Practical Chasidus w R' Dalfin - Mai Mevoreich 1946 #5

[Music] right we're on page 118 in the Miami maverick maverick and we're at the point here where he's speaking about two things the the kokis Hegelian and the Curtis osmium the revealed powers and the essential powers and we spoke a lot about it and now he applies the same idea to the emotions of the heart ie to love and fear of an you know so let's look inside page 118 the fourth line in middle of the line heads out to Keowee belieber the joy head verse joy and happiness is his wedge to stuck TOS is like from the word toka not not talking blowing pitaka meaning inserted when you when you bang the nail into something it's toe cuts really banged in is that is that the origin of the hebrew word like caca no well well I take that back that I never thought I take them I take that back I mean Tucker I think is a Yiddish word oh but maybe you're right I never thought of it think it's the first time that I'm thinking about it maybe you're right I don't know talk to me he'll talk of me is really really you know right right right it's very good very very interesting that you say that you know languages are are interesting that I guess we need to ask a linguistic professor of a Yiddish but anyway going back so heads with GI Billy Boyd our joy is wedged in on this side in his heart Billy Boyd uh opiate Akio a belieber though and on the other side of the heart they're two sides that on the other side tears are wedged in to the heart so that's the literal meaning of that piece that phrases are going going back to our idea here of a verse or page 118 fourth line after the comma the other he yes we shall have when we say that we have a love for hashem at the very same time you're accepting and saying that there is quote yes Michel yes there is someone that has the love in other words the love notion automatically says there is someone on I that has the love well it's it's yes just unrefined level but it is some form of yeses well divide my it's the yes mr. AF will devour my there is someone there is someone that has a love for something shall nymphal a third of us who would see a senior and this someone is drawn to something which is an entity which is an existence what do we understand from this what we understand from this is that on the revealed level Boas other love for Hashem as great and special it is nevertheless entails the yesh the self because to love there needs to be a lover of some sort and as soon as you say a lover there is a yesh now that ever says the same is true with Yuna the senorita he birdie her or the same the Oakland A's a double mouth fear means you run away but if I or the seeker you jump away backwards little hurt maser double my from something you see a fire you run the other way so the thing that you see is an existence and it causes you to react to the existence so again their burrow what is the realization of the yireh the fear that there is a you that fears so in this murmur by the way contrary to other mahram it makes a difference between a veneer and the other is more self and year as more genuine but here he puts them all in the same category because his discussion here is a different coming from a different place so what I what I want to bring out to you and we've mentioned this way the beginning when we started to lyrical cities but it's important to reiterate especially since summer you are are relatively new to the Casa de shiran and that is that income in casa de s-- in general and it's about in particular there is a notion called in ioan iacob there's a Hebrew word Yaga's what is the word Yaga's mean boas association what a association and relative but in yanaka see we mean the theory of relativity the Chabad Hasidic theory of relativity okay that's my own corner phrase okay Inuyasha she literally means it's relative but I'm just you know adding verbage that this would be the Chabad plus to this theory of relativity and what does that mean that means that when you learn one minor and you're talking about say in this case Ivan you know love and fear and here he puts him in one category and he says they both are associated with the yesh and then you learn another mind where it makes a distinction between Alvin Guerra wherever is with the yesh a hero is not with the yesh and you ask the question it's a contradiction and the answer is it is not a contradiction because it's all relative to the content in which it's being discussed and this what I'm telling you now is is necessary in understanding considers properly without this you'll find many contradictions and you want and you'll be and you you won't understand properly you'll be you be mixed up in other words we use the same words in the same ideas in many my Marin and many discourses but nevertheless the meaning could be different in each one or in many of them even though he was the same idea words and he does an example and that's why I'm telling you this here we're talking about alvin tierra in many my mahram Hillel it says that either the notion of love is more of self that's there and yira is more genuine less of self and here he says the same a year he brief of the singular or I made a double ma so here he the same the verb of the same for is a conjunction it's saying just as in other there is the yesh right so to an era there's also the ish so question is make up your mind is year a yes or year is not yes and the answer is it depends on what the context of the my Murs is it's yes I see its relative was a relative what's this what's this relativity here here were discussing the difference between