Powerful Words That Build Or Destroy Peace - MUSSAR Pirkei Avot (9)

[Music] n thank you for coming lots of new people welcome feel comfortable and we'll we'll learn some Torah have some food snacks drinks make sure you have blessing and we'll get some and learn how to become human beings what do you think so we have this is I think number nine number nine and we're getting a lot of really good feedback on the series uh a lot of people are saying you know aside from obviously was very interesting and um relevant but uh again we've gone through it a couple of times already and uh it's time to see how we could apply all this beautiful Torah to our life and even though the CH you could obviously learn from it endlessly uh m is more direct when you learn m it's more direct application to your actual life and everywhere whether it's business uh like we learned about last week or it's she or it's U really anything it's uh like my father used to always tell us first of all be a human being then you can do whatever you want be rich be poor be this be that what first of all be a human being and in essence that's one of the things that we're forgetting in Tor Nation it's not just the secular world that has problems really you know behaving like human beings sometimes it's the religious people and uh I got a um a text from one of my other students who's uh very funny but uh he he texts me he says uh you're a prophet and I said what did I do he says I went to the mikve this morning and exactly what you said happens happens some guy was doing push-ups naked in in a mikve and this is what we talked about last week you have to understand that to go do a mitvah of going to the mik but then walk around immodestly walk around naked thinking oh I'm just among guys like you're in a football locker room you're making a much bigger sin a much bigger sin by doing that walking around naked not covering yourself thinking that it's okay cuz just among guys then the mitvah that you're making by going to the mik and as a matter of fact my R who's amazing says he hasn't gone to a mik for 5 years already because of how people behave there and he lives in it's not like he lives in a uh you know full of Arabs or something he lives in y unfortunately it say sometimes even the religious World forgets how to behave and the reason for that is because just like the ram says people like to delve into the Torah into things that are mentally stimulating into the into the Mish into different things of different parts of the mid but very few actually have the guts to look into M and I say guts because in order to learn M you actually have to have guts why because M requires you to change okay so listen today you didn't know this till now you know it fine okay so next year you'll have a better next year you'll keep one more mitvah in Shabbat next year you're going to do something better on great what do you think hasm is clapping for you what is he clapping for he's clapping for when you stop being angry not because you're listening to some self-help book that's telling you contain all this anger inside and build cancer that's not that's not that's not a working on your me that just means that you just kept your anger and you're expressing it to the world not being angry means that you finally realize that there's no reason in the world to ever be angry to such an extent that thear actually says anyone that's angry and let's say he takes this uh remote control or anything he throws it it's 100% just like he worshiped an idol that throwing of this remote or a pen or any expression of that anger is 100% idol worship so for thear which is from Hashem it's not for me from hasem Mount Si we got also so for hm to tell here you throwing a remote because you got mad cuz your team lost you got mad cuz your stock went down you got mad because I don't know something happened and you threw something across the room you acted like an animal for about 3 seconds hoping it's only 3 seconds not the whole day Hashem says it's idol worship how could this be okay hasem listen I understand we got to do mitv we got to look a certain way we got to act a certain way we got to be nice ta but come on no I got once in a while I can't get angry once in a while I can't say give the guy the uh the bird cuz he cut me off why I can't get angry AEM no it's 100% idol worship that extent why because he says if you're angry that means that you think that everything is supposed to go your way and the reason why you're angry is because it didn't go your way you thought that the stock was supposed to go up when you bought it and it didn't you thought that the employee was supposed to be on time and he didn't come on time you thought that your wife is supposed to talk to you a certain way and she didn't you thought that the baby is not supposed to fall at 1 and a/2 years old and he did you thought you shouldn't get a flat tire and you did life happened life happened Hashem runs the world with without you and you got mad about it which means that you think that you're a minem because if you think that the world is supposed to run in accordance to your tune you're in essence saying that you're a Min hasem and you've made yourself into an idol therefore if you actually put this into perspective and actually this is hard work this is not like you listen to the sh and tomorrow you're never going to be angry again again this is you have to listen to this and many many other like it for seven years straight and then you're not going to have anger from salant the one that started the M movement said that it's much more difficult to for him to repair fix one mid than it is for him to finish the entire sh and finishing the entire sh takes seven years if you do DUI so I finish my point so the key here is that when you realize that there's never a real reason to be angry you won't listen to these self-help books that telling you this and just contain it don't express it to the world get over it meditate and one of these other crazy things that they tell you to do all they telling you to do is just keep it inside don't tell people you're angry smile kill them with a smile no hasm is telling you no no no you don't actually have a reason to be angry my son ever because once you realize I'm the one running the world you know that everything that happens I did it what you mad at me for running my world we you to tell me what to do you mad at me for giving you a flat tire you mad at me for making your kid fall maybe I made your kid fall because you deserve the but I didn't really want to give you what you really deserve which meant something much much worse I said okay let him suffer a little bit over three years instead of Shalom the kid breaking in the leg he got a little scratch six times over three years it's much better the kid breaking his leg you got a flat tire why cuz I saved you cuz there's an accident that I had to make down the road and I want to save your life so I made you have a flat tire and I saved your life so you going tell me how to run the world so when you get mad your in essence getting mad at theem and you're trying to tell them how to run the world in essence you made yourself into an idol so this is the reason why once we realize that we're never going to get mad yeah what's the question we ask questions yeah I believe states that Hashem does get angry Hashem gets angry and it says in the G he gets angry how long does he get angry few places it's like a second is different in a second is an actual uh um yeah go ahead yeah time that you say that's how long has get angry that's what I learned now it also says that Hashem gets angry every day I believe right every day it also we are also supposed to emulate the mid of right right palm of Hearts M okay so what's the question so the question is are we allowed to get angry no once every day no no why not all of the midot that there are according to the r and according to the um uh R and all the that you have the r explains it in that all of theid have extremes everything has an extreme every desire has an extreme it's extreme you know desire for money someone that loves money and someone that hates money neither one of them are healthy so what's healthy Middle Ground is someone that loves women and someone that hates women neither one healthy Middle Ground everything is good with middle ground except one Mida what's the mid anger anger you have to be to the extreme of never being angry which is very difficult nonetheless I'm not telling you guys to become tomorrow but you have to know where to get to you have to know where to aim to why is anger something you have to be extreme from because nothing good can come out of it so what does it mean when thear says in a couple of different places that bam the way he knew the way he knew how to give his prophecy to give his curses and so on is because he knew the moment that hasem was angry which you could also figure out by looking at the rooster The Roosters uh uh I don't know what this part is called on top of our head it has a strip of white at a certain moment during a day it's called Rea in in English in Hebrew Rea is not really a second because second is second is actually a factor of time whereas AA is 11 15 15,000th of a second nonetheless point is is that the um says that hasem uses this Rea uses this moment to get angry but it doesn't actually mean that Hashem gets angry but what it actually mean what explains us because it can't be that hasem gets angry why because if Hashem gets angry that means that hm has emotions if Hashem has emotions that means that the emotions are are stronger than him that means that the emotions are God so hasm doesn't have emotions just like he doesn't have a strong hand you know it says hasem took us out of Egypt with a strong hand he doesn't have a strong hand just like he said to mosu you could see uh my back but you can't see my face because anyone that sees my face dies he doesn't have a face he doesn't have a back one of the you know 13 principles of faith is that hm has no image and no likeness of an image so what does it mean when he says Hashem gets angry for a second for it means that hasem uses and utilizes that moment to deliver all of the punishments on whoever deserves punishment for that day that's the time he uses to deliver all the punishments because obviously there has to be a moment during a day that hasem punishes us now if it was throughout the entire day we wouldn't survive if he used the entire day to punish us for every single thing that we did we wouldn't survive a minute this is actually the reason why until this day am is is suffering from the golden calf we're still suffering today 3,300 years later about the golden Cal that happened 3,000 years ago people you don't even know didn't forgive us he gave us the the principles if he gave us by not destroying us he forgave us he said okay I'll forgive you m who pleaded yes you know don't destroy us don't destroy okay fine I'll forgive you this is the way how how you know if if that's going to happen the next time that's when taught us that correct me if I'm wrong yeah it's wrong so the the the correction is is that yes he did forgive us by not destroying us because mosenu told him listen if you're going to destroy them hasem told them I'm going to start a new nation with you and mosu says I want you to start a new nation with me as a matter of fact wipe me out first erase me from your book first uh and hasem so hasem obviously said okay so I I forgive them but it doesn't necessarily mean that he forgave them as far as forever what he forgave is by by Distributing the punishment over the length of this uh of this world's existence instead of delivering it in one moment or even one year because if he delivered the punishment in a shorter period of time it would be too much for us to absorb we would all die so hasem has not forgiven us has only has only said okay he's distributed he's distributed the punishment over a long period of time we're still suffer according to the we're still suffering for the golden calf until this uh until today uh until the mhia comes every single suffering that am is has including the fires that are happening in Israel including the Holocaust including the pilgrims including everything part of it not the only reason but part of the reason of why it's happening is a for the golden CF so now the schl tells us sorry yeah it's very so so very interesting but you know I have a couple questions that did Hashem not get angry um at Moshe for other issues and ab ainu question again the expression of anger is for us to understand never get angry Hashem doesn't have anger he doesn't have emotions he doesn't have happiness he doesn't have anger he doesn't have uh uh the same type of emotions like you and I understand it but what what the uh the Torah does is gives AEM uses words that give us the ability to understand it so for example when it says that Hashem took us out of Egypt with a strong hand then obviously it showing that Hashem made his glory known by the plagues the Miracles and so on when Hashem showed anger is because we understand what anger is pun example when Moshe was supposed to talk to the to the Rock right and then instead he hit the rock right so Hashem says hey you're not doing what I said if there's a Mercedes in my wife's spot oh anybody that's in there if you could move it she just got home yeah it's put in the GU guest sorry so go ahead it's this this you know Temple when when moeno he he didn't talk he didn't say he didn't do as Hashem told him to do right but instead he hit the rock so now Hashem says you know sh didn't say I get angry okay that's the question no he didn't say I get angry you you're not allowed to go into El no what he said is that he missed the opportunity to sanctify his name meaning which will actually is one of the things we're going to learn in today's uh in today's mishna um Hashem gave an opportunity for M to fulfill the biggest mitvah in Judaism the biggest Mitzvah and the biggest purpose of the world and he gives us the same opportunity every single day the biggest Mitzvah in Judaism and in the world is to sanctify aem's name it's in essence the purpose of this world so when mosenu was told the first time to bring the water he actually was told to hit the uh the The Rock and he did the second time Hashem told him bring your stick bring the shaft that you have but don't hit the rock talk to it now Moshe was ready to do what hasem told him he brought the stick and he was ready to talk to the uh to the Rock the problem is that is was very impatient didn't want to listen to him didn't want him to fulfill this mitvah that hasm told him to do and they started complaining and after they started complaining they started making fun of him ah look you can't find the rock ah the rock that you're talking to is not answering you maybe this is a scam maybe you don't know what you're doing so Moshe he didn't get angry because of himself he was the humblest man that ever lived he got angry because he says listen after all the Miracles that Hashem has performed for you for all these years for all this time he's still questioning his ability to whether he can give you water or not out of this that I'm talking to and he hit the rock out of as a result of that now and he expressed his anger by hitting the rock but obviously that led to the Rock bringing water and a lot of it now hasem said listen you brought water the overall execution happened why because the execution is in hm's hands it's not in M's hands M didn't actually bring the water hasem did M didn't create the Rock Hashem did so Hashem made the water come he said the end result was in my hands anyway your position your job was to talk to it so the people can see hey look he's talking to the Rock not like last time when he hit it last time he hit the rock and water came out if he would have hit it again then we say oh maybe he just has like this trick that he used 40 years ago maybe he has this trick he hits rocks and water comes out it's it's a trick maybe it's not AEM something else but if you talk to it they see oh this is different last time he hit it was cool this time he talked to it it's see look m is even bigger is even bigger hashem's Miracles are getting bigger last time we needed to hit the rock this time he just talked to it look how amazing Hashem is so the fact that you didn't talk to the Rock and you hit it made it look like it was some trick it gave them an opportunity to become Kim to become Heretics and say oh this is just like last time maybe it's a trick maybe it's not AEM maybe this which means you missed the opportunity to sanctify