My Life as a Divorced Parent - Meilech Halpern - Pushet Pshat • Ep 19

[Music] If you're getting divorced, think of your kids first. Separate. You didn't care at all. Being a single man lonely moment. Welcome back to episode from the push podcast. So this is a pleasure for meudio closest friends musician most popular band musicians currently in London. Nice. Sure. Hi. Hello. Nice to meet you. Park and Alice, New York around 18. I got engaged here in London. Gold is green. So that's why here we go. Here we go. Mhm. Right. So famous the roof and gold is green. So family like mat's family went to London York. So my main family is in America like the ones I was here. Oh, okay. Bells. Okay. 45riv. Of course. I started to but not so much. The gold screen is the actually. Okay. So Mhm. chief mention is a struggle by the way I don't know anyone here but connected like a perfect example like hello nothing. So actually mentioned it whatever. Oh wow. Okay. Okay. Gold. So, right. Right. So music albums although albums like Mhm. Mhm. But um I managed popular um wedding wedding albums like recordings like exchange recordings. Sure. I hope so. So connected wedding player one day I'm going to do it. So first musicians like numbers like that's whatever booked and statement we're going to elevate. We're going to take it up. Let's see what we got to work with. Um like doing the music. So they said there's a guy called exactly about the music scene. Give him a call. See what he says. Hi. I just moved here. Looking to get into music um industry. What can I do? Oh, nice. [Music] patients one time keyboard let's see what you got like an interview so hospital my keyboard patients and he was like I'll have you in mind I don't know but he called me up dinner. I don't know. You got it. You got it. kids coming off a stage mention in front of me. What am I gonna do? What am I shuckled? And beautiful dinner, beautiful event. And you feel like, wow, you made it. I got it. Hello. I did it. Now the struggle. Now usually that you play. Yeah. Usually friends and family take our gamble. Yeah. again. So I push through for the meantime calls me up like I'm sitting in. I trust you. You got this. Wow. Okay. I'm going to do it. I'm going to do it of instruments like no. Wow. Anyways, I prepared myself. I don't think the sheets the notes. We pulled off a nice wedding. So that was that was the the the way into that was the introduction they wearing again 2018. Wow. I don't think so. But that's as far mentioned family. So my family is but no one is like no not really but um diving deep in the noise of music. So support issues issues in the beginning. It wasn't like you know property management. Yeah. So I don't think they had any wow shine whatever fully support throughout the journey. My mom is my best fan. Number one. Number one. Number one fans. I have to explain to my downloads. Of course. So this music. So parents like family starts going a different direction. But still the feeling of one of the like a child going a different direction, right? And I I respect him a lot. I love my father. I love my mother too. Um like I'm going in a different direction but um I think it's very nice we have a good relationship and it's beautiful very very good connection a particular reason story why he went a different direction from then the actual entire family and in public why you did it feel different than your family. I don't think specific reason like I I can't think of anything specific different actually didn't know that I have Crohn's on a very a very strong level yet is only control but back then is like terrible hospital very often doctor's appointments MRIs scans but any Fact very young like seven days as a subject was communities I wouldn't call the illness I would call it illness was mention suffering silence by the Okay. On the spot. Okay. Never knew there something behind it was silent kind of hospital because something something um kind of happened. How how does it feel? How does it feel to a person with silence and like wasn't wasn't the actual effect? How did it No matter what you're going to do? So the process was a Crohn's Crohn's specific foods whatever foods like it starts eating it starts eating away until I figured out what my diet is happens to Um surgery but father surgery stage pain is wrong. The way the way that I overpower the pain is the keyboard. Let's do it. No number one price. service with a smile support home appliances kitchen appliances number one specifically color packages very very competitive pricing brilliant packages the best selection spread and payments via PayPal visits YMK showroom at 10 Timberwolf 028809199 to place orders email sales ymkappliances.co.uk. Speaking of of of the pain and um in and out in hospital for surgery, right arranged a concert, his first concert back. London. Yes. And you were behind the whole project hospital. So there's the story. Leapers, man. My biggest huge leaper fan album. So performed in Antworp. Mhm. A specific date. Let's make a concert. So from the boys concert the prophets organization let's do it explode the worst the worst anything that eight. So the doctors London, but not to the pointy hospital. They actually said this if you would have come here two days late alive terrible terrible terrible in the hospital got surgery success the recovery got the concert is like eight days