Rabbi Aaron Dovid Poston: Part 1 Sanctity of Marriage embedded in the Parasha

[Music] okay good evening everybody thank you all for coming so we are going to be dealing with this is several parts so this is part what sanctity of marriage embedded in the Torah now some of these things you've probably heard before but I'm going to try to bring it down in the name of the clea car the way that he expresses it and we'll start Marcia snow off with just passed recently dealing with the dimensions of the ark the dimensions of the ark why do we need to know them I understand if we're dealing with the irenna kodesh which something that we have as a continual Mitzvah as long as you know we have the beta Mick - and the service and you need to know how big it is to replicate it to have it in case it gets stolen or lost or destroyed mr. Shem with God's help very soon we'll have a picnic - it will restore the actual golden Ark but in the meantime the Torah tells us that the actual Ark that's what we call the table of Noah is 300 emotes by 50 emotes okay so if you go to impartial Knopf we're dealing with chapter 6 verse 9 actually it's going to be verse 15 okay 6:15 this is how you should make it 300 cubits the length of the arc 50 cubits its width and 30 cubits its height so how long is the cubit how long is that measurement so we say that it's from your elbow until the tip with your finger it's approximately 18 to 22 inches so on average 20 inches and for those who deal with inches meters I don't know it's about a half a meter approximately okay so why is that so relevant these these measurements especially since it's a one-time deal so there is a rectification going on what was the reason for the mabu for the flooded to begin with so according to many according to the oil tradition it's because of what we call snoot that would be the opposite of a healthy sanctified marriage that would be playing the field so to speak that would be doing things in an immodest fashion having relationships in a illicit sexual way so the clear card gives two reasons why the measurements are necessary one and if we're going to deal steel with this right quickly the second reason we will deal with at length so the first reason he tells us is because to inform us of how great the miracle was that something so small could carry so much so that is quite miraculous and for example there were many large animals he gives an example of elephants and something called there are a mean which are like big antelope so huge animals with very large horns okay now the second idea which we would go at great length it were the third line down by the way for those who just moved in laho dia lana to inform us to let us know what Iker hock a lot you may may hamabo high above or has loot because the prime reason for the deluge for the flood was on account of in modesty with a king no we talk about sanctification that is the complete opposite so when you learn about the one aspect you can learn a lot about the other aspect right to learn about why there was a flood and what we need to rectify that so we'll find out if you hang in there for the next four hours no kidding okay thank you so the first proof that the original reason for the flood was because of newt which we will translate as in modesty in a sexual way we all know the reason why the flood eventually came and called it the the straw that broke the camel's back was because of Gaza but by the time we finish this will realize that Gaza and loot go hand in hand guess those deaths so the straw that broke the camel's back and why Hashem brought the flood eventually was because of death but the original idea was because it's newt so if you open up your home ich dora i should say to not actually this is in Genesis chapter 6 verse 2 it says over there the sons of the nobles saw the daughters of man and they took them so they took for themselves wise room every day Charles ok the verse the whole verse is right it's in Genesis 6:2 the yoruba nee Elohim that's the no saga keep towboat he never you hula Ham noshing Mikola share the khari they took for themselves wise whenever they chose the truth is we learned from that not only did they take women who were already engaged to someone else and they had intimate relations with them while they drove to be married to someone else and we find this in history - amongst many despots and and really cruel rulers the generals of armies would take virgins would take women on their wedding day to be married to someone else and to violate them but they also were do rev up the bestiality okay so that's what the essence of that verse means so what is because I'll teach us from this ignore Sanhedrin page 108 Aleph it says bar-abba kill Kalu uberaba need Aldo because of the great ruination because of the sin it was great therefore the judgment was great I mean we all asked why should we all suffer because a few people sin know it seemed like majority it was very hard for know off to find even animals who were of I don't know what you call purebred thoroughbred who weren't mixed mixed breeds so how does this work what we do