After the chaos in life - are you REALLY Happy? Three keys of happiness - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] if one would ask you what is the most needed product of our day what would you guess would be the thing the item the thing that is the most needed right now in our days okay that's a is good what CH you said Shalom very good answers but not the most I mean you're probably in the 10 top ones but the thing that is most needed is happiness because the reality is that most people are not really happy and uh in a normal situation of a human being remove now external things in a normal situation a person supposed to be happy okay some challenges some uh situations but the overall feeling that one needs to have is that I'm good I'm fine that I'm good I might not have now everything that I want but I'm good and more than that a feeling of a of Happiness I'm I'm not jumping up and down didn't win the lottery but I'm I'm in general happy if this is not the situation which it's unfortunately not the situation then obviously what's needed the most is happiness when I said what's the product that is needed the most because when you need happiness you run after it and you run after it and try to get it however way you can most likely most people don't get it the right way the happiness so they pursue two other ways to find happiness whether it's through different H substance different triggers different stimulations doesn't matter but the reality is that each and every one of us every day all day long is looking for happiness now if you wake up in the morning in a good mood and doesn't matter if the sun is shining or not your mood doesn't get affected by the sun if you wake up in a happy mood most likely your day will go smooth smooth not in regards to everything that you'll do will be successful rather smooth you'll be in a good mood you'll be happy something happy or good or positive comes your way you appreciate it something negative comes your way okay you deal with it in Hebrew we call it you slide on it okay so so I got a take okay no Kap a lot of people are very stuck on every little thing even if it's something little and small but the sad reality is that most people on an average can say most of the time I'm unhappy now the question comes are you unhappy because you don't have money are you unhappy cuz you're single are you happy cuz you don't have kids why why you not why you are not happy or are you unhappy cuz your neighbor is more successful more attractive more famous everything you do doesn't work everything he does works I mean what's causing you there to be unhappy you have to make some type of analysis A lot of people will say no fine I'm happy but the reality is that they're not and a lot will say I'm unhappy but really they have nothing to be unhappy about now if we're talking constantly about happy happy happy and happiness what's the true happiness but if I ask you each and every one what's happiness to you I'll say it different we'll start the question how would you define yourself right now are you happy with your life you happy everything's good good whether you say good or not yes or not it's not not important right now the question is what is real happiness so every person will say something else one person will say seeing my kids grow another person will say just I'm breathing but most people will say my happiness is that the business is successful that I have a nice home that I'm respected in the community I have a nice car every person will say something else the question is how would you define happiness cuz I just defined it in a thousand different ways I'll tell you happiness is the good weather and you'll tell me seeing my kids grow happiness is not music uh movie and stuff like that that you hear it you jump up and down that's not happiness that's the problem with most people is that their state is unhappy and then they think that a funny movie will make them feel better they laugh for two hours they forget about the world for two hours they laugh but that's not real happiness just just some stimulation to either push away what I don't want to feel or think about or to get some type of a Lolli a lolly because life is bitter I need something sweet in my mouth but the reality is that happiness is from inside and can only be from inside and definitely not from anything basic in this world if you get Happy from something in this world it's a it's a stimulation it's not real happiness and it doesn't matter if it's 3 months or 3 minutes now comes even a more interesting question because in our generation the reality is the majority of people are unhappy if you're looking in an average very few people they're very happy with what they have they they don't get so impressed by the the chaos in their life they understand that's part of the system and overall they're not like a Mr smiley face but they're on the surface fine happy good the majority are not the majority of people whoever I look talk and and and uh have some type of encounter there is some deep unhappiness or un a feeling of of unsettlement so comes now the question so what what what are we missing really when you're looking our at our generation this is probably the most unhappiest generation in all the times if you take now an average person in our time and pull now an average person from 500 years ago that they don't have a heater they don't have a refrigerator they don't have anything that we have and they're happy I guarantee to you that if you go in the time machine 300 years ago 800 years ago 1200 years ago most most people were more happy now I'm now putting a completely excluding from what I'm talking about that I believe that a large amount of the unhappiness in our generation is not because anything that I'm talking about now rather by the chemical imbalance that the world is catering that's the easiest and nicest way to say it the junk that's in the nutrition the junk that's in the water the junk that is everywhere and the chemicals and radiation all that will make a person sad depressed unhappy and lose their hope and that's what they want by the way so it's not that we're far away from the reality but I'm putting this now aside that's a not what what I want to H focus on so if I want to find a little bit more of a a guiding path I need to ask questions so when I look at this generation and I look around I see most people are unhappy the first question you ask is what what are you missing I look at my kids sometimes my kid the other day wanted something I said no so of course why why I'll this I'll do that I'll massage you I I said you have I don't remember even what it was I told him but you have already a few but I want another one but few is enough why do you need another one most kids don't even have the few that you have and if I go back to my childhood you look like a store I had two or three of them and you so even in our generation if you don't have quickly your uh new iPhone a cookie uh whatever it is the shirt that everybody's wearing that's it you're already three steps down from your happiness so really Our Generation has everything but nothing even even I look at my kids and uh and I I not that I feel bad for them but I had a better childhood than them I don't I look at my kids I'm like then don't even know how to do anything you know I I was running in the fields all day long climbing on trees building things hunting animals I mean like pathetic even on sometimes I see on the the on social media they show a picture and they see like a a bunch of kids like with phones and it says 2023 and then you see a bunch of dirty kids in in a puddle and it says 1982 you know like you see that the fact is that you don't need any external stimulation to achieve happiness 90% of what gives you happiness is external stimulations good food good moving good time with friends getting drunk whatever it is I'm not going to start now giving you a whole of how to to to find what to do but most of our happiness is coming from external stimulations a good song that came up and I'm like very happy that's it if the person and and pay attention if a person is depending on these external stimulations that person lives in emptiness empty life and empty life sadness that's it no other there's no other formula to that because the doesn't matter how much external stimulations you're going to give food drugs sleeping marital relations doesn't matter person will not fulfill the void and the person is empty person is empty will start sadness depression confusion loneliness etc etc any external source is just not real and again and and I I have to say it as a side note it doesn't mean that I have to be a sourface h prune all day long that's not what I'm talking about you find F happiness in going out to a good restaurant with your wife or husband fine gives you a little bit of simulation good nothing wrong with that I'm not telling you to be like this all day long a nice item that you buy yourself makes you happy good I'm not not disqualifying that I'm not telling you now be uh a a cold piece of ice I also enjoy a lot of things I also enjoy good food I also enjoy laughing and everything I enjoy a lot of things I still know it's external simulations I just look how would I take what I love to do and somehow make item sh and then I enjoyed what I wanted and I did it so enjoy the food on Shabbat enjoy marit relations Shabbat throw it on