Questions and Answers after a lecture for Neshi Chabad convention in Brooklyn NY

there's a certain blemish that when did he he defected the spiritual garment that he had because Adam and Eve ad and they didn't have bodies they were Shamus Shamus of once they did the then it says could not so according to the gave them is like a garment but it says or is leather but the zor says no it was a it was uh uh uh he dressed them first of all with the with the leim the means the light he took away the light and then he dressed them with the tum what goes over the and he gives them the actual body and the body since had a mixture of the sin with the call it the they got the skin of the of the snake now the same material that your nails are it's the same material the snake is covered you ask zoologist it's the exact same thing I don't I don't remember the name but the only thing that was remaining is is the nails so what we have from the Nash is the nails we look in the fire and when we look in the fire the gets to see the light that was taken in and when we look on the nails it's kind of to reverse the the that did with with with the snake that's why they're impure it's nothing to do with impure that's what I said it's some according to the Z which actually is based on seph seph was written by RAB AKA who got it from Generations who got it from who got it from who got it from who got it from so some base the pin according to the Z some don't a little different that's why I said there's different but you're right some people who go especially they go according to that's why we do first the then we do the G we do the than the is going we're sidetracking you're saying you were saying that all these nishas were suffering because of yeah feel like I'm the one who's responsible for the Govern so that's what's going on here too all the time if we do an ad Miss we affect we do go the officite we affect yeah all so another person could God forbid be sick yeah yeah because yeah that's exactly the thing I can do mitvah and affect somebody on the other side of the world and I can do ver and affect somebody on the other side of world someone oh my good say you that hasn't quite an effect right how do you take away that you do cha or you don't do the S no no the person that got attacked how you do Chua Chua reverses the situation Chua that person in Vera by saying very bad language on this person this person has to do no the person who said the has to do the and the one who Reed the then he by had to get that he had to get item changes everything and manipulates everything that if I'm high of something hasem will let's say I'm something uh what is that what's say let's say this person did a job on that like really you know so that person was supposed to receive him right what does he do now with it the one who got punished he can also do CH no the one who was given that curse this guy Cur this guy every little de every every situation you do Chua cha is the only way to reverse say okay this was supposed to come to me if I now got for some reason because if it came to me I'm Master be I did something okay okay so I have to fix I to correct if somebody that's the says there's no punishment I don't I don't like saying the word punishment but if now I take a rock and throw it at a window and I break the window then there's a cause there's a effect and there's a reaction so if I do something there's a reaction so if I did something it's not that has wants to punish me but I created a situation and now according to the I will probably you know have to suffer the consequences but hasm does it in such a way that if I have to if I'm in something and you are supposed to do something hasem moves it around that everybody gets ER what they're supposed to do something like that you were able to fix all your situations what you did I hope I hope they didn't send me a fact of confirmation but you went out of your way I'm sorry I cheated you and I I'm sorry give it back to cheat you don't get sorry you pay the money if you can find the person corrected everything I don't know remember I don't know about that's what we say the thing is that one can say there's so many things I don't remember so you're right I came to and I told him you know how many people I cheated in business you think I know the amount you think I can find them so he says okay you have to estimate the amount now after you estimated the amount now you have to take this amount and if you can find the person you really owe then you have to find a poor person and give him money and feed him and you do you you give it to the to the TI and if you offended somebody and you don't know who it is to apologize then you have to be extremely nice to another 10 people so you kind of have to reverse the situation what you ended up doing yeah I had to go you know my wife when she was became from she called girls from elementary school apologizing that she was a real mean friend to them so yeah whoever I could find I would call and apologize she did that because cuz you were doing it because I because I told her and she realized how many people she hearded and there's one girl that she found her and she was real mean to her in school 30 years later she's going and apologizing and the girl tells her you know what I was really upset with you I hated you you made me reasonable and she she asked for forgiveness not so easy to find people it's very hard but today with Facebook it's easy Instagram I don't know Instagram but you can easily find and today we like Goods see so you reverse the situation the experience that you had does it now only I can't hear it does that experience now only stay in the realm of Y like you know it or does it actually affect the way you experience things in the world good question can you consciously make it affect your uh consciously no but it's mainly in a idea but also a lot of it is in this world yeah what's that she asking if what I remember is in the level of understanding or if it also trickle down to the world and I can actually see and understand different things so the answer is yes you understand things certain things so hard to explain but the answer is yes yeah you mention your personality an after so the gift the being nicer was something you had to work hard at or just your experience was just so motivating the way I see it is that repeat the question please so people in the back don't hear if you guys can just be conscious and ask sheing Lou nice if being nice was a result from the experience and it was something that I had to work on but the thing is how I felt that all my life I had this Clipper that made me aggressive and made me mean and made not nice and the first thing that was that I felt from the experience is D this Clipper was broken and that's why right away I was nice so by Nature I was a nice