man affects the world when we misbehave in such a manner and even involve ourselves in bestiality and the animals picked up on it and they were also intermingling with different species so if you may ask why did all the animals have to suffer they don't even have free will right because they were corrupt their DNA their being their mean who became corrupt so they had to be destroyed why would about the fish they weren't destroyed the fish are a different realm of reality underneath the water we say the eye in Herat right will not be affected that's why we hope ourselves to be like the fish like like Yosef it's not affected by the IRA IRA like like the fish are not affected by mankind's corrupt activities so the fish were not but the animal life innocent animal life and was killed but they not that they were guilty but it had to be destroyed and started over again so the reason for the matter according to the klique are this is going to be the prime theme running for tonight is Letitia I'll you there's Newt because through this looseness and sexual activity he Lulu can do shot shame shell you'd and hey there was a desecration of the Holy Name of God got as many means we're talking about the desecration of the you'd hey name okay there's a name of God you'd hey and it's that name which is metaphase than each lead shot it actually mediates it's it's it's a glue that keeps man and woman together it's the urine egg how do we know first of all the name itself ish is olive you chin has a urine in the middle but it's Oliphant chin with you in the middle he shop is also olive shin but I hate the end should know in cup a lot the you'd represents the male the hey represents the female and in the name ish and he shot you have the unit any hey and when god forbid there is you take God out of the relationship you have all that you have left is fire so listen to how he when he explains it ooh how Lake may have you it and hey God apportioned both the men and the woman in his creation of the world do you it and the hey right in their names and if they're removed nice shot each HTH all that remains is fire not just fire fire and fire fire and fire just like insist on this verse is going to show you some really interesting ideas and to job 31:12 it actually says for it is fire it is fire it consumed to destruction and it uproots all my grain now you just take this verse for what it is the H is very destructive and it will consume but if you look at the few verses before which I want to do because you'll see in context how Jove 31:12 makes a lot more sense that he's bringing in listen to these words it's 31 12 you got that sorry listen to these words I'm going to go back to number 7 31 7 if my steps ever veered from the proper way so what's the proper way or if my heart ever went after my eyes that already tells you something or if anything ever clung to my hand then may I sell and let another eat and they might produce be uprooted if my heart was ever seduced over a woman or if I ever lie in wait at my neighbor's door right what are we talking about you'll hear this is our verse verse 10 sorry we're really looking at verse 12 but we're at number 10 now then may my wife grind for another man this is not x-rated pornography this is the Tanakh the stroke if I go ahead right measure for measure if I'm going and looking after other women if I'm going and trying to have bread from someone else's basket if I'm willing to drink from someone else as well then my wife grinds for another man and may strangers kneel over her very explicit right in there yet for that is licentiousness that is an iniquity for the judges to punish and now our verse for it is a fire it consumes unto do and it would approve all my produce you see where it went it's pretty explicit but fire and how it be so consuming that it can destroy the relationship between man and woman so we've going on he says this is exactly what the rabbi say in the second sanhedrin page 108 B it said the rice team kill Kalu with the rice cleanly done through heat through boy up something boiling that's what ruined it and threw heat and boiling that's how it was judge so we all know that at least on the dry land certainly had an effect the hot water came up from the ground yes there was rain for 40 days and 40 nights but that was cold rain and that didn't have the major effect on the flood the major effect on the flood was the water that came up from below from the abbess and it was boiling so that boiling water remember everything that God does is measure for measure He loves us so much he sends a message that we should try to understand and learn what it is we need to correct so because of the boiling water coming up we know that the sin was caused of heat of maybe heat of passion right there's a lot of ideas behind that in the animal world anyway when the female is in the process of mobile ation and is ready for copulation in order to repopulate their their species they call she goes into heat we human species we say of hot weather female or male there's this concept of heat as well but I think it's talking about the heat of