Parshat Vayeira: The Binding of Yitzchak - Rabbi David Kaplan

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be asked to give up my life I would give up my life and at that point the test comes at the different opinions so a chef decides to give the the the ultimate the ultimate test now the first of all the word Nisa SRO he so means he tested him what else does Nisa mean in Hebrew anybody know what is an ISA mean we say enshrine Esther every day this saw a sleek hobbits ghoulia say no raise a banner together our exiles raise a banner an ace as a banner as a flame at a miracle and a banner why are a miracle and a banner the same way nice is also a miracle right right what's what's the common denominator even an ace a miracle and a banner that you have flag ball what's it an ace what does an ace that ace is something everybody notices right a miracle everybody knows is the splitting and a see everybody notices America when it takes place a banner is something that that a banner is something that that's raised high for everybody to notice it so here it says Hashem tested out room but the word nice also means he elevates Avram that means every test that a person goes through in life if you pass the test you're elevated you pass the test you're elevated you actually rise to a higher level in the Serbia gozaburo a person who a person who who is on an airplane and you're hungry and they don't have a kosher meal all there was non kosher food and you managed to go ten hours by eating eating an apple and some peanuts you've passed the test you're a different person you're you're now going you are a different person but even more than that did you ever hear the concept the fundamental Torah cancer dare of death we talked about and the Kudus habit hero have you ever never get familiar with the kinds of goodness over here means your your point of free choice here's what's called an it could have supper here your point of free choice that means like this do you have a test right now if I would put pork on the table think anybody in this room has it the pork isn't even a test pork is not even a test none of us are gonna eat pork it doesn't even test me I know I might be hungry and I might wonder what it tastes like and I might be tempted but it's not really it does I'm not about the eat pork and it was good eat pork but if you put out like a bag of a bag of licorice with a questionable half shirt and I'm a little hungry because before lunch and it's more of a test you know I got a have to share might be I'm not sure and it's the whoever gave that sure it's his fault if I eat it you know I know all the rationalizations it becomes your Nakota so but here is where is the point that a person that at or a Jew is really being tested for the difference people have a different point to be there for one boy for one person it's a test should I go to a bar tonight this is test another guy's thought I'm not going to a bar my test is if I'm gonna make your boring officials with proper qivana everybody's got a different level different the degree it says they told you when I used to smoke back in the day so Shabbes when Shabbos wasn't even a test we're gonna smoking shop you didn't you know you didn't it wasn't even a test Motz a Shabbos so it was a test are you gonna wait till after Murph are you gonna light your your cigarette off the house dull a candle you know exactly exactly what you know when exactly getting here the first cigarette that was the first I get I you know interested this what's called Makuta sub Akira when a person passes a test you actually elevate your neck una Cemetery your free choice point is just go on up higher you pass the test on the airplane right you didn't need to none cause your foot on the airplane you're no longer because it's not even my coach was gonna be an issue for you anymore now it's gonna be something about whether or not the the half shave and beyond that it's gonna be whether or not how much you eat should you control yourself you can't sadly that the test gets higher and in many ways is more subtle or this I'm not gonna do that this is I'm gonna test I'm in temptation doesn't mean I wouldn't enjoy it if I did it but it does it's not a real test I'm not that's not something I'm gonna do so here it says well I keep nice s I've run by giving him the test this becomes a way of actually elevating either I'm bringing him to a higher level and it's gonna raise his entire net kudos of it here it's gonna raise LaToya point the free choice which is what happens everybody a minute any circumstance of test the Omer I love I've robbed well young Rohini here I've robbed because Here I am now here am doesn't mean Here I am which we think he named Danny where are you he may be here I am you Nene means I am at your service that's what it really means I've robbed I'm at your service whatever you asked me to do even before being asked to do it even before being asked to do it that's a rule in life when you're asked to do something when your wife asks you can you do me a favor the answer to that is yes even before you hear what it is then you say no right but but but but the first thing you do is then you start negotiating first say yes then you negotiate right but but the first one the first thing you do is you say yes right mr. Fogel yeah you're right a lot longer than you have right but y'all have to take your son your beloved son you you know your only son who you love is he it's luck the lexical eret summary uptake of the land of Maria Valley Oh sha Allah Allah Allah Karim sure I'll bring you up as an offering and one of the mountains now where a she points out over here you know this the the terminology is a bit a bit repetitious over because he says take your son your only son who you love you talk so rashly says there's a whole conversation everything got an hour of you know just take your son I have two sons your