Preparing a proper mindset for Rosh Hashana - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] today we want to talk about how we're going to get ready to and prepare ourselves for the new coming year and I just got the name I'm sorry yes should have so we're 12 days before r on a very special day the 18th day of and we already passed 18 days of the special month that we have to prepare ourselves for the coming new year and basically every day that comes closer now to R sh is a very valuable day because technically we prepare ourselves not only for R sh we also want to prepare ourselves for Yip and exactly like a business owner that once a year does his taxes goes through his budget goes through his Finance to see how the business is doing if there's any losses if how many how much was the profits where can they cut the budget where can they put more budget the same way we have to do this exact same account once a year in general it is more recommended that we do this every day if we do this every day then we don't have to do it at the end of the year the right way to do it is that God gave us very supicious times to do what's called is to do a self account to see how am I doing some people they delay it to do it once a year onip which is not the right way because how can you really do an account for what you did the entire year in one day I don't even remember what I did three months ago so how can I do chuva for something I did seven months ago so we have supicious times likees once a month that we do cha for the entire month and we have the the the the day of Friday Shabbat right before Shabbat comes in for women is right before they light the candles for men is right before they go to pray M there the time to sit down for 5 minutes and do cha is not to light the candles 5 minutes into Shabbat is rather to make sure that before Shabbat you're already showered you're already dressed you have your your your house ready the food is ready and you take five minutes 10 minutes that you sit by yourself and you do chuva you review your week how was my week what did I do what did I not do how can I get better where can I repent and so forth and then in in this the supicious time of lighting candles then be you already did your CH for the entire week and you're ready to accept the Shabbat but more than that we have a an supicious time and the right time to really do chuva is right before we go to sleep which that's why we say K and we spoke many times about the the the importance of K but really one of the main parts of is to do CH for the day and some people exactly like you now have notebooks and you're writing notes some people before they go to bed they pull out a notebook and they write what they did today so some people call it a journal some people call it a diary and some people call it meaning I'm doing my daily account do I owe anybody money did I hurt anybody did I lie today how many times did I gossip today how many times did I scream at my kids for no reason and they do M an account the people who live like that they have nothing to worry about and when yum kipur comes all they need to do is not to eat pray and and and that's it because they all their life they live in chuva and that's the right way because nobody can do chuva in one day for the entire year it's not possible so the right way to do it and you can start already from today if you didn't do it up to now is you say you take five minutes out of your day and it's better to do it before you go to bed but if you feel that you're going to follow asleep or you have little kids and and and your daily life activities do not allow you so do it half an hour before you go to bed or an hour before to get go to bed but take five minutes out of your life at the end of the day to really go through what you did the entire day who you need to apologize to where you need to refine yourself and so forth and by that you live your life in Chua that's what I say you say that your entire life should be in Chua and if you do that then your life is good because you know right away where you need to apologize and you know right away what you need to return and or to give back and you basically know how to correct yourself and not let yourself Shalom continue and continue you know where to stop things right away so since now we 12 days before and some people you know they they consider Yip a more important day for the CH but really it's R and R is a very very special day we see it by the name of the holiday that is called technically it should have been called means the beginning of the year or it should have been called in many other ways but why r r is the head of the year so we call it because in the head everything is included in the head that's why we Sayes and many other things for example when we when the Torah started it saysit in the beginning so it's called R because everything is in the r r is a head and everything is included in the head which meaning that in the day of R sh the entire rest of the year is included in that day and on is the day that we're basically being looked upon from the Heavenly Court we're being judged by the master of the universe that's why we read in the text of the prayer who's going to live who's going to die who's going to be rich who's going to be poor this is the day that everything is decided for us the mistake that most people make is they think that when comes the end of the year and they look at their taxes and they only made a certain amount of money or they look and they say I didn't have a successful year or I didn't get married or I couldn't get pregnant or my children are driving me crazy and so so forth they feel that the previous was not so good cuz they didn't get an abundance of blessing the reality is that theem constantly projects to us unbelievable abundance of blessings the only ones who can be blamed to what we didn't get is ourselves because Hashem just gives us and if I would see the blessing that I got on R I would be shocked what hasem bestow on me whether it's parasa my livelihood whether it's anything else in my life Hashem just giving us in an unbelievable abundance but I'm as the receiver is the one who can stop it from coming so I cannot come and complain to the Kosh he didn't give mea I couldn't get married my kids are driving me crazy I don't have a good relationship with my husband and so forth no Hashem is giving us unbelievable abundance of blessing and I who's the on the receiving end is the one who can actually take it or say I don't want it now neither one of us says I don't want it but my actions are what's causing me not to receive this abundance of blessing so you first of all you need to know that when when you're standing in front of the Kem does bless us with an unbelievable abundance of blessing with everything that we need so we cannot come and complain to anyone rather if I feel that I'm lacking something it's not because I'm not worthy it's not because I don't deserve it it's not because hasem is