Pre- Tishe b'Av Farbrengen - Reality: Golus or Mashiach? Rebbe's positive approach - RC Dalfin

So it's the seventh of today. The Gomorrah says that the destruction of the Ba Mikd or the temple began already on the seventh of. So we are now in the period not only of the three weeks, not only of the nine days, but the most intense time of the sorrow and agony associated with the with the three weeks. So let let's just for a few few minutes talk about this idea and base it on what it says and we know a rule maybe called them. We have our resident Dr. Velville here is don't see here yet. Anyway, Hashem brings healing before illness. The Gomorrah says that. If the Gumarra says it, it's 100% true. So the first thing a person needs to know is that if there is destruction and if there is sorry and agony, sorrow and agony and pain, there's there is healing that precedes the illness, the sorrow, the pain, the destruction. The question is how do we find it? But before you find it, before you access it and before you live with it, you need to know that that's the matas. You see many times the issues that we confront and we be get despondent about is because we don't know that this is the mitzus. This is the reality. We think the reality is the the illness, the destruction and it's two days before tishabove. It's the seventh and Thursdays tishabove. And you you ask yourself a question, is the reality tishabove or is the reality mashiach? Is it right? Or god forbid if someone has an illness, whatever that may be, a sickness. They've been diagnosed with an illness, a sickness. You say the reality is the illness and the sickness. So the Reba numerous times both in his writings and his teachings and also to people online when they came to get dollar and dollars for andas the Reba shared one very important point that's important to focus on and that is that a ye is truly nonreality non mitsus the mitsus of a Jew the exist existence of a Jew is transcendence. That's who the Jew is. In other words, the illness and and and problems and destruction is an adjunct to the Jew to the Yid. So when someone came to the Reb and cried their heart out and poured their heart out and asked for a braha, of course he gave them a braha, they should be well. But if you take if you take a look and you listen carefully to the Reba's answers to people and it's online today there's no you don't need to uh go to Heb University or to a research library in London or in in in in in Chicago or Milan or wherever you could you could see it online listen to his answers to people who present them with difficult problems particularly of health health related He he always almost always focuses on the positive and turns and turns it around. And you ask yourself a question, you're such a smart person. You're such a holy person, such a gifted person. Are are you are you in this world or are you elsewhere? Are you real or you're fantasizing? The doctor has told me this is what comes up on the x-rays. This is what I have. I have a toothache. Give you an example. I just heard this a few days ago in an interview that I did and anyone that understands Yiddish should listen to this interview. It's with Rabbi Shalom Gurari of the famous Kabad family Gurari. He's a rabbi of Mashpia in Salo, Brazil. He's a old friend of mine from yeshiva from 1977, a very smart individual and it's very enjoyable to talk to him. So I interviewed him. He came to New York. He was in New York for a few days. So he he told me that the Reb at at the 1953 I believe or so there was an individual there who had some issues with with with Kabad and he was a kabadnik and he was a kabadnik from Russia and with pedigree and and he felt that a certain institution that he his father ran and that he was given by his father kind that belongs to him. It belongs to the family and it happens to be it's also under the umbrella but really it's theirs. Okay. And and of course the previous didn't agree and was and didn't and didn't go along with that but he passed away. So it was the Reb's problem in the early 50s and the Reb took a very very very strong opposing attitude and wanted this mess cleaned up and right away and he didn't have any interest in negotiating and sitting down and debating. It was clearcut to him this is I don't want to say the word this is you know a cancer This HAS TO BE CUT OUT OTHERWISE it's going to ruin the body. It's going to hurt others. Get rid of it. If the person is willing to get to to remove himself from the position and go away in a nice way, great. If not, we're going to force him out through through a bezden. Okay? And it's it's a long it's a long detailed unnecessary details for today's generation. So, I'm not going to share it. And even if you call me privately, you're not going to get out the information from me unless you get me very drunk when I'm in bet sheish and then you'll have me tell you secrets. But until then, you ain't going to hear it from me anyway. So, so the Reb says, "Someone writes to me, Mark, listen to this. Someone writes me a letter and he said, and he has a toothache." So he has a toothache. So he's asking the Reb, I guess it was severe. I can't imagine. He just wrote the Reb for a little toothache. It must have been something serious. And and the Reb says a toothache. Did you take a look at the last gossip that I'm paraphrasing what the Reba said. He didn't say in those words. I'm paraphrasing. Did you take a look at the type of words coming out of your mouth? Uhhuh. Maybe that's the reason for your toothache. Now I'm asking you, okay? I'm asking you guys here if I bring it. Is this a normal answer? I'm here. We have a velv. He's going to diagnose it based on medical science and everything