Remarried blended families "Family unit" finances

okay someone asked me she just got married second time around how should you deal with the finances when it comes to her kids his kids a blended family second marriage there are many different styles when it comes to finances how couples in general deal with finance even the first time around but second time around this is something that needs to be clarified and if I'm making this video to share with you how my experience with many many couples that I've dealt with if he has an income and she has an income they share a common bank account when he gets married he knows that he takes her and her children on his plate when she gets married to him she knows that she's marrying him and his children they are creating together a family unit everybody in this family unit gains the father the mother the husband the wife and the children her kids and his kids this is beneficial for the whole family and everybody needs to invest in this wholesome new family unit that was created there's gonna be a lot of issues where his kids are gonna feel that they're not spending the money on him they're giving for her kids rather than money and there's not enough money for us and his child needs therapy that Charlie's therapy this kid needs seminary a decade we understand that but as long as the husband and wife are a unit together and they realize that we share the finances we share the burden we share the responsibility and we decide together which child gets what we're talking in a certain in a situation obviously where there's no extra money flowing which is the most cases where there's regular income or even a little less than regular income child a needs this child beam it's not your child my child at the moment we start saying your child needs is my child your ex is a child support my child support how do I get it could end up in creating a rift or a distance between the husband wife in their own relationship and that's gonna be detrimental to them and to the kids so the parents need to be very clear when you get married again you have a shared finances you share together everything the responsibilities of taking them shopping it's not only the money it's doing sitting doing homework his kids my kids the same amount of time needs to be put into everybody together and the children are going to challenge you it's very common the teenagers they challenge you to say how can we do this and you know because they feel that they had their mommy from for a while before the Sheep got remarried she see the children see it as a as someone's taking away their attention they're not old enough to appreciate the value of a family unit and later on where they're gonna get remarried the children gonna get married they're gonna realize that was so beneficial to them to their mother the father remarried and created so they're coming from a wholesome family where there's a regular family unit the normal Shabbos table a normal weekday everything is normal they're gonna thank you then so we need to be very clear for our children we could say I can't discuss with your Highnesses I'm discussing Makati I was cussing with mommy and we are going to decide where the money goes who gets what and this is going to end up being beneficial to everybody this is a very short synopsis obviously this is a very complicated and very lengthy conversation to have but for now this is my answer to you