passion but the truth is is talking about the heat of the fire the destructive fire when you take the yurt in the hay out of the relationship heat is what's left ash and therefore that itself is destructive and as the clear car says key hain heat c2 and th Bosma they actually lit the fire themselves by removing the you didn't the hey God's name God from your relationship then what are you left with only destructive behavior now this is where I really find that it was interesting and I thought this is really good for the topic tonight of the sanctity of marriage while the flood was going on everything around was to be destroyed and they were actually commanded who was on the ark eight people right no often his wife his three sons and their wives they were actually not allowed to have relations on sexual relations intimacy on the ark for the whole almost a year we do know that one of them did we're not good that's tonight tonight's topic although we'll probably pick it up another time but while the whole rule is being destroyed is not a time for you to copulate and and celebrate to a certain extent the destruction of humankind nevertheless what we're about to describe the atmosphere the spiritual atmosphere on this Ark on the table on the boat was a a sense of purification through the urine and the hey now we're going to describe it in detail but I want you to know something else while this destructive forces outside of the ark right the turbulent waters it was also a mickeleh the entire world had to be sanctified and purified and because the earth had become corrupt the earth needed purification interestingly enough the Metris tells us that the whole world except for Aaron sister L was under the flood Eretz yourself did not need to be purified because it is pure okay now he begins by telling us we find in our partial partial snog so many number 15 because what is the name you'd and hey it's equivalent to the number 15 you at his tent hey it's five you have 15 there are many 15 if you opened your home ish so it says that there were five 15 almost qubits that's where the water went the Lawton mill Amala Gavril mine the water was 15 ahmo's above the highest mountains according to some it was 15 almost above the entire earth at any give you know so if you win the Himalayans it was fifteen hours above the highest mountain and if you were in by the Dead Sea it was only 15 hours above you know the song areas over there how that worked I don't know but the Hamish tells us that the water strengthen itself 15 almost above the highest mountains and not only that you know what else comes up is 15 that it how much how many days did it rain for 40 days but it doesn't say that it says it says that the water strengthen itself for 150 days so yes it rains for 40 days but the water came up from the bottom also and that kept rising it kept strong and getting stronger for 150 days so what's 150 related to 15 simple times 10 you don't have to bring your calculator I'm gonna help you through the evening we're gonna have lots of math to do so now we get to the length and the width the length we said was 300 almost and the width is 50 so simple 3 times 5 is 15 so how many f30 15 thousand so when a two-dimensional level it's 300 by 50 so on a two-dimensional plane it's 15,000 almost square and did you know it was 30 meters high 30 almost high so that's real simple math 2 with little calculator so you come out to 45 45 but here it's 45 with a lot of zeros so it's 450,000 but that's still with 45 if there were three levels and they were all equal so you have 45 divided by 3 is 15 15 times 3 is 45 so you had 450,000 in a three dimensional way the area of the volume was 45 250,000 so what was each level each level was a hundred and fifty thousand squared value of qubits so the clean car tells us that and I'll just read his words he says they were three there were three levels and the total was thirty almost so you have ten almost on each level that's the height and that all three levels were actually all equal so he tells you comes out to 150,000 almost on each level which we really did the math ourselves he says that the 15,000 almost on the two-dimensional level is parallel to the 15 almost that the water was above the highest mountains and 150 thousand on volume on each level parallels 150 days that the water was strengthened which is 10 times 15 and so he says all these numbers of 15 teaching what that ready shakopee shouldnít cotton denim a leg a so even though that the final punch the final decree for the flood came as a result of thievery Gazzo Macomb become eager Hakala high table of wars loot the hill of shame shall you'd hey that the prime reason for the original idea behind bringing the flood was a on account of immodesty when it came to having relationships and the desecration of the name of your day which equals 15 now this is fascinating if you know anything about you heard of his qiao Hezekiah he was a king and he had a hit a problem he never got married he never got married well until I say it came and get paid her a visit so Isaiah thought look I'm the Prophet he