Practical Chasidus w R' Dalfin - Amar Rabi #4

okay so good day to everyone we're on page 183 in the memoriam of the cotton vol.3 the minor red rocks are dryy and we'll start today learning to chapter 2 but let's read the kids our synopsis of what we learnt in chapter 1 so let's look at it together on the page 183 towards the bottom in the smaller letters potato pls ue8 sell Misha limitless ma the trader makes an impact makes a difference changes a person if the person indeed learns Torah for the sake of TELRIC also show limitless ma FA yes kama day is Bakula zoo there are several attitudes and opinions that this chain that this change makes a Kakaako salut until until the ultimate virtue which is key Revati Allah brings the Allah remember we had the rabbit we had rabbit our Alessandro his opinion that fluent area was small you will create peace and the heavenly and earthly abodes then we have ROVs opinion that it that you built a palace a heavenly and earthly palace we learn Torah for the sake of Thoreau then the and opinion of Rutgers a nun who says that it protects that you cause protection for the entire world and finally I'd wave his opinion that it brings the jeweler the redemption that's what he says here in other words when you learn Terry for the sake of Clara there are various accomplishments it's not that that the contradicted each other there are multiple accomplishments the ultimate accomplishment is that it actually brings the gula let's continue healers cool awesome tryin did the eruv actually i take this sorry this synopsis is not for the previous chapter it's for the upcoming chapter okay the the initial the initial redemption of Egypt is considered evening Arif Maris the eczema you see aha Serbian but the actual leaving vacating Egypt was during the day right at night we had Passover Pesach but the actual going out of its land was during the day that ever says we'll be here talking about in the upcoming chapter made sir huh Goran the tightness of the neck okay new words re mates are absolutes are narrow Mitzrayim is associated with the word mates are Mitzrayim mates are huh Goro Goro is the neck right here makes a higer oh the narrowness of that your head is large your body is large bigger and in between there's a neck and it's a snare oh thing compared to the head of the body mates that I've got in who how much range of other what is the the be miss Ryan within man it's your neck why oh man MOOCs have a not say to let me those it's an intermediary between your mind and your heart in order for things to come she'll them from the mind from up here to impact the heart it has to go through a narrow narrow straits we'll talk about this in the minor but that's what he says we're going to be learning now let's actually learned chapter to Mazzello color is a potato is morrow whoever involves himself in the study of theta for the purpose of theta which is called wish mom for its sake the Mitchell aboard a potato Sheila small subtler stator the small high neuchâtel you to me Illinois and again he gives his definition meaning that the Torah illuminates him not that he tells Tora what how to illuminate the situation but he's a receiver a receptacle and he receives the guidance and illumination of the Torah that's the meaning that's the ultimate experience of learning title is more imperative it must be say South Coast potato that his involvement in tater t-fal boy he being young Nevada should impact him in matters of avodah if you learn boy Austerlitz ma you are going to change not maybe but surely it's for sure and and frankly when you see you don't change that's because you're not learning turretless mom you're learning Torah for various different reasons but if it's really for the sake of Torah and you're allowing Torah to illuminate you and you're not you know telling the Torah how to be the Torah you're gonna change right because you're looking for you you want its illumination so what whatever and wherever and however if lumen eights you you go along but when we bring in our stuff into Torah and then we say what we didn't change then you come to the rabbi you come to your teacher you come to much peace a teacher ready my spear I'm learning and learning and I'm still second I'm still the same old fellow hey I'm still still stale unimpressed boring I want to sleep in I'm not interested in studying the answer is because somewhere inside your psyche inside your makeup you have not submitted completely to Torah but you are legislated to Torah yes boss right right the boss if you if you say or think that you're a hundred percent right he doesn't mean he I know I'm learning because Hashem tells me to learn no I don't learn because I wanted to change me I'm learning because I have a belief in God Oh buddy says learn what we're saying is that the result must be from such a learning that it'll make a change but you're right you're so right if you if you go about with that attitude I'm birdie because I wanted to change me that's also not with smun exactly that's it let's continue so that's why it says the words look at the words here the heckler hit the heckler it must be re