R Shloime Ehrlich - 'Devotion' is the Key How We Connect to Hashem

I can tell this whatever Mala after such a shabus. Malev Mala is called MVA the Mala. We escort the king, the queen. Every shabas we have three ceders and says the three ceders are against Shabas is see it's all about it's all about redemption is the seventh day of the week is a completing a week Sunday we start a new The contrast from going to from Shabas to weekdays needs something in between that has both elements to it. But especially Mala was a very important ceda very mak to wash get together say stories because one of the biggest avoidas one of the hardest things actually to do is when we get inspired to know how to take it along. Every shabas, every Yid connects to their soul, connects to their connects to the shabases. And we want to be able to take it along for the week. The new inspiration kalina kalina says if Sunday morning your ding is not the same, is not more than your Friday morning, your shabas didn't do enough. You didn't know how to take along of midn a shabas like this with so much inspiration so much thoughts and feelings going through each and every one of us. I must say I was so inspired fabul speaking with people that are going through so much yet are able to come here. It takes a lot of courage to come to such a place. For the men even the more usually to come and to show health I need I need inspiration. Now I can do it on my own. Whoever is here is very brave and to say no I need to visit [Music] and I want to do it together and this is something that we need to know how to compact it to put into capsules all the uh geta that we heard all the ideas and to make it into bumper stickers if I may say and to bring it home and you know what to say I want to share with you a story that I think that it's going to pack package and wrap the whole Shabas together and hopefully this is going to be something you could take along and put in your pocket and it should help you in the weeks to come to be able to face your challenges and do it with a kaiishik and with a as I was sitting before sitting near me he says I want to stay here it feels like it's like a on the island under the belt he says I got so fueled up I'm afraid I'm going to come home it's all going to be leaked out from the tank very fast so let's start with this amazing masa cuz the highly We all know he was called because he had the ability to look at at his forehead and he was able to know everything about him and his and everything he did and he knew what was going on in the world. So he had a over there that was very very poor. were on the uh footsteps of Piser story take it along and he went he he went to the river and he says I don't have any money to make pis I have money to buy mats the children don't have you know to buy the shoes for all the kids can I know and food and everything even money for the places I'm very worried. My wife is worried. The kids are anxious and I don't know what to do about it. So the Reb tells him, I see that you are going to have a lot of money still before Pis you're going to have an abundance of money and it's not going to be an issue. A week passes by and nothing happens. It's already few days before BS and he goes to the Reb again and he says, "I don't have it's you know we need to buy the stuff." The reassures him and he says don't worry you'll see you can have money for pes 3 or 4 hours before pes someone knocks on the door and he says are you so and so he says yes I'm coming down from Hungary I'm a from best you had a great aunt you know the old everybody's dream a great aunt that was very rich and she didn't have any kids and you are the heir Leave us the and you are getting his a sack full of diamonds and zil and gold and other get maybe titanium shed leaves he got he runs into his wife and he says you know what just happened we became rich what's the story they didn't have time to rejoice they run out to the street and they want to buy all kinds of steaks and mas it's unbelievable what they could put together in just a few hours. They came and got to the first side. They're sitting there with such a mishand. It's unbelievable. They had mishum and everything. Whatever they needed was most beautiful cider. They was singing the whole cider. I can imagine the father had so much patience for the kids and they all sitting nicely and everybody was behaving. It was and they finished like in the morning they went to sleep went to D and of course what happened the next day to the afternoon he takes a nap with his wife they're exhausted the first time in their life they had so much food and they were up the whole night they went to sleep they wake up it was 11:00 an hour before katas at night and the He starts thinking I want to make a just like yesterday. I want to make a side and he rushes down quickly down m and maybe and he told his wife to stop preparing everything and started making ready for the comes to starting and he says with every single word and he says but quickly and he says the kid say it was it was the kids were like halfway asleep and nagging and it was hiding but he was trying it he is focusing. We have to give it all you've got. You have to and he made it a minute before he eats and they finish the side. They go to sleep. The next morning comes to sh after ding tells his call up front. This is the seat. Call him up. He is thinking to himself what does the reb want from me? And he comes and the Reb tells him, "Can you do me a favor?" Said, "Sure. Can you tell the people that are standing around us now? Can you tell them how your went? Your made a like never before. There's something so special about your I want you to share with everybody. They should know how a side is supposed to look like." Of course, you start telling everybody. You all know that I was a porper and finally from the came and brought and the police stops him and he says no no no tell them about your second cider and he says like sure I mean it was