should come to me the king should come to me I'm the Prophet and what did the king think the Prophet should come to me so nobody came to nobody and Hezekiah got sicker and sicker so now this was a reason for Hezekiah to visit him it's a mitzvah to visit the sick so you went to visit the sick you know the first thing you told them you better have your will ready you imagine go to visit the sick and telling him hey did you have a good deal on an obituary and a good deal on a casket and I got a plot for you I mean come on but he says what does he say in Isaiah chapter 38 verse 1 solve the bait f-con go command your children well your house which really means write your will he may sot table because you are dead below tisha and you will not live that's what you say to somebody so what if he was giving him rebuke this is what the prophets did they guess what they were there for to get the people back on track to keep the Torah so cuz I'll tell us when he says you are dead it men in this world you've basically cut yourself off you've you've killed yourself in this world and you will not live in the world to come you have no portion in the world to come basically so the big question that we all have we should have is why such a stringent punishment for such a light meant a light crime so he didn't get married so he didn't get married he should lose all of life this world in the next room so this is an important verse to remember this is an Isaiah 26 verse 4 it says trust in the Lord forever bit Cupido noise are they add 4 in yah the Lord is the rock of eternity keep it yeah the NOI sOooo I mean now you can translate this many different ways because it's in the name you'd hate of God who is the rock of the world okay you can read like that we're gonna understand it on that level and beyond it's Isaiah 26 verse 4 it's Chabad that I had the odd be yeah the noise through all I mean trust the Lord forever for in the Lord for yah and the Lord is the rock of eternity this is gonna be very fundamental because we're gonna learn that it was in the name you'd hey that God actually created the world's the whole world is founded on you didn't hey that he used the hood to create the world to come and they hate to create this world there's two worlds this is in Mormon I felt on in 29b it says Oh Lama said this world was never ah dang it God used the new you didn't the hair of the name you came up gay but even just the name you didn't hesitate he created this world and oh ma ba bu now it was through somebody like Hezekiah not involving himself in getting married no there's a code when it says chinois sucked but period it's not up to you if you have children or not if you do everything you're supposed to do that comes from God but to not get married that means there's no chance right so through not involving himself or oneself in trying to be food for multiple multiply what you do is you cause the name of you didn't hang to be removed from each any shop as we already mentioned the beginning that the year in the word each the hay in the word he shot are there because God created this world and the world to come he created man and created female for a purpose now I tell many of my unmarried friends who asked me I tell them they say oh yeah you're just half a man if you're not married or just half a woman I say no it's not what it says you're not even the category of a human being until you get marry now we're not talking about the worst people who are getting over you know trauma and trying to get two lives together because we know that they want to get me married we're talking about people who are not intent on getting married so if you're young and you're trying to get married don't sweat it and if you're older get over it and definitely try to find a life partner you'll see that's what life's all about when you wake up in the morning or you're through your day and you have someone who will hopefully be a [Music] constructive critic constructive critic you have a chance of working on your character right I remember when I was very young and before I got married my rabbi told me you're the nicest guy in the world everyone loved you the sooner you get married after window as you got to know that's you know she's gonna be very critical but it's gonna be constructive and you have to look at it that way okay so if you read Sean Morris book and his philosophy you understand it even better shallow maroush many of this line but many anything to do with relationships man and woman so listen to what he says that through not involving yourself Imperial Orillia in proactive relations you caused the name of you didn't hate to be removed and then what it's javi kilo history of caution Alamos it's as if you're actively participating in destroying those two worlds a shame it see your tanto Louima shame shall you today which their very existence broke this world the world to come their very existence is hanging on the unit in the hands we read in that verse in Isaiah 26 verse 4 he be yah Hashem Cyril I mean that's the name to trust I like ashamed Nicole and Leroy this is the most scariest