else. That's that's his responsibility. Of course, you be pleasant. He say a prayer with the person before that's all proper. But at the end of the day, what does the charge show? What does the X-ray show and all of that comes along and he says to THE PERSON, YOU'RE COMPLAINING to me Mosha Meyers about your toothache and I'm telling you it's because you spoke gossip about so and so. He didn't say the name. And if if you stop your gossip, basically you're lushing horror and bad mouthing so and so ostensibly it's going to go away. But how? My tooth hurts me. The diagnosis is in. The X-ray shows this and this calamity, this and this issue. The answer is this is what the Reb is really saying that a Jew IS BEYOND THAT, TRANSCENDS THAT. The real Jew is NOT THE TOOTHACHE, NOT THE DIAGNOSIS. The real Jew is a healthy Jew, a healthy person. That's the reality. That's the reality. The illness is the adjunct is the add-on. And there's a reason for it. Check yourself out. The Gomorrah says the Gomorrah says you have a headache right you're not going to drink coffee in the morning for those that drink coffee you're going to have a headache says the notidis not the says learn check yourself Sorry, check yourself out. The is saying the same thing that Reba said. So the Reb shared with us over so many years of his talks and direction both in writing and in speech that the approach to a problem is and why is that? because is the what's what mean that means is what what sets sets up the situation what is the reality and that's why so many answers what the first things check what what does check have to do the way I feel or if I'm if I lost money in a business deal right check your muz and hug hundreds and probably thousands of times we've seen that after you check your muza this was wrong that was wrong this wasn't put on the plates and on and on and on the same thing is now with the three weeks with the last two days the gar says that is the savior of Israel the iie the messiah is born on tishov. That's not a bubba miser. That's not a a fairy tale. It's a fairy tale. The kamar HAD NOTHING BETTER TO DO THAN TELL YOU STORIES AND MAKE YOU feel good. If you have that attitude, you have to recheck your whole Jewishness and your whole belief system. And you know, it's you have it all wrong. I don't care how long your beard is and how old you are, you have it all wrong. And guess what? There are PEOPLE AT 75, 80 THAT HAVE IT ALL WRONG. THEY'VE been living with a a mistake all their life. So that when says that that the savior of Israel is born on the Reb explains in his that's the reality of tishabove not the destruction. The destruction is a is a result of a practical issue that took place. Yes. with Hashem knowing and wanting and happening. But that's not the mits. And this does not contradict, by the way, the concept of when a person's has finished their mission on earth, their soul returns to Hashem, they pass on. That's part of the reality. PRE MASHIACH, EVERY PERSON RETURNS TO the earth and it's a mitzvah to return to the earth. And a person should have a plot, a will, a person shrouds. People prepare themselves. I had a velvative from from Europe who lived somewhere here in Brooklyn. I think in Beninhurst, we live in Bor Park. you've been here Bul and uh Yi he went offline but Yane's I think father lived there for a while anyway the thing is that that um we we would come to visit him once a year Khaneka time my my parents took us four siblings four kids to visit this we called him uncle uncle or uncle you know he was an old man from Europe I don't remember his name but he was, you know, in our minds, he was a little a little short little old man from Europe living alone. I think he had a wife and maybe, you know, she passed on and maybe had kids somewhere. And he was in an apartment building, that's my recollection, in in in Benzenhurst, Brooklyn. And we went to visit him once a year. And when we came to him, this is what this is what I remember. to child a childhood reme memory. He would open up a closet and he would make us all see his shrouds, his takim that are there waiting for the day when he passes on that he wants to be buried in these shrouds. Now ask yourself, HI MISHA, ASK YOURSELF THE QUESTION. ASK YOURSELF THE QUESTION, is this is this what you teach young? Is this what you show young children? We were all children, seven, eight, nine, 10, 11, little boys, you know, young young boy, girls, young. And what does he do? HE SPECIFICALLY OPENS THE CLOSET TO SHOW US the shrouds, the in which and he wants us to know where they are so that when he passes on, he wants to be buried in these And I'm talking about it because it is the nine days. It's a difficult time. It's a time of of mourning. We don't have the BA mikdash. We don't have Msiah yet. So, IT'S AN APPROPRIATE TIME to to talk a little bit about these deep-seated feelings that that that that hurt, that are painful, BUT YOU YOU HAVE TO TALK ABOUT THEM. IF YOU DON'T TALK ABOUT THEM, you nothing will be done. So what's the purpose of him showing us? I think I think the purpose is the purpose is to know that that the the way the normal way of the world is that there is one day that you pass on and that's what God wants and that is holy and therefore since that's what Hashem wants I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT I want to be buried in these shrouds in these for whatever reason to him WHETHER HIS WIFE MADE HIM OR his mother made him or he bought him I don't know I think I think either his wife or mother made him and maybe he brought him with him from Europe and it was reality to him and what I'm saying is that even in destruction even in death this is what the rebba teaches in