Losing 50 Pounds In A Community Built Around Food

What would you say to somebody who's struggling right now? They're overweight, they can't control their eating, they don't have patience to make exercise. What would you tell them? Somebody >> You start slowly, not go up right away. Start doing slowly. I basically every day in the morning I wait before I start eating and it goes everything. You can see it goes down like a like He told me do this and don't stop. Go on another day, another day. Eventually you're going to start lose weight. So after 2 weeks start going down down. >> [music] >> allowed to try to make sales. But at the end of the day it's not here to for our benefit. I find it something something interesting cuz I see certain people try to promise money [music] on their children. But then it's like who's behind the money? What can the average person do to help a older single? Listen, the podcast it still has to stay it on original. Be professional and I made them with a higher cameras. My mission is stop hold my blood and chill. Okay, welcome to another episode of Positivity. Super excited to be here with my guest Avrumi Perel who has a beautiful fascinating story. I think people will really enjoy it. More than anything, recently he just lost approximately 60 lb. We're going to hear the journey from himself, but he did it the natural way. So Avrumi, I'll stick with this that you are. Very excited to have you on. >> Yes, hi. >> Uh for fun oil on how you did it, what sort of motivated. Shout out to the sponsor of this episode, the Panels Group. We all heard about this. Uh mention was making solar for their house and are able to save monthly on their electric bill about 30 to 40%. So my dad aligned to this getting and he saved a tremendous amount of money and mechanics financing. So basically instead of paying an electric bill, you're going to be paying a solar panel bill. And if you have a let's say for your house, you can also incorporate it into the payments. So, and solar panels, you are still paying cheaper than your electric. But I actually looked into these numbers for my own house. It is the customer do. So, yeah guys, check this out. The number is 347-435 2327. And if you mention positivity or Webber, you get $500 back. So, if you've been considering doing solar panel in the New Jersey area or in Monsey or in Arizona, mention Webber and you get yourself $500 back besides saving the money every single month on your electric bill. Either way, you can reach out and get a free quote. You know, all you have to do is send your one electric bill and your address and they'll tell you exactly how much money you can save, but it's fully hassle-free. You truck will take care of you directly. Send them a WhatsApp. Again, the number is 347-435-2327. >> So, it was around Passover time and I decided that after Passover I want to start serious losing weight. So, a friend told me in the dream in Yald Yald and Bar Park >> Mhm. >> to to lose weight in the natural way without skinny shots. Just natural natural. Basically, going consistently exercise. And to to to lose weight naturally. >> Wow. >> And do exercise naturally and eating healthy. >> Mhm. So, I'm thinking you see hearing you speak English, Mochi, I'm thinking producers should we just do it in English? More people can get inspired. Okay, we'll go English. Always say the people that speak Yiddish also understand English, but some people that uh speak English don't understand Yiddish at all. >> I can better in Yiddish, so >> So, okay, we can go back and forth a little bit. Um I'm just curious, what motivated you to start a diet now? Like >> Um My blood sugar was a little bit high. Too much, but a little bit. >> Okay. >> So, I started when I be healthy. >> Did the doctor say anything or you just decided for your own? >> Uh-huh. And before that, how was it How was it How does it feel to be super How How did you feel being before you lost all this weight? >> I felt much heavier. It was hard for me to stand. Now, I can stand all the time and >> Mhm. >> It's much My life is different. Now, I look different than before. Completely. People didn't recognize me. >> Yeah. Right. >> Five people the last few days I They know me from before from the shield and >> Yeah. >> They didn't know me. >> Uh-huh. We have to put a picture on the thumbnail or something the before and after for people to be able to grasp. So, once you decided to diet, you said you went to Yelek Ve'Yeled, uh and did you also change the things that you ate or it was just exercise? Give me the rundown. >> So, basically, I start eating less. Let's say I ate a whole plate of cereal in the morning in hun- diff- different kind of cereals. >> Mhm. >> More nuts as well. The rice crisp