Project Inspire Leadership Series 2022 Session # 1

water absolutely elisa will you mute everyone yeah that's they'll meet everybody now okay okay so let me just see give it a different view gallery maybe that's better ever since if you just unmute yourself right okay fine so um okay fine so let let's start i think you know people there will definitely be people strolling in as this happens but i guess we have a short amount of time so let's uh try to make the most of it so first of all thank you all for attending we really appreciate it and it's a pleasure and a really annoying for us to do this for you and with you and to me it's very very exciting to be honest and i'll tell you why because this material is really material that really comes from my teacher and really the founder of asia torah and the founder founding you know the idea of project inspire really came from rabbi weinberg who was my teacher for 26 years founder of asia torah and he was a person who was just you know i was thinking as i was preparing this he was a person who was what a tremendous merit and joy i had in life that i had met such a person who had such wisdom for living such insight such clarity was such a big person a happy person a loving person caring person and a person who was dedicating to dedicated to making the world a better place and this syllabus is really um a tribute to him in a certain way why because this is really his torah that he put together and it also reflects in many ways who he was what he was able to to do in his greatness was to define what is it that we need in life to live our lives to the full right for ourselves and for others right and so these insights will both help us with ourselves in our life and also if you can learn and understand the insights they're they're shareable with others and that what's what we've tried to do in this course is give you you know in a short amount of time and i discuss it with rabbi cynthia barnett who will be teaching this series together please god um that you know how do we give you in the short command of tomorrow we didn't want to burden you with too many classes and too much we know you're all busy and so and so forth so how do we do this in a way that's most effective that gives you the ability to hear the ideas but not just that you hear the ideas and then you walk away and it's like they come and they go so what we're doing in this in in what we decided as one way of doing that probably many ways what we decided is you know what we're going to give you for every insight that really we share we're going to give you like let's say like a one-pager document right and you can take that one pager and it's shareable with others now we're not telling you if you come on this course you have to share it with others we want to make this pretty simple we don't want people to feel obligated and resentful that oh i came on this this course and i didn't realize i had to do this and i don't feel comfortable at the same time we feel that if you take these insights and you share them then you have two weeks to share in this class today you're gonna get two insights right that we'll share there'll be many more insights that i'll be hopefully giving over but there's two insights that we're gonna share with you and we and we recommend sharing with someone now if you have if you don't have someone to share it with you can say to us email us email me or be in touch with taylor and just say you know what i'd love to share this with someone i don't have someone to share it and we'll match you guys up if anybody wants that we can match you up you can each person can share with each other or else another way to do it would be to share with your family with your children with your with your friends with anybody right just take it's a five minute idea share take it and try to share it so we're asking people to do that um now we're going to be giving um this over several months this course and we would very much like it that people come on that they commit to the series that's what we would like to know it doesn't mean we understand that people are busy and are not always going to make it there were many people tonight that there was an event in toronto there's events in birken there's many different things going on and people have their own lives and we understand that from all of you that so if you can't make it no problem we'll send you the recording i'd also like to as well send you a synopsis of the actual outside of the idea shares but here's an overview of what we said so you could review it that way as well so so we're very excited for you to be part of this to learn it so that really the goal here is that you become really what we powerful people people who really understand the most basic insights in life for ourselves for our families for our friends and for all of the jewish people and that's what we're going to be sharing with you it's beautiful stuff sometimes people feel it it's very simple it is simple but simple things are sometimes the most profound so we're going to go straight into the first of several classes we call these classes the foundation series by the way we'd like to and i didn't quite finish the conversation with with rabbi barnett and and kate alaski of what reward we'd like to give but i personally feel that people to go to this car this course and did every course should we should as an organization we would like to reward you because we feel that it's wonderful reward people when they do good things and we'd love people to finish this series and we'd love to be able to give you a reward for finishing it together with us so so maybe for the first six classes every people did that would give