like a revolving door and how do I come out do I come out clean or do I come out the same junk that I walked in or worse so anyways you need to work on your characteristics on your mid to to refine yourself so my rule rule number one nobody is worth me going out of my Kim Kim is my vessels cuz if somebody says something to you and you get angry he took you out of your vest he broke your vest he she you're you you you're not in control and it's the same with everything nothing should take you out of your state of calm I don't get angry I don't get upset why not because I'm some Angel because I look at others and nobody's worth me getting upset that's why I told you positive ego sometimes is good when it comes to let me explain to you very very fast says in the Book of Proverbs everything that was created in this world has a polarity whatever creates on one side there's always going to be on the other side good bad to give you one example mosenu greatest prophet of all times he has a lum so his Lum is bam a huge Prophet bam was such a huge Prophet that if he would go in the path of Torah he would be greater than mosenu so everything has a polarity to it in this world everything and why if you ask because there's only one entity that doesn't have a polarity and that's the of course and to the one and only nothing can resemble him or stand in front of him and everything else the greatest of all Angels or the greatest of all prophets or whatever situation you have in this world has a polarity to it a mirror so when it comes to you have two sides the positive side and the negative side what is the most highest highest highest characteristic characteristic that someone can acquire it's called anava humility highest of all and what's the Lum of of anava of being humble G ego arrogance now the way the system works is when you so to say trigger a mid somebody comes and hurts your ego then the midah will birth to midot what we it would birth sadness and anger somebody steps on your ego either angry either sad now from that will birth more midot it comes in increments of two one mid births two midot so from sadness or or anger it will bring depression it will bring confusion it will bring anxiety it will bring impatience it being unforgiving judgmental and go to my website and learn it it's extremely extremely fascinating because it tells you how to refine yourself and needless to say when you poke the mid of anava when you apply the mid of anava of humility then right away it will birth to Mid do of kindness and mercy you become much more kind you become much more merciful and you resemble the master of the universe but what's the key to the concept ofid that if hasem created a bad characteristic it means it can be used for bad but it can also be used for good and your trick is to use it for good because if you have an issue with anger instead of getting angry the entire world get angry the same way at the that's coming and telling you do the sin right now and if you have jealousy which is one of their worst character traits you need to take that jealousy and direct it to be jealous of a great a great sad I want to be like him he knows the Tor so much that's what the jealousy is created for to you to be jealous at Great stages to bring you to a place of spiritual growth so every bad mid that hasem gave you it's for you to use it so if hasem gave you an ego then use that ego in the right time it's called the positive ego that's why the Torah was given on a mountain technically it if the Torah is all about humility then the Torah should be given in a valley right to show humbleness humility I'm a nothing or at least the minimum on a flat terrain flat nothing you giving the Torah on a mountain mountain represents I'm big I'm here I'm strong my power ah ego so what did hasem do he gives the Torah on a mountain but the smallest one har was like a mini mountain and next to it huge mountains why to show you at all times you have to be humble like a small Mountain but you have to be a mountain and you have to be you have to know who you are you need you need to know your strengths and not to show off you know it that's it and the humil is that you know it and you do good with it so if you are very bright you're very kind you're very patient you're very hospitable don't go and now mention it all over Facebook it's for nobody to know it's for you to say Hashem gave me an unbelievable mid that I'm very very very very patient and kind so happy about it thank you AEM and you thank a 50 times a day you don't go to people and tell them you know how kind I am I will forgive you if you will do something bad to me but when you have a good quality that's where the ego comes in a healthy ego I'm wise let me teach others I'm charitable let me help others I'm ahead of the game let me give a hand to others that are not that's how you spiritually Elevate yourself but there's nothing wrong with having a positive ego so again back to my rule cuz the rule is cannot be un break able nobody can come into your for amot that's the rule for amot is the Four Corners that surround you that's my territory doesn't matter what you're going to do and a lot of people don't like it especially the ones who are close to me can you imagine how my wife gets upset that there's an argument and I don't get upset so it doesn't really happen much with my wife we're on the same level we don't have arguments we're smart something doesn't work we say nicely goodbye we split and after 3 hours we come back to the to to the dialogue when the the warmth and the anger goes down that's it but nevertheless you know how many times people I get into some type of argument or confrontation and what bothers the person the most is that you they don't they don't seem to bother me the term to it is if you're Israeli that's a slang but this slang is based on cabala because everything thing in this world is called a CLE and the CLE is a vessel that holds here look here's a CLE I want to put water in this cup the cup is the CLE that holds the water can you imagine me pouring the water like that all the shefa all the abundance disappears I don't get anything of it it makes a mess so I need a CLE and then I put the shefer the abundance in the CLE I want a lot of money go Bank open a bank account no bank account where you going to put the money money you want to make par go and work so everything has to have a CLE and my entire existence is in a CLE the slang in Hebrew that if you drive something crazy somebody annoyed you hurt you insulted you they took you out of the clean rule number one nobody takes you out of anything and you know why sages in the that person cannot move their finger like this unless and a world above they're allowing that person to move the finger so if somebody comes and insults you cheats you steals from you hurts you doesn't matter what if you looking at the messenger as a problem then you got it completely wrong the messenger is not the problem the message is what you need to pay attention to because if somebody came and insulted you publicly Hashem allowed that and if somebody came and stole your money Hashem allowed that and if somebody did anything to you good bad it doesn't matter it has to go through the supervision of hasem even if yeah I know some now a lot of people will say does this also apply when somebody gets raped So my answer is yes nobody can do nothing in this world unless hasem allows that if you think any way differently you have a big problem you need to do a lot of chuv and to figure out what does it mean to believe in one God that's called by the way it's heresy to say no no that person can go around theem at night when AEM doesn't look and do something so a person breaks into my house hasem sent him a person insults me whatever they does I know it's a little bit hard to resonate but everything in this world Hashem allows it to