Shabbat that's when you're allowed to to have fun but any external Source external for my body it's not real so even let's say all the external sources you depend on make you happy and you fine in your life you need some much of it to fill the void so you need a lot of food treats snacks chocolates all day long a lot of constantly stimulations that you know as soon as the stimulation wears off boom you need another one kind of like a kind of like when a person is using different types of drugs not talking right now on on hard drugs that's a different uh ER h a different situation I'm talking even whether it's even something something that is not as severe whatever it is the the the the effect wears off so some of the things the effect wears off in 3 minutes and some of the things the effect wears off in an hour but uh I'm now helping a certain individual uh you know overcome a certain uh weakness and I told the individual you know I understand you know let me be a little bit more open so understand the situation the person is battling smoking marijuana and I said okay I I understand your life is a little bit chaotic I understand that uh you you're in a corner that you no tools that I'll give you will help you you need H you know like down to earth tools okay I'm not giving you a h but smoke fine but why so so much what I understand I understand life is caving down on you I understand you have no way no place to run to relax and if you don't do that eventually the CLI will break I understand all that but why do you need to exaggerate a little bit to calm down the system I it's not giving you happiness it's not giving you happiness it's just shutting down this specific situ situation it I call it in Hebrew I will call it a in English I'll call it a blind too much light close the light you're closing a blind did you close the light no I just you know what I did I separated myself from the reality that's what I did so I understand listen I'm not judging I'm not I understand but why so much smoke a little bit in the morning a little bit in the afternoon a little bit at night just to calm your system so and why am I saying that because the the the in many cases you need the external simulation you need a drink you need whatever I understand but once you build that these external simulations are the solution that it's not only it's not a solution it just makes the situation worse so I understand in many times you have to cheat the system I know I also cheat the system cuz sometimes you need make make an analysis I rather lose here and gain here five times more okay call it however you want you can call it descending in order to ascend come on however you want how somebody told me the other day I'm taking one step back to take two steps forward okay you convince me if you actually take the two steps forward fine but anything external is is either weak or will not sustain and then what happens person becomes empty empty will be the the root to sadness to depression to being lonely Etc good the real good can only come from within hypothetically I'm just giving you a hypothetic situation a person's life is a disaster anything you can imagine goes wrong if the person is Torah observant he will be happy with all the chaos in the Life True T Torah observance and by the way I'm not I know a lot of people now imagine a black and white person with a long beard that's a person with a black and white suit and a long beard Torah observant it doesn't matter what you wear so I'm just clarifying that some people think oh I have to move now to to be happy no you need to be observant to the Torah and it doesn't matter what you wear now let's continue everything that I just told you is to come to the understanding is that if I do a small change from inside I have to do it nobody will come and do it for you but if I do a small change inside it will C a growth from inside that's basically what everything that I just told you means if you're looking at it in the positive way from the outside let me quote in Hebrew and I'll translate and explain it says something comes from external it won't last long little days short days not short days very few days okay so you can look at a situation and say this is something external it won't survive can be a relationship can be an excitement for a new business it can be an idea I'm going to move to a different country whatever it is you have to make analysis if it's something external or internal I told you before that when I cheat the system or break the rules to take the step back in order to take two forward then I would always try at least to find how can I manipulate the situation that what I'm doing is actually the sh then you're at least reducing at least you're reducing the damage but focusing right now on what I see that many people uh many people suffer there were suffering is spiritual it's from the neish not not physical of course not under underestimating any physical suffering but the the most suffering is coming from the neish when a person feels completely unhappy bad disappointed neglected whatever it is the the pain that's coming from inside that suffering is worse than any typee of suffering now now we have two h two options either you tell me up until now the last 20 minutes that you talk do not apply to me so I'll say go out drink a cup of coffee relax or turn the video off and good live your life happy come back to the next class when we're talking about other things but if you are not not on that side it doesn't mean that you have to be suffering from morning to night but if you relate with any word that I just told you right now and you are uh mature enough and responsible enough and true to yourself enough to say who am I kidding I'm not 100% happy then then you have to listen to what our holy sages have to teach us and uh and uh I'm not excluding myself from this group group on the surface if you ask me I'm very happy I'm happy with everything because that's what Hashem wants but I will still my live myself in this group because no no person can say I'm 100% happy and nothing bothers me and everything is good in my life now again if you ask me I will tell you everything's good in my life yeah I have a few situations that I'm dealing with but what that got to do with it but you uh everybody promised you a ironed white sheet on your bed sometimes you li down on a sheet that is how do you call creased crumple crimple whatever in a general a person needs to have the general feeling of saying I I'm okay I mean I'm not here but uh I don't want now say in front of the camera I'm I'm I am here but I don't want to step on your toes but if you relate a little bit to the topic then sit and listen for a few more minutes we know we learned we are aware that God is called the all and the infinite light and we the Creations are called the Kim the CLE the CLE is a vessel there'll always be a relation between the light and the vessel and Hashem is the is the light the or and soft and I am the CLE the essence of the CLE CLE means a vessel is the desire to receive the light okay Shem is the light don't imagine a light coming from a light bulb I told you that many many times it's a different concept but Hashem is the light Hashem wants to give I am a CLE my my Essence my my my my H basic basic functioning to to say is the desire to want to receive the light not a candy if the light empties out from a vessel which can be done in many different ways I can break the vessel I can sin or I can just not put more light in or whatever it is what would be the result suffering suffering my suffering is suffering different from your suffering every person has a different H level of suffering and suffering will come when the vessel is empty in of light and remember these basic things because if you remember these basic things next time you unhappy you'll remember the vessel is empty of light then comes unhappiness the only extreme example I can give you is the story with RAB AKA watching the BET mikdash burning down and laughing why are you laughing cuz I now I see that the prophecies are coming true so that means that the ultimate Prophecy of the coming of mashiah will also come true that's it you see bet mikash burning and he knows okay now I'm happy because I know we're going to the next step that's it not that I'm happy about certain things but unfortunately a few months ago when the war started don't catch me on my tongue then I'm going to tell you now that I was happy I wasn't but I was happy one step closer to mashiah if we already in this level we're closer it's coming so I'm unhappy for the suffering the death The Killing and all that but I'm happy cuz Okay we're one step closer you get get closer to the Sun you'll start sweating more that's how it is so the other way around of what I just told you a vessel full of light equals pleasure on egg that's it Philip you're clean very simple now we have an issue I mentioned RAB AKA let me mention RAB AKA again IA says that we walk on our life I'm I'm using my words right now not's words you walk on a life like on a conveyor belt right from the beginning till the Enda says that there's a trap our life is set into a trap and the lifeline that we're walking on is full of traps okay in Hebrew mitsuda is a fort fort Fortress but mitsuda in Biblical Hebrew the Mish Hebrew is trap which means all my life I'll have traps that I cannot not get out of now can you imagine you're