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R' Yitzchok Feldheim Innocence vs Soph Project Inspire Convention 2023
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I have to say like something Al to any
time want to start again no oh they head
is okay all right okay they that part G
guys to they used to ask to do that or
not here no T you say always start off
saying well oh you so okay very good got
got got all
official all
right I got
the this is this is a little bit
political this title
because I feel like this is sort of one
of the suus that really divides even the
filla today there are uh different kuas
different times there are different
issues that are at the Forefront of what
thinking people are struggling with this
issue is the issue of opposing values of
tus innocence keeping kids away from
learning things and knowing that those
kids adults you know
versus the competing idea that uh yish
kite is about bre k k created Brio and
we say the g world they're all locked up
in their basements watching playing
games and we we live in the v that has
created and we don't feel like we have
to hide from from reality when I was in
yiva the msh they always used for for
the world of toyra is that the world is
a mble and Yesa is the Tava and you run
away away from the M you live you float
in the Tava safe from the storms and and
cozy in this little in the Tava and
basically you have to know kind to close
your eyes you know when to close your
ears and not to see to escape a worldz
and of RA and of T and
and that the world of the Mel and we
created a little safe
place and that's what the t is that's
one attitude then is the other attitude
that cre us with eyes and and ears and
wanted to be in the gun and the image of
K was the K to conquer the G to live in
the G to tend to the G and instead what
did they do they ended up curled up
hiding in the bushes in the gun in like
in a fetal position so are we supposed
to be hiding from the larger world the
safe cozying place with without being
exposed to the n and the sounds of the n
and the words of the world and or are we
spoke in that image in the image of the
god the ultimate Evil the ultimate RW
was was weening from the gun and separa
from the gun and the sadness is that I
could have the Magnificent world and
here you are I gave you a bre that total
total pleasure total and and instead
what are you doing you were curled up in
bushes missing out on my mat so in that
in the image of the gun the beginning of
T the picture of kadus and tar is the
opposite of the mus of the T and the the
larger world is the goal and escape to
this little little ghetto this little
little Wallen area is a terrible tragedy
in the few pares later you get to and
it's a whole different world the world
is the gone the world's a mble and the
world's a mble then you want to
Reed these are these are ideas that may
be started with the image of the God and
the image of the mble but they're
prevalent today you know it is the goal
of life to live as much as you can in
the world and uh the more restrained and
closed in we are is that a tragedy or is
the goal to be pure and T and to survive
120 years without becoming tainted
without being corrupted and therefore to
miss out on whatever's out there is is a
a very V very worthwhile expense to pay
in in in the struggle of deserving the
purity of n what is the ultimate goal
and this these are the these are the
debates that really divide kill us today
and different even in the world the the
pure to World these are subtle things
people who are more more concerned with
safety and protection and people who are
more concerned with the openness deals
with issues
of how much should we be learning
nothing secular how much secular and
then issues with with with technology
should we be having computers should we
be having
internet where should totally get rid of
all of it is what's in order to answer
these questions you really have to wrap
your head around what is the pure toyra
Outlook of what is the priority what is
the goal is there a way to create a
balance is there value in the balance do
you want to be extreme to one side and
other side this is what this year is
about I called
it innocence versus sophis ation there's
a lot of ways you could describe it I
chose that way in is because it's the
most simple way to understand the
argument there are other ways to say it
innocence is again the idea that we
maintain Tara if the holiest value is
innocence so if the value is innocence
then you want walls big walls to protect
anything from getting in if you want
sophistication you want to be nuanced
you want to be expansive and large then
then you uh you you the walls are are
the opposite of what you want you want
Bridges you want to figure out how can I
go to new places how can I figure out
how to expand I call it Bridges versus
walls that's the image and now we're
going to probe over here what the answer
is I think the t's approach is
fascinating I think it makes shom
between all the ideas not that there
won't be malas after I say it because
there is Maas and the people leading the
different movements know everything I'm
saying so it's like I'm tell not like
I'm telling them AES I just want you to
to share that we can wrap our heads
around what the is and the aspects of
all of the different at least all not
everybody's always but it's possible to
be on both sides of the debate and uh
this is where we're going to go now so I
really I want to say I want to do it in
two ways I want to I want I want to
first start with a a certain
image the word aov a
heal is
called and uh the idea of a what is the
AK if you had to describe what an a is
the AK is it's the the part of the G
that is probably the hardest part of the
gof I don't know how much I should get
into it I always want fight off more
than I could and I end having they rush
