Part 135: Your Inner & Outer Worlds

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your know yourself it's all part of a series he has about knowing ourselves we're living in a time so fast-paced so filled with noise so filled with responsibilities and Chaos that we don't pause to ever know ourselves you can only know yourself if you have a conversation with yourself now you can have a conversation with yourself that lands you in the insane asylum right if you're having a conversation with yourself out loud then you know you could land in the insane asylum or you could have a conversation with yourself which is your ability to listen to your own inner voice the ability to regulate yourself the ability to measure yourself the ability to know yourself and to be able to interact with the world in a way in which you are controlling yourself I love to always invoke the two metaphors or the contrasting metaphors of the thermostat and the thermometer a ther a thermometer tells you the temperature a thermostat enables you to control the temperature so most of us live our lives as a thermometer I can tell you I'm really angry I'm really frustrated I'm really tired I'm really this I'm really that we're a thermometer we're measuring our own temperature and many like to share constantly exactly what the thermometer is measuring they like to talk about how tired they are how angry they are how frustrated they are how jealous they are how happy they are how at peace they are the whole world needs to know and be reminded it over and over again online offline and Every Which Way exactly how they feel those are the thermometer type of people who constantly are aware of how they feel and need the world to know much more impressive and what we all should strive and aspire to be is not a therometer but a thermostat thermostat is the ability to control the temperature oh I'm feeling tired I need more rest I'm angry I need to calm down I'm feeling envious I need to be happy with what I have the purpose is a thermostat doesn't tell the whole world well I feel this this way but you should know that I'm working on feeling that way they don't post that online they don't talk about it online or offline but those are the great people that we know those are the great people we aspire to be not the people should be embarrassed to be a thermometer forget posting or sharing or talking about it you should be embarrassed that all you can do is report on how you feel we should be a ther a thermostat and be able to regulate and modify how we feel which is exactly so in that context the author is telling us that one of the ways that we have a self-awareness and one of the ways that we can have that conversation with ourselves and one of the ways to regulate how we react and how we respond and how we feel and what we do next is to know our is to know our relationship with Hashem it's such an important MIM I love this piece that we're going to study that we've already begun to study together so he says the following we're on the on the second page I don't know where we are but I know where we're starting because I don't remember exactly where we were the second page if you remember he began by invoking the story of Shimon and Ley Shimon and Ley have a sister Dina she is violated by Ruben Shimon and Le concoct an entire strategy about how to hold the people how to hold their entire people accountable everyone has to give themselves a bris so that we can marry one another on the third day when they were the most vulnerable that's when they attacked and that's when they destroyed them and when they came to the city when they were confident in their plan when they knew what they were going to do the p describes Bo bet they came to the city with a feeling of bet and if you remember we described what does it mean to come with a how do you translate that word bet so right in Israel is security here is trust and faith in Hashem but bet also means with confidence with a sense of confidence you ever walk into a situation not overconfidence overconfidence can be a very dangerous dangerous thing overconfidence is responsible for a lot of disasters that could have been avoided in interpersonal relationships and in other areas of life not a sense of overconfidence but it means yeah I prepared and I'm ready and I'm confident it's going to go well bet they had done their preparation namely they got an entire population of males to circumcise themselves and it was the third day after surgery and they were the most vulnerable so yeah you've pretty much stacked the odds in your favor you look like the underdog the weak Meek pale Jewish Benet Torah coming in to fight the mighty people of you look like the Underdog Malcolm gladwell's great book where he talks about David and Goliath who's the underdog and who's not you look like the underdog but you really stacked the deck that you're coming in and not is it that bov it's not that Ru that shim and Le rather had no chance it's that the people of had no chance they were on the third day they're recovering from surgery they couldn't even move so how did they come into that situation they walked into that fight they walked into that battle with an attitude with a sense of bet with a sense of confidence of short they were were they knew they were going to win and that's the root of what he's going to develop when do you walk into a situation with a sense of confidence when are you sure when you know that there's nothing that can stand in your way there's nothing that can take you down there's nothing that will be an obstacle or block you and block your path from what you're set to achieve you've done the hard work you've done the planning you're ready to go and there's nothing that can stop you so when you've done the hard work and when you know the circumstances