Part 99: Reciprocal Relationships

good morning Boer to want to thank our sponsors for our amuna this morning Bob and Penny Pearlman in honor of for their beloved daughter should have a complete speedy and painless and Ai and dor Orland in memory of their beloved daughter mam who should continue to have an Aliyah through their generosity and their love okay very exciting I think this is Amir number 99 next week I'm not here but the week after that we meet for our H 100th Amun year which we're going to make a celebration to celebrate our H 100th amuna year we're going to have a light breakfast and we're looking for sponsors I already have one person who's interested but in order to serve the difference between a light breakfast and a real breakfast is Your sponsorship so if you uh if we get a few sponsors together and we have something very beautiful planned because with that light breakfast we're going to put into practice what we've been learning we'll have little notes of the BR next to each food at breakfast and an encouragement to say it out loud and with kavana and to put into practice the uh topic of that we've now spent several weeks on in this piece by these are old these are not I'm sorry yeah we're out if people can share oh no wait here here here here's one but if people could share that would be great so we've been doing this piece in Al Revol has been explaining to us why K saw the best exercise through which to grow our amuna muscles the best workout the best way to increase a sense of mindfulness and the presence of Hashem in our life is through saying BR certainly it's through daving too when was here recently he reminded us that women too are obligated in and even preferably Mar to say at least the amida of each so certainly it's through our daving that we have the direct communion direct conversation we feel directly in the presence of Hashem it is the amid I mentioned in the sitter Snippets uh the last sitter Snippets that amid is called the amida because it's the only part where we're standing before Hashem the rest of daving we're preparing to talk to Hashem we are recovering from talking to hem we are meditating and reflecting about the part of daving where we're actually standing in front of hem and pouring out our heart Hashem here's what's on my mind here's what I need here's what I want here's what I think is best for me for the people around me that I love here's what I'm grateful for thank you so much we're really really good at the requests we're not so good at after the fact saying you know that worked out thank you remember last week I asked you for this my kid at a test I was going to the doctor this thing was happening my husband applied for a job remember I poured out my heart and begged you we're good at pouring out our heart to beg we're not as good as when we get the results coming back and saying you know that really worked out thank you so much that couldn't have happened without you the thank you we struggle with even though it should come much more more naturally or whether it's even protesting as we've spoken about many times telling K here's what I'm objecting to here's what I protest so the amid certainly those three times a day they harness they they promote our sense of a connection with hem butal and R is encouraging through the ran and other sources we've seen that the real the real um springboard that propels us forward in our relationship with hm with a sense of amuna is when we have the conscious and the mindfulness to both say every day for the things that we're enjoying and benefiting from it reminds us that even the things we take for granted that we neglect even the little things all come from Hashem and it creates a pause within our day in which we're acknowledging in which we're making a bid for Connection in which we are connecting with Hashem so I'm not going to review everything we've said until now we've seen several Pages we pick up on page Shin Z in the middle ofish and if you recall at least from the last time that we met he was describing when the P says with it says says that when one violates a particular um a with one's children then you are we you contaminate God's Sanctuary what is God's sanctuary in other words God's Sanctuary is not the bricks and mortar God's Sanctuary is not the building of the sh or the Bas medish God's Sanctuary is us that is there the bricks and mor of the building is there for us to realize that the true Sanctuary is inside us B what the what the describes that it's not that we're a mushel for the mishun because we miss the mishun the mishun is a mush for us all the different parts of the Mish are all parts of us our lower part our heart our brain all of the different human organs that drive our emotions our feelings our thoughts our memory our distractions our judgment our choices we're not a mush for the for the mishan we are the Nim the writes the mishan is the is the mush for us it is a physical manifestation of what we are supposed to recognize and realize is going on inside us that we embody we are that Mish so sometimes you think we don't have a b we don't have a mish and I spend most of my day outside the sh so okay what could I do I live a secular mundane life for most of the time because I don't have access I don't have entree into those places of Holiness and we fail to realize we're conceding that we are that place of Holiness the mishkan comes with us wherever we go because bil it's in our hearts that we have the that we have the Mish and we talked about last time especially even or especially when we're in an UNC comfortable situation you're in a business meeting you're with someone who doesn't understand what a br is but you stop and you say excuse me for a millisecond while I thank God for this delicious apple excuse me for a millisecond while I acknowledge the beauty the gift of this cup of coffee that you are a b Mish