Q&A In Halacha - Rav Shmuel Felder Shlit"a

like to welcome every fellowship with another sh ask the please hold after a lot of women have a hard time waiting till the husbands come home from sh M sh is also sometimes anyways so is they have especially a hard time could they make abdlla themselves or could if they can't make abdlla should they drink can they drink water and the same has been everybody some people they want to do afterwards can they take a drink of water before AB brings down says explains what know even it's only once a week weeland you the same explains that Kish ising over maybe [Music] you don't they should make themselves brings down the that's it's like they can make is no different say since the whole MIT the itself it's different than says should not if she has nobody she could and she can drink this so to that's every sh it's a lady that it's hard for her to wait till the husband comes home and makes her dollar ped the whole day she took care of the kids she doesn't wa so ands say the same thing that even though she's Shing everything it's better she should make herself and eat before says that shouldn't drink from Ab so maybe she should make AB take not gra ju maybe she should make on coffee tea soda something like that that's two reasons why she shouldn't do that first of all it's a sh exactly to many all these so worse comes to worse you didn't get so that's one reason shouldn't look for other things to make on graes the second reason is was really the not effect anything that ining the that that a lady shouldn't drink from has nothing to do with they make bread juice or wine coffe orang whatever you make making she should have drink something she doesn't gain anything by drinking something else so by when she makes up herself bre juice he sh is let's say a lady feels she doesn't have to eat she no she doesn't have to eat it's enough to drink water once she drinks the water she' be able to go to the husband makes AB doll is there anything wrong with drinking water now we know every person's allowed to drink water we kidish you're not allowed to drink water R explains that it's not C KES that you're starting to drink something before you bring it to with the but that's only what are you all to drink's would be different you e so what would be the that eat why can't even eat before just since you have a m dollar they want eat water they didn't mind you wen't allow to eat or drink the before you made maybe it's still Yer you can't Drinker until you make it's not you didn't still you have all the things so that would be the s that you can't Dre before before I even though the sh says it's say that it's not even if you hold the ladies could be everybodys lady should not make up she has nobody else make that's why if she get along without water that would be the best solution the is I to drink water before he he like you before you make I think from also like that says have to wait a little bit everything you can't have and than every notse than only reason also like the sh says that water is so that would seem should get along with water she should drink water they say she should say and then she can drink water a lady that can't get along without with just water she could make ab and preferable a good thing would be not drink Aon put on or on not even a it's a black and white that's made by even is so what is the sh what is like this brings down talking about that you should have men making this not [Music] ladies or should make the because that's this that anyah person's not they shouldn't do that be that puts that's just like do what's with c and so first we go with c c that puts up this does not talk about a cut putting up guess in the old times it was more complicated you have to get branches and cut branches and everything so for a cut to do such a complicated thing so they didn't do it but today everything is PR everything so you can have the C up up so is there a problem in think of he puts and even if he does think of got already this he says what's so then it's good you see he's putting up this not says maybe good and he he wants to say it's he says it's should be I think could be it's what do you need do you need you need you put up that's also that he's putting up sh he knows he's put but is a ni that he's putting up the when he puts up this we'll see that in a second that's that's the sh good I'm get he wants to say a different reason why it's he says have has to be that it's is sh he says it's not who puts it as long as the of this up that's good enough so the why is he telling the person to make the Su she should have a not okay the person that put up that's what wife cousin so the is why it's good now what's with I saw an interesting thing is so did shall is let's say you have a curtain that it's not a curtain anymore he's Mitzvah everybody went Mitzvah so you know he's Mitzvah he put up the sh just because they made mitz does not mean he's a go be a go you need sh and you need Cyrus just because a person's 13 years old doesn't mean he has Cyrus which has a child at the person was 16 and he wrote pass the he says we don't know so assume I saw interesting thing in he brings down didn't want to sit in the that was that thaty put up the he that's what it very interesting they put out a sa salvation so there he brings that the told him that he remembers didn't want to sit in the told that he told different should be good if not a told him it to me that with these you want to sit in the good and the bris said a goodis so the mayor said an interesting thing he said that when the brisar told him this thing he told the brisar a s that he help was a very good s why should be good and bris gr up said that was one of the SS I told my father you can't you have if a person has time the stack himself and cut and put it on you could just pick it up a and rely that that's the c um and better yet yetus if he hasus he says he hasus