walking into a trap like I told you the story with the beaver you know beavers are are kind of animal that when he walks in the morning to his work or whatever he does he puts on the ground a marks so when he comes back in the evening he goes on the marks and he doesn't need ways he just goes on the marks the story is that the the hunter figured it out and he put a trap on the path so the beaver starts crying stops and he cries cries cries why you crying I see a trap so make a detour I can't that's my path that's the the beaver that's most people you walking into the Trap I can't I have to go I have to that's that's most people by the way the Trap right now can be your cigarette your joint your beer your your cookie whatever it is and a million others but the Trap that you are going to walk straight in it has nothing to do here what are these what is this strap what is the strap that Raba tells USA tells us that there this strap has only two options and you cannot avoid it the two options of the STP one of them is suffering and the other one is pleasure so so I'm either walking straight into the Trap of of suffering or into pleasure tan now tan pleasure you have to understand a another basic rule pleasure will always pull you to the right direction uh suffering will pull you to the wrong direction what does it mean if you experiencing suffering in your life you're going in the wrong direction if you experiencing happiness in your life you're in the right direction that's your GPS that you need to go on therefore you need to have this analysis suffering coming your direction now again you have to be realistic here getting a 70 shekele ticket parking ticket that's not suffering I'm talking about in regards to the definition of thear that's suffering the definition of in the is that you put your hand in the pocket to take out a dollar and a quarter came out that's definition of I take it even the to the next level because not always you put your hand in the pocket for a quarter you're looking for parking for 20 minutes that's around round around little Annoying mosquito at night doesn't let you sleep this all and why am I calling it because it goes down it it removes from the de the death you have that you have how much you have to go for is is suffering hardship in by the way is decided how much you're going to have to deal with the entire year it's not that it's not that you that you have much of a say here now one might come from the back door and say everything that you just says doesn't make sense cuz I just said that if you have means you're going in the wrong way right but I also just said but theim are already decided on so it's decided what what wrong way I'm going to go to the that is decided on is when you need to go through these will be theim so it's decided what's going to happen if if you do ab and c and you deserve hardship these we prepared these for you if you don't then we throw this to the garbage so what the suffering will be is decided but you can you can easily go around it so it doesn't have to happen so if a person feels that life is becoming a little bit heavier than what he or she can handle with a lot of hardship then that person should understand I'm going in the wrong way if all the doors in my life are closing smash into my face and and and hardship that is a little bit more than just basic things that's your sign in your life wrong direction make a U-turn because the source of all suffering is a lack of something now we can relate with this in this world I don't have food now what would be this the result I'm hungry that's my suffering so I can give you this example with anything but first of all it's true you can distort the the the truth you you're missing one thing of course you'll have a suffering but in the spiritual level if I'm missing something then I'll have a suffering any type of suffering now you can ask the million dollar question why suffer what's the purpose that God makes me suffer if God thinks that I'm going on the wrong way can't you just send me a nice person with a nice message and you just make some miracle that I understand not to go there I'm not making a joke by send me an email an SMS or Whatsapp with my situation but the reality is I'm now doing something wrong God loves me why are you hitting me tell me you're doing it wrong go that way I'm looking now how I uh relate with my kids I can tell my kid the same message with a hit on his head and with a kiss right so why you hitting me give me the kiss I can now go and start screaming at my kid and he will do what I told him but I can also talk to the kid and he will also do what I told him so if I have the ability as a human to one time talk to my kid in love and one time scream at the kid same message why do I have to sometimes do this and sometimes do that just pick nice to the kid the whole time you prove that you have the ability so God proved that he has the ability to doal things in a nice way so why you punishing me I'm going the wrong way and you're slapping me in my face help me I ask Hashem you just told me that if I have hardship in my life the sign here is that I'm going the wrong way I don't understand it what kind of a God is that don't punish me explain to me now the reality is that if God would talk nice to us nothing would get done the reality is that anyone would talk nice to you nothing would get done can you imagine when you get your driver's license a police officer comes and tells you sir congratulations please don't drive fast cuz if you will drive fast it's very bad would you not drive fast of course you would be driving fast why don't you drive fast cuz that policeman told you if you drive fast I'm going to take your license away and I'm going to give you a $1,000 fine thank you if this these rules won't apply you think I would be driv I would be driving 250 km an hour in every by way I can why cuz I want to maybe I'll be a little bit more responsible and understand that I am a danger to other people but it won't stop me from doing anything so the reality is you talk nice to a person the messages doesn't come through but Hashem is not a person the reason there is suffering the reason hasem will allow a person to suffer is for me to understand that I'm doing something wrong and to change very simple if Hashem will force me then it's forced Shem is giving me hardship so I can understand I'm going the wrong way this is not working out this is not working out this is not working out for the last 10 years I'm obviously going the wrong way now I will give credit now to 50% of the people that they able to say I'm going the wrong way but that's where it stops and the minority will say I'm going the wrong way I need to change that's the point of suffering if you're asking why does God want me to suffer why is there suffering in the world that's the only way understand and Hashem wants you to understand that you did something wrong you're going in the wrong path you're in the wrong place but the next and final step is the important one you need to change and the majority of people don't don't change they understand that they're going the wrong path and path I'm not talking about going down going down the wrong path is how I conduct my life and I can catch myself oh my God what am I doing what am I doing catch yourself reverse the situation what are you doing and I don't know if there's even a point of giving you examples or not not too long ago a man comes to me needs to talk to me and he tells me I did a big mistake I I'm I'm still I think I can still fix it okay what's the mistake I I almost cheated on my wife okay you said almost that's it that that's what we need to work with the almost so the man put himself in a situation that of course you'll get to this situation why do you think there's laws of not to get to the situation okay you got to the situation but this is a perfect example he caught himself oh my God oh my God what did I do what did I do run home reverse it you understand you're going the wrong way reverse it stop it now if it's past the point okay sometimes you can turn the wheel but at least fix it the point that one needs to understand very simple the cause this the reason that hasem wants you to suffer is for you to understand that you did something wrong and to change and if you didn't do the change you miss the whole thing and you'll continue suffering I need to ER develop the skill how to make the connection between the suffering that I'm going through the actions that I'm doing and what's going on right now in my life and if you know how to make the connections you'll see right away that your suffering is your own hands that's it you a a deal with a situation the last option is that you dug your own hole you blame him you blame hurts because of this because of that you're blaming the entire world instead of just saying I dug this hole for myself that's it so first of all and most important one needs to find how to make the connections I'm just going to give you some examples you got a ticket it's annoying to get a ticket one level is to say k pay the ticket and go home obviously I needed to pay something off and this works very well when it's a parking ticket for 100 cheel it doesn't work well when you have to pay something for like 10,000 cheel Suddenly It's not kapar suddenly now the whole world is is to blame and why and who and she and him but the reality is let's say I get a ticket