are lined up in such a way that you are poised to succeed you're confident and you're sure with your success with your Triumph so says the author of The it's an incredible idea from the use of this word bet early on in the Torah we can extract and we can extrapolate what is in general you know what is the same way that shim and Le walked into with a sense of confidence and a sense of shy and a sense of absolute knowledge they were going to succeed in Triumph that's we have that ability to walk through our lives with a sense of confidence and shorty that everything is going to be right that it's all going to be okay that everything's going to happen the way it's meant to be that nothing can stand in our way that everything is lined up to go exactly as it is supposed to we do it not for the same reason shim Le did it because they had they had concocted this scheme they knew that the odds were in their favor they knew they couldn't lose so when you know you can't lose you can walk with a sense of confidence we walk with a sense that we can't lose but for a very different reason we walk with a sense that we can't lose because we know KES is on our side he knows us and he loves us and he has our back he's infallible and his Providence will protect us and that doesn't mean that we are all not susceptible or vulnerable to Ill illness or financial collapse or relationship stress we are vulnerable to all and any of those things and many too many in this room and Beyond have suffered from them so walking with a sense of that confidence is not that we won't have to engage those things it's that even if or when we do we know that we can succeed in Triumph we know that we will overcome overcome doesn't mean that it has a good ending necessarily but overcome means that it doesn't mold or shape us or bring us down it doesn't cause us to stop believing that it's part of a master plan that it's by Design not chance or Randomness that it's there for a reason that's a sense of B that sense of confidence and shorty that we can walk through life with that you know the odds are in your favor because Hashem has our back last week we were I was in Israel for a beautiful beautiful Sim so on Friday morning i d a n at the cotel which was amazing you're walking through the old city it's dark and it's just starting to get light and I I posted the pictures I'm happy to I'll put them on our amuna group because they were just amazing the sky begins to get light and the and the orange red is beautiful at the cotel there's a gazillion minam of Every Which type and every type of Jew and they're all screaming at the top of their lungs and boom the NES hits hes hits Sunrise hits 624 and 50 something seconds and there's silence hot Plaza inside outside everyone's quiet because it's time to reach the amida everyone simultaneously it's the most powerful and beautiful thing so we D there and right after daving met a modern day hero mati dun who was the founder of aan in the old city and uh took us I was with mcats and we went for a tour of the Muslim quarter and we went to some really remarkable extraordinary sites many we've been to before other new places the kot Katan and many other places so here we are strolling through the Muslim quarter and you're a fool if you think that everyone you walk by is a terrorist who wants to kill you and you're a fool if you think that nobody you walk by is a terrorist who wants to kill you so you can't help but walk by everyone and try to picture you know what angle they going to come at and am I ready and right so I'm Not Afraid person maybe maybe to a fault I am uh somewhat Fearless so I wasn't afraid to go there to do that you know but ask Maan this is an individual who's really legendary he's a modern day hero he's personally responsible 41 years for a movement that has brought back Jewish homes that really belong to us in the muslam quarter and throughout in the salwan do you know that there's a Colo there's a base medish now in the salwan valley it's like you know where the siren comes from and the Arab neighborhood down in the valley when you're looking at the cotel so and there's five bit medish now in the Muslim quarter and the all just and legal and returning homes to the right place and the things that we saw and the way that he talks with his amuna and so he's walking around and I'm not confident that he's packing heat although I wish he were for our little walk together and um I said to him you know are you nervous not just being here in the Muslim quarter but given who he is and his very public profile and the difference that he's made like are are you nervous and you know he walks through that Muslim quarter why why would I be nervous doing the will of hem we're hastening the Redemption we're returning Jews to yush we're rebuilding Bon this is exactly who we are what we're meant to be it's what we D for we're watching it happen and unfold before our very eyes he has a sense of bet a sense of bet there's a sense of calm and a sense of peace and a sense of Tranquility that even though he's in such a hostile very tense region of the world maybe the most and even though in theory and I don't mean to scare him I I'm pretty confident his wife is not listening to us he's got a Target on his chest but there's a sense of bet if you believe in hasem and you believe you're doing his will and you're serving his his mission then you have a calm you have a calm no matter what's happening around you no matter the chaos the tension the hostility no matter what's happening around you no matter what you face and you have to overcome but if you really believe that you have a sense of shorty a sense of calmness a sense of confidence and you have an inner calm that you're able to walk with it was really extraordinary really extraordinary to be in his presence and to