Gad Elbaz Opens Up: His Path, Career, Love, and Beyond

welcome to another episode of positivity this podcast you do yeah thank you to take this world and make it spiritual and bring the the to bring H's light to into people's was times that I said that's enough I don't need this anymore I want to I want to be simple I want to live simple life I I don't need all this chaos a lot of people coming draining me taking so much energy out of me because I'm not just a singer by the way um um I help a lot of people with with their daily struggles with everyone that comes into my life I feel like I I have a lot of a side I feel like I need to help him and I how did you choose how do you define yourself right now and know that this is the right path there's no such a thing okay there's no such a thing the growth and the relationship with doesn't have an age doesn't have a period of time of expiration wow you don't reach to a level and you say wow now I'm fine right there's no such a thing and days that you thought you were fine yeah if you look backwards you say you were so off the why I do have a song song it's called it's not with accent and um I'm going to give it a taste [Music] welcome to another episode of positivity today I have here the esteemed God Elbas um a man of no introduction needed but first he's known for his famous songs son of uh Mr Benny Elbas um he's known for having this Angelic voice uh lifting crowds known from his hit Hashem that even in our Community is was became a wedding sensation for many years and still is a song that people sing a lot um but I connected with god with him on social media seeing him uh post about his personal life um struggles challenges not being afraid to to to jump in and say guys let's take on this project or that project um he's also an entrepreneur and a chef opening his own restaurant one or two he has his own bottle bottle of wine under Shilo Shilo Shilo sheilo whatever they call it wines which he's a partner with chilo and I think that that's incredible um but most of all God is not afraid to share about his personal life story struggles challenges and how he deals with his day-to-day life which I found fascinating for our audience that loves to to grow and feel validated for Being Human in this world now I truly love what you said um one of the things that you said on an interview recently is that for artists when we don't express ourselves God will punish us more because that's our our schas in this world to go out there and Inspire yeah and I'm curious that's that's a big amount of pressure so have you always lived with that kind of pressure that you're here to do AAS and you got to fulfill it I'm going to answer for cile and I'm going to answer for myself okay so every Jew has tools that gave theem gave to him mhm that he's supposed to do things he's supposed to accomplish with those tools and with that being said if he doesn't do the job and he's sleeping or he's laying down not trying his best don't do the he will miss the opportunity maybe to do it in that era of time that he's at at that specific time that he has those tools they can be taking away from him and then he will be punished by those tools being taken away from him then he feels weak and then he wants again the the Hem wants us to be hungry yeah he wants us to thrive he wants us to take things into action because it says in the end of why it's finishing in the word could be all thisat and and and all those six days is is that God created those those those days why you he's pushing the word right because this entire of this world is we are here to do we're not here so here's some uh that's my anaga right so may guy is like you need to take the and make it the the materialism and make it holy this podcast you do yeah thank you it's you're taking you're taking the tools that hasem brought to this world your car your everything your family uh your your money everything around you has to serve where is God in it right sometimes it takes a while sometimes it's nothing at all but but you when you put AEM into the considerate consideration why I have this and that why why I have a house like this why I need to to host people and you get you give all the answers for this so that's the reason why we're here that's the entire because then Hashem would have not created he could be with us up there and enjoy our company or whatever it is we are being sent here to take this world and make it spiritual and bring the the to bring H's light to into people's to and hem is us I am so we need to light this the spark right by doing by putting by Blessing by why hasem created the world with Zan zman is something that that you can uh you can say okay I believe in hem in the heart I believe in I speak to him every time that's beautiful nobody says that that this is the core you have an amazing core but without doing the actions you're basically now merging the Two Worlds and that's why we here to merge to before mat it wasn't like that right so uh people and how do you know yeah and how do you know if you're doing as proper or if you're doing your or how do you know these things some people say I I have no idea what to do some people say I don't even have a car and a house and like I feel like I'm not doing anything so till the age of 20 you're not even being judged by the way if you passed away before you're 20 you go straight to heaven wow why why because um before that you are not a mench you're not even you're not even in your thought it's it's all about you it's all about thinking then something happens that's why if a person gets married before he's 20 he has a special that hem will always keep an eye on him wow on his kadha because he was so pure until because he was he devoted his right his Purity to hasem so it's like the flip you flip the coin but before that you're not even being judged so not everyone has F their when before they 20 they need to be very lucky I was very lucky hasem put me in this shoes of of entertainment entertainment like oh my life so I kind of knew where I'm heading so so uh thank you Hashem for that a lot of people are I really don't know what to do and I I understand you but Hashem reveals to everyone eventually what is his task and some people live simple simple life and inside the simple life they need to find Hashem yeah so Hashem is in every single thing it's not just you know by being a celebrity and that there is a bigger the the bigger the challenge is the bigger so I'm grateful for that I I more people looking up looking up at me something like that and and and they they they need to get inspired and if I do something wrong the entire world can can right away uh judge me 10 times more worse than any other people so it comes with big responsibility yes and it's not something easy and there was times that I said enough I don't need this anymore I wanna I want to be simple I want to live simple life I don't need all this chaos a lot of people coming draining me taking so much energy out of me because I'm not just a singer by the way um I help a lot of people