some kind of rewards i'm just gonna you know to be continued we haven't quite worked out what it is but i'm just letting you know okay so let's go on to the first of these what we call foundational series there's foundations of life and this is the first and we're calling it the first one is based on a class of raleigh weinberg called the four misconceptions people have about judaism tonight we're going to try to cover two of those four misconceptions and we'll be next to the the the but what is this this is a basically a statement that there are four prevalent misconceptions people have about judaism but in some ways because there's a misconception it blocks their ability to really appreciate judaism and to get involved in judaism that's and that's all of us and they apply it to us to some degree as well so what we what what we're going to do now is just you know bring this out and there's a little story that i i i often share and it goes like this it's sort of like you know i spent i was very fortunate to spend ten years studying at asia torah which is you know uh an asian tourist college of jewish studies i rabbinical college i became a rabbi there i lived there in the old city i was very fortunate i lived there for 10 years and you know as you lived in the old city it's a wonderful experience there were certain things that happened and one time you know of many times the following thing might might happen and all of the students who were learning there in this in the yeshiva in school would know would basically know what is going on and it's the following that if you if you were walking through the old city and you saw two people who were backpackers right and you go over to them and you get into a conversation with these two jewish people that you know they they just did in the pool and you know and they're going through israel they came to jerusalem and they're going on to to do europe and you know it's fast and then at some point they ask you so what do you do so we would we would answer them you know if we tell them i go to a yeshiva a yeshiva you know they never know what ishiba is so we said we would explain to them what it is so what is it what is it youtube you explain to them you know i study at a college of jewish studies and then we tell them what what is it that we you you learn there so we tell them to tell them that they wouldn't know what it is so to explain to them you know we study about life yeah how to get the most out of life to understand what's meaningful in life life how to be happy how to have sex successful relationships how to how to use your potential to the full how to understand what the meaning of life is now you would sometimes if you won't have two reactions one fellow responds and he's like wow that's fascinating i'm really wow can we come and see it i mean that sounds like amazing but the other guy he's looking at you and he's like you know um i don't know you know if we want to really see it we're going to go to the israel museum he's like you know he's sort of like backing off a mile right so why why did this phenomenon happen right so we often understood that the guy who's really really interested he's not jewish right now why no but the guy who's backing off a man i'll explain that in a second the guy who's backing off a mile right why why why is he backing off a mile because you know what he's got all kinds of ideas in his head of what judaism is and and because of those misconceptions of what judaism is he looks at julian as being a threat to his life and so this is dangerous stuff he had red lights flashing he wasn't getting me out of here the last thing i want to do is end up in yeshiva and maybe get involved in jesus and why why is that because just to understand the non-jewish person has a benefit has an advantage right because he's not threatened by this right because he looks at it for what it is and says wow that really sounds fascinating there's no threat to him because he doesn't see it that oh maybe i should be involved in this so he just takes it at face value which is a beautiful thing but the jewish person is like uh you know what this really could be should be me and you know what and i'm a little bit i'm thinking that there's something about this that might be threatening to me might be like i i don't know get me out of here right so why am i sharing this story with you because what's really going on the head of this what this jewish person is he has misconceptions about judaism and because he has misconceptions that forms his his view of judaism and he looks and because he sees it that way right so then he wants i went out get me out of here what we're trying to do in this class is basically take those misconceptions show why they are misconceptions show what the truth is what's the truth that that's the reality that's not the misconception and therefore if you could turn those misconceptions around in his mind and to the extent that we have in our minds turn them around then we think when we mention judaism to ourselves or to someone else wow that's beautiful i love it i want it right because i've taken away the misconceptions about how you know bad it is or whatever it is that i i have in my head right so that's what we're trying to do so in each misconception we're going to basically try to try to do the following things understand number one why it's a misconception number two how can i share it with somebody else that that it is a misconception and number three is each of these misconceptions gives us a practical way of educating of sharing the wisdom that we have with others and we'll see as we go through it what we have to learn in terms of educating and helping others in