be able to try to have that calmness be contagious we all know people like that right where our lives our lives some of us some of us wish our lives are are smooth sailing right relatively speaking Health financial relation pretty smooth sailing but the smallest thing we're so frazzled and life is upside down and I can't believe it how I going to get through it what's going to be and then there are people who are facing the most they're facing the greatest most consequential things in the world and they have an inner calm when you're with them and you say how are you so calm how are you confronting this with a cenal such a sense of peacefulness and they'll tell you because there's a bigger plan so whatever treatment whatever therapy whatever I have to face whatever I'm trying to figure out whatever hole I'm trying to come out of I have to do what I have to do I have a plan I have a strategy I got to do what I've got to do but once I'm committed to do what I have to do there's a there's a confidence there's a shorty there's a calmness because has our back so he says this is the root of the word what it means to live with so if you want to know whether someone hasone check how calm they are check how calm they are the person who's so frazzled the person who loses their cool so easily the person who's so bent out of shape the person who's so chaotic they could talk a big game about they could subscribe to every email list and WhatsApp alert listen to every amuna read every amuna book preach every amuna message in the planet say sa to 14 times a day separate Kal another 30 times a day and in the end of the day if they're frazzled and they're upside down and they're bent out of shape it hasn't penetrated it hasn't sunk in if the B sinks in if it really penetrates into our core and that's what we're meant to be doing now we're human we're all human we're not all m done we're not all sh we're not all the people the righteous people who exhibit and live with that incredible incredible amuna we should read their books we should read their story we should try to spend some time with them because it's contagious when you read a biography of such a person reab Maas when you read a story I was just withas Allah sh one of her sons-in-laws a good friend of mine so he was at this wedding and we were catching up and sharing stories about her read her book and you can't help but it's contagious that that amuna you absorb it so surround yourself with those people and read their stories and the biographies and listen to their lessons it can't help but we're all human so we all do get bent out of shape that thing happens that disappointment or that failure or the thing that didn't work out or the news which is devastating we are all absolutely human so you know what we're meant to do take a few deep breaths and remember the Amun take a few deep breaths and remember that I am I am a I am a a child a prodigy a progyny of Shimon and Ley these are my ancestors these are my forefathers I have within me that capacity I can find that calmness maybe I need to take two a few deep breaths say don't read a Every Soul Praises God read a with every breath because you know how you restore your Nish through deep breathing you know those people who are not common they're frazzled and they're chaotic and they're bent out of shape and they're losing their cool you know what they all in common very shallow breathing they're out of breath out of breath and running into out of breath you know how you restore your the same word it's not a coincidence take some deep breaths and say you know I have to be calm because whatever is meant to be is what's going to be meant to be right now this is the way it's meant to be even silly stuff I gave a talk last night as far as American Orthodox series and right before the talk I said to myself oh I can't believe I forgot to mention the class at the para class this morning if I would have promoted if I would have shared it there'd be so many more people here and I started to get so upset at myself and then you take a deep breath and you realize what's the point I can't go back in time I can't undo it and even though it was my own mistake that I forgot to announce it it was what was meant to be it was what was meant to be that I forgot to announce it was a beautiful turnout was a great class my point is that in those moments and they happen every single day something happens either external that the world is throwing at us or internal something I say oh I wish I did that differently I should have said that I should have gone there I should have taken care of it this way I should have done it differently you can get frazzled and then you get out of breath and then you get get bent out of shape or you could take that deep breath and you could have that calm you could have that b we walk into the city the ear of our life we walk into every area of life and you say no matter what's happening around me on the inside I can have this inner ability to be incredibly calm second paragraph We started this last time the soul of a person the life of a person is made up of two components there is the EXT internal there's the outer world that we're living in and there is the internal there's our inner World The Voice in our own head our own soul on the external side it's a very fragmented divided stress fill tension broken world if you look at a person on the outside there's the outer world that we're living we're scrambling we're going we're doing we're struggling we're over coming that's our outer world that's our outer world that's how we look that's how we look I'm fighting my temptation to eat the wrong Foods I'm fighting to exercise I'm fighting to take care of myself I'm fighting to do what I have to do I'm fighting in a global sense there are there are Global tensions