right away I'm trying to make a connection I got punished or I'm experiencing hardship with money must be that I did something with money either I owe somebody money maybe I did gizzle in some type of a way maybe I promised somebody money that I'll lend them and I didn't whatever it has to do with money I did something with money if it's a 100 shle parking ticket then I did something small with money if damage of 10,000 shekels I did something big with money that's it that's the connection so you have to know how to make connections to things this happens now you have to do it smart without being OCD and not all day long oh this is happening because of that I'm talking about a in in the general way not every grape you eat oh my God so with that said that I understand a what's the cause of a person or myself being unhappy now I understand that the source of happiness or pleasure is how full is my clean my vessel if my vessel's full I'll be happy if my vessel is empty I'll be unhappy so now we got very good clarification of what's going on now let me ask you something else if I understand that an empty vessel will cause sadness and feeling of emptiness then a of course I would have the concept of constantly filling the The Vessel but I told you before sometimes you break the vessel it's not about light you just break the vessel what breaks the vessel specifically in what we're talking here right now we're not talking here and you have to understand and I don't want to get too much into it because it will get confusing I'm talking when I'm saying the word vessel very general right now the vessel is is is me but in many situations the The Vessel cannot hold the light not because there's no light it's because the vessel is broken I'll give you a quick example if I build a vessel by praying to the kadosh okay I'm sure you heard not once and not twice H I need to find my other half make a vessel I needa make a vessel I need this make a vessel I'm sure you heard that right I hate when people say that it's annoying that's the answer people would give me what do you mean be conf vessel but going on that same line you make a vessel by praying every day you make a a a a a decision in your mind I need to pray three times a day you you make a decision and you pursue it you make a vessel now Now You're Expecting infinite amount of light to come into your vessel and fulfill you and make you happy and and and and content and so forth and nothing happens why maybe the vessel is broken if this is broken in the bottom put as much as water you want in it it's not going to contain the water so how would be for example breaking the vessel that I built by praying is I gossip all the beautiful tool all the beautiful vessel that I built from my prayers was broken a I sinned with the the slandering the gossiping so now I have even another sin on my on my record but the vessel I broke the vessel I built it with my own prayers and the same way that I built it I damaged it so now I don't have a vessle so a lot of your effort no no I'm just picking it for the yeah uh so now I'm now I'm praying all day long nothing happens now I'm going to go to complain to the rabbi the prayers are not working the prayers are not working you fool you just broke your own vessel zip your mouth so every uh sin that I will do connected to a certain mitvah the sin will break the vessel damage The Vessel so if I want to ask the one question in our topic what breaks the vessel what breaks the Kim for me to be unhappy there's only one thing one needs to do to fix it is to stop being selfish that's it I know it sounds very simple but I just gave you the solution start thinking about others now I know many will jump forward and say what are you talking about of course I think of others I think of my husband I think of my kids I think of my neighbors what you talking about thinking of your husband kids and neighbors doesn't mean you're not thinking of yourself because I can do something thoughtful to my wife cuz I benefit from it so don't be I'm thinking of the entire world okay because it's very easy to do thoughtful things with an agenda I have something in my mind or I have no agenda it just helps me so I'm sorry to tell you're thinking of yourself when a person is selfish and most people are selfish to there's different levels we're all selfish don't don't don't pick up your say I'm not I'm selfish too we're all selfish we do what's good for me that's how I operate and doing good for you helps me I'll do good for you that's it and every person their level of selfish is different some people are extremely selfish that's the ones we're talking about right now and there are people who are less selfish and some people are very little selfish man I raise my hand I'll do the right hand if you want to be more precise I'm selfish or you don't don't you think that I think of myself before I think of you where you live and I want to see the brave person that comes and tells me I think of you before I think of myself yeah right and I'm not talking now extreme situations you know that you saving lives I'm talking in general but me it's very important that you don't you know Corner me but with your experience I'm talking very general but the reality is we areel selfish you want to not break your Kim you cannot be selfish how much start working on it and in order for me not to be selfish I have to let go most people hold everything I was about to say close to the heart most people hold it inside their they're inside their existence now what is it that I need to let go I don't need to let go the fact that you did something bad to me and I'm angry at you I don't need to let go because you went behind my back and you spoke that's not the letting go that I'm talking about cuz in many cases somebody did something bad to me 10 years ago and I'm not letting go that's the not letting go I'm talking about I'm I'm talking about letting go something completely different so what do I need to let go the desire to pursue after my desire My Wills and desires and and my lusts and my Cravings that's what I need to let go not to let go of things that happened in the past and forgive and forget every moment of my life I have a very strong lust a very strong craving to run after what I want you you you and me and everybody that's it you got to let it go you won't let it go the whole system won't work because all day long I'm challenged or a well I won't say challenged all day long I'm distracted by my passions my Cravings my lusts my desires and I want to pursue it now if you're craving a cookie and I don't know what some chocolate okay it's not that bad yet but it's also you practice with little things but you have to come to the realization you might say now in your to you to yourself I disagree you don't have to disagree with me I don't invent anything I read books and then I teach you what I read in the book so it's not that I'm now inventing some Theory and I'm now trying to sell you a product I read a book and instead of making it boring for you like we doing shulim three years we were learning this book look at in it is and this is volume number one but we're learning it thoroughly so we're reading slowly and all the commentaries this I read books I summarize it together and I give you all the information I'm not inventing anything and don't come to me with with complaints I'm just a delivery so I mainly need to let go how do you do that right we only 53 minutes we have a three-hour class it's not 3 hours we're going to finish in a few seconds many seconds when a person does something positive the light will stay when a person will take from the light it won't stay I'll explain it in other words okay happiness is something natural you don't have to create it and that's the problem what most people don't understand it's the same thing with health you don't create Health just don't stop or prevent the body from doing what it needs to do a lot of the sicknesses because you're stopping the body from healing itself with the junk that you take so when a person sorry when H happiness is something natural it's not that you have to go and create happiness okay and and like I told you it's the same thing with with the with health when a person not that I'm a doctor but when a person comes to me tells me I'm battling sickness something with sickness then the the trick here is not to go and tell them okay go to this doctor or go to that doctor do this and that the the just stop preventing from your body to do what you needs to do that's it that's what I do because my body is healthy by default it was created healthy and it it will constantly work to bring itself to the most healthiest point I'm stopping it with how I eat how I drink what I eat how I work out when I eat so so stop stop preventing the body from healing itself I learned I don't know 40 years ago 30 years ago not even by being religious somebody taught me that rambam said that I mean ra says a lot of things about health but specifically how unhealthy it is to drink while you eat somehow it got stuck in my mind according to rambam one should not drink while they eat unless it's wine cuz the wine will help the digestion that's it that's stuck in my mind for I don't know what 30 years 40 years so now when I look at a certain individual I see most people drink while they eat I'm like why are you doing that it's the most unhealthy thing you can do you are