Project Inspire Toronto Rosh Hashana Lecture 2015

thank you so much for coming out tonight before rashash Shana we know it's a very busy time and it's a tremendous that we have tonight RAB Loi the mastra of the aura and RAB AF alio Shapiro marad dasra in North Miami Beach and this event tonight is presented by project Inspire as many of you are aware project Inspire came on the scene about 8 years ago and has been a Trailblazer in promoting AK and caring about CL Isel for everybody that bar in Toronto when we talk about akas and Claw Israel you just look at your neighbor on your right and the left and often times we don't have to go beyond that I feel like when project Inspire does their events in Brooklyn so people need detectives to go find people who don't look exactly like them bar over here we have many opportunities and that's really the reason why we decided to sponsor this event tonight is because we have rashash Shana coming up and sukus and then we have shab project so it's incredible opportunity to really reach out to think beyond what we're doing today and think about who we could affect tomorrow so that's uh from the project Inspire I'd like to introduce now Mr Stuart heightman Mr Hyman has really been the driving force behind project Inspire International and he's a tremendous tremendous osin in this community very involved with many mm and it's my pleasure to call upon Mr Heyman to address us I want to welcome everyone tonight to this very important evening on in terms of what we want to accomplish for project Inspire in Toronto you know for me personally it is a tremendous braa to be involved with an organization like project inspire and tonight I just want to tell you I want to communicate to you just two really short messages now the first one as good as the kiru organizations are out there as great a job as they do they need the from Community to accomplish their goal in a complete way we have to understand this they just don't they do great work they're MRA vien they bring them closer to Torah they they don't have the Manpower that the firm Community is they need us and we have to understand that we are required for them to have their ultimate success in their in their job and that's what some of the things that we're trying to accomplish here with project Inspire we have as we had Rabbi La irons who works for ncsy and Torah high and we brought them on with project Inspire as well and one of our strategies is to network between the Cure of organizations and the fir community and create those relationships that's a key strategy of what we're trying to accomplish they have all the database they have the people who they're working with and we have we are the Manpower and we have to understand they need us we have an we have an essential and critical role to play here that's the first point the second point I want to make is if you ask any Bal Chua on when they were on their pathway to become from ask them did they have a from person who was their anchor who was their person that they would go to for questions who was their person they leaned on when they needed something who they went to for shabas most of the times do me a favor do this survey ask around any balua and they will tell you all the same answer they all had that one from person that one from family that was their anchor in their Pathway to Yiddish Kai to Tor and Mitzvah so ladies and gentlemen do you understand what I'm saying here there is no balua out there who does not have a person like this that means that each one of us if we have a uh two 300 people here today 300 people go out of this evening and commit I am going to be the anchor for another yid out there that's 300 from yiden that's 300 Bal Chua you don't have to be the one of course they're going to go to other reain they're going to go to k of organizations they're going to go to different people as well but you can be that one rung on their ladder you can be that anchor for them and you should understand that that is critical every every Bal Chua has had a relationship like that ask them I'm sure there's some Bal Chua here tonight ask them tonight if you know one ask them I had one ask anyone so you should gain you should take that get from it and know that you can make a difference you can have that impact if everyone comes out of tonight and we're going to tell you a few things that we're planning for the coming year and for Tish Reay but if you go out of tonight making that commitment you can change somebody's life and that's what we're trying to accomplish here those are the two short messages so I'll just continue by saying I have the exclus of uh introducing M loita the of a Toronto who you should know is also a pillar for kiru in this city that all he has a a close relationship with all of the C of organizations and they come to him for different Asos and he has been there so we should uh again it's our honor to hear d hisus andik uh for upcoming to Russ good the and thank you Mr heightman and thank you project Inspire Mr Hyman was speaking about kiru I think project Inspire is if we get inspired ourself we would automatically Inspire others if yish kite is alive by us if yish is not something we do from road yish is something we live yish will automatically be people who look at us and learn from us we want to help others today in this week's para we have and the Z says that's R we're all standing few days before we all went through a whole year all kind of things happened during the year personal thing public things colol things we want this year to be a good year we want to be inscribed in the want it to be a year of life we have to show that we're living hidden I'll read to you something that I saw today From perspective G and convert we we have we give always they have to answer a lot of questions to know about yish kite so question 12 is what is the greatest challenge for Judaism give reasons to support your opinion he writes and the greatest challenge therein lies in bringing and making Torah literally Fe feel like life that a soul will feel alive in the service of God which is a major challenge people need to taste Hashem to feel his presence to learn about Hashem as priority of education then naturally they'll want to do more Mitzvah God willing says even those who are from I hope to bring TM back to all those Souls even those Souls are from from where formally from but I want them to live life says T has to be living with t t should be something that you feel shab should be talk for our own children if children come home and shabas is a beautiful chabas meal shabas when they see the parents love shabas and don't dread shabas and look forward to shabas we find the last weeks par the the whole rebuke that the Torah gives and everything that happens because you didn't serve and everyone questions because of that you have the whole happen and the answer is if you're not happy with Ty you're not really serving Hashem if you do mitzvas begrudgingly and and you do Mitzvah haphazardly you D haphazardly you don't really feel you're talking to hasem and you don't really know that you're living Aid taste the love of T taste the love of Hashem be close to Hashem and that's the purpose ofus and that's the purpose of Ellen that's the purpose of it's days where comes close to us and he's waiting for us to come close to him he's waiting for us come near to me come closer to [Music] me is waiting to show that we really care about him we don't do mitzvas because we have to do mitzvas we we do mitzvas because we choose to do Mitzvah in this week's Parish the end of the parish it says hem says I gave you gave you life and death and choose life choose T don't do T because it's forced on you realize how beautiful to look how beautiful it is and live like that and then it will affect your children affect your friends will affect your family the child sees how how happy you are with your tah how you you're living with t and when you come to the shabas you sing and you and you you you and the Kad of the shabas the the shabas and the Holiness of the shabas it automatically affects everybody around soem like brings down like the brings down with hisus give us days of reflection days to to wake up from our Slumber wake up from our sleep and for not be so involved in our mained life and know there's a higher purpose in life and the higher purpose is to be close to Hashem the higher purpose is to we ever Hashem to serve Hashem be somebody who who really loves hem and you feel the love to hasem you love and everyone has in his heart to love hem just have to open up your heart and that's what is all about and that's these days before are days where we have to bring alive to us something that we live with we're happy with t happy with run to do aah and run to want to do a Mitzvah I remember my he used to it says in you should run to go D you should run it's a mitzvah it's a MIT to run to go and when as the last years of his life he only lived on a quarter of his heart and he couldn't love run from his house to the so his Ritson used to bring him to a few a few feet in front of this so be bble to get out of the car he ran into the you run run to do a Mitzvah you want to be alive with a Mitzvah then it will also be an