Advice for a good Jewish parent - How should we raise our kids? - With Rabbi Alon Anava

the device to be a good Jewish mom that cannot be answered in one word but the best advice is to see each individual this hood that ashame gave you two three four five six kids Hashem gives you so much hood put so much trust in your hands that you have to fulfill this obligation that each child is not really yours it's a shame shell now Jim tells you I trust you so much now you design him to be a Russian mine to love me and to trust me that's your best thing you want to aim for everything which mode is very important to love a shame to love another human being a human being not just the Jews everybody to love the breo's to respect each other all I teach my kids is I just want to see about Israel Mitzvahed is important that's a whole different issue that's a whole different issue the thing is in in some cases you yeah you don't you still have to respect that person even though they don't respect you why should you be at fault because they're not a hundred percent in some cases if it's bad for your health bad for your mental health bad for anything and you need to step back let's step back but the basic is any human being it's not very important you must have its vote but the being a mensch is way more important to our shame than me learning to have five hours a day go and help another Jew don't learn five hours learn four hours in one hour go help another person the thing is that you know what I get the most question that I get so many times about the whole concept of Barack of like how do you see pillar of in English like a free choice people think that when they wake up in the morning the free choices if I were a blue shirt or a white shirt but that's not white is very nice but that's not your free choice the free choice is when a mitzvah comes in your way to do something good or to do something bad that's where the free choice hits am I gonna help this person or am I gonna ignore this person and I'm gonna do this good did I'm not gonna do the good deed that's where your free choice hits so the thing is that way beyond the even though the master a cow the main is the act but for your question you're the most important thing you want to give to your children is to be a mensch you're being dumb to respect their parents their teachers their friends their brothers the sisters in the future their wives or their husbands and their kids if you want to you know I have three boys beau Hashem on my second boys Shalom's aha the what we do right on the Shabbat before the blade and we had a big shell of the how came a very big love from my city was a big honor many guests and he was talking so of course everybody was giving me my heart you should raise him to talk Obama seemed to be him should be this should be that this have said something whatever you want your son to be you be he want him to bill him done you sit and study you want him to be on time to show you wake up on time to show he want him to have derech Eretz you have direct Eretz he want him to respect his life you respect your wife whatever you want your son to be the newbie that's that's because not only my son also my daughter's also anyone the the bottom line is the shamash dog Molly Oh Duke Mariah to be like an example if I walk now in the street I walk with a long beard and a big yarmulke everybody knows I'm Jewish if I have special on by mistake spit on the floor I have a hundred people around the street looking at me only one look at him how he spit on the floor but on the other hand if I do the opposite roof cooler the kiddush Hashem I can do when I first became religious so I was I got married I was in Yoshiwara I was learning my wife went to work one time she needed me to in the big after she got pregnant she needed me to help a little bit so I would go every now and then I lived in Newark used to go on the train to Manhattan and I don't I never lived here I don't know how it's here I'm sure it's kind of the same way here but every time would go in the subway all the poor people will come and ask for money you know nobody gives them money more than that you know you know where that money goes it's not going to eat it's going to yeah but just because there was a car with 100 people I would be the first one to get up and give that person a dollar Oh to pull out a sandwich and give that person why so everybody will see ah the Jew gave me money Wow so how you carry yourself there's hundreds of eyes looking at you whether your kids your students your anyone your neighbors you are you are ever the same you're the messenger hm how you carry yourself Oh everybody's looking at you so the same thing with raising your children you want your children to be something make sure that you are that thing and the main thing you want to raise them for your a bit of them to have a good heart that's just to be kind it's not that we'll come by their email a person has a good heart has he got your mind he'll do all the meet spots but being a mensch is the biggest thing left off that's that's the most important thing McLeod not with your kids with everybody