only son your only only child is as well each one's that only child to his mother it's like the very sorry near you smiled her to hug her he says the one you love I love them both I mean it both of my sons I love you small do that's he it's like well let's leave nothing to doubt over take your son the left Lata alerts of Maria holiday ocean bring them up as an offering now listen carefully gentlemen first of all there's a very what is the tests room you know over here what is the test what's the difficulty of the test so first of all fear and a very subtle level it's not a direct command chef says do me a favor captain up do me a favor and take your son and bring him as an offering do me a favor do you a favor okay I don't have to do if I don't really want to there's room for rationalization whenever there's room for rationalization the test becomes my target number one number two God said to Avram you know already earlier you're going to have offspring three it's like your children are gonna come from you it's like the Jewish people you come from you look now you've given me a contradictory command so again what happens with the country program what do you really want here you told me I mean a Washington 90 telling me to chef them well obviously you don't really want me to chef look obviously you don't really want me to chef them that's the room for rationalization right that's great crates because you'd end by the way my father's rough I used to say most people know in your heart of hearts you really know what you should be doing and most people whenever you have a conflict in your heart of hearts you really know your conscience is sensitive enough to know what you're really should what's the right thing to do now I want to tell you this is not a joke I want to tell you where you're gonna face this test your wife when you get married in that moment of in that moment where you commit yourself and then wonder why you did this but in that moment you make man America you get married now one day you're about to leave the house you want to go you guys have they rented a gym they got 10 guys you're the minion no they were gonna have a five-on-five and as you get to the door you know or even before you said your wife you mind if I go play some basketball tonight your wife says no I don't mind now you're in a very big moment of the test now she said she doesn't mind right that's what her this what her mouth said right the words were I don't mind right now you're getting very big sake you know darn well whether she doesn't want you to go or not hey you know you always know right one of the ways you know is because she's holding a sawed-off shotgun in her hand right so this is generally one of the that's a fairly close clear indication but as you know you know and then you're the well she said she doesn't mind and I eat you go out the door I went to grab my wife once was she had a fever she had about hundred two hundred two fever and as I got to the door to got his shoulder in the morning she said to me and I don't know if you should go to Minnie and I might I think I need help with the kids right so I stayed home said oh man I helped her and then I asked where Russia should afterwards were our involvement if I should have gone to meeting her pressure to help her stay at home I have pretty clear to be I shoulda stayed home and he said to me look your wife wants you to dive in and show if she's asking you to stay home she obviously needs you to stay home that becomes my command that's the Torah command to do a facet there are other times when you sleep when you're getting to just as you get to the door and your wife will say something like oh I guess I'll just have to stay home and deal with the kids myself you know what she wants then just want you to stay home because on those case if you guys alright I'll stay home now don't stay home just go it's not what you wanted when she said okay I'll just stay over together you don't you really want it she just want to go hey Ruth boy oh boy that is so rough you're unbelievable there's nobody like you then head out that's all she wanted then head out the door right if you have to know which one and of course Brooklyn comes out Venus is much more difficult chef's to your son please chef your son and our reasons first of all he didn't tell me to do it he does they asked me to do it and number two he told me I'm going to have children for me it's Clark and now he's giving me contradictions he obviously doesn't want me to do it yet in your heart of hearts you know and I two pieces of testing and he's willing to go and do something which is just so incredibly hard no more than them the difficulty of the test here you know the common theory say there are three ways of showing loyalty to a king there are three ways you show loyalty to King the first way you show loyalty to King is you talk about how wonderful the king is you praise the king and I Ravine who did that he it says they encouraged him he told the world with as a guide and you have to serve God he praised the king the second way you you show loyalty the king is you're willing to give up money for the king I guess so no there's a higher degree Avram spent money on guests he brought yes since allow me spend money the third way you show loyalty to the king is you're willing to die for the king and however we know is willing to do that he got thrown into her costume he's passed all those tests but there's another way which is even harder than all which is beyond nature which is for a father to go and chest his son Avram Avena would given up his life a hundred times where every father in the world would die rather than chef the son in a burrow he doesn't you know in the Holocaust they were they had a very just gut wrenching question how long a question it was asked many times in all across a man finds out that his son is on a list of people to