Part 77: Never Alone

all that's true okay good morning I want to thank our sponsors for this morning Stephanie and Sam Weinstein for theind and anonymously for for a loved one they should both have a complete and Speedy okay so I want to build on what we were doing last week last week we saw piece by the p shap in his his spiritual diary and if you remember last week we spoke about hisus the of what real conversation casual conversation with Hashem he's our best friend and the petner model did for us P gave us a script where he allowed us to fill in the blank what it's like to directly talk to Hashem it's not exactly the script that we might naturally employ it's more poetry than it is what would flow from our lips um and and maybe is more lofty more spiritual than what we might intuitively do um but the premise the principle of it is the same which is the idea that real doing is not what we say from a sitter as important as that is real doing is not what we say from the sitter as important as that is the most authentic it is real daving it's not fair to say but the most authentic form of is what comes naturally is to talk to the P to hasem to Theon um that he's right there so I want to build on that by doing a piece in another safer called NE it's written byus I'm sorry from D pinkis Pinkus was American Born he moved to Israel he was a raim great and a brilliant orator great leure unfortunately tragically was killed in a car accident um at a young age a relatively young age um and he published T in his life I know of sh which I'm an enormous fan of amazing safer about daving and shabas malasa saer about chabas and pous many others they took from his at the time they were called they took his tapes and they produced them as and one of them is this thick safer called which are lectures that he gave about about so this is the middle of a chapter calleda that you have been shown to know which is a theme we've talked about the last couple of weeks and in the middle of that chapter he he has a piece which I think is a perfect continuation of what we began last week the theme that was set down by the petner so for the sake of a little continuity here so says the say of Pinkus the following everyone see the side that we're on on the right hand column it says let's put it this way on one side the right hand column doesn't go all the way to the bottom we're on the other side on the other side on the right hand column okay and the and the theme the title of this piece of this section of this essay is to live with the existence of Hashem to live with the presence of Hashem so he quotes says that when we DAV when we DAV it is on us to know it is on us to know that hasm is with us we're not alone in the room we're not talking to a wall but that hm is literally there and he's listening to us like two people talking on the phone or today you'd have to say like two people texting with one another that when you send that text when you leave that when you make that phone call even though there is no response on the other end we have to know there's someone listening we have to know there's someone listening the knowledge that hasem created us that he hears us and that he loves us it needs to be obvious and it needs to be simple we over complicate it we try to make it sophisticated particularly if you're from the Yu world and you're a student of RAB salich or a student of students of RAB salich who to his great credit salich was a brilliant brisker Lambda his Torah is absolutely incredible and um he was a great philosopher but he also made things very complicated by Design that's how briskers thought in a complicated way so he used fancy words like anthological and axiological and all these fancy philosophical terms to talk about hashem's existence and deepest Notions of and they're beautiful and we should study them and they're wonderful but not at the expense of the P ideas we talked about last week am there's the amuna of I can quote 17 arguments and pieces of evidence for hem and there's Tavia for FID on the roof who all these milk in the cow is talking to Hashem he's probably illiterate he can't read he certainly can't tell you the arguments of Theon of of others as evidence of hashem's existence but you know what with all the people who qu all the arguments there's tevia talking to Hashem while he's milking the cows like he's not alone in the barn that there's someone else with him who hears him who's listening to him who's the source of support for him who's with him at that moment so we shouldn't say sometimes you have to set the sophistication on the side and go back to the basics simple clear and and and palpable like the intuitive knowledge that my mother father Lov me just like I love my children sometimes you only first begin to appreciate that when you become a parent really it takes being a parent to know that a parent loves a child more than a child could ever love a parent it takes being a parent to know that which means the same is true that Hashem has an intuitive as our father he has a love for us he has a love for us this is a very personal relationship it's not that God is some distant inaccessible High futin fancy philosophical God he's he's our ABA our tati our daddy he's our loved one we are his child so when you're young you think that your father or your mother are like all powerful all knowing capable of everything like you look up to them you admire them you think they can do anything in the world you think they know everything in the world and then you get a little bit older then you go through your teen or you adolescent