impression on others then others will also feel like you and know and live with the Mitzvah but then there's another responsibility is it enough only I should be happy with Mitzvah what happens with all the children of who don't know better who no one ever taught him anything we're all responsible for every in the in the world this week's par the r bring down that what's the New Covenant that we have in the we had already Covenant in last week's para bris they said the New Covenant is the arus take responsibility on every person in the world take responsibility to help another yid take responsibility to bring another y closer to hasem a person who goes around and is satisfied only with himself is not loving Hashem these are hashem's children hashem's children are lost they're lost i s like a like a lamb that's lost so the of one said why does it say like a lost lamb said if if a object is lost you have to go find it if a living object is lost it also goes try to find its owner the lamb is running one way and the owner is running the other way we to e see a person who swayed and is not far from Hashem but he's looking for Hashem he's searching for hem and we ask Hashem to come and bring us back and Hashem gives a duty for every yid go help another go try to show another year how beautiful Torah is go if you really love me go and if you really love me says if you really care about me care about my children how could you live next to a person who blatantly doesn't do the Mitzvah and you know you could make a difference in that person's life people always say no they're scared to to speak to others scared to try to influence others there's a story most you heard of him after the war he brought hundreds of people thousands of people back to yish and when he passed away in 1994 a woman came into the rabbitson sitting shiver with the children and she had a bag in her hand and they asked her what her name is and the the name didn't ring any Bell they said she said I came here for one reason the only reason I'm from is because of this B bag I said what is she opened up the bag and took out a pair of white socks she says after the war and she was walking in in in in fenel where the was and two girls were walking without socks on their feet the CL walked over to them in a nice way he said sh you know girls shouldn't walk around like this they started crying Reb you want us to put on socks we don't have any bread to eat we you're asking us to wear socks so the rebba sat down there middle of the street and took off his white socks that he was wearing and gave it to me to wear and these socks stayed with me my whole life and here she brought the bag of socks and brought it back to the family this is what gave me my spiritual life this is what brought my life back sometimes a small thing you do for another person a small thing you do for for another yid you you and you care about another you care you know hesitate you I tell her to wear socks not tell her to wear socks but you say it in a nice way and it stays an impression because of that this woman raised families and families of from children and just imagine the when goes in sh when he went to shim the thousands of and thousands of children and grandchildren and great grandchildren that because of of his little actions the same time there's another story that happened also in Aran Kipper the same year in 1945 the Clos was sitting read preparing for kidre and there was a knock on the door a soft knock on the door he goes opens the door and there's a 17-year-old girl standing there crying she says I'm left alone every araban Kipper my father used to bench me my mother used to bench me there's nobody here to bench me now rebba what should I do and here you know the holy rebba the rebba says come here the reab took a handkerchief and put it over her head and put his hand on the and benched her like a father would bench the daughter he says my daughter you're my daughter and I'm benching you she went out all a few minutes later another knock came on the door another girl heard what happened to the first girl she also came said Reb you have to bench me also I also have no parents 87 girls came in to get bench from the rebba and just imagine how many families came from those 87 girls how many families came caring about another individual feeling for another individual doing for another individual you know we talking about the shabas project last year we all know in the community how many people were influenced by the shabas project shabas project in there's a beautiful and the the zor says when AB abam heard that Lo was captured so the zor says it's an anal it's a mush to thear he heard that people were caught by thear so he went to go save the people and he went to make him and and ran till done to to save them from thear says what's the reward for a person who who helps another person come back to what's the reward so the says maled is the Mal Mal who sits by the gate ofed of [Music] the he says when these who helped other people come from who helped other people in from doesn't even mean someone that's completely not from if you help someone who who swayed away a little you bring him back a little help people come back to the Rine so the says the goes to those people and brings out says come come you are the peace you brought to the world truma says that if anyone would ever know it is to go help other people come back to they would run for it like they run for life you're looking to be signed in the safer of life you want to find life find another y that you could help a yid that fell away or Y that never knew anything find them and you'll find life you run like you would run for life and and that's the Mitzvah the Mitzvah is there's brings also that there there's a Bas that goes out as praiseworthy is the person who goes who learns to and runs and helps other keep mitzvah even sometimes there's some pain with it I'll continue reading from this person what he wrote I believe the greatest challenge of Judaism is to figure out a way to connect those Jews who have no connection to their father in Heaven back to hasem here this is where com is writing unfortunately many reject Torah not out out of knowing what Torah is but the false Notions and Mis perceptions that they accumulated through various misunderstandings we need to find a way to understand the needs of the generation to speak of a Torah in their language that can enter their hearts most secular Jews will not respond to rebuke they do not know Torah as as so what is the point of rebuke unfortunately a lot of Orthodox world is inaccessible and intimidating for the secular with the exception of some Cur of organizations and that's what project inspires here to every one of us is a cir it's not only the cir of organizations that have to do cir the responsibility is on every person and the zor brings down that someone who was able to be is not it says what the punishment is if you could go it says brings down when we come to and you come and askm to forgive you to help you says what did you do for other people and if somebody is says that someone be you could have stopped him from sinning and you didn't stop him it's considered like you sinned it's considered like you had that sin if you were able to stop a yid from doing something and you didn't because you know you didn't want them to look think that you you're prizing that should you want don't to think that you are you're bothering them and you could have stopped them you could have bring a person bring a person closer remember one year at the good convention they had a person person who became about get up and he said you know if somebody would have when when I wasn't from somebody would just come over one time and show me how beautiful it is people are scared that the religious people ran away from me like I'd be something contaminated they didn't want to talk to me talk to her not show remember as a child we grew up we had a neighbor that wasn't keeping to MIT my parents used to my parents Europe weren't into K but the heart they invite these people who lived on the floor next door they invited them to they invited them to bench es and for years and years later what what they remembered about it how beautiful it was that they were invited to come and see auk I remember there was one year where started that that should be sent to neighbors he said he used to walk from his house to to B to the school every day and he saw all those doors with muas and so far from he said just sendas to one neighbor we sentus to a neighbor two doors away she came running back she didn't seeus for years and she sent us Backus and every reawaken the y in the person reawakened something in the other person if you care about you care about his children and and and if you don't care about this children means you don't really care about if you really love you know and you know that you care about him how could I help your children how could I do something for your children there's a mus that they give there's a a child that was going on camping and going so and the father told him we'll come in this town I have a very close friend over there and go to them and if you anything you need you'll get there this child was robbed he was left