be shot the next day he goes to the rogue happened with Rabbi Mises from Chicago here as has happened to many people but he went to go sir of myzel Z's in the camps and he says listen I found out says his son is on the list he says I know that I could bribe the guard and he'll he'll let me switch places with my son am I allowed to do it I'm as I said that list it's a very very hard question I won't have any mice farm here I can't look it up it's very difficult I got a research it says Rebbe I got to know I mean I have tomorrow morning yeah I got to know what do I do I'm sorry it's a very hard question IIIi can I have to look it up so his Rebbe thank you very much I understand that means how long as you can't can't switch places with him there isn't the father who wouldn't if he could he don't want to give him the answer in case he wouldn't be able to withstand the test but he understood what he was saying but there isn't a father who wouldn't want to do it Saravanan now he has to take a knife and ants they actively it's luck which is beyond even giving up you're giving up your life bunny juice throughout history plenty just gave up their life not to bang out that nothing breaks Christianity pages we ever burned at the stake not to do it everybody give up your life that's why it's a harder test rather than people and why is it harder does rather than idiots you're so getting this be passive it's at one moment he's gonna be shafted you got to take a father and go shucked your son and on top of that you've got the son that you waited for all those years and he's the son who you're supposed to have the future generations from and now you're being told go Shepherd it's an intense there's a very difficult test well exactly the test is much harder the test is much harder see we see it at played level you see it as a test of the present it's a test of what's gonna happen right now the difficulty of taking a knife ejecting your son but the camera day is much more difficult Albertina was preaching against a pagan world what were they doing in the pagan world human sacrifice there was part of the things you didn't pray in the world human sacrifice whether you took slaves I just wondered how you choose how you chose the victim in the ancient world you know okay come on Stevie it's your turn rather than that yeah who did you just say probably took slaves and they probably took people probably took a you who knows who they took but I'm ready to have preached against that now what's he gonna do he's gonna go up on a mountain and Winfield what are you doing people are gonna hear about it what did you well the Lord told me oh yeah well Lord told us all so you're about to wipe out your entire past all the influence you've had you're wiping it out with one one stroke of the knife you're gonna wipe that out and so you're wiping out your past the difficulty of the present and you're about to slaughter your future there go to your future that's the difficulty to test sanim one moment test your whole life's work is being wiped out there people would die rather than do that you're gonna wipe out everyone so how they catch a judge here they have these cases where they catch a judge taking bribes right this is the judge who was always who was always in court saying you're a thief and you're gonna get fined and you have to compile by London they find that the guy was a crook in Chicago we had in Illinois we had the Attorney General of Illinois I was a kid I was 12 years old the Attorney General's guy named Powell he died they found nine hundred thousand dollars cash in shoeboxes in his house I remember I was 12 years all those by the shoeboxes I think from that day on I started checking every time I got a shoebox I open it up to see if maybe there's some cash in there 1909 or thought I was a lot of money those are talking about probably nine million dollars to it cash in those eight cash and I I didn't even understand at the time I even said to my dad I'm all what's wrong with saving money so my dad had to try to explain to me the facts of life you know what - what do you know nobody keeps name you know yes right so here's the guys the Attorney General is I stomp up on people in general in general for me you just wipe you out you just wipe your past out you just wipe your sighs here's a Burin was an ideal I ideologically kept preaching against the world don't do it don't do it don't do it and then they see the I got try to maybe we get open the door over there just get some beer Thanks you know as I said we we could open the door you know though I had no intent of doing it at all it's also part of marriage okay right in Yemen your wife says you we need to call the washing machine guy a we and me meereee you yeah you yeah yeah we all know what they're mean Sabra so so where do you go sir Sabra Vito ever I mean is what he gonna say got a very intense test will see how even harder in second so he says go to Hara Maria and bring him up as an offering on one of the mountains which I tell you now he doesn't tell them immediately where it's gonna be and that makes the test even harder you got to go three days and think about what you're about to do okay now let me ask you a question imagine I tell you tomorrow you've got your a year your what's it called your entrance exams to law school you're taking them tomorrow you've got you've been studying you got your entrance exam to law school or you got some tests you got or tomorrow you're taking a blood test to find out if passes show them there's a problem how do you think you would sleep the night before the test people the night before at se yeah you know not very restful right you're you're you're pretty you're pretty uptight right now everybody knows just told he has to go chef his son look at the next my ash game Avrom a bokor first so he gets up early in the morning eager to do it sometimes the most of the