but if it must be it can't be that you should learn Torah and remain a horse you can't remain a horse if you learning Torah properly you'll be a lion your bill you'll be a raging lion with the Praetorian God because you're following the dictates are sent over Zi hain Hebei is big enough and now they're obsessed and these are the various opinions that we quoted at the beginning of the Mimer regarding the results of the notorious MO and he says and i Belkis earlier a man this rabbi says sure Mason turn the page to 150 180 for showin that this rabbit says this that this brings peace the pimalia shall milah in the heavenly abode of mother makkah and the earthly abode pimalia in your inhalers okay what what is the word pimalia means i've been translating it abode but really in Jung in Jana halos and your life favors means that it's it's of all it's not just a setting where they're eating popcorn and watching the football game this setting this pub malya this gathering is a awesome gathering there is a energy and awesomeness to this gathering and over there you cause peace to that gathering violator what is this practically me who England me those this refers to the emotions over shallow and when it says that rebel of Sunbury says that when you will perish more you bring the book the date motion you bring sell them to the pimalia it means who England have Stavros remember what I told you right what are we saying is finestra borough he says sure London brain if he makes peace in heaven who is a share making peace what's going on we have McCoy oh Michael the angel of water because real Gabriel the angel of fire they're at each other's necks they want to extinguish each other one wants fire one what's water a Sicilian comes a little God Almighty he says hey guys you working for me and I have room for both of you and he makes peace he brings them together so Sholem is taking two opposite forces you know this verse is the very easygoing force and he says you could live together and you need to live a peace and you can live in peace if you know that you are working for a superior God so that ever says they says that Rabb Alexandra he says that when you learn later for the sake of title title is ma you make Shalom beep Amalia you make show them in this intense situation right we're not talking about making peace amongst weaklings we're talking about everyone is a heavy hitter and this guy is a heavy hitter and transportation and this guy's a heavy hitter and budget finance and he says my friends we don't have money for more buses we cannot afford to have more buses come and pick up the Gators at kinder left to go to your fever at the girls school in the morning sorry comes along the Minister of Transportation that says when he talked about the only reason why why we have buses is to transport give us a kid left to learn Clara he says I understand but there's no fun for it we have a schism we have two opponents and each one is forceful his view that's a Cavalia pelos awesomeness fearsomeness he says so in the family of muhammad o malley schemata god almighty makes peace and he brings together the two forceful opposite opinions and forces then I get the other standout we've now taken this simple Talmudic statement and raised it or open that up better said to a whole other experience because because neither when you learned to tomorrow on one second he'll oh you know it's like enigmatic what does it mean he makes peace to the heavenly abode in the Lord what's going on over here now we understand we have a situation which we have to forceful emotional emotional powers emotional waves and we need to get them together because each one says there's no room for the other one yes [Music] right and I see this thank you for that in doubter ever in history talks about who is who Cabala soil doing it with an acceptance of God's yoke and Joseph represents to add to increase which is the idea of intellect you know which adds to the more and more understanding and each one has a different direction so via gosh I love Yehuda you who the approaches Yosef and ultimately there is as it says in the haftorah of the they become there's two pieces of wood and they become bond you'll read it enough Torah so this is also part of what you're saying let's continue inside and it says behind new Hamidah shepherd live you need to bring priests to the emotions of the heart honey lovers mohammed ur service a whole that are born and no logos that are generated by the Middle's by the emotions within the intellect SEVIS a whole just for a moment where do we where do moshe we're doing motions begin where the motions a beginner further windows it were do emotions begin and Moses don't they give the heart they begin in the head of their emotions yes in the emotions of the heart our heartfelt emotions you feel fear and feel love you feel mercy but if you think about it where are they generated will they begin they begin yet in the mind and it's called mythos schepis a toe in motions within the intellect because when you think about a certain thing and you understand it you develop right there and then a tendency to say I want it or