punishing me people come with this this method and this invention God is punishing me God is Not punishing anyone God is not a third great teacher that gets upset at you if you talk there's no such a concept even that God punishes you now there is the concept is one of the principles what rambam says that there is the concept of SAR and honish a reward and a punishment but it's not in the the way how we understand the punishment that you get a PCH to your to your hand so it's it's taken completely out of context when it says reward and Punishment the punishment that our sages is talking to us is basically I call it a reaction if you do a positive action you will get a positive reaction you do a negative action you'll get a negative reaction this is the easiest way to explain it say like a person looking in a mirror and there's a reflection in the mirror you smile to the person in the mirror the person in the mirror will smile back at at you so whatever whatever I project into the world that's what the world will project back at me so it's not that God is the one who's punishing me rather I'm punishing Myself by my own acts so yes there is the concept of a reward and a punishment I do good I'll get good I'll do bad I'll get bad but it's not coming from the from hasem hasem says I created the worlds this is the rules follow the rules there's going to be problem so if I do a negative action right away I'm going to get a negative reaction That's My Punishment so our sages teach us it's not that the kadosh who punishes me it's my actions that are punishing me so to say if I bang my head now at the wall I'm going to get a headache so I just punish myself and if I'm going to take in a very irresponsible way a rock and throw it towards this window and Smash It To Pieces the window is not punishing me I did a foolish Act and the reaction is negative so I might interpret it that somebody's punishing me so it's important to know that before we come and stand in front of our God on the holiest day of R sh is not the concept of all right now being under a magnifying glass and hem is one one wants to dissect me now and O I lied three months ago now that's not the attitude one needs to go into r r is the day that includes everything for the next coming year how I design my entire year what am I going to receive the entire year and yes one should look at it the fact that hasem is blessing me and I want to receive this blessing and I want to be what's one might say on hashem's best side but really I'm the one who's designing how my year will be it's not necessarily the point of focusing on what Hashem is Blessing Me hasm is blessing me in an unbelievable and abundance that's not the point hasem loves us hem wants to give us everything but how I do CH before is basically what I take on myself to behave the next coming year and by that that's the type of energy and the blessing that I bring on myself so when I do CH the entire is not to excuse me to kiss t to the boss no I'm doing cha by saying where can I get better I lied my entire year I constantly was lying I'm going to stop lying therefore I'm creating now these channels these clear channels to get this abundance that I'm going to get and I have a problem with gossiping I'm going to not gossip anymore I'm going to do chuva now the first thing that I'm going to take on myself is not to do it anymore whether it's stealing or lying or or gossiping or being jealous or being angry not controlling my words I'm not not necessarily talking now on physical sins that we look in the Torah the Tor has very clearly mitv that we have to follow and very clearly things that we we have to refrain ourselves that's also important but I have to make chah how how do I lead my life how is is is my words are 100% honest or though here and there I throw in a lie and the reality is that we all lie we all constantly lie all day long and even if we don't lie with our mouth then we lie lie with our intentions and with our acts and how we present ourselves and lying is a very severe sin because I'm basically the one that I'm lying to is AEM I'm not lying to the person in front of me I'm definitely lying to myself but I'm lying to the kadh trying to manipulate the reality and if one wants to work on himself on something to be 100% a good God-fearing Jew is mid is the attribute of a of truth and truth is not just talking truth is how behave I'm not fake and I don't carry myself fake and I don't say something and I'm not going to do it so there's many different ways how I need to reflect on myself and do my soul searching is not necessarily if I ate kosher if I didn't eat kosher if I keep Shabbat if I don't keep shabat that I have to do that's no questions here here is not something that is even negotiable there's not a way that I can negotiate with a Kos and say tell me I'm over the age of 42 and I live in Israel am I exempt from this mitzvah no the Torah says very clear Lov it's for everybody doesn't matter where you are how old you are what where you come from Lov means don't steal don't steal Tor tells you keep Shabbat keep Shabbat theora tells you eat kosher eat kosher so on the there's no negotiation there's very few situations when one can be exempt from a Mitzvah whether it's a life-threatening situation or certain mitvah that women are not obligated in doing and so forth but the Tora is very very clear whatever I have to do I have to whatever I have to refrain I have to refrain that's it but mainly my my the main part of my CH is my attributes my character traits that's what I came to fix in this world T are extremely important it's like air and food to my the same way that I don't prevent my body from air and from food the same way I can't prevent my soul from air and food I mean in this world there are three things that a human being must have which is food air and sleep so you can go a few days without food and you can go a few days without sleep but you can't go a few minutes without air so any normal human being every opportunity he has he sleeps when he's tired he eats drinks so our needs air it needs food and it needs sleep and that's the Tora and the mitv so if I don't follow the Tora and mitv I'm basically putting my soul on a diet and an unhealthy diet so if you're not going to eat now for 5 minutes nothing's going to happen don't eat now for 5 hours you'll get a stomach ache don't eat for 10 hours you'll get a headache don't eat for a day you'll be already nauseous and tired and you want to faint at some point you need to eat if you prevent your soul from Tora and mitv so in the beginning it might not react but after a certain while it will react it will start nagging you from inside so one person it will nag him by making that person depressed other person will have anxiety the other person will be angry the other person will can't control his his patience and anger each person will react in a certain way and they will blame it on anything else in the world I'm depressed cuz I don't know making money I'm