that's good enough there are you're going to say how what it going to help the if he's can't say about say the person himself says it's good I once a story I remember I that once was one that always L was then came he saw the people talking between them the people in the show were talking they didn't know why they talking he about so then one person went up with him and he says they sh so what knew s me here what what do that to do with his knew need two years to say never heard of such a thing so thinking we to is he sees I have here in my head that he can see beard I don't have so where could be probably under the arms he say so they let him lay and then afterward he found out that was not the place the have to make sure he knows what he say [Music] the not not that's what he does that's what he does with now what's with a GU what's with a GU what's with a GU now of course the GU is not it means a the answer is you need a you need a now the S is G but why did the guy make that s over there he didn't make it because somebody talking he made it because he wanted to have a Hut to s from the where he put on the from the from the Sun so that was is that's made so he didn't do sh it's that he did but if you tell a guy look I'll give you this amount of money could you put on my so is the guy when he puts up the does he have any have mean that the Reas he's putting up the of course not he's putting it up because he told him to put it up he cats just like you have to put up walls you have to put up a roof why should you put up a roof that the roof is the sh probably that's part of the whole the whole commandment but you need roof and has nothing to do with um one second years ago also from unless he tell what to do says unless you know for sure that he put I would think it's a little to say that it's possible because I think if you ask most people when they put up this that they have in mind the shame I think I'm aam most people do not think of a sham that's everybody should raise their hands if they put our sh raise the but everybody has mind to make it Shady no I'm saying they sh tail but they want to make sure that it's blocks the St people do think that yeah my kids also thing okay so if you're doing it if you put on the SC very thick you want be Shady so then not everybody sh a lot of people have a man if you put on B then you keep on putting more Boo and make it very shady if you put on the map there's nothing to think about you just spread out the map what's the thing they put up the map so I would think so what's the answer so so so what's the answer I think with the it'ss that you don't do it then at least it has to be if you do it for the the is for the that so I would think to say that it's person do yeah he knows religious one with a box Silver Box so EST box sh box Silver X or not EST box I mean if I would say all those things even you're doing here is there any to bring say [Music] the says say it's bring but but where's their Mitzvah that bring an as in the Box never saw anybody says there's a Mitzvah like that so I would say is no inion of having a people have [Music] no to put keep oh that's different you have you want to keep that I'm not silver I'm about eight box yeah of course that it should stay fresh right and it should have lose its color that's decorated the lul itself that made it look nicer yeah that's yeah to make the lul you should have rings of silver and gold around your lul then you have a beautiful Lulu here the as when do you when does the Asic in the silver box when you shake or out of the box it's out of the box I would say that's I'm they didn't have a box at all they didn't have the whole day they that's a whole okay yeah but maybe when they night maybe they put in a silver box kotka says that the silver box is only for the Sho it's not for the house he he did say that if you would shake at home and eat says like this nice box to hold your SW and your he says he's looking holding the also he says I mean [Music] that this IND having the in the silver box it's interesting so I there is an IND silver the is so he bringings there Russ gave her the kga a silver box that it was standing on four feet of silver lions and that they gave to and he said his Z and everything bought that box he had so I guess if they gave it TOA I guess they understood thata would appreciate such ASX I there is an so anybody they can afford it I I saw interesting shine like this there a TR like this this person he made with his own hands EST box out of wood out of wood was very very by him he sent the time and and he made this nice wooden exero then his grandfather was NE and he was in he and he actually silver so the sh is he what should he use now for his Asing should he use the silver a box or the wooden box that he made with his own hands what's a big mitvah that was a sh you have something to say so sh homemade your wife made or buy from the B always mentions should have two two asum such a anyway so he wants to bring your wants to bring went to to bring from Alexandria so it says when he came to the way back it and then they took one of them they threw out into the because it was too heavy that's why the is going to sing want toow he wrapped himself around if you're going to throw out this you have to throw me out with it then so the storm stopped should have sunk in the water and they took those doors and they put it into the now why because he so what do you see from there the other doors were gold and the sh wasn't gold so you say it's Nic to put the gold make it gold no but since he had M for this they didn't want to change it so he wants to say you see the wooden box that he made his own is better than the silver box that he has then he says it's right that BR a but I think that was ser sish that's all today here okay he made but it's not that got that Sil that was they didn't have so much money in time and he spent all that money that's and another