Chesed of Gevurah – “Say NO from Love…” | Counting the Omer - Rabbi Alon Anava | #sefirathaomer

you can say yes to everything if you say yes to everything at some point you suffer and also the person you say yes to will suffer has to be sometimes that you say yes sometimes you say no has to be a good a good medium will be the one that will say yes gor will be the one that says no so the power of gor is the power to negate or to deny to say no and the no doesn't mean that it's negative by the way if you have a box of chocolates in front of you you have one piece you have another piece if you had already 22 pieces that's not good after the third piece has to be has to be no I had already but it's to say no for what's not good for you if it's good for you that's a whole different thing but if I know that something is not good for you and I tell you know then it's a very positive thing it's not a negative thing now why is it a positive thing not only because it's not good to you because it will do better better for you this is what's called in Hebrew if I now stop you from doing something that is not good from you that not only that I'm stopping you from doing something that is bad for you it will ask after benefit you so after a week that we went through the entire week of Love of now we're taking a whole 180 detour and we're going to a week of gor of severity of De of judgment now we're starting with it means love and but this is the love that will motivate me to stop something that is not so good you know the ultimate is with me and myself it's very easy to come say I have kids I need to educate them it's not good to eat too much chocolate it's not good to be too much in front of the computer that's between me and another person but we want to take it to the next level how about me and myself when there's nobody around me I can eat that whole box of cookies where's the where's the restriction has to be some to say I had to this is not good for me it's not healthy for me I'll gain weight I'll have a stomach ache I'll ruin my teeth whatever is so again is the Power of Love That motivates me to say no this is not restricting the Love by the way it's actually giving more love this is the abundance of love if I give with no restrictions then the love just comes like a waterfall like a damn opening and the water just destroys it doesn't benefit anything so the ultimate chefa the ultimate abundance of Love is when I know how to put a boundary and a border so again practic saying find a relationship in your life that you feel that you're constantly saying yes yes yes yes yes and saying okay where do I pull out the no in this relationship but not because I feel frustrated because it's the right time to say right now no we had enough no it has to finish right now and it's healthy for both sides and will benefit the person you say no take it to the next level even if you can find somebody in your life that you need to pull that no card then you turn the homework on yourself when do you say no to yourself and you'll find a time of the day that you letting yourself go too much where you have to say no I slept already 12 hours I need to get out of bed