depressed because I don't have a good relationship I'm I'm angry because my kids are annoying me no all these character traits that one might experience most likely is coming from the soul saying hello what about me you you're neglecting me here so it will come out in a certain way that we will interpret it that it's coming from my environment so I cannot prevent my soul from getting Tor and MIT but mainly what I came here to this world is I need to refine myself and I came with a list of character traits that are not so great and I have to work on myself because a when I work on myself I refine myself more than that I affect my entire surrounding so when I look to do CH and to prepare myself to yip to is not necessarily to say oh please forgive me because I did this and please forgive me for I did that yes if I did anything wrong I have to stop I have to stop doing it not necessarily because I need to get the forgiveness from God rather because when I do something negative I'm stopping from the abundance from the from the blessing to come to me that's it now not to compare it but just to kind of bring it into a metaphor imagine the the is like the the electricity company produces electricity all day long and it just projects its electricity now in order for me the consumer to get the electricity first of all I have to connect myself to the main supplier then I have to pay my bill and more than that I have to do an action I mean I can't walk into the room and say light I have to flip the switch which means I'm making a connection some type of connection and then the is there I want something to work I have to plug it into the wall I can't just say TV start working no I have to plug it into the wall I have to make some connection to the source that is bringing me the energy now the electricity is running in the walls whether I want it or not the electricity is in the wires it's constantly there whe whether I'm consuming it or not Edison however you want to call it is producing the electricity it doesn't get affected if I take it or not so the same thing is the Kosh the kadosh is constantly projecting his abundance and it doesn't affect him it doesn't affect him that if I take this abundance it doesn't make him have less this is the concept that we cannot understand our human mind will never understand that because according to Nature if I give something I'm right now in a minus I'm I'm I'm I'm in a deficit if I pour now the juice into the cup yeah the cup is now full but the bottle has a deficit it's lost something K is not like that kadh can pour and pour all day long he doesn't lose anything so the not to compare is like the the supplier of the energy if I take it or not doesn't affect him I'm the one who's going to decide if I take it or not and how much I'm going to take it and in what way am I going to take it I can take it in a small measure in a big measure it can come nice it can come not nice so my actions are the ones who are stopping me from getting this abundance so just to give you one example out of many could be that I got a to make $5 million and in actual I only made 100,000 why the was there I'm the one who was not worthy or I did not have the vessel to receive this and either it was by my negative acts that I cut the channels would bring me the bless in either I didn't refine myself to a way that I became a worthy vessel I mean if I have a cup now and if this cup has a hole in the bottom doesn't matter how much I'm going to pour in it it's constantly going to pour out so I create a vessel with my actions so when I'm losing something out when I don't get something it's not because hm doesn't want to give it to me I'm not worthy to get it or I damage the vessel to receive it that I'm getting it but it's you know flowing away you see a lot of people in Allen they make a lot of money but all the money is going on doctors and a car accident and this and insurance and the boiler exploded and this is went away and all the money is like it's coming in but going out right away so I'm giving one example out of many example out of money because this something that it's you know kind of close to everybody I mean after all we we kind of our entire life unfortunately is dependent on on money but this can be interpreted in anything it can be interpreted in in my relationship with my wife how good it is or how bad it is it can it can be also in in my kids how they behave if they listen to me they don't listen to me they're good students they're not students they're healthy they're not healthy it has to do with anything and I'm the one who's responsible of how much am I getting from the Kosh so when I enter R sh is not necessarily to beg for forgiveness and to pray to get an abundance is to understand in my mind what did I do wrong the last year that I prevented this year to from getting my maybe it was me maybe I was not 100% honest in my business therefore I did not get parasa and maybe I'm not 100% pure in my thoughts and my speech then my relationship with my wife is not so great because I damage it and maybe I do this and maybe I do that and it starts affecting everything is this is not a punishment from the from the kadosh it's my action causing a reaction so the way we need to look at it before is to to reflect back on this entire year to see what did I do wrong where can I get better the don't go don't worry you'll get the Hashem is unbelievable love to us he wants to bless us with an abundance of everything I have to see where do I have to refine myself now like I said before the Tora that's not negotiable if if you find in yourself that you're missing a certain Mitzvah that you that you're not doing that's it very clear or certain Mitzvah that you're missing or certain sin that you're doing and repeating yourself that's very clear go through open the Tor learn it from inside out know what you need to do what you not need to do and that's it then if you're doing what the T tells you that's it you're good to go but what I need to work on is everything around it so really we can sit here now for two weeks and just talk about all the little points and things that one can take from the month of Al and what to take out of it but I chose one thing that I believe is the foundation of everything and it's hidden and hinted in the word of is the month that we're in the month that precedes R and the letters of the month is Al now there's many many acronyms to the to the these four letters I'm from my beloved and my beloved is for me and there's so many different acronyms that we find in this name but we find something very very interesting we know that on the month of alul the 13 attributes of Mercy are shining in a very revealed way now what are these 13 attributes of Mercy mosu went up to the mountain on R because the first time he came down he saw the calf the golden calf and the whole story you know the the the tablets they broke and there was the sin of the golden calf and and so forth and hasem wanted to destroy the the the Jews