Finding true happiness is not that hard... Depends what you are willing to do! - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] now I want to talk about something that is H needed uh very can be achieved even though life is caving down on you but uh something that is missing from most people is natural Joy people are happy with certain things in their life if they got a new car they got a new job they got something so they're experien some Joy that's one level of s of joy and happiness then on another level is that they um participated in some joyful event a wedding uh Mitzvah party different type of joy that you can receive another level of happiness that we experience is from good food some people give them good food that's that's their their Joy some people don't care I'm just trying to paintt a picture that each person finds ways to get little bites of Joy because it's very hard to get the natural Joy so it's natural that when you are unhappy you seek something to bring you that happiness unfortunately nothing really brings you happiness in this world but what will come from the internal part of the Nish you can have all the money of the world healthy beautiful kids and wife success anything if your n is not happy if your soul is not happy you won't be happy and the complete opposite you can have debt be poor trouble from here till tomorrow and you jumping up and down the conclusion from that joy happiness Sim is not coming from anything in this world world it's true that some things will give you a moment of joy and I gave different examples that you can relate you know a good meal will give me in my scale from 1 to 10 good food in my scale will give me joy number four uh number eight will be h no thank you number eight will be I don't know learning Torah I'm talking about in my scale uh every person has what gives them Joy another person what gives them the most Joy is to do good to another person and another individual and listen we are not H prophets we're not Saints sometimes you need a little physical fix to get some Joy listen life is not so easy and sometimes you need a little outlet and you need something to give you a dose of sim so some people do it with alcohol they'll get drunk on Shabbat or get drunk every day or some people will watch a movie or go to a sports game or do sports or whatever you got the point the point is that we constantly seek for happiness we are stuck on the fact that happiness comes from things in this world H even if you understand in your mind cuz you're all nodding even if you understand in your mind that physical things don't bring you Joy we still pursue the physical things to get the joy that they bring us and we're still in a level of limitation that I don't understand that if I go to the right Source then the Sim will be real and then I don't have to run after the little things that bring me Sim so like I told you not once and not twice you want good advice I have a few great teachers that I go for for advice one of my favorites is King David the book of is full of advice it says in chapter sadik 97 verse 11 it says translation a light is shown shown s h o w n shown for the righteous and for the upright of heart Joy from this T we learn that when a person when the person's heart the word it says in Hebrew because it says means something straight straight is when a person is honest no double face no h bring pretending straight heart that's the saying in Hebrew this verse is coming to tell us that when a person his heart is straight then and then by default in a natural way that person will be happy true Joy will waken up constantly from this heart this joy that we're looking for and I don't know if I'm saying the right word Joy by the way I'm saying here Joy because he translated the word Sim to Joy I I'm referring to the word SIM can be happiness can be Joy can be laughter well laughter no that will be a different word but let's we're stuck right now I on Joy or happiness one of the two the true happiness that you're looking for is the most excessive and natural thing that you have it's just that we don't let it happen and it's exactly like our health we prevent our body from being healthy we are the enemy of our own body when it's coming to health I'm talking about the body is so sophisticated and so strong and so unique that it can heal yourself from anything just let it do it we don't let the body do it with the chemicals that we take with different H treatments that we do but the reality is leave the body alone it will heal itself and when I'm saying leave the body alone first of all you need to give it the right amount of sleep the the right nutrition and anything else that the body needs but don't interfere with all sorts of external things the body will heal itself this is the exact same thing naturally in our system which means that naturally according to David if my heart is pure by default I will be I will be full of joy and happy so what am I getting here then I need my heart to be pure now I'm using the word right now pure used the word is a heart comes from the word means straight in Hebrew yashar also means honest and yashar also means in in Hebrew that you're truthful so Lear is that you pursue truth you you care about the truth you don't like lying you don't like coming to a situation that you have to say words of Deceit now the the the irony here I told you that 28 years prior to me becoming observant I was a liar everything with me was lies I lied in business made millions of dollars I lied to people all relationships were all based on lies everything with me was a lie why I got