thing he says look he comes to with the silver box that's that people spend money to have a Mitzvah so the is much more than his wooden box and he says he should anyway if it's anybody they should take this Sil Bo to the world there a lot they cook up many many menus and with that comes an invoice you have to type up a menu because you don't know which foods to go for the for the first two which the second stud you can't warm up all the food at the same time the sh to be allowed to read the menu and a lot of people know it's a sh so they have let's say two people read the menu at the same time let's you laminate the menu or somebody else not all these people have what is like this it says you could count how many people how many dishes how many coures read it out why not what's wrong says explains they that see you don't have so much food so you raas some of the names of the guest that the shouldn't call all the people on the list proving from other they say that the is not the rest is also on the food see that there's not so much food there's less food so canas different CES how much different you have a list men people read you read this menu that tells the people reasons are true brings down let's say the he's not going to be the one that's reading the menu somebody else in the crown that's going to read the menu so that person he doesn't care doesn't make a difference so you don't have but you do have now all these people that let's say they want to read two people at the same time that's true two people still but they want to laminate the thing you can't eras it laminated but they still St you'll get you'll give somebody else in the crown to read it a problem so what is like this brings down no no why someone to say people whatever reason you when is it so when does it oh that's the problem the problem is so what is when that that it says that the person can't read the thing what is it talking about is not talking about it's a weekday meal and he's reading week he should Ser the week does not go what's what's the reason want to give different reason what reason want to say that the only time all these people they that is the mitah that's it's called sud Mitzvah that you need a you need that doesn't go into whatever whatever to say not into the of probably read in the menu that's what the pass there was an answer that's answer that you don't write out the whole thing you don't write you just write rash Tavis M for me and K for K but thing you just write write pictures that's so then you don't have it if you get of say you WR on the pan on the pans you can write on the pans yeah but they you know which pant to take out if you write on the pan this is foras morning this is whole freezer and refrigerator is full of things you don't know they don't know which is first which is second yeah as possible must participants enough to have including three different is first of all have how many people do you have that have to wash by the sh to be able to make the and then he have have to so have the first child how much people do you need already discussed in from that's why not so much everybody eating goes back and forth and he says is Enough from him you need even though always pay attention here that heit he brings from a lot of that say no that is exactly the same thing and you need seven people that wash other three people can e other things he says if you don't do that it's he BRS that is make unless you have seven people wash they say that think that's make sure you have seven people washing and three people eating what's with have to eat maybe doesn't have to eat anything so what's the without make to make making has to be has to be a something new that makes it a what's why you're going to make more meals more and everything so then that's the reason has eating if he doesn't eating you're not going to make more meal if he's not going to eat and others say no what and it's not as we know every time they don't have to eat like that sh he brings everybody agrees with he says but he says he doesn't have to wash as long as he eats something something that's good enough they say everything not like don't it's enough else if didn't anything to say one thing which I think is true that what what's once if you not eating eating okay you know what's the oh this person rash came he wasn't by the whole the whole island or somebody you take somebody that's somebody off the street off the street I mean he T wasn't there but I mean does anybody is anybody happy with this person he came so is to be make a brother by restaurant and everything and then they realiz when they're ready to bench they don't have what are they going to do so they called a waiter in front of the kitchen mind sitting down what we need a he says well I didn't need anything okay it's on the hands so but I mean are you happy that the waiter is sitting down so a big to make it take the waiter and the waiter shouldn't even e take you should make sure that at least he eats so you get in passion last thing is the if they're looking for somebody and they can't find everyone's nervous finally you find this way they bring them in everyone's so happy um what about person eat bread you can't make goes like that sure by and it's people is a sh most of the is not so important she's important but not do disposable pants need and if yes could you make a so about this they say that Min seems lot of people are make them people are make so they want to bring you around you you shouldn't have to be T because there Mission C that if you find something say a shaper or something and you use it to drink shaper you don't it's not a CLE it's not a CLE it's it's made to throw out right after you use it so it doesn't get a shame CLE it's the it's not it's not a sh also throw right away it's notra that he talks about things that they used to cook the wi in that it says you don't have to play with said because you can't