and on went up to the heavens again and for 40 days and 40 nights he was praying and trying to get forgiveness from the K 40 days of prayers is nothing worked at the end of the 40 days mhu had an epiphany and he just said the 13 attributes of Mercy which we read them every day when we say and so forth he said the 13 attributes of mercy and like a precise code to a safe that's item says I forgive now as you requested and then M went down and that was on y from is 40 days when came down was onip that was the day that I said okay this will be the day of atment but mosu with all his prayers all he had to say is 13 words and he was able to punch in the code of a safe the safe of the mercy and the love of the kadhu now you can go now to a safe the safe is full with millions of dollars millions of dollars worth of diamonds and jewelry if you're missing one digit on the safe the safe is not going to open so whether it's digital or not if you look at the old fashion safes or what they have now in synagogues because they can't have the digital one on Shabbat to open the Aron kodes they have the old one with the dial so you have combinations 17 to the right 32 to the left 72 to the right you're missing one digit the safe is not going to open so sometimes that's our problem that we're missing one digit one little word one letter and the safe does not open so Mo revealed the 13 attributes of Mercy which are exactly how it sounds 13 levels 13 layers of Mercy that theh shines and bestows on us and every time that we have Shalom something wrong trouble then we pray and we say the 13 attributes of mercy so we know in the months of alul they're shining in a very revealed way to to kind of translate it to our terminology once a year there's a Black Friday and everything is 90% off so we're getting a 40-day Black Friday everything is 90% off I can easily approach to the K this concept is called the king is in the field you see now in America there's the presidential fight they're your best friend now if you're going to see now Trump on the street he's going to kiss you he's going to hug you he's going to shake your hands cuz he wants to vote after he gets elected if he gets elected think he knows who he doesn't even care who you are now they go out to the streets they Shake everybody's hands they're smiling to everybody so not to compare even for one second but the balatan who today's his birthday he puts it in a parable of saying the King goes out on a business trip now who is coming back to his Palace on the way back to his Palace he's Crossing through the village through the town he's going down on Aza and everybody come comes out to greet the king to see him so exactly the same way he waves to everybody he shakes everybody's hands he throws kisses everybody takes pictures selfies with the king so the same way now we have 40 days it's more to be precise 30 days from the month of that we have very easy access to the Kos prayers are being heard better it's much easier for me to start doing chuva in some cases the is a little bit more numb so in these 30 days the 13 attributes of Mercy are shining now a lot of people picture in their mind attributes of Mercy okay Hashem is is he has to to have mercy on me mean that I did something wrong but the right way to look at it if you're looking at the word of elul the first two letters are Al and lamed Al and lamed is one of the God's names God has a name Elohim which corresponds to the attributes of Judgment of of of there's the name of sh the name of there's many different words that we call AEM by his names one of the names is K Al this name corresponds to the mid of to kindness to love now there are many different gatri gatri is a numerical value that we take a letter and we calculate the numerical values of the letters and we and we come to to to different numbers so the basic one What's called the basic gatria is Alf is one bet is two and then it goes on UD is 10 and then CF it's already 20 then L 30 and so forth but there's another gatria that is called which means that Alf is one bet is two you is 10 CF is 11 because it's s it's the next one and then L is 12 and so forth so if you're taking the Al and the lamid AL is one and lamed is 12 put them together that's already 13 so here we're already getting the 13 attributes of Mercy which correspond to the name of hasem K that comes from the mid of meaning that the attributes of Mercy are actually love it's certain ways that God is showing his love to us now the word love in Hebrew is a what's the numerical value of a Al Hey bet 13 so we're coming back to this 13 again now if you're taking the word of now there's something that is called gatri is that we take a numerical value and we remove the zero in it so CF is 20 lamid is 30 and so forth so we remove the zero so if we have a l Al is one Lam is 30 but you take the zero off so it's three VAV is six and then another lamid again so we constantly go back to this concept that the 13 attributes of Mercy is not that the kadosh is saying oh you poor person I you have so much mercy on you rather it's a time when hasem is showing us this unbelievable abundance of love in many different ways how Hashem can show us his love this is the power of this month the power of an unconditional love that we have and we're getting from the master of the universe cuz when you're thinking of it the entire year we do everything possible to make him angry which is unbelievable how he tolerates us he tells us do this I do this he told us don't do this I do that what when you're thinking of it as parents I tell my child do this and he does that gets me upset I tell the child don't do this and he goes and does something else as a parent how can you not listen to me now look at this relationship between me and the K look how he's tolerating our our Behavior with love with patience you would think that he would want to destroy us in one second so the point is that hasm has this unbelievable love to us and this unbelievable patience to us that he's kind of tolerating our Behavior okay you lied fine I'll forgive you you didn't do this Mitzvah fine I'll forgive you if you do CH of course there's one thing that hasm doesn't tolerate and that's anything is between me and another person what is called Shem says I'll forgive you on Yip for almost anything if you do chuva and you stop doing what youever you did and you repent and you have remorse and you take on yourself not to do it again and you do everything that I tell you to do I'll forgive you I'll forgive you even for idol worship I'm not going to forgive you if you hurtt another person I'm I'm sorry I'm not interfering so a lot of people say okay I'll come y I'll fast I'll pay a lot of money you know as a donation and I'll do this and that hasem says look you're not impressing me I'm giving you 40 days now to make sure that you're getting your act together that there's not one person out there that is upset at you because if there's one person that is upset at you out there you know I