you are now a traveling Sanctuary who is transforming hashem's world and that is our mission and only we can do that right we ended with the um anyone else go back and listen to the song like me after this year last time was the last high priest before the destruction he entered into the holy of holies on the holiest day of the year and you know what God had to say to him not here are the lottery numbers or here who's going to win the Super bowl or here's what the Jewish people are doing wrong and you need to turn them around what did Hashem say to Rish Alisha the last K when he entered this most Sacred Space that nobody else could enter except for the high priest the co you know what he told him my son give me a could you imagine imagine in the last few months I I saw and and last week I was at theare Reb neware M and you go into a Reb and there's a line the line is through his apartment out the door down the steps up the block in Tel Aviv somewhere the line is it's it's enormous so you wait on line because just to have a moment of attention of time of the countenance of a of a GLE of a great person who all you're going to get out of him he doesn't even have the time to say the full it's bhha that's all he's shortened it in order to be more efficient to see as many people and you have connections so you got the full oh I got a so imagine you wait you wait you wait you finally get in you used all the protection you have on the planet and then turns to you and says give me a gets into the he's waiting to feel the and hears say could give me a br now what do you give Hashem what BR could you give Hashem what's even a to give when we go for a what do we ask for so a regular person says give me gun give me good health give me for my children give me continued parasa give me Shalom bias all the things that really matter in life if you're really exceptional person you say give me in my toal learning help me in my Amun with with hasem help my daving flow freely and easily those are the bras we ask for Hashem says give me a br what are you going to give a br for what's the you gonna give the gives him so what are you gonna say to he's the omnipotent infinite creator of the enti entire universe he needs nothing he is everything and you're a little shnook you're a little finite temporary you're going to be warm food in a few minutes and what are you going to give not I'm not me to disparage Alisha I'm talking about every human being BOS of what what my father was 100 years old and he was all there and he was very very and he always used to lch everybody oh that's a good says you should give the give give the but what what you give the ab that's a good he gave at 100 from us and we should see so we give him good so you're gonna give him a he should see from us so he but does it make sense to give a no what does the word BR mean when we say the words this is important because we're working through we're not up to this in Snippets we haven't really covered this yet but you say begins with the word blessed are you God we've been saying that some people here father said for 100 what does it mean blessed what does the word blessed mean anyone have the courage to guess been saying it for a thousand years combined in this room we've been saying it for a millennia so how what does the word mean so comes from which means a stream or a flow it means you're M you are the source of BR not blessed are you Hashem like Hashem you're so lucky you're handsome you're smart you got Allah Milas some other gods they're missing Milas but you have Allah Milas you're so benched you're so God forbid God forbid Hashem is infinite he's a source of all he's what does it mean it means you are the source of all BR all BR flows from you so how do we begin every BR that we recite Hashem before I get up to the coffee or the apple or the sandwich before I get up to you open my eyes before I get up to whatever I'm saying before I get up to the specifics of it the beginning the template of every is before I can get up to the end of the BR I have to realize the beginning of the bra which is there's no point in saying the end of the braa without the recognition the first part of the bra you are the mem if I have my health and a roof over my head and a car to drive and I can see and I can walk and I can digest and if I have anything in my life if there is any BR that I identify in my life hm you are the M the reason I'm about to connect you to my Apple is cu you are the source of the Apple so I establish what I establish first before I get up to the detail before I get up to the application in the specific but what I establish first is the generic Hashem you are the M this is very important I don't know if you go through 12 years of Jewish Education if anyone ever explains that to you you just yelled at did you make a br on that did you bench I don't hear you louder i k I don't know I don't even know what I'm saying it's Chinese to me but maybe we should stop and pause and there should be a form of a sitter snippet curriculum for children if you're going to start making Bas from when you're four three years old let's explain what you're saying you are the source of all you know what it means you tell a little kid if you're sports team won it's because hasem is the m i if you're soccer team won if you made it onto the basketball team if you did well on the test if you're because Hashem is the m so later when you make a on the Apple you're thinking about your soccer team one it's all connected because he's the makor braa he's the source of any braa in your life which is why when you're experiencing any more braa cup of coffee a cold cup of water an apple pecan pie steak and fried onion I'm going to go on and on now but I'm hungry if if uh if whatever good you're experiencing you're about to unbi a pleasant fragrance you're going to make a you're about to watch a wedding you're