statement because you're causing the name of Hashem to be removed from the entire creation just by not getting married I'll came vena Leo to Newt Rodman schnell a mouse that's why the din that's why the judgment is that you're cast out from both worlds so to the din of the mob will the door of the mob oh the generation of the flood the fish a feeble ooh shame show yah they desecrated the name of the urine a so guess what hyah Gong King dhinam haru slit our even OMA zet the oh my bomb they also their judgment would be complete casting out from both worlds as the Metris as the Mishnah and Sanhedrin on page 106 side to says that the generation of the flood a metallic Lama Bob they don't have a portion in the world come and of course we know they lost omaha's day as well now this is important for the opposite because what I said the beginning is we can learn about the sanctity of marriage to be the opposite of what we're learning here it says in Psalms 118 verse 17 I shall not die this King David I shall not die but I shall live this is very similar to those words that we saw that Isaiah tells to Hezekiah he says you are dead you'll not live here's the other way around I shall not die but I shall live and tell the deeds of God but here ooh it's yawn you didn't hey low and moot I will not die he acts yet but I will live so I'm not gonna die in this world yet I'm gonna live in the world to come the stop here my say yeah and I will tell over the deeds of you'd and hey many names of God King David knew what he was talking about it's going to tell over the deeds of the hood and the hey why is that so the explanations like this when it says lower moot I will not die that's all I said yet I will live that's also in the world to come Masaki Messiah then I will tell over the deeds of you hey because it's the you and hey of the name of our sham whose sorrow I mean the creators of the world but listen to this understand the word sewer not as rock but as Y it's or creator of the world it's the UDA that is the fundamental building blocks of these two worlds that were created quiche snail the most famous a young because those two worlds that were created are the handiwork of your day of God Lafitte Kok therefore do you know if you know to knock this is like you're gonna either gonna get goose bumps or fall off your chair because your closet since Kiev a Tuva when Hezekiah said he cried his brains out his face off and he begged for forgiveness and he did true ver and you know what he married he said Isaiah I'm married but you know I had this vision I was gonna have an evil child so as possible you know a guarantee against have an evil child give me your daughter to marry he married Isaiah's daughter he didn't die you know what Isaiah says to him listen to this the kibo our love loss Oh Peter Olivia so when Hezekiah did truth and he accepted upon himself to get married hag's her shame show Yala mekomo the Union hey comes back to the right place and regarding this look in Isaiah chapter 38 verse 5 it says he named a yoseef I'll you Mecca behold this is this is Isaiah speaking the name of God right behold I will add to your life kamesh Esther Hashanah 15 years 15 years are added says in the verse because he made a decision to get married youth and hey comes back into his life 15 years are added to his life but it's a strange language listen to what it does with the language can nega-chin shalya so the 15 years are parallel to the you didn't hey that's the equivalent to 15 but guess what was said he didn't a yoseef behold I will add that's not really true that's not just correct translation if you say human ego ceased it says behold he will add but it's Isaiah speaking the name of God so why would he say behold he would add he's speaking the name of God it has to be in a motif behold I will add so the clear-cut points out this language of how Keenan and Yosef is very strange that's not proper dictum it's not proper grammar so the fact that it says Kenan a yoseef actually it's an anomaly it's something strange it's telling us something so racy Tavis racy tables because the first letter of those two words actually instead of a hater men it's a Hayley good Heaney yoseef it should be grammatically correct he didn't a mo see but the fact that it goes out of its way to say he didn't name yoseef with the Hayley good teaches us that it was in the merit of the UDA that he brought back to his life that's why he was given the fifteen years in case just in case you didn't get the whole connection between fifteen years you hey and that coming back in his life now - you thought that was interesting this is what is quoted in Gomorrah Sukkot in the second Sukkot in parrot howl that would be page 53 sighting when dove it dug down you know dove it was not he did not marry it to build the bait to make - he had the money but God did not allow him but he wanted to make sure that it was going to be in the right place because it's a pretty big area on the temple now and he wouldn't make sure he spent his money wisely so he did some excavation he dug down through the we call the foundation stone and