don't need your Chua I don't need you saying sorry for for not eting eating koser for not following a certain Mitzvah so is basically telling us you want me to forgive you for your sins no problem I'll wash you yam Kip is a wash it's a washing machine but first you have 40 days you go and do what you need to do to make sure that you're making everybody out there that is upset at you that you appease them and that you squaring everything away and the only way to do it is only with love and this is called Isel Isel is this unconditional love to another person doesn't matter what he did to me now to say sorry for something that I did that's one thing that you have to do you have to make an account not how many times you didn't keep Shabbat or how many times you weren't particular with kosher and how many times you didn't do certain Mitzvah that's one thing you have to do an account in your mind how many people I may be hurt with my with my words how many people that I promised to do something and I actually didn't do and they're they're hurt and how many people I have affected positive or negative if it's positive good if it's negative that's what I have to do cha for I have to go now I had 40 days but now I'm already passed already 18s but to find out who is the person out there that might be upset at me because you know maybe I said something maybe I did something so to say sorry to somebody that's a lower level of Chua because a normal person says you know what B I wasn't fair in this situation you go to the I apologize I didn't mean to Etc a higher level of doing chuva in that respect is to forgive somebody who did something to you even if you're 100% right that's a very high level of Chua and this is what hasem is expecting from us to go to somebody and tell him I'm very sorry that I promised you I'm going to help you and I didn't this is the situation I didn't have the ability I didn't have the time I didn't have the mean I apologize please forgive me that's not easy too but it's much much easier and you want to go and grab one person after the other and apologize to grab your husband and say you know if I said anything that offended you if I did something that I offended you blah blah blah blah I don't have to get give you the words and you want to apologize to your kids and you want you to do chva you want to go to people and to appease them if you if I said something maybe I owe you something maybe I hurt you in some way okay that's that's a given but here comes a a a higher level that that's what hasem has he's expecting from us somebody did something bad to me and I'm upset because I'm 100% right here I have to find in myself how I forgive that person and this is a very high level this is a level that that is in in the correspondence of T this is called you know being humble it's the opposite of being Pride I mean one of the worst midot one a person can have is G is pride if somebody said something to me and hurt me then he hurt my pride my ego and I'll never forgive him and some people for 50 years they don't talk to somebody because he said something and all this anger is being cooked inside and people get sick from that most of the diseases because people holding Grudge and they're holding anger and they're not willing to to let go of something they create all this negativity in them and B them they have control of it they can just release it and let go now it's not necessarily that somebody will come now and beg for your forgiveness and you being mean and saying I don't want to forgive that's a different scenario somebody comes and asks you for forgiveness you still forgive and you're saying okay you know I also do bad things I want to be forgiven I'll forgive another person but it's mainly to forgive in your heart somebody that you can't even come and approach to that person or the person will never come to you or Shalom that person left the world or any other scenarios and almost every person if they look de deep down inside there's maybe some one person if not two or five that they're a little bit angry with or a little bit disappointed or they hold some type of Grudge and here is where a person has to climb to a much higher level and show this unbelievable love that is shining in this SM and say you know what I will forgive that person even though I'm a million perent right that's not the point if I'm right cuz this world is not about being right this world is about being smart and that's the problem with most people is that they constantly battle because I'm right okay so you're right big deal but be smart doesn't not going to help you if you're right you're driving here in the street everybody's cutting you off yeah you are right but what is it going to help you if you get upset it's going to help you it's going to help you if you blow the horn or if you curse him you bringing all this negativity on you yeah you're 100% right but that's not the point so in our life hold on in our life we constantly deal with situations that I'm 100% right my husband my well in my case my wife will say something and will hurt me my ego is hurt my G my pride is hurt and I'm not willing to let go of forgive because I'm right here I have to climb to a much higher level and say no you know what I want the master of the universe to forgive me for my nonsense he wants me to do the exact same thing he wants me now to forgive other people that hurt me or they did something against me or they hurt my feelings even though I'm a million per right has nothing to do with it it has to do with finding in me the point to forgive another person this is called is true is and this boils down to the point is that we're so close to mashiah we spoke about it the last sh that was the topic of the last sh that mashiah is at the doorstep it's an unbelievable wonder why he's still not here and the reality all the sources in all the books are all showing that we're already pass the due date of the coming of Messiah which is called bet bet is not a kick in Hebrew in Hebrew beta is a kick with an ey it's in its time so the same way that a woman when she's pregnant she gets a do date from the doctor he calculates the weeks he says this is the due date 90% of women don't give birth on their due date they either give birth a few days before a few days after my wife has a tendency we have six kids every kid two weeks late and every time we have the same problem we go to the doctor the doctor right away we got to induce you we got to operate we got to cut you don't worry he's coming out all the others came out nobody's staying in there so the same way that a woman gets a du date we also got to do that this is called the time in mashia has to happen we always had the opportunity of bringing the G the Redemption much faster this is called will bring it faster we're already pass that option the due date according to all the sources was in 2012 in bet which means that we already passed do they now we're running on the now we kind of need to induce the situation but the