How to know which Mit'zvot you need to work on? #torah

And I don't know about you but I can tell you about only about myself certain mitzvot are very difficult for me to do. It comes with so much and so much difficulty and so much no desire to do and the knows he can take me like that on these mitzvot. That's my understanding that that's the mitzvot. then on my list I'm missing which means that I have to do it the right way in this lifetime because if not I'm going to have to come back and do it again. I didn't complete it. I didn't reach a tikun for that mitzvah and you can see it on yourself and it doesn't matter right now if you're observant or not or how observant you are because I know people who are secular and they give a lot of charity and for them giving saddaka they love it. The person is not even religious but they're very charitable. They're very generous.