keep the wine in there it's mcal so they they throw out the things so M you see this idea CLE that's made to throw out is not sh CLE that's the S of this okay is talking about a thing that wasn't manufactured to use and you can it's not feasible it's not feasible keep on using it disposable pans a manufactured by Factory to use you could use it over and over again there nothing wrong with dispos of pants that you can't use it all lot of ladies bake disposable B and they use it every week and they maybe for p it's not it's notra for p but they use it the whole year P you could Zally use it over and over again to use again that would they throw it out it's a thing that's made to use and that's speaks the s a children he says the together is he says that's right you could keep on using it over again people throw down so cheap so they throw down I think it's suppos that's you can use it over over again maybe the ones for roasting and everything maybe that get stuck on you can't use it again but the regular disposable pants are used for all different type of things I think you can use it for again I think the sh is maybe there's no from the Mish maybe there's no from maybe could thing that's made for throw out maybe doesn't have sh without a r but the problem with that is if that's true what's with disposable thing could you use it for Kish us D let's say a person's on a trip and he doesn't have a CLE he didn't bring a CLE could he take a paper cup or or phone cup PL the cup and wash until a diamond out people do that other trip they don't have any they take it more than that what's with kidish you use a paper cup a place the cup or a p cup the kidish says by you need a CLE could use something that's disposable that's made by CLE if you say it's not it's not a CLE so I could use the kidish and I think the old I was a kid people in the show they used to make kidish they just make and well they didn't have glasses what they had was paper cups small paper cups B paps and they used to P it up that was out remember that minute you're not so old but I'm saying that was the I say so I think the Bel them done that things that paper even thiser he says according to what he wrote you make and place any cup let make it throw out he says it's not a CLE it's not a CLE I think the men they used to make Kish and I think by kishes other than people wash their hands and they okay either you tell me it's a c you know it's on that look like they look like places that people Sayer it's plastic no it's plastic no he's asking make these fancy PL fancy they look like I think that not everybody throws it out so that's good because that's made to say but we're talking about any other cup phone cup all these things nobody says people throw it out so I think that doing about a thing that's made to throw out thing I don't know I think it's a problem you could the says kind words they said that we can't leave here the father's going to die so he says yeah well I'm you weren't worried about him com so says that's going to be the aish day after the person 120 years person can say this excuse they said no that's accuse so what about this so I'm saying the same thing here the husband's running out to go to the mikah and the wife says well take the disposal hands to he says Ah it's disposable I don't know from that and he goes to and the kidish he looking for be but he has to go on the other side he can't find be he takes a disposable pet makes why do you make it dispos I don't have from that make a br want to make a br make so but the sh is a different sh maybe you could say could say a different story that aluminum with are made aluminum aluminum is not one of theum maybe you could say maybe that's put put two things that are not together so the truth is years ago this might be 30 40 years ago I knew the people are make and I thought it's based on some upon that you don't have to TT it so you don't have to T right so I was curious I started calling up they asked them what how did they so I'll tell you I called it and he said no he holds he tells people have tell you no he says he tells people have Shin told me no he tell tell me he no said said said he said yeah you have to it and he says the people that want to get out of being T so they think if they throw it out the one time they used it Not only would it without so he said they he I'm not saying make you make a get but the whole thing of not fing disal PS to not all together it's uh it's not a pressure to had there so today it's it's I really you get a every I don't know why person want get out it's hard so but today they have things that it says you you don't want to be but make sure it's a good because there was one company that wrote and people started buying it and then they called up the manufacturer they said who how do you get out of the sh he says no I wrote an feel I I hope you don't have to play with what about um if it's smashed you fix it up so it's finished by that's a sh somehow that since it's easy to fix it up it's not suest a store can sell a pan that's smashed same but the sh become nice clear I think that's easy to put it back come on maybe the V isign that they smashed it and they fixed it you want to know if the velt smashes and fixes I can tell you we're not asking any according to the manufacturer Corell dishes come with a clear protective coating that needs to be washed off before you use is it necessary to wash it off before tling it if somebody didn't wash it does you have to reto and the sh asked if he reto if he has to Ral does you have to make a a second BR I didn't know you make a br gr dishes but let's say it was something that needs a br and it had a like you make you make is is iter the coating the CER no it has to be washed over they say it has to be washed over if you cook the yeah it's not there it's not TR you you didn't wash his so sh you have to wash it off and if you didn't wash it off a lot of people