me they stand by the door two minutes
and I finish it maybe we'll come back to
it let's just play that for now I wanted
to start thinking about the idea of an A
and akv is is is the problem with akav
is is I want to use it as the metaphor
for the entire share the benefit of an
aav is is you know I'm going to say the
whole thing it'll be clear and I'll take
my
risk yak and as was supposed to be
partners Yak is the
is he was The Simple Pure man who lived
in the tents as of was the the the is
the man in the field the
the this debate of what we're dealing
with is is really yak versus asov and
the answer at that stage in
history
wasn't it it wasn't y or it was there
was they were twins they were supposed
to be the world was supposed to be run
by a partnership of yakob and asan there
was such a thing as as a duality
of theim the pure the innocent Y in and
out in the world and somehow both
messages would be accomplished
unfortunately what happened is asov left
and uh he wasn't G to the he was he was
doing his own thing and we you have a
problem you know if you
uh if if you for to have a shus of the
innocent guy and the sophisticated
person you know I use a mush sometimes
like uh
yeah you ever go shopping there a Best
Buy you know Best Buy so Best Buy is a
it's electronic store everybody buys you
have to buy Electronics culture
Electronics don't the shabis slams but
they the alarm clocks okay whatever you
want to buy so there's two types of
workers inv Best Buy there's the the
guys in the blue shirts they're called
the what and the guy the black shirts
the black shirt guys are called The Geek
Squad they're the technical support and
then a the blue shirt guys are all these
sweet little kids you know sales nice
friendly V they don't know that much
about the product you know they but
they're nice talkers and they're they're
V and you go to them and they have
they're trained to answer two or three
questions on each laptop or whatever is
that you're looking at and uh that if
you have a really hard somebody comes in
they start asking real questions they
want to know some real stuff and they
bring oh you go to The Geek Squad you
know they take you to the Geek Squad and
The Geek Squad guy he's the technician
he knows he starts telling you numbers
and stats and specs and all these things
but they're not salesmen they're they're
they're you know something you hearing
old information but you don't want to
buy it anymore you know this is we have
problems with this model and this model
is this you're overwhelmed it's two
different people there's a partnership
of the best Ideal World would be a
person who can do sales and and who
knows the product at the same time and
this is but there's a benefit to having
this because you have a guy whose whole
life is sales he becomes an unbelievable
salesman and then you have the guy whose
whole idea whole life is the specs and
the details and knowledge of the
hardware and the software so he's a that
and that's how it runs yakob and ASA was
supposed to be a similar Arrangement
yakob was supposed to be the the
technical guy
the all day and ASA was going to be the
guy in the field the salesman the guy
selling tah they had to work together
the muscle that uh used used to describe
this is similar to the mush of a and a
go we're we're M of we're combination of
the sh and G the sh is a soft pure holy
part of us and and the world does a
course grub a world how does Nama work
walk and F things in a pure World Nisha
can't go into a physical course world so
hasm created a gof and
then can can express the gof has
capabilities to interact and walk in the
world but the g g is a physical thing so
if the Nish is in the gof the Nish is
the holy part the gof is if the gof is
taking orders of then can affect the
entire world that has this medium the
Marshall the far usefulness the easy way
to see it is a foot and a
shoe the is the the Goof is called the N
of the the shoe of the Soul cuz what's
the role of a shoe a human being has a
foot the foot is very soft and there's a
hard there pebles and rocks and glass
and you can't walk in the world you get
hurt but you want you need to go places
so we put a shoe on your foot and the M
now you can you can you can walk in the
world and you can you can accomplish
things in the world that's it's a very
could mush to understand relationship of
M and G the gof is the shoe of the Soul
it's a conduit that allows you a pure
you to perform in a coarse world and
that was the relationship of yob and as
yob and as was supposed to be the the
foot and the shoe when yob when asov
quits his job so now we're left with a
shoe with a foot without a shoe and now
you have no way to affect the world you
have all this Tyra and all this Goods
kite and all this stuff to share but
there's no way to get it across no one's
going to listen to you no one's
interested you're not a talker not
smooth as as a the it's a hunter with
his mouth he's a Salesman he knows how
to sell so so what is the answer in that
problem in that situation what do you do
if you're you you're a shoe a foot
without a shoe and there's a big world
waiting for you so what's the answer the
answer is a heal an AEV is a fascinating
thing and aov is with the foot itself
learn had to adapt to a world that the
foot itself can learn how to get hard
and callous and the foot can work walk
in a hard world it's never going to be
as good as a shoe but there's a Milo of
an aave over a foot a foot and a shoe is
two things that combined have both roles
and aov is is where the foot itself gets
hard right aov is the heels calluses
could walk walk in a world the Indians
grew up in they walked around you do it
for enough years you get hard feet and
nothing hurts you you can run even you
can
jump that's why Y is called
is the idea that one person could be the