happen even the Holocaust when people question what was Hashem in the Holocaust well Hashem did the Holocaust he decid he did everything he allowed the Psychopaths to do it like any other thing like what do you think October 7 and many other things theem allows that why that's that's Way Beyond what we'll ever understand well how Hashem is managing the world but the fact is that nothing moves in this world without hasem allowing it so if I allow you to get me upset that I I'm completely disoriented with the concept of Hashem there's one God and that's why I told you my rule number one nobody can come and do anything to me because I know that doesn't matter what you're going to do to me it came from Hashem you understand why you can't come into my for am and you'll never get me upset or disappointed or happy or anything because between me between you and your behavior and me Hashem is there so if you kind to me it's because hem allowed you to be kind to me and gave you gave youen in your eyes that you would like me you know people dislike me and not because how I talk because that's what hasem wants so everything in your life is controlled by Hashem your misfortunes your success and of course through Messengers but you want to be angry at the messenger the FedEx guy comes and gives you a broken thing and what you order you keep screaming at the FedEx guy you have to call the place where you ordered the the the the item let me share with you quickly a story that's something that happened to me about 15 plus years ago go where I had an idea for developing a software and I had the money and we found the individual to do the job shortly after about a year after or I should say a quarter of a million dollars after no software and no nothing and of course started a lot of uh arguments and you owe me and of course he blamed everything on me you start you changed everything and you Chang the feature it doesn't matter there was an argument a disagreement and a very big void of money and worse than all that no product which in a normal case you go to court or in this case who is a Jew go to B with me the problem was that he prayed the same sh that I prayed that's how close it was and worse than all that I was the gab of the sh and he was the only Le in the sh so I have to call him up to the Torah four times a week and give him a and not to tell anyone what he did to me and not to get angry at him and not to feel like breaking every bone in his body or I don't know what you can you imagine where it always is going and then it was way worse it was about a year of a lot of tension it was one of the hardest n you know that I had in my life because first of all the N was not to hate this person technically I had all the excuses he cheated me he lied to me he used me he took my money I could come up with all the excuses and some people told me sue him take him to AED their first test was not to hate him not to hate first of all second T not to be angry third T not to do anything and fourth T is zip your mouth now let's see you not telling anyone what's going on we were so focused on the test my wife and me that we wouldn't even talk with each other about it and I'm telling you it was bad he took it to places to after a few months of arguments he calls me and he tells me that I still have a balance of $30,000 that I didn't pay that was every night every night was like I'm going down and I'm going to rip his head off ah then he moved into our building that's aem's humor from the entire city you move into my building and every morning I go down in the elevator dting the doors open I'll walk and I'll tell you another n that we had later on his son became ill with cancer you know what a a challenge it is not to be happy that he's suffering somebody does something bad to you and then they go into a car accident you're like yes you know what a test it is not to be happy that he's suffering and my wife and me would pray and learn to El and everything just for the sun it was a huge not to talk not to people came to me who knew that he's working on the project knew how it's going not to say anything not to fail in L not to fail in slandering and many other things that could have easily come to and why because I knew right from the beginning he's nothing he's air it's me and a Hashem is talking to me through this man that man didn't do nothing he's the messenger that came and told me here here's the message from your God like you get I know if you ever got a a subpoena to court you ever got a subpoena to cour comes a miserable guy all happy hey I have a subpoena for you makes you sign they always come happy so I understood this guy is a nothing nothing he didn't do nothing he was chosen by the master of the universe to be the one who's executing my n my challenge my ton I understood if a quarter of a million dollars was taken from me yeah 20 years ago I embezzled people for much much more of millions of dollars that's like the the minimum what Hashem can do I understood very quickly I have no issue with this guy he's a nobody he's a puppet he's the executor and therefore I found no reason to be angry at him and if I have no reason to be angry with him why should I fail in slandering him and talking about him or why should I do anything when I'm actually I'm the one who needs to digest my own dinner that I cooked for myself do you understand where I'm taking you with this nobody can do anything to you and since nobody can do anything to you that means that why would I let anybody do something to me if nobody can do nothing to me why would I let you upset me for something as minor that you took my parking lot or something huge that you cheated me out of millions of dollars right away you forgive you know there's a story in the town about a certain individual who noticed another guy leaning on a tree like resting sleeping you know legs are on the ground leaning on the tree and he sees a huge snake coming down from the tree starting to wrap around the man and about to bite him and he's running to wake up the person and the snake is on the person and just leaves he wakes up the person he says you know what miracle I just saw I just saw a huge Miracle there was a snake on and he was about to bite you you would die for sure the man doesn't believe H how are you saved he tells the man you must do some some mitvah you must do something that the snake didn't bite you so that person told him I never go to sleep upset at anyone moments before I go to sleep I forgive anyone whoever did anything bad to me and I don't hold Grudge to anyone and I forgive any anyone that's the Merit that saved him I hope you say and if you don't let me remind you how you started I'm hereby forgiving any person that angered me whether he hurt me in my body did something to my money whether it's this Incarnation different Incarnation you start the by forg forgiving everybody this is the most what's the word not Freedom there's another word uh liberating it's the most liberating feeling you can do is Letting Go nobody can do nothing to you take my word look it up learn the Torah no one can do anything to you which means any bad thing that happens to you that's hasem sending you an SMS in a form of a challenge and telling you get your act together it will disappear go back to where you started the problem will disappear the problem start is when I separate myself from the others why is the mitvah so important it's not that you need to love every person you don't have to love the entire world you just don't hate if I don't love a certain Community as my dear Grandmother always told me you have nothing nice to say shut up well I refine her quote by saying you have nothing nice to say don't say anything but if there's a community that I don't like CU they disagree with their political views or how they pray or what they dress or who they follow or who's their leader