with with their daily struggles with everyone that comes into my life I feel like I I have a lot of I feel like I need to help him and I I feel like I have the tools so if I have the tools to help him why why not yeah so yeah it took me took me a lot of time out of myself and sometimes I was tired and I didn't have any to continue right I love what you said um I heard this from you you said that and when we make a blessing we say there's it's nine words and then somebody answers om that's the 10th word and om means an artist so we all become an artist in the art of the of the world my question to you is like you have obviously a very interesting story uh growing up somewhat not so religious then becoming yes religious being a little bit different than I think you have seven sisters and you chose to go you know on your own unique style and obviously you know from being a little bit more modern you came back to being a little bit more from you connected with kabad um my question is like how how did you choose how do you define yourself right now and know that this is the right path there's no such a thing okay there's no such a thing the growth and the relationship with doesn't have an age doesn't have a period of time of expiration wow you don't reach to a level and you say wow now I'm fine yeah right there's no such a thing and days that you thought you were fine yeah if you look backwards you say you were so off the so why wow so that's you feel so good about yourself you're doing so many mitv you you're on on time in you're doing this this this you'll just like the book yeah but when you speak to someone you don't smile you don't you feel like you're more than him you you you feel like U your time is more valuable than his time right and you have so much gav that your entire to and all you can you can wrap it up and just bye-bye you know when you start to really feel you you you are becoming something okay is when you're doing what you're doing for the benefit of the other more than yourself when you reach to a level yeah when you live like that okay with your kids with your wife with your close friends not with the people with the show off yeah not when everybody's tapping on your shoulder you're amazing oh my God you're the best person you met no when you do it at home when you're doing what it's the hardest because you're with your flipflops you know yeah and you really go and do something for them and you really go then you reach the level of maturity to understand you are here to serve how do we become closer to Hashem being like Hashem wow which is which is a giver God created the world to give to do to give good he's good the outcome is G yes yes yeah wow wow very nice I love that because when I I had Giver yeah I had a right I had a podcast with Rabbi Manas fredman I'm sure you know him because course yeah and he asked me we were just talking about this fulfilling life purpose and he asked me like what do you do what do you do I said I do podcast and but I'll be honest I said re Manas I'm doing it for my good I I I enjoy this this is my fun I do it and and but I also do it to help people so I said make the second thing the first thing make it first that your goal and Mission should be to help people and then because you also want to enjoy yourself and stuff like that but it takes time it doesn't go like just like that it's with maturity it's with things that like I said hasm takes the tools from you and then oh my God nobody looks at me oh my God not so in a sense you've devoted your entire life like you said to SN for others to be others your entire career uh is is all about giving giving giving do you sometimes feel like perhaps you're not giving enough for yourself and how do you deal with that it's a tough question because in order to give to yourself you need to love yourself right I think most of us don't really love ourselves the way we should we judge oursel more than people judge us I'm specifically more yeah and it took me a a while to love myself and understand the that all my struggles everything that I've been through in life it's what shaped me what gave me what what what who I am and it takes time you need to grow with time has a really meaning it's not just time that's why it says 40 I think uh I was always joking about it I'm mature enough I've been through so much in life I can I'm like I'm 60 when I'm was 30 and then when you're 40 there's something going on spiritually yeah that you actually have the B like a real wisdom that woman has it before us yeah that you can see in time becom so much precious and then you see that you need to take care of yourself how you can take care of people if you're not you're not whole so I was working in the last I would say seven years working hard to um to be a good best better version of myself and to love myself and accept myself with all my my my uh flaws and and just love myself because Hashem created me that way and Hashem knows best with all the journey with all the people that I met he knows exactly what's good for me and why do you think it's so difficult for some people to love themselves why shouldn't it be just natural that we love ourselves just like a baby loves themsel and they think that the entire world belongs to them so where did we go wrong where do we go wrong I think the more the more you uh it starts from childhood basically your childhood traumas come up when you grow up not when you're young when you grow up and you reach to your 20 something you start realizing who you are and then you're facing it and then you don't like it so it's everyone it's not just uh specific people there is people that even though they have the most amazing family or they've been brought up so amazingly but they always think that there was something else missing mhm I see my own son he thinks that he had um I don't know bad childhood when we and me me and his mom like gave everything to the kid yeah so it's not necessarily right right we can't control it the lack of of loving ourself is spirituality right when you bring in spirituality your life start loving yourself there's no way you can love yourself without having a relationship with right that's my well does having a relationship with hem have to come together with with religion do you think relationship withm has nothing to do with religion religion in general has nothing to do with the Torah the Torah is not a religion okay the Torah is is uh is we've been gifted from hem to have those rules it's not religion like uh uh all the other religions in the world we are the sentence and we cannot separate that right it goes through blood so it's a it's a thing it's a nation it's it's a it's more than religion that you take upon yourself and you just we cannot choose we can't be so now what happens to somebody that doesn't keep this gift that Hashem gave so a person doesn't keep this gift he he he loses the core and and he cannot love himself because the relationship with Hashem is not just reading the Torah learning keeping Shabbat no it's like I said the core before the core is