and wars and there's the external life that I'm leading and the external life that I'm leading is how everyone would measure me from outside right if there were a camera on me if my life were a reality show what would it show about my life scrambling running doing struggling overcoming that's the external life that I'm living that's the reality show of my life but however there's an inner world no matter what it looks like on the outside no matter how much scrambling I'm doing how much activity there is on the outside in my inner world there's the ability to have a sense of unity to be unified and to be pure and to be whole and to be clear my inner World in other words on the outer world you can be entirely entirely upside down while the inner world is a place of calm and a place of Peace Al listen what he says if you were to look at our outer world show me one area of life where I don't face opposition one area of my life where I don't have to overcome an obstacle attention one area of my life it doesn't exist my eating I have temptations I have to overcome my sleeping I have struggles speaking I struggle to say the right thing relationships they take work and effort work and income I have to work hard there forces against me every area of life mental physical spiritual emotional health your speech your thought your action every area of your external life we confront obstacles we confront tensions we have to overcome hopefully we do that's the definition of a successful life hopefully we do but nobody has it easy I've yet to meet anyone who wakes up in the morning it's all easy they only want to eat the right things and say the right things and go to the right places they feel fantastic they slept enough they eat well the money's pouring in life is great the relationship flow seamlessly I have yet to meet the person if you're that person I don't believe you it doesn't exist if you're alive if you're alive it doesn't exist it simply doesn't exist if you're alive you're not human you're a robot if you're a human being who's alive that does not exist that scenario every single one of us if you're awake and if you're alive in so many areas of our life we're facing tension and obstacles and we have to be able to fight to overcome them the world we live in is a world of Free Will and choice Munos the world is filled with battles and Wars there's a battle with Syria and there's the battle with the balloons coming from Gaza and there's the battle battle with Iran and there's the battle between me and the there's battles I'm not sure which is the hard or bad of the fight last one marip it's Mish like you have no chance there's no chance there's simply no fighting chance I actually concede the war before I go to Israel on the plane I announced to maripan to the rugal you won I lie down I wave the White Flag I'm gonna spend a week eating terribly whatever I want when I come back I'll start battling again I'm not suggesting that's the right way to be but I mean as delicious as the cucumbers in Israel are and they're delicious the Israeli salad but the rugal just it's not a fight it's not a fair fight it's not a fair fight so so I I'm half joking but I'm really very much serious because you know what as much as the battle with Iran and as much as the battle with heah Hamas and Syria and as much as our fight against anti-Semitism these are real and legitimate and important fights and we should all be engaged in them you know what else is real and you know what else is real to us and we wake up and fight every single day breakfast getting enough sleep saying the right things doing the right things doing with making volunteering being selfless instead of selfish all these things there are battles and there are Wars our life are defined by them that's what we wake up and what we do every day if you're awake if you're conscious if you're alive you are in a moment of test because we have free will and because there's nothing in our life that's not filled with endless choices to make those choices prevent present Aion we are test Ted every day every day sometimes they're great tests and sometimes they're small there are difficult great grave consequential battles and they are small insignificant who really cares things but all of them there's an inner conversation all of them there's an active Choice all of them there's a conscience and a conscientiousness so if I took a snap shot if a if a if a reality camera followed me around followed you around followed anyone around all day all they would record were choices that had to be made and battles which were fought that's what our lives would show I don't care if your day is defined by playing maang you got to decide what hand to play if you're playing golf which club are you using next I don't care if you think your life is blissed you're still making choices and you got to measure the wind and you got to look at your Maan opponent and you got to decide your next what am I making for dinner and you got to decide I don't care if it all honky Dori and Bliss from the moment we wake up until we fall asleep at night we are making choices and those choices are battles should I make the unhealthy dinner or the healthy dinner should I waste the time on this should I do that should I watch this should I watch should I say this should I say that should I give more to this or give more to that our lives are defined and the reality show of Our Lives externally would show that our life life is consumed with the choices the struggles the tension and even when it appears to you that you have a moment of quiet and Tranquility that's when you're in the most trouble because when it appears that everything is quiet and tranquil and easy I can tell you by the way that in my experience as a rabbi with the people I've counseled and the crisis that