things people would put it off but if he woke up in the morning what does that tell you he woke up means what he's eager it means he slob how can you possibly sleep the night before you gotta go after your son the answer is that that's a Tesla B chuckling what does it mean to trust in God what is the true test of trusting in God so many people make the mistake of thinking trusting in God means everything will work out well there is a level where if you have absolute trust there's love where you can actually activate that you could actually bring about results that's not what trust us trust according to the focus of us the duties of the heart Kosovo ceases Trust is determined by the manaka-san nephesh of the Battelle that means are you come no matter what's going on if you remain calm and you remain serene no matter what's happening around you that means you really believe that this is what God wants it's all for the best and I got nothing to be upset about if the dentist says that he's gonna start drilling me because there's a cavity and he starts drilling okay it hurts but I'm okay with it because I know that this was what needs to be done is for my own good so if a person is going through a drilling person's getting a drilling of some sort you know lost some money something happened and you okay he's stuck in traffic some people stuck in traffic they plug guns and shoot people right you know traffic brings out the best in people right there are other people stuck address those guys a little tougher it's all for the good that's what I should wanted your level of trust so if you could sleep the night before enemies everything's fine your your your your calm okay and you can sleep the night before so she can sleep the night before that means you're completely caught the Cubs played the seventh game of the World Series it was an all night in Israel started three o'clock in the morning I didn't sleep a wink there was nothing to be calm about I'm a cup fit so yeah and it's that at the end of it at the end of the day what do you call your your your calm my gosh game Avram but Boca but Yaakov OSHA's come over he settles his donkey but you can touch Dino Evita they see it's liquid over here okay so ole okay y'all come here look I'm a comer a little key gets up early in the morning and he saddled his donkey you know settling the donkey forever Amina was like could you imagine can you imagine Lahab Hill I'm gonna use this example imagine Donald Trump decides to go somewhere and he goes up and he pumps the gasoline into his limousine commander president pumping gas into his limousine right head of state pumping gas into there what's the name of that kid in Francis there's the visitor but a guy in Austria what's the name I forgot a guy dude the kid who won in Austria it's become the Austrian Prime Minister Ali yeah you're handed a head of state gets up you put gas into your own into your limousine yeah near it I probably got a tendency get sir what are you putting on what are you selling your donkey for says Azam hava McHale Kellis is Ashura love ruins rational thought he so much wants to do the ruts of Hashem he's so eager he gets up he saddles his own donkey sometimes you so fond of somebody you're willing to do things like doing dishes for your wife I know moats a Shabbes what came over you right but you're so fond of her and you also fear for your life so you go and you do the dishes I even do the dishes animals adjust where do we find the opposite of this in the Torah where do we find we find the opposite where do we find the opposite anybody remember we spoke about this a few weeks ago a couple months ago bill um goes to curse the Jewish people what does he do he gets up in sandals his own donkey because Hasina McHale Kellis is Ashura hatred also distorts rational thought when you hate somebody so intensely and bilham goes that he saddled his donkey and he gets Rashi brings on over there Shem set them good try but I Brahma vino already preceded you a group of you know in serving me saddled his donkey so you're sailing your donkey to go in and curse the Jewish people it's not going to be successful it's gonna be an exercise in futility because I broke Aveeno already preceded you but the life you're in extreme state it distorts your thinking when you're extreme love extreme state now this is very important life rule here there's a rule life runs in certain zones listen carefully Joe I'm about to give you a precious piece of advice you pay me for this I take credit cards - by the way life runs in certain zones most of the time things are either good average or a bummer right not not great yeah they're either good average or not so good most of the time you're in that zone you're rarely in the zone worth seeing things are fantastic and you're rarely in the zone where things are absolutely horrible but they happen hopefully more times fantastic than horrible you never make a life decision when you're in the extreme zone when things are fantastic don't make a decision because it's artificial and when things aren't straight are horrible don't make a decision okay I had a really bad day at work just a horrible day the boss is really all over everything's going wrong you don't quit that's not the time to quit it's an irrational decision things are fantastic don't make it don't make it somebody makes you a business offer and it sounds fantastic don't make any decisions they'll be if it's too good to be true it probably is right so don't make decision it's not a rational the same thing when it comes to marriage you meet a girl and the girl is if I mean if she's horrible then you can make to the situation if the girl absolutely fantastic that's not the time to make a decision because that's artificial that means that you're smitten you're in cheater you're what I call your your your you're infatuated and that wears off very quick that's