without anything on him and he comes to that little town and he goes to his father's friend he knocks on the door he says could you please give me a piece of bread I have nothing nothing says what are you bothering me go away go away says my father told me to come you make me crazy what do you want from me here I'm busy now go away come back another time and this child went from house to house till he was able to get something to mooch things to to be able to to have some food until he got back some money to come back home and he came back home and he told his father you wouldn't believe what happened I was completely downtrod I had nothing nothing I went to the person's house and he didn't want to do anything for me few months later that person in that small town needed a favor he needed his friend in this big city to to do something something for him he comes to his friend and he says you know I'm really I'm going bankrupt I need someone to to to bail me out help me out and he looks at him he says do you know who I am he says sure you we're good friends are we really good friends what happened when my son came to your house did you do anything for him and he started crying I didn't realize I didn't realize when we come to and as help me says am I really your friend are you really my friend what did you do for my children they're are lost they're going around down TR they have nothing in life do you do anything for them your next door neighbor who doesn't know anything about chavas your friend that went off the D did you do anything to help them do you do anything for them what do we answer to I'm a descendant of the king of Poland for one day there was the king of Poland his name was sha V he became he was king of Poland for one day my mother's family's name used to be V they changed it afterwards and drag descendants so we have royal blood from the Polish Dynasty besides D the yish dynasty but so how did chal become king of Poland because the prince was lost and came to the town where Sho lived and and no one helped him cuz he didn't no one believe he's really the prince he went around and he came to shal's home shal said what can I do for you he didn't care does he look like the prince does he not look like he helped him later on when sh came to to the capital and he and the King son the prince said you know that person he is the one who saved my life without him I wouldn't have been here so when the king died and there was a big question who should be the next king the prince said I want shal to be the king but he wasn't he didn't have Polish blood but he became king and that day that he became king he changed all the decrees that were against yiden he tore up all the decrees against yiden if you help the King's son the king will help you if we help's children we scream a Our Father you're our King do we really believe he's our father do we really believe that what do we do to his children and that's we have to go out of our way to do things and caring about our children show them how beautiful yish is it's sure like we said there sometimes it's hard somebody yesterday came to ask me they have guests for shabas and they found out that the guests don't really keep shabas and they don't even make bras out of their house and they said they feel maybe they shouldn't invite them anymore I said what do you mean you shouldn't invite them so when I invited guests to their home did he look check if they're keeping shabas did he check if they make bras he made bras with them but they're faking they come look but you never know you your MIT is bring him into your home bring him into your home bring him into your home and show him how beautiful yish is show him you never know what it does and just for the Mitzvah of caring of's children take my children in says should help we're all asking should have a good we all waiting for mesia we're all waiting for the G to gather all the scattered in the world we have to show that we gather the scattered we have to show that we care and sent down in this generation a few great people and he sent down who understood what it means to inspire he said he know he said if every yid would just get one every from would get one more from one y to become from just imagine the revolution of yish K in the world just imagine what would happen there would be a big Revolution coming back to the and be the biggest movement the biggest movement is every takes upon himself when he leaves here Tak I'll try to have one family one person that I could speak to to to do one that will help that we should all be to be written the in a good life thank you very much Loi I feel like I follow RAB Loi around because bar he married somebody from Detroit and I'm from Detroit and then I I moved here and my Shar is very close to the RV so he's always been an incredible support to everybody who's in cure of so I just want to give you a quick perspective before I introduce Rabbi Shapiro that I work I say I don't talk to anybody who's from my entire day other than with project Inspire they tried to change it but uh by and large I deal with people who are you know don't necessarily look exactly like all of us and it's pretty incredible I had over a family who's totally secular the father told me he's an existentialist Jew I said what does that mean he said well we shouldn't eat seafish or shellfish because they gather all these microorganisms from the ground and you know uh it's nice to have family dinner because it's good for you and I'm very I told my kids that they must must marry a and none of them listened to me and I made a mistake I didn't marry a Jew and they didn't either I said and then he tells me that his daughter got very inspired on one of our Israel trips and they wanted to bring her a treat but they realized Lobster is not Kosher but they said they won't tell her it's what it really is she'll never know so she comes home and she's very inspired and they serve her the lobster she says what is it Lobster and she says wait one second they gave me a book of br let me look it up and she starts leaving she said I can't find the bran Lobster you know but uh it's amazing and these people were willing to come over for shabas and that's what and they own a store that many firm people go to but I don't think anybody ever invited them and it's really incredible that if we just think who we could have I'll tell you a quick story I was a counselor in Camp Simka and I had a camper Brian who since has passed away unfortunately and he lived three blocks away from my house in Detroit and I was away in ER I called my mother up I said could you please give Brian M said fine she comes home I call her back half an hour later and she says you gave me the wrong address I said what do you mean he says well there was an exus wreath on the door there were lights up it's the wrong I said no that's the house she goes back she gives it to them there were two dogs and a cat a huge TV she was shaken up she's like Al mama and this family had no Shas after he passed away about 2 weeks later the owner of of the local Judea store called my mother and said do you know this family came into my Judea store and they decided to buy a Misa they were so touched by the way these Yesa bam came to help them in the last moments of Brian's life that they decided to do something more and we never know how we could touch everybody so I just wanted to share with you to introduce uh Dr liby Weiss Dr liby Weiss sent me an email today how he decided to challenge many people on his block to give out an easy Outreach gift we're selling them if you want for $6 or $5.99 actually but we don't give change so $6 outside so I highly recommend that you uh go out and get some and there's a fellow over here in our front row Andrew who he didn't buy them he decided his wife was baking gifts or Honey Cakes so he said why bake one honey cake bake seven obviously and give them all out but he didn't want to knock on doors so he hung them up outside people's doors and then they came up back and they started giving him gifts in return so it's actually worthwhile because if you're looking for any gifts at this time of year you could start giving out your own gifts so just quickly just uh wanted to thank before I introduce Dr Weiss Rabbi Samson who came in special from New York Rabbi Samson whenever anybody asked me is Project Inspire for real like what do they really do so I say you have to meet Rabbi Samson because there's a man who has with so much passion and he's convinced that we are going to change the world and I'm also convinced and the truth is I think there are many more women here than men and I've told people we don't even need the men because there's somebody who used to who I used to work with who I've been in touch with maybe some of you know her Mrs Adena rudinsky don't tell her that I mentioned her name her bisit her and she decided for the shabas project she's going to invite everybody on her block for shabas so she told her parents told some others right got some other families involved and she put out an invitation every door and there became a whole fight with people on the Block that they were upset that they weren't invited so they said next year M but it was a beautiful suda and there