flooding your stomach with liquid enabling the stomach to digest the food from the the the how do you call it the the the the not the juice the the enzyme how many you you you're messing the digesting system for yourself which will result in sickness so why would you do that the the health is there stop bothering it the body is healthy don't bother it with everything that you consume most people have a headache what do you do what do you do when you have a headache you take a Tylenol did it help of course it helped all you did is you numb the symptoms you didn't went to the problem you numb the symptoms you don't feel the pain but if there's some type of a problem let's say you are dehydrated and that's why you have a headache now you just took a pill no headache still dehydrated now the symptom will be worse so just don't bother your body to do what it needs to do same thing with happiness when you start to interfere you're going to you you you you're going to destroy your own happiness no no it's a truck loading something it's so just remember that happiness is something natural and you don't have to create it I don't have to create happiness if I don't have money and I want to make my wife happy so I and I can't buy her jewelry or clothes that's it I can't make her happy cuz I don't have money that's it I can make her happy in 50 other ways I don't need the money so the happiness is there you just use what you think is the right tool to to apply it in order to conclude let me give you the basic tools it says in tra three things will make a person loses his world or I mean the literal translation is that you get thrown out of the world you get ejected out of the world which how would you understand that death but it's it's taking you out of the reality of this world you live in a different reality there's a reality this to this world for every living person there's a different reality of the world but the but the reality is that we all share the same reality we're in the same world same Creator Etc but I can either live in the reality of hasem and I'm observing the Torah and and I live my life according to the Torah or not and I live in a completely different reality and that's when the Mish says it takes you out of your reality you live in this world in some land and that's unfortunately many many people one example out of many that I'll give you to see this La Land is what we saw four years with the four years ago with the corona not going to elaborate or add too many things you you understand what I'm saying you see people living in a to different reality you're like are you are you what did you do are you an opium or what are you you don't see what's going on here so this mishna says three things will cancel happiness that's I'm saying not the mishna these three things cancel happiness the mishna says I I I cover that in the words of you canceling any type of Happiness you're ruining any happiness you have it will ruin what are these three things jealousy lust H honor and respect these are the three things that if you pursue you'll be ejected from this world is jealousy is lust or desire and cavod is honor and respect so let's quickly analyze the three and that will give us the answer to our question the first one is Kina and by the way it's not by chance the order jealousy lust and honor nothing is by chance so K jealousy almost impossible to overcome if you have issues with jealousy it's not something so easy to work on yourself you have you're judgmental you can work on yourself you are quick to anger fine jealousy there's no much tools to work on jealousy jealous you're jealous that's it and needless to save from all three according to the mishna the worst of all it's the first one I believe that most of the hate slandering cheating everything it's all jealousy it's all it's not that I I believe because I see with my own eyes we're learning it's jealousy it's a big problem how can you start reducing jealousy or dealing with jealousy and if you don't have that problem fast forward but if you do have a problem with jealousy and by the way a lot of people don't notice that they have a problem with jealousy it's not on the surface but what triggers their behavior is jealousy that's even a danger a d more dangerous jealousy but nevertheless they the only thing that can somehow fix jealousy for a person is working on your amuna if you're jealous by the way you don't have much amuna if you're suffering from jealousy just as you know like I told you before if you have you know you're not going the wrong the right way if you are a jealous person you don't have don't don't fool yourself that you have belief in God you have full belie the more belief you have less jealousy you'll have for anything cuz you know what's yours and what's yours and what's not mine and what will never be mine and also that know who you are this person is greater than you and that person is greater than you you're not the number one person in the universe so the only way to start dissolving the jealousy in your system is strengthening your belief but even more the Bel in that nothing happens by chance and this that I'm talking about the the translation of is Divine Providence but the two ways that one needs to work on is a that there's a Creator to the world and B and these that's the two channels there is a Creator to the world that means that everything is done by him including Mur murders rapes and everything else that you see Holocaust 7 of October and N of mil that's the two things that's how you remove the Kina now I know many of you might say I'm a jealous person still do that I also thought I'm not a jealous person till I got jealous that's it you don't have to be jealous twice a day it's have to be jealous once a year that's it once a life T you be then your title is jealous here the jealousy is here and here the jealousy is here but doesn't matter besides the fact that let me give give you one Enlightenment that I H learned a while ago you can hold yourself as a certain individual and say on yourself I'm never jealous or I never get upset oh I'm not judgmental you are convinced about a certain character trait that you have and why because for the last 30 40 50 years you you know yourself do you know that sometimes in the end of your life something new in your tun will show up so could be that for 40 years you weren't jealous and now Hashem is introducing to you A new challenge that you weren't aware of that you don't know how to deal with I had an issue with anger all my life I know how to deal with anger I don't know I know how to deal with jealousy I never had jealousy who says that in the age of 55 suddenly hasem is going to test me in jealousy who said do you know what your tests are going to be if mashia is not coming tomorrow the next day andom the world will continue for many more decades I have another 30 40 years to live I mean I can die tomorrow but assuming life is let's jump out of the bubble go into the example I'm only 50 hypothetically I can live another 40 years easily I'm just saying now an example I I want to reiterate what I'm trying to say if I now have 40 years to live don't you think that down that 40 years are waiting many challenges I don't know what the challenge I'm going to have to deal with with when I'm 80 or 82 or 73 who cares challenges remain till the last breath so I know which challenges I'm going to have in 20 years I can have now 20 years of success Health money relationship everything and when I'm 60 boom something happens and how many people in their 60s and 70s they see them taking a dive down to their bottom of their life bottom of the pit so the reality is is that I don't know what's waiting for me and even if I haven't been jealous for the last 50 years who says that in in 5 years something will happen in my life and an individual will come into my life and will start causing me to be jealous in him I don't know I don't know how to deal with it you think your your life challenges stop when you mature no so first thing that we need to remember is jealousy almost impossible to remove it from your system the only way to overpower it is through strengthening your belief youra and strengthening your in in in Divine Providence and living your life chanting and and there is the creator to the world that's it there's nothing else but him and that's it even if you're already doing it even if you're are convinced that you still have to chant it chant it meditate on it think it and so forth second thing in the list is the direct translation is last but we'll add on it craving desires and everything else usually will be for something that is not good I mean h you you can definitely have for something good but it's usually used for something not good and not good depends on the on the person for me not good is to eat a candy for that person not good is to rob a bank the not good is difference between people but usually is a last a strong desire to pull me to something whether it's chocolate or whether it's to be with a woman or whether it's to go and rob a person out of his my Millions whatever it is oh you use your imagination the only way to fight the aot and again I can only speak from experience go back 20 plus years I operated based on my lusts and needless to say as a secular individual there wasn't any boundaries if my lust and I don't know if I I that's the problem I think in English you can only say