and you could be the and the you can do
both and that's what y wants to give the
bras when does he he cons comes over we
think he tricked him it's obvious in the
story he wasn't so tricked he says are
you really my son Yak like like the
voice is the voice of Yakov and the
hands like so he knew something was up
what it is is he's not saying that
you're an impostor he's saying if the
voice is the voice of yakob and the
hands are the hands of es is
galic that it's fine I don't mean to
give the BR to es if Yakov could figure
out on how to have if you can figure out
how to how to be the Regal and the n
then that's the perfect world that's the
ideal the ideal image and you can
understand the Mila imagine the Mila of
a Salesman who actually was a m in the
product then you can talk to the guy he
knows that I'm talking and he knows this
a of course is that if a guy all day
long does sales and the guy all long is
does Technic all day long does technical
they're bigger but the guy who spends
half a time doing both there's a mile in
that and that's the tradeoff between the
model That was supposed to be akov and
asov to the final product of yob
himself the r of the heel so the role of
the heel is some kind of coess that you
develop that you can now walk in the
world I want to start off for that mus
there's a downside in the in the aov
what is lo what's
lost when in this adaptation when if
yakob was initially supposed to be
this no to the world like clueless like
just
just you take a guy like that and you
make him B with the world you give him
skills he can now he can be in K but he
knows how to go to Wall Street he can
walk around in Manhattan so there's
something lost right there's something
lost in the muscle of the heel you see
very clearly what's lost what's lost
when the foot develops
calluses what's lost when a foot is
sensitivity is it doesn't feel anything
the Milo of the heel is it doesn't feel
anything and the turn of the heel is it
doesn't feel anything and that's the
Shila I think that I wanted to start
this sh with there was a long way to do
it I should have just said it we'll see
if at the end I'm going to have Kar I
did this whole introduction
but idea is is is all this exposure even
if it's achievable going to see there's
a 100 pitfalls in the way and dangers in
doing this but even if you can do it
isn't there something huge lost let's
say we could go out there and be a sadic
let's say you could
which probably you can't it's so
dangerous to world even if somebody
might have written the saer 100 years
ago that it's possible or we can show
the ra did it did
it did it even though there are cases in
history where people
were and business and worldliness and
exposure
was and he was
the if it's happened and but even if you
can show me that it's
happened doesn't mean today it's
possible and even if it's today possible
and even if you could tell me you could
have a phone and filters and still
there's something lost and that's what
is that even in the perfect world foot
loses sensitivity when it gets callouses
when it walks in the world there's
something huge L Tyra doesn't the K
didn't create the world for for
compromises he didn't give the he
created the world that we should have so
I want to know if it's not only is is it
if this isn't the is it technically
possible to do both is it teally
possible to do both and also end up with
Aus because because to do both and to
lose like in English they have an
expression that that I don't use it
anymore but in old books you read that
there's like expression when someone's C
and you cheat someone or you take
advantage even when you was allowed to
do you you didn't break the law but how
can you that to me is legal but I fear
you call the guy a heel don't be a
heel a heel is a person why do they call
him a heel cuz how can you be so non
feeling how could
how how can you do that it's actually
what y tells the brothers when the
brothers come down to and he says he
calls them
spies what he has AAL a place to go
through what he's trying to accomplish
but what is he saying when he says
what Y is saying is that you know what a
spy is what's a spy Spy is like the
lowest thing in the world if you place
draigo is the weakest piece on the board
anything can kill a spy but a spy can do
huge things it's very important to us
what's so terrible about a spy as a spy
he's working for his country he's
totally shame sh whatever his country
shame his country sincere but what he
has to go into a country he has to marry
a woman he has to have kids he has
cowork
and it's all fake it's all lies he
doesn't love her he doesn't he doesn't
have to care about his kids he doesn't
care about his boss it's all to get
close to the
country you think about a spy it's is he
wrong what do you mean he's my country
save my country I didn't do this to hurt
someone I did this to save millions of
people my whole nation we in
war Y is saying to the brothers you had
good I'm sure you sold me
all sure it was totally
ered but how how could you do it it
should be impossible you shouldn't be
capable of selling your brother you
could say I'm I'm going to become a I'm
going to be the worst thing in the world
maybe me but the just because
something's right doesn't mean you
should be capable of doing it it should
be impossible to have kids and not love
them it should be impossible if you
could do that you're SP about he's
saying you're the people you you you
have your eyes so clear on what's right
that you can't you don't care enough so
sometimes Perfection and Kad has a
loss you could be the biggest sadic and
but how can you be so C and AEV is very
powerful it's sham it's protected but
something's lost I don't want to get I
want to startu to get a little real over
here I is how I explain this whole
question because this question is a
question that comes up always with I