I don't want it I like it or I don't like it but it's all up here it's in the cup in the head in the Satan and from there somehow it's translated that transported into the heart so that ever says the mythos of the heart are generated in the middle of the seho and one needs to bring so low we're talking all about your name fella because the Gemara bollocks angry says nearly torah for the sake of torah brings shalom brings peace brings together forces that are emotionally very passionate at each one in its own right and its own direction and brings it together so that and says that you should know where those the where does those emotions begin with its passion it begins in the head but in the head it takes a second seat to the mind the mind the intellect is in control in the in the head in the heart who is in control heart emotions so isis shall I said shall I'm God makes slowly he makes peace by bringing them together that's the first opinion number two they'd have a mild a second opinion arrived he says the lead supervisor he said potato lachemann not only does one who studies thoroughly smart nice and solid been am make peace between them and with shegaon bring their PO to show my love he does more so he actually builds a heavenly Palace true in yin haha vana hoo-ha Sofia about Veda sama yeah this means that he actually comprehends and understands with his mind very well the situation at hand when you talk about bringing peace between two opponents or from one to the other from the mind to the heart there is the emotional way of doing it and then there's an intellectual way of doing it so he says that the second opinion this rabbit named rather Rob says that not only do you bring peace to the heavenly and earthly abodes but you actually build a palace in heaven and earth what is we to build a palace no one's building palaces it the pilot of a palace which means your your understanding fully why there should be peace between the two you understand that the benefit of of herding and fighting won't change the situation you have to change the paradigm right what is time you teach basic Tanja Maya Charlotte a la llave mind over matter hey that's why you could die it from today to tomorrow and then you gain the weight back if you don't change the lifestyle and the attitude towards food most times the weight comes back just giving one example and so it's true with anger with insult with all those character flaws that people have unless they made what's called a paradigm shift you are who you are you will raise a certain way and that ugly those ugly demons are stucked inside and they come out they come out you know that famous anecdote of the cat and the mouse where the cat was was you know so was walking around the hall and so how the waiter is bringing the wine glasses are giving it to people and the cat said I'm a cat I could do the same thing I'll train myself to walk around and somehow offer people drinks so the cat decides to do that and one day over a mouse comes in and and the cat and the mouse go to each other I think the cat drops all the wine glasses in the old break what happened the cat reverted to its very core you're a cat your your the level of intellect of the cat is not human intellect a cat isn't Stachel so as soon as the mascot came into the room the cat went crazy and forgot completely that it's carrying a one blessed didn't a second nature to it it wasn't it's real nature that anecdote is given to explain that if we don't make an internal change in our mind in the MOA the lave the heart will always revert back to itself if not today tomorrow if not tomorrow in ten years but that part of you that who you are and if it's not healthy and and you don't like it unless you you you understand how destructive it is and how you must eliminate it and you work on it it's always gonna be there that's a a basic tenant in Rambam practice I'll say this and of course I see this elaborates and mr. Broomhall oldest part of talk about this so why you saying this he says he arrived Omar you build one second hello both of you you build how to show Milo everyone's gonna get a chance to give me one second you build a palace but why is a palace than Maya I'm asking you a question Oboro what are you following oh you're dreaming okay he says here that Rob says that when you learn Kerala Sh'ma you build a a a palace of heavenly and earthly palace and the river says here the palace is tantamount is equivalent to the MOA and asking you why did you do you follow my question you don't understand my question okay I'll let you I'll let you think about it as you walk home today okay okay now re and then Hillel I really wanted to ask something - this question of being able to change permanently the PTO's will your attitude say so another small but if you actually learned what you think of what are you going to illuminate what are you taking with or that you have - concurrently change your way what are you saying again what what each one each each one of the four opinions is kind of has another another opinion and and the second opinion of this of Roth is that if you don't change your paradigm the