it was an embarrassment no no zukai zuk decided to tell them how the second cider went have a choice they have a high f and he tells them I'm embarrassed to say I I I slept in. We woke up late and we were smishes and the says go on go on and he says I put together all my thoughts and all my kunas and I started saying that this is a mitzvah to be mim crying and slleing and the food wasn't prepared regular everything was cold it was but he was doing the whole thing whatever he could let me ask you a question which side do you think made a Shay the first sighted or the second naturally we would think that the first side he did at mish was singing and the kids were behaving and also mish like the coloring books like the uh it's way supposed to be the father and the with everything and the second side took an hour and the taught this and the people around them that sometimes the second side made a much bigger ash than The first one, naturally the way we grow up, we are taught the way things are supposed to be. You're supposed to feel this, you're supposed to feel that. You're supposed to do this. This is before that. You have to sit this way. You have to tell your kids to sh and they have to sing this song and that song. And you have to feel, you have to have the whole emotions. But sometimes when it comes to There's something deeper sometimes that it's expected from us from Shay that we have to do which is called devotion. But the first sided he gave it all he's got in the sense that he was enjoying so to speak the idea that he's having decided and he's doing the right thing. He's doing he's he has a perfect side and if any neighbor would walk in they would see ah this shin this it feels good if someone would walk into the second side what would he see if I slept the side and nothing prepared it's like halfway but the devotion the gave kite the shaft the shaft was to do it the right way to think and to connect Hashem and to say this is what for me. This is my avoid now and I'm going to give it all I've got and I'm going to do it with a gans devotion. This is something I think the shabas the event is called keshu is about relationships. How to build a relationship? There are two different ways of connecting. You could connect to someone technically I sometimes husband could say I'm doing everything I bring the grocery she tells me to bring the grocery bring it for her she I'll do this why she feels we're not connected there's something missing she wants something more she doesn't just want a technical relationship she wants to see some devotion kite she wants it to be in tune she wants epis made it's not just the technical relationship the bashtov or the other but we are more connected the stories that we know is more from was very busy so to speak to train his that hem wants your devotion and your heart to do something it's not about the technicality so much of course we have to keep the I have so many people telling me I can't put on I said just put on five minutes but really you d the whole day don't we d the whole day we drive the carv should catch the light should get a bar you need a parking spot a parking spot it's domining it's thank you have a phone call you're doing business a whole day we're domining that's in a certain sense much deeper domining than the technical putting on the film I'm not you have to put on the film but you're doing so much more by connecting with your heart and giving your devotion. And this is something we all know the master the bash one of his to go to a foreign place and he told him hide behind this this stone. I want you to be there for a few hours and then come back to me. Theid went and he sees there's a shepherd a past with his sheep and they're drinking over there by the uh by the river. And while the are drinking the past the past the u he jumps over the water back and forth and he says tom tom to and thinks to himself like is a real he knows only one word and he wanted he said tom tom and felt like at least he should say so he scre says there's always they get to eat that and He he got so confused to it wasn't the same. He came back the mash told him you should know that in Sham you have a you have a problem they were upset at you. His to was so important to Hashem. It made such a such a in shaman. It's beyond words. It was something in him. He was doing it naturally. He was giving it all he's got. In a relationship with others, in the relation with our children, the relationship with the shay, it always has to be with devotion with the extremal that we all are very familiar with that right before gave us the hashem wanted to give another chance for the nations. So any guy that asks you, you're the chosen nation, he said, "Listen, we gave you guys a chance." And the malik came down. We know the story. There's a song from and he goes to one king from the one nation another nation. He says, "Do you want to take the Tyra?" And what was their answer? And they said, "Makai, what does it say? What what does it say inside?" And of course, he told the the nation that was struggling with with Gan, they told him, and everybody, they all said, "No, no, no. It's okay. It's not for us." He came to the Eden and what did we say? We didn't say. What was it saying? He said first we're going to do and then we'll hear it's not important. So the swam say what's the sign what's so amazing about that we realized the toy is about a relationship it's not about the rules that say in the we are not doing the mitzvah because it's a technical thing gave us the only that we should have a way to connect to him otherwise how do you connect to the infinite God. The only way we could connect is through him giving us toy mitzvah and then we fulfill it. But really fulfilling the mitzvah technically, yes, there are some people that have 613 problems they need to solve. And some people have 613 privileges. They realize what the to mitas are all about. So the relationship between the Irish and Kali is the heart. Yes. You