my name which is exactly what Hashem says because you missed the opportunity to sanctify my name you and Aron cannot come to Israel so it doesn't say that hasem got angry but nonetheless that's the end outcome is thatu did not fulfill this mitvah now the realas reason as we've said in other sh of whyem did not let mosu come to Israel is not really because of the Rock The Rock was an excuse The Rock was a way to make it look natural like Hashem does a lot of things to make things look natural like for example right now A lot of people are into politics even though I think it's a complete waste of time but people are very very happy that Trump won and Hitler Clinton didn't win and it's all great and they think that all of a sudden mashia is going to come because she's not there okay great whether he's going to be good for is or not is he relevant it's all inm's hands as we talked about in last week sh once somebody becomes a leader their free choice is no longer theirs hem takes it away from them we have several proofs in the Tor one of them is another one is another one is and several other several other major leaders toout history where as soon as they become leaders it specifically says in the TM took away removed their free choice they no longer have free choice they officially become a tool for hasem to either punish am is or to reward them so even though Trump could have meant everything he said about liking am before he became president great wonderful could be a great human being once he becomes president it's all in hashem's hands now why did Hashem how could you explain Hashem picking him instead of Hitler because if Hashem wants to give us good oh you catching on to the hitlery if hasem wants to give us good because we're doing CH we're coming to we're learning M we're keeping Shabbat we don't waste seed we don't waste time he wants to give us good giving us good through Trump looks natural it looks not it looks like Trump did it because wants to run the world a natural way but if Hitler all of a sudden becomes sadik says oh no no I want you to open C all over Brooklyn All Over Bon all over come on what I do what got what's wrong with you you have a shed inside you you have a demon inside you what's wrong with you doesn't look natural why cuz he she's anti-semitic and her second in command is a terrorist it doesn't look natural says okay let me make it look natural so it still gives you guys the free choice to choose whether to believe in me or not whether you think it's really me doing it AEM or it's Trump if you believe in Trump you get one of the curses in the Torah called ar ar is the worst curse in the Torah is given to a person that trusts in man and not AEM so it's better that everybody stops following the politics if they can't control their emotions and stop thinking that it's all in the hands of Obama Osama and uh and and everyone else that's coming on uh on uh you know into the White House go ahead question regarding anger being being p p yeah when I when kill s we was anger zealous zealous and anger is two different things reward yeah zealous and anger is two different things when you have when you're zealous when you're zealous um you are in essence fighting for you're not angry because your personal honor was mocked or uh you know deterred in any way or uh hurt in any way you are hurt for your father somebody disrespected your father somebody disrespected the purpose of this world the creator of the world the everything of the world it's not it's not a matter there's no there's no anger there this is someone that's going into your house and just says lights a match what do you mean why you let you think I'm just going to let you go so that's zealous now as a matter of fact the uh the book of T which is the book of which says some say that P eventually become in the same life some say that it was was a was a Reincarnation of pinhas either way the two are connected and never died now if you look into the holy books you see that hasem told p as a matter of fact actually it's in the um think it's mentioned here one second let me finish the point I can't answer five questions at a time I just got to finish one point at a time um so if uh no I'd love the questions just that I have to finish one point at a time now if you look at the books and you look at the story of um it's actually mentioned here inim um it's page 113 um and it says God says to I must remove you from this world not I have to kill you I must remove you from this world why the degree of zealousness that you have is not fit to live among these people because your zealousness is going to destroy all of them you love me too much you love me too much not that you're you're angry person shom you love me too much you want my honor too much to the point where you're not letting them be human beings which are frail and and you know nothings they you know so much truth that you can't handle somebody else not doing it you can't handle seeing somebody lighting fire on Shabbat driving on Shabbat instead of you tell them listen don't drive on Shabbat at Shabbat what are you going to do you're going to burn their car with them in it you understand you're not fit for this world anymore you became an angel became an angel became an angel go ahead yes so the bottom line is that Hashem does not get angry does not have emotions period and therefore does not get angry right but Hashem does punish punish yes okay so we're suppos we're supposed to emulate also Hashem so now we can also punish right in a father son relationship let's say your your your son does something wrong sometimes you need to correct him true you need so that's a lot that's a so you can punish but without anger right so now when when you have a uh you could show anger but not really be angry meaning so you see for example sometimes a raav wants to correct his uh his students so but to correct the students by saying please please please sometimes doesn't work sometimes he has to show like a he doesn't have to say much but show like an angry face it's just play but it's in reality just trying to show them an image of what somebody looks like what he would even look like if he's angry in reality he's not angry but he has to show them that face to give them an image to remind him me by the way listen I'm not joking I'm not joking why because there's aah all of us are obligated which we'll also talk about in this m which means you must rebuke your people which includes your children you must rebuke them when someone is doing wrong when someone is not polite when someone is violating Shabbat when someone is violating any type of Mitzvah and you have a connection to them either you're their parent you're their friend you're their Uncle you're their neighbor you have some type of connection to them you must rebuke them but it also says but you can't bring yourself to sin meaning even the rebuke has to have a strategy you can't just go into every single guy that drives on Shabbat and say g g g you can't say that why because then they're going to you know they're going to start thinking of you as a crazy person not going to listen to you or some of these fools that throw rocks at people that drive on Shabbat not realizing that throwing a rock is also not allowed in Shabbat the rock is M so sometimes we have to our brain and realize that there's a way to rebuke so okay so for example you have somebody in your besset you know the guy drives to Nets drives to Nets not only drives he drives to Nets extra early in the morning every Shabbat make sure he gets there on time you fool don't come to Nets don't come to anything stay home if you have to just don't drive on Shabbat nobody tells him and he sits next to you in SHO tell Listen by the way I'm not sure if you follow the par you remember the Paras where hasem gave us the Ten Commandments yeah yeah yeah which commandment you remember which command you remember the Commandments he goes yeah more or less I pray Nets Shabbat pray Nets which Commandments said you have to go to sh on shabat he going to tell you no I don't I don't I don't remember being there a commandment in the Ten Commandments they have to go to sh on Shabbat oh no you sure yeah which commandment says you can't drive on Shabbat the fifth commandment when it says keep Shabbat one of the 39 restrictions is lighting fire when you light a fire each time you light a fire it's a sin of it's violating Shabbat the problem is huh it's the fourth the fourth command yes so the problem is that when you light fire it's one when you turn on a car it's much more than one fire according to one of my uh students it's an engineer each time you press the gas pedal and go 60 MPH according to the RPMs he's an engineer he did the calculation it's no less than 6,000 fires so just driving from your house 15 minutes later you got to theet you're all happy you got your little talit with your little quarter keep on you're running to Bess at 5:30 in the morning morning think youah you just violated chabbat somewhere between 800 to 900,000 times what are you going to do what each one is of course so now you have a serious serious problem the important part is to know how to tell this guy this you tell him listen going to is very nice it's a mitvah but it's not oblig ation in 10 commandments it's not even an obligation in 63 Commandments 63 it's not obligation it's good to pray it's good to pray in butom is not over Shabbat you're obligated to keep Shabbat you're not obligated to go to beet which means if you cannot live next to AET either move because you don't live next to AET or don't go toet stay home keep Shabbat it's much more important you can't go to ganeden if you drive on Shabbat even if it's theet even it's the mikdash even if it's to the cotel even it's to whereever whereever G in you're not going you're they not going to let you in so oh you drove here sorry you can't get in we only take people that walk so people have to understand how to tell this to somebody I am a much more blunt person I think I say things as they are some people take it the right way some people take it the wrong way some people fight with me some people argue with me some people take it the right way and people do Chua I have one guy that have been trying to help him do Chua for over a year now we've have many many people have done chuva but this one particular guy is someone that's a ungrateful person and you know I sent him a package sent him CDs introduced him to this answered a million and a half questions and he decides that he's going to start criticizing my lectures publicly he's going to start criticizing my lectures write his little comments uh and uh you know in his opinion oh he's too hard he's too harsh he too this it's too that like I made the rules like I like Hashem asked me heyone what do you think of Shabbat which which kind of punishment we should give oh okay we're going to write that in the Torah what else you think we should do oh okay we're going to write that to he asked me it's my permission so oh he's to this he's to that now and he says the same thing about ra M and he says this publicly this fool which makes him now he sent me this uh thing this uh clip of another Rabbi that I know he says listen he's saying that you shouldn't be aggressive with people maybe he's talking about you and ra mrai and I said instead of answering in the way that my anger want to answer him you you this you that and my anger want to answer him give it to him on it head fors I the emails and this and that so I said to him uh you know what let me ask you something you keep Shabbat you keep no you keep it's hard for me okay keep kosher H whenever I get a chance you late fing oh no I don't own them I don't own fing tells me said uh M me you keep I'm nice to people okay we'll send you a cookie fine okay so I'm trying to find out what classifies you as a professional as an expert criticizer on kiru or Judaism when you don't do either one of them you don't keep any mitv you can't tell me you're an expert on Judaism you know anything about it you're still violating Shabbat as a Jew obviously you don't know anything about Judaism no one that actually knows and believes violates some people know and don't believe so they violate but some the rest of the people the vast majority of the public violates only because they don't know so we have to teach them so this guy says that uh he's going to tell me how to do my lectures how to do CU how to help people do Chua which is new people doing Chua every single day we have a news uh just yesterday a young kid was an atheist maybe four five months ago just started going to Yesa I'm atheist for months ago going to Yesa today same Torah that you're reading you say it you'll do the same thing it has nothing to do with me but it's the right way it's the full Torah or part of the Torah part Torah doesn't work whole Torah works so I tell him how are you criticizing me and you don't do anything you don't do you make anybody do Chua you don't do Chua yourself you tell somebody how to do it not that I'm an expert but what are you doing to to make yourself think that you're that way and that's the thing that people fail to understand they have such a big yet that if you go to a doctor and doctor is going to tell you listen I see this is the diagnosis that you have I think you need to do this one two three procedures you tell listen doctor I don't know you know what the second procedure I don't agree with I think you should go from the aorta into he's going to look's what look you telling me how to be a doctor what do you know about you where'd you go to medical school I didn't go where' you study medicine I didn't study so how are you telling me as a doctor what to do you go to a lawyer you tell you listen we're going to to fight for this case you're going to win these first three cases the fourth Cas is you're going to lose because we're want to do this and this law is this and this law is that he tells you the whole report says no you know what I don't think you're fighting the right way I think we should fight for the fourth one and not the other three and I think this is illegal and that's legal he goes you know anything about law are you a lawyer no do you study law no have you ever been in the courtroom before no what' you do I watch some cases on TV in the movies I saw Tom Cruz saying you can't handle the truth so that makes me a lawyer lawyers say okay listen honestly I don't want to defend you anymore I think you should go to you should claim Insanity because that's what you are you have a thing on the doctor to believe what the patient say without made own research he is neglect so now so with law with medicine with everything else people they don't go into the doctor's office and tell them that they don't go into the lawyer's office tell them that why cuz they're paying him $900 an hour to tell them what he's telling them but to me when I'm doing it for free they want to tell me everything to do no you got to say this you got to say that you got to say this you got to say that cuz it's free if they actually paid me $900 now maybe they won't tell me what to do so maybe I start charging you guys so blame him right you have to be qualified if you're going to if you're going to if you're going to judge somebody you have to be at least at his level at least at his level that's why when when somebody says oh I don't agree with the ramb or I don't agree with the I don't agree with r AKA I don't I don't think he's right here you don't think he's right he was able to revive the dead you think your opinion matters was able to go from one place to another it's a different city in an instant you can't even go to the B bathroom in an instant you you're going to agree with him disagree with him you're still trying to figure out how to read what it says in the in Rashi over here you going to agree with him disagree with with with with ramb you going to disagree with Raba that's the thing people don't know the value of Torah so they say they think it's like open to opinions it's open to you know whatever your interpretation is and what happened and the reason why this all happened is because you have people like the reformer and the conservative that made it popular to criticize the Torah and use our own measly opinions because the that they have it's because oft that they have sins that they make yeah of course there's plenty plenty of sins but nonetheless it's also the audacity they have a little shell around you and the more sins you get you have you know the more insensitive you get sure that's the point that's the way to but we have to we have to know that what kipi