only say lost if I lost a woman am I correct can you say I lost money yeah okay no no okay so somebody corrected me not longer told me last is only a for the other like for desire for money okay so H in Hebrew T is for everything okay I can have t for marital relations drugs uh food it's the same Tava same title uh in English you might say craving or desire or lust but I'm just want to make sure that my English and the Hebrew don't confuse confuse the The Listener so I have many now I also have a to sit and learn a good book that's a good right good lust can you say a good lust is there such a thing in in English good lust good desire maybe say I I a good desire okay so we're just trying to make figure out the words here so let me ST stick TOA okay when a person is driven or triggered by hisa and it can happen you're walking on the street smell good smell from the bakery you go in what do you have well just look around it's not that I woke up and I said I want a donut and I'm going now 2 miles to buy my donut that's different here I was triggered by the smell and I went in I looked around that one this is a small example how you T Works how does a normal situation will kick in when you do the first sniff you already have to continue every morning I go up the stairs there to the mik happens to be that it's around around the hour that the bakery down there bakes their R please wake up one day at 4:30 in the morning and you'll understand what I'm talking about that's all I have to say freshly baked so every morning there's AA go get yourself a Rak now is there anything wrong with Rak is like a chocolate rolled past hist there is anything wrong with that no it's only one it's not that healthy but you know even rambam says rambam says that if you eat a little bit of unhealthy food wait and a lot of healthy food you'll be more healthy from the little unhealthy food that's it a little bit of unhealthy food is better than a lot of healthy food same thing here it's one cookie what's the big deal I don't see any bad thing it's not that I'm stealing the money it's not that I don't have the money it's not that I'm using my money instead of buying my child shoes I'm buying myself a cake everything's great I have all the permissions to buy this cookie I bought it and ate it that's it I'm going to be burned and Gom for eternity is the cookie good now every person will look at it completely different in my way of looking at it when I already smelled it I already know the cookie is not good for you it's not healthy there's no nutritious things in it I'm not in a situation that I need know something sweet if I want something sweet you know when I have something sweet when I have my coffee 5:00 in the afternoon and I push the coffee till 5:00 in the afternoon I told you that already 50 classes already with my fight with my desire I know it sounds maybe maybe stupid that my desire is coffee that's a weakness yeah yeah I'm telling you I have a weakness for coffee I have a weakness for a few things you might laugh when you hear the weaknesses but I'm not laughing at your weaknesses yeah put a Ferrari in front of me you'll see me on the floor drwing and moving my body in weird ways that's it you look at it it's a piece of metal when I lived in America we lived in New York we used to go on vacations to Florida because that's the only place you can really go on a vacation tons of ker restaurants uh shoes mik everything so every time we would go to Florida now going from New York to Miami so my wife used to be happy to take me to Miami and one time she told me something that got stuck in my mind till now and it's it's funny she was like you know you know what I like about you other men look at women you look at cars I would walk down hey you know whatever street I'm like turning my hand look at this look at this women are there half naked in bikinis and roller blades and I'm drooling over the Lamborghini so my wife is happy with my okay every person there toot is different for me to practice what I'm telling you exactly right now I love coffee when I was not holding myself on a leash I would drink eight cups of coffee a day with no with not even thinking every hour a cup of coffee is it healthy I'm not going to get into the argument if coffee is healthy or not right now okay one cup it's okay eight cups is not okay now has a different problem with the coffee milk there is inside the sugar whatever you put in there so when I have no boundaries then I'm not really sinning and I'm not really doing something bad that bad eight cups of coffee what's the big deal I'm not the only one not the first one not the last one the concept that if I'm limited by any external trigger I am in a serious problem I told you when I became observant I was addicted to anything that you can imagine and I understood that I I unless and until I get rid of my addictions I can never be a God-fearing Jew I will never be a God-fearing Jew if I'm addicted to it doesn't matter if it's cocaine alcohol cigarettes or Netflix it doesn't matter and especially I gave extremes of cocaine and Netflix cuz one might say cocaine that's a horrible addiction Netflix is also horrible addiction and Facebook and Instagram just as bad sitting like this for 3 hours i' rather take no it's I'm sorry to tell you don't get offended I also have a SmartPhone I also go on all the social media that you go on for a second maybe to check to look to see like that but to sit with your phone my friend for 1 hour in Instagram or does it matter if it's YouTube shorts or it doesn't matter but to go like that and to be triggered by a 30 second video you all are guilty by the way don't move your head down I I think this is worse than cocaine I'm exaggerating by the way don't don't don't now now make titles that RAB na is promoting drugs not promoting drugs I'm just saying that that exactly thank you very much addiction is an addiction it doesn't matter if it's something that can kill you or if it's something that is minor exactly thank you so when I became observant I was like I cannot put a yamaka on you know for three years I didn't go with a yamaka I was embarrassed to put a yamaka embarrassed from hasem not from people think I care what people think about me I was embarrassed to putak I felt I'm not even ready to stand in the presence of hem and you know what it it was probably right only after 2 and a half years from my near-death experiences when I actually started becoming Torah observant two and a half years was just preparing the the system I mean I put F in I started putting F in on I started eating kosher kosher I just would eat me and there that's my that was my kosher I started doing K shat it was the process but only after maybe two and a half years that's when I was physically emotionally mentally ready okay now I can put feeling on every day now I can pray every day and not feel like a embarrassed from the master of the universe so going back to the we all have every person desires other things some people know how to control their desires some people know how to control their desires whatever happens you cannot serve God perfectly if you are distracted by all these desires how do you deal with it how do you deal with all your desires the only trick I mean there I shouldn't say only there are many ways but the best and most H uh suggested by our sages is to reduce the things that are allowed that I don't need in Hebrew it's called mut start reducing the mot mot is you need food but uh do you really need Coca-Cola Fanta seven up drink water I'll drink something healthy and again this is not even a good example of mut mut I think it's called not accessories accessive iive no no too much of everything that I don't E Yeah reduce this it's like the coffee that's a perfect example I don't need eight cups a day one is enough and you know what make that one special that's when you sit down and have my cup of coffee with a cake talk to my wife or whatever once a day you do it eight times a day it's not fun anymore it's a need it's a it's something that you need to to fill in so I give you example with coffee you want to watch something on Netflix you don't have to watch seven episodes back to back one episode every 3 days reduce the the mot you go to a restaurant I want this this this this and this wo hello you're not eating half of it I took my kids to to to get like a how do you call it like a a shake like a fruit shake okay the place gives you a cup this big I told both of my daughters share a cup choose the same flavors and share the cup no I don't want her flavor you're never going to finish it I want a full cup never in your history of your eight years of your short life have you finished a a whole cup half you know what finish your half I'll buy you another half I go to a restaurant I order what I know I'm going to eat of course I want a little bit of this and a little bit of that and again I'm I I I feel that my examples today are not good about the excessive part you use your own imagination where you using you wasting too much of something that's the way you start reducing the get guarantee if I don't hold myself under control and I'm letting myself go eight times a day for coffee and in my mind it's okay everything will be okay okay in the same level so the coffee is okay but another thing that would be a sin my mind takes it is it's okay so many times and you have to remember this Golden Nugget many