cannot say what Israeli drivers in the taxis they say. Sometimes people go through that stage. Yes, it's perfect. But not to stay there forever. You tell I need you have to also do something. You have to have the first and the second. And when we build a kisha and ultimately our kish what we're here for to build a kisha with our kids they want to see us devoted and I can tell you I've witnessed it firsthand and my wife told me what was going on at this side and I know what happened this side throughout Chabas. All of you are the most devoted parents in the world. Devotion means is there a stronger word for devotion? I wish I would have thesaurus. But devotion when your neighbors, your in-laws, your local, your everybody around you is telling you and you say, "No, I'm going to do what the right thing is. again for my I don't just pull the plug. I'm going to give it whatever it takes. And this is something that I need to applaud you and you fathers and mothers are the beacon of light for the whole Kalis. I have been to many many shabatones. Some I was called to speak and the other ones I was part of. In this very hotel I was here with my wife over here 5 years ago with a different organization called Moas. You shouldn't know if you don't know what it is. Metas is for grieving parents. Parents have lost children. I was to be one of the parents over there. And I was looking around. I was trying to in my my mind I was trying to compare like interesting this shabatone and that one. There is something very special by the parents going through this particular assign this particular test this particular challenge. There is something here. I see hope in everybody's face. There is hope. And the leader of this organization, his name matches so well what he is and what he's doing and what he's instilling in all of us. His name is Avi. He's the A. He's a father. He is so devoted to you. So you become so devoted to your child or children. He's teaching us by example. And you know what? By being devoted to your child, everything goes in slowly but surely. Sometimes takes much longer than we want, but ultimately everything comes, everything seeps in slowly but surely. Our children are going to be so devoted and devoted means to their creator and to their people and to the family. back and to everybody else. There was something unique about this shabatone. I was listening to the speeches from Friday night and then before he sh this morning all the speeches one by one and it was all about how to build a with someone that's totally opposite than you and part of you somebody that's so challenging to you. How do you build a relationship with someone that's so against your beliefs? You had dreams and hopes for this child. We all created and now this child is standing up and challenging us. Do you love me? Even if I'm not going to itemize it, the worst things to do in your house to bring it in whatever it is to make you feel. Do you love me? They test us. There's a mass with everybody is waiting for the to come out. In the olden days when didn't come out or action like that, we knew there's something more. And finally the deb comes out and he runs to the and he opens up the and he starts crying and loud and he says I am talking on behalf of the whole kahill yes we all sinned we did our we spoke we did this we did that and we're asking you for forgiveness but Hashem who made thus says, "Who made the assignment and who made the kids go after their you wanted it to be so you be us and we'll be you. We'll forgive you and you forgive us." He closed the paras. They started domining. After ding, you could imagine there was a huge lineup and everybody wanted to ask what exactly is happening here? The says relationships is a one thing between us and people, us and objects and things and us Hashem. We need to have a relationship with Hashem just as we need to have a relationship between us. If you cannot be open and tell your spouse that you're upset about something, is that closeness? I'm not saying you should do that week after if it's something. But once you get close to someone, you're able to say, you know what, I want to have a meeting with you. Let's talk tomorrow night. I want to address something that bothers me. Of course, you sandwich it in. You know how to do it. You get and then you say, listen, it bothers me that you do so and so. This means closeness. This is a relationship. So the said, this is the relation we need to have with Hashem. We need to be able to tell Hashem, Hashem, I don't know why did you do this to us. It's so painful to go through what we're going through now. It has this nan this challenge has everything in it. It has bisha. It challenges our beliefs, our thoughts. It challenges the other kids in the house, the families. The gaz in every way, shape, or form, we are challenged to work it out. It's so painful. And if you want to be able to have the coyak to continue being devoted to your kids, you need to be able to heal yourself first of all by coming to the shabas rejuvenating and besides having a relationship, an open relationship with Hashem and say, "I don't know why you're doing this. It's so hard for me. Please help me. Give me the kayak and the cycle to do and the patience to do what it needs to to to go through this challenge. Every time you come home and you see another thing that bothers you. Now this one's child came home with a tattoo whatever every every there this so many things coming up. You have to say to yourself, I am going to continue to be a from the to take care of this nish. Every nish, every child has a journey and it has nothing to do with your just as if you have a child that grows up to be the you don't take credit. You don't take blame for anything your child does. We believe in we believe in choice and ultimately this is the any way shape or form you want which direction you want to go you want to go different you want to see why created the world ultimately we have choice and every