I've been there to try to help and support people in they often got into the most trouble with moral choices and acting out when there was the most quiet and they were the most bored when you're quiet and when you're bored is when the Yahara is fortifying itself and it's about to come on in the strongest way when you're busy busy busy and doing doing doing theara has no room it can't get a word in edge wise and when people feel my life is quiet and all is well and in fact I'm bored and now let me try this and look at that and be tempted by that people get into a lot of moral trouble moral choices trouble when they're bored when there's quiet so our lives are defined by choices by struggles by battles and even when we feel that we have quiet that's when the biggest battle is about to confront about to face us that's what it's about to present itself to us so if you were to look at your life in that way should you wake up with any confidence at all about anything there's not a day that's gone by in my life there's not a day that's gone by in my life that I went to sleep at night and said this was the this day went exactly as I wanted it to I ate right things I did my push-up and sit-ups I protected my tongue I said the right things I was efficient and productive at work I spent the time with my children I learned the way I wanted to learn there's not a day in my life as of yet today could be different there's not a day in my life as of yet that I've gone to sleep saying this day was the perfect day I've had days that were more perfect than others but there's not a day that I've said everything about this day was exactly as I drew it up I was my best self I acted I ate I said I went I did I spent time with exactly the way I wanted to so externally you shouldn't be confident in anything if in 45 years of trying I haven't gotten one day right why would I think that tomorrow is going to be it should I be confident let alone overconfident that tomorrow is going to be the day of course not so if you take an external snapshot of your life you should not be confident about anything that anything's going to go right going to go well that you're going to get it that you're going to do it the right way and why shouldn't you because if I know I have an opponent if I have no opponent in anything right so if you're running for congress and you're running unopposed and election is tomorrow should you wake up pretty confident that you're going to win you should be pretty confident that you're going to win I I can't even think of a scenario where you wouldn't win you're running unopposed there's not going to be enough rins that are going to defeat you there there simply is not a logical scenario where if you're running unopposed you're not going to win but what if you're waking up tomorrow and you've got a strong opponent they've raised as much or more money than you they have ads they have a following all of the um what are they called the polls pundits they're not predicting who's going to win so when you wake up that next morning you're not going to wake up so you're going to hope for the best you did your hard work and now you're going to see the way it turns out so our daily lives are like the person who's running against an opponent I'm waking up tomorrow against an opponent it's called rugal potato chips I'm waking up against an opponent it's called being tired and lazy not wanting to exercise I'm waking up against an opponent that says just share that juicy gossip it's Lush it's good it's gak make someone else's day tell it to someone I'm W every day we wake up against the opponents so you'd be a fool to wake up overly overly confident that you're going to defeat an opponent when you wake up every day facing opposition there's no there's no uh there's no sure thing that you're going to persevere and overcome whatever is opposing you boser there are no sure things in life nothing the strongest army in the world can be defeated person who thought that they trained the team who was supposed to run away with it can lose the person who secured all the money in all the greatest ways somehow it can be lost so what he's established for us is that externally in terms of the measure of our external lives there always is an opponent and therefore one can never be overly confident that they're going to persevere they're going to Triumph you can never be over confident you're going to win or you're going to have come however all that was the bad news all that was the bad news that's why it got so quiet you all look so sad and somber all that was the bad news right because that that's a difficult we just want it's not just usov went through a life of struggle of Trials and travails andov yob comes and he says God can I just retire can I just have one good day just no doctor's appointments no bad news no struggles I just want to live with peace and quiet and tranquility and calm be he just wanted come you know what happened what happened was gave that was the day that Yosef was thrown in the pit and the brothers and the whole episode began God said oh you want calm you want peace oh you want a little quiet in your life no problem here's the biggest trial you're going to face yet your missing son why what's so wrong with wanting peace and quiet and why does Hashem have to respond by saying not only do you not get peace and quiet not only can you never retire but your life is defined by having to overcome that that struggle because that's why we're here the whole reason that we're here God put our n into our body and deposited us into this world that's filled with choices and options and opportunities because that's what molds and shapes who we are if a person wants quiet we have quiet for eternity when our soul is extracted from our body and we go back upstairs our soul experiences