my way faster cheaper better when I became observant I didn't pursue studying in Yeshiva that was way beyond my capability the first year of my becoming observant is stop doing the bad things you do don't find the time now to learn and pray first stop I couldn't pray in my mind my common sense cuz I didn't have a rabbi the first few years my Common Sense said you cannot pray you're not ready to pray cuz your mouth is dirty you lie you cheat you slander you gossip you use foul language your mouth can't pray your mind is impure how can you focus on your prayer so I would just put on say that was my prayer and the morning prayer so my Common Sense wasn't guidance from a rabbi the common sense says first clean first clean the junk stop lying stop cheating stop deceiving stop saying a stopped cursing you know how my language was every word that I said came with some other word attached to it some some type of uh an addition you know no not the a word or the b word the see all the words so what was in my mind was like first reduce the problem start closing like I saw it like a hole full full of leaks a lot of water coming everywhere and it just Clos all the leaks so one of the first thing that was most important to me in my mind is stop lying you can't lie everything has to be am it because if I have to summarize my entire experience in the world above in one word is that's it what did you learn from your visit to the world above Hashem only likes truth that's why the world above is called the world of Truth this world is called Alik the world of Deceit the world of ly all that hem cares about is em the Seal of hem seal of Truth the Torah everything is a so if you want to be align with AEM you have to be a too a is that you're truth you're truthful you don't lie you don't exaggerate you know exaggerating is lying you don't add details it is what it is this is the truth deal with it so any person that wants to achieve closeness to hasem is only to pursue truth rule number one and he says live a person that his heart is straight then what would be the result Sim it doesn't matter your financial situation or your marital situation it matters how pure your heart is when I became observant I told you that hundreds of times I bought a notebook in Convenience Store that cost me a dollar and a pen for it cost another dollar and every time that I lied I opened up this little notebook cuz the LIE came out instinctly and I wrote the time of the day and the lie and at the end of the day I didn't know what's I'm talking about the first year of me becoming observant I didn't have any guidance I didn't say but at the end of the day I read my notebook and I read all the lies that I said how many times and what was the light and every day was 30 40 lies and nonsense when are you there I'm there in 5 minutes I'm there I'm there in 20 minutes I'm late I'm there in 5 minutes why are you lie just say I'm there in 20 minutes I'm late I'm going to be running late I'm sorry and all the lies were nonsense really nonsense if you listen to yourself how much you lie that's when you realize that you adding so much information somebody calls you oh no I'm not home right now uh uh I'm going to be home in 3 hours why you have to catch yourself in the slide just say right now I'm not available I can't attend this situation this second or or I can't talk or or don't pick up the phone or whatever listen I can give you now advice how not to lie but the point is if you monitor yourself you have to be humble if you monitor yourself you'll see that you lie all the time now comes a a uh comes a situation that happens to the ones who work on their line and I'm telling you if you don't do it you have this is a big part of your Chua because Hashem only wants a truth three times a day we say with truth so if part of your is not to figure out your lying situation that's not good and I know a lot of people say I never lie I also said that H sometimes you are required to lie and that's what I'm talking about that sometimes when you're working on the Mida of em you will be tested that you have to lie and you and you really don't like it then you have to say something or say the truth what's going to be happen what's going to happen now so now we're not talking we're not going to do a class about how not to lie I want to emphasize that a true heart and honest person with a pure heart by default will bring you the joy you want so as I'm telling you you don't have to do much it's naturally there it's almost like I come and tell you now and I quote I don't say it on myself there's electricity in the air okay Tesla said that I'm not me don't come to me but we just don't know how to take it from the air he invented the device that can take the electricity from the air of course uh I'll choose not to say what I wanted to say but nevertheless he didn't live long and and now you pay every month you are a slave to the electricity company then you paying for nothing you don't have to pay for okay I said that already three four years ago they are paying for air with the electricity companies they're taking money for you for no reason there electricity are okay you just know how to you don't know how to not take it you don't know how to manifest you don't know how to transform it from here to in a battery so Sim is everywhere you just don't know how to do that little shift that it's there and the example that I gave you with the health of the body leave your body alone it will heal itself from everything you preventing the body from healing Itself by pushing into the body the wrong nutritions or in the wrong time