years and then you think they know nothing they're the worst people in the world they're the lowest people in the world and then you hopefully survive both sides survive that and then you come back to thinking you know what I've now come as I have an adult relationship with my adult parent that I know they're not perfect I can tell you all their failures and foibles and shortcomings but boy do I still admire them and I see the goodness in them and I've learned so much from them and I have such awe and reverence of them hopefully in a positive relationship so those are the stages of the relationship with has except multifold because whatever you admire and you think and you learn from your parents they're human they're finite and they have failures but the is he's not just our father but he's Our Father who has no limits who has no boundaries who has no beginning no middle no end who can do anything so even when you're an adult it's the relationship with Hashem with a father the way we had when we were three years old when we three years old our mother our father could do they could fix anything they could do anything they could go anywhere they could fly they could do anything and then we mature but with Hashem we never have to mature from that thought because Hashem Still Remains that father that parent who can do absolutely anything in the world we are always partners with says that when you D on Friday night and you say the end of the story of creation it's as if you become a partner with Hashem in the creation of the world hm has invited us to be his partner in the world our relationship with him is in the category of our father our King the notion of the relating to hem as a king it's very hard for us to describe it's very hard for us to understand because we don't live in a monarchy we don't really live under the rule of a king although now that he can pardon himself maybe we do but we don't really live under under a monarchy k what's a king we don't know and even our friends on the other side of the pond even the Marriotts and those who live with them in London and England they don't know what monarchy is because it's a total symbolic position it's a celebrity position today it's a meaningless position today um meaningful to them but meaningless to most of the world it's a meaningless thing but to live under a real monarchy who could who could demand your life who could cut off your head who could take your money who could on a whim on a whim with absolutely no nothing you can do about it so that sense of a monarchy we have no IDE we we live in a liberal democracy there's a rule of law there's a constitution we don't relate to that notion the malanu part we can't really identify with but the a the ABA that we have a father that we can my father is the one who's found even when I'm not found he's the one who's awake even when I'm sleeping and when I'm Dreaming when I'm fast asleep he's worried about me that's a parent a parent never stops worrying caring investing protecting doing loving we have a friend a best friend who's the biggest as we all have literal human friends who are naturally inclined they have Aid intuition they're the first ones who are running to cook that meal offer that ride visit in that place write that birthday card go to that they go above and beyond they're just naturally intuitively their inclination is to do right we know people like that we've been recipients of their of their which if we would reject would hurt them more than it would hurt us that's how intuitive they are well guess what we have the greatest friend who's the greatest B in the world and he's also our father he's our ABA um he is the greatest interest the greatest love the greatest affection whatever are the greatest virtues of a parent whatever you would describe and you'd write up as the ideal parent on the planet calls checks in but doesn't stifle and and suffocate cares and does but gives room loves and supports and whatever you would describe whatever would be the qualities that you would use to describe the ultimate parent in the world that's Hashem manyfold it's like a connection a friendship a bond that has all of these values and virtues so if you don't begin your you're ding if it's not started on the premise on the foundation that I'm to have a conversation with my best friend who's a who do anything in the world I'm going to have coffee with my ABA with my daddy with my dad I'm going to connect with the one who loves me shimi ket's father passed away very suddenly very very tragically ketki an amazingly special person who we had the privilege of being very close with um so at his funeral which we watched unfortunately couldn't get there in time but his his children spoke his three sons but then his daughter spoke Lisa who it was unusual for her she is not from a hashkafa where it's normal say for a woman to get up in the Sho and give a HP but she and she mentioned that at the beginning but she decided to do it anyway because she said she had to bring her perspective she was the only daughter she was her daddy's little girl and she described very personally and it added so much added so much to the coved to the honor for reab ketki and insight into him from the perspective of a daughter and she described very vividly sitting on his lap and daddy's little girl and the pride and the special moment and their connections very very beautiful so we are all daddy's little girl we are all daddy's favorite son we are all Daddy's in in the sense the Reon Shalom of our ABA of our of our daddy we're all that we all have that special