don't even know they don't even realize the cting of day they don't see it they again so the sh is that really the nobody's knocked it on that coding if they wouldn't tell you they have to wash it off no what sh is that coding is onr they do it for Packaging that coing should crack in back but that coding is on R of the CLE not on the it's thing says that change theor you don't feel it not but it's a r of a thing that's a by Mish what's by m that he talks about ladies that die their ha and he says one of the reasons that it's is because it's not metal that's very think you don't have to wash it there need to wash it you would T it and you didn't laun it you don't have to T it again want don't have if somebody's not interested in eating the the food on the plane and he has a can give it to the giving a guy if it's a guy that you know giving him the word were he'll give you things he'll act nice to you and everything so you're getting something out it so it's not it's not M me you're not going to get anything he's have a something but that you s next to you on the plane he's not going to see you again and you're not going to see him again you gain Nothing by giving the talks about he talks about giving let's say it's right before you're not going to have use out of it any could you give it to a guy want to give the guy you don't have the says because you're giving it because you don't want to be so that's even though you're not going to get but you're help reason give it to because it's not you're doing it even though you have no use of the thing it to a guy what he say not's is like that they see because you're an orthodox person you give back the thing that's a k but because you give somebody the food that you don't want that's not not has to be religion I don't want to be that's that's not giving take it home and give it to your cleaning lady no even if youn before keep because you don't want to be let's say you have a let's say don't have a and it's either burning or keeping why would you do he brings certain want to say that uh that if you if you have no use the thing it's not worth anything to do you're allow to give it to the GU because is worth and you it's not worth anything I mean when I I couldn't believe it what have to do whether it's worth anything to you or not says by giving the you come close to the and you get that Cur everything so what should what's what it's worth to you I realized maybe maybe maybe say he wants to say that people think somebody gives you you get to like you become he says it's opposite by giving to the other person that brings out the he brings the story that kid was separated from his parents when he was a little baby the war and he grew up by somebody else and then when he was older when he was 20 and everything finally he got back to his parents he said the parents couldn't have that aab to the kid it was that kid but since they didn't bring him up they never gave him anything all the years so they didn't have that a the comes from being so could be this Sho that goes with that idea that is by giving the guy you'll get the like if you get the become close so by you it's nothing so you're not giving him anything that's you could be I think most don't like that it's not it's I don't think that's what you say the you have to nobody gives to unless cleaning lady no that's what I want to say a lot of people a lot of people before p know you're supposed to get rid of your hum before but a lot of people once they're getting they do spring cleaning it's such a thing so but when you sprinking spr cleaning some may you look through the house and you see you have all these type of things you don't need this vas you don't need this plate you don't need so you want to get all the things you don't need so so you have now a whole box of things that you don't need now what are you doing with this box so a lot of people it's throw it straight in the garbage so the cleaning lady is coming that day yeah you could have this whole do so they feel good they weren't and they so I think that's if you give her two things she'll work better for you I don't think she's going to work better because you gave her whole with I don't think so it's good place why are you getting it you don't not Happ somebody told me a not a they told me that they got two roast big roast for suus from a certain organization and they looked on the label and they saw the he they they don't know from that hure so what they do with two Rose so they gave it to the cleaning I I should work better if you would have given her a qu of a just well that extra is that's what I think I think it's a if she knows something that she wants if she knows it's something that she wants or let's say the guy in the plane says oh you're not eating it can I have it no that's different then then that that shows that that you don't need it any why don't you give it me that shows that I that's welcome a big say that it's big to start breaking things up if something's one page you give it a whole then that that's allowed you don't but it's not such a big just kind piece of me I don't think it's I don't think it's such a thing especially if you have a good knife so T me if one came out of the restroom and he knows he's about to eat a sua can he use the same for and he'll make the after he makes and if different person while he's washing didn't think of it but then he says oh I'm eating a sud can he already use thats that so you did that you should make your hands was but let's say this sh is the person knows he's going to the bathroom and has to so doesn't want to wash two times at so that it says that really you to make first you it says if you're going to make after you so whatever you do is not the right thing the best thing is you wash the first time without a you make then you dry your hands and then you wash again that's say one time I got this s some people ask they always know after they