the communication just like I'm speaking to you right now wow if you don't develop that relationship with Hashem in the car when you go to sleep when you have a situ simple simple situations you're sitting in a table and you're sitting next to someone you don't know if he talks to you and he he says something you need to find what is Hashem telling you in his words if you breathe and think that and live that you will see Hashem in Miracles that you will never even describe he's close you're missing a you're sitting this next to this one you're that that that that everything has a sham everything there is the world is talking to us always always right you are you come home you had a wonderful day your wife was happy you come home suddenly she has a sad face she can't explain it why I don't know I'm sad even the fact you're sad is you is is AEM telling you something because you something you can't even control your happiness or your sadness yeah it's all relationship with Hashem and what we pray for then it comes so if you see that and you see the relation okay why am I sad for no reason okay hem please enlighten me why am I sad with no reason you have a relation constantly like you talking to them constantly and change everything and you see Miracles Beyond when I'm telling you miracles Beyond I'm going to share a story yeah um as a as a the I I was like there was something that I was like suspicious about I said I'm not opening the go KES I was 32 I didn't open the go KES I was afraid maybe this is too much like Voodoo too much like you have a relationship with hem why do I need this then I doubted it and it was Shabbat and I had a birthday I got a gift from Dan fer one of my best friends amazing director by the way producer and I sp shabat there was my 32nd birthday and he gift me an an actual letter by from the raber that he had a handwritten letter and I'm excited he said I'm sorry I I just found it it was very hard for me to found it I found a gift to do so it's not framed okay then one of the guys there in the guest on Shabbat said why don't you open the Eagles KES see you said you want to move to America see what's the answer I said I'm not the I'm afraid that this is not the way he said what a phase start giving me a lecture I saidh hasm hm I went aside I'm going to do it but I want you Hashem you not the rabbi no nothing no mediator just me and you if you want to say something to me say it yeah through the book through through my rabbit I wash my hands I go I look at all the books there's I don't know 30 books I don't know how many of It Go KES I pick one I sit down everybody's looking at me it's all ceremony and I'm like okay I'm opening the book I know it sounds crazy it sounds like I'm living in La Land yeah the same letter that I'm holding in my hand opened up in the book the chances of that happening is like winning the lottery every time for the rest of your life that you that you wow so it's the same letter there's only one letter you don't know there's only one letter each page two page that that the re answered back yeah and I'm holding the same letter see the same date the same the same signature and I'm like oh my God so this is when you asking from Hashem to be seen right then you see him everywhere everywhere in in your uh next paycheck in your in in in in every in everything right in everything so uh that's how I live and that's how you start loving yourself by by bringing your spirituality vibration up up up up seeing that connection with h connection you feel like wow he loves right right I never I never thought about that to I never thought about that to get selflove how easy it is is if you just connect with Hashem with and he is the biggest source of Love yeah then you feel wow I'm doing you automatic wow very powerful yes so and I want to say one more thing a person wants to know where he's at in sham yes where's his level right the the fastest trick is what come next to you next to you right what is that mean if you went to your car you went to a grocery store and the first man that you see wants Saka okay you know now that now you are zakai now you have now you're you're you're doing something right why because so you have to be Zak and if a is coming to you means you now you can always flip it yeah if you want to know your situation right now at the moment yeah so that that is the easiest trick to to see what kind of things are happening to you and then you develop it's a muscle is a muscle yeah you need to develop the relationship with without it there's nothing yeah so uh yes you can say I believe there is a God yes it's it's it's it's a source of the is of but when you Rich to then then the start coming yeah and is a higher level it's so hard to have what do you mean that something so bad happened and you have that this is the best for you it's higher than wow so and one of the things that I'm so happy that you're doing this podcast for your world the world you came from yeah um unfortunately because I've been around the block I know all type of Jews yeah and I never judge any type of Jews and I think everyone brings a piece to the puzzle of Judaism yeah today they're missing out the core of relationship with yeah because they are being brought to a situation and being taught that this is the way that Yem loves you if not oh my God oh my God oh my God correct they're busy of more than that and I see your excitement your your eyes opening up and and as a non-religious that came closer to Hashem for me it's like more obvious this kind of stuff yeah barar are much more like that my grandmother like always you feel you feel that you feel that love it's not just by the book it's not the book it's not the the times it's not it's more we missing in the you you see so non religious that believe in more than I know I've seen it but they don't have the right so I love how you criticize C see them nicely but you also said you also said the good that they do that they actually are very good when it comes to doing doing doing the actual so they're missing the connection right we have the connection but we don't have the right you see not a lot not religious a lot soldiers you see the connection to have they cry they don't do but they don't do it because they so how do we bridge this Gap how do we go from the that do a lot but are not so connected I believe that the only cure for that is Shabbat okay all the the sick day and then the Shabbat right Shabbat gives the plug if you keep Shabbat right when I say keep Shabbat is the understanding of Shabbat the understanding of Shabbat not keeping Shabbat because you have to keep Shabbat because you were brought that way till you not reach to the level why is Shabbat what is it Shabbat how amazing is Shabbat how biggest gift in the world you will never reach to the level of combining also and right shabat is the connected because it pauses you from your every week from who you are right you can now have the opportunity to stop and recharge yourself from every single aspect of it of your life every single day I did this week I