are many many somebody just told me he hosted a big party on his block for St for nonform people just to engage them so it's something everybody could do and you don't have to wait for your parents or anybody else just tell them you want to invite people and do it you didn't hear that from me but I definitely recommend it one final thing before call up um Dr Weiss is I really want to thank Torah masora Dr Mar Marvin Sigler because they have an event tonight and we promised them that we're going to try to end at a reasonable time so people can make it to R bear R beer has spoken many many times for project Inspire and I know Dr uh Mr Sigler is also bringing in Rabbi cron through Kim that's after uh right before yum Kipper which I highly recommend to go he also speaks all the time for project and fire everybody's into the mission the question is how to do it so hopefully you'll figure that out tonight from Dr we um so Rabbi iron asked me just to speak for a few minutes to tell you why I feel so strongly about this and why I challenge my friends and bribe them to to call people over so there there's really two reasons one is that I'm I'm sort of like a cure of addict because once you make somebody from it's kind of like making a if you've ever made a you have this enor sense of from the couple and then when they have children you feel like they're your own when you make somebody from and and I'll I'll qualify that statement because you don't have to make them from you just have to give them the opportunity when somebody becomes from because you're their friend you have enormous NAS from it and I do it I I would love to say that I do it for all of the the lofty reasons that we've heard about and and they're all they're all true but but there are very few things that you'll get as much satisfaction out of as the continued Nas that you have from a from family so so I'll tell you about one situation that happened and actually robeli was a part of it robeli gave me a book called Jews for nothing many years ago Jews for nothing and I never I actually gave you back a different one I had to buy it on eBay because the guy I gave it to that sub subsequently became firm because of it didn't give it back to me and I didn't want to ask for it so I had to go on eBay and buy this book for many many times more than it was worth CU cuz um maybe it was out of print and I gave it back to you many many years later but he kept it and he's now from he has a from family and and I I just have NAS from him and and it's funny because he started going to adaf and he was giving he was going to this Shear in a certain sh and I got a mailing from the sh because they were having a raffle and I it was a random sort of mailing I'm not normally on their list which is I guess in itself surprising but I wasn't and I said to my wife you know what I'm going to buy tickets and she says you have nothing to do with them and I said I do that guy goes there and I'm so proud of him I'm going to buy a a ticket because I want to support the sh and I won the tickets to Israel so so that was uh that was excellent um so so one of the reasons I do it is because it just feels good when you when you make somebody from you have and and that itself is a you know reason enough there is another reason I do it and that is for my parents my parents Alam were both Holocaust Survivors they both they both went through aitz and my mother said to me um that she says to me liby you know we lost a lot but in the end I won because she thank God had three from children but globally we're losing we're losing to assimilation we're losing to intermarriage we're losing to apathy and I think we're losing to affluence um and I think that probably the first three have a lot to do with affluence do you know in in Israel what the biggest travel days are of the whole year where you can hardly get a room in a European Resort Russia Shana they travel because they don't know any better in in Israel the Jews are going to Europe Europe on rashishana we have people down our block my wife has been dropping into them forever she a number of years ago she invited them for rashishana sorry Disney World they're not home they're leaving on rashash Shana so if we don't do it nobody's going to do it so I do it because it feels good and I do it because my mother my mother in her own family won thank God but but globally we're losing and and I feel like I have to I have to make her win I have to make all the people went through the Holocaust and we lost 6 million nishas we have to we have to fight God will help us but we have to do our part where it leads you know that's up to Shay um I made a comment so those are the two reasons why I do it I just want to make one comment sometimes we talk about making people from you know my friends say to me well how do you make somebody from you don't have to make them from all you have to do is open your heart there's a Nish in every Jew that Nish is a spark and that is something that they're not necessarily aware of but if you open your Jewish heart to them and you're their friend and you show them love it's like oxygen for that flame and you don't have to do anything else they may ask you questions that you don't know the answers to and that's fine we don't have to we're human you can go find out you can learn with them you can go ask a rabbi you can that's okay um and don't be afraid of the questions we may have those questions ourselves we have to ask them and there are good answers um but just open your hearts and it's easy and project inspired uh makes it very easy because you you just give out these these little boxes just like like the the honey cake just take one hang it on one door in your community and if one you know 10% of us you know get a hit you know they say with mass marketing there's a certain return rate that they expect well we if we all do it there's a certain percentage that will be successful and isn't that worth it if it's even one family so you you and you're not asking them for anything at that point you're just giving them a present and most people know about rashishana give them out this little gift so what I did to challenge my friends is I actually bought 20 of them my two kids are now delivering them with a little note from my friend saying you know now you have no excuse just give it away to somebody I even bought them for you so I hope that they do um and uh and that I hope you know we're all successful so that that's that's my story thank you thank you very much Dr Weiss i' like to just thank Mel shiff who really was a lifesaver for tonight's event she came she came to help with project Inspire and uh I don't think any of us would be here tonight if not for her so thank you so much and I'd like to thank all the volunteers and everybody else who's helped I came to bakov here I didn't go to bakov but I came here I think uh two weeks ago or no whenever school started the first day of school and they were so stressed I said why are you so stressed so they said it's crazy bar we have so many kids coming and I said just think about it there isn't a single School in the city that is not observant that's not from that has increasing enrollment there's one and I said you should be very happy that bar hasem in The Firm world were bursting by the seams and my own kids ker could use a new building if anybody here wants to give it and it it's really on one hand the Pew report just came out this week that the firm Community is growing by Leaps and Bounds barem and unfortunately those who are not affiliated are becoming much less Affiliated but I believe and I work on this on the front ground and I see some people over here who I'm close with who never would have gone on the journey that they went on if not for their neighbors if not for I saw somebody today at sh and he told me his last name I said wait I know your last name but you're not from here like you don't live around he says that's true I live in AR I came back for Russ I said but I know that there are a couple of people from ncsy who go to you every single week not to you to your parents and he said yeah that's true I know those people and they're living amazing Liv so every one of us could make that difference I'll also like to thank all of the sh Representatives most of whom who have come here tonight some have not who are really representing their shes and making sure that in every single sh in Toronto we have Representatives who are trying to spread the word we're actually looking for female Representatives so you can let amella know if you're interested in that and also everybody should have gotten a pledge card at the back that's not for money although if you want to give donations there is a table on the outside but there's a pledge card to make sure that we're maak Badin and the way that we do that is pledging to care about claw iSell at the very least Davin obviously but there's so much more that we could also be doing and obviously if we don't doin I think it the question is if we care as Robbie Lo said at this time I'd like to introduce Robie Shapiro the way I came to Rabbi Shapiro is I attended the project Inspire convention in February and they had pushed me I was coming on board through ncsy with project