Everything you need to know about therapy.

welcome to another episode of positivity thank you all for joining I want to remind you to please uh like this episode um subscribe to the channel and uh leave a comment helps me out and I love hearing your feedback um I want to talk today about therapy um and uh I've seen the journey for myself that I've had with and the relationship that I've had with the concept of therapy and I think that it can be extremely helpful if I share this story so that you have the information for yourself and you can make the decision uh what it is that you want to do so I'll start with my introduction to therapy uh my introduction was that uh I remember it was uh I think three years ago in the summer and uh I was feeling extremely low and I was just not happy with life so at that point just like when something hurts on the outside we go to a doctor same is when something hurts on the inside you go to you also go to doctor this is what the rambam says so I remember my father introduced me to somebody that's a therapist and I uh went to meet him a very nice guy actually and he actually helped me helped me put a few things into perspective um I then met him again a while later but I wasn't consistent with going to therapy so uh that was my introduction to the concept of therapy but I was able to see how effective it was by explaining to me a few things and just going through my thoughts and thinking that I had a very miserable miserable life but really I noticed that it wasn't so miserable when going when when I was breaking it down in my mind um and uh but now I've been in therapy for over six months consistently every single week once a week uh through zoom and it's been helping me um tremendously and uh that's why I figured let me share CU I know a lot of people there can use that extra help or physic or whatever and I'm here to to put out this information so that you have it um first of all I I really believe that a therapist is like a so that means that I've spoken to many people that do therapy and then till I landed with somebody that I felt uh comfortable enough with their message with their Style with their communication with their uh way of working um so it's extremely important that not just because you tried one that means that and that didn't work for you that means that they're the problem or that you're the problem it could sometimes take five or 10 therapists until you find comfortability with somebody where you can share and that person has an ability to help you um and a real therapist should tell you that they can't help you um so that's that's an important understanding to to to know or sometimes maybe perhaps you're not even ready you're just going you're seeking for a quick fix and you're noticing that you have to do all this hard work and you're not willing or obligated so it's an easier way to blame the therapist maybe that's the case sometimes but it's I I feel like therapy like a sh um I want to explain the process of therapy a little bit so what it is um like I said I do mine in Zoom but some areow in person maybe it's a little bit better you have real uh communication a real connection a little bit more um but the process of therapy is usually sessions between 45 minutes to an hour um where you basically share for the majority of the time you share about yourself about what's on your plate about what's bothering you um or what you're happy about about good ideas positive ideas positive uh things that are happening in your life um and through talking and seeing all these things um you come to notice that you notice stuff and it's beautiful to notice it's beautiful to have awareness um so that's usually the process of therapy usually it's once a week for about 45 minutes an hour um where you're meeting with a therapist VI via Zoom or uh or um in person um some do every second week or once a month or whatever or they go every six months if they want to just follow up and check in but that's usually the process of therapy um for all those people that right away want to ask the question uh do I need therapy um well I would I would ask you does some something from inside hurt you and if the answer to that is yes then there's a very big chance that therapy can help you if the answer is no then go on to your life and and enjoy um I want to I I'll I want to share my three biggest realizations that I had through therapy so that you can understand for yourself what you might realize about your life so the first biggest realization that I had was discovering my beliefs about marriage and to me that was super important because I'm I'm a deep person and as uh and I'm I'm not married yet and as much as I want to get married and try to get into a relationship or or have that uh or have that relationship give me everything that I think it does give me I noticed that no it's just my beliefs that are messing around with how my relationships um would be going in the future so I notice so many things that I have to change about myself whether it was clinging or the belief that somebody will leave me or the belief that I'm not good enough or the believe that that marriages are supposed to be uh painful and hurtful and all these things and I just noticed through talking about it and realizing um you know the ideas and perceptions that I grew up with I noticed that it was all me it wasn't it wasn't real all these beliefs that I had so through therapy I was able to set myself straight and now when I go out and I date I I'm in alignment with what's real with what what what's real for me and that was super super important to discover this so many times maybe a lot of people listening to this are are um are single or they are married and they're looking to get into a marriage or they're looking to have a better marriage and therapy can really help you with with um discovering that uh we're discovering yourself so that you know what you're doing okay um the second thing that it helped me with was anxiety um I feel like I've I've had anxiety when I go to places um you know people see me oh you're always out and about and you're having a good time well that's very nice but for for many many uh for many uh many times that I went to shows or stuff or places or Sim I did I felt very anxious and the reason for that was because I had an issue with saying no to certain things I would just go and hustle and hustle and go and and stress myself and overwork just to feel some sort of uh validation that I went