go to the bathroom to was three times so they're going make but the truth is you can stick your hands under the foret three times you don't need a CLE the three times you don't need a CLE you have to wash three times the so they could stick their hands on the for three times make a like their I that three times and then cry the hands and make washing hands should make the hands tell me wash again and not necessary because they wash like sticking your hands without a CLE you want to wash no but can I do it there's no reason no because that's now got that he brings down even says you should wash like you did and they dry hands he brings down himself seem as they bring down that he was they just washed one time but I think it's no Ry because I would assume in the Ron they didn't have a sink with running water I know me they bring down for the said is not so so they they had to get the water from the lake and so he was a have enough water so he was he didn't want to be but we that have water by the sink there's no reason why a person take another minute reason why a person shouldn't that he should wash his hands should I in want to wash three times under Andy his hands and then that's that's just want to he on two things interesting things one thing is that M brings down why can't you just wash make dry your hands and make what's the problem what's the problem make it as soon as you could I saw from that once was went to the bedroom he put on he was astonished to put on his socks then he said it's taking too long and he St putting on his made once let's say person's going in to take the shower he going into the and before he starts taking the shower he has to go to the bedroom and he goes to the bedroom does he have to go out make us rise his hands make we just wait till we have finish shower so he said no I saw somebody a black and white not like this black says let's say person go to the in the middle of night so he says don't wait till the morning because he says why because they made the morning you'll have to go again and person went two times and he make first time he can make to so he said don't that's why what do you mean why did M just say what so you can wait till the morning you see black and white that there's no problem waiting how could you up this right back in it's too hard in middle of the night didn't have water too hard you make without water just but I think the answer is because they didn't have bathrooms in their house they have they had an out of house M been from earlier is they didn't have they an out housee so a person gets up in the middle of the night do he get dressed to go to the bedroom in the ous I think that wasn't the de person would have a clean next to him and he would be mashed he's going toate best to go out in the wi there now he has a problem he's not dressed I didn't sleep with the joh he's not dressed has he he should get dressed to make he has to get that pen out of the room by the time he finishes all that he won't be able to pull back asleep again you don't have to make it right away but still he says he should make it but still he says he should make he says so I'm not saying that's the best bring your that you don't have to make it right away when so in the shower also he's already ready to go into the shower he doesn't have to go get dressed no have to go dressed so let's say noted yet some Nas have a basin over there that you can go and he goes to the bathroom and he's about to go into you should get dressed again and go outside I said no go to the B before you get undressed but let's say you got undressed so that's person has to decide how much C5 come back I just want to say I just want to say one thing this is think I story people take don't take ashat seriously I once had a story that somebody told me that that there was this person and he worked in the stock stock broker Wall Street Wall Street he was a guy the head of the department he was a very very intelligent intelligent and a very anyway so one time the guy goes over with him and he says he says you know I see every time you use the restroom you see after you come out you you move Le lips smooth back and forth as if you're saying something what do what do you say after you go to the restroom what would you say something said he said oh John he said you don't you don't know we we thank hasem said God and we pray him every every time now going to the men going to the bathroom you know what a miracle it is every time the person goes to the bathroom you know how the digestive system works and you know you know how many people have problems with going to the of and a person that can go normally without any help and and it's a miracle for beginning to end like an operation and we shouldn't thank God for that so we have a prayer every time we go to the bathroom we thank the Lord thank you that I was able to do it myself and thank you for make making my body function in a normal way so of course John said wow this is amazing this is amazing I can't believe it you really yeah you really I have to I have to digest this I have to digest this anyway so comes back the next morning John comes back and he sees the the there he says you know I thought about it last night I couldn't fall asleep I was thinking so long in the morning I thought about tell me tell me the truth do you believe what you told me do you believe believe that you're tur to the Lord and thank the Lord for the miracle he did for you tell me he says of course 100% he said yeah is that the way you talk to the Lord that as you're going back to your office you're mumbling and pray at him that's the way to talk I don't believe you believe what you said anyway person that the answer he said he was in himself from then on standing one place so everybody could take the from the GU that's the way to make sh copies of this will be Avail tomorrow if you bring the USB not wait wait wait wait a couple minutes