Q ana A Rabbi YY Jacobson with R' Shloime Ehrlich on Self healing at Kesher Nafshi

watching this people that don't have disness and they're asking they're seeing the pain through the speakers and through the literature whatever we give out from Kashi what can CLA do preventive measures as there Ting wow you still love that's the question right the question of all questions I could make a mistake right now and give a State of the Union Address you know what those look like how we're going to fix the whole world within the next half an hour we're going to rep the entire universe change every Yesa School Center every home every Community every SCH every teacher every re every every Reb every Russ every every cuz they're all tuning into the video right now as I speak and like yeah nothing has been working for us we really want to transform oursel by 180° please tell us usually people come to that point after a lot a lot of pain and a lot a lot of failure and a lot a lot of struggle and it's not their fault we're all that way surrendering is very hard seeing seeing things from a completely different Paradigm is the hardest thing in the world that's how it is and I think it's important to understand that so I want to be a little more practical and rather than giving a State of the Union Address about transforming all of CLA Isel in the next five minutes however we're waiting for the however yeah I think let's take it more let's make it personal what can everyone in this room do what can I do what can you do what can we do and I believe by osmosis you know the ripple effect of Life the butterfly effect as they call it the corona began because one man sneezed in Wuhan China he literally sneezed and nobody taught him to put his hand over his mouth like my mother taught me and cover your sneeze and in a few months the whole world was closed down so if that's what a sneeze can accomplish the r says imagine what godliness and K can accomplish like the r says you know look at the world is balanced and I think in a very very practical and intimate way the greatest thing we can do is heal ourselves heal ourselves I know this doesn't sound romantic rantic I'm sorry it doesn't sound dramatic it's like you want to hear let's nuke all the schools like let's you know let's hire Iran let's hire Iran that's what you want to [Applause] hear right I'm just joking KH I don't mean that literally but you get my point it's much more powerful if we're empowered what I could do I don't have control I have control over one person beerly over him it's called me beerly I'm working on it the moment you think you have control over one person outside of yourself you're living in la la land and that's why that's the most powerful thing we can do the most powerful thing we can do is become truly healthy people what does that look like what does really healthy look like it means for me for you to face your fears to face your fears I know in my life there is a certain Cliff that I never went down into and I've recently discovered I'm not going to elaborate on this because this is not my personal therapy session but I've recently discovered that much of my survival Instinct is to look away from that cliff and to build a life denying that that cliff and Abyss exists and I did it very well until spaghetti hit the fan or as my wise wife says it works until it doesn't or in this case it works until one of your kids says so the balat writes and one of his my every Jew is called anira we're all hashem's spouse anira and every one has their turn that says it's time for you to show up and the B says something incredible in from the why did vashi die because she didn't want to show up why didn't she want to show up because wanted she should come without clothes so the says as follows when Hashem is a metaphor for Hashem always in the med when Hashem asks you to show up he wants you to show up without clothes without coverups without facades vashi her entire life is a facade When God says take over the facade she ceases to exist some people their entire existence and survival mechanism is through facades through coverups I know I had to turn away from that Abyss my entire life and never look there which means I built an entire life ignoring the deepest truths of my own pain and my own fear and I know my AV if I don't cuz that Abyss spoke to me recently it said you built a whole life by ignoring me by denying me which means your truest self is not here what did that do to me to my marriage to my kids I don't even know maybe I'll find out a little bit one day I'm going to quote my wife again people don't know what they don't know that's the biggest issue in healing people know people don't know but the worst is people don't know what they don't know and then there even worse and that is you don't know what you don't know and you think you know what you don't know and that's the worst it's like when your grandmother when like your mother-in-law starts telling you about how to help your kids right I remember when somebody came to my house and said you have to explain to her Snee wow you get The Nobel Prize for that you get The Nobel Prize for that she's only 16 years in this house she never heard the word Snee you have to explain they say it with kindness you have to explain to them that you need to wear a yam and that's how we live in this house Ian I don't know why were you not your son never heard about AA before he's only 18 years old he never heard about aaka he only heard about it 19 and a half thousand times in one month but people don't know what they don't know but we also don't know what we don't know we don't know what we don't know and the greatest gift we can all give our myself says make a commitment to real real internal healing it's much harder than everything cuz this is facing our own Darkness how God has given this generation enormous Gifts of healing there are modalities of healing that were not even available 25 years ago I believe these are miracles from Hashem for Our Generation to help us heal ourselves so we can heal our children and they can heal us and we could bring Redemption to a world that's aching for healing there's gifts don't ignore these gifts there's powerful gifts of healing that are available today very very powerful extremely you have to deal with a good support system people who are responsible people who will help you but even those of us who suffered complex complex complex developmental trauma there are enormous gifts that were not available in a previous generation at least that many of us did not know about seize them because the moment we will all start radiating the true energy that we are your house is going to change forever you know why because you're going to change forever your kitchen your dining room your bedroom your marriage your intimacy your shabas tables your dinners your conversations will never be the same your kids will get it like this your kids will get it like this you know one of the the biggest problems in all of our conventions is we have given up on ourselves and we're busy with our kids and I'm like that's not true nothing happens with our kids it happens with you you want your kids to be healthy become healthy stop running to your kids your kids I hate to say this can be the biggest distraction from authenticity and it's all in the Name of Love Love Love Love Love I need to deal with my trauma you got to deal with your trauma we could we could God is begging us I want a relationship with you I want to have fun with you I want to connect to you I want to dance with you you can only dance with people when they're vulnerable when they're authentic when they're not paralyzed in fear and anxiety and we are we are much of our Judaism is a response to fear anxiety more anxiety don't get me going with I already I'm traumatized I hear the words Manana whatever I'm holding by always you like my say I'm by I'm done we're good give me the goat and let's go let's go right my point is we what does Judaism even look like what is a blissful a blissful relationship with yourself with Hashem this is where in a very practical and real way the most deepest change will happen and it's going to radiate it's going to radiate to your neighbors to your cousins to your your siblings to teachers to Educators and the moment we become allergic to toxicity the standards will change people need to become allergic to toxicity if somebody serves me for a meal excrement I vomit you know when we're going to change when we all become allergic to toxicity to stupidity to lies to deception to dysfunctionality to using God to justify our traumas and not to connect to ourselves and our children the more we become connected to our Bliss the more we become allergic to sickness the more you love life the more you hate evil the more we live life the more we don't have patience for toxicity in a very good and empathetic way thank you I'm just going to end up I we have many more cres and the whole world needs to heal just going to say a quick I say I didn't say the whole I said I need to heal I need to heal that was the point not the whole world the whole world that's their business always says the from the it says so this shabas for the shabas SE I was sitting my wife and she said the ra is which is other way around is air it's to awaken us when we look up we see the coming down we see but when we look top down you see a Hashem is only sending us [Applause] Awakening everybody you've just experience