quiet for the rest of Eternity but this world which is relatively short even if you live 120 years even if you live 120 years this world is very short someone in our SCH who's in his 80s his mother just turned 105 so they told me the story that recently she began to feel that it was enough she was very old she didn't feel right she thought it was her time and she I know consciously or subconsciously she stopped eating and her body started shutting down and medically she started being you know transitioned to to such treatment and she had a dream and in Her Dream her siblings said to her it's not your time yet we're not ready for you and she woke up and she started eating again and she started Reviving her health and now she's doing great again she celebrated her 105th birthday because she had this dream that her siblings said not yet you're not ready you're not ready we're not ready for you wake up start eating it's time to take care of yourself and that's what she did and she M she came back to life she celebrated her 105th birthday Kar on unbelievable unbelievable so I got to tell you if you're 105 years old you've been alive for a very relatively short time why cuz our soul exists for eternity we were born at the moment of the creation of the world so the truth is that we are all 500 5,780 years old and some of us look pretty good for that age we are all almost 6,000 years old our body is only whatever age our birth certificate says but our soul is almost 6,000 years old we've been here for a while now our soul has been in the body for whatever period of time but our soul is going to be extracted from our body hopefully after 120 and Beyond and then it will exist for the rest of Eternity and when it does without the body the soul has no choices to make the soul finally achieves that level of quiet and calm the peace and Tranquility when it goes back up St stairs and reattaches itself to its source and lives with peace and quiet and tranquility and all it's good where you are by the way where your seat is in the stadium upstairs is determined by the choices you make while your body housed your soul in this world I just gave a talk about this recently is high school not for now but if you want to have a good seat everybody's always Ving for a good seat that's why we have to have reserve for the BRS members the front row everybody wants a good seat right and the Super Bowl everybody was showing off oh I was in the 50 yard line I was in the lower level Mas I had a box I was in the front I was in the D I was in the nose beds I couldn't get in the parking lot I couldn't even scalp a ticket I was watching from a thousand miles away right everybody wants to be at the center of where the action is but where your seat is for eternity is determined by the choices we make in this world that's why death is supposed to inspire life yum Kipper was a dress rehearsal for death all the mention and contact we have with death is to remember that eternity should Inspire us to make the right choices in this world make the right choices now because that determines the seat assignment in the next world and you can't change seats in the next world there's only one way you can you can't change seats in the next world based on your own choices you're not making choices anymore you're set you're fixed the only way that we make get a better seat assignment the only way we get to move down in the next world is a return on the Investments that we left behind that's why we say Kadesh and Yar and observe aite that's why we do things nishas to elevate the soul of a loved one when we leave Investments that we made namely the people that we inspired and touched and they do things in our Merit we can we can't make new Investments but we can continue to draw the return on the Investments we had previously made that's the only way we can move down in the next World so why am I telling you this because you want calm and peace and Tranquility God says that's for eternity when you come back upstairs and you're with me when you're now a soul without a body and there's no choices to be made you'll have peace for the all of eternity so 120 years relative to Eternity is a blink of an eye is gornish is nothing we're in this world for a very short time and God says you're here for a short time get to work in this world in that short time that you're here it's not about peace and tranquility and quiet get to work it's about the choices we make and the battle and the struggle and the overcoming soob says I just want to just please some quiet peace tranquility give me one day of calm Hashem says you'll get it in the next world not now now get to work because the way that you grow the way you become the best version of yourself the way you mold and shape this world and repair it in my image is by the work that you do by the tension that you confront and that you can and that you have to and you have to overcome so an external snapshot of our life is the image of conflict of battling of struggle of perseverance of overcoming that's all the external snapshot and that's pretty depressing and here's the good news which we'll start now and pick up again next week here's the good news here's the good news we need good news everybody needs good news here's the good news right externally there's no moment there's no opportunity there's no choice where there's not an opposition that we're facing if you were able to get an inner snapshot of your inner World Of Your World of your soul the world of your thoughts the world of your feelings it would be an entirely different world alog together your inner world can be that place that you crave calm peace tranquility confidence why because no matter the list and Litany of things I have to do in my external world I got to take care of this task and I got to go to work and