Living in Paradise פרד"ס Kesher Nafshi London UK

this Torah class is brought to you by Torah anytime.com M have a few minutes to speak so I want to bring out a few takeaways um we just heard our our Reb shim I was remembering there was in university ban in there was a study that they made there was a they had a I think it was a 8we course on getting people to quit smoking so they had a professor and people came like every Sunday for a few hours and he was talking all the studies and statistics about smoking how bad it is and how unhealthy it is and he had like videos to show pictures of lungs 90s something per of people that came to those courses quit smoking one time the professor that was giving that courses was actually smoking while he was giving the course and he was showing his videos he's talking about and people asked he said I smoke but I'm telling you the facts and he was doing the same 8we course 90 over 90% people did not quit smoking how does that work intelligent people intellectual people sitting and listening to very to evidence as the M everything what happened Rima Russell is not just teaching us something he's he's my and our role model he is actually living what he preaches that's why I'm confident that all of us are going home changed [Applause] people I'm into my whole heart I I I've never seen a I I've been to a lot of courses and lectures and I went through a lot of trainings in my life I've never seen someone talking from the so real so authentic wow I'm sorry had to go through whatever you went through in your life but it was all for us nothing to do with you this is our our gift the second thing I want to say is remember that Kik needs has a very short shelf life you could hear we can hear stories how many times we do we get inspired and we hear like a beautiful story about this and that and for a few minute you feel like the world the next day you forget you back into your life and the next hour so we constantly need we need reminders you know shabas like this could give maybe for a longer time a longer period of time has a longer shelf life but at the end of the day needs to be reminded they need to be again and again so set yourself up to join the support groups there are some support groups over here hopefully there's going to happen more if you if you join the support groups don't think ah I'm not going to go tonight I'll go next week try to go make it your business to go like this you remind yourself you remind your we need we need to remind us we need to we need to live it not just here and move on for life so just the second thing I wanted to say means we need to talk whatever support groups then I want to say that being here for shabas was like being in Paradise Paradise solution KES is pares interesting right a pares we know that is the of and we could learn the to wrote the to in a very simple way simple manner we teach to to to to 5-year-old kids they go to Kish they start learning the Kish the story story as we get older we start learning gamur what does gamur different than thanish is the gur is is what we learn from it and what it's it's the to is very cryptic there something deeper than just what says in theim and then there is even deeper when you become a hopefully or you become a little older you start learning the in the to what the to is trying to hint us what can I learn from it it doesn't only mean that it can mean something else and then of course ultimately we all get to the to the level of so so is the secrets the hidden part of the to some people would think that so is just a nice thing that yeah by the way you could learn a lot of nice things in so is the but it's not true so is the m in order for humans to understand and to understand the hidden light that's in the toy in the world and everything around us we need to first start Elementary we start with chat I'll give you an example if you meet a person and you look at them what do you see you only see theat how they dress how they look and we make all kinds of assumptions about them we know that our kids walk in the streets we know a lot of things about them other peop don't how people look at you and they're like wow they Envy you many times and they think like wow you know they don't know anything is not the truth this is not this is not me you know a little bit more about me because I spoke a few hours so that you know a little bit more but you still know this little is is not the truth what's hidden what's the essence is always hidden you look around this room what do you see you see physical things you see chairs people you see walls you see curtains what do you see but if you would have special eyes you would be able to see the side you would see there's radio waves in this room yeah if someone calls your phone it's going to ring your phone is going to ring there's there's all if you have have a radio you're able to tune in you can hear Spanish and and the Chinese I don't know all kinds of waves happening in this room you bring an alien to the world and you try to explain to him what uh gravity is gravity is something that none of us have ever seen but we know for a fact I hold something I drop it it's just I see I see the outcome but I never seen gravity you can't explain it but it's a fact it's a msus there are so many things happening around us that we don't see so we could choose to walk into a room and to see only the to be Elementary or you could choose to walk into a place like the bash wanted every person that you walk into a shield you walk into a grocery you walk into a place you should see nishas not the people don't look at the body of the car open the hood and look inside of this is a good engine you're buying a new car you're buying a used car you take it to a mechanic and he checks the soid inside is everything functioning of it it's not about a nice model and painted car it's so beautiful how many cars are bashed from the outside and it has a pickup like it's able to drive for hours it's a it's an amazing car the car is not the way it looks of course you want it to look nice as well so when we came over here for this weekend we learned to become to become cabalists we started learning Kabul we started learning so when we look our child we're not going to see anymore they their their the dress cod we're not going to see the mum what they're doing their deeds we're going to suddenly start seeing their we're going to start seeing what is their Essence what is their I spoke to the BS like this that are struggling not in the level of as we call stage four but struggling