I I was bad my God I was bad Shabbat there's no judgment Hashem loves me no matter what and I have a relationship with Hashem I can pray I can Hashem can forgive me this entire week I can restart myself wow everything is new besides the fact and every day is renewing the world and sometimes I have this like uh beautiful thing with hem that when M comes yeah and it's a new day yeah I I said okay okay hasm please for forget what happened uh two hours ago now it's a new day it's a new day yeah it's a new day yeah and um yeah and the more you think like this the more you grow Hashem doesn't care that you fall right he knows keep fail we we are destined to fall right it's not uh I I always kept on thinking about this from a young age also I always thought that your name God is God it's very beautiful in a sense that's how that's how I look at it and but as I'm saying it I'm thinking to myself that my name is also eliyahu is also kale so it's also it's also God's name in it and beautiful name yeah because what I'm taking out from this podcast as of now my biggest inspiration is is that connection with Hashem and how important it is you know put away put everything in the side all the pay put all the love what you said now you can see I did my research but I love what you said that that Hashem created us we are not perfect human beings so that means that everything that we do is a bonus is a plus yeah but we are meant to come down here we're not perfect that's the idea so never beat yourself up for not doing the right thing yeah everything that you do is a bonus it's a very nice thing that that you did it I um I see the beauty in growing I see the beauty I see my son you when you start to have a family whyem want us to have a family because then he we realize who he is okay more the relationship you have with your kids when your kids fight is the worst their parent ever in the world oh wow then when they don't get along everything is fine besides that when they don't get along the parents freak out the parents like go nuts right but because of that yeah because Hashem wants us to love each other like the most yeah that's what trigger Hashem right like fastest so I think in order to to to be where we're supposed to be and gradually learn it's the first be good to your fellow neighbor P to another Jew don't judge don't this then hasem because of that will open up your gates to Kusha your gates to this you're going to develop then you're not going to when you're going to fall will keep will lift you up right because you care about another Jew you care so it's the all these divisions that we have in Judaism is horrible because I came from all the worlds I wanted to fix it through music when I was when I was a teenager I said I need to fix this I'm I'm I'm living in nonreligious City all my friends are atheist calling themselves atheist today they're totally like religious it's funny and I remember those days living in a in a city that no Tor at all they hated Judaism hated Tor the old Holocaust uh uh survivors kids and then I go TOA and then I see this type and then I go to all types of isas because put me in so many different places and it made me realize that I have to unite and I need to use my tools to unite and that's how I started my journey wow and I started my journey like that and then I realized that the only way that you can they say one thing is is two people go together if they W weren't destined there's no such a thing wow they're walking together walking because they were destined to walk together so when you meet a girl and and it happens that you you're with her and she she she broke up with you and it doesn't work out I'm not talking about the world I'm talking about in general and you fall down and you lose all your all for for what that was destined to happen just accept it yes and it's how we take the things that happen to us in life and then you become because it's all about the growth like I told you there's hasem sees he has all the patience in the world he he he sees the end goal what the end goal with this nsh he will not let you leave the world before you you reach to your right sense unless you're really doing so much bad maybe it's better to take him before or he's going to ruin my world but yeah wow it's it's very very nice one thing yeah that they say I always say that to my friends when there's love between friends yeah when there's love between friends they're going to worship idols together but they have love to one another there's no mid can come and and and heard does it say I forgot what it says but in the time of yeah that's what happened even the time of uh I think it was um the king um M I'm not sure which in the times of that yeah I want to look it up after they did all the but they had love soem couldn't do nothing even in B this I know Hashem mumbled changed their languages so they won't be loved they won't each other to be angry because he knew that if there's he knew there's love they can fight me literally can fight me they love each cannot do nothing that so and then they and they uh and they worship idols know that thing can come wow because that's the power of when you see when you driving you see your kids fighting next to to each other like fighting like crazy you go crazy yeah when they love each other other it's okay you know they love each other wow so that's how Hashem treat us right that's super powerful I think for me we talk about Hashem the way I connected to Hashem the first time I connected to hm and spoke to Hashem was when I was in intense uh um pain I was really feeling pain I was in pain because of my life I didn't know what I was doing where I was going I was working a job I wasn't happy uh I wasn't feeling well was in times of uh Co and stuff and I I remember just crying out to Hashem and I remember feeling a sense of I felt so much better just after talking to him and I say if somebody wants to find Hashem just just test them just ask him a question speak to him say Hashem please send me a sign I've done this hundreds of times and every time I've seen a sign right away right away Hashem has right away not didn't have to wait more than 30 seconds somebody would call me something would come up a message would come in I this podcast I started like something like that I remember I was sitting in my basement in my house I was very I was very depressed I said Hashem please help me you know I was crying out in the name of mul schnitzler I was his manager he was a close friend of mine you remember mul yeah so and and I said M ask Hashem to help me you know like I was just crying out to him I said please help me as I said that the a friend called me he said I'm here in Lakewood at a restaurant come over say hi I go over there and I met I met the rabbi schom I don't know if you know him but he was he was the first guest on the podcast so this entire podcast started just because I was crying out to Hashem but my advice to anybody is if you want to find that connection to Hashem speak to him today it doesn't have to be in middle of DAV can be at