rice. >> Mhm. >> So, I start eating only the more healthy cereal. Bran flakes and so on. This kind. >> Yeah. Okay. >> [clears throat] >> And then I was getting a small plate, not a small plate and was enough for me till lunch. >> you eat before? Like three plates? >> A big one. And I filled it up again. Like I uh >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Now, I'm trying to know how much, not too much, and I'm getting full. And usually I don't eat till lunch. If I'm in the middle, let's say 11:00 to 12:00, I to some fruit or vegetable. >> Mhm. >> Or a rice cake, but basically normally I don't eat the lunch. For lunch I'm eating whole wheat rice cake, whole wheat crackers, whole wheat matzah. I'm switching. >> Yeah. >> And then the spread, sometimes eggplant, sometimes sugar free peanut butter. I'm trying if it's available, you know. >> Right. >> And it's more to the healthy side. >> Mhm. >> I'm saying I can sometimes eat eggs. >> Mhm. >> And I'm trying not to use oil when I make scrambled eggs. I can use it with water or milk. This AI told me that >> Mhm. >> So they can you don't need to use oil. >> I didn't know that. But oil, depending on which diet, I think olive oil is a healthy ingredient, no? >> Right, but still still I think a lot of times mhm >> It piles up, yeah, right. Depends on which diet. I know let's say on the keto diet oil's unlimited, doesn't have any calories. >> Right, so I try to avoid it. >> Right. For you this is what works. >> Yeah. >> Wow. Most people the hardest part is the consistency, to stay on a certain diet, to stay with a certain schedule of of working out. How did you stay consistent? How did you not fall off? >> I had a mind to do it and I said I didn't know up till the end. I went 6 miles a day walking, two in the morning, two in the afternoon, and two at night in the gym. That was and when I went to gym I went inclined fully up for 30 minutes and 2 miles. Means hill up, like you go on a hill. >> Somebody made you your workout schedule? You just did whatever you >> I have a friend in the gym. He He suggests me some things to do. >> Right, cuz sometimes you go to the gym, you're doing things you have no idea what it is. You have to make sure. No, I know for myself, yeah, I'm in the same journey. I'm not the skinniest. And um I'm I'm also trying to lose weight. So >> Yeah. He told me do this and don't stop. Go on another day, another day, Eventually, you're going to start lose weight. So, after 2 weeks, it start going down, down. I have I have it in on my phone. You can see. I have basically every day in the morning. I wait before I start eating, and it goes every day. You can see it goes down like a like a >> Oh, wow. >> Sensitively down, down, down. >> Yeah, and did your blood pressure go down, also? >> Yes. >> Really? >> It's much better now. >> Wow. A healthy It's really inspiring to So, man, what would you say to somebody who's struggling right now? They're overweight. They can't control their eating. They don't have patience to make exercise. What would you tell them? Somebody who >> It should start slowly. Not go up right away. Start doing slowly, and I mean the middle the meantime go up more a little bit. >> A little more exercise, a little more food. >> Watching what I'm what I'm eating. >> Uh-huh. What is your favorite unhealthy food to eat? >> What I want to eat? Cheesecake. >> Cheesecake. >> [laughter] >> But between me and you, cheesecake is not It's It's okay. Cheesecake you can make a healthy cheesecake. >> But most of the store don't sell, you know? They're full of sugar, you know? >> I have this theory. I was speaking to my friend, you know, Quadzilla? Uh you um Uh Deutsch. You know Yianni Deutsch? You know his name? Okay, I'm sorry if I forgot his name, man. And he is a He is amazing um at uh making content. But I spoke to him this week, and I I was telling him in general that the food market in general, you walk into any supermarket, Walmart, ShopRite, other uh in the in the Yiddish world, even. The food products that they're selling is simply unhealthy for the reason that it's cheaper to produce, easier to sell, more addictive to people. So, majority of the foods that you walk in the grocery is going to be snacks, candies, jellies, sugary products, juices, all these things that are not healthy for the body. There is a small vegetable and fruit section, some chicken and protein in the fridge. I mean look at the protein aisle. When you look at the yogurts, there is one yogurt the Mahadran or the Normans uh plain yogurt without anything added. That's the only healthy yogurt in the entire grocery. Everything else >> It's more not healthy. >> sugar, chemicals, if it's Splenda, if it's regular sugar. Now they put the whole snack in the yogurt, which I