I might not like them I might not agree with them but I definitely don't hate them because if I hate anyone I carry the hate if you hate something don't say oh I hate this flavor just say I don't like this flavor why hate why would you want to bring hate into your system why would I want to hate another person I'm carrying the charge I'm carrying the negative charge and like I told you before remember rule number one no one is worth getting me out of my comfort zone out of my focus and why because I understand that everything comes from hasem and more than that I understand the essence of is of this unconditional love because if you don't do anything bad to me why should I don't like you because you don't agree with my opinions because you voted to a different president so you don't like me to a point that you hate me that's how pathetic it is and I don't agree with 90% of people what they think what they preach what they believe what how they act I disagree I don't I don't dislike them I don't hate anyone and I definitely don't let anyone affect me with their behavior why my time is way too valuable for me to waste on Arguments for me to waste on in my mind when you have a a a disagreement with somebody you don't sleep it's in your mind all day long you're thinking she said that if she says this I will answer that and I should have said this and go to sleep you know how long it takes me to fall asleep anywhere from a second to 3 seconds that's how long it takes me to fall asleep my wife and me go to bed together I fall asleep within that 3 second range and she's tossing and turning for half an hour how come you fall asleep so fast well I have nothing on my mind nothing bothers me nothing bothers me because at the end of the day if I did something that bothers me then I do Chua when I do and if I did something that I need to fix then the next day it's scheduled to be fixed and then I got to sleep quietly if I insult Somebody by a mistake then I realize that and I'll apologize I did some wrong calculations and I owe somebody money no problem I fix it but I don't let things bother me my time is way too valuable that's my positive ego something negative my time is valuable I'm going to waste my time on arguing on things that have no solution or being angry or that's have my much more important things to do and at the end of the day you're not different than me says in thear R RAB ra says in tracted R page 17A he says if you forgive so to say means ignoring forgiving letting go if you ignore mid somebody insulted you I ignore the insult somebody said a wrong I ignore it somebody this I I totally I a is moving on when I do that what they do to me is they do the exact same to me the Heavenly Court my sins can you imagine you have a sin and the Heavenly Court says never mind never mind never mind because I did that to other people you forgive other people for insulting you using you hurting you Etc you have a a guarantee that your sins will be treated in the same way it's okay it's okay how many times did you have it's okay in your life one time I was in a big rush I that shouldn't be the excuse and don't try that at home but I was driving extremely fast besides that I was in a rush I love driving fast but nevertheless I got caught by the police so of course an individual that gets pulled over by the cops already in their mind oh my gosh and this and you all your heart is racing and I'm going to give me a ticken hour anyways the policeman came my attitude was not like I didn't okay so that's hashem's will Hashem made me press the gas Hashem made me be pressured to come fast Hashem hasem hasem Hashem and hasem sent the policeman it's all Hashem it's Hashem telling me some type of message right now so the attitude was completely different and then because the attitude was different after a s short conversation with the police you know what the polic man said it's okay you can go please drive safe Hashem put the test for me to now lose my my my my my focus oh my God and whatever comes with it I was like no no no that's hashem's message let me see because I was so focused on what Hashem is trying to tell me then Hashem says I put the problem I remove the problem it's okay you you can you can go I was about 55 km an hour hour over the the speed limit in Israel you can get arrested for that the minimum of the minimum they take your license on the spot for 30 days when you deal with situations in life with full confidence Anda in hasem then hasem will show you a situation and why would why do I send you the solution but why am I giving you this example because the same way that you go like this it's okay it's okay to other people that's what's going to be done to you and then the policeman will tell you it's okay drive slow or whatever however you let go and I see it with my own eyes I see it with my own eyes and if you're close to my life or anyone ask anyone who's close to my life that you see it with my own eyes that a situation is presented that should cause me to Lose My Faith lose my amuna be upset be worried be angry now because I'm upset and worri and angry every person that comes to me I jump and I'm full of anger and my poor kids and my I understand this is a message from Hashem I don't get upset don't get uptight I don't get angry I see okay but see what Hashem is waiting is have inall hasem wants me to be under pressure hasem wants me to be in trouble I don't know what hasem wants now once you're letting Hashem control the situation in many of the cases Hashem intervenes and says just joking it's okay you did you did great you believed in me you did great go and I'm telling you how many times I got the it's okay it's okay you can go and why because I do it I don't get angry at anyone I right away forgive and people do bad things to me I'm telling you you might be from the group that likes me there's a polarity to everything there's a large group that dislikes me trashes me online all day long people all day long comments Facebook Facebook haters spreading lies spreading L that I don't care of but some people invent things there's a lady in the city where I live went to the police and reported them that I beat up my wife and kids now don't you want to go to her and beat her up but I I I I for me she's air that's Hashem pulling this prank to see if I get upset to see if I get angry to see if I will be of Revenge to see if I will start doing back to her and so forth and the second that I release any responsibility from that psychopath and I understand it's the words of Hashem coming to me through Messengers then I don't get upset and I know it's not going to have a problem and if hasem wants me to be with an issue with with the law then it's going to come e the other way I have to be honest truthful full of and and I'm telling you from my life 90% of my challeng just just evaporate the moment when it comes to the the What's called the the last second just the the test evaporates why a from my attitude of I do the same thing with everything else I ignore I just I I forgive right away and I'm telling you a lot of people do a lot of bad things to me or my wife or my kids right away it's I forgive you don't owe me anything I don't need that's what the says that's says I I rather forgive all the junk that people do to me and that my junk will be forgiven much better deal much better deal in sham and the same time what it says it continues by saying whoever removes on moves and so forth they says he's quoting the book of M chapter is 7: 18 and the the translation who forgives inequity and passes over the transgression it's talking about hasem but he's quoting this verse by saying I forgive you doesn't matter what you did to me I forgive you I Let Go what's interesting is the rest of the verse says the translation of the REM remnant of his heritage which means what it means but the word in Hebrew means