standing under you're making a which according to the ra according to why you making the at a bris you're making a every we make what are you saying this couple who brought them together you are the this whole is because of you you're not exactly paying for it but you are paying for for it through me because you gave me the ability to pay for so on your candles on Friday night every braa begins with those words because the premise the prerequisite the foundation to whatever braa you're about to acknowledge the little baby we're about to do surgery on a bris the we're about to bring this couple together the Yanti we're about to usher in the Apple I'm about to eat the source of thatu that I merited to live that I'm alive that I experienc I get emotional my family laughs at me I get emotional every often one of our sets of parents are there at the table there's other people that were privileged from our community who were we have almost every Yan who it's not such a given that the next year at that y they're going to be there and when they are you're saying shanu that so and so is here that we have a family shanu we've lived here how many people by that next y when they make the their life has been turned upside down who's not there from the family who has a diagnosis they're suffering from who's no longer working who's struggling to have a child by that next you makeu that I'm alive that I'm here look who else is here look how much is the same everybody always wants change and different be a little grateful when you have the same the same is enough of a the same is enough of a I have all the same people someone in our community has several children with um significant autism and they're really heroic people the courage that it takes them to live every single day and and she said to me an accomplished physician she said to me once she said any night that I have the same head count as the way we woke up that morning is a Braha I count my if I put my kids to bed and we have the same head count in my home as we had in the morning that's all I need it's a braa you imagine the head space several children with significant disabilities significant she says any night that I the same all I want is the same I'll take the same what a so the very word we haven't learned anything new yet but the very words the word means everything flows so before you get to the end you can you can't stop you have to make the whole bra but before you even get to the end there's the generic first part of the bra the that talks about what if when you made the first half the bra you thought the wrong end half of the bra for the food you were about to eat do you have to repeat the BR from the beginning and the the is because true we have template that begins every BR but there really two bras within every BR so if I had the wrong intent on the first half the bra I was going to make Aus on the apple and only when I got to the end that I realized the eights so did that nullify my intent when I said the opening of the what is that whole telling me the first half of the is in itself a excuse me so what R is saying is this is the means the mechanism the instrument to F you want a relationship with hem you want to know know he's there you want to feel connected connect him through the coffee and the jelly beans and lunch and dinner and the snack and when you come out of the bathroom every BR you're making each one of these bras is a pause to say w you know what things are still the same you come out of the bathroom everything work that's still the same I swallowed the coffee it went down I didn't burn myself I could still taste coffee still the same it's a br on everything's still working the way it's supposed to it's amazing it's still the same so he went into the say so that was all to introduce again this question is the he's the source of not so what is g to give so thear there says you know what the continues to sing you know what the braa is that he gives says I give a br that you should have expression in this world see there's one thing that can't do that he needs us to do and that is choose him connect with him him relate with him feel his presence he can't force himself upon us a relationship needs two parties when one party forces thems on the other party in a relationship you have a hash me too movement you have abuse you have uh that's exactly what this world it's not you need two parties you need consenting adults in a relationship you can't force one party on another so to be a king ain't below to be a king you need to have a nation so says I'm the king of the universe I'm the master of all I created everything and you this world is Just an Illusion really it's all an extension of me but with all of that there's one BR there's one thing hasem needs we talk about this R time when we when we recite sayem says recite so I can be king over you what do you mean you're not King because you choose whether I live or die that doesn't make you King you need me to get together and Shool and announce that you're king and the answer is yeah how many people are walking around who even though God's in charge of whether they live or die don't know that he's the king how many so the only way that he is brought down has a is when how does Hashem reside in the lower world how is hashem's presence felt how does the world come to know godliness and pursue Holiness when we are the instrument to conduit it when we are the Tabernacle when so what's the the he gives him is May your children give expression to on Earth may you find you you don't need them you are the source of all but the one thing that only we can do we learn from there that if take a from we should never ever minimize the anyone gives us people wait online to get a go Tob you go to different Reb and and ask for and and they're all important there's a place for that in our tradition but when at the end of this someone