way you think about it you me those will remain ugly and destructive even though they're armed hold for many years so you have to what what yeah so in other words so therefore engage he's so he says learning Torah the small needs to come to a point where the Torah changes your paradigm yes yes yes yes Hilla what did you want Hilla okay okay okay so listen you know these things are said said easily to implement them is work and you got to work we have to work there's no we won't put earth to play golf every day and even playing golf to put that that that that golf ball into the hole is not easy you know anything that could I told you once the Hasidim of the third river of the poverty atomic said that they had a famous quote and and it's something that we should live with anything that comes easy run away from it run away from it because if it comes easy it means you didn't earn it you didn't create it and it's not you yeah so temporarily it feels good but at the end you revert back to yourself so don't look for handouts you know the river the river you know I just read Hanukkah right the river used the menorah I don't know if you saw this online it wasn't a silver menorah and the river was given was given silver menorahs he chose not to use them so Zalman Jaffe of Manchester who had a kind of close open relationship with the Reverend the Rebbetzin you know a more of a friend to friend if you if you could say that and so he asked the red book he says I gave you no we gave you a beautiful silver menorah we'd loved the rabbit to use it because a revered sadiq is a king you know and you should use a a prominent menorah and that ever wrote him a letter and the rebus said thank you for that thank you but I don't use a silver menorah because I don't want other people to feel that they that they're less than me in any way because they can't afford of silver menorah or they weren't given a silver menorah that's one example just the other day but my son shared with me with what rabbi Weinberg of South Africa told the community here if I bring him in the 60s he had his Bar Mitzvah his father started to broadcast matsuri Shabbos teaching Tonia on the on the airwaves the wev D in the New York area and and he also started to relate a talk of that the Rebbe said on Shabbos he would give over 15 minutes of the talk of the Rebbe so he wrote to the rabbit that this particular matzah Shabbos he asked his sons having a Bar Mitzvah at a hall and he wants to know if it's all right to broadcast from there so the rebus said of course but don't say that you're having a Bar Mitzvah in a hall this was in the 60s this wasn't in the day when you know everyone people did I had my Bat Mitzvah in my house okay in my house and he go back 10 15 years before 16 you probably had it the shul your father brought a little motto my father my father in 1950 had his Bar Mitzvah in in Rama and in Ramallah right near Tel Aviv right right now yeah not far from you guys rambha my father says his father came to shul with a bottle of vodka and a cake maybe one Aloha diem and a piece of cake and they wish the boy my father Mazel Tov becoming a Bar Mitzvah that was his Bar Mitzvah nothing more and he said he stayed a good Jew okay so rabbi Weinberg wrote to the river that he's gonna be broadcasting from the hall in which his sons having a Bar Mitzvah that means he rented a hall which in those days was considered a fancy thing spending money and their ever said I don't want that the Tongass year that I'm encouraging you to do on the radio for you to say that you're doing it from a hall because other people will feel slighted they can't afford to do it by miss Miller Hall so you could you could one second motion you could say that you're broadcasting tonight from the bar mitzvah but don't say hall a big sensitivity you know but why am I saying this because to change the paradigm to change a person's emotions requires an intellectual decision to to to make that change you have to really understand why it's unhealthy and when you understand and you really understand not its lip service then you'll act upon it and we'll help you make that change yes motion during polish mom is one-half dude that's the get the right look look you know again his definition of totally smart is not an easy definition to implement allowing yourself to be guided by Torah and not intervening and saying Torah I want to tell you a little bit how to guide me we all tend to tell the Torah you know like this again so it's it's not easy to literally small very few people learn Torah just for the sake of Torah as Boas pointed out earlier even in this scenario the the difference between the mindset of I'm learning the Torah that's it versus I'm learning a terror to make a change normally you know I'm not even talking about a person who's about to Shuba who wasn't religious and then becomes religious and says you know I led this secular life and this wild life you know drugs girls all the NARAS kite and I wasted away what the heck is going on enough already right that that that is a given because if you think about it if you engage in all those three things you end up