leftover what our sages teach here is when you make yourself like the leftovers the less important part that's when you activate that how many times there's a certain event and somebody comes and steals the floor or they want to you know there one time I was invited to a shabbaton the whole Friday and Saturday classes meals I was so excited that's going back a lot a lot of years ago I was excited and it took me weeks to prepare all the classes and this and and I came in my mind I'm going to now inspire all of them and they're all going to leave the shabbaton inspired I was on fire and as I came there was a surprise some big Rabbi from Israel came by by by no not planned or anything so of course he was twice my age and 50 times my wisdom and he suddenly was the star and I was pushed to the side and the whole Shabbat I was like you know I was the number two and then when I was to was time to talk it was like who am I talking next to him like come on this is like uh I was in my whatever late 30s he was in his 60s whatever white beard wise so that was such a is for me that hasem says you came in as the star and now you are the second and smiling and still having a positive attitude and still giving cavod and respect to that Rabbi and Still Still Still Still Still I right away Hashem Is Telling Me In other words get off your high horse that's much better much better rappers than you much more greater things than you so shut up and be embarrassed for two days it's not going to hurt you that's this that's these leftovers that our sages explain from the verse in m which is the translation is not what I'm talking about can is coming from the root of of extras of leftovers make yourself The Leftovers you're not the main course you're not the steak you like like the the the cold potatoes when you have that attitude you you humble you don't think you're that great you don't see other people as junk and it doesn't matter how great you are mosu was the greatest of all he has all the qualifications to have the number one citizen of all time he's the only human being who talked to hasem took a whole nation out of M dealt with brought down the Tor wrote the Torah went up to the mountains for 40 days 40 nights didn't drink didn't eat he's a king he's a billionaire he's mosheen you would think he would have an ego out of control but nevertheless the Torah tells on him he was the most humble person in the world now do you think that when mosu looked at the mirror he didn't know who's mosenu of course he knew who he is you look at the mirror you know you you know your power you know your strength you know your qualities he knew he's MOS raenu but he didn't feel I'm that great I was just chosen by hasem that's what mosu testified I was chosen by hem to do the task and if the task would be given to somebody else they would would do much better job than me the key here is humility is you humble yourself and when you're able to do that that's when you able to start flying spiritually and when you high spiritually and everything that I talked about now doesn't affect you then by default doesn't matter how many challenges you have how many difficulties you have how much problems you have your smile doesn't go away I live in a very poor City in a large amount of the the population in that City are poor but nevertheless I don't know if it's the Mountain Air or the attitude everybody's happy smiling good morning good attitude there's no Mercedes SE in spat by the way there's maybe one and it's like 2013 there's regular cars once in the Blue Moon some tourist comes with a BMW but nobody really cares sces it's a very mellow City when I first move I met this individual who every time I would saw him he would drive cycle a bike rundown bike not like a nice $10,000 bike like a bike that you buy in Craigslist for $30 you know saking wheels and happy always smiling nodding to me every time he passed me one time I got into a conversation with him we're talking for a few minutes and then he tells me I'm sorry I'm cutting you off I got to run to the bank the bank is closing in a few hours I got to run to the bank I have such a debt there I have a 100,000 shekele debt which is equivalent to about $30,000 give or take and I'm shocked and I'm like you have 100,000 shek debt in the bank and you H and you're smiling you're happy he's like well at least it's not 200,000 so the the problem is from Hashem the solution comes from Hashem be happy that it's not double that's the attitude and when that is the attitude and no anger at anyone he could be very easily anger angry at the bank manager that doesn't want to give him a loan I shared a few years ago a story I highly recommend you to go to my YouTube on my website and doing the search how Hashem can make money out of Clean Air clear air watch that video where I explain the miracle that you can't even imag imagine how I was in desperate need of a very large amount of money I have a very large non for profit in Israel with a lot of budget with a lot of expenses it's not that I'm just giving classes on YouTube people think okay he's a YouTube Rabbi YouTube is maybe 5% of what I do we have a large non for-profit in Israel and we do a lot a lot of different activities helping poor people and families in a youth program and drug addiction and Abused Women and tons of things that we do people think I just put uh videos online no I do many other things so why am I saying that what was I saying by the way I lost my Chain of Thought beside before the YouTube there's one guy who's listening this individual was happy that he doesn't have a debt but I already started saying I was hoping you're paying attention but one person remembered fat I was telling you how Hashem challenged me that I had to come up with a very large amount of money not for myself and for pleasure for all the expenses of the organization the 15th day of the month came where all the bills have to pay be paid money was scheduled to come in but not of that day so I needed like three days help assistant and go listen to the class the title is how God makes money out of thin air you'll enjoy the miracle but why am I saying that because one of the things that I did because I needed urgently money I went to the bank and the bank manager didn't want to give me those three days of credit when I'm telling him I'm 10 years I'm banking here you know I'm good for it you know who I am here's money coming I'm showing you from the credit card companies from the merchant accounts money's coming in why can't you give me three days credit no you know how hard it is not to be upset at that bank manager and not to curse him not to to to to whatever but he's again he's just the the the messenger that's my challenge that's I what I need to deal with hopefully you were paying attention to everything I said and if I didn't if you didn't go watch the video will be tonight online because when our sages come and tell is coming in arrives enters the energy of enters so I told you the first explanation that you have to increase in because the you have to do in a state of Joy so that's how you're increasing Joy by increasing a lot of mitzvot simple that's what you need to do for the next month just increasing mitzvot whatever you do do triple that's it that's your opportunity and this month has an energy that whatever you throw out to the month you get back that's the energy of the month it's a month of Miracles it's a month of changing your luck completely 180 de that's the theme of the month any situation that you have lawsuit bad argument whatever it is the quality of the month is means we turn it upside down 180 degrees difference that's the quality of the month that our sages even tell us you have an a disagreement a lawsuit with with somebody deal with it in ad ad has a very special energy I gave a few classes in the last couple days that are going online and