any time say Hashem please send me a sign please make my life more beautiful um I'm curious you mentioned you talk a lot about family and today we live in a world where there's a lot of singles there's a so-called sh and yes and and you have a beautiful perspective in general and I'm curious to hear your perspective on why is it that we have so many singles and I know you went through your own Journey you can share as much as you want I'm curious your perspective on this why do we have so many singles and somebody that is single and wants to get married what what what would your best advice be for them this is the hardest topic you picked uh but it's Al intriguing because it's what I do today a lot of people don't know but soon very soon will be um a place it's going to be called the shefa house sheffa house I started it in covid the idea then it came to laugh slowly I stopped it when the war started in October 7 and in the last uh three months I'm focusing on that back again and the foundation is about to be uh soon Act active mhm the 51 C3 whatever it's called yeah and Chef of house I said I have so much connections with so many powerful Jews yeah influencers people with money people how do I grasp all of them to do something that I believe in yeah and when you take powerful Jews like that and you show them the sh the crisis world the necessity of having for every genre for not genre for every uh type of Jewish uh to have for them singles events so they will know more Jews some un affiliate Jews that don't even know Jews some Israelis that come from Israel and see all the non-jewish women and they they they don't know what to do with themselves they they fall into ISO there is a huge balagan going on here in America to get married with the right person yeah and because I got divorced and I saw that sometimes you get divorced because you don't have a you you're stuck with your own mind and you don't have someone to open it up and some people don't even have the money to go and and see the the cons consultations and all and there's a huge huge uh need to have good quality events with with followup with actual guidance of Torah of Judaism to those relationships right just having a party of Jews coming together yes it's okay it's also nice but it could lead to other things and I'm not here to do other things I'm here to see if okay you like this person how do we this this you like let's cuz not the entire world goes through you know like a regular most of the world the majority of the world go and meet a girl and then they waste two three years out of their life and they don't have guidance and then to the next why so I open Chef house Chef house will be a membership for uh powerful people that with their membership I'm creating events for singles events for couples that are already married go to Retreats and work their marriage people that cannot afford themselves to get married and I'm doing events for the chef house members only and events for the bite for the singles have throughout the year throughout America so for me this subject is very to my heart wow I didn't know it's very coming up very very soon yeah um whoever wants to be involved can contact him um the budget will be big so we can do beautiful events like that everybody talks about um but the problem that I faced and the reason why I have so much passion to it is because when I got divorced and I lived in Miami and you losing your core uh my marriage was everything when I lost that I felt that I don't have a God that loves me I don't have a an anchor my family is back in Israel I'm here all alone then Co hit and where I'm going to find and Miami is full of Temptations and you're lost and you're drinking alcohol you find yourself lonely and you don't know what to do and how do you how do you pick yourself up and then like I said Shabbat is my everything so Shabbat saves saves me every time come Shabbat I gave all my power again there was two Shabbat that even me godas had nowhere to go people assuming but when you're divorced I'm asking everyone if you see someone that divorced ask him where is he for Shabbat because for divorc people that live their life with Shabbat and then that Shabbat has been taking away from them table the wife the kids it's everything for someone that really understand what Hashem is what chabbat is ask him where is the Shabbat people didn't ask me where I was Shabbat and then I was in the the most beautiful penth house in Miami all alone for two shabbatot and then I said and I was keeping the the entire two Shabbat of course but then I saw there's no meaning what is this I'm going to make shabbatot myself I'm going invite people myself and then I had a friend with the huge house that would start doing shabbatot for 40 people 100 people then I start learning how to cook out of that desire started wow wow I said I need to cook I need to do salads I need to do this I'm moring you know I cannot invite people and not have all this chefa that's why I call it chefa house and because shefa brings the people shefa is what everybody wants shefa is you cannot have shefa if you're not married your shefa go to waste you need to build a home chefa house is one of my biggest passion because of that so I said I need to create a place that people will have where to go for Shabbat then they meet more Jews they they learn more about the the so they go to a party regular party yes and then there's a followup where they go Shabbat they can come to this one and that one and this and I'm creating Network and you do Retreats for that so the passion would just grew and grew the crisis of not having the right person next to you or thinking that the person next to you is not the right person yeah when you married and is because of social media because our we are open to so many things the grass of the neighbor is greener yeah and everything looks so amazing on social media and her life oh my God I follow this guy has such a beautiful wife and his life is so beautiful and my wife is always complaining are you kidding me put a camera 24/7 on each of them you will see how much struggle they have it's not like it is and and and and it's a fiction and that fiction becomes your reality and then you're not happy right as what is I'm happy that you're having your your your beautiful stuff then you're not you're fine he has his own his life is his life I'm fine right wow and then that's that's that's the beauty that's the so every single thing rocks the ship yeah no people today it's easy to get divorce no hasem put in two of you together do everything you can to save your marriage every single thing you can if it doesn't work it's better to get divorce it's a mvah to get divorce but really make sure that you did everything in you to fix you w not to fix her to fix you stop dealing with her deal with with you and Hashem then then you see her reflection if her reflection changes do the still exist if it's not eventually it's not hasem cut the string there from your bad Deeds from her bad Deeds because every day you need to jump into the water