always do work on college campuses so
this is always the picture in the world
is that from people is that we don't
that's the biggest obstacle for people
is that you don't care about the world
you don't care about knowledge you don't
want to know anything you
so but I was able to be successful in
cols because I didn't have a long beard
and I didn't wear I I I worked for as
for a while and they're rulle in is was
that you have to wear colored shirts I
know to still the rule cuz you don't
want to scare the students to me
students they already looking you
different try and look as Stu as most as
possible I had I lived in Lakewood and I
did I didn't want to I Really Work
colorir Not color shirts you know but I
still suit to my community I don't want
to be uh my P also this is what I'm
doing this is their hash they have and
and and Pim who tell them what they to
do what they do but I live in the Gilla
so I remember every night I would come
back from the canas I'd be on Route 9
like 2 in the morning like changing my
shirt I I dislocated my rotator cuff and
I still hurts today cuz it's the worst
motion to do is changing a shirt while
you're driving lifting your arms to get
the out hurt okay this this this is my
life every single day so the idea was is
that is that when going I was able to
work on cvus I was sort of the normal
cool Rabbi I I was I was I was normal i
t their language and then one day we did
this event K so did this event in City
Field against the internet and the Kat
ruined my career
every day I would go to school and they
would go everyone was all over the
secular press these religious Jews look
at them that you know they go like oh
you want of those like you're bid lot
like you're gets the internet like like
we're going to listen to you you fanatic
you weirdo you you're you're the
Taliban and I face that obstacle
afterwards is there's no colored shirt
there's no color that's going to
overcome an event in inst Stadium
against the internet so I had to develop
a Shear which was my sheer my new first
cheer was a response to the question
that I knew was in all their heads and
and this is and it's a heavy sug this is
what I explained to
them is
that so you think we're crazy that we're
against the internet that we're all the
imagine how much you can learn and so we
we so much information it changed the
world it revolutionized knowledge and
you cutting yourself off of all of this
sounds crazy so I said you think why I
said why do you think we doing this so
they tell you we know why what the land
said they answer question I said why do
you think we're against it of course cuz
there's inappropriate things on the
internet this is it'ser and I said okay
and what and what's so bad about that go
oh you're going to say you become a mus
a low life lose respect for women and
pervert you all these sters I'm talking
how how how it's actually said and they
said and and I and I say good very good
that's what you think and you know that
you looked in all this and you did all
this stuff your whole lives all you guys
you all sitting looking at us and you
think you're normal and you are you're
nice guys I like talking to you so you
know that you did all this and it didn't
ruin you and you're not a weirdo you're
not crazy you're not taking advantage of
people you know so you think we're crazy
that we're making a whole event to
protect people from something that
you're you do and it didn't ruin you so
you think we're crazy listen that's when
you're wrong you think that we're
against the internet cuz it does huge
things it's calamities it changes you
list said you know what would consed
none of your reasons you're right you
can look at it and you still can be
normal guy you can go to school and you
can take tests and you can pass and you
can do and you can be nice to people so
that's how I we're against it what the
internet does is something very very
tiny that's all something very tiny it
makes you feel a little bit ashamed
that's
all you don't look in the mirror and say
you're a Mel you feel a little low
that's all and they go okay for that you
R City Field I said do you know what
that little bit of low
does children are
born I always say this the first people
up in any house on little kids they're
bouncing off the walls they're levitic
and Alive we call it
wide-eyed everything the world that's
Schamus we start off shalim we start off
complete and everything is with a br
when something cool is happening H we're
up at the balancing up waiting for momy
wake up it can't get there fast enough
every trip is Are We There Yet
everything is Mom this how come why
curiosity expansion that's called sholim
you
complete and then you one day comes the
parents have to tell the kid like just
because you're up doesn't mean M have to
go you play in the living room and let m
s doctor has to go to schol in an hour
momy has go to work whatever go play and
let us and they tell the kids go play
and they lock their doors the parents
and that works like that for 13 years 14
years then all of a sudden one day comes
when the parents wake up and there's no
Lo who stole the
kins and what happened no no no one
stole the kins they look in the room and
there he is is in bed
AI School what's the matter you don't
like I heard you T
right and then Tata come comes back in
five minutes goes
H I'm I'm up I heard you I heard you
come back five more minutes a don't me
up T enough already you're getting weird
I got it what
happened for 13 for 12 13 14 years the
kids are up with the sun and then after
that all of a sudden they're the ones
locking their doors and the parents do
you know what happened what happened is
a little bit of
Shame what keeps the engine of levite is
innocence the reason why kids can be on
fire the reason they can be Ledic is
because they feel tahar and pure and
Tara I have no doubts I don't think