says to you they heard you're sick someone you know is sick and they give you don't minute don't dismiss it it is of great significance you don't know whose BR is going to put things over the top to change your situation your status if Hashem could take a from Bish human being then we can welcome and embrace a br from absolutely anybody that gives it okay now that 20 minutes into the she we're ready to begin so we're on the bottom of the page sh this is where we left off last time to understand this we need to know that there are two ways that hasem interacts with the world there are two ways manifestations that hasem interacts the P there's Revelation and there's hiddenness there's sometimes that Hashem says waving his hand here I am here I am intervening in your life interceding in your life hi here I am he's way I don't know some of these social media things have I don't know what they are I don't know why people do it to me they can poke you they poke you you got to notice someone say has poked you I don't want to be poked I don't need to be poked I don't know why people are poking so they could poke you so sometimes the rebon pokes you something works out that is so clearly the revelation of his hand in your life something that shouldn't have happened and it happened so perfectly it came together and it was meant to be and it happened and wow such something came together it happens so that's P like light illumination Hashem has illuminated your life he's made your presence I don't know like on a global sense you could say the sixth day war basking in the glory of the sixth day war which was really over in the first day and Against All Odds that ever should have happened and those who lived through it it's a strickle before my time so they said wow you felt the hand of hasem there was a Resurgence of about Chua movement that came as a result people Mish felt the hand of hasem sometimes there's Horus upon him but you know it came several years before the sixth day war H upon him the Holocaust you have moments where you say where is he what is happening where did he go why is he not watching why is he not intervening we say shalom at the end of daving each dayem with the light of your face with your countenance with your illumination you have given us with you've shown your hand and I got the job Hashem you shown your hand I got the parking spot Hashem you got showed your hand and that investment worked out Hashem you showed your hand and everything came together was perfect was was amazing anytime that there is suffering pain difficulty it's because there's Hest upon Him Hashem is hidden he's turned the other way you can't see his face I will hide my face so which one that we get is a mirror of what we give says you can find much more about this in so I just want to give a disclaimer that I know that revola means too which is there are people who suffer terrible things and they are phenomenal incredible amazing people amazing amazing people I there's we're hosting right now a conference sh universitya RAB from across the country for 2 and a half days I'm missing it I'd rather hang out with you for a little bit so we're hanging out together but um so yesterday there were a few sessions that dealt with how we interact with people going through hard times and difficult times and there was a father who spoke to us who was like goes to sh three times a day learns DFI was the president of every organization put his children through day school has the most inspired passionate home and and neb has a child who's intermarried who who went through the whole day school system a year in Israel everything and explain what that's like another parent who has a child whose uh sexual orientation is not consistent with or is challenging within our from framework and you talk about so it's very easy to say oh they didn't see any passion in the home they didn't see any love they didn't see Judaism on fire there are plenty of homes where there's so the disclaimer is there are people who suffer there are people who have consequences there are people who go through challenging times and it does not directly correlate to their righteousness we have sadic valalo we have a principle that there's a person experiencing ra and they're aad there are righteous righteous virtuous Noble incredible people who for whatever reason AEM has chosen to vis a challenge on them it's not directly doesn't relate directly if it did we wouldn't have free will if you knew that if your bad bad things happen and if your good good things happen would anyone ever choose to be bad would anyone ever choose to be bad I believe or this is for me the most meaningful explanation of why bad things happen to good people did I share it recently here yeah no so why do bad things happen to good people why do good things happen to bad people and I think it's to keep us honest I once read in a journal of Education many years ago the question the age-old question a child gets their test back and it turns out the teacher marked something that was incorrect correct and they got a few extra points because of it so the child with a big smile and pride and what they're about to do walks up to the Moa the teacher the rebi and says MOA teacher rebi you gave me extra points you marked this right but it was wrong so what do we train to do what is the teacher do what should we do what do you think should happen because you were honest you could keep the points you're right I marked it wrong it was my mistake but you pinch a little cheek you're not allow to do that anymore you can't touch the child so you you poke the child online and you say uh I'm so proud of you because of your honesty I don't if you're allowed to do that either but because of your honesty you could keep the points so this author in this journal argued that's a terrible terrible lost educational opportunity why why because when you