is most people don't even know what it is most people don't know what the sin actually has consequences they think that if it does have consequences it's in the next world not here and more insensitive and it's very hard you know if you have a if you have a shell of like you know of of of a yard around you you can't get through sure that's the point what is it even an actual C out like they say you was see to get a billon cipo what are these cipo exactly B angs couple of things you have a um you have a uh prophets we don't understand the prophecy as a matter of fact there's also in this book um Ram explains that we have different in chapter 4 I think explains that we have no not chapter 4 eight explains we have different prophets we see that um it said about mosenu that mosenu chapter 7 mosenu spoke to hasem face to face but then the other prophets spoke to him in a dream in some type of a uh epilepsy or some type of meditation but only mosenu spoke to him face to face now the rambam explains it is that each one of your midot is in chapter seven of Pim each one of your midot each one of your qualities you have good qualities and you have bad qualities good character traits and bad character traits each bad character trait puts like a veil between you and Hashem a separation between you and Hashem so if you're stingy or you like money too much or you're an angry person or you're or any other bad characteristic each one of those bad bad characteristic makes gives a separation between you and Hashem you and the truth the ultimate truth each good character trait obviously that means you won't have a bad one each it's either good or it's bad it's not in the middle it's either you're angry person or you're not an angry person so it removes one of these veils so mosenu got to the ultimate level of perfecting his mid to such an extent that he asked theem despite his humility he knew that he has reached the level to see Hashem face to face meaning he reached the ultimate level and he says Show Me Your Glory Show Me Your Glory meaning I got to the ultimate level I've I literally think of myself as absolutely nothing the more of a nothing you think of yourself the more of a something you really are used to say says Show Me Your Glory not because he says listen I'm the greatest person that ever Liv no I did everything you said I don't have any anger anymore I'm not stingy I'm not this all these bad traits I don't have them anymore so all of these veils that the ones before me and the ones after me have cuz each one of them has something that's negative about them I don't have those so show me the ultimate level and says yes even though you've reached the ultimate level I still can't show you my face why because if I show you my face I have to remove you from the world because no man can see me see my face and live but he saw hasem face to face per say that he saw the ultimate he sawm through like an an hourglass there's still something there but he saw this but but it's obviously much clearer than the way anyone else before him afteron because each one of them had a different character trait that was one Veil or two or three or five or so on so when it comes to kipot it's much much more deeper than that because that's not just a bad character trait that's also additional sins so each time according to the each time somebody makes a mitvah they create an angel each time they make a sin they create a demon so when somebody makes a demon in essence they're giving that demon power over them and that demon is going to influence you the more friends you make for him the more sins you make the more power they're going to have over the Angels so you have 80,000 demons that you created and then you have 16 Angels obviously the demons are going to going to create some havoc in your life you're going to want to was seed you want to go with the Goya you want to go with the you're going to want to steal you're going to want to do all types of bad things why because you've made so many sins that the sin is going to become normal to you and just like the rambam explains is that when someone is physically sick everything that typically tastes good tastes bad to them something sweet usually is bitter to them something salty for some reason tastes good to them I told you guys the funny story with my wife in Pizza a few years ago he says the same thing with someone that's spiritually sick someone that's spiritually sick the things that are good for him the medicine which is mitv are bitter they're bitter to him doesn't taste good read come on you don't have something else you have maybe Sports Illustrated magazine you don't have maybe I ESPN magazine you don't have something else to read just this k thing this 3,000 year old book you don't have anything new self-help book a self-help book by Tony Robbins or the the secret yeah you don't have anything newer this is old 3,000 years old you have something new cuz everybody thinks something new is better oh you have the iPhone 5 Ah that's old I got the what is it seven 8 18 what is it up to now 7 plus W I'm behind everybody wants something new 3,000 year old book no it's too old for me come on give me something new you have something from like this year this month maybe new formula so that's the that's the flaw of mankind we think that the things that are good for us are bad for us why because we've made many many sins so the cipot the kot you can feel them in a way where you are deterring good when it's hard for you to accept when it's hard for you to do when it's hard for you to get up in the morning and go pray when it's hard for you to do what hasem wants you to do because you wrote it in the Torah the more difficult it is for you to do a certain mitvah the more you have for it some of it is from uh from some of it is from just an evil inclination or a combination of many other things minutes of of a for instance you can't you can't absorb anymore of sh after 5 minutes you shut down sure that's that that was my beginning when I first started when I first started going to sh after 5 minutes I fall asleep right that was my beginning yeah all right so let's start this mishna and see where we're at we continue continue with the zot last week was uh we heard from Shaya this week we're hearing from aalon which means says Scholars be cautious with your words so says Scholars cautious with your words for you may incur the penalty of Exile and be banished to a place of evil Waters which means heresy the disciples who follow you there may drink and die and consequently the name of Heaven may be desecrated okay so it's very deep mishna we have to delve into it to figure out what it means before we go into the next mishna so first and foremost ofon is telling us he's not telling he's not telling the general public this he's telling this to the wisest of wise he's telling this to the rabbis which means needless to say this also applies to everyone else if the ones that are wise and know Torah are being told to here be cautious with your words even more so the ones who don't know anything need to be cautious with their words doesn't mean it's only this this a mitvah only applies to rabbis no such thing if you're wise and you know Torah of course you have to watch your words but if you don't know Tor you should watch your words even more try not to speak at all so now who is this that's telling us this as we said last week were both converts righteous converts that got to such an extent that despite the rule at that time that the sanedrin could not accept converts they not only became part of the sanedrin but they became the two leaders of sanedrin one became the n and the other one became a nowon is also called Aon Talon means little I believe it's in Greek and a means father he used to take care of little kids that were um um orphans didn't have any parents he would take them in and he had so many kids tell him he's the father of all the little kids so an amazing human being need this to say cuz you don't do that by being a bad person obviously but here he's telling you all of you that have learned T have to be very very careful with everything that you do everything that you say because if you're not careful with what you say all of your work all of your effort efforts everything that you've ever done can go into garbage in a second there is a page 13B where it talks about a talks about a debate that bet Shai and bet have for two and a half years two and a half years they're fighting about one particular issue now usually they fight okay a day an hour a week a month two and a half years a long time what are they fighting about where is it worthwhile for man to come to the world or not is it for his benefit to come to the world or not bet he says it's worth it it's good for him that he came to the world bet Shai says no it was he was better off not coming to the world which one do you guys think one they agreed that they it was better they didn't come is better sh one says that it was better off that man didn't come to the world better off the man didn't come to the world now he so everybody says Okay so let's all commit suicide and that's it what's what are we doing here we have hats we have beards we have mitv we have all this stuff it says it's not worth it comes to the world okay no what are you teaching us here so here is the explanation before we're here we're perfect Souls once we came here we had obligations we have many opportunities to make mitv but even more opportunities to sin so since man has more of an opportunity to sin it's more likely that he's going to sin than he is going to make which means that if he comes to the world he's going to have a lot of obstacles and unless he has Torah unless he's glued to the Torah is more likely to fail than he is to succeed so it's better off that he didn't come but the overall point of what the arrive at is that since he already came and it's not really up to him to decide whether to come to the world or not it's not up to him hhm decides if you come to the world hasm decides if you're male or female Hashem decides if you're tall or short hasem decides if you're Mexican American Jewish uh you know a Catholic uh black white hasem decid all these things not you you would just decide whether you're going to have or not whether you're going to have fear of the almighty or you're not going to have fear of the almighty so when AEM yeah I to let me finish the point you can't raise your hands every two seconds because I'll Take Five hours to finish the lecture so give me a second to finish each point then we can ask questions so when hasem is telling you here that you have a higher chance to fail he's not putting you into the world to fail he's not putting you into the world because he wants you he wants to punish you if he wants to punish you just create Gom just put you in there right he's giving you an opportunity to succeed but the only way you're going to know what success is you only way you're going to know that there's a choice is by giving you both options now if there is only one obstacle and 1,500 ways to win like this generation everyone gets a trophy then no one's really a winner first place and last place is the same they all get trophies and in reality when they all get to 25 years old they're all losers why because they're still living with ABA and IMA they're still don't have a job they still don't have a they're major in in in colleges riding horses like one of my student s he goes you know they tell this this this college this college is giving a course one of the courses is learn how to ride horses and you have to pay them for this and the other one is learn how to fight demons and dragons learn how to fight dragons and demons and the other one is ride horses I'm dead serious a serious College in New York how many years is the course I don't know how long the coures you're going to fight demons and I want to go fight demons and uh and uh dragons if they're going to bring them but if it's just uh illustrations that's not a real course if I'm going to pay $10,000 for a course I want a real course but this is actually a serious course they're actually giving in college with which degree people are paying 10 20 $30,000 a semester for this stupid course because they have no idea why they're alive why because they got trophies their whole life they were 18th Place in the race and they got trophy so they expect to win so once they finally got to college and the college said listen if you actually want to be a rocket scientist a lawyer a doctor or anything meaningful in life you have to take really difficult classes you have to pass tests that are really really difficult you have to study long hours you have to sleep less you have to party less you have to do certain things that maybe not so much fun or you could just force your parents to pay $40,000 a year for you to take horseback riding classes that you could get for 10 bucks on the BQE so this is when we don't know really what the meaning of life is now Aon is telling us here that in order for us each as an individual to lead in the right direction it starts with your mouth starts with the words that come out of your mouth and page 42 it says there's four different types of people the wants no part of them the wants nothing to do with them they're in a room go somewhere else they come to the leaves they do a prayer doesn't listen all of them have to do with sins of the mouth one of them being one that un fortunately all of us have failed at one time or another which is oh no I don't like that Rabbi oh no that guy's a thief oh no he charges too much oh no he's this he's that you know people think that they're helping they're being helpful by telling people to stay away from somebody else for one reason or another are you really doing yourself the uh you know a favor by doing that you think you're doing favor to the other person but to yourself you're destroying your future you're saying pretty much all of your all of your according to the are going in a side they're not going in the garbage but they're going a side until you stop saying so if you can't even control your mouth how are you going to operate in a in a way that's going to be righteous with AEM go ahead yes you said that we our our souls are are are perfect and we come to this world Perfect Isn't it that's what I learned we all come you know with a certain purpose because we have to rectify something okay we're not perfect upstairs in jam and that's the reason why we come here because we have a tun and we have to repair stuff we have to clean ourselves that's the whole reason why we come to this world okay is it not right what's the question question is that we're not perfect because if no you have a part of you that's part of you it's part of Hashem that part is perfect the part the rest of it is not perfect very small part that's a very small part right but that's not that wasn't the that was not the the point of what I was trying to make I mean if you have to if you the point my question is why do we come to this world to fix something right not not correct please correct me if I'm wrong of course you're only in this as long as you're in this world you have to fix something right if we're if we if we have to fix something we're not we're not perfect right okay that's that's all because it didn't make sense to me okay so the r is a reaction to the incident of which were the students of antigonos anonos as we learned from a couple of weeks ago was one of the zot which uh said that serve AEM as if you weren't getting a reward serve AEM purely out of love and these two students of antigonos misunderstood this teaching and I said wait a minute if the rabbi is saying serve AEM as if you're not getting a reward as if there's no expectation of reward maybe that means that there's no reward at all maybe they're just making it up to charges Feast to go to Yesa charge his fees to go to be to earn do all this stuff maybe it's just a business if they're saying don't serve AEM as if there's no reward maybe there's no reward and they turn into complete Kim they turn to complete Heretics and started the Sadducees and uh eventually other types of Kim came from there today's Kim are the uh messianics the uh reforms the conservative the ones that believe their Rabbi is the messiah or God all types of unfortunately we have in the world people that are not using D not using the the mindset and the wisdom of Torah this also includes people that say stupid things like listen your name is Steve and her name is I don't know Miriam no it's according to cabala you shouldn't be together according to cabala your names don't match