terms of their growth and their connection to to judaism so the first of the misconceptions is the following that that and this is really the misconception that really keeps most people away from even coming in the door to a relationship with their heritage with torah is the following that that people feel that religious jews look down on or religious judaism that's perceived better religious judaism looks down on non-religious people right it considers them to be bad like that's the first so i'm saying that's a misconception now i'm not saying it's a misconception that people that there are orthodox jews and religious jews who look down on other jews right but we're saying that's not part of judaism right it's not part of judaism so how do we how do i explain and how could you explain to others that that is not the case so i'm going to share with you our first idea share right and that idea share with is a one-page idea share which you're going to get and as i said earlier that we'd love for you to take that idea and during the next two weeks share it with others so the first thing is like this the talmud asks the following question if someone would put a gun to your head goddess forbid like this is a scenario from the talmud and and say to a person will kill somebody puts a gun to someone saying we're gonna kill you unless you kill an innocent person right so do what is the jewish law can you kill an innocent person to save your life you understand the scenario someone's putting a gun to someone's head and say i'm gonna kill you unless you kill this innocent person is he allowed to kill the innocent person to save his life what do you say ladies so i'm getting i'm not sure if you could if you're you're all muted by getting some no you can't right okay you cannot and you are and you are everybody everyone says no so you're right and that is correct now why why is that why can't you you kill an innocent so you know why the town that says a very famous line which is the following it says you don't know whose blood is redder right which means to say you don't know who the better person is in god's eyes and therefore that's the reason that the talmud gives you probably kill this person because maybe he's a better person in god's eyes than you okay now i want to ask a follow-up question and the follow-up question is like this imagine someone put the gun same scenario to the greatest rabbi in the world right the greatest the wisest the biggest psychic the most righteous person and says we're going to kill you unless you see this guy over here he's a good for nothing layabout he never he he you know he's he he pickpockets people every day you don't want to know how he treats his wife he's just that good for nothing parasitic society so someone puts the gun to the big rabbi's dead and we you kill him or we kill you so is that i'm asking you the same question in this situation can this big yeah that is the head of the game whoa can can can you oh i see there's chats over there right um okay good can you kill elisa pressman and said they're the chats also you cannot you cannot the biggest rabbi also can't kill how so but wait a second let's just think about that why not this is the biggest rabbi what do you mean you don't know whose blood is redder what do you mean that this guy isn't a better person in the eyes of of god what are you talking about this guy's the biggest rabbi he's the wisest man he's the biggest the most right and this guy is a low life let's call his fate of spain so why can't he kill him don't we know who's the better person this is the genius and the greatness of the torah the answer is no we still don't know who is the better person why because there's only one person that judges people right oh one being and that is the almighty right we don't judge people we're not allowed to judge people why why is that because you don't know what his chemical makeup is you don't know what his genetic makeup is you don't know how he was brought up you don't know his father wasn't jack the ripper and his mother wasn't any better you don't know you don't you just don't know right and you don't know even what good deeds he or she has done that on her level for where she's at might outweigh all of your good deeds you just don't know and there's only one being that knows who that is right who who's greater and that's the almighty and that's why we say oh it says in the ethics of the fathers i'll dinner actually give up don't judge another person until you reach his place meaning because you can't judge him because you don't know if you're in the same position as him or her you truly and honestly don't know that you wouldn't be doing the same or even possibly worse and therefore right this is the torah concept of tolerance that we believe in judaism that every human being is made in the image of god everyone has infinite potential and that we can look at each other in the eyes and say i don't judge you as a person i sincerely believe that you could be a better person in the eyes of god than me and more than that the mission empirical in ethics of the father says who is the wise man hello men they call adam somebody who learns from everyone and we should look at each other in the eyes and say you know what i have so much i can't learn from you so i want to bring this out a little bit further but because imagine you know you saw a religious guy you know a religious guy he's wearing the black coat and the black hat the whole garb he's got it and you see this guy and he goes into mcdonald's right you know and he sits down and he has a big mac and a chocolate milkshake right now outside of the fact of giving him the benefit of the doubt that he's got a