bond that affection that love that commitment that loyalty and if we don't begin our amida with that if our amida is all about let me just review the seven pieces of evidence and philosophy and that ontologically hasem is and axiologically he's that and and then we get up for it's kind of dry it's like it's like you're in philosophy class you're sitting in University but if you get up and you say I'm I'm going out for lunch with my dad what do I want to talk about and what do I want to be nostalgic for and what do we want to remember and what do we want to look forward to and and how am I having lunch with my Dad we don't begin to understand we just know that he's present and we can use anthropomorphism to connect with how he connects with us I have a rich Uncle he's a billionaire he's a billionaire so money means nothing to him so he's able to cover things he takes us all away for PES and on vacation and flies us to this and buys us that oh who's that rich Uncle his name is Ron right so Budd so I so so we it's okay he's going to sit quietly with me he's going to give the share with me right no okay so if one had a very wealthy relative a billionaire for Money Was No Object couldn't spend all the money if he wanted to money was nothing and he was generous then one would feel that they the recipient of that generosity they'd feel a bond of connection towards them so we all have that rich Uncle who provides for us in that way his name isem when we're talking to Hashem let's not pretend let's not make believe we know who we're talking to we don't begin to understand connect with relate to comprehend the infinite the perfect the omnipotent the omnicient he's beyond anything so when you talk about hasm philosophically you can't scratch the surface of who he is the father who has no boundaries no limitations HE capable of everything whom he is giving us attention he's listening he loves us he connects with us in a wondrous magnificent way through kindness through so what rinkus is basically saying is yes there's two paths to connect hem there's the there's the simple kind of leap of f there's the simple unsophisticated way of just accepting the presence feeling the presence feeling the loving hand talking to Hashem with Simplicity with the very simple notion that there's Hashem here there's nothing more to talk about and then there's the sophisticated one but if you go down the root of the sophisticated one because we can't begin to scratch the surface you can't really get very far whereas if you relate to Hashem very simply almost naively then you can have the deepest connection because we know what it is to have an but if you're alive you have a father you have a mother people have tragically lost parents at a young age but maybe there's another person in their life who's a father or a mother figure we know what it means to have a mother or father figure maybe if our own biological parents didn't live up to what parenting was and they failed Us in that way but there's someone else who was that parent figure for us an aunt an uncle a neighbor a loved one a teacher someone else someone else so we know what it is we know what it is that someone would take the bullet for us wakes up in the middle of the night for us we go to the end of the Earth we' go bankrupt for us we go into debt for us we know what it is that they love us more than we love ourselves if we're parents we begin to know what that means because we would do that for our children and we only when we have children do we begin to understand what our parents felt and would do for us so the sophisticated philosophical Hashem very hard to scratch the surface but the hasem we can all know I don't know if anyone's following this debate going on right now between mosha Weinberger and a re at is in Baltimore so the Mish azine couple weeks ago had a story about the B Revisited I think they called it which is aboutus is that there's been a rebirth of ofus but not within you know the world where you have to have a Beal but even within or particularly within the modern Orthodox World went to go be the university which was controversial at the time because why you saw itself as the continuation of Thea ofion of brisk the idea that they're bringing in a the re was going to teach in the middle ofion was like unheard of it was it was like it was like I don't know the Bish of the gr inviting the B into give to give Shear it was just unheard of but meanwhile he transformed the Yeshiva and had an enormous impact and so R his other such efforts and leaders across the world who are bringing that language of Amun andus bringing that language of of of my nees bringing that language of the pus Torah the depth of Torah so it's sprouting and spreading in our own Community Reb murof who's a wonderful rebi at Hill Day School Cat Day School and the member of our of our Sho has has given birth to it within our own SCH he has a Thursday night group called Aid they get together they play music they learn kidus they're moved they've had musical Hal several times you see that there's a thirst and a hunger for this so the story was praising those who are doing it and uh this reaber wrote a letter kind of critical of the article and basically said what happened to the old Yeshiva system that the way you connect with hm is garash what's with this sugarcoated fake spirituality Kumbaya musical Gatherings and it's just it's based on and it's following the the counterfeit spirituality whatever of the day you that was like you know declaring war that letter so R Weinberger who's not really afraid of anyone or anything