Chesed of Hod – “Make space for others” | Counting the Omer - Rabbi Alon Anava

now we starting a whole brand new week of hood and last week n we were concentrating on being successful and Victorious and getting the power of MIT and so forth but now we're starting a whole new week and the week is called hod and I explained already a few times that hod can be explained in two ways hod can be H meaning that I thank being thankful which is an extremely important important mid to constantly be thankful for the good and the bad but H is also can be admitting coming from the word in Hebrew and I explained that so many times that when you wake up in the morning what do we say so I thank AEM for giving me back my soul but you can take it to a completely different direction and say means I admit in front of you that you are me you are the king that gives life and you give me life I'm not doing anything I'm a balloon of air and if hasem decides to go like this then I'm nothing so I admit in front of the Kosh you are the master of the universe not me I don't do anything here I am literally a puppet you are the master this is called H as one way you have the thanking another way you have the admitting now what am I admitting exactly I have to admit what does that mean that I admit that that I make sure that I give you your space this is not an easy thing to do because I always look at my needs my space my desires me me me I don't care so much about you sh no no no I'm talking right now not not you why are you pushing so this is a very bad Mida I need to now completely reverse it and to start admit wait a minute you also exist and you also exist and you also exist and you have your thoughts and you have your desires and you have feelings and you have dreams and I am one of the people here I'm not me and then the world is evolving around me so we start by admitting that you exist and you have room in my life I can run your life I can't tell you what to do I can't expect you to do things I definitely can't take advantage of you I have to admit that you exist the same way that I exist and you know what that means that I have to give you the space to operate how you need to operate and in most cases it's not necessarily going to be so good for me because you have to be you I can't oppose on you my needs and my desires I can't oppose on you my opinions I can't oppose on you anything I need to make sure that you have your space and you have to shine in your colors now how can I really build a real good connection with you that's based on honesty and love is only if I let you be you I can let I can demand you to be something now again don't don't take my words out of context and says wait a minute if the person let's say just example one out of many I'm living in a marriage right now the the spouse is doing a certain act that is not appropriate I'm allowed to tell the listen this is not appropriate please don't do it it bothers me this is not what I'm talking about of course you have to have a conversation with somebody if somebody bothers you you're allowed to tell the person please don't do it it's it's bothering me but what I'm saying is that I cannot try to redefine you to fit me because I you not I don't like what you say