in the previous years it's the last month of the year the energy is so to say finnal to the end of the year and the quality of the month is month of Miracles we have the month of the holiday of puim in this month and many other things that happen so our sages say listen you have an opportunity increase Joy increase to as much as you can because this month you're going to cash in whatever you do this month you're going to benefit tremendously this month is good for chuva it's good for for to repent it's good for doing everything that we just talked about and another thing that I didn't talk about but obviously if you applying everything that I just say one element that I didn't talk about that you have to also forgive the people who doing all these bad things I mentioned a few times by saying I give over that's part what you need to do I know it's hard to forgive people who did bad things to you but you need to forgive them based on everything that I said now and the month of is I'm telling you say it has the potential to bring huge salvations and that's what all you need to do is apply the so one explanation is like I told you just increasing a lot a lot of double triple the amount of the mitv that you do and needless to say do them in a state of happiness not in AET the second thing an hour explanation to summarize by telling you when you feel unhappy unsatisfied with situations in your life down on your luck sad depressed unproductive worried anxiety fear and the list goes on and on and on when you feel something is not resonated well I'm not not happy I'm not content I'm not satisfied if you are walking on air this message is not for you either get off the drugs or or deal if you're walking on air I'm talking about if you're walking on air you either on drugs or you either in a very high spiritual level then this class has nothing to do with you you already mastered your own happiness your own lifestyle but if you fall under any of the categories that I just mentioned and maybe can be even one unhappy worried satisfied I'm already telling you that the key to your happiness is everything that I just told you now where you isolate your emotions from any bothering coming from the outside and you chant in your mind everything is from him my Misfortune my good things my luck my my failures even if I failed even if I suffer it's all him and I might have to tell you to stand up and show the gear that we have and now when the mil then you can hurt me you can take my money it was my miscalculation that caused the failure no it's AEM you can come and do something to me can you imagine to what a level of relaxation and peace of mind you reach when you throw all responsibility on God very liberating and more than that you reach to a level of true happiness I'm telling you and I'm not complaining in any type of way you're not going to even hear dust of complaints from me but I have a very interesting life I call it interesting probably much more than many and I have some big matab balls that I'm dealing with All My Life by the way everything in my life was extreme come tomorrow to kpace you'll see you'll hear how extreme it was most people don't even know 1% of my life my life was always extreme the tests were always exaggerated where do you think I have 50% of the content that I teach 50% of the content that I teach it's not the weekly parasa it's whatever happened in my life and how I analyze and what to do this the wisest person who has experience he did that 20 times first time you do something you're like a person does some art or work for years first month I ever put F on I'm sure you have it the old new new men it took me maybe 20 minutes to do this and one was this Direction one was that Direction and I have a picture of the first time I ever put F in talit after I did cha you see the talit is like cooked and half on the floor and the box of the fine is here and the I'm like like a crippled individual 20 minutes to tie the F in you can't get the the the the the the the CER the the how do you say the knot you can't get it right and it falls and now I put F in in 3 seconds it's on the hand and and straight like uh precise why I'm doing it for 20 years it's already a habit so if you want to benefit from the hour that you sat here then you have to do a switch in your mind and you have to understand that if you let other people or situations in your life affect your happiness or your mood or Shalom your sadness you failed not easy you need a lot a lot of a lot of trust in hm a lot of amuna a lot of faith and belief in hem my recommendation because a lot of people don't know how to deal with their amuna with their belief my recommendation besides preventing from doing sins I mean the sins do stains on your soul that can cause heresy and can cause questions in belief there's no other way around it but if you need to strengthen your amuna my it's not that I invented that everything that I say I don't invent I read books and then I tell it over but say you want to increase in youra to to strengthen your belief in hasem then you have to say every day anyways you have to do that by the way it's called you wake up in the morning you eat brush for bread say Everybody Eats every day you eat every three days no you eat every day day some people how they look it looks like they're eating 10 times a day but you eat every day so at least one of the meals wash for bread and then shom I'm sorry I'm doing it to you but you'll have to say baton that takes three and a half minutes I'm sorry most people don't want to say baton people drive to the other side of the Town 45 minutes in traffic to eat the pizza that Isom I should not SA you're starving you about to take the bread it's it's AI I'll have the Apple you're offered a million doll check and you're saying I don't want it that's really the thing B is the source of all your blessings that's it you giving up the opportunity Abu used to do that trick to bring people to be more believing in God AB would open his tent all the people will come and eat for free and then he would tell him thank AEM that you because you ate from his food and if the person says I don't know that God and I don't want to then elazar would walk in a 7 and 1/2 foot giant like this with arms like that and say pay 10,000 for steak very quickly he would say baton now that's my additions elzar was doesn't indicate anywhere he was 7 and A2 ft I'm just saying elzar was known to be a very large individual not a giant but a very large individual I'm imagining like some 7.4 guy with big arms and I mean he when abrah ainu went to take lot it says in the Torah that they took with him 317 men some commentary says it wasn't 317 men it was abin and and and elzar that was the Army AB was throwing sand you know the the spears of abrah ainu and if you don't know I'll tell you abah ainu had special sand he would throw the sand at his enemies and it would turn into Spears and abrah ainu took down Four Kings with armies like Russia Iran China that's the same idea imagine an old man throwing sand at Putin and missiles turned from that and that's what's going to happen by the way when mashia comes by the way when mashia is going to have to confront the world that's what you're going to see mashia is not going to come with an M16 mashia is going to say some holy word and you'll see letters flying like ninja stars into the enemy wait you'll see how mashiah is going to take down the enemy only with his mouth he's not going to come with a with a stick even like mosu same way that mosu took the Jews out of and he said Moshe spoke and the plague happened that's what mashia is going to do he's going to come and surrender the world with his mouth not even one bullet is going to fly so we are in a very very very supicious time we're in the beginning of the month of AD yesterday I gave a very a important class is going to be online