like and to split the sea and get your Z right every day you need to work on your marriage doesn't end I know you're not there to understand me but everybody that they probably understand that it's consistent work and I'm married now for the second time and it's cons nothing is the even though now I'm telling her she knows who I am before I didn't grow up with her so she knows my boundaries and yes but there is challenges all the time and never going to stop and and and and that's how you work on your midot if you don't work on your M with your wife with your kids then how are you going to be a better person how you going to look like how you going to be you don't have those challenges it has to be there's no such a thing so yeah if you what gave you it's more easier so the crisis starts because there is so many opportunities today and you feel you want to grasp everything everything so nobody wants to settle nobody wants to settle right and there's so many Temptations now today is world so this this is the even in the didn't want to be in this generation so I don't I'm not here to judge I'm here to give Solutions so going against all the odds how do you how can you explain for yourself like how do you feel what did you do that you were able to find somebody and get married again you want to hear the truth yes the second you take upon yourself because then I was broken I don't know if they speak about it in your world but I'm going to share it because it's the second you get divorced then you you feel hasm doesn't love you you feel you lost I did music I perform all over the world and eventually my house my home fell apart because I'm doing for others traveling barely with my wife then we grew apart and then what is it that's what that's what it is then you feel hm doesn't love you then you say okay you know what who needs to do all this stuff now I'm gonna have a relationship with the girl I'm gonna test it out before I get married I'm not gonna do this so I wasn't TR yeah wasn't show for for uh um almost two years then I asked so much please this is not the life I want I want to get married I know that's is wrong I know this is not who I am yeah and I cannot sing and I'm not where I'm supposed to be be wow how can I Crown you in front of everyone and act like I'm a super righteous man when I'm not right now and I'm broken how then I start asking him to give me the and then I realize every time that I'm sure I get more strength more strength more good things are happen self control or self because there's no really I I don't think there's is a Min it's a yeah yeah but when you sh you show hasem that you're serious mhm I don't want to be with this girl for two months that girl for a year yeah then maybe then maybe I get married no it's serious yeah and I know that if I'm not sh I'm able to waste my time yeah and is the hardest thing because that's what I what's what what's really going to get you to your destination and yet doesn't want you to be in destination right and that's the shortest way he wants he wants you to do shortterm pleasure for right now and that's the shortest way to to reach to your completion right by shorten things up okay then the relationship becomes that's why this sh world is amazing yeah is amazing I can understand who you are and if you're smart enough you understand who's dealing who you're dealing with and you don't have this the touch that that mix everything it mumbles everything yeah it numbs everything you don't know who you're really with because love is giving love love is not love is not this infatuation it's not this is can be so much if you have it with your with your wife when you start with saw her love in First Sight and and you were like that's not love but it's infatuation in first sight sight and and then turn out to be your wife and everything that's amazing it's just a blessing but most people don't have that they buildt their relationship so this is something I admire in the shim world that it's like that and waste and and you don't waste time so for for me what brought me closer to is those deis that I show I showed hem that I'm serious even though I fell yeah I fell fell one time I said no that's it no no more no more no more and then till you reach to a level that you go to the mik you go you do that you have a relationship then it's not worth it then Hashem is higher the love for Hashem is more precious than any love for any woman AEM don't put me in please I'm saying it out loud again but that's what you need to develop and that's what brought me to build a home again wow that's amazing thank you so much for sharing um the that's beautiful and I think it really explains it well to anybody that wants to get into a relationship why they should get into a relationship and the importance of it and how how to get one yes um I'm very curious about to talk about today people very much struggle with anxiety depression fear loneliness even in marriages people feel lonely um they feel invalidated they have a lot of interesting feelings going on and I know that especially when you're a public figure you're a singer you have to be on stage you have to meet people you have to go to event you have to look happy no matter right you have to be social you you can't have social anxiety like all these things that can come up for every regular human being for you no matter how bad like you said you were single and and feeling lonely and you were singing AEM how how do you deal with that how do you go on the stage how do you deal with your own insecurities fears anxiety when it comes to performing and putting up a show what you're saying is the hardest thing it's the hardest it turn it it tear you to pieces when you go to sleep and you think about that and you're alone or Whatever anxiety and fears what's going to be my future it's the hardest thing but to to Really overcome that is to remember that if you're here there's a reason if you're here alive and Hashem gave you those tools that we spoke in the beginning yeah means he still wants you to perform wow I got a phone call with my previous marriage from my ex-wife that we're getting divorced 10 minutes before I go on stage for 5,000 people oh my God you come back to Israel and all your stuff is outside and I can't live like that anymore and that's it we're coming and we're getting divorce 10 minutes before I go on stage and I need to perform so you ask me how do you get the cot first of all my first reaction everybody in the knows me that was there saw me on the floor whipping like a baby asking Hashem why and how is this happening to me I'm here for those people your people yeah my own home is now separated because we couldn't find the solution of of how to find the balance I was a kid I got married when I was 20 and I remember that like yesterday everybody's knocking that I need to go on stage and one friend I allowed to go D Ferman by the way and he saw me on the floor and he lift me up and started hugging he was crying with me and before I went to Stage the music started and I have one minute and a