you're going to get divorced this is pure nonsense it's not D it's not d does not say that Abu married sah because her name was sah does not say thatu married because our name was or wasn't this is not and the ones that say this is usually comes from people that call themselves M these are uh all types of Babas that 99.9999% of them are complete fake kmen some most of the time actually outright criminals you should stay away from them on all conditions real cabalist you won't even know they're cabalists I know couple you won't know them the coup you look at them in the street regular person no no no none of that stuff regular people I know one guy knows how to bend metal with his mind he knows how a Bend metal with his mind could have smoke to car whatever he bends metal I don't know if he's a superhero but he has he actually could you know he could actually control certain parts of nature another guy has M like extraordinary things I was the last one to uh to uh benefit uh because eventually he went a little off because he went too deep into cabala he used to write different real Kamas and M that's the M that I have in the front that mza you could pay $50,000 for you won't find something like that it's a really big one certain cloth this that whatever long story short is that yes there are some but you won't know who they are yeah it's people that fast all day all night it's very very different type the guy that's wearing all the crazy clothes and is charging you $1,000 for some weird bottle of water and gives you a black book for $15,000 and you're not going to understand one word out of it that's not that's not that's a businessman that's a conmen and many of them are actually outright criminals where once they you discover that they're conmen they actually uh you know they'll they'll do everything they can uh to uh what's called to stop you from from telling the public so these cists use yeah these cabalists use different types of things to take advantage of naive people that don't know tah and tell them listen I can tell you everything about you oh yeah we can you tell me you were angry this week right yeah was it Tuesday no it was Wednesday yeah it was something to do with work how did this guy know did your girlfriend call you that wait was your wife not girlfriend wife called you and all of a sudden it seems like this guy is like a fortune teller SL NAU all wrapped into one this is nothing more than knowing how to read your face which I can do also you empty out your wallet I can do also I used to play poker you learn how to read people's faces anyone that has of how to read people's faces you can do it and aside from that it's also how fortune tellers make their money they just tell you things that are general of course I'm going to tell you you were angry everyone was angry I say Tuesday then change to Wednesday cuz I'm going to see how your face changed most likely was either Tuesday or Wednesday you got angry and you what are you angry about what else you going to do in your life you go home or you're at work 90% of your day you go to work so I'm going to pick work who's not angry at work and it give you different General things to take advantage of your naivity and foolishness and it gives different facts like that and has different body language like for example when somebody's folding their hands they're comfortable when someone is going like this they're lying when someone is touching their face they're lying also most of the time again these are not rules of thumb but this is General things and there's many many other things you can do made Le about body language yeah there's body language there's reading the face and different things um he studied in a different way than I did I think he actually studied some type of course or different parts of the Tor to teach it I studi it from playing poker uh not exactly the you know ideal but unfortunately that that was the world I was in um but nonetheless it's a uh it's all scam it's all also you're if you're a Salesman you need to know how to read people and I can to give you guys a basic a basic idea some secret secr of sales I'll give you a basic idea um when we did sales 99.9% of everything that I ever did which means millions and millions of dollars were generated over the phone never in person once in a blue moon a clim with would come to visit me or I'd go see a client but most of the time I try not to do it cuz it was a waste of my time I didn't like I don't like to meeting people today I never like meeting people in the past just usually it's a waste of time that you could just establish everything you need to establish over a phone call it'll take you much less time you don't need to travel for an hour each way you don't need to you know go to some fancy restaurant you don't even care for you don't have to spend 40 minutes trying to figure out what you're going to talk about just get to the business hi Mr Jones I want ABC you want ABC we both want the same thing let's get to business 5 minutes later you finish with the call but when you go out and you whine and you dine oh what do you think of politics oh what do you think of trump oh how many kids do you have oh how many kids do you have do you think the weather is really nice who cares about the weather you really came here for this dinner at 9:00 at night because you care about the weather really you have nothing else to do with your life and care about the weather no it's a small talk people like small talk I personally care less for small talk so I didn't like meetings but once in a while was was obligated to have a meeting because the client wants to meet me and if you already was a serious client i' meet him but in general 99% of my business was over the phone now over the phone is much more difficult to make a sale because part of a sale is made by buying a personality now it's much harder to express your personality when it's purely just your voice and it's not your facial expressions and your body movements and you're shaking hands and the hug and the whining and dining all that stuff that everybody else uses fake smile the fake smile oh wow you look good even though the guy's 90 years old with a stick he's about to die right now oh you look great like all the fakeness that people do it's nonsense but that's that's you make a sale so when your phone when it's purely phone it's just voice it's facts it's to the point but also it's you have to know how he's reacting now there are certain parts of sale not all of them but there are certain parts of a sale that are predictable meaning if I want to sell you something I know what you're going to say before you say it and I already have a response for whatever you're going to say before you have before you even know that that's going to be what your respon what your excuse is going to be and after I give you my response I know what your response is going to be for my response pretty much I already know a 45 minute an hour conversation before it takes place not because I'm a prophet but just because there's only a handful of responses you can give me there's not an infinite amount of response it doesn't matter who you are it doesn't matter if you're John from Texas or your Steve from Bulgaria or your uh whoever you are there's a handful of reasons of why you're going to tell me no and for each one of those Reasons I'm going to have a response for already premeditated response and for each response you're going to give me to my response I'm also going to have a PR this is this is cold calling in essence but it's cold calling at a much higher level now once you get to that point where you know their response eventually what I got to a point where I was able to not even listen to you meaning I was only listening to One Word you could talk to me for 5 hours talk for an hour straight it doesn't really make a difference what you say I'm only looking for one word one word would tell me exactly everything that you said which is the reason why sometimes I try to hold myself I'm doing it but sometimes somebody would try to ask me a question and I cut them off like three words into it I already know what you're going to ask you have like a whole prepared question you worked on it all week oh Rabbi you know in and uh had do this one and now one after the third word I already know what you're G to ask me but you have this whole like you know Milla that you put together of this question which really in the end you could have actually wrote the whole thing in three words but you prepared it nice and you put a lot of thought into it but because of my profession previous profession I already know how to get to the point very quickly because I had to digest a lot of information really really fast they just uh analytical reports really fast market reports different things I have to find a way to find to get to the point really quickly for example if you want to read a book and you don't really have much time you want to get to the point of the book read the or not a book but like a letter first sentence last sentence of each paragraph will tell you the whole point of the letter there's three paragraphs first sentence last sentence of each paragraph so let's say three paragraphs six sentences will tell you what's pretty much the point of the whole letter said a book that's 800 Pages could have been written 30 P most books in general has a bunch of fluff and most most books have you know you could write them in 20 20 pages so most of what we say is fluff most of what we say is is is is is you know sugar coating there's not much like real wisdom in every single word so in the business World it gets I got to a point where I was able to literally just look for you know I can even put the phone down put the phone down let you talk for five minutes straight then pick it up listen to one word and I give you the response and I even got to a certain point where eventually I would be half asleep cuz I I didn't sleep the whole night or something like that and still wake up in the middle of the call and still answer and still know exactly what you're doing and still make a sale for a million bucks it's not about Talent it's just some you you develop skills you do it you'll do the same thing the point I'm trying to make here is that there is a con to everything there's a tactic to everything you can use everything for good you can use it for bad I could use that talent for good I can use that talent for bad I could be a con man or I could get to a point and get to the you know bottom line issue of what this is trying to tell me or what you're trying to ask me or really what the underlying problem is with this SCH bite I don't need the wife to send me a six-page letter explain to me why our husband is the worst person on Earth I can just ask us three questions and find out pretty much is this good or this bad you know cuz usually when people give you the picture they give you a lot of fluff but in reality it's like three points so this is in essence what these fake M do they take advantage of other people that are naive that don't know the tricks to the trade and they take advantage of you not knowing anything in general about the Torah so they say listen you were angry oh anger is very bad oh you know what you have on you everybody has everybody SC every secular person on earth is scared of more than they're scared of AEM you tell a secular person what could I do $15,000 no problem cabalist no no problem where do I write the check to can I give you cash you take cash like like he's doing you a favor extra Thursday if I give you 20,000 Can it can can it take away the a lot faster and these people have destroyed lives I even know of recent stories you guys don't think I'm just making this stuff up this stuff happens every day story from fresh from last week the um mikal had a uh woman come to him doesn't keep anything and uh she tells him listen I was with this guy for a few years I thought he was my soulmate but we ended up breaking up then I actually ended up getting married and uh I ended up getting divorced and I'm thinking maybe I should go back to him he says yes you're right he's your soulmate you should go back to him you should get married to him okay nothing wrong she goes looks for this guy she finds out not only is this guy married he's happily married she goes back to the mikal mikal is folded the mikal she goes back to him did he have a big beard long beard sweep the floor with a nice hat and a few and two pairs of glasses and uh she goes back to this liar cheater rash he tells him okay listen listen um he's uh married oh and I realized I actually spoke to my some other Rabbi and he says that even if he wasn't married I wouldn't be able to be with him because I'm divorced and he's a Cohen Cohen can't marry a divorce cabalist says no don't worry about it we're going to fix that for you in sham since he was your soulmate and we could see it go break up the marriage marry him don't worry everything's okay just make sure the check clears this is what she this is what he told her now she was fortunate enough that there was a couple of people that actually knew a lot of Tor that uh she was uh friendly with that got her away from this rash but unfortunately there's a lot of them in Israel in America and every place in general I'm telling you if the guy is telling you anything cabala stuff more times than not it's fake what if he tells you like you should do this cuz this is going to be the way you're going to get rich like I what is he God no that's a few of them that's when he become God in this world there you don't have you don't you can't decide you can't decide when you going to be rich or not what about the hand readers a lot of big rabbish lot of big rabbish this should do this keep Shabbat yeah keep mitv do the will of hem stop liking money so much maybe you'll be be rich the more you like money the less likely is going to give it to you tell they tell you how like what's going to happen Okay I'm going tell you that after this year I'm going to go fly outside above you guys and say oh my sons that means going to happen but Hashem Hashem didn't doesn't give any any any people the ability to have future uh you know events there's no prophecy anymore since the bet mdash there's no prophecy to RAB open the destiny tell you things open the book and certain verse if you actually know how to do it she of the there certain people that actually know how to do it yes but again it has to be it has to be someone that knows how to do it has to be know somebody knows the you know Torah it's but again it's not fortune telling there's a difference it's also not telling you to do strange things that are against the T it's using a verse in the to trying to give you something type of message but when somebody tells you you shouldn't marry because of our name you should wear some weird string you to do things that are above and beyond the Torah there's no foundation for it and again even the cist the real ones that have different things that are you know above and beyond the standard they wouldn't even tell it to you to do more times than I and the reason why is because you don't have the Merit to do it in order for you to exercise real cabala you have to be a very very pure person we're still trying to figure out how to keep Shabbat we're still trying to figure out how to stop saying we're still trying to figure out how to wake up in the morning do you want to do cabala cabala involves very very holy names that are of angels and of hem and if you're not pure enough and holy enough and you say them it could actually create a lot of damage in your life to the point we can go crazy it's very dangerous stuff it's not it's not it's not games so people that tell you that using cabala and drink this water or all this stuff it's nonsense what type of like they say cabala what is it like it's parts of the zor it's knowing how to how to do certain things there certain things you say there certain words you say certain names of hem I could show it you I could show you certain things about cabala but it's not going to help you in life it's not going to help you what's going to help you is what's going to help you is learn how to be a Jew learn how to be a human being learn how to be patient learn how to have you know good manners learn how to learn learn how to be a student learn how to you know teach Bim one day learn how to be a good husband that's going to help you in life you know quick fixes to be rich quick fixes to uh uh do all types of things is not going to help you in life you have a question in the back what's the purpose of Kabal what's the purpose of