conscious osmium and Kawasaki lujah essential powers and reveal powers so in this discussion if you if you in this discussion gira is also yes because the era of classic ilium is yes just like the Alva fallacious of Gilliam and it compare both of them in comparison to click recites me amar yes and the other my mahram where it makes a distinction between either being yes and your and not being yes it's not making the distinction between cases ops mutilations IV luuuv so therefore there it's proper to make that difference here it's improper to make that difference at this point tell me to understand you understood what I said like oh I need to clarify more yeah don't be don't be don't be bashful you know I I need you guys to understand what specially when we learn you know you know real classiness ideas you have to understand that this isn't Cibola this isn't and wound up this isn't shaken with your head that's like learning c'mon rushing places you have to understand the plot and if you don't you have to ask and we have to repeat it you know when weak men when I give you know talks and inspiration and all that you could shake your head but when I say a story could shake your head but when we learned these ideas if it's not clear to you ask me please yes hello we're just going to comment that the idea of there being a yeast at the core of you know which the tonya describes as kind of the fundamental spiritual emotions so the it sort of maps in psychology to a to a field that's called object relations that they that when are the extent to which our perception of something allows us to perceive as out side of ourselves and it has many implications in in both how we relate to the world and its interpersonal relationship but it seems like it sort of grows out of the similar idea here so could you give me one example of yes so the famous example in human development is if you show children in a certain age you know say a doll and then you hide the doll so that their their consciousness is not developed to the point where they can hold in their mind the idea that the doll has a continuing existence yeah that object is no longer permanent in their mind so so so you know then when you show it to them again they're just delighted because it's like a whole new crew kibriya the whole new creation but but the in the development of the mind into them at a certain point there comes the Faculty of their being a self and another so so when I see it doll I recognize it's not part of me and I has a continuing has its own intrinsic existence and and even if I can't see it even if it moves out of my field of vision then then then it's it still has its own field a field of existence so so in spirituality that you know for there to be a novel yoora there has to be so there has to be a person has been a concept of the self and any concept of another that you know concept of Oceanos as other and and a fear of another but ultimately we we we want to pursue that that reality that the children that originally which is that that there's a that there's a fundamental one there mmm-hmm after class I think I believe I understand what you said now let's look at our Viera how it is from the perspective of chaos osmium look look inside further rather the yellow hearts means but the love and fear that's the essential to the being to the human condition he never he should himself but thatís my Mela bailiff or my mela this love is that one is drawn automatically on its own in other words that I love not because I'm prompted to love I love not because I am I have a reason to love I love because this is who I am in my very fiber of existence is loving God I give you an example show them give an example breathing breathing you breathe you breathe and you and you're alive do you stop and ask and you stop and touch your your breath during the day you say hey I'm alive no you stop and cut your hand and say I'm alive no when do you touch your head to see if your pulse is fine when you're not feeling well not feeling well is the condition of yes it's analogous to the yes feeling well and breathing a living life normally is the condition of existence in this genuine form so that's what he says here that there is a bee album clinicals of Gilliam cutter sir Gilliam means there's a reason for it there is an inspiration for it there is a prompting of it so all of that all of those issues are not self I'm sorry are not essential they're already a reactionary it's a reactionary issue here that it's a reactionary Israel and as soon as you say Boas it's a reactionary issue there is the eye that's reacting to something what about the other axis the other ask mrs. it's like I'm alive I don't I don't question I'm being alive and in other words a healthy person doesn't question being alive of course you give thanks in the morning you say the brothers know that but we're talking about it's automatic that's what he says look at these words you know either he said ninjas Buderus made a love or mamela this iva is drawn or the data from a love from it of itself in a way of itself will the male it automatically that's as far as the alpha you don't need any prompting to love a sham from this perspective of criticizing him because that's who you are when you come to this realization that's who I am it can't be any other way now what about you know okay now you know so - with fearing Hashem aina in a brief remember before we said in the scenario of the Clarissa Gilliam that the yireh is the idea of grief oh I fear you show him so I run away from you the child fears the father so he hides and escapes