person but I had this Clipper I don't know where it came from it could be it came from how my parents even conceived me because the way the parents conceived the child they're already dressing the with leim so could be that was already born with this aggressive Clipper and the thing is that you look at some children you see them behaving a certain way way you can track it to how the parents conceived that child so I feel that I was all my life with this Clipper of this aggressive person and I felt that right away it BR it broke cuz I came down I was like a nice person that's my answer but but also you had a purpose that was different but right away I felt that I'm like the real me you break the C I think I didn't break that clip the shame just the just the experience already that person can decide to become and they know intellectually they have to be a certain way but if the I think if the the is not broken it comes out very unnatural out like robotic and you know strange to other people looking at it I know from experience and it feels like you're not being yourself wait yeah um I just have a question about that so it wasn't like it wasn't like a conscious choice on your part in the beginning it wasn't in the beginning it was just came by automatic I was just different obviously but you know and and I'm I'm just very curious if like you did that whole switch around with your life and obviously it's meant to be your choice like before and after but it it seems almost like you were set up like that before and you were set up like that after I'm just curious for how B comes in has nothing to do with your character but in your case with what you I'm saying your free choice has nothing to do with your character you can get born with a characteristic of being very generous and being very you know that has nothing to do with obviously that will affect your whole life but if you born you know this I don't want to get into that but a person can can be born and have theid very strong so by default he'll be a much nicer person other person can have the more powerful the the me of he will be more of a serious person but with what you're asking it's just on the first day was he changed so my question is how does B come into this story like what was for you what was in regards to being nice or regards to yeah or how is it before what you were doing and how is it after for being nice for in general in general with your story that's a it's a general question I don't know how to answer it I guess maybe I don't know I guess being nice is a big part of it but the main comes to you know a lot of people think that every little thing that you do is your and my will is choosing your will your free will when my brother-in-law became from he couldn't understand the whole thing and he's like you want to tell me that hasem knows everything that I'm about to do how can it be but I wake up in the morning and has knows that I'm about to wear this shirt and he couldn't understand and he's like a comedian so he told me he would stand in front of the mirror and say Hashem do you know that I'm about to do this oh this he couldn't understand how knows so thees know how you're going to wave your hand the is that has puts in front of you a situation and you walk in the street for example and you see somebody who needs help and then a person turns around to you and tells you can you help me I need your help right now then you have the option of either telling that person no I'm in a rush I got to go I got to go to work or yes I'll help you that's the the is how you if you take the Mitzvah or you don't take the Mitzvah if you do the if you don't do the not every little move that you do is your that's your your natural to your character is the relative to your character as well like yes and know obviously obviously if your character if you're like a very giving person it's very easy for you to say to somebody I'll come and help you but your character actually helps you to to lead your life but will come that hasem will just put an option in front of you and he wants to see how you reacting so look are the different choices we had obviously now how it came with me is that with that with being nice that wasn't an option I just right away was a different nice person I had a lot of other things that I had to deal with but that kind of came right away that I was suddenly like this nice person yeah I was under the impression that being up there is a very good place it's when are you good she's asking that the impression that she had was that up there is a very nice place uh it depends how you look at it first of all if you're a good person then sham is the best place to be but if you live this world with a lot of problems a lot of AAS it's not so nice up there now the thing is a depends on the AAS and the thing is that it's not forget about the question that a person usually does something they do the best they could do at that moment so then how you really judge because not always do you if because like a lot of times you saying hi hi hindsight if I have the if I have now in the past I have I would have had the tools I have now I would have done things differently the moment that you're you're doing the best that you could do with that's what that's how that's how the ACT gets EV evaluated evaluated what to the to differ so then even it's but you still but it's [Music] like it depends on many many different options first of all you said about being good and bad there they don't look at you on your actual a the problem with an AA that it separates it does some type of a disconnection from you and AEM that's that's the AA that's itself yeah this is the react the action now it's not that they're standing there with swords and waiting to to chop you but the reaction is I always give an example of a little kid that goes to the kitchen opens the FID looks all the way on the top sees the chocolate cake climbs on the on all the shelves pulls the chocolate cake and with the cake everything comes and goes all over the floor so the mother comes into the room to the kitchen she's all the mess so she's not upset at the child she doesn't scream at the child she doesn't punish the child everything's fine she understands cuz it's a little child and he made a mistake but the fact remains that the floor is dirty and somebody has to clean it so it's the same thing a person can do an a Vera and he did his best and he was under a lot of pressure and he had a lot of problems so they look at it in sh and they're like okay we gave that person we're not upset but there's some type of a mess that the person has to clear so that if you're lucky in this world and you do Chua you clean it up nothing happened I'm talking about simple AAS I'm not talking about serious aaras that people who are not from that they you know well even