love that yogurt. I'm just saying they put in the the cookie crumb, the whole thing. Like >> What in the world? >> not healthy. Yeah, you walk the cereal aisle. Like it's just insane. And I'm saying it because again, there are a lot of sell it. People are allowed to make money, but there is it's also that their marketing is a lot better. Like in the grocery world of Coca-Cola, it's one of the biggest companies in the world. Their marketing is great and everybody is drinking this poison. >> Right. >> And they don't necessarily care. And I'm not even saying that they're wrong. So I'm not even saying that they're wrong. Like they're allowed to sell their product. They're allowed to try to make sales, but at the end of the day, it's not here to for our benefit in my opinion. >> 100%. So I'm trying to avoid all this. >> Mhm. Wow. >> So let's say I go to the grocery and I cut the cheese, low fat. I'm trying to do everything healthy way. Salad every day. That's it today for lunch. I bought a whole wheat um bread with has eggs. I I tried to avoid mayonnaise. Just I put in the egg and vegetables. Then I bought a half separate salad with a kiwi, a cup of kiwi. That was my lunch today. >> The funny thing is that after doing it for a few weeks, you feel so much better. You don't want to eat sugar, oily foods, fattening foods. >> 100%. >> It makes you nauseous when you do eat it. If you >> And I work in a pizza store. >> No way. >> Yes. >> So, how does that feel? >> I'm just not using this. Never touch in the food. No pizza, no french fries. >> Wow. So, one of the things that I found is that there is a healthy balance, which means that yeah, if you want to actively lose weight, you got to do what you're doing. Okay? Exercise actively and watch every ingredient. If you want to maintain weight, you can have a slice of pizza once a week or something like that. It's not I think it's three or four hundred calories. Like if you're sticking to a basic 2,000 calorie diet, it's not so hard to stay on the 2,000 calories. >> 100% And if I do exercise right after that, it goes out. >> Correct. Burns the calories. Correct. >> That that slice pizza or that I don't know. >> Exactly. Right. So, that's the kind of life that I'm trying to do. Like people always ask me, "How do you eat the foods and every" Yeah, you eat the foods, but a healthy amount. I don't have to eat like a hazard because I'm on a diet. Like So, I think that that's uh just in general my thoughts. Wow. Um very interesting. Um I'm curious you you did share Where do you Where do you work? You said the pizza store. How Do you enjoy meeting the customers over there? Is it the >> Yeah, I'm friendly and I don't really talk and um I'm friendly customers when you serve them. >> Uh-huh. >> That we sell and selling it. >> You ever saw somebody come in, order four slices, and eats it all up? >> Could happen, yeah. >> [laughter] >> Uh-huh. Some people just like to eat a lot, no? I feel like I'm not that kind but I can't eat a lot of food. I can eat just plain food. >> Yeah, no. Yeah, it's all kind of people, you know? Some people more, some people less. >> Right. So, you mentioned to me that you are a bocher. I mean, you you you don't necessarily look like a older bocher, but you did mention your age, and we'll see if we're going to keep this in depending on if you feel comfortable sharing, but I think it's a big inspiration that you are a bocher still. And you went on your journey, you're inspiring others um of losing weight, being responsible, you have a successful job. What are some of the challenges that come with being a Bochur? >> It's a hard subject, and I'm trying to stay positive. >> Mhm. >> Whatever Shem wants will make sure it happens, so I said like this, I did this exercise and this losing weight not for a Shidduch. >> Mhm. >> Not for health. >> Yeah. >> Now it's going to happen cuz I look better, and the Shidduch will come, is that a plus for me, but I didn't focus for the Shidduch. That's what I think. That's the approach I'm thinking, because you know, I don't focus the whole day about Shidduch. The Shem is going to help. >> Yeah. Right. I had I had a very interesting story by the way, you're reminding me of now that when I was in Shidduchim, and I got married by 28, so I wasn't relatively in our community that's considered an old Bochur. But I went out on a date when I was uh 24 about, and I came back from the date, and the Shidduch guy told me that um something that they they said no, and he mentioned something like, maybe if you lose weight and 20 30 lb, she'll go out with you again. I don't know if the girl said it or if he said it, but it really bothered me, and I decided that's it, I'm going to lose weight again. At that time I was about uh 300 lb, ended