he does think behind his father and mother's back because he fears of the consequences and we do the same were fearful of a sham so we tried to find ways of doing it behind God's back we convince ourselves hashem doesn't see us that's a gyro that is from the cliff asagi william perspective it's a year of God that's associated with the I Moshe the year that we're talking about now from the coitus how ask me and from the essential the summer perspective you don't fear a sham because of the backlash you don't fear a sham because what's going to be with my family in 30 years will it say of my to stone that I was a god-fearing Jew well like I told you the story with the holy cuts forever who said that to attain me the cmus the attribute of truth one has to be has to work on it all his life including claim on his deathbed and he said I was I'm laying on my deathbed I'm about to die and what am I thinking about what are they going to say about me after I die right you're about to die you're so sick and what are you concerned about what will be later yes hello yes would I share an anecdote when I was a kid one time I was really upset about something I remember having this elaborate fantasy that I would die and everybody would be at my funeral and then they'd really be sorry that I was suddenly me but I wouldn't be there that's exactly very good exactly the same idea that the cuts Kerr said it's exactly the same idea just a different words different twist but it's the same idea the eye is always there pushing itself even when dying so you know there is a year that comes from God and I are one and therefore the I like the word all it's not about the fear it's about the or it's the relationship that Kleypas osmium so that's what he says it's not about Britta I'm running I'm not I'm fearful of God and therefore I run away from issues I don't you know I stay away from alcohol I stay away from drugs I stay away from all the all the all the addictions because it's gonna mess me up that's one level and trust me it's a very basic beginning that we need as well but nevertheless at the end of the day that's a fear and that fear comes with the I being very significant so therefore he says let's look further collaboration shutter the element reported register Liam kipper Shiraz was mine Aida we call that the days of year of or Rinna crying those days are called baroque youngnam neither in the days of or nor amines or awesome days only coma claim he Nicole other mementos valia every person during the Yom Maryam is an elevated status over Hampshire column a Shalom ila and is drawn to what's above himself during Rosh Hashanah Yom Kippur the ten days those those are the days where we elevate ourselves from our stuff and we say enough throughout the year 355 days a year it's all about myself there's a 10-day period we'll just call the days of all and it's it's it's an expression of the crisis I've seen him here I have an opportunity they have all four colors work hoo for God not that self-serving and about me but it's about God the relationship oh that's a very in other words I have all for you because I want to be in the relationship and why do I want to be the rage because you only been the relationship so the perspective of the days of all of the young Naeem is not on self and we make a big mistake we think when we talk about forgive me for this or forgive me for that and it's Yom Kippur and even the crowning of the kings I've told you this when we learned those discourses it's not about the self it's about the relationship party is God in a relationship with you and you with a relation Russian that is the barometer of the 10 days now how to measure that also involves forgive me and forgive me and forgive me and I'm sorry and I'm sorry you understand if you in a spousal relationship but a marriage relationship if if if we're if we're it's at is do you forgive me and do I do this for you like I told the other day it's a disaster it's a recipe for disaster there has the tradition kedusha means holiness the basic core idea of a Jewish marriage is key do sin right with the then we call a marriage love no do we call it fear no we call it condition you know why because the essential idea of marriage is holiness the you and I Crete can we create holiness it's all about holiness understandably as a result of holiness don't be loved and they'll be or it'll be respect and they'll be taking the garbage out wasn't when it's full from the kitchen into the garbage intend and cleaning the house with shoppers and helping out and washing the dishes on and on and on but that's all a result if it's tradition if there is no kaduche in everything that follows is just a temporary patch which will end guaranteed because even if it doesn't end in a divorce it ends in a in a non heartfelt sincere relationship and you can by the way even if someone marries to begin initially he didn't know this idea or she didn't know it or didn't care about it you can reignite your marriage that it becomes condition it becomes holy and we need to do that and that's the purpose of taking some time and going with your spouse uh out somewhere and on a stroll taking some time it's to reignite the condition to make sure that your marriage is about reducing and that's what let's go back over here I'm saying this is an example to the young Miriam the young men know in the days of war Sholem is all about the relationship we have 10 days to examine ourselves and ask ourselves are we doing it because of the eye or are we doing it because of the relationship so that ever saying that there is a form of yira