inspired they pushed me to come and the truth is forget about any I just the gsh I've never SE in Toronto bar we're we're doing all right but if you want GM the project Inspire convention is where to go in February but the Rus was unbelievable and Rabbi shapira was a keynote over there and I heard him once Friday night and I decided I am going to every single talk by RAB shapir I went and afterwards went to his and it's really incredible and it's a big we were thinking who should we bring to Toronto so we said that obviously we had to bring Rabbi Shapiro and at this time I'd like to introduce Rabbi shapir firstly I want to begin who is not only the mo asan someone that CLA is turns to but someone that I also consider to be one of my rabim and when I have a Shila or just uh will ask something just a moment ago I asked har and so for me to speak in the presence of the is a very very big and I hope will give the RO and the entire the G to continue inspiring all of CLA I know project Inspire at one point I think on one of their videos they said describe the weekend without using the word inspire and I don't think anybody did or maybe a lot of people did but it was a challenge so I'm sorry to open up by using the word inspire but it's not easy a few days before rashash Shana to travel to come here I live in South Florida but I could only imagine how difficult it must be to have to come out for an entire evening and I am truly inspired that hundreds I am looking at hundreds of that just a few days before rashash came out and that to me is truly inspirational just the fact that the hundreds came out tonight here in Toronto on behalf of project Inspire as all of the Flyers said to see what could we do for a good judgment on y just from the fact that the hundreds of you came out the should Grant each and every one of you your families to have a and where you should experience only Yas from your families and enjoy it together with your families your coming is truly inspiring I am here because of a blab irons he uh we've had I can't even imagine how many phone calls back and forth the logistics the planning the flying the car services and all of the details it's a credit to ablab and thank you very much for giving me the chance to be mazaka the rabim and uh just Aon to just mention before we actually start to speak in the presence of Samson Rim Samson is the international director of project Inspire he's sitting somewhere in the audience just trying to blend in and camouflage himself that doesn't happen because as the international director of project Inspire someone who's really changing the world helping us realize what our Aras is the fact that he's here tonight and that he and project Inspire allowed me to be here tonight I have tremendous say to express how how awesome it is to be in your presence all of the Flyers and the information that went out about tonight was how we can properly Merit good judgment we just a few days before rashash Shana I think the words of RAB salant to begin tonight jump at us when RAB salant was addressing this question what can you do to be meritorious in judgment sh we want to have a good G reant says and I quote the single best piece of advice [Applause] theone become someone that other people need become someone to whom many people will say I need him or I need her they're indispensable to my existence that's a quote from R salant the ticket is to how many people are you indispensable to how many people do they feel I can't get along without that person I need them that says salant is the ticket how to beem approach the so thinking a great amount about tonight's talk I'd like to take it from the following vantage point we're going to divide the talk into two parts following that which kazal say first you got to remove the bad before you could accentuate the good and I'd like to hopefully accomplish this goal B by taking one word that has the same three letters and in tonight's words giving it three separate meanings so hopefully that will be an easy way for you to remember what we say tonight first is then is and I know that there are three ways to trans translate here's the first Sur means we have to get rid of a certain problem right after thein we approach sukus we take the do minim I once heard in the name ofet of Nitra an incredible did you ever notice something unique when you take the doll and meim three of the four are spoken about in a very very endearing way we speak about the ESR in fact people will spend a fortune and in many cases rightfully so for that es talk about the lulov I remember and I'm certainly not the oldest one in the room when it came to the lulov we used to protect it in a plastic case then that became a hard plastic now there's like a virtual tank to protect your lul love and hadim people will spend money on hadasim as well but why is it that when you go to buy the doid meim did you ever notice the one who's selling it to you will say here's the price and I'll throw in the AR and after a few days when the arovas have become PL Black come back to me I'll give you another one what did the ARA do wrong there's the first word of a r ARA what did the ARA do wrong the way we talk about the rightfully so but why does the ARA get the short end of the deal tells us because look where the dalim come from for the most part ES will get from the finest parum The Orchards in erit from overseas thousands of miles away L love him who love him as well they come in mostly many come from France and many come from different places in Europe the finestly love him hadasim as well will be shipped from overseas some from come China different places in the orient but all those three I just mentioned they come from thousands of miles away you know where many people get their arice from yeah their own backyard many people grow arice in their backyard and they simply cut it say that's the answer to the question the lul and theim and the hadim are spoken about with awe and reverence because the Mystique is there they come from afar but the Arava in my own backyard we tend to take that for granted those who are nearest to us and those who are dearest to us we tend to take for granted and that's why the arov is in my backyard I'll throw it in and if after 3 days something happens I'll give you another one because when something comes from far away there's a Mystique there's an awe there's a reverence but those that are closest to us are spouses our siblings the nearest and dearest we tend to take them for granted you know what Moret of Nitra says about the Arava that's a ginormous mistake you know why because take a look at the Garin Suka when the Yum is coming to an end and the Kim circle around the Miss and the Y is closing what do they Circle the mbak with at the the end of the day when all is said and done it's not the it's not the and it's not the theor says they encircle the M with just the AR because at the end of the day all we have the nearest and dearest the ARA in our life now no one should go to their spouse or sibling and say how's my Arava doing that's not a good idea RAB say that's where tonight's topic starts we're looking for that Rim that need us to whom we're indispensable look no further than across your kitchen table because sometimes the arova is taken for granted we're with them all the time it's interesting the word family and familiarity have most of the same letters because with our family we are most familiar that has a but that has a huge because sometimes we take them for granted and at the end of the day when the Y is over and the Mystique and the hadim and the and the are no longer in your lives you can't depend and count on them you know who you have the ARA so in dealing with surra we first have to make sure like RAB salant said that the Rin that need us are spouse our siblings our parents our children we can't begin tonight by looking any further than our kitchen table is all in order with the arus in our life those who are nearest and dearest that's question number one CU if the answer is no that's where it starts with the Rin is not the Rin that's thousands of miles away the robin starts with my family my my father har shap tells us a fabulous way to be successful in these relationships these ARA relationships it says in P that one of the Miracles in the was literally that means that when they stood it was very cramped and crowded but when they would bow there was ample my father said a 101 in a relationship with an AR if you're always going to stand your ground rigidly I'm right I'm right and you never capitulate the whole relationship will be miserable crowded and cramped if you're willing to Bow and bend hear the other person's point of view give them the time of day validate them then R the whole relationship will be something of rev a thing of beauty that's a v take that with you into I see you like that V and when you deal with the arova those nearest and dearest we can't be so rigid and not hear the other person's point of view and always putting them down it will be it will be miserable validate give them the time of day show them the love that's the ticket in fact a little while ago I saw in a saer a gatria that I think is going down in my books as one of the most Sensational and