somewhere or whatever but it was isn't coming from a from a healthy good place so I I I learned the ability to be able to say no to stuff if I don't want to go to S I'll say no if I don't want to go to a show or an event I'll say no even if it's the the the same day or the same whatever it is my my I come before anything um and and another thing that I noticed was that I was uh I felt like I was very much addicted to to do dopamine to my own phone phone to the the validation of others the constantly being on my phone checking who's messaging me and that's also something that I created healthy boundaries within therapy of when I use my phone how often I use it when I respond to people when I don't um how much do I need people to give me validation or how or can I be alone with myself so these are just three main areas in my life that that I I feel like I was only able to achieve and accomplish through therapy um I want to talk about some of the statistics about therapy so that you understand um according to Forbes 75% of people that go to therapy get become better become a better human so you have a very big chance that if you sign up for therapy even if you don't feel like you're in a dark place um it it could just help you and and Enlighten your life um people feel stronger with therapy they change their their behavior behaviors in therapy they can notice what's uh limiting their thoughts um they can heal pain from the past you can build the uh skills you can build your self-confidence um handle your emotions better um become better at problem solving you know especially once you discover your your your strengths and your weaknesses you have now the ability to to to work on it to see to see oh okay this thing is bothering me this thing is a blockage of My Life um in other statistic that I found fascinating is that 30% of adults are on therapy and so I I don't feel like there's any shame um and that's why I don't feel ashamed to say that I go to therapy um there is you know on the opposite side there is unfortunately you know uh 53% of Our Generation especially generation uh uh gen Z 53% have tried uh uh therapy so again like I said no shame over there but I think that the scary numbers are that 133% of adults and 25% of students have thought about had had um suicidal ideation so and I think that that that gives us a little bit of a wakeup call both that we should take care of ourselves and we should take care of others but definitely to take out the shame of therapy if somebody needs help or they're feeling trapped or they're feeling alone they should go seek help um it's a very uh normal thing to go get help another few statistics that I'll just read out over here I think it it's fascinating um this is mental health and therapy in the US um first of all 41% um said they struggle with anxiety 39% struggle with stress 30% have depressive phases 28% feeling have feelings of loneliness or social isolation 26% have mood swings 23% have phases of sadness 20% have panic attacks 20% struggle with self-esteem 14% have phases of lethargy and 8% have phobias and 26% said that they have none of the above so I think that about 75% struggle with some form form of uh of something within their mental health um keeps on coming up and bothering them um a few more statistics 70% of teens said that they have anxiety and depress uh and depression and it's a major issue for them um uh there are 552 th000 mental health professionals practicing in the US I think that's that's amazing um scientific studies Pro that Psychotherapy is an effective or even more effective than uh medication at treating depression so I think that that's really amazing that uh that that uh talking to somebody is even more powerful than any medication that you can take for for anxiety or depression um I I think that um and then again there there are many forms of therapy by the way so so that's also something that you can find what's what's right for you um but the most common form of therapy is having somebody that you can talk to minimum once a week where you feel a really uh safe Zone a safe space um and that's how I feel I know that every every week I have my open space even when I'm not in therapy I know during the week that if I have any kind of issue or anything comes up I know that I have one day a week where I have an open space space to talk about anything and everything without any judgment and that alone is uh super powerful um I I look at therapy as a luxury to be able to explore myself my feelings my my ideas um and some weeks maybe I had a hard week and I'm looking to explore and discuss something and work on something but some weeks I just feel like for me the therapy is discovering And discussing the positive things and the positive changes in my life and that's just beautiful um I I I feel like I'm in therapy to notice the good stuff about my life so I feel I feel really blessed and even in people that are in marriages even if you're in a happy marriage why not go for therapy try out see see learn more about yourself learn more about your spouse see what's working it's this is not just something that therapy shouldn't be something that you just use for an emergency uh you know when you feel like you're crashing and you run for therapy um again I see it as a luxury some people say you shouldn't be committed to to therapy it's just like it's like going to a hospital you have to get treatment some people get extremely triggered by this whole concept of therapy and some people feel extreme shame around it like why do I have to go to a therapist but I can tell you um my my story my life that I feel like I have a very good life but I feel like I also had struggles in my life and I feel like this was a perfect way for me to get through it and I also feel like even though I had a good week or even though my life will get to the best point ever and I only feel happy and clear and I have everything that I need I feel like I would still continue therapy so that I have an open space where I can talk and discuss and see all the things that are happening in my life um I hope this was helpful if you have any questions feel free to share in the comments and I'll try to answer it through social media or Whatsapp status I will leave the link to my WhatsApp status in the description so feel free to message me if you have any questions or if you want to sign up to see my status follow me on uh social media if you 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