anything bad's going to happen I don't
think I'm going to fail cuz I'm
good the second that you feel guilty and
ashamed you lose the entire balance in
your St
you don't believe it's possible we don't
understand the significance of
B dancing in the gun what was meant to
be ended up not happening for one reason
a little bit of
BU it's a metaphor for all of life
everyone in the world we're all we all
have a gun that was supposed to be
dancing in and instead of dancing in the
G we curled up in a fetal position
somewhere in some bushes maybe with
thorns not a comfortable bushes but we'd
rather be in there than the gun
why cuz we feel
ashamed they were they
were and they felt ashamed they went to
hide in the bushes shame is what
destroys our lives that we don't know to
the extreme nothing large doesn't you're
not looking for big things tiny little
shame the kid is the first kid out to
recess the kids are are alive until the
day they see something inappropriate and
from that moment on their whole life is
hesitant and
reluctant little kids are why you know
what happens after you have you shame
you learn how to roll your
eyes the opposite of wide eyed is eye
rolls and eye roll is what is making fun
of everything in the world cuz when you
have dreams and you don't believe
they'll ever come true or you don't
believe CL me because I don't deserve it
I'm not I'm not a I'm Not Innocent I'm
not pure so then you get sarcastic FC
and cynical and anyone says something
beautiful you have to roll your eyes so
weird I when do you do an eye roll
anytime someone you meet someone who's
still innocent that's what an iroll is
an iroll is a response to who you were 5
minutes
ago that's what happens and all of that
happened from B Bosa is the worst thing
in the
world and this is why we made an event
in City Field gusten entire purpose of
life is giggly giddy
people there's no more beautiful sound
in the world than the giggling of
children and there's no more sad sound
in the world than the cackling sneering
laughter of
teenagers after they've lost their
bu the idea the crazy idea that there's
one word called laughter and you can say
laughing laughter there's no two things
in the world that are more far apart
than a giggle and a cackle a kigle is a
word is a expression of total
anticipation and excitement and just
trust to the whole
optimism like you can't experience
things fast enough and the cackle
is the attempt to turn the lights off on
the entire Ur in humanity it means the
world can never get dark enough to
satisfy
me we're given a gun and everyday people
people are losing their
gun why are they losing their gun
because of this little tiny problem and
the most important war in the world is
the war for the the preservation of Tara
of
Innocence
now so people say like
this
that it's very nice I get it but who are
you fooling are you ever going to be
able to to to stop that everyone is
going to have that bua there's not a Ben
in the world in the best yiva who's not
being
exposed and it's true we wish it wasn't
true but it's a it's a very my sheer I
just gave to now I think it's a very
powerful thing I say it a lot maybe some
of you heard of more what wants of me
already where I'm going to go is K but
that's an Al B
my that's very very real but it's not
practical it's philosophy practical
people say what a wonderful she how was
possible it'll never happen innocence is
gone there's no such thing as he'll be
innocent anymore it's a lost
possibility and that's true so then why
you so then so then what do they what
are they advocating instead of making
higher woles and bigger shmiras and
rules and yeshivas know technology and
know this we should be putting all
ouri that would work they'll even want
the people who dka want exposure but
let's take a Hal a person there are the
the most noble version of the exposure
argument would say it like this I agree
with you if we could protect the
innocence of people I would gladly build
big walls but if it's never going to
happen and you building big walls then
when the inevitable happens and the B
sees whatever he sees he's to totally
unprepared you see if we prepare him and
we talk about things then we're the one
exposing him and we're the one doing to
hezek so we should totally keep him
wrapped up in in plastic you know that I
would agree with you if you could do
that for 120 years but it's never going
to happen so it's never going to happen
eventually he's going to see it so then
we should right away make a decision now
to prepare the kid for this teach them
how to deal with guilt how to deal with
shame how to see things and survive it
there are tools for that kind of thing
that's their argument again there are
much worse arguments people D want to
destroy the fir world I don't not going
there maybe if I have time to talk about
that because that's maybe the most
important part of the share to be
cognizant of the war to Rob us of
innocence and how they masquerade as
concern for us I hopefully I'll get
there but the B the main thing I want to
deal with is this nuda how do we respond
to the sincere people who tell how do we
defend ourselves why are we so there's a
lot of tar that comes out especially
when I'm in kir because I have a lot of
coming Bala they come to join from
communities and they're so
excited but they grew up with certain
things and yimas aren't accepting them
because they're not ready to get rid of
all of their things we corrupt like this
we corrupt without technology people
whose whole life was this to go and tell
them you want to get you they want the
best for their kids they bought into
Tyra they came to conventions and
weekends and seminars they love yish
kite and they want to fit
in then you tell them not take your kid
unless you get rid of every single thing
in the world and you can't have a
smartphone you can't have this cost us a