wrote a scathing article back respectful but pretty strong and gave a Shear that you could listen to online and um because it touched his soul he's dedicated his life to developing this language and reaching people who feel lost and here's somebody who's questioning it and I think reinberger really I think an honest objective reader would see that reberger um I think could claim victory at least in round one of this battle and in this talk one line bed him where the man wrote the rabbi wrote that um when you do certain things that distance you from hash that that ruins your relationship with hasem when you engage in certain things you go you know and never felt that's so wrong that even when because the basis of this debate was Melle in the original article was quoted as sharing teaching that when we all read the the says know what is above you that there's an eye watching and an ear listening everything you're doing is being recorded the bash has a beautiful interpretation of that by the way for another time but the um so the mishna we usually read as something which is really motivating us through a scare tactic like don't think you're ever alone somebody's watching our generation could understand this more than any other um a couple weeks ago there was an incident where it turns out that the Alexa device in someone's home was recording a conversation between a husband and wife and sent it because it was connected to the person's phone sent the conversation to someone in their contexts to the point that um who puts out Alexa Amazon so they themselves admitted it was a fault in the system and they're going to correct it and they apologized for it so like if you have an Alexa in your home just know it could be EAS dropping on everything that's being said that's going on so shamas his cameras everywhere and his listening devices everywhere everything is being recorded So the mishna is really understood to be okay I'll tell you the bash because you insisted so the B says that you should read it know there's a hasem above you so not that Hashem is listening and watching and hearing IA means know that if there's a Hashem above you who orchestrates everything in life I in Ro whatever you saw you were meant to see you happen to be somewhere you saw something you saw someone going through this you were meant to see it and oenas whatever you hear you were meant to hear it's not coincidence it's not chance it's not random it's by Design and therefore how you react to what you saw and what you heard that weren't accidental but were meant to be the they are recorded so don't say I saw that person suffering I chose to look the other way I heard that but I didn't I didn't needan to hear I didn't mean to hear I didn't want to hear no whatever you saw whatever you heard you were meant to see you were meant to hear and now how you respond and how you react that's everything about who you are that's what's recorded that's the B interpreted that that mishna so quoted a I don't remember from whom that know that is above you his eyes is watching his ear is listening it's not about the bad things you do interpretation is know this has above you and I in ra he sees he sees the good things you're doing he sees that you wanted to stay in bed but you got out of bed to make a dominion and he hears he hears that you called someone to put in a good word to lift their Spirits even when you didn't have to he said you know we don't have to live this this fearful form of a religion where Hashem is this angry um Taskmaster he's our employer and he's looking to catch us late or catch our mistakes or hold us accountable the god of fire and brimstone and punishment but the onlyus is that it's the opposite it's Hashem who's our father and he loves us and he's looking to catch us doing good things not to catch us doing bad things we recently spent time with a parenting expert whose entire philosophy which is based on Research is that you can condition children and we help children realize the best version of themselves not through negative not through punishment not by catching them doing the wrong things but by catching them doing the right things only you never give negative feedback you just try to and and the the the natural positive feeling of good feedback conditions the person to stop the negative they only want to do because they get such good feedback whenever they do the good so that's that's is stop depicting Hashem of course we believe in own believes in it doesn't deny that there's accountability to you know also have also have um but the emphasis is on Hashem who loves us he's our tati he's our father and he's trying to catch us doing good things so that's what this back and said that that's a distortion of the mishna and that's that's basically like feel good that's what you wish it were but it's not true hasm catches you doing bad things and don't do bad things and you're going to be accountable for the bad things so that's what set reinberger off and he gave this sheer online and it's worth listening to and why am I telling you this whole thing because he tells a story in that she tells a story about one of the best B Yesa who a great who who went didn't go to but went and went off the and the parents were distraught absolutely distraught but what made the father even more distraught was that he saw on his son's phone that the son was watching a phone or laptop whatever it was the son had son had been watching as said g he'd been watching like Evangelical pastors he found meaning he was watching you know Joel o Rick Warren or who whomever by the way