when I'm saying the wrong time most people drink and eat at the same time first no no of R not to mix the the liquid and the and the hard food ra says drink two hours before the meal and an hour after the meal simple follow this I guarantee to you you'll already have an upgrade in your health so we prevent our our body from healing itself but the fact is that if we don't bring into our body toxins it will always be healthy same thing with my Nish don't bring in toxins you'll be happy so before we continue ask yourself a question can you say that you are a happy person if on the raft on your raft you're are pretty high good class might not be you you still listen you might learn one thing there are a lot of people that they're naturally happy with their difficulties with their challenges the difficult and difficulties and challenges it's like a day job you have to do it you know that most people in the world don't like their job but you have to do it so our challenge is it's like a day job do it finish with it the fast you finish with it put it aside but that's a fraction of people that they really naturally happy the majority are not naturally happy they constantly need those little fixes because the system is unhappy so they need little doses a quick movie a quick meal uh something to get the the the joy up and running but really like I told you it's in the system built in the system you just need to know how to reach out to it now you have to understand that Sim true Sim is a magnet it pulls to it light it pulls to Ita it pulls to it health it pulls everything a person that is Happy pulls to him everything excuse me a person that is unhappy will never be healed from any medical situation they have uh Chinese medicine teaches that if a person is gave up may you you can't heal him you can't heal him from the disease and if the person has true SIM from the worst diseases he can be healed I can tell you that my great my grandmother was a very special woman one of her qualities that she was her amazing qualities that she was constantly in gratitude to hasem and the second thing is she was constantly she was was diagnosed with cancer when she was 86 they told her she has 3 months to live she died six years later she told them uh you're not putting me in a toaster oven I'm going to go home I'm going to live my life and H I'll see you every few months for a general checkup and as they call it in the medical field medical H miracle and she lived another six years when her doctor told her you have colon cancer and this cancer and this cancer three month stops if you do Kemo six months then she lived six years why because she was all the time I went to visit her months before she died she was in her 90s Skin and Bones and she was playing her Frank Sinatra records and you know you know smoing around the the room whatever she liked with Frank sadra who was the other one I don't remember she was Sami I don't remember 50 is Sim says something interesting he says the letters of the word Sim is the same letters of mish here is a shin here is a sin but the same letters Mishka is an ointment or some gel you rub on usually what happens when you rub something on your body it doesn't heal it pushes the the whatever came out inside so a lot of people they have a skin issue or something toxins are coming out from the skin if the toxins don't come out from your urine or your sweat or your extra or the toxins need to come out all the time if you preventing from the toxins to come out it will come out one way or another so it will some come come on the on the skin so you get all the diseases on the skin what will the doctor give you a cream but the cream you just push the thing back in you didn't do anything same thing here if I have fake Sim then it will it's temporary the the quick meal the good steak the movie The being dressed nice and again everything is good I also like a lot of things I also love good food when do I pleasure good food on Shabbat enjoy then it's a Mitzvah when do you pleasure good I like beautiful clothes on Shabbat on Shabbat you wear the nicest of all your clothes you enjoy marital relations on Shabbat on Shabbat everything is a Mitzvah you can't go wrong so do everything on Shabbat and enjoy it there's nothing wrong with all these things but that's not the source of sim and the same way that it's a something temporary then the Sim is temporary it's very very simple and the thing is that whatever you will push into the deep into the Nish it will will surface at some point every person needs to bring on himself Sim it's not that you wake up in the morning and you know the bank called or the landlord called or somebody called and I'm not in a good mood today that's not true the the fact is that even if life is caving in front of your face you can pull on yourself the the Sim yourself and not only that by that you can also monitor how much your sim is and one needs to do that because H one of my a one of my things that I need to do is to bring Sim on myself and I know a lot of people they depending on Sim on external things but the reality disconnect all the external things and understand that even your mood all the external things money a messages sometimes a person just gives you a message that's it your whole day is worned the other day somebody didn't tell me something told me two days later say why didn't you tell me I didn't want to bother you I didn't want to no how they say I didn't want to make you upset see so you pushed the news in two days after two days I'm not going to be upset an hour I'm more upset cuz I two days passed say just tell