reality is is that mhia is at the doorstep and what stopped mashia from coming for so many years was many different things but one fundamental basic thing which was hating another person for no reason and the first bet mikash the first temple was destroyed from three sins idol worship blood ship and and forbidden relations since the sin was revealed then the length of the Exile was re revealed so when they left yush they knew they're going to be out for 70 years and 67 years later happened the whole story with M and Aman and Esther 3 years later they came back to but the second mikdash the second temple was destroyed from a sin that is called sinam hating another person for no reason for no real reason to hate another person so since the sin is revealed the S the sin is not revealed then the length of the Exile was not revealed and the sin is not revealed because I can look at a person and smile to him all day long and be his best for him and in my heart I hate him so this is called and unfortunately this is one of the worst problems in our generation that everybody hates each other for no reason because I pronounce the word a different way than they pronounce it or I wear my clothes different than they wear it or my Rabbi said this and his Rabbi said that and so much nonsense and this is the opposite of of is so we obviously we want to hasten the Gul and unfortunately made it in such a way that each and every one of us is pushed to a corner because it says in thear in the talmud that we have two options how we're bringing the redemptions either it's coming fast and easy or either it's coming short long and with a lot of hardship and and it says if the Jews do right away they get redeemed if they don't I'm going to put on them a king that his decrees are worse than and I'm going to make them do CH so right now we're in a situation the K made sure that each and every one of us is pushed to a wall push to a wall means that one person lost all his money one another person can get married another person can have children another person has the worst relationship another person has problems with health every human being in our generation has a problem and a problem that is burdening burdening them to a point that it's almost unbearable and some people have three of these problems and some people have five of these problems but everybody has some type of a problem in their life that they would wish they could get rid of and they pray for that and they're looking for remedies and they're doing whatever they need to do the solution is only mashia and that's why we have these problems don't think you did something wrong if you suffering from anything whether it's a health problem Shalom problems anything it's not your acts necessarily it's because has wants us to scream already enough is enough we want mashiach to come because mashiach will solve our problems any problem that we'll have that we have it will be solved by mashiah so made sure that we all have problems that I'm not comfortable because if I'm going to be comfortable why should I pray for anything somebody emailed me through three days ago asking me to come to Switzerland to give lectures and she said the the Jews here are so numb because they all have good jobs and they all have nice houses and everything is kind of good there so they don't even bother with their yish K with their serving God the problem is that unfortunately and I meet thousands of people every week everybody has problems and the problems are because Hashem says I want you to pray for mashiach to come exactly what our s says it doesn't have to be a physical King King has has decrees so hm is putting pressure on everybody so really what we need to pray for this R is for the Redemption to come some people say okay I'm going to pray so much for have Parada the next year I'm going to pray that next year I'll get married I'll marry off my kids or next year that this problem health problem will be will disappear instead of that just pray for mashia to come with all your kishkas all your problems will disappear right away so what we need to take from that because we're in such an auspicious time we're already way past the due date and when people come and say how do you know the do date and how do you know and so I mentioned that last time when I was here we had a whole sh three hours we just talked about mhia and I mentioned that I did a a two-year research I found over 300 sources in our Torah and tanak and the Z and the talm in books of cabala all pointing to the same time how the Redemption is going to happen when it's going to happen all the information we need to know so we know that so because we're already in such a special time you know you first of all you also fill it in the air you don't have to be a genius you don't have to be a AAL just look at the world look at the world how the world looks it looks like any second something is going to happen countries are crumbling down Wars everywhere eon iies are crashing currencies are crashing everything is not stable I mean you don't have to be a genius to see that something is going on in this world that any second something can happen the reality is that we're so close to mashiah that we really got got to get our act together for this coming year that Bia will come even before this but our entire intention and our thoughts and our prayers and everything has to be considered on the fact that how am I bringing the Gula how am I bringing the Redemption faster and smoother because I am a very big piece in this process and the basics of course is I have to keep to there's no questions here but how am I doing that with what I told you before is only with love whether it's love for the K whether it's love to the Tor whether it's love to any other person in my household but I respect my other half and I respect my kids and I respect everybody around me and then it goes out to my neighbors and my friends and it's all about love it's all about how am I projecting this feeling this attribute of how am I loving another person even though I can't stand them even if I can't stand them but I still have to love the person he's a Jew or maybe not even a Jew he has a good Soul he has good intentions so his acts are not so great okay my accent look so great too the point is that I have to find in myself the love for everything the love to the the love to the and the and love for everything that's the only the only way one can really do cha if I really want to do the right CH is by really looking at any person in a very very not Jud judgmental way and really seeing the good in every person cuz everyone can definitely point fingers at me and probably find on me a very long list of things that are not so good so if I'm not that great must be that everybody else also there's a place that I can find something good in that person so what we want to take from that because I I started the class by saying that we have 12 days till because today is the 18th day of so we know that the entire