R' Chaim Horowitz - Introduction - Atzmi 4

that we still see something last time and they felt there was something to come back for. So two and a half years ago the Shashiva was sitting in his freezer in his off in his office whoever caps the joke gets it and he thought of his idea something called Shabasi and now the idea is very simple to give Brim a place a safe place they can leave their normal settings behind the Kabir the yeshivas and come out to little kibuts in somewhere in the north and they can feel safe to ask questions, feel comfortable and just be open to the idea of hearing new ideas. So now I was thinking how does one know if they accomplished if they satisfied the idea of Shabas atmi meaning how does someone know they were they came to shabasmi and they actually got somewhere. So I was thinking very simple few a few questions you can ask yourself on the bus ride home from the bus ride home you think to yourself wow I thought I heard a question I never heard it before and I'm was blown away by the question and now I'm inspired to be a little different such a thing goes through your mind or I met a speaker here I met a man here one of the many that's going to come for Shabas and I like him he talks to my I want to get to know him better I have his number I have an appointment with him or I had this question heartburn in my chest for so many years and finally for the first time I felt comfortable to go over to someone and ask him the question and either he had a good answer for me or he said I don't know it's a good question then you'll know that you did justice the shabasmi now I believe that this is the best shabas you're going to be so far why why am I saying that first of all I see the quality of the bhim here I hold it's the best so far LOOKS LIKE THE >> [applause] [cheering] >> I NEVER SAID THAT BEFORE, BY THE WAY. RIGHT. >> ALSO, I think I really I really really believe that the lineup this time is the highest standard we ever had so far. >> Sh wait. So, just like to introduce the speakers a little bit to get you should get to know them who they are. So first we have a who already is number four the fourth time coming HERE [applause] and the reason why we always bring back because he just does that no one else can do is known for his around the world. Where's He's hiding. >> Oh, he's right in here. Oh, now he's hiding. His beautiful attractive smile which warms up everyone. the coldest of hearts. He'll warm up with that smile. And he's a therapist with a bunch of letters after his name, I think. I don't know. LSPQ, something like that, right? Yeah. And then we have Manita, he's not here yet, who's a worldrenowned speaker, writer, also a therapist of the many letters. And then no, no, no bias. My Hata is here. [applause] >> [applause] >> which many of you know from around the ground podcast speeches, douches clips, viral clips and people always ask me is your father what he teaches to you does he teach to his kids also and I say whatever he teaches says out there it's 10 times stronger at home and my father is a a most diverse interesting background how he made it from point A to point Z from learning a brisk being a finance to being k and all these beautiful past makes the person who he is and he had to deal with me all these years which definitely helped him out. [applause] So you have 48 hours now to use your time wisely, very wisely. Use the speakers, speak to them, run after them. Even if they're falling asleep, ask them more questions, please. Please, they're here for you. Ask any question anytime and they're here for you. Just a few small points has one-on-one sessions or 15 minute private sessions. Whoever wants to reach out and my father if you want to have a oneonone please come over to me and I'll arrange it for you. So the topic of this year's atmi is happiness and fulfillment. Now, I think it's a very obvious to everyone why we chose this topic. Maybe I maybe I'm a little interesting, but I always picture like after 120 when I'm about to move on to the next world, what is it going to look like for me? What's that last moment going to look like? Maybe I'm a little litfish. That's why I think of these things. Definitely. Thank you, Azie. And I always pictur laying in your bed after 119 years old. You have your click and you have everyone around you and you have a huge smile on your face feeling like I used my life to the fullest. I was the happiest person and I was most fulfilled person. So that's that's the the vision of Shabasi's time to speak about happiness and fulfillment. Now happiness as spoke about last time which whoever was here remembers quite vividly. There's a very cheap over-the-counter happiness which you can buy anywhere. It costs a few dollars and you'll be happy. And then there's expensive happiness. One that takes time, one that takes a lot of effort and one that lasts much much longer. So we discussed me and Rashiva how to break down happiness fulfillment and we decided to break it down to five categories. And now over Shabas all the speakers will try to address as many of them as possible each with their background each with their experiences. Now the trick of happiness is very interesting. You think about it. This generation just some statistics for everyone. 