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Peer pressure can catch our kids off guard.
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Peer pressure can catch our kids off guard. In the moment, when everyone is watching and they feel pushed to answer quickly, it can be hard to find the words they need. Having their values mapped out gives them something to stand on, but they still need practice making sure that their responses in those pressured moments reflect what truly matters to them. In today's video, Rabbi Avi Landa, LCPC, explains why the preparation we will be doing later this week is so important.
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There's a huge difference between
somebody approaching and saying, "Hey,
want to try this vape?" and me saying
like, "Um, I don't know if I should."
And then saying, "Come on, you don't
want to be a baby. Just try it. And I
don't even know what to say." As opposed
to a confident and a resounding, "No,
thank you. I have no interest in that at
all. You could do what you want, but I
hope you respect me for doing what I
want." Preparation is one of the
greatest antidotes to peer pressure, and
it's true when it comes to many things
in life. Obviously, if you're prepared,
you're going to handle pretty much
anything in life better. When it comes
to peer pressure, it's usually something
that the kid is not thinking about too
much. Is hoping it won't happen. And all
of a sudden, it comes up in class
amongst a group of friends. There it is.
They're not prepared. And the most
instinctive, safest reaction is to just
go along. And that's the power of peer
pressure. If the kid is prepared and
there are multiple ways to prepare the
child, then they've already went through
this process, the level of surprise and
shock is going to be dramatically
reduced and the self-confidence that
Rebecca Gber was just saying is the
greatest mida that is protective against
peer pressure is going to be built and
is going to be maintained because they
feel prepared. So what does preparation
look like? First of all, in school
having a curriculum like Darenu and our
path seal where there are extensive
classes about combating peer pressure.
And when they have all these smart ways
that make sure to reduce potential
conflict and intense altercations and
interactions, they're much more
confident and prepared. They're much
more able to resist the peer pressure.
At home, we can do the same thing. As
parents, we can reach out to
organizations like Amu and Darenu to get
resources. You can search online easily
to get all sorts of great resources on
how to say no, how to resist peer
pressure, what are some good techniques,
what are some good phrases or little
catchphrases that you can say. The more
preparation we can give to the kids, the
better.