from now are you kiding the show not happening the dream come Tickets are not going. Let's cancel. I don't care what. Don't worry. Discharge from the hospital. There's no flights for you. He's like, "Sure, I'll do my best." Next to a flight to father show nothing to talk about. Skim the venue to the plots. and from the back. Okay. Sure. in the hospital. I don't want to tell them my hospital bed in this crowd. I don't think anyone would have known or noticed anything. This might there's a will away but I wouldn't recommend anyone should do it about something but how how did it feel first concert finally this like a dream I always wanted and in the community and this is the first time in London like for since 12 years or the difficult stuff. So music you got divorced, right? It's not an easy thing divorce, right? So Like how did it feel from a professional point of view, from a music point of view of the divorce or anything? Did you like the music divorce? mentioned didn't bother me. Mhm. And I'm wondering if you can share a bit Mindful get you didn't care at all as a human being about divorce 100% like but just in general but we we try to work it out but obviously saying yeah. Okay. Stories. Stories. I'm busy about green relationship relationship. mention marriage% second while as a rules is perfect by the lab by the can move on their life and so on 100%. So mentions divorces personally as obviously mention from my point of view a very easy process at any point like like normal there's no It was very nice, very easy. But was so why is it happening? And it keeps on happening again again. I think I think through our point was the parents I think is the wrong part. But the right part right person to take care of the kids. Mhm. So, so firstly one before like try to work it out and amount of friends. You're not going to be left with anything for the rest of your life. It's not worth it. Obviously it's it's beautiful we have a beautiful connection and so how how did you do it right that's what I want to get I can try to tell you and and is the right way to do it separated and easy signed the papers but we we we came to an agreement please do yes no fighting no and and I think that's the way it should be now I I don't know what to tell them. By the way, previous divorced, the man himself every step of the way is right. Don't do this. Don't be silly. every step of the way is so shout out. Thank you. Yeah, absolutely. And um the feedback was unbelievable. Anytime. He's my guy. health. It's unbelievable 100% messages 100% I hope so. Building works extensions, lofts, basement, any type of works. Alan Wezzenfeld from Prime Surveyor 15 experience in Abbertton community. I offered free advice, competitive pricing and as alam m available as very well known in the community and he's a perfect man party honest friendly so communication is top and customer service absolutely amazing and can contact by phone or by WhatsApp of 07535597760 order of email ellenprime surveyors.com. So this is the most important part I think by the way especially yet they get their kids married. They have no idea. So, a did you feel that that were the case by you? [Music] Where is where is chilled? Yeah. comfortable. Honest of the family, remember Kick off the cage. Kick of the 100% point. This is all kind of idea, right? the family which I think people need to um work on the relationship. How does that work? How's the dynamic parent from my experience? Yeah. So actually recently off my phone and it was actually very nice and and and let's be in a loop. Let's work together.go situation till like a year ago like ago connection to the toy store going to the ice cream store like a year ago for a reason we're not going to discuss and like reality back and they need me. So decided and how was school? How is he? How's what's going on? How's he feeling today? Whatever. change. I can actually say I love my kids. Like it's it's on a crazy level now. That's beautiful. A question. Sure. Sorry if I'm going a bit too deep. Being a single man. Mhm. Being divorced. Mhm. Lonely moment constantly. A lonely moment. foreign. I want to get Baby Wi-Fi. Mhm. Single man, single boy, single. How do you feel? I just want to understand what a single man is going through in life. Right. Um especially yet a high stage mention noise music 4 a.m. There's no one there. So they crash this part which friends in Stanford Hill any I have a lot of people actually call In the beginning it's been like whatever yeah the streets the guys got friends and um but whatever is constantly he's constantly busy making sure question one. Yeah. By the way, you know my address never arrived. But nine friends waiting for the people 100%. So let me tell you something. family, friends. A dark time for me. You want to go out, you want to experience, but luckily enough over time [Music] actually. Mhm. [Music] Connection close. Okay. So, how does it feel? But um but Absolutely 100%. So actually please invite please invite singles. Fore is a bitter. option invite mention join the company just bring just actually invite just invite just prepare food invite mention single mentioned it's a lifesaver personal experience I started looking forward so basically like someone is looking out for me in this Vitz, but you actually enjoy. I look forward for the Friday night meals. Obviously, but when it's people It's