tonight where I explain the next six weeks what can be achieved and how I highly recommend that you follow it because Adar is a very supicious time it's a that you can step forward and say I want to I want to change my life I want to refine myself I want to get to a point that even if things don't work out inside I'm a happy individual nothing bothers me of course I see sad things on the on the news people being murdered of course I'm sad but on a daytoday base I have true happiness and I'm not saying it to show off of something I'm calm and relaxed nothing bothers me I sleep well I eat well do I look to you like I I'm stressed out do I look worried or under any type of a and some interpret it is that you don't care you're so atic you don't care what's going on in the world Sunday I didn't say I don't care I just don't let it affect me because when I'm in a low spirit I can't be benefiting anyone if I'm sad depressed by a situation can I benefit you in any type of a way no I rather deal with the situation Hashem made the situation happen and he also prepared in his archive all the solutions when Hashem presents to you a problem just that you know that in the back burner there's five Solutions how hasem can solve the problem if you give him the opportunity the problem will be solved you don't give him the opportunity not only that the problem wouldn't be solved you're going to be in a state of unhappy and sad or stressed or whatever it is so when our sages come and tell you you increase en joy in the when the month of AD comes one thing that I told you increase in you do your own calculation now if you no now and you don't do nothing about it then why did you come no really why did you come that's what you need to ask yourself you came now to some show and I'm giving you some uh uh souvenirs for free why don't you take it and if you didn't take it then why' you come that you need to ask yourself what am I benefiting from this lecture I mean you spent the night you you could have saw saw your favorite show on Netflix but you decided to come and see me so the question you has to ring in your mind what am I benefiting from this lecture what can I physically do I can't give you the answer you can decide if you want want to increased in charity if you want to increased in acts of kindness if you want to increase in the hours of day that you learn to if you want to whatever but if you don't do that you leave this room you the benefit you could have gained you lost so a increasing as much as you can whatever you do now do 10 times more whatever you can handle the second is to increase in joy is what I told you increase enjoy means increase in forgiving other people that cause you the hardship and increase of coming closer to other people and trying to do peace and what I'm telling you you don't have to call anyone you don't have to come and to a person now say I forgive you in your heart somebody did something bad to you and your heart say I forgive this person I I don't want anything you know that somebody did something real bad to me and my sons a year plus ago and we had all the ability to so this individual Sue financially it was not a good thing and everybody was like sue them you'll get a lot of money and after a while listen when things happen to you you you're upset you're like I'm going to sue I'm going to this I'm going to that very quickly I understood that they are messengers these neighbors whatever they did that's Hashem talking to us what the what's the point of suing what I'm looking for Revenge I'm looking for revenge for what they did I just admitted that I understand that it's AEM who sent them so why you seeking for Revenge what do you want to make money you think you're going to make a few hundred thousand on the that that's gazel that's not your money if hasem wanted to get money he would give you money in a in a different way you're trying to get money cheat the system and like it's not even it's not even so many didn't understand how I'm not angry at them that I'm not doing anything because I understood that's that's a messenger that came to give me a lesson so I can open up my eyes it's like AEM giving you a slap in the face I'm walking waking up okay what do I need to do do I need to pursue now Revenge to this individual I would feel like a whole toll heretic and and then I had all the the rights to be upset and angry they didn't something bad but again it's the same idea I don't let anybody affect me good or bad even the good even when you do something real good I don't get too hyped up from that not to oh I'm so great and he's helping me and look at me that's just going to feed my my my negative ego so even when you do something good to me I humble myself to thank you please don't I don't need it I I'll I'll do it myself I don't I don't want you to go out of your way so you have two things you need to focus on that I'm telling you apply that you'll see your life is much more peaceful much more calm you'll be much more happy dur during the day you'll sleep better you'll fall asleep faster you'll digest your food better you're not going to be so your mind is not going to be like some crazy hectic yo-yo flying in your mind like most people and life will be more calm you'll have challenges but challenges that's your work you came here to the world to go through the challenges Hashem wants to get you shape if you want to go now to the gym you're not going to make any progress if you just sit like this on a bench in the gym even if you wave your hands to different directions nothing's going to happen because you need resistance to every movement that you make if I lie down on a bench now and I'll go like this 600 times and something's going to happen to my muscles no maybe a little bit of cardio nothing will develop in the muscle because for the muscle to develop you need resistance I need weight to push and when I push and the muscle is how do you say it's challenged challenged that's when the muscle is developed so Hashem is developing you and he's giving you challenges and he hinding it to you with the force of life you go now to a hospital and you want to see the monitor of a person in the hospital what do you see the line goes up and down and if the person is dead the line is flat so if your life life is flat then you're dead spiritually and if your life is up and down one time you up one time you down challenge up down up down that's the motion of life that's the Rhythm of Life one time you have a challenge you overcome it now you go up you go down that's it I need to be upset now and the at the opponents or the members of the game it's me it's only me when you apply that you'll see how your life changes and why do our sages add that on Adar because on Adar I'll give you in a little secret on removes from is to be more exact the Z says from puim till PES so you have less than two weeks to prepare to the fact that hasem removes Kip the energy that is surrounding you that is causing you doubts in Hashem to disbelief cools you down from excitement and so like you now all excited from every word that I say and now you go out of the door and two minutes later all the excitement goes down that's it that's a m he grabs you he's waiting outside but between pu and P hasem removes this which means that you can serve AEM without this battle without this Amal cooling you down you know what a jumping board that is and if you do it the right way the next month the month of Nissan the month of Miracle where we celebrate going out of Egypt you go out of your state of limitations I explained that that last last night in length and your state of limitations is all your MIM all the things that bother you your addictions your weaknesses very simple that's what I told you watched the class from last night 6 weeks you have now a lot what to do I'm telling you you leave P free p is called the