the in the in the associated with the three weeks the nine days and tish above the reality is the Tyra the Tyra says that you that you will pass on and when you and you pass on you buried in the earth and so it becomes holy not sad not morbid on the contrary I remind myself of another story a wife told this once years ago there was a woman who wrote a letter to the Reb we have the letter I believe and she writes to the rebba This was the daughter I think of of her of the mother who died who had a heart attack and and massive heart attack and died at a CMA that at a total scroll dedication and completion that she gave for her late husband and at the event she dies. So the daughter wrote to distraught like what's going on here you know like like we're going to say regarding the 10 martyrs this is and this is the reward you get raped by THE ROMANS AND KILLED and destroyed and eaten and and and and purged and all of that for learning the the use the language in the Gumar is zoo the zeus This is and this is the reward absurd. You know the answers her the answers her we don't know why and when Hashem takes a person but one thing I can tell you the fact that she passed away at such a holy event as a cm say the conclusion and completion of a new Torah scroll that is holy. She died ON ON A MOST HOLY EVENT. LOOK, LOOK, look how the takes a negative and and and and spins it around. And not because he doesn't have what to say or he wants to make the person FEEL WELL. IT'S BECAUSE THAT'S THE REALITY. THE REALITY is that death is tyra and the fact IS THAT YOU PASSED AWAY that your husband passed away. I'm sorry. The the the WOMAN PASSED AWAY GIVING A TYRA FOR HER husband at that event. So how holy could that be? Again we see his attitude and you know today people are so fearful to say this type of to think this way to say it for sure because it's not politically correct it's not politically correct but if you and you and you think and you internalize we finished our I don't know if some you guys So we finished our ninth year of learning is together. We start the next I believe the 10th year. We started learning in I believe LOL 2017. So we're now going to be at LOL 20ou 2026. So we're going into the 10th year. The whole idea of learning sides is to internalize it. This isn't a program for intellectual um intellectualism and uh you know philosophy. You're not getting any college credits from this course. Not not one. I'm not giving you I'm not giving you a certificate and I'm not giving you credits. But what you get from learning especially every day or at least four times a week is you you you start thinking differently. Do you understand? In English we CALL THIS THE PARADIGM SHIFT. No longer do you think that the most important thing is another dollar in the bank and another piece of real estate and a nice vacation and and and a nice woman. All of these things become silly, pure, silly, TEMPORARY FASCINATIONS AND PLEASURES. THEY LAST A MOMENT, TWO OR THREE OR A few years and then it's over in all aspects of material matter. All sides teaches you why is why why is money important and why is a nice wife important and WHY IS GOOD FOOD IMPORTANT and why is a good vacation important because you have an opportunity to spiritualize God over there and if you don't guess what you're on your own. So when you GO DOWN TO THE Bahamas or you go out to the Golan or you go out to Greece, wherever you're vacationing, you have to ask yourself, what am I going to do there that's going to be spiritual and holy and that is the main purpose of my trip? So you'll say, well, I'm going on vacation. I need to I need to air out. I need to lay on the beach, right? Okay, you could land on a beach, BUT LAY ON A BEACH IN A WAY WHERE YOU DON'T SEE, excuse me, the exposure of naked half naked people. Turn your your thing around. Cover yourself. I I DON'T KNOW. YOU FIND A WAY HOW IT SHOULD be kosher and at the same time benefit from the beach. You understand? And it could be done if you're sensitive. If you're sensitive, SOMEONE GO SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T KEEP KOSHER YET, they go to a restaurant, make a choice in what what you eat and certain things that you know THAT ARE TOTALLY NOT KOSHER, DON'T EAT. THE FACT THAT IT'S not a kosher restaurant and the plates are not kosher. Okay, those are levels to get at. But in in other words, the fact that you take the time and say, "I don't want to eat this and this item because this is really not kosher. I'm just going to have something else even THOUGH IT'S NOT A KOSHER RESTAURANT. MAYBE THEY PUT OIL IN IT AND OIL wasn't kosher." All of that. The fact is that you took the time to to think about God, think about kosher. So you made a sacrifice that shows you're and you're where you're at where where the the person who's at that level wherever they're at they're making it more spiritual more. So this idea of learning and this I'm tying in the the event of tishabove and and together with the importance of continuing to learnidus and that's why whether it's one person or 10 people we teachidis almost every day right becauseidus is a lifeline to hashem and more important than ourselves is our kids and grandkids. We all right? Most of them have children. Fact that children are grown. So what you see them share share a concept of you know you have two wonderful girls right now. They're get they're older. Share with them a ver you hear and share something you read online something you hear in sh. let them become exposed to another way of looking at things that's healthier and better. So this is a little bit about the days that we're approaching and that the reality of the day is the birth of the Messiah, not the negative. Simultaneously