stomach ulcer and he has to eat right now and it's you know he has to give to save his life yes no no no no this guy between you and me is going in to have a good time right and he you know he just you know for whatever reason this is what he's doing he's going in he's transgressing the laws of the torah from he's a religious person and that's what he's doing so what would we say about such a guy you know what we say the guy looks religious yes where are you he's not quite as religious as he looks because you know there's certain things that he's not quite doing 100 okay fine so i say the same to you if you if a religious guy is walking down the streets right and he's meeting non-religious jews secular jews and he's looking down on them and he's judging them to be bad you know what we say about that guy the same thing he looks religious he's not quite as religious as he looks because he's transgressing a cardinal principle of the torah just like you not allowed to eat non-kosher meat pig in the same way judaism says you are not allowed to judge another human being you're not allowed to look down at them you have to look at them as if they and understand they're made in the image of god and it's actually it works both ways right that it's true for religious sometimes religious people make mistakes too you know and when and when we see a religious person make a mistake we can be very judgmental all of those religious people in love with their hand i can't believe it so we have to understand this works both ways religious jews should not look down and judge non-religious jews and it's and the other way to that religious normal magician judge religious they're also human beings and imperfect and make mistakes so this is something that um an idea shared that we have to understand this is this is the jewish destination of tolerance we can't judge other people okay now this is true in terms of if you want to help someone to grow right the most what we said is it's a prerequisite imagine i said to all of you you know i'd love you to come to this class tonight and and come on to this zoom and if you knew that everybody on the zoo was looking at you and judging you and saying you know you're a bad person you know you're a bad and i don't and i'm gonna and i don't like you say you know what you say to me rabbi santa i'd love to come to your your zoom video but you know i got to go to the to the israel museum today you know i got a few things we all have a need to feel accepted and loved and if we feel judged we're out we're out so this is just not this is just not doing the negative meaning what we're saying here is if you want to help people have a relationship with torah and growth that it's never going to happen if you judge them right that's why it says again in ethics of the fathers love people oh wait there's a breeze from republican torah love people and bring them to torah you can't help people grow youth like their potential develop a relationship with god and torah unless you don't judge them you have to love them so so so now that's true of a relationship with it with a friend it's a true relationship with your children if you come on too judgmental with your children they're not gonna you're gonna have a hard time helping educate them this is not just a principle for bringing people back to torah and introducing them to this in principle all relationships so i want to ask you this is just the negative what not to do don't judge people what do you think would be the positive meaning what we're saying so far is if you want to help people grow and and healthily and have a positive relationship with with the torah if in the way if you're the person who's trying to help them in that way don't judge them what do you think you should do what's the positive that you should do okay so this is jennifer levin already is saying accept them and appreciate that beautiful right don't just don't judge them don't just give them the benefit of the doubt right appreciate that appreciate them would be don't give them compliments right don't just say you know how about saying saying something nice to some someone else right what else what else could you do that would be positive a positive way to have an influence build a relationship with them okay what else build a relationship okay good what are other things that you could do listen fantastic rabbi weinberg had a story of of of a guy this is my last gun story for the night a guy comes with a gun puts it through goes up to a person and says listen you're going to listen to me now for the next hour whether you're liking it or not i've been trying to get someone to listen to me for years i can't find anyone whether you like it or not you're going to listen to me we all have such a deep need to to be listened to right so here we've got smile empathize about shelby eva also beautiful if you could listen sid especially with all these phones these days you know it's like you can't get anybody to listen if you can listen to people more than that what about empathizing who says that but yeah empathize with them right not only listen feel their pain give me that for them not more than more than that and i'll i'll tell you the last one which i is what is it do they need in life how can i help them you know i remember when i first came to to to to new york and i was working for asia from the upper west side there's a guy called steve eisenberg who many many of the students there at h i asked them how did they get involved and they told steve eisenberg steve eisenstein so when i was steve eisenberg who was a friend of mine i said steve what is the secret of your success you've made so many people to torah it's it's