person has to go through whatever they need to go through we have a choice how we want to deal with this design We have a choice to say this is Hashem's kid and I'm choosing to be devoted and give it all the courage I can. And if you do it that way, you become a from the And when you're from Hashem, there's if you're a for someone else, the the messenger has the same power like yourself. And I am a shik for the Iish to take care of this dish or this kid. I am becoming an extended hand of the Iish alliance. And don't worry, Hashem knows how to do it. We just have to remember that we are working for the Irish and each and every one of these kids are going to meet Hashem continue their journey and come to a place where there's going to be a for them of but I want to see one more I want to say one more thing before we're going to call up call up AI the whole world today has full of inspiration it all started Ed 30 40 years ago when we started is and it's alim the greatest speakers in the last 20 years and writers are bal themselves these are people that have original inspiration their own inspiration they're not Eden robots these are people that chose to be Eden where exactly do they come from there and babased Just 100 years ago there was the big movement as school the enlightenment movement millions I don't know the numbers hundreds of thousands for sure of with tis and moms like you there was a movement there was a like a vacuum giving out literature and schools and make from and getting the kids to leave their yiddish behind are zidas and boas who cry ing atm. You think those went a lot of their are the greatest inspiring people people today and all the people that are not bal that are great speakers they were inspired by these bala. One hand washes the other. All of us are becoming more perfected. We all are challenged challenged to look into ourselves and say what could I do different? Am I running a robot robotic shabas table because now you have to do this now you have to do that or you're putting in a shabas table customate your kids and trying to bring them to enjoy the shabas and to connect to hashem and to enjoy to this meas in my house personally I have every Friday night I have the pis this is going on for probably 8 10 years my kids any questions they have Friday night they can ask me whatever it is why this why that and we make a discussion I try to include the younger kids that they should have their inspiration I give them time to ask questions my little daughter asks me Tati we have a neighbor across the street a liter neighbor and he sits and learns he's a mager here. Are you and him because you wear a strial and he has a a band with a necktie. I love that question. A little kid, innocent. We open the conversation. We're talking about Levish, different nature, different cultures where they come from. We come from it's not about this piece of fur over here. You come up shine. They don't ask you these questions. This is it's important, but fine. I told them Rabbi Kman across the street is a thousand made in my eyes. He sits and learns whatever it is. The other kid asks different questions sometimes deeper the older kids. Not all of us are able to answer all the questions you tell them. There's always someone you could ask. But we have to open dialogue. Involve your kids in the shabas table. If you can, they should start the shabas the songs for the meetas. We have to customize. We are fighting a world out there that's so colorful seemingly so exciting seemingly we have the excitement we have the ideology we have everything ink we just have to give them something that would devoted like the second it cannot be the perfect cider form it has to be the perfect cider for us we have to give them something exciting and to make it custom to each child his last that he gave it's called the I call it the mission statement he gave every child a different mission according to their nature you go to work you go you go learn everybody gave a different mission each and every one I always say I have the shiv every child this is a pomegranate [Music] is that it should be a custom design for each kid and if one of our kids are going through a situation a mat a call called it ages and stages where you need to have tolerance and show them devotion even if they don't do anything that you believe in and you give them the leap shaft then this is your now as we heard throughout Shabas from all the speakers we're going to continue soon but I want to call up the av the father of this most important organization I think this is the only organization in the world in the Yiddish belt that get that that teaches the parents how to have a cashier with our children that are challenging us and ultimately as someone pointed out to me throughout Chabas he said I became so much closer to my wife throughout this challenge taught me what a real relationship is to have a relationship with someone that's opposite than you someone that believes in college. A guy goes to college, let's say, and he finds a girl over there. And what did they do the whole time? They keep on comparing our similarities. Oh, great. Oh, she's she's amazing. She I love chocolate. She loves chocolate. Imagine we love vanilla. Forget about it. I love action movies. She also likes action. Whatever. Council keep on comparing. They get married and suddenly they find out they find themselves in a relationship where they're so opposites. And yet we know this thing that opposites attract. Opposites attract. It's a total fake. A relationship is going through the challenge of understanding and being open and being devoted to someone that's different than you and opposite than you and different beliefs. This is Gishmak. I tell people if you're a lemon and your wife is an orange, your children are going to be grapefruits. It's great. Grapefruit has the vitamins of both. This is not Alice. It's bigger. It get it has the whole thing. And this is talking about what it's made for.