lot of
turn why is it so bad why aren't we
preparing for this why if it's going to
happen anyway so what's the answer
what's our defense what is the world
what is our our our defense to someone
who tells us what are you bothering with
walls everyone's going to see everything
anyway I think the answer is a very
simple thing when you hear it it's like
I'm surprised that so many people make
this argument well-meaning people I've
talked to B well-meaning people who who
make the point you know how much people
are missing out on that being so much
suome I say but it's dangerous and they
go They're going to see it anyway teach
them how to deal with
it I'm not saying fakers sincere people
the answer I think is like
this
is
that nobody really believes that people
are not going to see everything but what
happens is when people see things when
they're young the younger you are when
you see things the theusa and the shame
that comes runs through your personality
unchecked and it destroys you if I can
delay the person's exposure to shame and
guilt if I could delay it until he makes
a
c
on makes a seem
Aus then the boy feels Pride he works
worked a whole year outside of Yeshiva
in his free time shabas afternoon
instead of napping and playing he had a
Kusa and he finished macas so he feels
like a gber and now when he has his
first
shame he has a response to his
shame and there's another voice saying
yes you feel terrible but I'm also I
finished marus you can't take it away
and shame doesn't run through his whole
personality if you can delay it two more
years and he finishes
Bama then when the shame comes he goes
Bama it's a hard and if you can make it
to the point where he finishes Bas
or then the shame comes he'll deal with
it I feel but it's not going to knock me
out cuz I have value shame is the
feeling of
worthlessness the most important we
don't believe we don't believe that
we're going to protect anyone being T
him forever maybe we could do it Cas but
that's not our SC for what drives our
society what drives our society is the
knowledge that the longer we can delay
shame we can build up a person without
but when the inevitable shame comes he
will survive it but the secular world is
being overrun by shame before the kid
has done anything and it destroys you
and you have no voice to recover with is
the most simple truth in the world
I started with the question of do we
want our kids to be sensitive and
present and experience the world and see
all this beauty and wonder
and or do you want to c a kids protected
in a small little box but no is a hezek
there's something lost when you have a
heel the heel loses sensitivity it's
such a tragedy to lose all that beauty
of the world and all the sensitivity and
the because you want to protect them I
get it we make a good case for it but
why does it have to come at such a
cost the parish just want you to hear
this word the par
starts if you listen to the I learned up
if you learn the laws in a Tyra like an
AEV with
walles cold unfeeling nothing's going to
derail you we don't let anyone tell us
what to do we go like a un feeling a
you're going to keep the Tyra like a
machine
you're going to build High walls not let
anything in not let anyone bar Cloud the
FR world with
their if you will live like that then
the whole para para ends
off know what happens if you do that
then every place that you will walk on
your feet that your feet will tread will
be yours then you'll be conary to soil
and you live it after many years I
learned and it's a night poetic thing
that poets don't like to repeat the same
word twice so you call it a in the
beginning of the end you call
it nice little di you walk if you will
have an AEV then every place that your
foot will step will be yours you're not
going to lose out in your world you're
not going to curl up it if we build High
walls then you won't curl up and you'll
you'll you'll be able to live that's how
I learned it till I really thought about
it and I realized that it's not just a
poetic thing a a and cafel it's very far
from poetic there's nothing in the Goof
that is more of an opposite than an a
than the cafel the AEV is the hardest
part of the human being the akv feels
nothing that's the beauty of the akv it
can go it can step there is no more
sensitive part of the Goof than the
cafreal the P you have a we tickle our
little kids when you want to tickle a
kid when you tickle him in the palm of
his foot it's the most sensitive part of
the Goof is that a fast thing that in
the foot is the hardest part of the Goof
that feels nothing and right next to it
is the softest part of the go what do we
make of that nice little C mystical
cabalistic Stell that's a very simple
thing you only to it what's the what's
the relationship between the two do you
know why the cfle is so sensitive do you
know why the CF regel feels
everything because the akv accepts the
impact of everything in the world
because the aave is so hard that every
single the aave steps and takes all of
the impact all the Cel never has touched
the ground and the nail of the cafel is
so sensitive because of the
achm my entire Shear was built on a
false premise I had to give a Shear so I
set up a structure that sounded
interesting do I have should I trade the
ability to feel and to experience the
world for thick walls that protect me
it's a nice dilemma everyone talks about
this dilemma but the Dilemma is a Lie
the way we say it is thick walls I
understand in aave you feel less but
it's worth it at least you survive or do
we want sensitivity and presence and go
out and smell the world taste the world
and then that's risky get clobber you'll
might end up in the bushes that's the
Dilemma presence and sensitivity and
risking of loss of everything or safety
and training off having a lower
experience
for a safe existence the whole question