me what's the news but the fact is that some sometimes you hear news ruins your day so we have to understand that we cannot depend on true Joy on not on money not on the news not on what's going on and now in the what's going on in the world 5 minutes of the news then you're for sure you're depressed all day along what's going on Wars [Music] and so I have to understand first message of the class my sim is not dependent on external things not money not how I look not how other people look not where I live all these things yeah can affect you but but should not which means you cannot depend your joy and happiness or your sadness and despair on an event that happened in your life if you are unhappy or happy because something happened in your life that's way your your gauge have to tell you you're doing something wrong okay if I get extremely happy because I bought something new or I achieved something but it's external and I'm happy for a day or two that's not the true happiness it will pass and that's it the happiness will go down and this goes both ways but nevertheless anything that will happen throughout my life and I'm giving example example with money it can be you know other things now again you have to be very patient with how you take what I say because I know a lot of people will twist what I'm saying by saying oh H yesterday H my brother got married and it was a big and I was it brought me great joy that's something external well first of all you know you can probably twist anything and say that's external first of all wedding is not it's a big event it's a joyful event now what brings you Joy the fact that you were wearing a beautiful suit and you ate their good steak and drank wine and everybody saw how beautiful you look did that bring you Joy in the wedding oh brought brought you Joy is the fact that your brother or your friend or whatever came together with their other half and they're going to build a home and there was a holy wedding and there was a separation in the dancing and culture food what brings you Joy in the external event take this example and what we need to understand is that the events in my life can contribute but they they don't create the joy so a what you need to take not money not success not fame not what I wear not what I drive not where I live should bring me the joy that I'm experiencing it should be things cuz I like it because it's good because it's nice the joy is already built in and it's not coming through external things what I need to remember is like I told you that Sim attracts things to it you are in a state of joy you attract your parasa your livelihood you attract your other half you attract good business deal you attract the right people because your energy that is projecting out is so good it can only attract good so if a person is naturally happy you see that people want to be next to that person everybody's drawn to that person and if a person is very moody or upset or angry nobody wants to be next to that person you sit next to a person with a pickle face they all all they open their mouth by saying okay thank you I don't need to hear your headache and you get up and leave you I have enough of my own my own the problem is that if a person is sad sadness has the motion of sucking it's called a sad person sucks away your energy you sit next to a sad person sad despair all that they suck all your energy and the other way around a person who's a joyful in their heart before we we we use a term uh uh straight hard we also have a turn we also experience a lot of sim and joy in our heart that's again why DAV says your heart is pure that's where you bring your sim from so nobody likes to be next to a depressed individual nobody wants to be depressed and sad themselves you know when you depressed or you unhappy you push away all the shefa you push away good people from you shefa is the abundance the blessing has wants to give you a blessing and you push it away so and even if you don't do anything that's the the reality now the joy the says theim is the mirror of your good good actions the balam says that when I do good actions or Good Deeds then what would mirror it is joy and not only that when I do a certain action the word in Hebrew is called to I tried many times to find the right word word in English for this word there's not such a good word for it in English because the dictionary is bringing to me words that make sense but it's not the translation to is that I have a situation and from that something is birth from it so it can be many different things it can be spiritual physical it can be in intellectual but the word is called to and I'll give you an example of one way of to is when and told them come together be fruitful and multiply that we can have Generations this is to you made an action that now is causing a continuation another generation another generation another generation another generation another example is they plant a tree the first action is the planting of the tree what's the to that now every year I have fruit and it will never stop unless I cut the tree so the to of my actions is what's going to bring the joy so where am I really getting my real action M real SIM from my action from my own action not from your action even my own action is where I can nourish true s very simple now again Sim what I'm talking about I'm not talking about jumping up and down in the street from Joy and I'm not talking about you know the type of SIM that people get by losing their Consciousness if it's alcohol drugs or other things that's not what we're talking about but nevertheless you cannot be