up losing about 50 lb. Um and I felt and looked obviously a lot better, but the reason I say this is because I do think that there is you know, obviously my wife didn't marry me because I'm skinny. I mean, she knows who I am and whatever, but in the same time at the end of the day, it is normal to understand that a normal healthy girl might not want somebody that is very overweight or obese or doesn't carry themselves well. >> Right. >> So, it could be a part of a shidduch. I'm just curious what your thoughts are. And I'm saying this as a very overweight person. That I I did see it as part of a shidduch is to look good. Or or better to say to look healthy. Forget about looking good. We all look good. To look healthy. As a person that's very overweight, we know the statistics out there of how overweight can affect a person's health. >> Right. So, I'm saying I'd It's sure that's a good thing, but my focus should not be only this. >> Yeah. >> More to health. And this is a side effects. It's a plus what's going to happen to me to change. >> Right. Did you have When I was dating, to be honest, I had a lot of people that told me, "I'm sorry, he's too chubby." Whether it was the girl alone or the shadchan. "Too chubby." I I heard it a lot. Did you ever hear that? He's overweight. >> never overweight. Remember you're overweight. My most weight was 224. I mean, >> Uh-huh. >> for a little bit. >> Well, that's 50 lb more than now, right? >> More than 50. >> Oh, wow. So, so that >> I'm almost 150. >> Wow. So, you 75 lb more has got to be humongous. Sorry. >> Right. I have a picture you're going to see. >> Oh, okay. Wow. But but you get what I'm saying. I'm just I'm schmoozing with you. It's not just like I feel like it makes a difference. You have to take care of your health. >> I understand. >> So, >> very hard. And I think the thing is not Now I have to focus more on staying maybe a little bit less, but I want to stay in the one in the high 40 140s and start to stay there than that 5 to 10 lb. Like >> Yeah. >> I've never gone more than 135. >> Right. >> That's my goal. >> Got it. Very nice. Um What do you find most challenges challenging in being single? I know when I was single, I I'm married now for about 6 months and I can tell you that being with somebody constantly to me is something I enjoy. Whether it's Shabbos, a Yom Tov, going away, going to upstate, um even just during the day, my wife was here helping us set up. There is a there is a feeling of of being together with somebody which equals not being lonely. >> Right. >> For me that was I think my biggest challenge. That at a certain point, especially as my friends got married, my my even my own sister got married, I was like, "Okay, everybody's married and basically busy and moving on with their next step in life and I'm still in the same place." To me that was a very big challenge. What do you find a big challenge in being single? >> Justice is it's not easy that everybody moves same thing. Everybody moves on in life and I'm trying to be my husband. >> Uh-huh. So I nailed it. I nailed the challenge of being single. >> Like like a year and a half ago I was my life was a little different. Then I wake up a little bit late and usually I I dress like a few minutes down and went to work and then come back home and then went to sleep all the day and my life was really much different, much miserable than now. >> Mhm. >> So I decided I'm waking up every day 6:00 a.m. in the morning. I'm going to down with manyan and then I'm learning a little bit. I'm going to work. That is every day. Even sometimes the job is not so set early, I am up. >> Yeah. >> Even Shabbos morning. 6:00 I'm up. No matter what. >> And how does that make you feel better? >> Much better because I >> You have a schedule, you have a reason to wow. >> And I'm much more energized also because of that. So everything is better. My whole system, everything. >> Right, right, right. So you feel better with yourself. >> 100%. >> Um we spoke on the phone and we had a conversation about the shidduch system system so to speak. >> Mhm. I don't hear you now. >> You don't hear me? >> Okay, now it's good. >> Oh, now it's good. Okay, producer is playing around. Um so we spoke about the shidduch system and in the system No, I don't like that, Machi. Just I You can leave it. The way I had it was kind of figured out that that's good. Yeah, thank you. So, in the in the system, I think there's a lot of pros and cons. The the cons are that the arshat chunnem that It's not like we voted them in as a shatchen. They're just decided to be a shatchen. It's a it's it They're sort of like a volunteer. Because they even if they want to charge money, most of them don't sit down with a contract. Some do. But at the end