as he dug the waters started to come up and he knew about the flood he knew why the flood had come on account of what is neut illicit sexual relations immodest behavior and as the story goes it started to rise and he went to his Rebbe and he asked his Rebbe look we know because he knew Torah every window story dove it King David that the SOTA to prevent you know to find out whether or not there was illicit sexual relations her God's name is written on this parchment it scratched off she drinks it and if she's guilty she dies and if she's not guilty she gets pregnant so there's a concept of erasing God's name only for a holy purpose other we don't need race God's name so he said okay I now to stop this water will write God's name on this piece of clay we'll throw the clay into this well this war that's coming up - he was afraid was gonna flood the whole world so the Rebbe says yes you can do it in this case and they throw the clay with God's name in knowing that it could be destroyed the process and the floods would have stopped Darlington they stopped they descended sixteen thousand cubits down below the ground which is not healthy for the world you need surface water and it should be at least approximately a thousand meters below the surface not more but this was sixteen thousand dollars so then he did what he sang King David sang hee hee what's the word he could post 15 Shearer huh Milos he wrote 15 ascensions in order to bring the water back up fifteen thousand dollars so it'd still be $1,000 below the surface remember we said we're going to talk about 15 a lot tonight so dove it sang 15 sham Alice's and the water stopped there so dove in knew the fee she your the Dove it should dorababu manchu the to wrap up our VOA's news Duffin knew that the the deluge the flood was a punishment from the great deep on account of the sin of snoot the the waters of the deep were daughters waters of hiddenness but what is written of course they're down below and guess what what do we call this loot we call it hidden salutes Cara you know King Solomon calls Newt listen to these words this isn't proverbs 917 stolen water is sweet and bread eaten in secret is pleasant so what is stolen think of the word stolen water and bread in secret this is what do we say for the forbidden fruits are very tasty right something that's forbidden all of a sudden becomes more desires than anything else so stolen water is sweet and bread even in secrets pleasant so there's a connection between the word stolen water and the bread that's even secret Miami Nuveen Jim taku the left hand starring you nom so what he's claiming here is that the Maya moving the waters that are stolen that's hidden and that's opposite of what you're supposed to do ready for this it's also admission a proverbs chapter 5 verse 15 drink water from your own cistern and running water from your own spring which means what you should be satisfied with what you have your marriage your wife is your priority don't look outside of the marriage this goes for females as well right it's not just a male issue but I think the male is more is tested in different way like that drink water from your own shot a Miami Baraka the nicely me talk the Erica that's the first idea then also he says therefore Kesha hiya dove in sorry close to home we already mentioned when he wanted to bring it up 15 ascensions $15,000 he sank these 15 songs of ascension well he was afraid high amid the Irish Emma Island they shall lay who Yahtzee Salaam he thought that if he brought up too much it would flood the world coderre not selador Mabo similar to the way that have flooded out the world that's why he said he's 15 sure mouses as a hint a hint to what the scoochie struck during the areas as a hint that the Jewish people the merit of the Jewish people guarding themselves against sexual immorality and that the name you'd hey would be able to mediate between them and save them from this great tragedy of a flood now in one of the sheer hum Hollow you have in Psalms 1 28 verse 3 it says ashtekar to Geffen Perea now how would you say your wife Easter Easter huh but this validation is Ashna huh why is it Esther huh doesn't make sense well the clean car makes sense out of it because he tells us that this egg foo the sigil is the three dots that look like this you know when you have a bowling ball so why the three dots should be Easter car one day it says that the Aleph is niku dabba sickle The Aleph of the word your wife I'll just tell you what that verse says your wife will be as a fruitful vine in the innermost parts of your house your sons will be like olive shoots around your table ashtekar qug F in Perea and your helps me bless why when will that happen the harsh Madhavi bisman sloshes to through the femur Adam that bracha will happen when there's only I'm using the word only doesn't say only when there are three partners in man we know that man is as three partners but how when there's only three when it's limited to those three partners that means there's gonna be peace right when people's eyes are focused and their hearts are focused and they're you