month of Al we have the opportunity on Al to do CH for all the AL of all the months of the year bet the BET of all the months of the year but from 18th day of I have 12 days now every day I can do cha for one month so today I can do cha for the the month of T and tomorrow which is the 19th day of I do CH for the entire month ofan and so forth 12 months so I have such an asici time that Hashem is willing to listen and willing to hear and willing to ignore 90% but he just tells you don't come with me with an ego and don't come with me with demands I want more par I want this I want that don't come with demands just come with acts somebody I gave two weeks ago a lecture about getting ready for it was on somebody asked me is that enough if I just promise that next year I'll be good said no promises are worthless she wants to see acts don't promise I don't know anyone that can go into a bank and tell to the bank and you give me a 5 million shekel mortgage I promise you I will pay it so Banks don't take promises nobody takes promises show me show me your credit show me what you have as as as collateral what is the house worse I'm not giving you anything with promises so says the same thing don't give me promises don't tell me next year I'll be better I want actions so the point I have to take in the next 12 days is he then I want to do my own clearing my own path chuva for my own life and chuva is not necessarily looking of how bad I was he also looking how good I can get but the right way to looking at it is saying my Chua has to do with how bringing the Redemption faster and I know people say oh we've been hearing about it for thousands of years and Messiah is coming just just I don't have time for this I have to worry about my mortgage and I have to worry about tuition and this kid is wild and that kid is not healthy but the the thing is that all these problems are because hem wants us to pray for mashiach to come cuz nothing else is going to solve it so my entire CH before has to be surrounded around with how am I bringing the Redemption and it's not a fantasy it's not a fake thing it's a real thing it's a real thing that mhi can happen any day yeah I know we've been waiting for so long but the same way that you wait nine months for the baby to come out the day when the day comes you don't drop your excitement because you're saying oh we've been waiting for 9 months he's never coming he has to come same way if you go 3,300 years ago they were in Exile in Egypt and they knew that there's going to be a Redemption they were waiting for it and even when M they didn't even believe that he had to start doing all these miracles to convince them but we are standing in the doorstep of mashia this is really happening and it's happening in our generation you have to understand what a what a merit we have to be the ones who actually see our parents and grandparents and great-grandparents were slaughtered and murdered for thousands of years so we can come to this point and see it and be part of it so we have an unbelievable opportunity and an unbelievable a merit to be part of it hasm says do the right chuva don't don't think of what I need next year don't worry hashm knows exactly what you need he knows exactly what's in your heart just say a short prayer AEM knows you I mean a lot of people tell me you know how many times I pray for things and nothing ever happened we're going to do a maybe next time about the tun of the four elements how I I guard my entire being but one of them is called de one of them is seeing one of them is Deb talking one of them is mish touching and other one is what's called but our speech is so powerful that if Shalom I say a lie or if I gossip or I I give a bad name to somebody or all these things that I do with my mouth most likely my prayers are not going to be heard heard so easily because the mouth already got damaged the tool that comes to ask already a minute before that lied or said gossip or anything so then L people come with with with the complaints hey I pray so much you never get it yeah but was two hours before you prayed look how much said how much lies you said how much promises you said and you actually didn't do it so the same tool that you're using to ask for the you damage the the The Vessel you want your prayers to be answered you're going to keep your tongue you know you have to keep your tongue from lying from exaggerating you know exaggerating is also lying so a lot of people think lie is just saying a straight lie to the face and a lot of people say oh you know it's just a white lie a lie is a lie so anything you say negative you use with your mouth whether it's a lie whether it's gossiping whether it's you know I don't know how you translate but basically say something bad about somebody whether it's true or not true in most cases it's not true the point is that if we want our prayers to be heard I also have to guard my tongue but we want to concentrate on the good things and we want to concentrate on the abilities that each and every one of us is a powerful soul that can change the decree of this world and I lot of people say listen you know I'm not so observant or I'm not so fanatic or I'm not so FR and what is my actions worth yeah you don't have to be observant and fanatic of room to that your actions are worth a simple Jew that barely keeps any Torah and Mitzvah does one good act we don't even know the power of that Mitzvah so don't look at yourself and say I'm not so from or even if I am from doesn't matter the level of how observant you are Hashem is not measuring us who's more religious than the other we don't impress AEM with if I'm more religious than my neighbor that's what what what that's not what is measured is how much I am is the intention of the Mitzvah and how much love went into the Mitzvah and how much appreciation went into something so small is measuring these little things we don't impress AEM if if I'm you know pretend that I'm so religious so one does not has to be measured I'm very religious I'm not so religious I'm so observant I'm not so observant that has not nothing to do with it it's one act that one simple Jew can do that can tilt the entire world to simple Jew just one time in his life puts on one time he didn't lie so each and every one of us is so powerful that our little acts are so strong that I should look at myself I need to wake up in the morning look in the mirror and say you know I can bring the Redemption by me today guarding my tongue maybe that's going to be the mitzvah by me today being patient with my kids controlling my anger and my impatient and putting a smile on my face maybe this is the Mitzvah that will convince the entire Heavenly Court to say okay mashia is coming today because of that person so each and every one of us is extremely powerful and don't underestimate your power by saying oh the other Jews are much more religious in me there's not a competition who's more religious is the the power of your mitzvah better the quality than