I understand why people watch them they're very inspirational and motivational so he's watching and watching and watching and that for this father this was like the Mak was the end that he's no long learning that he's not the excelling as the that he's off the D is bad enough but that the is now experimenting with or finding meaning in Christianity he couldn't so he confronts the son says you know what are you listening to why are you listening to this and listen to what the son tells him he says ABA dad whatever he called him said I went through all my years of education and my years of yes and I learned and and I learned bris and and I saw the and I heard the to but you know what I never heard that I hear from these preachers every time they speak that God loves me I never heard in all my years in Yeshiva that God loves me and you know what I need to know and I need to hear and I need to feel that God loves me because I don't love myself and I'm going through things in life and I get messages from the world the universe sometimes feels like it doesn't love me I need to know that Hashem loves me and they say it and I didn't hear it in these other places so of wiinberg goes off okay you know thear we need them they're they're the foundation of of a Jew but we also need to know that Hashem loves us and that's what that's what rep Pinkus is describing here and then he you know goes off quoting that prove we's children he loves us even when we're doing the wrong thing and the rash and the Chua says we pass him like May about this even though we don't normally he is very smart he uses classic to prove his point and that it's not that this is the language of the Torah of the Torah itself it's worth listening to and and deserves a great for for this so um so this is what of Pinkus is saying here what of Pinkus is saying is you get up forra you're not St yes are we standing in front of the let's not sugar coat it it's not our father that you know if you disobey your father and you disrespect your father and you neglect your father and you step all over your father and yourct to your father and you steal from your father you know there's a point that when you get there there's a line he's not going to welcome you with open arms and love and affection so yes he's a king in that sense even our father is a king that if you disobey and you neglect and you steal from Hashem stealing from hasem is eating his food without making a and living the gifts and the talents without saying thank you or directing them towards the mission and the purpose for which he gave them so when you come back to your father and you've stolen you've neglected you've cursed him you've you've disobeyed him disrespected him there's a point that he's also going to say you know die it's enough it's enough but the image that we take those three steps forward and we take that deep breath the rabi breath break Goldberg breath break and You Begin your Amon the image in our Mind's Eye Is Not of boy the boss called me into his office I'm in the principal's office I've done something wrong it's the king what's he going to do now he's going to execute me he's going to take my money he's going to take my farm he's going to take my the images of my father my father called me and said do you want to have lunch tell me my son what do you need my daughter tell me what can I do for you how can I help you what do you need what can I do that say rink is that it's the Father the sophisticated philosophical evidence AR St Thomas aquinus that God you stand up for the amid you don't begin to understand that God you can't begin to comprehend that God but the rebon that he's our father he's our T that God that God I know that God I know and he's always with me he's n he's found all the time I've told the story a thousand times in the Amun I'm telling it again for me so bear with me is the bris I was at and I was the last one at the table told her I know I've told it a thousand times thinks I need some new material so every bris you're at a table and one by one people have to go to work or go on with their lives and then the table scales down and then there the last two last people and now someone feels bad leaving the other person so I was sitting with RAB finman said I got to go to work I'm so sorry I feel really tellable to leave you alone please forgive me and he looked at me and here's the thing many would say this but he meant it he's AO he meant it he said he said ra Goldberg don't be sorry holy brother I'm not alone I'm not alone I have a few minutes with three Bon sh I'm not alone like he he meant that his kiss like I'm I'm never alone I'm driving in a car by myself sitting on the airplane by myself I'm at my desk at work by myself cooking in the kitchen by myself I'm I'm just never he's n he's with me he's with me he's looking over my shoulder at the potato gole he's with me while we're both frustrated that there's lightning so the ramp is closed and we landed and it's really late at night but we still can't get off the plane he's every week I have a plane story for you these days he's uh he's but I'm not alone so you know you could tolerate anything much more when you're not alone when you're with someone else it's much more tolerable like come with me to that place right come with me you're not alone you're not experiencing it alone there's somebody else who yeah you could be so with you can endure and you can bear more with patience when you're not doing it alone so every time you feel like you're alone take that deep breath and realize I'm not alone never alone he's n he's with me