go to Publix and they gave you the change for a 50 even though you only gave them a 20 so you walked away with extra money so you come back in and you tell the cashier you gave me an extra $20 bill she doesn't pinch your cheek and say oh you know you were so honest keep the $20 bill so the argument in the journal was don't teach that Honesty pays because honesty doesn't pay and we're not honest because it pays sometimes honesty costs sometimes being dishonest days and being honest costs and you should be honest anyway so it's a disservice to the child to give them the points because then you are reinforcing the idea that always be honest because it's going to pay you could agree disagree with the journal with this author I don't know different ages maybe there's different reactions maybe you take the P points off but you give a candy because you came to me I'm not an education I don't know what to do but when I read that I thought when I read that it struck me that's the Reon does with us he says I want you to do it's right because it's right now if only good things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people you wouldn't do good because it's good you do good because you want good things and you wouldn't avoid bad because it's bad you'd avoid bad because you don't want bad things so how does Theon shom keep us honest he says be good even though you know bad things might still happen to you and even though you'll see bad people that good things are happening to them don't be bad so I think that the whole the whole framework the whole meaning and purpose to life is having free will is having choice if we didn't have choice and Free Will we'd be pre-programed programmed automated robots there'd be no meaning and purpose to our relationships there's only meaning and purpose to our relationships because we make choices we make choices that bring us closer with one another we make choices that drive us further away from one another our choices have consequences and having choices is what gives meaning to life so in order to preserve Free Will and to have choices you have to have bad things that happen to good people if only good things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people who would ever be bad but we live in a world and you see that you know what good things happen to some bad terrible people and there are bad things that happen to some good amazing people say you know what I'm going to be good because it's the right thing to do I'm going to choose to be good I'm going to have a choice because I'm going to struggle so I want to just be very clear about what R is saying and not saying he's not saying that if you're going through a hard time there are people in this room right now who have in the past and who even currently are going through very difficult physical emotional spiritual situations very very challenging and I'm not telling you now go home and beat yourself up because you're a terrible person and bad things are happening to you cuz you're a bad person you might be the most righteous holy in our whole room and in our Community we don't know hashem's system we don't know why with that said with that said what R is saying is this you want Hashem to give P we've established there's two ways hasem relates to us either or P either Revelation or hiddenness well it's very simple he says Hashem is a mirror Hashem is a mirror and he reflects what we portray into that mirror when we reach out to him when we've revealed ourselves to him when we've invested in our relationship with him so there's a relationship he's present in our life when we practice Hester pun with him he hasn't seen us in sh he hasn't heard us from the sitter he hasn't heard us make a Braha he hasn't seen us say thank you he's not the one practicing Hester Punam we're practicing Hester Punam he hasn't heard from us in a long time hasn't heard from us for a long time I have a good friend and we recently had a spat and we talked and worked it out and one of his things was he says you only text me you only reach out to me when the SCH needs something I said well why don't you look back at your texts and see when's the last time you reach out to me when when you didn't need something it works both ways it works both ways sometimes we're ready to like so we say Hashem where H upon Him Hashem where are you hasem says where am I oh you're going through a hard time so I've heard from you you know you sit's got a lot of dust on it I haven't heard from you in quite a while I haven't felt your presence in my life Hashem says so is asserting is that are reciprocal relationships is it no different with our friends is it no different with our spouse is it no different with our children right the age-old you hear from your children when they need something put more money thank God for debit cards put more money on the debit card you need something I have wonderful children I hear from them even when they don't need anything sometimes I say cut out I hear from you too much I got to get some work done so so uh you got that feature where you could just press I'm busy I'll call you later you know anyway so I I love hearing for I I love hearing from you call me keep calling some of them actually listen to this keep calling I love it I love love it I love it anyway so so but it's reciprocal it's reciprocal you know the parent who only hear us from their child when they're in crisis I'm talking about an adult child who weeks can go by months can go by you don't hear from a child unless they're in crisis and now the child wants to know from the parent why aren you rushing in to save me why aren't you investing in me everything you have why aren't you rescuing me where are you say where am I where have you been now a parent will rescue anyway because that's what it means to be a parent but where am I where have you been so rev is saying is what is the way