delectable ones I ever saw it says in K Rashi says what did K do wrong which literally means he took himself off to the side and he separated himself from everyone he put himself on a one one side in other words he didn't get along with the Rob him theor I saw the following gatria brought down the proper way to go to any relationship with those AR is those in your life when you approach them there will be disagreements there will be issues there will be different things that come up you have to realize it's not like K said there's only one sad my way or no way what you have to realize I have a sad but so do you I have to view everything with this sad and that sad if you do that the numeric value of the word is 94 a wise person does what I just told you they face the arov and they say you know this is how I feel but I hear your point and sad 94 * 2 is 188 the Hebrew for the word a wise man is a p p it's 188 you know what makes you a p in a relationship realize there's myad and the other side and I've got to validate it as well now here's the thing of beauty I have to do that but so do you I have to view it with aad here and here and so do you that means I'm bringing in so to speak the power of a Pak 188 but you must also be a Pak you're bringing your own 188 what do you get when you bring Pak together 188 * 2 376 the word Shalom peace sh is 376 I hold that's a gatria step number one to says you want to be make sure that people find you to be indispensable don't start by looking outside look inside it's making amends with a sibling or whoever it might be an aunt an uncle a cousin making sure the spouse is being treated properly it all begins by valuing the ARA nearest and dearest cuz at the end of the day when everything else is gone you know who will be there for you the and the first thing to do to make sure Sur that we get rid of this negativity is realized the next time I feel when she calls me when he calls me right away there's an issue one minute I'm going to be a p there's my side and there's her side together that's p and if you'll do the same I'll be a p and you'll be a p 188 time 2 is Shalom 376 that's the way to have and bring peace to the world it starts with the surra one final note before we speak about the next group that Reus salant might be talking about sometimes when we speak negatively of these people in our families or might be another yid we're very quick to use a word that's not so nice be he's a ker she's a ker a ker means essentially they deny they're no good we're quick to write people off RAB you know what the root of the word ker is when was told to cover the T the says you should cover it you know what the root etymologically of the word ker is it's covered over but the beauty is there and so the next time we're very quick to turn to someone in an argument and not to hear their point point of view but to stand rigid I'm right tell yourself really you think they're a ker ker is from the word the beauty is covered over they're a gem they're a jewel every Y is but sometimes it may be it may be covered over I just saw a week ago from the Imagine taking this into Young in the that we'll say in a few days it says and then the second part of the stanza is I know it's a song but believe it or not before it was a song it was actually part of the says listen to a v we should turn to the if you'll just good to those who are ra those who seem to be evil and bad you'll see they'll really be good we ask look at those that we think are bad give them a little parnasa give them Shalom give them G and you'll see really their goodnesses cover over and those that we think are they will be and they are intrinsically good we have to emulate the ways of the let's stop viewing people as they're no good they're a ker you know what show them a little bit of goodness a little bit of light a little bit of love and those that you think are they will be alsoo good now that we've taken care of the business of surra and I will make amends we will make amends before rashash Shana with an ARA say something we should have said a while ago fix something we should have done a while ago we'll do it by realizing I and they will be a and that will bring Shalom now that we've taken care of the ARA let's move on to another route of Aon R Bay and bring us to the part of after just to look and to do good the says aort I believe I said this at the convention a few months ago the one you referred to you're looking to have your tus answered is that right you know what it says in we ask listen to our voice because we have AR there's that word again Sweet says the rumar no don't read the word arave as sweet but rather as arus arus means responsibility the RV spoke extensively about that earlier says there a dum scared e you want your answered here's the key do you want to know when I'll listen to your if you have a voice of arus there's that word I en again responsibility arus we're living through a time where we want our answered think about what occurred since last rashash Shana it's a different world after the harof massacre I landed in ER strol for my father's yard site and it was in Middle of the levias from the kadash of harof a winter where different parts of Europe there was tremendous anti-Semitism people went into their PES say they're thinking about it's a night of speak to your family and he s he saw seven Empty Chairs the says I will listen to your but here's the catch you better have responsibility we don't live in a bubble project inspir headed by RIM Samson has redefined the word of arus of responsibility you heard from all of the speaker tonight so eloquently if we would find that one RAB say there's so much on the line and by the way perhaps the best part or at least the part I enjoy most of the V says which of the three of taught us this Aras getting along the best it would be yov ainu because we know amongst theim there was sin and hatred and jealousy and at the end of the day what does it say about the everybody got along Yakov teaches us this getting along better than we learn the most from yov says the what's the name of the that established what do we call that Shak what do we call the name of the that established what do we call the name of the that yob established and don't answer answer Aris yov is teaching us as we approach involve did you you know there's a checklist at night I inak I in I in but did you in AR might I humbly add I'm not ping in front of the Rita but while the says according to one opinion might be a optional I humbly suggest while M might be optional AR is a it's obligatory now which person has a right on any given day not to D AR actually if you think about project Inspire they're all about we know I there's a world out there waiting for us and the says Arvest means you show responsibility one you for another my father often said over a Misa there are few misas you'll hear in your life like this one from the capish it was in Kipper afternoon the Lower Side the Kish was walking during a break perhaps before Min or after M and he's walking with a GU by the Lowery side Yer afternoon he sees there's a restaurant and in the front of the restaurant there's a glass window and he sees that there is a yid who is eating at the in the front of the restaurant yipper the Kish walks in and he goes over to the Y and he says and I quote eat with a hearty appetite when they walked out the gab said to theb why do you tell someone listen to what the Reb said judges us either as a or someone who sinned deliberately and maliciously or someone who s giving into temptation and desire when I walk by the restaurant and I saw him eating deliberately I knew the was going to punish him today as a I wanted to downgrade him I wanted him to only be punished as a less severe M so I walked in and I said this way when he now eats not deliberately but with a gmach and a desire he'll be pun punished as the less severe that's AR I have to tell you the truth sometimes when I think of the story I wonder if I would have walked by the restaurant what would I have said and unfortunately I don't think I would have said but maybe after hearing the story and maybe after learning about project Inspire maybe I would have because he got to care about everyone it's all about AAS as I said at the convention everybody has to make sure they have AAS responsibility how do you spell the word every one of those six letters tell you how to have true responsibility Alf is the first letter Alf means one I've got be responsible and take care of myself the next letter is a is my brother the arova we opened up with you take care of them the next letter of a is a Al is someone else you take care of the unaffiliated the next letter of is a tell someone far Les you could follow after me let them sense you the real deal either by placing all of the honey bags and the calls and the sweet things on people's doors well let them see you mean it in fact Toronto is launching or has launched their triple play now in baseball a triple play unassisted is a pretty big deal for those who know what that Sports term meant but I think that it's meaningless when it comes to Toronto's Triple Play you know Toronto's Triple Play is and I believe that was the brainchild of Rim Samson and others it means before