he's with me where are we up to so for us is our dear friend he's our good friend the whole Torah is filled with this notion the whole Torah is filled with this principle whoever your best friend is in the planet your go-to friend that you can confide in that you can talk to without judgment that you can ask help that will pitch in that will be there that will do whoever your best friend whatever your best definition of friend is that friend doesn't compare to in fact we say this we sing on Friday nights and so I'm singing AES did nees is a poem that was only written a few centuries ago it's a beautiful beautiful poem who wrote you did nees wasn't it written by uh no no you did neish was written by um I think raos the author of Tom I don't remember who wrote it but it's pretty it's a cabalist a few centuries ago you did you did nefes what do you did nees how does it begin you did okay you did so what do the words mean you did you did what's it you did you did as a friend you did is even more intimate than a friend it's the closest friend that you could have it's a confidant you did before it's before you describe Hashem as my compassionate father it'ses we describe Hashem as my nees my best friend like two hands oh beautiful rabbit and tager everyone going to her sheir you got to go to herir yes it's an honor she comes to us you did is Yad Yad two hands like people holding hands connected Yad Yad it's two people holding hands integrated connection hands holding hands Partners like the like rinkus said so you did Ne we describe Hashem on Friday night we go into shabas saying oh I get to spend the shabas with my I neglected my friend all week long all week long long I didn't have time for my friend I had work and I had the kids and I had responsibilities and I had obligations and I neglected my friend the whole week so how do I go into shabas did my compassionate father who's also my best friend when your kid's small you're not supposed to be their best friend that's right as parents we say to them all the time I'm not your friend I'm your parent I'm not supposed to be your friend I don't care if you love I'm not your friend I'm your parent but you know what when we get older is there anything more beautiful than our parents also being one of our closest friends that we confide that we talk to that we love that we have a time with he's our loving father but he's our that's how we describe him he my father gave me a house Hashem gave us a house give us our Lives May who AB not so my father gave me a house but who gave me my father hasem gave us our life brius our health unbelievable gifts Health boy is that a gift health is a gift health is a gift what was the line your father likes to quote I don't remember who said it health is a crown that can only be seen by those who don't have it health is a crown that we wear that can only be seen by those who don't have it right we don't even see it we don't even feel it ask the people you could see your eyes are working your ears are working your digestive system is working your ability to eliminate is working your nourish your body the way it's working your fertility system is working boy you're a thousand a thousand steps ahead so the fact that he takes an interest in us like what do you mean so if the governor would call you and say oh I heard that you need oh I heard Rabbi the synagogue needs whatever can I help you with it I want to get that done for you the new offense he Governor call you're calling me you want to help with our like why there's so many houses of worship in the State of Florida the president called can I help you I heard you're trying to get a reservation at the restaurant can I hook you up you mean you're taking an interest in me you called me you emailed me like what you have an interest in me that's crazy you're so famous and you're so popular and so big and you're so powerful and you're so rich and you have an interest in me what how special does that make us feel forget the thing that we're going to get security fans of the reservation in the restaurant or whatever but just even without that thing just the interest you took in me that's crazy that's crazy so uh so has that interest in us he has that interest what can I help you with what do you need and I've helped you already a person who thinks about this you go out of your mind it blows your mind when you start thinking about this we never thought we'd have a friend like this your richest friend your richest Uncle who thought that they would give you so many gifts that every day you'd wake up with new gifts every day we wake up with gifts you can see you can hear your feet work there's roof over head there's a car there's an income there's every day you wake up there's gifts who is this friend who's leaving inestimable endless gifts at our doorstep who replenishes our debit card and our Amazon account endlessly who gives us so much beyond that we would ever imagine or dream of it's what is this hem if I have to give a lecture and explain that's be I can't I can't explain to who he is I can't my little ones our little ones right now are an age they started asking like okay I got it you come from your parent came from their parent came from Hashem where did Hashem come from you say I don't know we got to go we'll talk about this another time how do you answer that you're 100 years old you can't answer that Aristotle couldn't answer that how do you answer that how do you answer that it's it's a CL say I don't know but Hashem is your ABA and he loves you and he do you feel his love did you say thank you to him for