40% of kids in high school today think about attempting to commit suicide. Nine 9% actually try to How many kids are on medications today? It's unbelievable for unhappiness, depression. Some of them need it of course. But why in such a generation with such like just I was going through statistics you know our life expectancy from 100 years ago doubled right poverty uram kai dropped by 80%. K kids dying dropped from 30% to 4%. Goes on and on but for some reason also we're from the unhappiest generations. So the question should bother all of us. Why are we so unhappy? And why are we feeling so unfulfilled? So science, if you believe in it, says that happiness is is 10% what happens to you, what your life experiences, 40% your character traits, your habits, and 50% is your mindset. So think about it. If you walk around most of your day complaining, the reason why I'm unhappy is because this one did this, this what happened to me. You're focusing 10%. You're only in 10%, you're missing the other 90. So, we have to deal with the 40% and the 50%. So, we'll split that into five parts. I'm sure some of you heard of this. The longest study ever done in the world in history was an 85year-old study. It's still going on till today. It started in 1937 in Harvard Harvard Medical School. They took, I think, 600 students of Harvard, 600 people living in the streets of Boston, and they wanted to track them throughout their life to see what makes them happy, who lives the longest, who lives the they literally tracked and every two years they would meet meet the the the the person and meet his wife and his kids. And it's still going on until today. They're holding by the fourth director of the study. And what they discovered that the most important thing in your life to make you happy is good and healthy relationships. That's amazing. Not health, not what you're smoking, not what you're eating. It's your relationships around you. How you treat the people around you and how the people around you treat you. So the first thing when we be focusing a lot of shabas in your relationship with the people around you. That's point one. Point two is meaning and purpose. We'll see if they're interchangeable. If the same thing, not the same thing. It's a good question. will deal with it. What does that mean? Meaning means you have a meaning your life in general. Also your daily daily things. Does it have meaning? You put on you put on yak in the morning you make a does it have any meaning meaning to what you do you have any meaning? Do you feel anything toward towards it? And then what's the purpose? Why am I doing this? Why am I not doing this? That's the second thing. When you have that when you have meaning to your day and have purpose it makes you happy. Point three is likes to talk about this a lot. When you have control over your life, when you make decisions based on what you decide to do, not what other people tell you, not what people expect from you, from your own from your own free choice. That's point three. Point four is growth. When a person continues to grow, so just to go through this quickly, there's five six steps of growth. There's first of all, you see something missing your life. Something's wrong, something you want to change or you're curious about something. So you that's step one. Then you feel you need to change something, you need to learn something. Then you challenge yourself. Then you get challenged by it. You want to change. You want to move on. And then something hits you. I can't change. Then what happens? Then you're resilient. I'm going to push through. I'm going to learn something. I'm going to fight. And then you have self-reflection. You look back like, wow, I got from point A. I got to point B. Amazing. Wow. I'm powerful. I have I have potential. And then you continue to grow. You do that again, again, and again, again until you become a happier and healthier person. And the fifth thing I think is a beautiful thing which is our name is called Yehuda. It's called Yehudi which means to have gratitude to have. Now it doesn't mean it means every small part of your day you're wear I have I get up in the morning I can open my eyes. These small things you think they're frivolous. You think they're nothing. They add so much to your life and you walk around and you you wear the lens of gratitude. That's what I like to say to the put on a lens of I'm just looking around to thank small things and you live like that. You you come happy with small things like victim mill to walk down the street they see a tree you got happy. These five things I believe are the some of the the main things that make people happy and throughout Chabas hopefully all the speakers will address all of them and of course they miss something you're here to challenge them. I want to call up to dazz you with wisdom, experience and tremendous amount of love. [applause]