you get to shabas and invite them to your own for shabas let them see it like you heard the packages and the boxes that are made invite them and Inspire them for rashash Shana that's the first part invite them and Inspire them for suus that's the second part so that when it comes to sh the shabus project that is resounding around the world that will be the third that's a triple play rashash sukus culminating in the worldwide shabas project don't be left out of the Triple Play That's Tas Arvis and so the letter means follow after me because I'm real what's the next letter you know I'll follow after this guy I see you the real deal you walk to Walk you talk to talk you're sincere I'll follow you and what's the last letter tough the first letter is an Al the last letter is a tough that's the beginning and end of the olive Bas alive to tough because you've got to be there for a fellow y beginning to end saying that I'll be there for you because you know you D next to me in sh we come from the same you're part of my millu you have the same that's not called that's called cloning truly being there as you heard in the letter that the RV read the person said if somebody would have just showed me cared look for me Al to tough beginning to end so they're not exactly like me they don't have the same background they don't let know the beauty of shabas and that's to you to your brothers everyone else follow after me I'm the real deal I will I'm comfortable with you Al to tough beginning to end that's the way to do it I mentioned the story a little while ago witha Feinstein there was a a woman I heard this story from the doctor himself the the son of the lady involved she needed to take medicine on pesak for her heart condition so she every year a of pesak would call rmha and ask him can I take the medicine and every year a of pesak Rea would patiently explain to her why she could take the heart medicine why it wasn't ketz why you was okay explain it thoroughly and wish her a good a good jum every year this went on for over 20 years a of pesak now a of pesak is a pretty busy day it's probably the busiest day for aov exponentially it's probably like they say with the pressure that's just south of the near nuclear explosion in 3M Island about 30 years ago and for p we can't fathom the son tells me one year my mother had gotten a bit elderly and she forgot to call Risha two hours before y PES to begin the phone rings in her home and she picks up and the voice on the other end says hello this is MAA Feinstein calling I didn't hear from you today to find out about your medicine I was concerned are you okay when I didn't hear from you I was worried are you all right and then he went on to reassure her that she could take the medicine it's not a problem and again vined her un a good junctive say do we fathom that story I know that if I would come home perhaps I shouldn't say it publicly and there's a phone call that I had to make but my wife or somebody will tell me no they called and said you don't need to call them or they forgot to call you that's like a Sim that's enjoyable calls a woman I didn't hear from you today are you all right I was concerned CU understood beginning to end you have to have a voice of responsibility I just want to say one final thought before we go to the third definition of ion R Bas what does it take to become this person what does it take my father once wondered how could it be that the Hebrew for the word to be alive is Nish and the Hebrew for the word to be desolate and void is Nish one could look in the of par and they'll see many times that word what they're the same letters virtually identical means to be alive and N means void why should I get up in the morning what's the difference between a shama and a shama under the shin ofish is a which looks like this under the shin of is a come how do you make a come from a is a line across like this so how do you make a from a you add a little support underneath and when you add a little support you create a nisham ask people who have no support ask people who would not know that on purm you hear and on and on P you eat mat and you take and what did we just hear about rashash rashash in Disney World rashash in hotels all over different European countries when people have no support their life is Nish show a little support and you create a Nish that's all it takes and I think that's why we heard from a few people tonight and as well in the name of abber zal if everybody would find one Nish we'd rewrite history it doesn't take something big and grandiose it doesn't take my entire City and a thousand families and a mountain that's insurmountable the difference between n sh and the sh is a little support if everybody would take upon themselves one GID one family one person history would be Rewritten tonight everybody has to create a Nish after all is that not what re salant said to how how many are you indispensable when I had the privilege of writing this in an article a few months ago I actually asked these questions which I'll quickly ask to you how do you do on the following checklist to how many people are you truly indispensable how many people can you say depend on you for huh how many people count on you for shabis and Y suda and I don't mean when they get called Friday afternoon how many people count on you to learn with them and teach them more about Yiddish kite and their children if they are the parent aren't there how many people count on you to help them financially and emotionally to how many people are you a shoulder to cry on a listening ear do you provide a warm smile or a kind word and finally how many people could you honestly say count on you for advice guidance inspiration and compassion that's a checklist and the same way a person goes into Yan with a checklist I made this for this meal and that for that meal and I took the suit to the cleaners and the car is filled with gas and I'm ready to go ask yourself the checklist that I just mentioned how many people R are going to say please Grant her him a good I need them and I can't live without them no how many people are you indispensable for the advice for the guidance for the financially emotionally y shabus learn with them that's a checklist and that's the second definition Arvis and now for the third and final definition perhaps the one that we most associate the iron r with more than AR and more than that concept of K it's what I said a few moments ago the you know how to do this the upshot of everything we've said really everything the relationships with those nearest and dearest those with him in with whom you're have been in they fight those unaffiliated it's all the same answer tell them how sweet it is I believe I heard in the name of our I believe I heard in his name the following question why is it that in we say yet we know that the a could also act as if one didn't say the yet in the a or youed there's such a long list maybe 10 things long why is that list not in the you know what said because if you have the and it's sweet you have everything if you have a by definition you have the Lar only when you don't have it could we please leave here tonight and go into you T inv showing them the there's nothing sweeter it's that triple play I mentioned earlier it's getting involved with project inspire you don't mind if hundreds of Us come to you and want to get involved tonight I'm sure bombard project Inspire more than they were ever given I want to do I want to do tell them that could you please leave here tonight showing somebody how sweet it is our family mut RM schmeltzer the malal of tell Chicago has told me the following Raa story many times I simply can't get enough of it the first part of the story is a little bit sad so I apologize but uh years and decades ago s decided to make prank phone calls and the pranks were going to be to different different G and fabricate silly questions one of these boys it was his turn to call rmha it pains me to even say this part of the story but fasten your seat Bel and listen to the rest he had to call rmha he called about 11:00 Rea had already gone in the reiton said should I wake the rashash Shiva and the boy who was going to play the prank said yes Raa came to the phone and said hello he said excuse me I have to wash my hands and make he then asks Raa his silly prank shy Raa picked up right away that it's a joke and so he says to this bck where do you learn the bck fearing that he would be in trouble didn't want to answer maybe something's going to happen to me Raa reassured him I'm not nothing will happen don't worry where do you learn he tells him what gimar are you learning tells him what da you want tells him he says let me ask you a casha on Tois he asks it to the boy on that page asking that cash on toes to the boy of course the boy didn't know you want to know thear I'll tell you I'll tell you Raa says let's learn the gar of course Raa without taking the gimar word for word gimar and Rashi did you get it let's do it again any better let's do it again I I don't know IFA taught him word for word three times or four times gamar Rashi every single word now let's do tyus he taught him tus after he instilled in the look how sweet it is he then said now let me ask you the