that bowl of Fruity Pebbles do you say thank you to him that we're going to go on this vacation how amazing it is everything worked out and how lucky and how fortunate we are I don't know I can't explain to you where he came from I just know he's always existed i what does that mean we we only relate to things with a beginning and a middle and end there's nothing in our Our Lives that's either endless or lacks a beginning we just can't comprehend it what does it mean I don't know butat it's okay I don't know it's okay that you don't know all we need to know is that he's here and that he loves us he's here and that he loves us that that we can see that we can feel that we can comprehend many make this mistake they think it's philosophical it's huttin it's complicated don't make it complicated simplify it it's simple simplify don't get too confused right this is what we talked about two weeks ago that the talked about that right if you're seeking evidence forem you're on a low level just feel it just know it it's insulting to your parent it's insulting to your parent when you say where's the DNA test show me the birth certificate it's insulting to you P what do you mean do you don't feel my love at this point you did you you have any questions or doubts carried you for nine months gave birth to you this one and woke up in the middle of the night change diaper this one fed you did everything for you drove you carpool made your L and now you're asking for your birth certificate now you're asking for the DNA test like what is the matter with you you don't know that I'm your parent because you felt my love does it even really matter what the DNA test shows if I've loved you like a parent and you feel my love of was a Israeli very famous actor who became yeah who became AA so he quotes when he became and his friends disted themselves they said tell us one last joke you're a comedian you're an actor you became this religious person I hope you didn't give up your personality tell us one last joke so here's the joke he told him were two religious bam who were riding on a uh new a uh motorcycle so what happened the policeman saw them and he said I'm going to catch them so they drove away and he chased them but he couldn't catch them on any on any violation so he stopped him and he asked him how is it possible stop sign the traffic the speed you didn't find viate anything how's it possible so they answered it's very simple we didn't violate anything because God is with us so the policeman said good I caught you how' he catch them you can't have three people on a motorcycle so that was oro's last joke to these friends are you religious now tell us one more tell us one more joke it was a two-person motorcycle they said how is it you didn't do anything wrong I said it's simple hasm is with us he said good you're getting a ticket you can't have three people on a motorcycle okay it's I guess whatever the humor at the time this is the way a Jew needs to live says when a husband and a wife live when a man and woman live and they live a virtuous Meritus life they build a home steeped in kadus in in love so then if they marriage there's a third person on their motorcycle through life and that's Hashem that's the there concludes if you don't they're like a fire that consumes of course is is is what's the extra letter in Isa both of them have Alin the extra letter in the is is a and the extra letter in the ISA is a and the and the spell God's name so is ISA if they combine if they integrate if they have a synthesis of their values in the pursuit of kadha then they bring the U and the he together and they bring hashem's presence what happens if they don't if they have conflict if they have very Prof mundane life what happens if it's a life that lacks so then the and the are missing and what's left it is a fire that consumes them which we know that kind of a home is consumed by fire Limitless can relate to us in any way and what is his choice he chooses to relate to us as a friend to lower himself we describe in Hollow that lowers himself to see us so he presents himself to us our best friends but our job is to see him as the great right so like I have certain I remember once left me a message said hi it's Mor please call me shaking first like wow RAB will called me that's so cool it's so amazing but you think I called him back and said hi said rebi RAB willig I spoke to him in third person he presented himself as a close friend and our job my responsibility was to treat him with the reverence do a rebi a great presents himself to us as our best friend we talk to him we confide in him we relate to him we thank him but we never lose that reverence to realize that even though he's presented himself as our best friend he's still the so I thought this piece really Builds on the two pieces that we saw in the that's number one not to over complicate things that really could be simple to be satisfied with and to live and to teach our children and grandchildren just a simple Faith Hashem is there thank you andem and let's ask hem let's pray on this from hasem and so on number one and number two the notion of talking to Hashem that it's not high fute and sophisticated it's a conversation it's an easy conversation with Hashem we acknowledge who he is and how he categorically different than us we praise him we have 13 categories of things that we all need universally that we then ask of him we don't don't forget to say we don't forget to say thank you at the end but ultimately that we can feel his presence as a loving friend that we are never ever alone have a great day