struggling te and I was telling them that you are not your Deeds you are not your M that you do you are what you want to be a is a person is what you want to be what I'm doing is because I had an ass sign I am a b because I I spoke L and I didn't I was looking where I'm not supposed to I did a it's not I am a b what does that mean someone nobody's a you did the m at that moment is something that's not who you are so I was telling these boys label yourselves of what you want to be what is it that you want to be and I started the numer asking questions raise your hand and everybody's raising hand again and again they want to be they want to be the richest people to be able to give money for every am in his youim and they want to heal every person in the world they want to be connected Ed to the that's that's the truth that's their inside I can't judge someone by the by how they behave or else if I'm a judge working in in a court and he can't go by S because this person killed the other one he can't say he didn't want to do it you know so there are certain places where you need to actually work with physical and and that's why called it's very narrow-minded it's not expans it's not expansion and understanding and have the greater point of view and look everything it's it's because it's it's but it has to be that's nothing to do with us but the way we see other people we have to start seeing their so and you know how much easier it's going to be for us to help them when need child behaves a certain way it was just a behavior it's not what they wanted to do it's not what they want to be they want to be the greatest for so let's just see the site what's going on inside them I think this helped me and by learning any different it gives us a little deeper understanding when you see something you learn you know the the enlightenment movement the uh Thea they would trying to take from and turn it into that's where the whole was built on theat they took the stories very literal in their way the way they wanted they Twisted a few words and that's so they made oh you see even you know was mentioned that says wasn't what do mean was look at the the you see that he was mummified he was he was buried his kids were crying the whole thing what does that mean you know what you know what says that the to is written different levels I'll be yeah he was nter I'll be if I would see Y and then I see him buried I'll be my he was what I need to learn from him what I'm growing from his massim and understanding everything the to talks about him is still alive is still alive today we are behaving a certain way because he is still alive in our life that's what says all the s and all the people our parents and our grandparents that are not alive anymore if they have an impact on you if you are your life is different because of them they're dead their body is there no either what do you see you ever seen a but we're above that we're mature people kids see Pat only only the deeper and the older and the moment sure person becomes we need to actually start seeing the dis of everything Theus what could I learn from it and then the what is the essence what is the reality what is the truth reality is so reality is not shot so someone's going to ask you what did you learn over this weekend you say that we became cabalists it's the most amazing thing to do telling you and they say huh what did you just say I you know we see people doing things and what happens in our brain we naturally judge them oh that person did that because of this that person instead of that's we react toat with we have to start going into deeper and start saying I'm wondering why that person did that I'm wondering be curious don't judge your child behaves a certain way say why did he do that no ask yourself and why I'm curious or you ask your child I'm very curious many many times if not most of the times when he ask someone why did he do that they'll explain to you say oh asked if I wouldn't ask I would have made a whole assumption we suffer from our assumptions assumptions are based on seeing only assumptions are based of seeing only chat only seeing the the surface of everything once you're able to see the depth of things you're not going to make assumptions you're not going to judge you're just going to see were living they were living also everything were L brief when I when I travel I click this plain most amazing Cypher teach us how to see the the so of of everything if you see the soid in everything you're a happier person and it's more real you're not going to judge people you're going to have a much bigger G also 90% of our issues are based on assumptions this is a human condition that we suffer from assumptions your wife screams at you you made an assumption must be because this that say I'm wondering why why did you react that way and why wouldn't you say it in a nicer way and she'll say because yesterday did the say what it will make sense okay it will make sense your child does something your regular kid and your struggling child ask questions and if you don't if you can't ask just ask yourself so you're not going to be cooked up we are cooked up so many times during the day someone cuts in the car in front of you I don't know if it's c a cutting Road raids you know you always you see this guy like cutting into you I'll never forget when my my wife was in the the in the n9th month and I was driving up the 59 and M SE like a maniac like a maniac the water broke it was I promise people know me and I at that time and I make sure to have dark windows in my car but I didn't have dark window I guarantee you I saw like Jud what kind of guy is he I hope they heard the next day I had a baby you never know we never know there's so many things they can never understand I'm wondering why this person has such a shot I'm wondering make that part of your I have on my on my phone for many many months the quote don't judge be curious be curious because there something deeper it's not chat there's something deeper there's there's so and so is the greatest gift you can give yourself and when you learned to and you learn a little bit of s you don't need to be 40 anymore be younger our sik gave us permission but of course through through the don't don't learn your own Kaba but seeing people seeing things and seeing our own child I have to finish that we should all see the so in ourselves and we should not judge our Behavior we should see our so our so has Ro to be the best parent in the world let's you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you by Torah anytime.com