of the day, they're like a volunteer. They decided to get into this business. They're not necessarily making big money. Because average shidduch today, I think you're paid $2,000 each side, which is not a lot of money considering days, months hundreds of hours that can go into doing a shidduch. So, I've had shatchenem that told me, "Oh, change what you're wearing. Change your outfit. Do this. Do that. Lose weight." I've had all these kind of shatchenem and that makes me feel resentful towards them. Um and at the same time, they're doing volunteer work. So, when we blame shatchenem, who is there to blame? >> I don't have an answer I don't have an answer. >> Uh-huh. Okay. So, >> So, I could say what I >> Yeah. >> my shidduch that I tried to do for a shidduch is that I talked to my manager here like 2 weeks ago on Shabbos in the afternoon and I decided that I would give him my for me $5,000 for shatchen and $2,000 for another older single and three more friends another $3,000 and so, total $10,000. So, I went to ask my rabbi he's from and he said that first he said, "Oh, it's a good thing." Then he said, "No, don't give only for you." >> Mhm. >> So, then I went to I found somebody who doesn't help. So, I met him, but then he said he's going to try to help me, but he don't doesn't want to have obligation. So, I stay with the money, but I still feel that I could do that. The $5,000 and also somebody else has $10,000 on me. >> Mhm. >> If they going to feel that they are going to help me in the street, so >> Mhm. >> Again, is there a right? >> I find that something something is interesting cuz I see certain people try to promise money on their shidduch. But then it's like who's behind the money? It's not like the money is sitting in a escrow. >> I have no problem to use somebody. >> shidduch, you get they get $15,000. >> Yes, at least. But then I have no problem my money I could give for somebody a third person to hold it. >> Well, that other person that says $10,000, you think that if you get engaged tomorrow bring you a shidduch or whatever, somebody reaches out to me and bring you a shidduch I get $15,000? That's what he said. Okay. >> And I believe he he's loyal to me, so >> Aha, okay. So, listen, you could you never know from this podcast here we could uh Savro Me Pearl he is Can I say the age? I'm not saying the age. Older bocher whoever reaches out personally will get the age. And he has a successful job. He has money on his name. He personally has money. He has money if you do the shidduch. And where are you from? You want to say which >> Borough Park. >> Borough Park. I grew up in Borough Park. Looks like it's my partner's doing. >> I shouldn't say his age. They have started doing my plan. >> It is. >> Yeah. >> I'm so excited. Also, thank you to Westwood and thank you to Shimon Rosenstein. This is his equipment. Thank you to the so thank you very much more sponsors of the episode the panels group thank you Zoller's vitamin jump to literally in this dragon fruit flavor any other good sponsors whatever media whatever media is a story telling company on social media you want to share the story of your company and your own personal story we can help you create uh these avenues to do that LinkedIn Instagram Facebook and we're working with a lot of successful companies that are happy clients and getting good results shockingly I say shockingly because the point of social media is to have a presence to be relevant but they're also getting results in terms of sales so it's just pretty amazing something I can't promise but when it happens I get really excited so um what can the average person do to help a older single in your opinion >> talk to them and be positive and try to help them try >> this hit me on the sound man it's not on >> [laughter] >> my head is not in the earphones huh you sure can you check your Oscar no I hear it because I'm listening to my own mic with and it's magnified if you lower now that you can lower the volume of my headphone I'm not going to hear sound of a cop >> [laughter] >> you're not even not going to hear it we'll see after >> I'm off on the court to have a listen. Listen, the podcast it still has to stay at our own original. We professionals do my entire cameras though. It's my mission. So, huh? It's like the phone on the stand. They just need to get the camera. Yeah, this is good. So, I thought I would stand so they thought so with the banana art of the wand. But, I feel a little bit better though. >> way. >> How's my arm? Much better. It's really not my angle to shoot with the toes. I mean this is like gross. All right, McKenzie I'm on socks by the way. The muscle. >> Yeah. >> Oh, perfect. This is working. So, So, what we're going to talk about Reagan is the muscle is on