Kabal is it is it is Holy it is very very holy it is um something that we can utilize for good but it's not for everyone it's not for for everyone you know say there's certain tricks to certain trades that are not for everyone and everything you know so for example there's certain knowledge that I had in the investment business that I had I understood that was relevant to me but not the clients so it's very useful to me but it's not useful to the client was for the the cist it's for their relationship with Hashem for the most part it's for their own relationship for Hashem and in general real cabalist only use their cabala when there's no other choice isn't it for and it's for the public it's not usually for one person and it's when there's no other choice but the person indeed to come closer to the more inside information the more you know hidden information you have the more you grow spiritually and you get that's the ultimate goal is to get closer to her yes but the inside information you don't actually know what it means as a matter of fact it explains that there's there's two different parts of the Torah what happens before the world isn't it so that Hashem reveals only that kind of information to a person that a person is allowed is is able to absorb is able to understand the information is available to everyone but not everyone is going to understand it so there's many things in the Torah that right so let me finish so there's many things in the Torah that are available to everyone but you could read this and not understand one word yeah that's right so it's possible uh in general there are certain things you're not allowed to teach one person understands it and another person doesn't understand it right but there's certain things you're just not allowed to teach in general mhm not all to teach it yeah uh you're actually not allowed to teach cabala to the public you're not allowed to teach uh certain parts ofit of what happened before this world different mystical parts of Judaism uh you know things about God you not allow to teach it to the public you're actually as a matter of fact even if you're teaching it to someone that's you know that's a uh um one person that person has to be at a certain level where just from you saying a few words he would already understand what you mean so then so this is all and says okay so how is it that certain people are teaching the masses there certain people they're teaching things that are not allowed to the Mass public you have cabala Center you have uh all these different every every Tuesday is a new cabala guy cabala Center is fake right so what what every every Tuesday there's there's a new cabala person every Tuesday you see Orthodox RAB okay you want guys want to learn Z I teach 45 minutes teach you Z so so ask how could this be if you're not allowed to teach the zor to the general public you're not allowed to teach the kabala is part of the zor Now teach cabal to the general public You Now teach certain parts of the mystical part of the Torah to the general public how is the people teach it no no how doesm allow it says you're not allowed it's one1 is no good he says what they're teaching is nonsense and they the people that they're teaching won't understand what they're saying anyway so it's like you're talking you're speaking English to a cow expecting it to come you know start doing stock traits for you it's not going to still a cow not to say the people are cows but nonetheless you get the point you're speaking to them in a language they don't understand so let's move on to this point because I think it's getting late but is telling us as he telling us as Leaders you have to be very very careful with the word you say because if antigonos one of the most righteous holiest smartest human beings that ever lived set a few words in a way that two of his own students not only misunderstood him but they went completely off the they became JC's no this uh um um what's his name uh Yeshua B Pak Yeshua B Pak was J's WL light so I'm terrible with names so uh but yeah so anos is is uh you know was a righteous person holy person one of the original tanas and even he said a certain teaching that his own students didn't understand and be made them the foundation of he says you have if he has to be careful with the way he teaches you must be careful because if you're not careful it can lead to heresy it can lead to people like this that are going to take your words and twist them and to something completely that it's not and then the students that you're going to actually create they're going to continue teaching it so even when somebody goes let's say they got the gunen they were sadik they were righteous they did the right thing they kept Shabbat they kept mitv everything was great and they wrote a book and in the book they put an but it wasn't C what their opinion was and it looked more like their opinion what they said was wrong now the students are going to say listen whatever our Rabbi says kadosh whatever Rabbi says 100% holy that they're going to look at this book and say oh the Rabbi says XYZ he didn't say that but that's what they understood because he wasn't clear with his words now according to the page 17 it says that every year on R everyone comes in front of hasem not just everyone from here everyone from there including ganeden including g g they also come in front of hem you either get rewarded or punished for the outcome of your actions wait a minute I'm hanging out in G and I already got to the next World what do you want for my life okay but yeah but you left the book that you wrote 500 years ago right in that book you said it's okay to do ABC it's not okay that's not what I said in my Torah no no but I didn't mean that okay but you should have been clear so now you have a whole generation of people that think it's okay because you said it you have a problem my friend you have a problem all of those people are sinning because of you that's a serious serious problem what is it like Einstein some years ago a student saw him have two milk cartons in front of him and he picked one up and he put it down and he picked the other one up and used it he poured milk in his coffee immediately it know was two different companies the milk one was a company the other one was B two different companies he picked P the you picked the milk up looked at it put it down the other milk poured it into his coffee immediately a student publicized m fene is against this milk the company overnight no one started buying from them no one was buying from them is going bankrupt the entire Jewish community on this milk company skinny what they do the other one on the other hand sales are rocking Moshe fein's buying their milk a few days pass the company's getting no sales canceled sales canceled contracts we don't want your stuff anymore why said Feinstein put on you what does he want from us what do we do they call the for the what what do we do what did you do what what do you mean what' you do go why' you put on us I put on you I don't even know you cuz no people said that you don't you don't uh drink our milk why not what's wrong with your milk we're asking the same question why is everyone saying that you picked up our milk and then you put it down and then you put picked up our competitor's milk and you drank that one so they're saying that you don't like our milk it's not Kosher he goes no not at all all I picked up your milk I noticed there's no milk in the cart so I picked the other one cuz there was some milk left he understand that's that's heresy that's what people make mistakes they start picking words I have this woman I made a short sh last week believe it or not for 30 minutes you know one of the recordings a daily k usually shorter anywhere from 5 minutes to 30 minutes so I made one of 30 minutes k about different things modesty this it was a response to a question that I had from another student in I believe London sadik was telling me the problems with the uh religious Jewish world today unbelievable people go to a seminar thinking they're going to become more religious they become less religious cuz rabbis to tell them no you should never tell people tough things you should be nice to people can't tell tell can't tell nonsense lying to people so I responded to this so whatever was a 30 minute sh of course we use sources we use page numbers we use parot nothing from our this one woman sends me a text use this one word I used this one word I think it was tame or impure whatever I used to describe immodesty and she called it she called me a k she called me a heretic she called me JC what pretty much heretic that's what JC was cuz there one word I use this word which she say I understood what you meant she says I understood what you meant but I don't think anybody else understood so automatically you see number one she already thinks everybody else is stupid and she's the only smart one she does s after me so that's number one number two you have 30 minutes sure one word 30 minutes sure as you can see there a lot of words I talk a lot question how you said throughout so what about the other 29 minutes and 59 seconds also he didn't complain about that point is that people are always going to look for little things they always look to micromanage whatever she is the point I'm trying to make is that yeah usually people that complain are usually not the ones that follow the MIT but point I'm trying to make is that people are already looking for excuses they're already looking for you around the corner they're already looking for you to slip on a banana they're already looking for you to make a mistake what are you giving them a layup for by saying things that you don't know 100% are 100% true and this is actually advice to people that teach because now in today's age everybody wants to be a rabbi why because YouTube was created T anytime was created uh you know a bunch of other websites are created you could put anyone can put their uh their stuff online and you know because they want to the world to give them cab you know they're not going to make a videotape of ducks crossing the street they're going to make a video of them reading CH so they record themselves and everybody wants to be a rabbi the problem is not everybody qualifies to be a rabbi and by that I don't mean they don't qualify to be a rabbi because they didn't take some test there is no test for giving speeches there is no SM for giving a for being a rabbi that does k or a rabbi that teaches classes there's no there's no such SM for that the overwhelming majority of of rabbis that actually do real kiru don't have a SM they don't because there's no SM for it you could get a SM for for I don't know for being a butcher you could be have a SM for running a Sho you could be a for weddings for different things like the you know the the the gree in essence you have to go to school for a couple years Yesa and so on but there not to actually do K or things like that so now everybody could just call themselves Rabbi or even if they don't call themselves Rabbi they want to do sh they record themselves on the phone cuz everybody's a cameraman today they record themselves on the phone they start giving the problem is that not everybody has as much dedication on it so people have a very very hard time sticking to the script they have very hard time sticking to what it actually says in the Torah and they say their opinion and that's the problem because your opinion is usually based on your heart the Tor is based on a Divine brain the world's apart your heart is emotional if you like it you're going to say it in a certain way you don't like it you're going to say it in a different way you may not even say it at all Divine brain this is true this is false hashem's wisdom is is what it is you can't debate it oh I don't agree with you hasm so now what happens certain people that unfortunately are becoming popular are saying things that are outright feel out WR right things that are against the Torah because it doesn't fit their humanistic personality so for example there if you know the names or you know these people don't say the names because I don't want to go into a public war with anyone at least not yet if I wanted to I would say their names I don't have a problem saying names but for this particular purpose it's not necessary there's one particular guy I already mentioned in the past that guyi or whatever his name is he's a Kel he's a Messianic uh calls himself a Messianic Jew the pig book yeah the kosher Pig Shapiro yeah he calls himself that guy is a uh considered a mean he's considered one of the people that will go to a hell and never leave unless he does chba uh cuz he's converting people to Christianity he's a cof with no end uh so him I don't mind saying his name other people I don't think they intend on being Kim I don't think they intend on being Heretics but they're stupid and it's not because they're stupid because they don't know tah they're stupid because they use their opinion when it's least appropriate so for example this one guy made a fuchu about it where he said listen if you have uh sexual desires and your wife doesn't want to be with you then go with a prostitute go out a prostitute this is Rabbi said this you mention that name that's whoever listens to him I usually do whoever actually listens to him I usually do privately but I haven't gone to public war in for a reason I'll tell you in a second this guy says listen if your wife doesn't want to be with you go with a prostitute it's better for you to go to a prostitute I listen to this I wanted to vomit I don't usually listen to RAB I don't have much time but somebody sent me this and I said this must be a mistake so I started looking into some other things then I see another one he says if your wife doesn't want to go to the mik you could still be with her don't force her to go to the mik Don't force her to be mik this is outright this is outright heresy why because being with a woman without her being T without her being pure and going to the mik is a worse sin than incest than being with your mother your sister everybody together that's how bad it is a woman that's not in a m not let touch her not let touch your wife not even touch a hand not allowed you she she's impure to you to the rest of the world she's fine which also answers another question somebody else that wrote on a message board said something about uh he he made it like as if it was a rule a woman is not allowed to go to synagogue when she has her period it's complete nonsense who said this what says this what says this what who says this people just may know she's impure it's like the people that weren't allowed to go to the bet mikdash no has nothing to do with it first of all she's impure just to our husband to the rest of the world she's fine she still L to hug her kids so allowed to you know hug her parents it's not impure to them she's never allowed to hug another man she's never allowed to be with another man anyway so she's always impure to another man that's because she's married not because she need and as far as you know someone that was not allowed to go to the mikdash that's because they were either which was a spiritual disease for some sin that they made one of five sins or because they had the impurity of the dead because a dead animal or a dead body or so on but people just throw yes woman's not allowed to go to synagogue when she's n this is the craziest thing in the world she can't kiss she can't touch for why not who says this what is this I heard it by cabala maybe cabala in cabala in cabala in cabala people that are cabalists people that actually know T to that high level they wouldn't sit in the same chair as the woman that just sat there that was like I said that's mhu we're trying to keep Shabbat we're trying to learn stop being angry we're trying to learn how to not be cheap we're trying to be human beings we're not cabalists you're not allowed according to the r you're not allowed to teach you're not allowed to teach stringencies until someone gets used to all of the mitv all of them not one not two not three not four all of them becomes acclimated to all theah that become his nature in today's world minimum it takes 20 years minimum if you learn everyday T minimum after 20 years maybe you'll become used to them maybe which means that stringencies and things like that are not relevant to us they're not relevant to us sitting in a certain chair not sitting in a certain chair it's nonsense and but the thing is people take this so far they start saying oh no woman's not allowed to go to synagogue who are you to say she's not allowed