truly happy if your heart is not 100% pure which is very interesting because one might say huh I I know many Wicked people and they look very happy thank you you answered you you said you went one step ahead of me look happy so I can only testify on myself I was once a wicked person and wicked in the level of the terms of the Torah because you can be the chairman of all the noner prophets in the world and everybody thinks that you are a kind person and you might be very kind but if you do one sin the Torah calls you Wicked so when I'm saying I was wicked a I was wicked based on the definition of wicked I wasn't a nice person I stole cheated lied everything violence the whole nine yards and so that's in the the physical and listen that's the truth the truth is and uh it doesn't matter right now why they can't argue with facts I was a very not nice person that's it why I don't know maybe Hashem took me not maybe Hashem took me where he took me so I eventually the polarity Will Be Heaven and Earth because where hasem took me in my life the you can only see two ends so no not to it says that one should not remind a person of his sins but to make uh uh the point I wasn't a nice person so I was wicked actual Wicked but I was also Wicked based on the definition of the Torah not only because my actions so according to the Torah I was rash M rash now according to that I can testify that you know on the external part I was very happy because I had a lot of money I had anything that I wanted I whatever I liked I bought I had F fancy cars beautiful clothes went on vacation so I constantly my day was happy I ate whenever I want whatever I want I got whatever I mean I was a very happy person on the surface cuz I had everything what's called be in a reach of a hand didn't come with a and listen even though all the money came in a not a a legal way but I worked hard it wasn't that I but nevertheless looking back I can tell you that then I was happy with the with these moment things how do you say momentarily things but I wasn't happy I wasn't I was an very unhappy individual I wasn't I wasn't happy with anything looking back I can tell you I had everything and nothing at the same time friends are not really friends they all want somehow to use you every person in your life is just a user they're not really good for you you know all the momental pleasures it's bcus I found myself many many times sad so all external things don't don't attract anything positive the only thing that will attract the true s is your heart is how if your heart is on the right path your heart is true you'll have true happiness now when you heart is pure then a supreme light what's called oron dwells on you so you feel it on you you you you are relaxed you you are you you don't have any anxiety you're not worried you're not anxious you're not confused about anything why because you are a a chariot more right to say you are a vessel to the Supreme light or if your heart is not pure and you are jealous of this person and you are angry at this person because he did something against you it doesn't matter right or wrong right now and you're very unhappy because that person has a more attractive wife and that person has more money than you and that person is smarter than you and this person is more popular than you and you're unhappy and you what's going on in your heart you're you're not going to be a happy person if you unhappy for other people cuz they're successful your your heart is is is not pure now when a person fills his a heart with a by default the Sim the true Sim shines up the neish so you can be in the worst situation but you're smiling and you're happy and I want asked my Rabbi how do I know my prayer was accepted you pray every day how do you know that prayer was accepted so he told me if you feel true happiness from within after the prayer your prayer was it was good and it was accepted that's your indication next time go and pray and then uh an hour or two later you wait to see how you feel if you you feel some type of bubbling energy inside then your prayer was good if you feel the same uh lousy feeling then the prayer was not good and of course you will blame it because you know you were thinking of your how to solve the problem and you were thinking of solutions and but that's not the time time to pray it's time to pray not to think of solutions and when you pray with true faith and then the prayer is right then you will attract the right energy so the reality is that we are commanded to be happy it says right most people say what's a commandment so I'm commanded to beim don't look at it how you say oh it's a great Mitzvah to do it's not telling you it's a great Mitzvah to do it says you have to it's not a recommendation it's almost like saying oh I put I observe Shabbat oh it's a great Mitzvah no you are commanded to be happy so the the the when but how how can I be commanded to be happy imagine now you have Financial stress you have health issues you have struggles and now Hashem is coming and telling you I order you I command you to be happy so you'll be like how can you command somebody to be happy what does it mean is that I have to do a and then I'll get the what so what am I what am I commanded here to do the but to do it in the right way the text will say because I can do things in not in the right way so what am I commanded do it the right way do the action the the right way and that will bring you the you need to do the first action and then I told you there's this to this Contin how do you say no [Music] continuity that's the and not only that there's another word