the quantity do one good Mitzvah with all your heart and with all your intention and with the right intention it's much more powerful than 50 other mitv so the point to take from today is that we're literally the doorstep of mashia we're right in the beginning of the before the the new year we in the beginning of a new start I mentioned before that the r is called R because it's the head because everything is in the head everything is is is already decided in that day so in one day I can actually set my entire year and it's not what I didn't do last year it's what am I doing the next coming year now if I'm thinking of okay I'm going to do these actions because I want more money this year and I want better schom and and and better relationship and so forth then it's kind of beating the point it's kind of coming with conditions to the kadh rather I'm my my mind friend should say no I want to do this this and this this year because you know what it's going to make the world a better place and maybe because of my chuva and my actions we will Merit to have the Redemption and our sages say with the Merit of righteous women we went out of out of Egypt with the Merit of righteous women so it all depending on you we have our entire trust in your hands so what you need to take from today is very very simple that each and every one of of us is a very powerful soul and we have a very responsible and important work to do and we have 12 days to is when decides everything so if is not coming in the next 12 days we can maybe convince that this year will be the year of the Redemption should be the year of the of the G because the reality is mhia is already here lot of people find it like too extreme to to to observe or to believe but msah is already here he's ready to come he's ready to come any day he's really here now some people say when I'm saying some people I'm talking about great rabbis and MIM some say that he knows who he is and he's just waiting for the moment some say he doesn't know yet who he is but he's here he's following the T and all he needs is to get like the prophecy sayses dwells on him like happened to mosenu and that's it he's ready to come so the reality is that he is already here and ready to reveal himself it's just depending on us now he wants to reveal himself my theory is and don't take it as a as a as a source it's just my theory that mashia is here and every morning he wakes up in the morning and he tells the kadosh die we're waiting they're waiting soem answers to him you know what I looked online and you know how many lectures are going to be tonight thousands of lectures are going to be tonight you know how many people are going to do chva tonight you know how many Torah classes are going to be you know how many Mitzvah people are going to take on themselves today wait one more day and how many more people are going to hop on the train so sh says okay okay you convinced me I'll wait another day and every day the same thing hasm tells him wait one more day you know how much chba people will do this person will forgive that person and this person will give charity to that person wait but at some point mashia is going to say die enough enough people are waiting they need me so we need to convince the that we're already ready for the Redemption that we're ready to receive it we have to basically convince the master of the universe that enough is enough and we won the Redemption and that's why most of us are having certain issues that are a burden you know when before the Jews left MIT it said that made it much harder on them and the slavery was with hard work with materialist materialism and bricks and say what was will be there's nothing you under the sun the Redemption the the the the the the galut the Exile that we have now is exactly what they had 3,300 years ago the only difference is that we have cars and we have iPhones and we dress different that's it they lived in a big city like a New York like a Los Angeles they were stuck in their materialism there they were working hard same way that we work hard everybody works hard here nobody can raise their hand and say oh I only tick on the computer for two hours and thousands of dollars just come in we all work hard for our money some work more hard some work like worse hard work less hard but we all have to work real hard we are our life is evolved around our job so the same with them they worked hard and is materialism we're all slave to materialism and if you think you're not then you're wrong we're all slaved to materialism the new phone comes out we all jump on the new phone we constantly after these materialistic things try to go one day without your without your phone we'll see if you can handle it that's that's if you can handle one day without your phone then you're not slave to this materialistic thing but if you can handle if you can and then the point is that we are slaves to materialistic things and I'm saying it on myself too it's not that I live in some bubble but that's the reality of the Exile and worse than that when it's called talking about leim yes maybe if you're looking in in the time machine they were carrying bricks but leim is something that is burdening me Le is a brick it's something that is a burden so they had a burden we have burdens one person has a burden with his health one person has burden with parasa with his I everybody has burdens so the Exile that they had then is the same Exile that we have now the only problem is that we are so trapped into it that instead of praying for the Redeemer to come we're praying for the for the pressure of the exile to be a little bit less this is the wrong attitude instead of praying for the pressure to be removed pray for the the Redeemer to come and there's not going to be any more powers of impurity so there's not going to be any problems anymore so with our prayers and with our amazing good acts and with our sincere CH and with our love that we're going to bestow on our on our fellow person around us where it doesn't matter if it's somebody close or not then we should we should re reach to the level that we are doing a complete Chua and we might even have the Merit to have the G the Redemption coming way before and ifom it should wait another few days this year should be the year of the Redemption we should all be Reve the Redemption should be revealed we should be definitely taken out of our our own personal Exile but it's all depending on us it's depending on our acts depending on how we taking things serious you have a little bit of of material to use for the next 12 days and mainly to apply this unconditional love to any other human being doesn't matter what they did or what they say cuz if I can find in my heart the space to release and to forgive this will activate the exact same action by the kadh to find in his heart to forgive and to release and by that by default we'll be to get the G should happy very Speedy in our day and we should see it with our physical eyes very very soon [Music]