is a
Lie the only people who can the way I
said it was with the Tava should I be
out in the world experiencing the world
but it's so dangerous or should I go and
confine myself to the little Tava and
live in the Tava away from the mble
what's the answer the answer is exactly
the
opposite is that if you have and walls
then the kids inside are still vibrant
that alive and they can be present and
they can go through life giggling
forever when you have an aave then you
have a
CAO if the only present people are the
people on the Ark on the table if you're
in the table then you're present if you
live at the world you lose your
sensitivity it's not choosing thick
walls versus sensitive presence it's the
thick walls it's the a that creates the
cafel you only get it there's nobody
more feeling and more present and more
subtle and more nuanced than a child who
grows up in the house of
woles cuz a create CF regel the cafreal
is the result the product of
an we we live in a Tav because there's
no truer view of the world than the view
of AA the world where there is
no when you strengthen the bolts of your
Gates your children become GED
and this is our I think this is
oura we we don't believe there's a trade
with the A and aov creates a CFO and you
Tak see it you see that the look on kid
you see on the there's a kid a kid this
this there's a look of innocence and uh
and whatever it is and the boys and the
girls it's lasts twice as long and it's
twice as tar cuz we excel at this
there's nothing lost
the the college students are are they
are not more nuanced and sensitive and
they not deeper feelings at us I I've
seen thousands and thousands of kids
over their and they have so many layers
of
protections they greatest skill is
cackling and eye
rolling not everybody so mean they roll
their eyes but there are other ways
nicer ways to demonstrate Detachment and
disillusionment there's nothing more
beautiful than the image of a of a 40y
old man who can still giggle of a guy in
a b good picture in a b Lish giggling
you can you can see it you can see tar
and Kusha and it's sad that I see I talk
a lot that there are so many from people
who are insecure about our position we
have a lot of who are very strong but a
lot of people feel like like insecurity
with to argue this far from feeling
insecure this should be your your goto
argument this is the greatest
demonstration of the wisdom of
arahal is the purpose of the world is a
dance in the gun and there's not one
step of the dance not only not one step
of the dance that's lost when you build
High walls the dance is that much more
beautiful and free and uninhibited
because of the K of the T how much time
do I have left I I do the anyway what
are we on have time
okay let me let me say something let me
let let me let me just add something
else I spoke over here let tell you a
msh it's a little bit outdated of a
musall but I was saying how could I link
the two things I want to tell you to
make it into one share because they're
not so related
but during Co during Co we had uh there
were two suas I remember my daughter
Hadas was We Got Married during Co it
was a CO wedding it was but there were
two s in the world going on at the same
time if you remember those times the
early days of it one suia was the suia
of Co and the other one was the early
George Floyd black lives matter riots
and I spoke with my daughter chevas I
said the every single thing you turn on
the radio you newspaper all you're
hearing is co co co George Floyd Derek
shauvin right the cop who put his I
can't breathe that's all we heard what
one story to the next story and back to
the first story I said Do You Realize
both stories have the same
punchline what was the punchline of the
Derek schin story what was the the
punchline of the co story was I can't
breathe but they're very different there
are two different ways that you can lose
your
breath life
is who breathe life into and and brought
them to life and this image of losing
the bounds in your step and the wide gu
look is the loss of yourish but it
happens two
ways Co is the symbol of the way that
comes from inside it's the part you look
at things you feel guilty you feel shame
and you get eaten up from inside and
from inside you lose your breath but
there's a far uglier way that you can
lose your
breath and that is people from outside
who need to step on our NE you can be
the healthiest person in the world
there's nothing lacking in you in your
ability to breathe but somebody squeeze
it out of you the second reason for shme
is and for preventing for building big
walls in arilla is
because if the whole world was just
sincere about science and math and
business wouldn't be so one it wouldn't
be so difficult but there's two skills
that the outside world has that are
their best skills and this is what you
face when a child goes online two things
that work in tandem the greatest skills
they have are shaming every beautiful
thing in the world every traditional
value marriage families morality
religion truth to make anyone who feels
any of these things feel guilty weird
old-fashioned racist bigoted and their
other skill is even they're even better
at this as good as they are at making
the people who are moral and good feel
proud feel ashamed make proud people
feel ashamed the other skill is taking
all the narish kite all the emptiness
all of the evil and making it look like
their Heroes they take emptiness and
make emptiness look like glory and they
take glory and they make it feel
shameful this is the skill and this is
where children are going the entire
existence of an Instagram and a a Tik
Tock and and a Facebook has one purpose
for people with meaningless empty
painful lives to convince everyone else
how happy they are look at how perfect
my life is it is to convince people that
that their emptiness and their