the head's gone. I'm a laugh. What do you think I'm feeling better? >> 100%. >> Yeah? Okay, I should have a plan on my list. You have a plan on my status every Friday. Remind me to check in on a friend. But, they say from what I'm hearing. You have to talk to me when you're going to single but I have to find a lot of non-checking with me. I feel like you have a lot of checking with other men too. >> Yeah, I think I have to check on them. >> Yeah, okay. I mean it. I can't depend on anybody else. >> Right. >> I cannot depend on of me a lines. You know, I enjoyed the dating. You have to date this is a avenue with the the Hasidic people. I'm supposed to speak in English. The Hasidic people don't explore this avenue of dating. They're not enjoying that time. It's not a joyful thing by us. By us it's very much you meet, they get married, you meet twice or three times and you get married. I I don't think it should be that way. I'm a very strong advocate. And somebody should argue to with me if there is anything halocha, Torah-wise, or hashkafa-wise which says otherwise, I think we should enjoy the dating process. This whole idea of you meet, you get married, for those who it works isn't right. Majority of people, or somebody that is a little bit older and makes a life for themselves in terms of working, and the things that they the actions that they're doing, and things like that, why not go out and enjoy? I feel like because it's such a closed up thing, it becomes a whole pressure, you become a whole nebich. I when I was 26, 27, which is again, like I said, relatively old in our community, I wasn't a nebich at all, I was just the opposite. I I looked at all my married friends and I was like, "You nebich. I'm enjoying life. I'm building a business. I'm having fun. I'm dating. I'm getting all these experiences. What are you doing? Wow, you're building life. Okay, you can build life and start it at 30, also." >> The fact is that's the that how it works. I don't know. >> "That's how it works" is not good enough. >> I guess I have to change, but I'm I'm not the guy who can change the world. >> Yeah, but you can change yourself and start enjoying life. Or any single listening to this, start enjoying life. Make it Just like you did. You made it meaningful for yourself. You have a schedule, you have a job, you have a you exercise, you work out, you eat healthy. >> Right. I understand. >> I'm impressed. You're an inspiration. >> Thank you. Thank you. >> talking for 30 minutes already? It's insane. I feel like conversation with you it feels like 5 minutes. >> Wow. Thank you so much. >> Wow. You you have what I'm saying? It's time for you to enjoy your life. >> Mhm. >> You have to start enjoying. >> Yeah. My friend, I will definitely need that advice how exactly and yeah. >> You do fun things. >> I'm doing with, but but on a kosher way. >> Okay. I also did everything on a kosher way. Pretty much. >> Right. >> By the machine, you know, you have sounds that you can you can make like a clutching sound. >> No, you should break the sound. >> You can make a break. >> [screaming] [cheering] >> It's a lucky day. >> Yeah. >> This This guy I'm with him. This dusty macher when he macht a mic drop moment. That was the macher there. Wow. Wow. Wow. So, it comes with doing self responsibility. >> Yeah. >> It's a quote. You make a quote of this. So, thing I do. Nine? >> Yeah. >> Have you met me? >> Yeah, fully. >> When I was going with him >> No, I'm with him. >> How about you and I and this guy I'm with him >> Those guys, let's say I'm with those. >> And you can say I'm a wingman with those. I dated from a lot of networking events. I met somebody business-minded sometimes. I was like, "Let's go out. Where are you going after this event? I'm I'm single, you're single. Let's go out." >> Same here. >> Okay, so how do we So, that's what we need to figure out. That will help them. If a person is not ready to date, then how are they attracting dating? It's a nice ringer, by the way. 30 minutes? Oh, it's almost 30 minutes. Um Yeah, I was saying I think people have to educate themselves in what is especially if it comes to date just like when you understand if you want to open a business, you have to study what business is. You want to go into shidduchim, you have to learn what is a girl, what do they want, how do I date, how do I put myself out there, how do I look desirable? I think those things are very important, which they definitely don't teach you in Yeshiva or in school. >> So, should be class for this, I mean >> Yeah. >> I'm still >> So, it happens to be not that they're a sponsor, they're just friends. Eckstein and Aerlich, they have this class. Um Do you know what it's called, Moishy? They have a It has a name or something. And