that we show hasem him instead of H upon him making BR how do I show hasem I know you're here again not just swallowing the Braha faster than we swallow the food but saying the BR thinking the BR feeling the BR the BR is the means the way in which we show Hashem we know he's here it's a reciprocal relationship don't hide and be invisible and and have no contact with hem and then wonder where he is and wonder where he is the power of saying AB is the capacity it has the power to transform P to's hiddenness to his Revelation if you don't make a you have robbed you have stolen you're a no good evil Wicked iar Thief you're a no good robber who have you stolen whom have you stolen from you stole from Hashem you took that which is his without saying please or thank you but who else have you stolen from stole from yourself the relationship you could have had and living the best version of yourself and who else have you stolen from is you stolen from the world because every BR transforms the atmosphere if you remember last time I told you what told us about learning in the morning when the nightclubs and the hoodlums and they're all asleep the air is less contaminated there's a greater Purity in the air you know we're so worried about global warming and and green and and Recycling and beautiful it's important good we should worry but we're worried about that physically what about that spiritually what do the atmosphere what does the spiritual atmosphere look like right now what is the spiritual global warming that's going on where's the spiritual um green effort that we're making we have to worry about what the atmosphere looks like spiritually when you put a br out there we're going to have in our 100th sheer a little bras party like we're little kids again so we're going to have a little bras party because we're going to transform the atmosphere we're going to rid it purify it of its contamination and fill the atmosphere with with hashem's Presence by saying bras so when you deny the world the BR that you should be saying you've denied hasem you've stolen from him youve denied yourself becoming who you could be but you've also failed you've stolen the opportunity to change the atmosphere we have the capacity to give strength to God how Hashem interacts with the world he's putting on our hands the balls in our court the balls in our court he says you connect with me I will reciprocate 10 times more to connect with you you pull back from me no problem I got it I understand it I'm not looking to force myself upon you you don't need me I don't need you I don't want to force myself in so sort of paradoxically hashem's whole presence in this world relies on us we determine the extent the degree the intensity of his presence in this world so what's a listen to this you should write it out and print it out and put it over your dining room table the you say is May It Be Your Will that your influence inrease in this world so we can feel and see your presence only more and more this is what the so you who are the source of let you shower more so that we can feel your presence more and more that's what's implicit in every we say but we still have a lot of work to do so we say the word the word 100 times a day you know what a 100 times a day is a 100 times a day it should instill and ingrain within us it should develop the Habit within us everything going on you are the source of as he says where should we work on this most why because it is the we most we're saying it as we're walking away from the bathroom if we say it at all while we're already doing the next thing that we're doing and we don't even know that we're saying until something's not working properly then we really understand what that means we found very very deep and holy lofty things in imagine someone could succeed a hundred times a day having this is what it said the says what does God want from you m says and what is the means the mechanism through which we achieve now we understand why is finishing full circle why is it they said don't 100 times a day you know what the result will be and imagine if you didn't just say 100as a day could you imagine if you for the 100as a day if you say 100as a day it's 36,500 bras a year now multiply 36,500 by 100 years how many bras add two zeros what is that 3 million 36 million it's it's an enormous amount to count your bras count you should walk around with a clicker like Steps no you should have like a uh what's that thing called a Fitbit for your BR 10,000 steps a day you have people who walk around their living room all night 9 it vibrated on my wrist yay party 10,000 steps right 10,000 steps calculating the calorie intch we have all kinds of metrics of what we're measuring measure did you make a 100 bras now tell you a secret 19 time three you're well on your way you're well on your way right you're a 57 bras before you even start if you say sh three times a day you've said more than half of your quota you're more than halfway there so says I promise you I can't describe to you the benefit if you don't just swallow the Braha but you think about it imagine go through one day where all 100 bras that you said you thought about go through one week where all 100 bras you said you thought about slave now imagine at the end of of a year you said 36,500 bras and you don't remember saying one of them is there a greater tragedy 36,500 bras you said in that year and you don't remember paying attention once you don't feel the impact of one the Lost opportunity the Lost moments the last gain of how many times you essentially took H's name in vain that you said the but you weren't paying attention 100 a day is an enormous when you want to say them with concentration and not everybody can R says so let's not start out by saying we're going to do 100 a day let's start out we're going to say the 100as a day but let's commit to 10 out of the 100 10% let's