depression and their suffering is the
most you should be jealous of who I am
and they're so good at
it five minutes online is enough to take
a kid and make him totally insecure and
shamed about his holiness
and
totally PR and totally jealous
of all the other of of of all the people
of emptiness this is the other side of I
can't breathe the entire story of PM
what is the story this is the story
we're going now in m and b and
PM the first the first uh Facebook the
first instagrammer the first influencer
was H Russia
sending out every single day tweets and
pictures of his bunam and his power and
his guilt he had every bro in the world
and everyone had to know and he needed
everybody to bow in front of him
everyone
was that was oldfashioned language for
likes and following and uh I don't know
what all the words are everybody was
K except one person
was there was one person who refused to
buy
and hon was willing to destroy his
entire nation because if he had one
person who's not buying that the fancy
meal you're eating and the pictures of
your a fruity and the car you're driving
and the clothing you're wearing and say
oh my God I wish I was you then he ruins
your entire lie cuz it's just a mask and
one person can ruin your mask masks only
work if you have Universal bu it if one
person looks at what you're doing and
says come on who you're
fooling if one person won't bow it ruins
it for
everybody it's the same reason now add
it's the same reason why why does I said
this I think earlier but why does why
does
call Vash to come to the
party who would do that it's a
queen
no you're it's a heart you can imagine
low lives but a the king to call the
Queen because what it is is that the
entire purpose of a party
is to make people who have empty lives
feel free and happy and look at my life
and party and be vild and then in the
vild kite and the noise and the dancing
you can forget who you really want it to
be parties are the best tool for
silencing my real dreams if you feel
empty throw a big loud party the problem
is you can invest a billion dollars at a
party you can invest 10 bil a party and
it's worthless you know why cuz if
there's one woman in the room one
dignified BOS M the whole party can't
happen if the guy is a sit like
this a little tala wait for her to leave
someone tell her to go home the party's
got to
start because the image of a woman the
Dignity of a bash reminds you of the
truth and you can't pull off the LIE the
LIE can't be successful when you're
facing the truth the LIE can only work
in the
darkness so if the woman were doesn't
leave so what's the other
alternative we have to degrade her she
has to lose her dignity she has to
be H has a lie he needs the world to B
buy everyone has to Bow we have a party
to run everyone has to Bow the
metaphorical bowing of Mori is the
degradation of aash if all the women
will lose their dignity then the party
should go on if H Kaz tell
doesn't come and doesn't bow
so B says good I
mixed doesn't vow doesn't vow
so have to wipe out people doesn't bow
the gets up and says we have to destroy
this is
why
why if if if if his name was it's not
like we're shamed or shy to use the word
says h a few times though right lot of
hum one more time would have hurt
somebody why does it
call maybe he wasn't K say he was what K
saying is saying the guys who need to
degrade women and the same as
every the guy who needs the Jews to Bow
is the guy who needs women to Bow
because what a woman is to a mad is what
the Jews are to the
world we are the reminders of their
dignity
and she is the remind us so if he wants
the party to be buil she's got a bow and
if he the party wants to be bow the Jews
have to bow it's the same story it's a
small microcosm and in the macrocosm the
war of men destroying women The War of
the World destroying the K and Tower the
same story m is H we all know how
terrible the humans are the are just as
bad the same drive the same character
the same person
and this is what is going on in the
world the world's skill is on destroying
the BOS M and destroying the kit is
nothing more threatening to the world
than the wide-eyed giggling of a Jewish
kid and all of the investment in the
power of Tik Tock and Instagram is
worthless as long as is one giggly kid
walking down their block and even worse
if it's four five 15 kids and matching
clothing on of walking with their
parents it is the destruction of the
entire investment of all these sites cuz
one m
not this is what it means when it says
that because is the children who don't
break the survival of the Innocence that
allows the world to survive because
without the innocence of our children of
our children the entire world will be
able to go on with their party and the
world will be destroyed
but if we can preserve the innocence of
our children the will remain holy and
the Soul can remain holy then the
parties will stop in its track everyone
will go home and sings mirrors with
their kids to homework with their kids
and go shopping go for walks and the
world will
be the world it all depends on the
ability of to keep the purity of the
children we're not robbing the world of
experience and
herish the heel the a creates a cafel if
you want children to be a cafreal if you
want your children to smile without any
inhibition to be Allin and boyed and
excited and to giggle overflowing with
joy then you have to have woles it is
the wisdom of people we're not against
information we love the world we love
knowledge we love the gun the only place
you'll see the gun is safely behind wolf
from there you can see everything like
nobody out there sees it from the
distance of Behind the Walls we have a
Clarity and a depth that people who are
sitting and holding it in their hands
will never ever
imagine to sheare this or to bring the
rest of the world out of their bushes
back into Aron