they they You can look it up online. And they teach parents actually how to do information. I don't know if they actually teach the I think for information for shidduchim, there's probably nobody teaching a person. At least not in a public forum. What is a shidduch? What's a girl? How to date? What to date? Even on Even on kosher levels, there is zero information, I think, out there. And you know what? Maybe, in your honor, for your zchus, I can start making episodes that teach people what to do. I was I was a shaliach for 10 years. I have a [snorts] lot of my own knowledge and collective knowledge. I'll start sharing. >> Sounds like a plan. >> Okay, what are we going to call the segment? Um Vayaishev Avrohom. Avrohom Shulchan Aruch Yoreh De'ah. Learn again today? You can. >> [laughter] >> I learn again every day, but Learn every day as well. See, I stopped learning every day. I don't enjoy it, and I don't understand it. What should I do? I said, "You have to learn every day." I don't I don't get it. For me, it doesn't resonate. >> It doesn't have a You don't have to. I'm willing I want to do it. >> You enjoy learning? What >> Yeah. >> The more you learn, the happier you are. >> Yeah. I learn a daf the Gemara every day. >> B'emes? >> Yeah. >> learning? You know how to touch? I don't know how to touch. >> I I'm not saying that I understand everything, but I'm learning. >> Yeah. >> Right. >> I I I listen to a shiur on Yiddish. >> Very nice. Okay. If What chizuk would you give to somebody who is a single right now, and they're struggling? I remember I had my ups and downs. I had midlife crisis while I was single. Like, it really really hurt me certain day days. Certain times before Yom Tov, I was really anxious. I know the Yom Tovim are coming up now. What chizuk would you give somebody that's struggling right now? >> I don't need I don't need I don't need his it. >> You don't need his >> I don't need his it. >> You alone need his it. >> So, I'm trying to be my husband that Mitchem is going to be I'm just look positive and I know that Mitchem is going to be good. >> You should know that I feel for you. >> Thank you. >> And um I will try. I will try everything I could possible to um to help you. You know why? Because it says when it comes to shidduchum that you don't rely on a sham. You rely on your actions. Have you ever heard of the saying? Like to say oh a sham is going to help him. No, no, no. I can help him. That's where you put a sham on the sides for a minute. I can potentially help you. When it comes to shidduchum friends can help a lot of friends. So, I happen to have met my wife through myself. Through Instagram. But in the same time when we went out, she brought a friend, I brought a friend. My friend set up her friend with his best friend's brother. And they got married. They're married right now. And from that came out a third shidduch. Because that friend that my friend introduced to my wife's friend knew another guy for my wife's friend's friend. >> Wow. >> So, a third shidduch. You see, so I got engaged, my my friend got engaged, and my wife's friend's third friend got engaged because of the guy that my wife's friend's friend got married to. >> Wow. >> So, the point is that we we need to do hishtadlus. >> 100%. >> So, I want to do hishtadlus with you. You're a very nice guy. And um I want to help you. And with the help of everybody with the listeners. If you're listening to this, do a favor, reach out to me, WhatsApp, Instagram, or talk to Ramy directly. And let's see, maybe we can help him. And $15,000 on the line, however, or more. So, that can be amazing. Ramy, a final message to all the listeners, what would you say? >> If there's a will, there's a way. Like, I come from 218 to 150 around in >> Wow. >> 155, let's say, in 4 months. >> Mhm. >> So, again, I'm not saying it's for everybody to do this, but you have to do it and not stop till we see results and then we have to share Everybody could do it. Just we need to do it consistently and go on till you see results and And may the sham help and be inspiration to the world. >> May the sham help mine. Mine. Thank you so much. Guys, thank you so much for listening to this episode. Ramy, thank you so much for giving away from your time to do this and inspiring thousands of people, singles, overweight people, people that are hopeless, and giving them a little bit of sign of hope to show them you could take control of your life and that how you trust and have a bit of token and you're a nice, relaxed guy and not worried. I think that that's very inspiring. So, thank you so much. And friends, reminder to like the episode, share it with a friend that can enjoy um subscribe to the channel. 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