followay of freedom freedom from what from par no freedom from the the my my my my own mind my own challenges free freedom from everything that is bothering me bringing me down slow me down you understand the opportunity you have that's it and what is required our sages say the action is what counts if you don't do any action don't complain but if you do an action then Hashem comes forward and assists you that's what I told you you have to go through this door with a with a decision what am I doing tonight what am I doing tomorrow tomorrow how am I changing I want to change obviously you came to hear some words of encouragement and inspiration so I'm also giving you practical advice and if you don't do it tonight don't expect your puim to be so your Adar to be so successful it's equivalent to aul how many times you get woken up in aul in the first day of then you wake up two days before you didn't do nothing that's it that's what happens to most people so it's the same thing with p and you have a whole month of AD to really climb up spiritually or you don't depends on you especially I came early this time so you have enough time to watch the videos see the the the lectures and prepare the right way so now it all depends on you and with that I want to conclude one other element which is just my addition since we're talking about they have to increase in joy then we know based on our sages that y wine wine brings Joy to the heart of a human being so in case you know don't know I'll break the news to you that I was lucky enough and blessed by the master of the universe to put my hand on Amazing Vineyards in the North of Israel next to Lebanon and in the last few years I've been making my wine for myself I'm making wine for myself for the K Pro for the Kut reasons for the cautious supervision for the sensitivity of the wine because wine is the top substance that you can inhale or digest that if it's not cerate the damage is the worst of everything you eat uncer meat or meat and dairy this with the severity how it affects your body is very very big and it affects your body in sicknesses in psychological emotional issues I'm talking about uncos meat but when you suddenly grow and grow in the severity for example if you eat a worm a worm on your lettuce this big worse than eating anos worse than eating pig this size of a worm in Israel if you eat fruit and vegetables that were not given from worse than eating a worm can you imagine you eat an apple and it's affecting your soul and it grows and grows and grows but the worst of everything is wine un wine messes you up completely the say it causes your mind to be completely disoriented so I started making my own wine like I start I make everything for myself if I come out to the public and say what things are out there it's not that I'm coming and telling you and I'm not I I I do everything myself so why I make myself too and happened to be that last year after the war with when the war broke out a huge Miracle cuz our our Bard is right in front of Lebanon we had to to prune to take down the The Grapes 5 days after October 7 soal was shooting at us from the north we're like 100 meters from the border not shooting guns shooting RPGs on us and if you don't cut the grapes everything is gone worthless and Hashem did such a miracle and Israeli tank came out of nowhere broke the gate of the vineyard ruined half the vineyard and started shooting into leanon and protecting us and we cut all the wine when we're under Fire holy holy soil Miracle unbelievable and the biggest miracle was the quantity of the produce was much more than normally so Sly had a lot of wine I told you a few times the secret why I why I I decided to make wine for the reason that I know it sounds crazy but I don't care if you think I'm crazy I'm doing it for hem the PO the story of guys that they had a miracle that didn't have oil to light the Min and there was a miracle that the little picture of oil was enough for8 days then that's how they there was a big miracle so I had this weird idea that maybe soon mashiah is going to come maybe we'll be a big war things will get messy they'll come and build beta mikdash and then they're going to come to do the sacrifices of beta mikdash and find out that all the wines are impure and not Kosher and they can now do Corb why are they going to do the sacrifices how are you going to started the whole process I have a stash of barrels under the ground waiting for mashiach to come you want some of it I know you want some of it when I went to my Rabbi who unfortunately by the way is extremely sick now and I'm asking anyone if he can to pray for fromia he fell he's very very sick uh but nevertheless he's my Rabbi and he he's the he told me sell the wine told him what should I do with the wine he told me sell it bottle it and sell it you had a bad year the whole year of the war affected us financially my organization tremendously cuz no tourism no students no nothing a year and two months the whole system is is not moving so he told me sell the wine so I sld so I came said okay but anyways and that's I'm telling you is is as a side note that he told me that in one of your barrels there's wine that mashia is going to drink from so I buried barrels of wine you're not going to find it I know you want it top quality wine with the exact specification how ra explains for the wine to be treated and B maybe we I'll be the lucky one to say I have wine for mashia but in the meantime I have a lot of other wine and since I told you that I have my wine here from Israel this wine is specif specifically designed for PES for the four cups exactly how rambam explains that the right way to do the wine for four cups CU most of the wine according to Ram most of the wines even if they're super super culture they're not how it's supposed to be for the four cups so the wine is designed for the four cups CU that's the peak of what we're looking at we now have six weeks to start working on ourselves and refining and forgiving and giving and then you come to the peak of the peak of the 14th day of Nissan and the theme is to drink the four cups which I will make a lot of classes in the near future explaining everything but what I wanted to share with you is if we're looking for some more happiness real good kosher wine makes a person very very happy so I have the wine here from Israel I don't have a lot I have a very limited amount but it's available I highly recommend to use it for PES people say I'm buying it and putting it on the Shelf it's not to put it's not a memorable it's not some metal it's good quality wine that I'm telling you if you see the video how my Rabbi is blessing the wine he's he told me the blessing is that it will bring AA to the person that's the name of the wine I didn't know how to call it so I figured out I'll call it after myself very arrogant right very humble I should say but nevertheless the name of the wine is anava on and why because that's really where you want to reach you want to reach to a place that you are the most humble person in the world and I guarantee to you that if you humble you'll be the most happy person in the world when I became observant and I didn't have a guide I didn't have a rabbi my friend brought me thean the letter ofes which would became my Torah because that's the only thing that I would learn it's two pages that became my Torah I KN I memorized it and I appli that later on come tomorrow and you'll hear the whole story but I sat in jail close to two years that was the thing that I knew off by heart that was my Tor and he says there he's talking about arrogance and and all that and he tells you the key to all the success in your life he tells you humble yourself and Hashem will raise you that's it the more you humble yourself in front of hem in front of the entire world Shem elevates you that's why Moshe raenu had to be the top of