times people pursue after something that they don't need I see people I have good experience people come to me all day long to talk to me I don't know why but they come maybe I look like a wall and they come to cry and put a stick a note in my cracks here listen that's what AEM wants I accept I'm tell you straight out I don't like it I don't like people coming to my door all day long and people come at 11:00 at night 2:00 in the morning and all day long you you might not see it but all day long phone calls everywhere everywhere I go so it's it's it's sometimes it's too much and as it is all day long half of what I do is answering emails whatsapps phone calls so I can tell so why am I telling you that not to show up I'm telling you because I see people all day long and I deal with people all day long and I hear how people deal with their challenges all day long and also gave me a little bit of more sensitivity to see the situation as is I can tell you that most people run after things that they don't really need that's it you you understand it how you want to understand it the mut the these excessive things they do huge damage to the soul huge I'll do like Trump huge I'm putting myself in danger now saying Trump one of my videos I said something about Trump oh I got attack from a lot of people uh I don't care about Trump it's these small mut and it can be big by the way but these mot they do the biggest damage to your soul you can imagine so when I keep drilling into your brain that I'm drinking one cup of coffee a day take this example and by the way now it's already reduced to every 3 days every 4 days I have coffee and again it's a perfect example the coffee and for the ones who don't know I'll say the example again I used to drink all my life since I remember myself 13 14 constantly coffee I never counted even how much C it never even occurred to me a lot of coffee a little bit of coffee it was a normal thing you are a smoke I was I was a smoker till I was 27 years old and when I was a teenager it was not a lot but in my 20s I would smoke two three packs a day of malor red hold along cigarette in my hand so psychologically you know how I quit psychologically hypnotism yeah that's how I quit switch the order in your subconscious you don't want cigarettes anymore that was may prove how strong the brain is so after I was able to quit smoking I was able to quit everything and things that the body doesn't let go so easy I've used drugs for six years it's not so easy to get out of that I'm not talking about marijuana and sleeping pills so so the coffee nothing wrong with it but like a smoker that keeps pulling a cigarette into their hand why do you need so much cigarettes smoke three more cigarettes why I need 20 or 40 well I'm addicted ah so the same way that a cigarette smoker pull cigarettes every second or every few minutes of their mouth I used to do it with coffee it was a normal thing coffee is on the table the whole time now again one might think what's the big deal coffee it's the idea that I let myself go and I do not know how to control myself and that I crave something that is not even good for me if you crave something that is good for you good if you crave something is not good for you then you you're doing damages serious damages to your neish to yourself that is very very difficult to fix therefore the answer to T is reduce things that you don't need control your urges control your your lusts control your your desires you like eating a certain sweet something sweet keep it to the end of the day that's what I do with the coffee not only that I reduce the amount I I already now pushed my desire to the end of the day cuz what do you do first thing when you wake up in the morning you go to what you want whether it's a cigarette or coffee or so by me pushing the desire till the afternoon it's me saying I'm the bus you're not going to tell me when I'm drinking you or how or how much I run the show here and if I don't want to have coffee today I'm not going to even have coffee today this model works on everything big also when I mastered this model with the coffee this carbon copy to anything as the famous saying it's called it's everything in your hand it's priorities it's understanding so the way to reduce the this is a go this is the Golden Nugget if I have issues with theot a man looks at a woman all day long how do you solve it put something on your eyes move your head down go live in I don't know Chelsea where all all old men there what what what's your solution how do you control your how do you control your lust and your desires you reduce the mut that's it you know how to reduce the excessive things the little things excessive is too much Ah that's what I'm saying except so excessive and acceptable too much too much yeah the coffee that's what I'm talking about but I'm talking now that I desire or take something too much too much of it excessive and again I'm going back to the to the example with the coffee how many cups of coffee you drink a day one two you want to drink six you're controlling yourself so when I know how to control myself with something small and I know how to put in perspective the something small it helps with the big when when I started controlling the little things not to run every 2 seconds to the fridge not every store that I go in I have to buy something not every bakery that I pass I have to buy a a a something Ty see it's it's permissible no sins it's not that I'm because of me somebody will suffer and again I'm stuck on the coffee and the you use your imagination it can be a million and one things but but the second that I know how to control the little things the big things will follow through and then the big I know how to control cuz I already have in my system the right chanting in my mind is not good something bad will happen whatever whatever you need to stay in your mind but I'm already I know the mechanism of controlling what I want I as an individual till I did I I didn't have any control on anything that I wanted and it was the complete opposite that I wanted something if I don't have it right away there's going to be problems so and and I was like I'll take whatever I want as much as I want whenever I want and if you stand in my way there going to be a problem now start controlling it yeah I have a fridge in my house you don't have to open it every 20 minutes how many times a day do you open the fridge a day three exactly three four to make your meal it's very unhealthy to all day long all day long very unhealthy and that's another type of Desire here a gum here a candy here this and we got the point and again just that we summarize Thea can be food and can be drugs can be women can be gambling but all have the same common denominator the stimulation this little things that stimulates you to get your attention that's the problem and this stimulation moves you away from good next we had now Cav means honor honor respect I call it m you know it's M I deserve it that's it that's cavod now Cav it's not only that I'm I want from you cavod honor when I say m I deserve everything your honor your respect your flattering cavod starts with what are people going to say about me now day I did something something literally yesterday I did something not that bad my wife told me it doesn't make you look good 20 years you married to me and you don't know that I don't care what people think doesn't make me look good I only care how I look in the eyes of God I don't care how I look in your eyes not saying it shalom in a rude way that's the personality and I laugh to my wife doesn't make me look good you think I care what you think about me now it's not that I don't care I wake up in the morning I still brush my hair to look representative I don't walk with slippers and but I do that everything that I do is I do because the Torah told me to do it's not because I care what you would say never have happened in my life that I got myself ready before a class and say let me wear the blue shirt because so and so will probably like it in the class what most people care what people will say about me most people do don't what what will they say that's K any action that I do I care what will people say I drive this type of car what will people say this is how I dress what will people say I don't want to do that cuz people will say there's not much to explain about kav the only one who deserves the cavod which means honor and respect is AEM that's it I need cavod I need you to give me respect or honor I don't need you to do anything like that don't call me RA don't call me Rabbi don't kiss my hand I don't need you to do that I'm as equal to you I am not different than you in any way and you're know different than me by the way I mean you have your qualities your character istics your good things I mean but on a whole we're the same thing I need you to respect me why what give me one now good reason why I need you to respect me besides that I'm a human being and I'm not talking about the basic respect between human beings if I demand you to respect me why I'm older cuz I'm smarter I'm richer why do I need to get your respect SM than and that that means that you I you need to respect me I know many people that are smarter than me and I don't respect them and again I'm not talking about the basic H between two human beings that's not what I'm talking about that's basic that's required between every individual