Kasha again and he asked it to the boy and the boy said you know it's a good caser that's an unbelievable question raisha says here's what I want you to do tomorrow I want you to go to Yeshiva and when you learn this Su and tus I want you to ask your rebi this Kasha the next morning he's in class and he asks the Kasha and the rebi says that's an unbelievable Kasha where'd you get it from he says from RHA Feinstein the rebi says I need to think about it at the end of the week after thinking about it for those few days he comes back and he gives the boy an answer the boy says I was so empowered by the sweetness of Tyra I was so empowered by the patience and loving guidance of Raa that Raa had the a thousand psychologists might not think of it empower the boy with a question so that the boy can go in and now all of a sudden he says to himself my rebi thought about my Kasha for almost a week I Mish had the power of that Kasha the boy turned his life around and yes I will tell you and it's 100% accurate the boy today is no boy he's a MAG in a very prestigious Yeshiva G in the tri state area a prestigious Yeshiva in the tri state area you know why because he tasted the sweetness and he tasted the patience and the guidance of Raa and it turned his life around you know tell us you know how everybody translates people were created what's a good definition to to you know how you spell l l you know what L really stands for we weren't created to live in our own bubble and Cocoon stands for we have to show the beauty there's a from the red on the on the in you know everybody translates that if you learned a lot of don't pat yourself on the back and think you're a gift to the world you were created to learn you know what the rumar says anytime you have the word is if your privilege to learn a lot of don't keep all that goodness for yourself don't be selfish don't keep the beauty of you were created to spread it in fact if you rearrange the letters of the word it's that spells the word sinus is a pipe pipe it into another yid tell me something is there a better definition in the world for project Inspire than that I'm sure many people will say there is I humbly think that was it tell me something you know in a few days is rashash Shana do you know Millions don't do you know many think there's nothing wrong with eating on Kipper what are you talking about going into a what are you going to that H for and suus what's wrong with bread on P don't keep that goodness and Beauty for yourself you were created to spread it and that's the way we began tonight's talk we're looking for judgment on rashash Shana says re let's say those words again the single greatest piece of advice to be meritorious in judgment is become indispensable to as many as you can to the ARA to those nearest and dearest to people that you need to make amends tonight and what does it take just a little bit of support after we've tackled the AR and we realized I start with those nearest and dearest then I realize I have to have a voice of responsibility the third definition is the one we mentioned V it's so sweet it's so sweet and the sweetness turns lives around when people will get serious about the triple play of project Inspire when people will get serious about the shabis project that which is used around the world and so many including project Inspire help to promote the show them the sweetness and that's a way to make sure we're indispensable to people I just want to end with one MSA there was a couple that worked for leim the kir of organization in in the northern part of erit Isel they had they did Fabulous work they had a boy who just turned three in fact when I said this over recently someone who knows the family extremely well added in a very very very sad detail their three-year-old who had to add the upshire in the morning morning went toer and as the day progressed he wasn't feeling well and after he went to lie down iner unfortunately the three-year-old was nft and this couple that worked for leim had to now sit Shiva for their three-year-old someone who knows the family very well said in erit is they say that in the morning on the way to the upshire and they wrapped their three-year-old in aalis and at Night by Kura they also WRA their three-year-old in aalis by that they mean many have the custom that in the morning by an up Sharon you wrap in a Talus so the eyes don't see anything that's not pure and they're sitting shiva sometimes people in a Shiva home don't say the brightest things and that was being kind the man who sitting shiva for his three-year-old gets a phone call he comes back and this is what he says I am currently trying to be ma of eight boys that don't keep Shabbat one of the eight just called representing the other seven and said to me the rabbi we heard what happened to your three-year-old in his memory I and the other seven the eight of us this Shabbat will keep one shabas this house for your three-year-old he comes back very moved and he shares this with everybody and someone who did not say something very bright probably meant no harm but still he says to the rabbi the phone call was nice from the eight boys like is it such a big deal they'll keep this one shabus and that's it you know who says they're going to keep shabas again one shabas and they going to keep chabas again it's nice but not that last thing or meaningful just one chabas our friend looks at this man and he says I'll answer your question you want to know if it's meaningful that they'll keep one chabas do you know what my wife and I would do he says to get our three-year-old back for one chabus do you know what we would do so I could feel him holding my hand again bringing him back from sh shab's day or from my wife to see that he'd be bouncing on my knee while we sing mirise you know what we would do to get him back for one chabus you want to know if it's a big deal we would give up everything to have him back for one chabus and then he turns to the man and says now the re shalam is getting eight children for one shabis eight of his children back for one Shabbat you still want to know if it's a big deal ask my wife the is getting back a children for one shabas that's a big deal and so through the triple play and approaching the shabas project maybe the re shalam will get back hundreds of thousands for one chabus it's a big deal in fact it's the biggest deal to take into rashash Shana period let's be this is the month as the r said of but if you spell those letters backwards Al lamid lamid spell it backwards it's lamid V lamid Al you know what that spells lle you know what loule means in English lulle if only loule if only you know who says that people who live with regret if only I would have done that sooner if only I would have called him if only I wouldn't have said that to her if only I would have listened to the speech there are some people who live their entire life lulle esque in nature they live with regret if only I would have done this if only I would have taken it serious don't let this month end as loule a month where we regret I didn't some people live their whole life that way as this month comes to an end we better make sure that it's not the month of lulle but it's the month of el may it be the will of that because we came together tonight on behalf of project Inspire and we will make sure number one the first Iron r v is the I will care for those nearest and dearest the second ra is I have to show responsibility and the last iron ra vas is How Sweet It Is let's take that that's a big deal let's take what says to heart you want to be meritorious in judgment from someone that you are indispensable to people that they will in say I need that person and in that's that the rabim need us our families need us our neighbors and co-workers need us the unaffiliated need us may it be the will of sh that we never experience lle but El and in that's May the grant every one of us because we are so indispens ible and needed because of the we provide to others may we be to have and a year filled filled with only Yas to be enjoyed gun thank you very much rabish Shapiro in conclusion everybody had a sheet on their chair so please take a look we have a Shabbat so a very practical thing to give shabas to somebody else TI Triple Play I just want to end with a quick thought before you leave so when we walk out of here tonight let's commit to do something to help our neighbor our friends let's take an action and before shabas let's make sure that we're going into rashash with this incredible and you know we get asked often times that why should we do kirv why should we care about kirv donate to kir do anything about kir we have so many issues ourselves that we have to take care of right we have we have we have every last issue under the B there's a project for everything why care about kir and I think we heard the answer here tonight loud and clear from Rabbi Loy and Rabbi Shapiro that the reason is that if we take care of hashem's children then Hashem will take care of us to be his for for Yeshua for everything we need and if we're able to D for then will be for every single Jew amen we're going to have Mar now on this side the thank you so much you could give your pledge cards to the volunteers and J