usually the best feeling ever because you never know and why to your friends prop completely single life. Why are you still here? Okay. So reasons. Okay. Right. Okay. But you know stage stage. But the reason was my career picked up. York and and I ended up having like double and 100%. Yes. But I think also to get into American industry and I think this is the difference 100% saying once you go business class you don't go to economy instruments and and and you know the differences. Let's call it DJ music. Everyone stays there. Everyone, everyone gets involved. Actually, cuz I found it very annoying by the way. Okay. Okay, mate. I'm not signed up for this. I didn't feel Mhm. Sha DJ listen everything is evolving I don't know I can imagine you know end of the day is the highest from the from the town and do music was elevated is 100% dimensions. Listen, oldfashioned songs and we're here to make action. with the Heyo DJ in the picture, right? By the way, GI mention the podcast. I get I get butch. What am I doing here? songs and I started using it. So be open, honest, which is tricky. The transition into DJ is point of view 100%. You have to be with the trend. So the number max on the Mhm. So, right. Good for him. Um so basically right back June is the busiest season. vacation. I take the time. I take the opportunity. Okay. But that's it, right? Financially constantly. So they're saying things are raing it in. Only if you make it on the top of the construction industry moneywise joke five sixman band is a joke but the stigma I don't think so. Talk to me a bit about the work and the expenses 100% irrelevant. Now system it's not going to be worth it for me to buy one. So this is included in my price. Okay. System the main expenses versus beats sounds programs. You know constantly updating. You have to be constantly in the race. You know the best whatever. sounds you want to get from the best music sheets of going off stage songs. You have to give them the iPads and the sheets if you pile it up together. So yeah. So this is from an expenses point of view. Yes. Now from a work point of view just for every every wedding. Sure. So Manchester Manchester is in London that I help once a week and the the tricky part is as London by the way the Americans might not know this 3:30 the reason is I don't know by the way it doesn't make sense but the reason break Ohchech Right. Right. reason the problem is in Manchester [Music] 430. So this is people don't know people don't you don't sleep but um this is the actual this is the actual telephone I'm not fy do whatever sometimes. Okay, no problem. Done. Done. More less. Not instruments of the stage which is instruments of stage difficult but slowly getting in. Wow. So sound shine. It's not in our budget. stage had a guitar, trumpet, saxophone, viol anywhere from from 8k to 18k do cost average instrument cost between450 and500 correct more or less. Okay. So the um five instruments for two and a half plus you get up to around 56k. Yeah. 56kstrumentage. I'm happy to see it. Okay. And then friends in the industry picked up 100%. So stage iPads You have to prepare it the [Music] iPads. Obviously. Obviously. Flexible easy going the bands and [Music] freestyle and you know the intro the song There's a certain um certain Wow. But it's sure it happens a lot. So they missed they missed cancel. But my job is action. Yeah. kind of like the energy. It's a complete different thing especially in Manchester. I was up the whole night and thinking I know Redhol is not feeling well today. But performed because that is my job. Mess up. Sure. No problem. Um, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Manchester, London, Belgium, boys, literally falling asleep. like my friends. Good job. I don't drink alcohol. [Music] traumatized stage. The part of [Music] stage often keyword of Alice Terrible. Terrible. My worst experience. I felt very bad. I feel very bad. I want to give you back the money. Nice. Okay. Whatever. My most the worst experience of my life. Everything is smooth. They mention most important musicians no names my friend musician stage you know whatever on keyboard I'm not paying you to eat. I'm paying you to play. Do your job. Cheeky, by the way. Behind the scenes music from 7:30 till 12 on the seat. I highly doubt it. packing. Number one is human beings. the actual musicians as whatever amount of time he has on a toilet. It's this is the way contract photographers pictures contract and tell Tell me why it doesn't exist yet. I'm not sure. I don't know why we didn't finalize it, but Mhm. 100% agreement. Okay. Okay. basically I'm not going to pay this extra. So, so contract basic like communication with the client 100% contracts contracts gets to get Okay. Single life music open respecting the guest. Yeah. questions and I appreciate from the audience. What's what's your what's what's your pain Community life coziness personond. So restaurants exactly besides community and I love it. I love it. message based on music. Any final message for the audience? 30 seconds. If you're getting divorced, think of your kids first. Always, always put them first, no matter what. Divorced, you know, find yourself a crew. listeners and we really appreciate the feedback mention. So we really appreciate it. Thank you for listening. Appreciating the content at delivering over the Zimmer quality content.