we know and we must know the laws of the day and everything else that comes associated with tishabove. You know I'm sure you're thinking cuz I'm thinking about it so I'm sure you're thinking about it too. Why does Hashem keep us in gulos and not rebuild the basikdash 2,000 years? What pleasure does he have? Ask the average Jew, whether it's here or ner, do you really care about this? If they'll tell you the truth, they'll tell you, I don't care. I do it because I listen. I follow. So why does Hashem, what pleasure does Hashem get from that? Why does Hashem continue with that? And the answer is as the Reb said also about Mashiach's coming. He wants us to make the difference. He God Almighty, he knows the answer. He knows when Mashiach is coming. He wants us to experience it. He wants us to demand it. And this is why the Reb came out with the call in the 1980s. We want Mashiach. Now I was at these fibbrangans right and then he said how much longer and he used the language we should chant and scream and beg mo means how much longer would be right in gulas THAT EVER WANTED WE SHOULD SAY admi the crying out for Msiah WHEN COMING FROM US NOT FROM THE SID THAT IT'S IN THE SID AND IT says we hope for you every day for salvation. That's the THAT'S THE RABBIS and we read it. The is question is do we feel a need for Msiah? Now, anyone that's gone through serious trauma and tragedies in their life, I believe that they really want Msiah. BUT SOMETIMES THERE'S A CURVEBALL, a sinker, a splitter, and we get fished. We get, you know, like and we lose sight. We lose sight of what's going on. So the first thing is don't lose sight. Stay focused. Stay focused. And Mashiach, YOU WANT MSIACH, BEG FOR HIM, cry for him, DANCE FOR HIM, LAUGH FOR HIM, STORM FOR HIM, TALK TO OTHERS, TALK TO YOURSELF. Make it an issue. You know, I remember when the Reb passed away, I was in Jerusalem. Guess where I was? I went I was going into the tunnels the underground representative took me in and I saw two bakar and running to the I said to myself it ain't good. I don't know what it is, but it was 9 9:30 in the morning, you know, Sunday morning in Israel. Well, the children already in the yeshivas. It's pretty quiet. The is very empty. And when we came out, there was a message for the rabbi. He took me to Kabad Rabbi that they're dancing in 770. So, we both looked at each other and we said, "Yeah, they're dancing." All right. We we understood that the rabbi passed on. And then so I I wanted to get back get on a plane and to make the the funeral room. So I was walking I right away started to walk up from the CIL area from the tunnels area up to the old city to get a bus or a taxi to go to my place where I was staying. And it was quiet as though nothing happened. No one was in the street yelling. No one stopped me and said, "Are you a kabadnik? Is it true your Reb passed away? I know you're going to say they didn't know yet, but it's not that complacency sets in. We start accepting the re the situation. The Reb teaches us not to accept the situation that we're in gulus and to be constantly badgering, if I may use that word, god in a way of pleading and begging and asking that he send redemption and when and when we that's the whole idea and he left this concept in the last discourse that he gave before he had a stroke in 1992 that it has to come from us and there's no exchange for Hashem, God Almighty doesn't take away our free will. Always remember that. I don't care how holy and kosher and religious you are. You have free will. AND GOD WANTS US TO COME to the determination that we are lacking without the Messiah. And that's what this day is about. this day of tishabove at the same time that there is a sadness there needs to be a hope. So some people see it as until midday when we say lamentations kinus and we sit on the floor like we're mourers we are not supposed to sit on a high stool with non-leather shoes and if you don't have sneakers or that or non-leather shoes you take them off and you and you recite some lamentations and I want to encourage you to to say you don't have to say the whole thing it's a lot but say it use an English uh lamentations book which explain It it at least translates it into English. Some have a commentary. So you have an understanding some understanding of what you're saying. So you feel if you read it, I tell you for myself much of lamentations I don't I don't know. It's hard words. It's it's different language. So I try to focus I try to focus on some things that I that I pick up and to think about it as I keep as I read. So the first part of the day is morbid sad lamentations. Kinus from midday on we put the chairs back up. We can sit on a regular chair and we go into the mode of Msiah. So may Hashem help us that we this will be the real preparation for this awesome day, the birth of Messiah. So that today we still have two days. Today is Tuesday, Wednesday and then tomorrow. Well, let me finish that we will we won't have to fast and we won't have to be sad. We'll have Msiah. We'll be jumping all together and dancing the B mikdash. And this WILL BE THE PREPARATION FOR our three and a half week break which will be coming back in Ma the 4th of L August. Um, I forget the English date now. Oh, yeah. I think it's August 17th. August 17th, we will restart a new mimer of the I'll try to find one that's associated with the holidays. Uh, and we will study then. Yes. Y, you wanted to say something? >> No. Okay. >> I just I just wanted to say keep the eye keep your eye on the prize. >> Keep my eye on what? on the prize. >> That's right. That's right. Very, very well said. Don't everyone enjoy. I'll be in touch. Take care. Take care. Easy fast. Byebye.