on the streets and usually end up dead you know so why why kill yourself God put you here to pay you could do so grace you make a change you get married you have children you build a Jewish home you have what to show and if you would have been in the bars and in the Radio City and in Hollywood then you would be in Las Vegas or you'd be in Tel Aviv at the you know party what do you have another drink and another and another pleasure pleasurable situation which is here tomorrow and gone tomorrow here today and gone tomorrow nothing it's totally waste a waste of who you are and you come to that realization that doesn't get me that means that practically you have found an equation that tells you it's worth to make a change totally SMAW is not about it's worth to make a change what I'm saying is that's going to put what I just said is a very important practical equation to get us to be normal and calm and civil and stay married and have children and and stick with it okay but that doesn't mean yet that inside your heart you've made a deep real change where you don't have that lust anymore or that that birds like the story that I've told you over and over from the Baltimore Jewish Times about 20 years ago there's an article of Bali chufa who are not really sincere in their true ver and the proof and end the end the end there I don't know if Hillel you read this but I remembers cuz it it hit the ton of bricks so he says and I knew I knew a few of the people that the writer interviewed about 20 people and wrote about 20 people's one or two of them I personally know so I related to what she was writing he or she was writing and one of the things she says this one guy from from from Crown Heights al Shabab Nick you know he did true ver he married he had children great every morning he would travel from Brooklyn to Manhattan on the train to work he would choose a train car that he knew someone was sitting there were a big jukebox and played rock n roll music because he had this type of rock'n'roll music so she said so the writer said you see that person's true vers not sincere now you disagree with her because we are human beings and the outer air band Tania that's the beauty of autonomy of the prototype of the baina me that telling you that we are what sub a they will not accept the Kim a bacon is how much do you control yourself so the person yeah okay he didn't get the tiger of rock'n'roll out of a system it doesn't mean that is not a from jus and doesn't mean that he's a fun he's a fine you get that something that he needs to work on but she was looking at the flipside is saying is that is is he a real bout to Shuba his his urges of his youth when he wasn't religious still still are there deep down that was the analysis of the article and and and and again that's not the way our holy Torah looks and judges and up it's totally it's totally a secular way of looking at it nevertheless nevertheless and this is the point that that we're discussing now the minor is their value to know that there's certain issues that are still remain inside that you need to work on absolutely absolutely and that's the beauty of live living life and that's the beauty of living the Torah life is that every day I have another opportunity to change them to grow so hillo in the beginning you know you spoke about them you know you said something and I wanted to say to you that you know every day when you come to shul when you Davi when you put your towels over your head you have a chance for a few moments to visit to reassess and to grow again and it's a daily opportunity and to me that's such a wonderful special gift that God gives us he says amen go to shul or if you're not the avenues of a reason put the towels over ya take some time put your phone away lock yourself in the room think about the words you're diverting your relationship with I said and refresh yourself refresh yourself and refresh your mind your cup ask yourself the hard questions it's only you you're under the Tallis it's between you and God ask yourself the questions who am i why am I where am I going and learn don't give your own cockamamie answers learn what the Torah tells you who you are why you are and where you are the Torah gives us answers every day where am i why am I and Who am I and when you do this every day I promise you after a while you'll say you'll see there are changes in your values and things you know that you had a desire for that were unhealthy will dissipate and if they don't that's where therapy and counseling and comes into play you know you listen clinical depression is clinical depression you could preach and literally smell from today to tonight if god forbid you have clinical depression you need a psychiatrist to - you know - to help you or psychologist yeah you know I'm not through those that don't see the value in therapy and and in psychiatry in psychology but at the same time there's so much that we could that we gain from allowing the total of small attitudes to infiltrate us so everyone have a great day and you go home now think about these ideas I think it will really help all of us Tigers OC all tomorrow but