half for the music in that one minute and a half I spoke to and I said tohm those people those paid to see me perform yesterday doesn't exist tomorrow doesn't exist wow I have now the reason why you brought me through the world is now right and my relationship with you has nothing to do with my wife wow I need to do my job that you decided for me since I was before I even came to the world and I need to do my task I'm doing it just because I'm have to do it for you and for those people I gave the best performance I had in my entire life Wow and you can ask people it was in New York by the way so that's how you overcome it to understand what is your choice like what is your choice you can't control nothing that's the beauty of a beli in that nothing is really yours not your wife not your kids there situation right now with one of my best best friends is struggling for his daughter's life because she drowned 50 something days ago on Shabbat in her pool she's two years old and the entire Community is praying for her snap you can't control even your own kids you know nothing is yours yeah nothing so so if it's been taken away from you as long as you have your yourself teaches that us he lost 24,000 students means he's Shalom the worst teacher in the entire world yeah in the eyes of hem yeah if you look at it normally yeah that's your thing and all of them didn't respect one another right and how did he pick himself up how do you pick he went he picked himself up and made rim five students was one of them wow there's not even without RAB AKA lifting himself again and that's what hasm wanted to see and that's Raba that's why he is Raba that mosu said you should have brought the toora in his hands why are you bringing the toah in me I should not bring the T to the to the people AB AKA should have bring he saw all the generations he stopped AB AKA why because of that but you know what he didn't knowu that he was Raba he's a Gil is wow he didn't know that because and then in Z says it right how many hours a day do you learn because sounds like you know I know but I first of all you know when you learned all your life in so many can be by the way really yeah and you're a you're an official I'm I'm a of the I'm not an official nobody anointing no said because I wasn't uh there when the rabbi was anointing but I'm everyone is a yeah and I the reason I'm a of the re but I'm of yeah yeah you want to hear a story those two things you want to hear a story from the rebba from that happened last week yeah last week I went for the first time to visit the rebba here and I go there I was like you know I respect you I know a lot about you I said my five minutes I put in aitt over there I said okay I was here right I think I forgot to rip it I see right we rip the C okay I I drive home as I drive home I I got pulled over from a cup and uh she comes out all angry at me and whatever she says you going 76 in a 50 Zone license and registration okay give her my license I said I'm sorry it's the first time I got pulled over I I didn't realize the speed limit she goes to her car I'm sitting there in the car I said Hashem I'm visualizing as if she comes back now with no ticket and I'm celebrating already you know so 2 minutes later she she comes back and she said sir first of all don't lie to me you've been pulled in 2020 for speeding you've been pulled in 22 for D cell phone use I'm sitting that was so embarrassed that she was able to see every time I was pulled and then she says I can see here that you live in Brooklyn and and nowhere in Brooklyn is the speed limit 76 clearly you have a speeding problem I got so embarrassed I was like give me the ticket ready and let me go she gives me my license and registration and says get out of here no ticket even though she was saying all those things exactly even though she caught me at a lie she caught me that I was you know living I was I'm actually now living in Toms River but on the license it's still from Brook and I felt like I'm just coming from the rebba this is probably him doing stuff for me and in in sham it's all speaks and and yeah I'm very curious for you do you prepare before you go on to AG do you do meditation do you do all I have my yeah first of all nobody can go in my perimeter before like uh let's say few minutes before I go on stage I have my own uh time my own my own speech to Hashem I have things that I wrote mhm on my phone like a prayer and what happens if that day you're just not in the mood there's no such a thing you didn't sleep enough the night before there's no such a thing that's why the beauty of our toora is to put penetrate inside your day so many things that you have to do so like in the morning right so you don't go out of the loop even though so I can tell you that for for two years straigh mhm I was saying this prayer with zero emotions oh wow zero zero relationship with zero yeah like so like reading it going those performances most of them my throat was sore right after a few songs was my my energy wasn't even there yeah so um but but when you consistent just like to he saw water going to to the to the yeah and it the softest thing right basically penetrates the hardest thing he says my heart that it's soft and to it's so hard for sure it will penetrate nice right what's the biggest crowd you performed I saw you just a few months ago you were here in time script performing for like almost 100,000 people right no it was like 50,000 yeah something like that wow it was a lot of yeah how much what's the biggest audience he ever performed was that the biggest I I was with uh almost 100,000 oh wow when um it was ino in B it was uh in a all the it's called Gans Sak in Jerusalem yeah I've been been many places with a lot of audience that's doesn't Excite Me Do you still get St stage fright no nah come on I'm doing it all my life comfortable you enjoy it yeah I'm doing it all my life I can tell you the only thing the only thing I can be nervous is if the sound is not right and if if the musicians didn't practice Yeah if it's if it's if the something happens if people didn't show up um people don't want to pay you're not relevant anymore those kind of fears but not on stage right it's harder every artist can tell it's harder to perform for 50 people to perform to 100,000 people right because when there is 50 people in the room they feel you ah they they sense yeah everything about you you're V ability how you speak they how you sing it's a whole different ball game if you're good in in entertaining and grasping 50 people yeah so much you are very easy to do 100,000 people right because the the it's a contagious situation so everybody's lit right here are 50 people everybody's judging you everything I'm not comfortable sitting there then you need to control the room yeah when when you're good at that then you know you're good just I also I'm almost going to wrap it up but I'm very curious about you you are an entrepreneur now you own your own restaurant and you are a chef so I'm not a chef I'm going to precise thing yeah so I have yeah what I what's