all prophets he had to be the most wealthy person how rich Moshe raenu was when he carved The Ten Commandments The Ten Commandments were made out of sapphire and Hashem made Moshe carve them they were six amama big my height big pieces of of sapphire that later on mosar Cut and everything you know how strong it was to carry these tablets and how did the tablets break because once there was the sin the letters went out of the tablets and then became heavy and they fell down and broke but all the remainings from those Sapphire what Moshe worked on he got it as a bonus M was very very rich and why is that important to us to know because when you humble and you're doing AEM then hasem raises you to all the levels you need to go abrah ainu was a multi-millionaire it yob they were all multi multi-millionaires look at Yosef gazillionaire had all the money of Egypt I know many of our sages were extremely poor to teach us how to deal with poverty but the majority of our sages were extremely wealthy re rabud the author of the mishna multi multimillionaire he had Vineyards and and acres and Acres of Agriculture why cuz when you go in the path of asem and you get your nourishment from a place of Kusa of abundance then in this world you'll have an abundance you have to understand where the shefa is coming from and if the shefa the abundance the energy is coming from a place of a a a positive abund you you become wealthy here so the the point you want to take from that is that your your goal is to reach to true true true humility and then the result will be life is easier life is more smooth you are a happy individual I'm telling you I can only testify on myself and testify on the people that I see with my own eyes that make the transformation challenges will stay in your life all your life ups and downs all your life I had we have a learn in in the Learning Center inat it's now especially because of the war and it started with Corona but we had a program a Yesa for older men men who do chuva we had the same thing with for women that's active but the men older men that do chuva you know I'm I'm the teacher I'm the youngest one all the men there are in their late 50s 60s 70 we have a man who's 84 years old who did Chua 84 years old man did Chua 10 years ago in his 70s can you imagine comes like this you know the hills andat comes early in the morning prayers learns when we question him cuz he's for us a wise man you're 86 years old one time there was a discussion about how men look at women and if it's appropriate not appropriate should be done not be done can should don't follow your eyes there was the discussion about looking at men looking at women and the cause the effect so he said cuz we were all talking okay the yet is burning when you're young he says no the yet is burning also when you're 84 years old you don't get rid of that can you imagine him telling us you have challenges when you 80s you young you have challenges to find your other half then you marry you have challenges for schom then you have kids you have challenges with raing the kids then the kids go out of the house you have challenges of Health you're becoming you're deteriorating all your life you have challenges and then your kids need money and the grandkids need money and then you're becoming older this challenges all day long but the promise the Torah gives you is if you humble you're not going to deal with that that's really the strong message of increaseing Acts that that will bring you true Sim that's it is there anyone here that doesn't want to be happy no everybody wants to be happy do you want your life to be somewhat smooth and normal yeah you'll have a lot of challenges you have to be patient but if you do what I tell you I guarantee to you you'll have a much more smoother life you'll be much much happy and now if I would tell you this class four months ago it wouldn't have the same power it's only applicable for ad why cuz the energy of the month is totally totally different right now whether you feel it or not nobody's asking you the energy of ad is a total different energy to to to make to to emphasize what I'm talking about the energy of AD brought for us a our leader mosu was born on Adar many many other things in the history but also so the month of brought us the miracle of Pim how many times there was decrees to annihilate us was there more a holiday after the Holocaust there was a holiday 100 years ago in Soviet Union when the Russians the Stalin was butchering Jews there is there a a celebration after the Spanish Inquisition 500 years ago how come Pim got a holiday you know how many times we were facing Annihilation I'm sure you know the joke why are you celebrating right now when they wanted to kill us we won let's eat you know that joke look at all our holidays all our holidays they wanted to kill us we won let's eat so Adar has the potential to birth Miracles like puin what is the miracle there was a decree a man wanted to do a holocaust the Jews fasted mainly they got together I spoke about it on Thursday in the saf the videos online go and look at it mainly was the unity Esther tells get all the Jews together not in some Stadium get them together to be in unity and we had an unbelievable Miracle That's The Power of That's The Power of what it says in in the take any situation you have in your life do what I just told you huge chance that it will switch switch it was the worst news you ever got it turned to the best news you ever got that's it you decide Kosh sends you the opportunities your bad news your Misfortune with the right attitude suddenly becomes your lottery all the attitude that's why it's so important that during ad that's what you do and hopefully now that you came here on the second day of AD you have a whole month to apply that no excuses no I didn't have time I didn't want to and of course you are the master of your own domain you want to do something for your life good you don't don't complain and all is left for me to wish you is great success when you walk out of this door the fight with Amal that you should ignore the fight you should ignore all the arguments of and be focused on Hashem look watch this class three four times memorize the the St the steps do it it's not a lot it's not that you're required many hours a day to do something you added half half a Mitzvah to your to your list you do it in a nice no way I'm telling you already you'll get hooked on it you'll get hooked on the fact that when you that you have the ability to switch decrees that's the the the the power of of Adar to switch decrees to take a decree and just make it disappear same with your life you're in control of your own life and only you can do it nobody will do it for you nobody will pray for you nobody will do the mitzvot for you nobody will come and wake you up in the morning to be first and Sh you need to do it you need to go out of your own for aot and make a change so I'm going to bless you to be successful in everything that you do that you're going to have the ability and the power and the desire and and all the tools to fight your inclination your yet your bad opinions your thoughts your struggles and then has should make you successful forgive all your sins that's the quality of puim the day of atonement is but it's like puim you have 12 days to prepare your to puim I gave yesterday an amazing class it's going to go tonight on online how to prepare what to do and how to cut through the the the lines of to say how to get the most out of puim and it's such basic things basic things and I guarantee to you your P will be different your P will be different your entire year and life will be different things will be completely completely different but it requires from you a lot of hard work but when you apply a lot of hard work Hashem adds the rest [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] oh [Music]