unbelievable so he told me the following thing which i'll never forget he told me whenever i meet someone my my first question is how can i help them he said on the upper west side which is where we were people need a they need a job and then an apartment so as soon as i meet people i find out what they need the next day in their inboxes here's how to get an apartment here's how to get a job here's how to how to meet people yes and so because he cared sincerely then then he was able to have an effect on others and that's true again this is true for all relationships i was teaching this one time and i was thinking you know what wait a second if i did this with my wife don't judge accept compliment listen empathize give you know what she needs he said that would be the end of my mind my shoulder bias my relationship but we're having it but i'm just saying that is the panacea if you can do this this is the way for your children your friends your to to have a really healthy relationship and bring help then use their potential and to grow and have a relationship with the torah so this is this is the first misconception um and so and so you know people feel judged judaism is judgmental it's not judgmental it goes against the principles of the torah there's only one being the judges that's the almighty we're not here to judge you should judge ideas and actions meaning ideas that's a wrong concept that's truth we care about you can't say things that are not true in philosophy and jewish law what's right and wrong there are rights and wrongs you you do judge those things but the person the essence of the person we don't judge right so let me just ask you why do you think that we have such a hard time and i think we do with judging people why are we judging people so much i don't know you know if you could i don't know um elisa if you can unmute i'd just be interested to hear any thoughts but or you know you can you can keep it on the chat but it's nice to hear well i'll go ahead and unmute everybody give me one second anybody just a couple of ideas before we move on why do we feel why don't we have such a hard time you have to realize we're doing this all the time ourselves why do we why are we so judgmental you know they say that a person if a person is a little bit more religious than me he's a fanatic and if he's a little bit less with the religion than me he's a heretic right it's gonna be just where i am just like me you're okay you know in fact it's gonna be me to be okay why are we so judgmental what do you think are we internally oh we got a lot of people at once okay one try one person try speaking good are we internally judging ourselves at the same time okay yeah that's a very interesting that's bet right um you know we we i think we sometimes are hard that's why it says love your neighbor as yourself right we're hard on ourselves all the time and therefore when we're hard on ourselves we naturally do it with others as well i definitely think there's some truth to that anybody else don't be shy now by nature people are drawn to negative and we will better and quicker find something negative in others then that's definitely true we're going to see that throughout the series we are drawn to negativity it's just easier to focus on the negative it's much harder to give someone a compliment than it is to say to someone you know you know uh you know that oh you did that wrong or you did that wrong negativity is always easier any other ideas that's definitely true one more person come on we have our own insecurities that we're you know we're busy with our own insecurities for good who's who's speaking elisa alisa yes that that is that is um right that i that's what i think that's what i was thinking is that you know we all have our own ego issues and insecurities it's so much easier to look down on others that makes me feel better about myself it's a little bit like what we call lush and horror like gossip negative gossip is we like to put other people down and it makes me feel good about myself but the reality is you don't really feel good about yourself it's cheap it's it's a cheap and non-real way of you really need to feel good about yourself by appreciating your own individuality and being non-gentleman judgmental about others is really part of that is that it is appreciating every single individual is unique was put in this world you know for their own purpose it says that every human being is like a letter in the safer torah in a torah and every torah if one letter isn't there it's considered it's a it's not a it's not a kosher same torah if you take away that means every human being every single jewish person is needed in the jewish people no matter who they are they're special they're unique they're made of infant and we have to live with this ourselves so okay so this is um the first misconception now we haven't i what i shared with you um elisa do you have the the link for the idea share yes give me one can you can you or can you just bring it on online can you just show it on the screen yes the sharon shareholders chair right now the one for respect right respect yes we're gonna send you this idea share it's a one page i do share which it sums up what we what i just said it should it's almost pretty much word for word as soon as we see it if we don't see it then we're gonna we're gonna we're gonna we'll send it to you yeah sorry i'm actually not letting you but i'm gonna put it in the chat box for everybody to see okay okay fine so um so that take that idea share read it over and share it i just suggest share it that way you'll internalize it more yourself and and people are usually fascinated by it so okay fine we're going now on that's