and of course you need to respect your parents your teachers respect authorities I'm that's not what I'm talking I'm talking about that a lot of people walk with a feeling that you need to exactly you need to listen to me because honor respect any person that runs after honor a will never get it you run after honor you'll never get it the ones who get the respect and the honor are the ones who don't care about it but we have to understand there's not much long to say about kavod I just I just told you that it's m m is I deserve it when I was young I thought everything I deserve why because it's me don't you know that I'm the number one citizen in this planet you didn't hear it how didn't they tell you that in elementary school when you run into Alona you have to salute of course you know that so when I was young I thought that the world I deserve the world H the Distortion in the cavod was not the cavod for example that might now be as an option different but I will choose to summarize cavod in these two expressions one of them is m I deserve it then delete it you don't deserve anything and the second thing is what is it going to say about me which who cares what I going to say about you and of course in reason don't do whatever you want you also let me put you where what will people think about me is important because I also care I told you bluntly that I don't care what you think about me but I do care what people think about me when it comes to representing God so I do care what people think about me when I'm representing God I don't care if you think about me on a personal level okay but I do care what you think about me how I behave and conduct myself when I'm representing Hashem so when I lived in AB abroad and I lived in America it was one of my highest priorities of how I behave and talk to other people cuz I knew I represent presenting God and if I behave in a not nice way I'm being giving a bad name to Jews the Torah and God so here's a perfect example when I care what you think about me so please take everything that I say in the right uh measure but I was when I was younger I I my cavod was like that everybody's beneath me everybody has to listen to me I'm better than everybody you can call ego but it's pursuing this cavod when you don't hold yourself as something that great then you just don't expect the honor and the cavod or the only trick here that I found is to come to the realization it takes a long time and mainly reading a lot of books is to understand that the only ones who deserves and needs to get the respect is God when you understand that you have no desire or need for respect when it's given you're happy when it isn't you don't care that's it now so we let me summarize everything we talked about the fact that many people are unhappy which I explained that that that's referring to how much your inner vessel is full your Universal vessel is empty you won't be happy you'll be unhappy you'll be unsatisfied Etc you got the point the major things that we need to focus on now that I understand everything that I told you is the three things that will take you out of the world because when the mishna says you live here but you're not here you're not benefiting from what's going on in the world you're not you're not producing or or or being productive in any type of way therefore we got are a explain detail explanation of the mishna the three things that will do that for me and it very simple now comes one more thing to so to say the icing on the cake or the cream on the the how do you say it's the cherry on the cream the cherry on the top cherry pineapple coffee whatever you want do I'll take in order to take all these three things and to apply it the right way it would only help if you live your life in gratitude if you are not thankful to Hashem for everything the three steps that I told you won't work I gave you a lot of heavy information here I wanted it to be a short class it's shorter than the usual but nevertheless there's no other ways to shorten this class but why I'm H so eager to share the information now we just entered two months of of this is not something that you of course you have to initiate but the energy of these two months that we're going to be spending now the that's the energy is increasing the level of sim if we're all going to be in the right level of happiness mashia will come faster and easier that's that's that's the fact we're stressed angry upset sad desperate mashia will come but not easy and and might take longer and harder if we all change our our our entire life to everything that I just told you now first of all we all need it nobody wants to live sad nobody wants to be unhappy nobody wants to feel neglected nobody wants to be left out every person deserves to be happy in their in their AR I don't need much I don't need the whole world to love me I just need a few people I need a few good friends a few people good people around me live your life nobody deserves to live in in such H in such situation and when I'm saying nobody I'm talking about normal people I'm not talking about it's not what I'm talking about I'm talking about normal people you deserve to live happy you deserve to be content you deserve not to be upset and it's not that I'm now all all your challenges will disappear you'll have challenges but uh you know I like working out you know that you can only be productive when you work out when it's hard that's it you work out and it's not hard you won't be productive you want me to say it again if you work out and it's not hard it won't be productive very simple you want results in your physical workout it's only when it's hard for years ago when I was sick after a certain while I was like okay I got a what's the word not re rehabilitate uh I had to to rehab myself I had to I mean for I was very sick since my lungs got hurt so I started going and walking in the forest every day walking in the forest fresh air walking then I decided to start running so when I ran I ran what did I run 100 fet and so what's the natural decision stop you're going to choke but that's not how you're going to reverse the situation when you are at the end of breath and you choking now run now that piece of the running that's what's going to hit make the change not till you got to the point of of exhaustion that's it so that's how it is everything in this world that's why I say say except the heart you would love it's now giving you now the The Cure the cream on the crop the cherry on the top call it however you want is called because when means gratitude appreciative because when our life is not going that well but I know to appreciate the bad or the or the less bad or the little things then that's where the Kosh melts that's where you melt his heart when you say I I accept the hardship I'm probably guilty one way or another I I deserve it and thank you for that too and thank you that it's not worse when I dealing with a situation and thank God I'm dealing with a lot of situations right now in my life just my family I have seven kids dealing with seven kids every kid is a whole life you need to deal with small kids small problems big kids big problems so my hands are full something have comes to my direction the first thing that I say is I thank AEM that it's not worse than what it it is that's it you live in gratitude you live in being thankful to Hashem for the good for the bad for the not so good all these elements will eventually make your vessel strong clean full of light and when you have vessels full of light Godly light then you you're happy you're content you're satisfied with yourself you know how to deal with situations you don't fall to despair you don't fall to depression you healthy you radiate happiness you make other people happy you make other people feel confident and needless to say the turmoil that we saw up until now which is nothing to compare to what we're going to see very soon to finalize the process of the coming of mashia when I said many many times in the past many people won't survive the coming of mssiah is because they don't have the spiritual vessels to handle what they're going to see with their own eyes that's why therefore when you apply everything that I just told you nothing that will happen in the world positive or especially negative will phase you till the coming of mhia you'll just be sitting and waiting for mashiah to come and understand that every part that happens in the world you're already mastered your and and everything and you're just waiting for mashia to come and you operate on the best version of yourself and itless to say you become more productive more happier more good to others when you're in this level then you attract to yourself the right people you attract yourself all these positive things and life slowly slowly kind of straightens out and it doesn't mean that all your dreams are fulfilled like I told you before most people pursue things they'll never have or they don't need that's why I stopped thinking of things that I need I already at this point in my life I let God give me what I need cuz I know he knows better than me what I need when I pray to Hashem I said just give me what I need I'm not running after every anything you give me what I need that's what I need which means that if you didn't give me more I don't need more isn't that a simple equation if you didn't 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