for to sorry for is a chronologically so you do one action and it will start bringing a a a repetitive act so really when you are faced with the question if I'm happy or not has nothing to do with what you hear on the news has nothing to do with how much money you have in your bank account and if you're married not married you're healthy you're nonh when a person does the the a certain act of kindness or the act of the mitvah that's what brings the SIM to the heart you can buy or bribe the system so with that said when the B says that the Sim is the mirror to my action so ask yourself are you sad now again I told you many people will say no no I'm fine I have challenges in my life I have a lot of challenges but it doesn't affect my life I mean it doesn't affect my sim then you're doing great then this class is good for you but it should just bring you a that keep on doing what you're doing where do you Reeve the true s from not from anything around me I told you all your challenges are your day job like you don't like your day job you don't like your challenges you have to do it but what happens when it comes to a point that I'm really psychoanalyzing from within and I come to the conclusion I'm unhappy I'm I'm unhappy I'm not happy now I can be saying I'm unhappy with my marriage my wife is annoying me etc etc I will build my case and I now say I'm unhappy because of her now this might be not far from the truth might be that you have a horrible relationship with your wife and you're really unhappy but you need to make the analysis is your sim affected is it something that's just bothering you like a tooth pain or some thorn in your shoe that you can't step on your heel or it's your L your unhappiness is that so again you need to make some type of an analysis I can't help you with that I can give you the advice I can tell you where it's coming from I cannot give you the the the feeling I told you yes before how do you know you you f was accepted how do you feel after try to today or tomorrow when you're leaving the next prayer see if you're happy or if you feel some type of a energized feeling even if you feel it a little bit okay the F was good that's it nothing changed then you didn't pray right you went you did the effort you didn't pray right simple so when a person is finding himself in a place of sadness right now in the world 8 billion people each and everyone can raise their hand and say today at 7:32 I was sad why because a b and c okay a percent of the time it's a valid reason to be sad something big happened you're sad we not it's not that we're not allowed to be sad we're allowed to be sad when I'm praying for the destruction of the bet mikdash you're allowed to be sad you hear bad news with all all that's going on in the world you can be sad but not to an extent that it's affecting you so if a person finds himself that they're sad and they can look around and they're saying it's not coming from any anything external as lack of money uh bad relationship no relationship Health situation if all this you can come to the conclusion that that's what's causing the sadness then you know you're not in the right place because everything that I said and and more should not affect your sim you have money don't have money sick not sick you know one has nothing to do with the other if again you are affected by all the external things you're in a bad situation which means your your your your heart is not in the right place you have to again make an analysis if it's the listen I'm also sad when I get a ticket or something bad happens or sickness but I'm sad 2% okay you move on that's where you need to make your analysis how sad are you from something external if you find that something external is changing your mood like I told you you are going go back to the beginning of the line you're not doing well you're not doing well means your n is not happy you're not able to produce true happiness it means you're not doing something well you're doing something wrong even if you're doing a lot of mitv you are doing something that your heart is not pure figure it out because it's not allowing you to be happy if you pass that test and you find that you're sad and it's not because anything external then you have to understand you're not in the right frequency something's something's wrong if you are convinced 100% that it's not the lack of money or your marital status or the situation that's going on stress War Death inflation if you came to the conclusion that all this is not what's making you unhappy then you're on the wrong frequency and then you have to figure out what's going on and like I told you it's okay to be sometimes sad you lose a loved one something I'm not talking about something significant not something stupid your football team lost that's not a reason to be sad a little bit sad is fine you know when you should be sad when we're crying on the destruction of the temple when you saying V when you're doing like I told you before that's when you should be sad you know you have to be sad for the the the the stupid things you do but really if you are constantly stopping on sadness like I told you you are on the wrong frequency because the system that manufactures happiness is your heart so to conclude we have to be constantly the fact that I am constantly that's what will connect me to this supreme light to this Orion that it's kind of uh how you call it I always forget the name uh it's like a you do it one time like I told you the continuation you do it one time and then it by default it will continue dup the kind of not Not Duplicate but uh it