the link there's the link you can you can you can uh oh and i shouldn't do that maybe because cool okay fine um oh yeah there it is oh okay fine it's not okay forget about it okay all right fine so let's go on to number number two the second misconception is the following that well let me just hear um misconception number two is that and i want to start this way imagine that i said to you you know what i want you to keep judaism but on one condition if you keep judaism you have you you have to do what everybody in that room next door is doing so you go into the next door room and you see that every single person there is shackled it's got chains it's chained to the ground right so let me ask you a question if you knew if you had to keep judaism you're going to be chained to the ground for the rest of your life do you think you're going to do it the answer is no of course rabbi sampson that's ridiculous so look many people feel that they get involved in judaism i'm going to be shackled by the torah and all its laws right these laws are every day they are laws that are going to stop me from having the relationships that i want it's going to stop me from going on the vacations that i want eating the kind of food that i want having fun it's going to judaism if i get involved with that it's going to take away all my fun and pleasure in life now the reality is i would say that this is something that even if you speak to orthodox jews they also sometimes have this misconception they think you know what he's right he's right i wish i could never do all this stuff so this is but that guy is wrong right it's a misconception so i want to share with you why it's a misconception right and this is this is also an idea share that you can you should know for yourself and try to share it with others so here's the second idea right which is if what if you would ask someone what do you think a religious person would say in to the question of what is it that god really wants from us what do you think he wants from us what does he want from us in this world you know you ask what do you think religious jews think that it is so what would what would they say so they might say you know what he wants us to be good right or he wants us to keep his commandments or he wants us to make the world a better place or he wants us to believe in him or to pray to him and then they come out with answers like that or all of those answers are good right and have aspects of truth but a way that we answered this question is in the following way and the way the torah answers this question is that we see we refer to god as our father as a parent we say now and now in our prayers our father our king we relate to god as a parent and if that's the case and everybody understands that and if that's the case then we're like his children so if we can unders if that's the case therefore if we can understand what is it that parents bottom line wants for their children then that will give us an insight into what is it that god wants for us does that make sense so then you so that leads to the next question which is what is it that parents bottom line one for their children i'm seeing already that to be joyful to be happy right so you know so the bottom line is you see is that yes you want your your your your children to use their free will and you want them to belong and to accept others difference you want all of that you want them to be healthy you want them to be moral but the bottom line is if your children are moral and miserable then you feel terrible if they're you know uh healthy and miserable that's what what bottom line with a pep i just want you to be happy i just want you to be happy and we see that when it when a little baby is you know is is is giggling and smiling and and there's nothing that that tickles a parent more wow my little baby but when that little face the mouth goes starts going sour and then and starts crying and you can't stop that baby from crying and yelling oh there's nothing that hurts more than that because what we bottom and i want for our children we just want them to be happy all these other things are what we want for them in order for them to be happy to be settled down to get married all these things i wanted to live truly fulfilled lives that's what i want for you right just listen to me will you right yeah so so that's so if that's the case then our understanding is the same that's what hashem wants for us that's what god wants for us he wants us to have all the pleasures in life in this world and in the next and it makes sense right because our concept of god is god is an infinite being who's lacking nothing right and that's that's an infinite being means he's lacking nothing right so there's nothing you can give to god he's infinite so when we serve god and we pray to god it's not it's not what we pray to god and we go the great the mighty and the awesome and god goes you know i was feeling a little down today you know i need a little bit of a pick up you know maybe a few holy holy holies i'll really be feeling good that's ridiculous god's infinite we're not praying for him so if we're not praying for him who in the world are we praying for who if we're not serving him for him who are we who are we serving why you know what the answer is we're serving god to enable him to give to us right that's what it's all about it's right he want that the almighty is here to give to us and that's what this world is about and that's when it makes sense even more that you know it said that god created man and he put him in the garden of eden right that's where he put him where do you put him in a garden now what do you do in a garden you know when you take out the