is there is this another a new level of God I have two restaurants in Miami one's called Taj it's a Moroccan cuine yeah I saw crazy I make the Moroccan fish there yeah and I have another event space that's going to become a restaurant it's called Alma okay and we're doing a lot of events there and it's big it's fills like 200 people 250 people and the steaks there the seasoning and all the preparation I taught really like I'm doing my way and then the chef is doing it and all this started when you started cooking for shabas with the for the chefa yes wow and then and then I do I do that and and like I said more important is the foundation that is about to be upcoming running chef of house yeah and I was in I'm always involved in how to make the Jewish World here more cool and interesting in every aspect of it that started a lot of singer careers um a lot of big names that you know gave them tips or literally started their career yeah I'm so I'm uh yeah I'm doing a lot ofu I heard about it like you helped you said you helped ISO in the beginning yeah with his career a lot of singers that so nice of you by the way it's my it's my it's I'm I'm always open to hear good beautiful talent to people and of course my relationship with chilo have the wine the kab Fran in 20121 two gold uh uh this as the best CET Frank in the world really okay so I'm that was like unbelievable so now we're coming up with a restaurant uh God one so it's going to be uh Mel so everybody can buy it my my wine is not Mel so now it's going to be much more uh wider and we're doing um I'm coming up with a new album It's called magazine cuz you just gave out an album a year ago and I was actually at the launch party I don't know if you remember a year ago that the fik mag went made you remember it was uh in the five towns so you got an album that was never released it really yes the album was never released and I added 20 songs more there's 40 songs oh okay because I have the album the half album yes right now so it's 40 that's the first time I met you 40 songs G album magazine wow the G album is going to be only 1,000 copies it's going to be a book yeah coffee table book with artists from around the world giving their art the book yes people can scan and see all their art um rabbit from around the world giving Mim about G from different organizations it's going to be a beautiful book that I'm really excited with all the songs you can scan you can download and get it uh as as an album so it's the first of its kind I'm excited it's going to go to our website God's Gallery I'm having uh one of the things that is missing in the art world there's no unity and you speak about yeah so I I call out L literally like now recently all the artists to come and join the Gaba magazine and be in the God's Gallery so I promote them every week every week of different artist I'm promoting because they need a stage right they need a platform the art gallery is a new thing it's a new thing it's Gallery yeah I just saw a video of it my favorite piece of art is the is the painting of yourself with the blue sky you know what I'm saying is that for sale um or or it's yours it's in my house maybe one day I'll sell it I don't know okay cuz I would love to have it just say yeah so we'll talk about out this okay um it's nice I love it but if you buy it come to an event and then we'll do a whole show yeah yeah okay not just like that I don't know if I can afford it's probably going for what a million two million well it's you it's God yeah never mind it's my only it's the only but if you're doing an album now in Gula and you said that you love you always had albums with Diversified with diversity all types all types of songs even though many of your managers disagreed with that question to you is are we having a song on this album yes what it's called it's called hial not with the accent but it's a shab song so I do have a song song it's called wow it's not with accent and um I'm going to give it a taste [Music] for [Music] then the course wow very I can feel the warmth of it very very nice I love what you bring to the I think the next album might be a full you're doing pretty good surpris it's a lot of things there's another thing going on it's called It's All About Love it's going to be my first International Song WoW with non-jewish Artist Artist wow and it's going to be out on my birthday on August 20th it's going to come outm it's going to start hopefully a movement that's going to be called It's Love movement that kids from around the world is going to uh dance to the song and it's going to be teaching curriculum about uh anti-Semitism and and bullying and all that with the foundation called the Lina Foundation that I gave the song to them in order to to spread love peace and unity so it's going to be another thing that's going to going to happen so yeah so God what else are you doing cuz we're up to number eight I think I think you're gonna have to come another time do another podcast it's amazing wow thank you pleasure I appreciate it any message that you still want to share something that you haven't spoken about to the audience no more divisions open up yourself your home host on Shabbat people that are not from your culture learn open up when your kids see that then they realize that the the Jewish Arch is beautiful it's filled with so many beautiful Jews and then they don't feel when they grow up with those those boundaries between Jews it doesn't supposed to happen if it does have or not you teach that we are be I understand the people that don't let their kids play in certain situation with other Nows I do agree on that but when you have an adult in your house and you're hosting him and he shares his stories on Shabbat there nothing more beautiful than than that that's my call for your audience to open up open up your your heart your soul to another Jew don't this is times of mashia there's no time you can impact by your house by your shef by your schom a non-religious person an Israeli person a religious that went off the D completely and doesn't feel loved anymore in his community bring him Embrace him that's the message that I have for for uh your viewers beautiful thank you so much they say otd which used to stand for of the now stands for on the so somebody's otd I never used the words after but oh my only lately I see a lot of here in America yeah absolutely thank you so much God thank you so much God for the opportunity um thank you everybody for listening please make sure to like this episode share it with a friend that can enjoy subscribe to the channel leave us a comment that really helps us out to hear the feedback we want to see what you're excited about from on what God Said on what I said um and if you want to connect with me on Whatsapp there's a description in the in the there's a link in the description or you can connect with me on social media or I'm going to put all of social the social media accounts of connect must give you that you will find the one man you have all 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