will you do the first one then you reach to a level of sim it makes you receptive to this or to this Godly light so it gives you more Sim so now you're more closer to God so now you more unhappy I mean you're happy and then you more closer so it's like that's the this continuity that I'm depend that's what I said that that you do it the first time exactly so you just need to do the first time and you raise yourself to meet this Godly light this or is talking about that will give you the she now you're starting all over again but in a much higher level so I have so when the Torah is coming and telling me about the bad things that can happen and it concludes by saying why is all the bad things happening like we read now in I mean it's from a different but it says if you do what I tell you everything will be good you don't do what I you don't listen then here are there going to be the curses in the bad things that will happen to us with the Torah says if we don't follow the Torah it says clearly why is this all this happening because you didn't serve hem with happiness and with a pure heart so it means that if I don't serve AEM with true Sim that's when I bring the the the the bad effect but the what he's trying to say here is that I didn't serve Hashem the right way forget about the Sim right now if you serve AEM right by default you'll be happy if I'm not happy something's wrong something's wrong with my heart it's not aimed to Hashem if my heart is aimed to Hashem I will always be happy because my heart manufactures the Sim so I need to be aimed to the K that my words are a my my my how I carry myself all a my my you know have the people their a their relationship with hm is not true next to people they one thing at home it's a whole different thing are you kidding so everything in my life has to be a it my heart becomes pure my heart is straight then you reach to the true level of sim not anything ex external not anything that you attribute the Joy or not you have to understand that what manufactures the Sim is my Pure Heart now when I bring the this Sim on myself I become like a reactor of Joy So This Joy it makes other people happy it makes other people be other people and joy automatically will bring love a lot most people they they don't get along in their marriage not because there's no love because there's no joy love they started with loving each other and when does the love starts diminishing when there's no joy no sim No Love when you have a lot of sim then you have love for everybody you're not judgmental you're not narrow-minded you're not jealous so we have to understand that not money not respect no honor all these things can only give us a very momentary Joy but the real Sim that not only that is is there it stays and continues that's only when my heart is pure only when my heart is clean and like I told you memorize yourself this PUK because sometimes you need to memorize certain verses and you need to chant them to yourself you have to memorize Capal like I told you number 97 verse we say that verse on seven times you have to memorize that why the light the with their action is planting the light clean your heart that's it that's where your happiness will come from so I wish you to be able to clean your heart to clean the junk from your heart to be able to be always honest and truthful and pursue truth to always pursue truth not to look for all the shortcuts and the true Joy is only going to be manufactured in a pure heart there's no better advice than that and it's there's no I mean it sounds easier said than done very hard to get to a clean clean heart that you really don't hold anger to somebody who did something to you deliberately it's a it's a journey that Hashem will take you if you want a pure heart then hasem says I will I will give you one but it will come with a lot of a lot of hardship and I can tell you that most people don't have a pure heart left of it says in the mishna what is what is the best thing what is the best mid one one should have each Rabbi said you know I should have a good eye looking at people a good friend and the best advice was left of good heart now other day somebody also asked me about wish do there something about match I said them just I know you have to be attracted I know many things but you have to look for good heart good heart everything will fall in place person doesn't have a good heart doesn't matter how much money how gorgeous how beautiful so the advice I'm happy to give you both coming from the B from the from the one of his mavid and many others R the sim a lot of people they get it wrong you don't manufacture the Sim and you can't buy the Sim The Joy with physical things or certain situations the only way to manufacture the real Sim is if you do your service to hasem your bam it that's it that's how you will get it everything else is Heaven is air is nothing you want true Sim you want not to be affected by what's going on around you with all the stress and wars and financial stress and so many things serve AEM with a pure heart then you're going to be constantly in a state of sim even though again it's not you going to be dancing up and down when there's a a tragedy but you will be in a state of sim all the time you just need to make sure that your heart is pure and should bless you that you should reach to a pure heart clean heart with no anger no animosity no jealousy no holding Grudge to anybody letting go I guarantee to you you'll be happy you'll be healthy and all the rest of the challenges in your life will be this little after you you get this Holy Light to shine on you [Music]