deck chairs you do a little bit of on a nice sunday afternoon you might do just do something with the flowers yeah it's you go into the garden because you want to have a good time god put us in the garden of indians to indicate that's what this world is about he's putting us here to get edenic pleasure right tremendous pleasure in life and more than that what was the tree in the center of the garden you know what it was the tree of life right the tree of life now the tree of life what does that represent we we carry the turtle we pick up the turret in the synagogue and sure we we go hey the tree of life the torah which was the which of the tree of life represented total was in the center of the garden why because the whole point of the torah is to help us get tremendous pleasure in life and that's what the torah is the torah calls it itself tarat cayenne an instruct instructions manual for living from the creator of the universe how to get the most pleasure out of life in this world and in the next and that's what the torah is all about yeah so so in you know so that's so we have to understand so that's the idea sure that we don't we don't this whole world is is we say god created a world of kindness and created it to give to us ask not what i can do for my creator ask what is it that i that i can uh that i can do that i can allow the creator to do for me that's what we that's judaism and therefore the tone's instruction manual it has 613 commandments instructions 248 positive 365 negative each one is helping us grow so we can be full of human beings so we can get the most pleasure out of life we have another class on this called five levels of pleasure which will go into the five levels and counterfeit levels i'm going to understand that a lot more deeply but we have to understand that the total and just think about it a little bit more that the torah you see is imagine if i would come to you and i and i would you know god forbid there was somebody here and uh and they seemed to have a heart attack and i would say oh give me a knife give me a knife quickly so why i i'm gonna i'm gonna operate so oh rabbi samson we didn't know you were a doctor i said no i'm not i'm just giving it a stab you would just say like are you uh everything okay rabbi samson you don't you don't you know just give a step what about you know your 17 year old uh son or daughter comes and says you know what can i have the car keys i want to go go you know i give you know uh give the car a spin they said oh we didn't know you passed your driving test she said no i didn't pass my no i just want to give it a spin you say no don't play this game at home she's crazy you can't do open heart surgery if you haven't studied at a medical school you can't drive a car if you haven't had driving lessons and you've gone taken the instructions on how to do it life is no less complicated than than driving a car or even open heart surgery but what we do in life is we lunge into life and we get married and we have children and we have we all kind of live our lives we try to find happiness and meaning and you know what you know it goes sour because you know what we didn't read the instruction manual you know 50 what's the divorce rate where about 50 why now what you know if you never inspire the instruction manual well you've got to know how to do it and it makes more sense that you know if you were you know a buyer a a plug it comes with instructions put the red wire here the blue wire there if you buy a computer it comes with a book if you buy a car you need all things oral instructions right because otherwise you could put the plug in the wrong place and you'll blow yourself up right if god created the world he must surely have created with an instruction manual for living how to get the most out of life and that indeed is what the torah is so i just want to finish with a question for you which is if in fact you know that the torah and the way to get the most to to help people understand this is why people are are with go i don't want to have anything to do with it because they're looking at it it's going to red lights flash and get me out of he's going to take away my pleasure what we're saying is no no no it's going to give you pleasure right so if that's the case if you want to share judaism our heritage with others what would you what does what's the implication of this concept what would you need to do to show them that you know to to to help them in their journey in judaism what would what does this concept imply what does that mean we should be doing as a way of helping a person have a relationship with their heritage and with with the torah based on this um concept what should we do therefore what does this imply do you understand my question i got you baffled here right but the importance of learning torah without it then then you don't have that instruction okay that's that's true that's the second part you need instruction manual for living from creator of the universe but i'm going on the the pleasure factor right judaism is about pleasure hashem wants us just that pleasure at night that's all that we're that's all that is about so if you want to share the beauty of our heritage with other others what do you have to show them it's not a complicated question to live a life of simpler okay right but okay good but what yes maybe the beautiful parts of judaism yes who's thinking right exactly right you want to show them the beauty of judaism the warmth the pleasure of it how do you do that you don't want to show them you know you know uh you know you know you know everybody you know i think i think steve eisenberg used to say to me that people go to shalom rosh hashanah yom