which is not about the eye it's not about running away from a fear or from a problem it is creating the bond of the relationship and continuing now he says on the comb Oakland he nae Cola deployment Oz Ballia every person you hear that I mean this is a heavy statement for a rabbit to make for anyone to make him for it ever to make every person during the ten days of all is in an elevated position meaning is is is not it has the opportunity and ability to be to be genuine osbahr Leah Hoover I'm shuffle of mushroom island how do you know Bo us if you're Ballia you know the answer is thank you forsake everything you forsake America you forsake Baltimore and you come tears you stroll and you live in a building you don't have a house and you do it because why because you want to live in that adjusted oh the proof is in the pudding you understand that's what I'm saying you could get to talk about the relationship you can talk about the relationship and if you don't have what the show for it it's your fantasy and you're out of your mind you have to be able to concretely show how does my relationship with others Buerkle and press itself and when you make a sacrifice in the physical world then Hashem says and you said yourself look it's not it's not the stork I could live more comfortably in America but no I'm giving the I'm just using that as an example it's not just about making a layout that you throw I'm just saying the idea or living in America you know you can bring people into your home people who you wouldn't normally socialize with and you do it because you know that this can help them and they need to help so the genuine attitude that ever says during the ten days of young later I am every person I am it is valia I think we should which is underline these words and knock them into a head but all of them are you made us Ballia over ham chuckle lamarche Allah my Allah your drama said to something above you you're not just about eating and sleeping and Papa Papa Papa Papa Papa but you're looking for a God where is God where's a chef how can I find more of you God how can I be more of your your servant and you and you you bet you swim and bathe in this reality and it's edited and if you do it long enough it overwhelms you and guess what it sucks you into its current and now you are in the waters of Torah and the waters of hesed in the words of a Shem let's continue RINO the eggs they shall be larger than ever now adds explanation meaning it is not that you are running right hillo you ask that blood grocery yearning day rates be halia Hillis it's not perfect that I want the Aliyah if you want the earlier there is the yes there is the you the ninjas behind shaho that I want the Aliyah and I'm drawn towards it he said not that rather what is it ellaby Dennis man made me a love it comes automatically it's like Moshe you've been swept away you don't know what's happening you've been swept away so yes you're running towards God but you're running towards a sin it's not because you understand why you should run towards God rather God sweeps you and you just allow yourself to get to go along you know but hassidim there's a saying look high in the volume we take a little higher mozilla Khayyam that we shouldn't get in the way the rabbit at sadiq he will he will fulfill the God wants of him and and we can be part of that as long as we don't get in the way not usually guess what guys we all get in the way in other words if we wouldn't get in the way the Bronco would flow through us but it's our stuff our mind our heart in various issues gets in the way so if I see they would say borrow one second I see them to say but it's like this look high in the high and yet in Hebrew and Yiddish they would say man zone it cow your muffin Callias a Hebrew word which means room we should not men's own it we should not ruin it how do we ruin it by getting in the way get out of the way just a bit away let the press yes no yes no yes no it doesn't the funny in other words if we only have the funny that's right that's right but but we have to develop that and women become a hundred percent no but I'm saying Boas is like sometimes we say let me help God it's like let me help God let me help what's the best way to do it let's have a board meeting fool there's no board meeting necessary here just get out of the way and God will take care of it and free us and our life get out of the way just be humble and let the broker and you'll see you'll see and I'm telling you guys I see this in my life over and over when I get in the way there's problems as issues that stuff when I back away and I say I said just take over and leave me and I work I'm not getting in the way it goes but dandy it's great I'm telling you it did it and you feel so much better you know I feel better because when you get involved the ivu comes along with a lot of stuff a lot of mishegoss right you grew up this way you went here you have this you had married not married kids no kids bad kids good kids holy kids whatever not bad kids you know I'm saying what conservation is also thing no hostage show them those things bad kids I mean you know issues that you have with children whatever we have all kinds of issues from the physical to the spiritual so all of that is the eye when they told you yesterday from rabbi dykes and I repeat it that he said that when he thinks about his own situation in this family he gets depressed but what he thinks about helping another what he can do for another it becomes happy don't get in the way we will stop here and we will continue tomorrow mr. chef Saiga's on take care