I got to resolve that issue and I got to go through that treatment and I've got to all that is the outer world the inner world you can be going through with a sense of calm confidence if you live with you see if you think that there's a Hashem in your life if you believe that there is a source of it all if you believe that there's a Divine Providence if you believe there's a being who's orchestrated that nothing is random in chance and coincidence that it's not happen stance that there is more to life than just what we see if we believe that this world is a matrix it's an illusion but really underlying The Matrix and the illusion is a world of truth that is orchestrated by an eternal God and His Providence that he is interacting with us in this world then there's nothing that should rattle you there's nothing that should frazzle you there should be no chaos there should be no confusion there should be no lack of calm in life so we have that ability it's all a question of which World we're living in are we defined by our external world are we defined only by our external world if someone want to look at our external World it could be upside down razzled and frazzled or are we living our internal world where we regulate we are that thermostat we regulate our voice and we regulate our emotions we regulate our being and we are calm if you've ever been by a truly great person there are some truly great people who are very publicly known to be great and they have a whole they have a whole to be able to get access to them you need an appointment you need 17 levels of protea you need to make a large donation you need whatever and there are truly great people who Noah knows about and they are extraordinarily great people but if you're around greatness you know what they have in common is a cal the world is resting on their shoulders they are deciding and they are con Consulting and they're offering advice on the most consequential and significant things there are in the whole world there's a line out the door of people who want their advice and insight and input and yet with it all they're able to have a certain calm a calm know there's some people who are the opposite I myself to divulge personally struggle with the opposite which is that no matter what's happening around you on the outside everything looks calm but internally you're absorbing all that tension and stress and then you lose your hair and go great prematurely and have to take a lot of medic have to take a lot of medications every morning and that's very unhealthy way to be what he's describing to us the is that we need to live our lives the exact opposite the outside it's okay to look hled and razzled and frazzled and running and doing and struggling because that's the external world that we're living it's filled with choices and it's filled with obstacles and it's filled with tensions and it's okay to be running and doing but what we are aspiring to what we're working towards is an internal world of calm and peace to enter the city bet to enter whatever's going on in our life with that confidence to be that MTI done that you can walk through a hostile region of life you could face opponents and enemies and obstacles and adversaries be them in the form of people or illness or financial or whatever it is and nevertheless walk with a sense of that my inner world is defined by calm and peace because Hashem has my back and it's all for a reason and whatever happens is what's meant to be I still have to take my initiative I have to make my effort I have to do everything I can and should do but I know in the end of the day it is all what's meant to be before we end and pick up with this again next week I just want to tell you I always have to tell you one amuna story I tell you all the time about our amuna what's our WhatApp group so this was a great one that happened over the last two weeks is um my seven-year-old son left a great voice note on our WhatsApp group he was supposed to be getting changed for bed putting on his pajamas but instead he was wrestling with his sister and playing on this exercise bicycle we were staying at someone's house when we were at a s in New York and his pants got caught on the exercise bicycle so he leaves the following hash voice note I'm tempted to play it for you he says it was such I was supposed to be changing and I wasn't so my pants got caught and they fell off and they started to change me and therefore it was such that the bicycle started changing me got me undressed even though I wasn't getting undressed on my own why am I telling you that story because it's adorable and he's awesome but I'm also telling you that story as an example I want you to know it's it's an example and we started later in life I which we had started when our earliest children were young although thank God they're turning out okay it seems blea but the more you talk about a a seven-year-old child can go through the experience of an exercise bicycle ripping his pants off and think that was because I'm supposed to be changing into my pajamas you understand where does a seven-year-old get that mindset where would a seven-year-old ever think that for one moment and the answer is when we talk about it we have to talk about it we have to talk about it it has to be h say why is there because I talk about it if you talk about AA then you'll see Hashem you'll feel Hashem even when he's helping you get undressed and changing into your pajamas and everything in life from a seven-year-old to to a whatever uh age if there's a effort to record and to journal and to capture every day the times Hashem is in our life then we will live life in high definition color looking and discovering and seeing Hashem in every aspect and area of our lives have a great 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