know they're working on their marriage cuz it's worth don't get me wrong yeah it it's worth it it's really what life is about it's the key you gotta get married you got to make the effort to put it that way you have to try and I just want to explain something about how do we know there's three partners in man well the good more tells us that the man brings the white use your imagination the woman brings the red so the man brings the white that helps with the bones and the teeth the woman brings the red which helps with the blood and the flesh and God brings the spirit but listen to this Aleph Dollard men how oft our men is the word Adama it has two Komachi of 45 right Nevers $40 for and Aleph is 145 so if you take we said the father and the mother and God are three partners so off is the father I love bet the hamachi is three mothers ain't Emma Amy that's 41 41 and three is 44 but we said the word Adam is 45 so you're missing one well you have the Aleph Aleph always represents a ship because God is one also even the word the letter Aleph it's above like this on its side and you have two units the Gemara of when you look at it in that sense it's the love the six and the two units are 10 times 2 is 20 26 26 is the Komachi of you'd hey love and hey now there's a few more minutes it was my place oh yeah so we need have both the mother the father and the cottage barraco the good morning condition page 30 side B cachaça - Miroku shoot top pad of our when God is partner in the relationship they even have this idea in America on the billboards in the Bible Belt a family the prays together stays together right when you've got in the family you have better much better chance first of all I want you to know the whole concept of marriage is a Jewish idea and I'm gonna reap you from you the Rambam before we close to the fascinating Rambam em came Shana is meet a vague been a.m. the unit and the hey is actually the glue it's the in the mediator between them and that's why the word Perea has the tous effort of the youth hey peon so too cuz i'll tell us into more subtle that between me as rocky australia's regime there were 15 steps this is with levine sang during the carbonyls and during the syncopation wave ah so between the women's section and the men's section you have 15 steps this teaches you that what there's actually a connection of 15 between male and female this is between the men's section in the women's section you have the 15 steps dogged didn't make this up dogged received from god the floor plans they're the blueprints for the beta mag - at least he approved with of it had decided either way it's from god because an in Shakman do shots shame show yeah this also stabs and flows out from the holiness of the name of the unit hey alkane how you called me books Alalu that's why all of these measurements of the arc of the 300 times the 50 times 30 we went through the whole thing in the beginning whoever came late I'll fill you in there of the tape at Tom need craving will miss part s above they all surround the number 15 now when a close just by mentioning real quick this idea when I watched the king and queen of England get married I'm Amish had tears in my eyes it was like they're talking about the holiness of marriage weird is the holiness of marriage cover up I want you to know the mission of Torah the Rambam folks like this before the Torah was given when a man would meet a woman in the marketplace and he and she decided to marry he would bring her home this is before the Torah conduct relations in private and thus make her his wife today we would call that a common-law marriage but there's no condition once the total is given the Jews were commanded that when a man desires to marry a woman he must acquire as a wife in the presence of witnesses only after this does she become his wife and this is alluded to in the Torah in Deuteronomy 22 13 okay I looked that up this is the way it used to be the whole concept of kedusha in marriage is a religious thing I really don't understand secular people or people who aren't with religion or Jews having marriage I mean I get it I'm just saying like that if it's from the Torah is from the toy itself there it means that God is in the marriage it's actually a religious ritual and it's actually a religious obligation but many people I think today have a screw loose if I can say they have the marry their dogs the marrying you know you know what I mean the marrying or consciousness so they think I think they should leave it as a civil contract right makes sense you can have you couldn't make any contract you want but marriage don't take the word marriage which includes God in the relationship in a holy way and and what's the word perverted because this is what brought such tragedy in the past and it's it's a desecration to think that it's a holy matrimony as they translate it this is sanctification and this is only part one as we go on every couple of weeks I'll give another insights as we progress with in Genesis but it's just an introduction so I hope you enjoyed it and I wish you a Mazel Tov when your wedding [Music]