kippur they're fasting and it's a day of church they should be going to hanukkah and purim right and i think he's right you know that we need to be able to share with people the beauty of what we have uh and that's why you know see the beauty of shabbos go to uh go to jerusalem to jerusalem and go to the western wall and have an experience of pre right there you know so that's one way so show the beauty of that and the warmth of it so people connect to it because it is so profoundly beautiful and enjoyable the sec the second way is to share insights with them people don't understand that there's so many insights if if the torah is from god and it's instruction but manual for living it says that our rabbis keep digging digging into the torah everything is in it how even how to have better friendships how to bring up your children how to how to understand yourself how to deal with every situation it's all the torah has everything in it so to give people the insights to share people share with people we're going to get through the definition of love definition of happiness we're going to get that but when you can share these kinds of insights with people then they say oh wow there's something that's in it for me which i never knew right that's profound and beautiful and insightful will help me so show them the pleasure of judaism because it's really there and they may never have seen it or touched it before and show them the insides so if you do this this is the second insight in judaism is that judaism is about pleasure the almighty is is gave us instruction manual for us to get the most out of life in this world to become beings that are happy that are joyful that are full of life and the torah in the instructional manual how to get there so so we're going to give you um two um idea shares one's called the pleasure principle which is what i just explained to you in one page and the other is um respect real true respect and and tolerance those two insights if you have the opportunity and i recommend it highly read it over you can even read it read it to your family or or if you can do them better share it without reading whichever way you do it if you want to have rooster a study partner or five minutes or a week you give one over thank you one over and then next week you want to let us know and we'll organize that for you but these are the first two insights two misconceptions next time we'll go through the next two the first is don't judge people right whoever they are right it's very easy for us to do we're very prone to doing that but that you know if you if you're going to love people unconditionally you've got to care about them sincerely authentically and then you have a chance of helping educate people and and helping people use their potential whether it's their wife your wife no i don't think anybody here has a wife never know these days but your husband right your husband and your children and your friends and whoever it is and all of the jewish people don't be judgmental and be yeah enjoy judaism the first thing start with yourself make sure that you're enjoying it and just make sure do i take pleasure am i just going through it by roads and just you know you know going through the the prayers do i feel the connection do i feel glad and i connect to it the more you are happy in life and the more that you're getting from your judaism you can share that with others as well so that's a process it doesn't happen overnight we're all on our own path but these are the first misconceptions i thank you very much for joining us and if you have any questions by the way anybody here can uh email me uh with any questions um we're here for you we're thrilled that you're taking this course um and we hope that you will benefit from it personally that you become powerful and and insightful human beings uh this you know this is what lived with he lived with it in such a profound way and he was a truly great and powerful person and it's true if we can internalize these ideas please god will all become eternally great and then we share it with others and we'll help all of the jewish people live on a level of happiness and love and taking pleasure in their in their judaism their relationship with god and i i give you that my blessing that should be all of you too so thank you very much if anybody does have any questions they want to ask um we're officially over because we said we're done with that if anybody does have any questions yeah uh something yeah so unfortunately the projects our website is currently down we're working on fixing the website so the links are not currently working but holds on hopefully within the next hour the website will be restored and then you can look up the source see the sources okay so we'll give you those what's up and anyway we'll email it uh to you i think as well hopefully we'll be able to email it to you um and also i'll give you the overview of the whole of the whole class so you can have it um but thank you thank you ronnie for joining us i see you and and for twitching on your zoom it's so nice to see you and and everybody and if anybody has any questions feel free to ask thank you so much wonderful pleasure my pleasure thank you beautiful thank you good night everyone good night good night thank you thank you so much haley do i mean on the zoom what's that should i end the zoom now anybody else with any questions and we could we i think it doesn't seem like it but i think we've done i think we will put your you guys on your channel in the chat nice to see you guys coming from your first very very helpful information for me yeah yeah learning my passion great okay thanks very much everybody and have a wonderful day