to go you're not allowed to go to synagogue with your T mouth the stupidity that comes in your mouth is much more impure than she is to a husband people don't know how to behave give you guys an understanding of what D is and how it doesn't make sense to us initially but then you understand it says when someone has a dead body in his house somebody died in his house now you can't just bury him right away maybe chabbat can't go bury him maybe nobody's there yes he's home and in those days it wasn't a 2,000t house was the smallest house in the neighborhood in those days the whole house was a room it says if you want to eat you're in the same house you want to eat put a separation between you and a dead body prob like some type of curtain curtain of some kind to separate you and a dead body say what if you have a curtain then sit down opposite of him meaning look away and eat sit down and look away body's over here you're sitting over here but you're looking away you're eating your little sh sandwich looking this way why do the says is divine wisdom it's not me wisdom it's not you wisdom Divine was his God talking why does it just go outside eat josua I have to eat next to the dead body what I have nothing else to do with my life well I put ketchup on him what am I eating with him for what yeah go e outside go e outside no like everybody else goes to sh place you see the the little uh go down like this is that when when there's nobody around because you you can't leave a body by itself no no you can leave you can leave him not by himself no you could leave him you could leave you could you could leave him no problem you could leave him because the Reas on Tuesday night something like that was the sh going to do with your there supposed to be somebody not tonight it's the afternoon it's 12:00 in the afternoon guy just died somebody has to stay with with why why he's going to run away to that bunny no no no no no but because that's the spir there's spiritual Ru for that because because of the okay you're going to be outside the door somebody supposed to be with the body all the time until he's buried oh the house is the size of this table right if I'm here or I'm there it's the same thing open door the door is over there I just eat outside doesn't say that it says sit opposite of him look the other way right you're not allowed to go outside maybe it's the reason maybe it's for a huh for a in distance no no what is the reason to give up what's the reason they not to be afraid the reason you're never going to think of it it's because it's horrible ethics to eat in public it's better that you eat next to a dead body looking away than go eat outside in public with the possibly going down your cheeks and the little falling off from your teeth it's considered disgusting to eat in front of people like that that's why you don't see any big rabbis going to a public restaurant as a matter of fact you don't even see a rabbi eating with the public usually they eat in the corner alone in general people eating is is not really the prettiest thing in the world I personally don't find it pleasing it never did but people eat I have to eat I'm sure I'm not the prettiest eater either but in general it's not the prettiest thing but the is telling you here for for as far as ethics as far as mid eating in public in general disgusting horrible you're going to eat go e in the corner don't e in front of people why because maybe the is going to fall off and you're going to look disgusting what what happens if you're disgusting if you pick your nose in front of people it's so that's that's that's Divine Torah you understand you're thinking for you're thinking leaving the dead maybe he's going to run away maybe he's going to wake up you're not he's going to be there he's going to be disappointed think of all these different crazy things that we think no no no it has to do with your eating don't eat outside eat next to the dead body it's much better that's the people rather eat outside eat of course eating people go to the sh place there's no chairs no chairs just trauma start walking around hey how are you go yeah that's Torah you understand so it's not always not always common sense to us but it is toah so now he says you have to be very careful with what you tell your students this Rabbi that's telling your students that a man is allowed to be with his wife even though she's n is creating Heretics he's creating people that are 100% Heretics there is a uh and there's unfortunately there's several people like that there people that are teaching people things out of their own opinion there's another Rabbi that tells people listen doesn't matter if you're Jewish or not Jewish you're allowed to keep Shabbat it's against it's against the r no no but he decided to be the new rambam he decided to be the new R are allowed to keep Shabbat it's 100% so again I don't think he's intentionally being a heretic but it's 100% heresy so you have this mishna is specifically telling us here my sons with all the wisdom that you have use it and don't just speak with no Direction don't speak with no script study what you uh what you're going to say many many times over before you ever say it like the rambam used to say what you're going to say study it many many times before you're going to say it become Bei b means an expert an expert in what you're going to say before you say it don't become an expert during a don't learn with your t learn before they could sharpen you but learn the basics before why because if you are making a mistake your students eventually they're going to want to take your position they're going to want to be rabbis like I have a couple of students they're tired of being students they want to be rabbis they just started keeping Shabbat a few months ago they want to be rabbis already they want to make YouTube videos and they want to make CDs they want they think it's like Fame and Fortune they think I'm like a celebrity of some kind they don't realize the the craziness and headaches that comes along with all this stuff and there's no money whatsoever so anyone thinks that we're making money out of this there's no money each month is a complete Miracle complete Miracle how we survive but Makes Miracles for someone does K some Makes Miracles not not complaining what whatsoever but people think that because you're on YouTube because you're in tour anytime because you're on the internet you're like uh you're like 50 Cent or something like that you're like a celebrity it's all complete nonsense everyone wants to be Rabbi they want to make videos and unfortunately nothing it's not a matter of speaking skills because listen there's a match for everyone some people like Fast speakers some people like slow speakers some people like Spanish speakers some people like English speakers French speakers and so on is a match for everyone but if you don't know what you're saying why are you talking if the first time in your life learning was this week you going to publicize a video to the whole world learn it at least once before but what's the difference is not somebody's going to say wait a minute but technically if you listen to my story I also grew really fast I did only a couple years after starting to learn I already started to teach so how do you explain that first and foremost I tell all the time I have a love even though I'm a rabbi and I have students and they call me R and there's certain people that treat me like I'm some um something much more than what I really am they don't make a decision without asking me and all that good stuff in reality I'm nothing in reality everything that people ask me everything that I know everything that I do I go to my R and I have a couple I don't make a decision unless it passes through inspection of someone that truly knows someone that lives it someone that knows it someone that can tell me with no hesitation whatsoever hey by the way you're wrong hey by the way you have no idea what you're talking about ay by the way this is this this is that someone that just checks and balances someone that checks me at all times why because if I just start telling you guys my opinion within a week you're all going to join Wall Street you're not going to join TOA so that's number one so everything that I do everything that I say is checked with someone it has supervision that's number one number two as you can see most of the time anything that I say I have sources I'll give you page numbers I'll give you uh you know books and so on specifically to make sure that it eliminates my own opinion as much as possible and if I say my opinion it's obvious it's my opinion C calling I don't think is being taught in so that's my opinion you'll know that's my opinion but you know other things that I mentioned it's in the to so that's the things that you have to that uh we're learning here from Aon you have to be very very careful because ultimately if you're not careful your students will become Heretics and consequently meaning what happens at the end okay you made a sin you weren't clear with your words you said things that weren't 100% kosher you wrote something that wasn't 100% understood that led somebody else to sin and that led somebody else to teach the sin and what happens is the ultimate result ultimate result is the name of Heaven may be desecrated meaning there's a chance it's going to be now what is in essence we talk about as being the worst sin in Judaism there's three three of the worst sins in Judaism is one of them the other two isbat and the other one is wasting seed on purpose now is one of them what does it mean anything that's going to cause somebody to view the Torah in a negative way anything that's going to cause someone to view AEM in a negative way anyone anything that's going to cause anyone to view Judaism in a wrong way cuz all of them are one of the same the one part of hem is now what's the significance of so let me explain to you what the says in page [Applause] 16a and you'll understand the answer to your question earlier today was already answered in this says which preceded the says Whoever has no heed for the honor of his creator it would have been better for him had he never come to the world TR translation since everything that hem created in the world he created for his own Glory as it says in uh 611 someone that lacks concern for sanctifying hashem's name for glorifying his name for doing Kem on a regular basis not like once in his life one oh yeah I did a Kem one time I was on the news because I gave Sak to Firefighters not on a regular basis on a everyday basis you're trying to do it in some way or another you may not always succeed but you're trying every day to concern yourself with sanctifying hashem's name something that you're doing every day if you have the opportunity you're already thinking how could I do K oh you know what I'm going to give this guy a dollar why because not because of I'm going to get a mitvah for this dollar or for the $5 or for the $20 $ cuz somebody may see oh look he's wearing a keep this guy must be a Jew look Jews are not all cheap look this guy's gener he's getting $5 not even to another Jew it's a maybe he's not a Jew this other guy this homeless guy wow maybe this Judaism is not so bad that's you're not doing the $5 Mitzvah to the homeless guy because you want the mitvah of the5 you're doing it because maybe someone's going to see and because of that they're going to like AEM and am a little bit more you're not going to not cut off the person on the highway because you're afraid of the sin of being angry or anything like that you're going to actually give him the right of way because say oh you know what look that guy had a keep on what a nice Jew could have been a Nazi the guy but now he likes the Jew when you actually fulfill the like an said from the previous Mish the one that was misunderstood when you do it without expecting a reward when you're doing it just for the sake of the sanctification of hashem's name you're fulfilling your purpose but what is the opposite of that exactly what he's saying here this is telling you that if you don't concern yourself with K on a regular basis you don't care I'm living my life hasem he's living his life he doesn't need me he has other people to let me just survive this week I got to survive making I got to survive with I got to survive the conversion I got to survive the uh Bar Mitzvah I got to survive the marriage I got to survive the contract I got to survive my world let hasem take care of his world if he really wants me to do K give me some of money I'll do real km give me this give me that like it's conditions you give him conditions like he works for you so is telling you here if you're not concerned with Kem it's better for you not better for Hashem hashem's perfect anyway specifically says better for him that you never came to this world then sha is right shamai shamai is right the argument between shamai and shamai whether it was good for you to come to the world or not then if you're not concerned with K on a regular basis bet is right it was better for you not to come to the world why because you're going to be punished for every single minute you lived why because if you're not doing K that means you're missing an opportunity if you're missing an opportunity look what happened to the most righteous person number one prophet in history M missed an opport Unity to do K once not twice not three times not five not 10 not his whole life his whole life was one big K how do we know it's in the Torah Five Books of Moses not five books of your own his whole life was one big hm wrote a book in his name missed one opportunity to do K one one time he didn't give the homeless guy $5 one time says you're not going dead at this SL and says you little people including myself you don't find the way do K on a regular basis you don't look for it it's better if you didn't come to this world hasem saying this not me if I said it the would never forgive me give me songs so what's going to happen with us that we don't we have to start we learning in the I knew k was a big mitah was good it was great biggest wonderful great can't wait to die already finally make this Mitzvah no no he's telling you here in this my friend you are obligated to do it every day every time you now obviously you're not going to succeed every day you have to try your life must operate in a way where you are looking for a way to sanctify aem's name because that is your purpose you have to stop thinking oh I'm going to do this because is going to give me a million dollars if I give my I'm going to do this because is going to give me $2 million if I give I'm G to do this because is going to give me a lot of P because I'm nice to my wife and everything is revolved around hem has to give you something for it first of allm doesn't work for you that's number one second of all hasm didn't say that everything is going to be benefits in this world third of all even the things that he said you will benefit out of them in this world he didn't see right away he didn't give you a time give and you'll become rich but he didn't say you become rich right away could be 10 years later could be 5 years later could be 20 years later you'll definitely live it's not going to be the last day of your life but he promised it nonetheless don't do it for that don't do the mitat for the reward because if you're going to get the reward here you're missing out the point cuz even if let's say for example you give my sale okay I'm going to buy CDs every month I'm going to give $1,000 for CDs get people do Cube get this get that has says oh wow look at this guy gave money for CDs he gave Mel this okay you know what next lot ticket he wins the guy wins $100 million wins $100 million great right wonderful he has $100 million now water have a SE grab a chair don't make that just just just sit just please we're in the middle of the point he guys are delivering the Gatorade like his Drugs That's it he come so late to BR the Gatorade so I forgot my point $100 million got to the the lottery the lottery ly God bless you guys you help me work on my midot this blame it on me that's all so now somebody gets all the reward here they have no idea how much they missed out in the real world that's the point you get $100 million here you're going to die $100 million going come with you stay here where you going to live 70 years 80 years 100 years 120 years okay you going spend $100 million you have fun you brought a plane another plane another plane another house you have houses in all different places somehow you found a patent to live in all of them at the same time you