commit to for 10% pay attention pay attention for 10% and you will see the benefit and you'll just want to add more and more so maybe you couldn't get 10,000 steps a day so you started with 3,000 steps a day but then you just wanted to add more and more because it got easier and easier and we're the same way so if we had a counter a clicker a system to measure the 100 bras a day you would look back and see your day as better and better and better every one of us can whoever makes a is blessed I mentioned in another context last week in the 10 minutes of meeing and I'll end with this that I was listening to a podcast of Tim Ferris interviewing Jim Collins Jim khin is the author of good to great he was a professor at Stamford he's a management Guru a really worthwhile listen I think it's like an hour 45 but if you listen on double speed half the time so it's it's a really worthwhile listen and he talks about that already for a couple decades he has a system of a spreadsheet that he keeps in his life it has three columns and one of the columns he keeps just one two senten is what he did that day here's what I worked on here's who I who I interacted with here was my day just a two second summary of the day and another column is he rates every day from minus two to plus two what what was the day at the end of this day did I feel energized productive creative accomplished was it a good day A plus two I'm going to sleep feeling really good or this day not go anything the way I wanted it to I feel depleted and deenergized it was a negative day I'm a negative two or something in between he rates every day and why does he do this he says because he goes back and quarterly and annually he studies the spreadsheet and he tries to understand what was I doing and with whom did I interact when I got a plus two and what was I doing with whom did I have to interact that I got a negative two and then he says I want to not lead my life doing more of the things and doing it with the people who give me plus two days if I have a limited amount of time to live and I want to live the best and most fulfilled and happiest most meaningful life yet don't I want to determine and dictate those days to make them the most fulfilling now we're not always in control and we're not always have the ability to manipulate those questions so much but to a certain degree that we do so I POS it and suggest to you and I suggest it to Jim Collins if he's listening he's not listening but I would pause it to Jim Collins that if he would add making 100 blessings a day it would contribute to the plus two column if he wanted to measure a good day he would find that if he made bras every day he would have more good days he would see more BR he'd feel more BR he'd have more gratitude in life because we get to an end of the day and think it's miserable we forgot you know what it took to get that cup of coffee there's such a thing called The Coffee Bean and someone planted it and it grew and it wasn't infested with bugs and it was harvested and it was transported and it was ground and it was packaged and someone put it in a little overpriced pod and I have an invention of a car machine and I have a cup of coffee and now when I take a sip of that cup of coffee there was the truck driver and there was the manufacturer and there was the person who built the box that transported the and there's a 100 steps that went into it and in that cup of coffee I'm making a br on a cup of coffee I'm making a braa on a world that could produce a cup of coffee that ends up I didn't have to break my back in the field I didn't have to grow the cocoa bean the Coffee Bean I didn't have to grow I didn't have to I just put it in the car big thing I had to do is choose 8 o 10 o 12 O that was my big contribution I had to press the button in the comfort of my air conditioning in taking 60 seconds 30 45 seconds I pressed the button wow that's not worth a br how many things had to happen for me to be able to have that pot of coffee there coffee snobs here I know I'm Consulting you suggesting that a pot a carck is good I know that's like for coffee snobs that's an insult but how many things had to happen for that cup of coffee for whatever it is I'm eating smelling enjoying doing going I step on the gas pedal of my car and it takes me from point A to point B I got on an airplane and I landed where I wanted to go in a short amount of time how many things had to happen in history in the world with people with Discovery with how many things had to happen that's what my BR is on so when I make a br on my blue chips in the sky I'm not making a br on blue chips are there blue potatoes how do these chips blue they are there are blue potatoes okay I'm not just making a broa that there's such a thing as a blue potato and someone deep fried it for me my br's on the Blue Chip you know I bras on that I'm sitting in this aluminum vessel flying through the sky and I'm in New York in 2 hours and 10 minutes and and that's it and that if I lived just a few Generations ago it would take me a two and a half week ride in my horse and buggy whatever I'm not making a br on the Blue Chips I'm making a br now that's a level of Consciousness that's very very difficult certainly 100 times a day to have the consciousness of everything that went into everything I'm doing but do you not think you'd have more plus two days if every time you made a br you said you know I'm pretty blessed to be living in the generation I'm living I'm pretty blessed to have access to this I'm pretty blessed to see everything that had to go into this so if we want more of those plus two days and if we can do this I end the way may the one who's offering blessings be blessed by offering our bras may we feel blessing see you two weeks from today for our H 100th amuna Class party if you'd like to be one of the sponsors of the breakfast that day please contact Linda