people that are from have serious a yeah so the problem is that there there's a very wide concept first of all when comes up to sh they concentrate on everything so they see how many AAS how many mitzvas they kind of weighed out they see how much passion went into the AA how much how much it CFE you trying to do not to SP in the if a person for example has a certain inclination he he wants to do a certain thing a whole month constantly his yet is driving him insane and he keeps doing it and it and he's holding himself holding himself after a whole month of fighting that's it he fa failed and he did the a the way it's looked in sh time it's like nothing because he did so much work of ITF that the power of the AA is nothing and sometimes it doesn't have any weight of AA but there's still the consequences it depends on the situation sometimes no now if a person ran to the AA like gladly did it there's no fighting there's nothing there then the person might have a problem now in regards to the actual AA each AA and each consequence it's totally judged completely different one person can don't know and you don't get judged for your Vera a person who's like fried and he doesn't know little things about chabas they don't judge him for that he's a he doesn't know but even if you look according to even still has to bring a Corbin why cuz he still did some type of this mess mess this dirt so the same thing with us even if I wasn't I didn't know I did it by mistake I didn't know or was I had the biggest I did it by mistake okay just clean the mess so you ask with Gom Gom is basically a washing machine for the soul the soul wants to go up to sh wants to go into ganed they tell her you your leim are dirty go into G you're going to wash it up and you go back in so it's not a bad thing I don't like getting into too much G and all that because we we concentrate on the on the better things but what did they do doesn't really matter explains all sorts of scenarios what they do there it doesn't really matter you have to think not what they're going to do to the soul in g is how the soul is going to be happying GED so this is the exact attitude that I had that I told my friend I didn't concentrate on the 23 hours that I didn't keep shabas I concentrate on the half an hour that I did kidish and I went out of my way and everything this is what I concentrate on and this is how Hashem looks at it he looks at all the good that you do and a little bit of bad no problem you wash the dirt off and and got it nothing nothing happened now regards to what you're saying each scene in each scenario is completely completely different and judge differently and look differently but the fact is that we we have free will but at the same time one can say you know before you come down to the world you have knowledge not to do the the sin so it's really hard to really point and say oh this thing is judged like that because every new every little thing is completely looked on different like you judg like looking at different there's different aspects of an angles so it's not like a clear exactly it's not clear at all how does B look it didn't have like a look it didn't came with a that's where I can't put it in words because it's more of aaga what if a person has a of very strong to do something they know it's wrong but they can't puts this is she's saying what if a person has a big Ty to do something the thing is that if you're standing here and you dealing with the TAA and you're saying I don't know what wants for me and I don't know how I'm going to handle it then you're on the loser parts of it if you stand here and you saying okay let me fig let me see what's going on here Hashem gave me a Ty to do this AA I know it's wrong must be thank you very much must be that there's something hidden in this k now the thing is that in this timer is a diamond now if you fall you still fell on a diamond and this Tyra this inclination whatever it is comes with a very horrible package CU it looks like this terrible desire all this last for something but if you're smart you're saying oh hasem is now giving me a diamond to just polish it all I need to do is break this D all I need to do is ITF as hard as it is if I did and I was able to do it that's it the diamond is mine now I just have to do it and I polish the diamond I have a diamond that is worth $50 billion for eternity you can compare the value of it if I fail no problem the diamond goes way up I'll come and do it again that's where it answers you sometimes your is not really a because is like pushing you Hashem wanted to tell you I want to give you millions of dollars but you have to go and work so I was trying to explain it to my little daughter she comes home with missions from school so I told her I'll do a deal with you every mission is 5 cents end of the week comes you have 150 missions you get like I don't know $67 for her wow $67 you know how many Lo bands I can buy but the thing is the way she looks at it that every Act is has some type of value and if I don't do it I lost the value so it's kind of the same thing that hasem tells you I want to give you everything I want to give you endless amount of bra but you have to go and work for it and your work is to to do you have to do it kaf if you did it you broke it it's yours then you have another one and you have another one so the whole point that's the beauty ofis that it teaches you how to deal with what with with life so a TAA comes into your way like okay let me analyze what's going on here ah it's it's not something negative it's something positive let me see how I'm dealing with it now obviously we're not perfect and a lot of the times we fail but the great part about failing is that you you still have the opportunity to still take it out and still do Chua and still transform it into good and if you dos it then your sins become so Hashem is so kind that he gives you all the options and he knows that when he pushes you to too much it might not be an AA it might be the power of the AA is like nothing it's almost like me telling my kid putting him in a situation I know he's going to fail but I want to teach him a lesson so when he fails I don't I not aging with him I don't punish him it's nothing the a has no there's no to the a so each scenario is completely completely different the children also that you feel I mean is that enough that you feel so bad that you keep you always feel bad about that well CH is a there's many factors of course you have to have say of course you say I'm sorry Ving whatever but the fact that you feel bad that in itself could be a chba right well it's a one segment of the CH you can just only have no granted but Fact one of the first things you need to have is this feeling bad is you Cano I think we're not allowed to overdo another thing you're not allow to like geted