have in all of them you have cars in all of them you found one of these M to allow you to have multiple wives in all of them too okay you die though you leave it here it's worthless if you get a lot of money means you got your reward in this world definitely part of it a big part of it so now someone that is concerned so much with this world concerned so much with the reward in this world is missing the point is missing the point because the point is to sanctify shem's name the point is to do Kem because the mishna here is telling us that if you don't do km you actually missing the point you are not only missing opportunity to make the most important mitvah in the entire T you're missing your purpose to life and aside from that usually when you're not doing Kem you find yourself unfortunately in a situation where you're desecrating hashem's name not only not Kem but desecrating hm's name now the rabbis that see people making mistakes don't always say that it's a mistake and there's a cause to it the once told a story he said that um a certain Rabbi one of the members of his congregation was arrested for tax evasion and before they took him to prison he asked to see the rav Rabbi says yes you asked to see me say yes Rabbi I asked to see you because I wanted to let you know that now they're going to send me to Siberia for years and it's all your fault RAB says my fault why is it my fault you knew what I was doing was wrong you know I wasn't paying my taxes you knew I was giving extra you know I was doing this but you never told me had you told me that I need to work on myself maybe I wouldn't be going to jail for 15 years and says he's 100% right the says so Shabbat page 54 it says that why did Hashem punish the rabbis before he punished the wicked because they didn't rebuke the people they didn't tell them that they causing didn't tell him they're driving on Shabbat they didn't tell them anything but then the sages are saying yeah but that generation was so wicked that even if you would have told them they wouldn't have listened so theem answers he goes hasem knew this hem knew that even if you would have told him they wouldn't have done chuva they're Wicked but the rabbis didn't know which means means that they were still obligated to tell them the truth they're still obligated to rebuke them another part in page 148 it says something I've never heard before until I learned this something very scary that I don't think anybody's ever taught in the we talk about the R said ra one of the greatest sages that ever lived Jerusalem was not destroyed until people of Truth had disappeared from it as it says in ver in Jeremiah 5 verse one walk about in the streets of Jerusalem see now and know and seek in its plazas if you will find a single man if there is even one who dispenses Justice who seeks the truth I will forgive her ra is telling you here something shocking he says if there was one kiru Rabbi that actually said the truth during the mikash one Rabbi telling people you're not allowed to drive on Shabbat or else you go to G forever you're not allowed to drive in Shabbat or else you considered a idol worshipper you're not allowed to be with a married woman you're not allowed to be with your wife if she's n you're not allowed to eat nonos or anywhere inside your house or outside your house even if it's Pizza one Rabbi one that actually said the truth I would have forgiven everyone I wouldn't have destroyed Jerusalem one not one not one left in was not left it said all the ones that were actually doing CU left already all the ones that were saying the truth they left there was no one left everyone that was left was or people that don't say the truth so say before say 100% same thing is going to happen unfortunately unfortunately 49 it says that the truth is going to be hated at the end of times and the ones that most most of the rabbis unfortunately are not going to be telling the truth they're going to you know be uh above some of them some of them are even going to be above yeah so here he's saying something shocking here okay listen if you if it was like andem talking about Hey listen if there's 50 tadim in do you're going to save the nation you're going destroy everyone no no I'll save it 45 I'll save it 40 I'll save it 30 I'll save it 20 I'll save it 10 I'll save it hasem says in the whole city of full of used to kill people just because they ask for not people that are laying they just don't fulfill the we're not talking about people that are uh you know Idol worshiping talking you are just not fulfilling the mitvah of rebuking other people he says if there was one of them one person that actually fulfilled that Mitzvah teaching the public the truth I would have destroyed the BET mdash one and L up right here page here read for yourself highlighted good I have a question and then I want to know if I can make a statement like a short question my first question or the question is is it can someone convert if they were once anti-sm yes okay as long as they're not anti-semitic anymore right right right so I just wanted to to give like a really short story about you know being a Kem okay really short goad I used to work for these Israelis um many years ago and actually I didn't understand anything about Judaism but I walked into the interview um and I saw all this Hebrew and everything and I felt like I was in heaven I was like wow this is amazing you know this is like a holy place I could work here and I was just a secular nonew right and um so they hired me and I was so excited but I'm tell tell you like over the 2 years my experience was terrible I was like this is Judaism they were it was just terrible and I hated Judaism and I hated Israel and I hated all things Jewish and I feel like I probably shouldn't say this but I just want to be 100% honest yeah I mean listen it's a uh well you wouldn't be different than R AA R AA R AKA who was the biggest that ever lived had 24,000 students where the least of them the smallest student out of all of his students was able to revive the dead that was the smallest student lowest level of student the highest student is was so high that when he would learn Torah every bird that would fly over him would burn from the from the fire of his Torah RAB AA was his Rabbi and also it says a story of four people went to sh went to heaven and so what happens over there one died got too close to the saw something he wasn't allowed to look at died another one went crazy another one became a k became a heretic saw something that he couldn't understand became a heretic his name was forever known as a and the last one was R AA who became better as a result of ITA was that Rabbi and that very same Rabbi before he did chuva he says I used to not only be anti-semitic every time I would see a Jew I would want to bite him like a donkey he say no no you mean bite him like a dog dog bites no no bite him like a donkey because when a dog bites he bites the flesh when a donkey bites he bites the bone he Crush means he hated Jews so much that he wanted to destroy them but then he becomes the greatest Jew and actually some say that he actually got even a higher level of than he got to the 50th level the 49th you can always do every day you can do every second every hour on anything right for all your for all your sins for for everything that you've done wrong you can clean it up immediately no matter how big the sin is yes always and I just want to clarify accept I didn't I didn't hate you for no reason like you had all the reason in the world yeah because they were cursing fighting right no absolutely listen it's a uh it's it's it's not you're not the only one you're not the only one so we can finish another Mish and a half hour I can let you guys go home which one do you want okay 12 You' bet sh received the tradition from them this is the next pair that we're talking about he says be among the disciples ofon they're talking abouton loving peace and pursuing peace loving people and bringing them closer to the Torah okay so first of all we have to understand who this and Shay is so now we have were giants of giants but they also have students and people come to the one day they see that they're uh they're in bees on Shabbat morning and they see that the sunlight is not coming in see sunlight's not coming in and they notice there's a body under all the snow there's a body and they're allowed to now it's they're allowed to violate Shabbat put Shabbat on hold to take him out climb the roof take him out put him next to the fire warm him up and revive him and they find out this person's name is H they say what are you doing you jeopardizing your life you on the Skylight and he tells them listen I work every day for one p for one coin every day half of the money I give to my family to live very modest living and the other half I pay to come here every day to learn from you guys half my money for Tora half my money for my house in those days they would have to pay to go sh and it wasn't free no no discounts so unfortunately because it snowed on Friday I couldn't get any work so I came to learn Torah the bouncer in the front told me sorry no shortt no shoes no no service no money no service can't get in goes yeah but I don't have any money I'll pay you back goes listen if I let you in I'm going have to let everybody else in without a payment can't do it and I couldn't deal with the fact that I couldn't learn to so I climbed the roof so I could hear you through the roof goes yeah but the snow was Ping On You goes I didn't care I wanted to listen to your to and he put his life on the line just to listen to he didn't do the rabbi a favor for coming through he was putting his life on a line to listen to sh under the snow under everything and almost died because of it eventually he became Z because he was not just but also knowledge Elder in knowledge so now he got to a point where he put his life on the line for Torah said this guy puts his life on line for Torah he's never ever has to pay again and they took him under their wing and he became their top student eventually he became the the N became the n and Shaya Shi became the a second in command but the says that before in page 16 B says that before shamai there was a person by name of manim before bet shamai he was but he left he left the Sedin left the Sedin so the asked where did he go you give him away your position sanin sudden is top position you going to leave where you going you going play pool you play golf what are you playing what are you doing Go Vacation retirement where you going abay says AB one of the greatest sages that ever lived he's mentioned practically in every almost in every page of he says he went to went off the says no he didn't go up to he went to work for the king and he took 80 other sages with him to go work for the king because there was not a lot of a lot of things decrees against so he went to work in government to overturn those decrees help is says oh there's no they're both saying the same meaning the fact that he went to go for work for government to help is instead of learning T and being part of the according to according to the Tora means it's as if he went off the it's as if he went off the D so don't think it's a good thing to be a politician because you can help am it's much better to be an making $1,000 month learning t t is going to help much more T is going to definitely help much more yes this is so this is who we're dealing with here so H is saying this this is a person that sacrificed his life is saying be like the disciples ofon how so not be like Aron because they know it's impossible you're not going to be let's be real here he's saying be like one of his students how his students a student of a teacher tries to emulate the teacher in every way possible teacher studies a lot student studies a lot teacher is particular about time student's particular about time teacher is Honorable student becomes honorable the teacher is going to portray a certain personality a certain character and if it's a real student the student is going to try to emulate that teacher this is why it's very very important for parents to act like human beings why because if you tell your son every time they answer the phone and somebody ask for them tell them I'm not home tell them I'm not home then what you're really doing you think you're doing you know your yourself a favor here in reality what you're doing you're teaching your son how to lie cuz he knows your home but you teaching no out a lie if every time somebody upsets you start screaming yelling and breaking the house then you're teaching your son this is what you do when bad things happen one time Rabbi asked a group of his students young kids what is more important than Shabbat what is more important than Shabbat all the students say nothing is more important Shabbat Shabbat is Holy Shabbat is this Shabbat is that Shabbat is that and this little Johnny in the back yes cuz hot food is much more important than Shabbat Rabbi was wise says why cuz cuz I know that even though we prepare for Shabbat the whole week and we save and my mom cooks my mom cleans and we all help and everything else if my dad D has the food and the food is not hot he breaks the entire table and he goes crazy and Shabbat no longer matters so hot food is more important than Shabbat that's a good example you understand thank you I got the check I got the point so parents need to understand your kids they're like cameras they're recording all the time no Bluetooth needed no batteries all the time they're recording everything you do everything you do you act a certain way they're going to do the same thing you yell they're going to yell you're angry they're going to get angry you're cheap they're going to be cheap some parents have arguments what if the parents have arguments don't argue in front of the kids ever ever never worst thing you can show a kid is argue in front of him cuz the P the kid has to choose sides he has to put himself in there you know disaster for the kid never argue in front of the kid obviously arguments are going to happen I mean you're going to be you know you're going to be in a marriage and so on but there's a way to have arguments definitely never in front of the kids kids should only see a United parents if IMA said he's not allowed to go even if ABA doesn't know why she said he's not alled to go automatically he agrees with IMA never have parents says yes and the other one says no because then the kids going to do this yeah but ABA said yes what happens the other one says no this one said yes so it creates not only creates tension between the parents but on top of it it makes the kid into a little con man he knows who to ask certain questions kid is SM the kids are not stupid they're very very smart it's not because they know how to play with iPads at a year old because they they notice everything EMA's not modest kids are not going to be modest it's a reality I have I have a student where the uh daughter watch we did or we talked I'm not really sure when she did it but she asked IMA IMA how come you don't wear K how come you don't cover your hair the EMA to bury herself little 6 seveny old girl is asking how come you don't cover your hair he says look the rabbi is saying inure he's saying in sure you have to cover your hair IMA how come you don't cover your hair now a smart EMA what would she do try to figure out a way of how to beat a yet and start covering our hair that's a smart IMA what does this IMA do she told her husband not to go to anymore what can you do wom can build build women can build women can destroy so is the one that PS you know was not only a lover of Peace but he pursued peace what does it mean loving peace and pursuing peace yes there's a lot of people that love for it that everyone loves peace no one actually outright likes War unless you're like Napoleon or or Hitler or something or Isis you know unless like some type of dysfunctional person you like peace Everyone likes peace it's really the ultimate purpose of someone's life is just to have peace of mind every wants a calm life they want the money to come into their bank without them working without the clients you know ragging on trades and ragging on on different agreements they have they want the wife to always say yes they want the husband to always say yes they want the kids to always go and get A's in school and get the best wives and the best husbands and make sure they the same religion and the same uh you know cultures and the same everything sometimes you tell somebody listen he's uh he's not Jewish but he's Moroccan oh we're Moroccan we're Moroccan is the same thing yeah but he's not Jew he's Arab it's okay they're Moroccan at least people don't understand okay a religion is more important than the culture but what can we do people don't understand the the the the foundation of certain things cultural stuff ashkanazi Safar Moroccan all that stuff is complete nonsense especially for this generation this generation is completely disconnected with their Heritage for you to marry the same Heritage as you is completely meaningless people ask me for help with because we have a lot of students and a lot of people come to so we meet a lot of people and once in a while we get lucky and we say oh look this is Aid that matches he's 25 she's 25 he's 45 she's 45 he wants kids she wants kids he's this he's that you know they they what they're looking for matches and I send it to this one guy a couple times has happened to me I said oh look perfect match oh do you have one that's Syrian you C she's Syrian Persian Moroccan ashkanazi let her be Ethiopian with a little mix of yemenite and and and and what's going in the Indian at the same time what do you care it's a woman she wants the same things as you do you even know what it means to be Syrian in your generation do you even know what it means to be Persian in your generation do you know what your forefathers went through you went through G to keep Tora in your generation you have Tora handed to you on a silver platter you know what your forefathers went through you don't know what they went through you can't connect to your forefathers so what are you you're only going to marry a person because she's Persian what about the fact that she's not the right match for you she's 10 years older than you she doesn't want kids she's completely atheist that doesn't matter as long as she's Persian as long as she's Syrian people are full of you know my like it's just nonsense but sometimes this actually comes from the parents actually had one situation the parents broke up Aid they broke up Aid because he wasn't the right type of Russian she was Russian he was Russian but it wasn't like I don't know a certain type of Russian not really sure what kind whatever it was wasn't the right type of Russian from the right type of town no it's not good for us it's nonsense not only is nonsense because it never mattered but especially in this generation cuz this generation what do they know they know iPhones they no iPads they barely know how to go to the bathroom by themselves without getting a trophy you tell them listen a uh a uh uh you can't marry a woman because she's not your same Heritage you don't even know what your heritage is a parent is lucky the kid even keep Shabbat it's like winning the lot if your kid's religious now you're going to give him a a tough time because he or she is not marrying the right culture that he's not connected to anyway it's nonsense we have to be like Aron not only loving peace like in the picture the nice picture oh yeah we like Shalom okay would you let your your daughter marry in ashkanazi would you let your daughter marry a safarik oh no no no we love Shalom but at a distance we love Shalom but from there let let the ashkanazi be with the ashkanazi and the Safar are the Safar and they have their Kila and they have their Kila that's not loving peace what's loving peace all one tells us loving peace is pursuing peace meaning you have to look for it Chase it because it's not going to come naturally naturally we all have a yet naturally we all have ego naturally we all think that we're better than everybody else naturally you think you're smarter than everybody else I think I'm smarter than everybody else you're better looking than everybody else you're smarter than everybody else you're everybody thinks they're better that's a natural inclination no one wakes up in the morning even the ones that are depressed and think I'm the worst in everything people that are depressed usually are depressed because they feel like they're not getting credit for all the things they're good at but here he's telling you if you going to pursue peace you have to realize number one it's not going to come natural that's where you have to pursue it you have to be you have to make it happen you want schom you have to work at you can't ignore your wife 360 days a year and only realize she exists in and tell I'm going to uman do you mind you can't you know you can't think that hey I'm going to ignore my wife the whole week but on Shabbat I'm going to say hello and I'm sleep the all day you can't be out with your friends the whole month and then only say hi to your husband as soon as you want a uh you know as soon as you want something new from the store some money you can't treat people like this you want schom you have to work at it to be nice to each other you have to find a way to please each other in essence the whole point of marriage the whole point of a relationship any relationship whether it's a friendship or it's a marriage is for you to bring the best out of each other meaning you are better version of yourself as a result of this relationship by yourself you're one but as a result of this relationship you're more than one but if you become negative one as a result of this relationship there's a problem with the relationship if every time you're next to your wife you're an angry person there's a problem with the relationship every every time you're next to your husband you want to vomit there's a problem with the relationship if every time you're next to your boss you want to stab somebody you should leave that job the point of a relationship is for you to become better if you're not seeing yourself becoming better as a result of the relationship this there's a foundational problem is a systemic problem this is no different than all major problems that eventually collapse like people ask me oh why do you think uh the 2008 collapse happened and it's going to happen again in the stock market financials and everything it's very very simple answer because everything was based on an Illusion part of the illusion is called fractionalization which is banking banks are allowed to loan 50 100 200 times or even more than what they actually have so let's say for example I want to lend you money I want to lend you money you want a million I'm going to give you a million cuz I have a million do I have a million do you want a million I'm going to give you a million I'm going to charge you interest I'm not allowed cuz you're a Jew and I actually don't have a million dollars but in a world we were both non Jewish and I had a million dollars I would give you a million dollar and charge you interest on it right okay but if I was a bank FDIC insured Not only would I be able to lend you a million dollars I'd be able to lend everybody here who did they get the money government that's the license the license to steal so that's number one so you have all the loans are based on money that no one actually has two no one's actually monitoring the currency no one has been monitoring the currency the US dollar has stopped being monitored for over 15 years it used to be something called money supply where we knew how much money we actually had in print in the old days it used to be backed by gold but that already stopped over 30 years ago but then after that they said no we're going to have some public number that's going to be posted on the government website it's going to show you how much money is actually printed so at least we know we can track how much money is out there how many bills are out there the real number is not published no one knows meaning that if Obama wants to you know paste copy and paste an extra two three four five billion dollars to his account before he leaves office he can no one would know who's going to say no you who's going to say no what do you think Hillary Clinton has a100 billion Foundation because people actually worked for this hundred billion printed it that's stealing to print if you like if you could print money you're not stealing from anyone you're stealing from a system sure it's stealing the system is corrupt you're not allowed to steal from a thief just because you're a thief doesn't make doesn't mean you're you're allowed to Thief you're allowed to be a thief but nonetheless so you have a foundation systemic problem now we don't have you know any any knowledge of how much money is being printed we don't have any knowledge of what's backing it we don't have any knowledge of how who's actually even lending the money if they have the money and last but not least what we're lending on we don't really know if it's worth as much as what we say it is meaning it's all based on some estimate of what the collateral is worth which in reality is based on perception of the future which could be flawed because we're always assuming that the future is better than the past all future estimates are based on better numbers than today because there's something called inflation which means the value of money decreases and you know and so on prices go up prices go up but that's not always the case there's also deflation there's depressions there's life so the system in general I'm not trying to give you guys an a financial uh lecture here but the system in general is flawed which is the reason why almost every 10 years years every 7 to 10 years you'll see a financial collapse look at history you'll see a financial collapse some bigger than others but we've had a bull market for I don't know since 2008 I already thought that the market was going to collapse a few years ago I was wrong but I wouldn't be surprised if it collapses soon not because I'm in the market I don't even watch the market I haven't watched the market in two years I don't watch the news Market or anything but it's just a reality this is just how the world is works when you see the average guy that used to paint walls all of a sudden is a millionaire developer there's something wrong with the system when the taxi dri is leaving his taxi and all of a sudden he's also a developer or he's a stock Trader and everybody's doing this one thing and the average guy became rich and it's easy to become rich there a problem there's a problem with the system and eventually it collapses so in order for us to not have a system that's based on straw in order for us to not have a marriage that's based on a foundation of just matches but rather on a foundation that's of Steel and rock and things that are really really fundamental really good we have to work at them we have to work and we have to chase it but ultimately you have now in order for you to do all this in order for you to love peace pursue peace you have to love people so now the first three parts practically every single Rabbi can say that they they qualify they want peace they give lectures they want peace they don't want to tell people they don't want to tell people all the things about G of what actually happens there they tell people that why because if I tell them that it's they going to create War it's the opposite of Peace just n I'm the student of Aron I want peace and I'm chasing Peace by only mentioning the nice things in the Torah right or no chasing peace and be and I'm doing it because I love people but here's the problem you're missing the last part of the Tor the last part of this mishna says bringing them close to Torah it doesn't say bringing him close to part of the Torah doesn't say bringing him part of you know to close to just the first five two books of of of M doesn't say just bringing him close to the synagogue to give but don't keep Shabbat doesn't say that it says bringing them close to Torah meanings to the whole thing to the whole picture to everything to the full truth why because without without fear you will never stop sinning without having a f Foundation based on fear you're never going to stop sinning you're never going to stop going against theem you're never going to truly connect to him you're going to connect to a false god that you're going to treat like a Santa Claus that owes you something because you were a good kid all year based on a definition that you created of what good really is and you're going to put yourself in a scenario where you have no chance of being the student of Aron so that Rabbi that says that he's the student of Aon because he loves people and he's pursuing peace and that's why he's not telling him the full picture in reality he only loves himself because he's not fulfilling the mishna he's filling only three parts of it the three convenient parts that anyone can say but the part of the part of bringing them close to Torah that's the part that's the hardest thing and bringing people close to Torah is not easy there's different strategies I'm not saying that uh you know that uh telling giving people on the head every time is the only strategy there's many strategies there's an amazing story from R grman of grman is a very very interesting Rabbi he's one of the few if probably the only one that could do this in this generation what I'm about to tell you um he's a unique personality he's a pure person I can't can't do what he does and I don't think anybody else can but he's of the generation that's still around that can do it I mean this is the type of Rabbi that's so pure that he can go into a nightclub pull all the Jews out and bring them all Yesa without sinning nothing old man beard everything he goes into the club finds the Jews brings a MTI Yesa they go to Yesa they do today a rabbi goes to a club he doesn't leave becomes Kel that's a reality Gman used to do this so Gman is a very loves am says the truth he loves he has a love for that's unbelievable love of that's unbelievable so he says this funny story recently he says listen I never I never uh um go on first class I never go on first class it's not nice you know I raise money for organizations people going to say look this guy is raising money for organizations and he's on First Class wasting the public Mak money so I never go on first class because one one time cuz I fly a lot El told me listen you have all these miles you have all this you have all that free first class upgrade for free I said you know what I don't really feel good probably better for me to sit by myself and not get anybody hell sick i s In First Class fine okay no s I don't have to pay for it at least and I'm not wasting the Public's money so he went sit in the first class he said in the first class only three people it was me there was two empty seats and it was this one guy that was lb and his wife he says I never really do this but for some reason after the plane took off I got the inclination to talk to this guy and they came up to him he said I I'm R Grossman I raise money for uh you know for this organization that uh is trying to find homes for these abused children for these abused girls girls come from broken homes and they're abused and all types of things happen to them and I'm trying to raise money for them would you like to see a movie about it and the guy says yes so I give him my laptop and he takes the headphones and he puts one in his ear and one in his wife's ear and I go sit down and after about 10 minutes he finishes so I come up to him and to see how he liked the movie and as I lean over to him instead of Leaning and you know putting my hand on his shoulder by accident I press the button on his chair that makes the chair into a bed and because he's so heavy he instantly goes and becomes like a bed so I make this guy lay down right away and I get so embarrassed that I made this heavy guy this big guy laid down that I don't know what to do myself so I ended up giving him a kiss on his forehead and I ran away he's such a cute old man he says this story It's the funniest thing in the world and then I see the guy comes up after he you know gets up and he says to me you're never going to believe it and my wife is a my witness to this I've been uh trying to donate a lot of money to different organizations in Israel and for the last few times that I've gone I've seen different companies and I don't like anything I haven't found something that I like I said to my wife unless Hashem sends me some organization that's helping young girls that are abused from a person that's holy that is going to give me a kiss on my forehead I don't think I'm ever going to find anything and as soon as I finish seeing it this is what happened so if you love to that extent like huh is he the Disco Rabbi I think so I think so if you if you if you're him you could be that people the all the girls start to cry in the lecture K can no he's amazing he's amazing any questions anything amen amen so [Music] [Applause] [Music] he [Music]