artificial you make decisions of life when things are somewhere in that middle zone things are good could be better things are average there you're thinking rationally and then you can stop and think yourself though I really want to continue with this job is this really something that I want to get involved with when things if it's extreme it distorts you and you see over here that I've remove II know the love of God he's so eager distorts rational thought bilham hates the Jewish people the hatred the sparkler starts rational thought that's not the time to start making decisions so I probably who gets up and he takes the two eleazar and what he thought Ishmael with him and he chaps who would be heads for the place where God told him page 102 by Yo Ma Ashley she on the third day by Esau Grubman say no Vera some Okumura oh my god makes away three days because he doesn't want any he doesn't want any skeptics to come along he says okay chef your son he says okay give him the dice check them everybody says sure in a moment of in a moment of irrational passion he went and chef to the son think about it for three days and if he could do it after thinking about it for three days and again you're not in the extreme zone you've shifted into the middle zone you're in rational thought you're doing it with a clear mind and you're taking in God's command and you're implement and you're implementing it based on clarity of mind clarity of thought so he sees the place from the distance now you know when when somebody wouldn't win one nobody should ever have to go to the house of mourning but how do you comfort a mourner what do you say to a mourner when you comforting them hamako me enough you missed them Hashem is called the muckle do you ever hear that hamako Hashem is called is one of the names of Hashem is hamako the place why the Shem called the mahkum why the Shem called Marco because the word is Hashem in the world or the world is in Hashem correct say he is the mahkum of the world where is the world what places the world of the world is in a sham he's the motto that's why we refer to him as the Mucka Mucka me and not even to mention the place the over control controls all controls life death he should come for you from welcome so here the commentary say by Yamaha Shri Shiva Issa Brahmin say no if he raised his eyes by yaar as hamako miracle on the literal inner play meaning is that he saw the place where he has to do the shedding from a distance when the commentaries points out you see I'm from Aveeno he's on such a high level there forever Aveeno at his level it's really not much of a test she I don't of course Rocco does he does the stuffs all the time in order to put Avram into a state of making it a test he actually moves away he sees the mahkum which is Hashem mera hook from a distance Hashem distances himself so to speak from Avram Aveeno in order to create the test of Aris I'm Marco miracle from a distance now what happens is the classic masseur sorum talked about in this every Jew when you serve our cutters working there that's called you may have ax and you may Cena that's what the moosers firm call it there are days of love and days of hatred in your service of a shot you may have amines everything's clicking you dive and well you get along with people you're just sweet as the cuff it's cayenne and and you're learning well it and you're just you just you know you can't wait for your next Mitzvah you're just you just you know you what you just want to be so from and you just want to do this the rest of your life and forget about eating right there you just have one at your at your what they call your you're in it you're in a zone right everything is everything taking in Shabbos is good everything's good then there's what's called you may see no you may see it as the sitter is a bunch of words you don't enjoy learning tomorrow you're wondering why are you wasting your life and some religious institution when you can be making money you don't get along with anybody right and you're just it's just not happening right that's call you may see this so the country's point out that's that unintentional it's not unintentional right you ever have those days like that yeah sure every 10 minutes yeah so so that and by the way it doesn't have to be bad dates you can have it you get a one hours great the next hour isn't it could be it can be a great morning took a nap you woke up and like my goodness way in my you're not cold right you know it you know and it's it's it's what he got it happens it blows hot and going happens everybody it happens every right now ever watch parents do parents teach other teach a baby to walk how do you teach the baby to walk you know baby gets up he starts waddling in gross trips a mother holders then walk over in a certain point the mother lets go and the baby takes two steps falls flat on his face if kids good talk right and that's what they do you hold it okay let go it takes a couple of steps when does he develop better when does he develop better he develops better would he when you're holding his hands when he let go let go it's harder it's more difficult where'd you go mom let go but that's the best thing for you now you're gonna grow now you're really gonna develop rights I think you need kids to learn to ride a bike you know for you you run along you hold it then yell if you think like go and the kid goes riding on his own problem is you haven't taught him how to stop I went skiing once in my life I went ski I went skiing with a friend of mine she takes you out to Wilmot Wisconsin about two hours out of Chicago this guy was a daredevil I just got this guy ended up flying this guy with this guy ended up ended up designing planes for McDonnell Douglas is actually flown enough in an f15 in Israel and I played chess you know and this guy's this guy's he's it there that's he takes me out I was 20 years old takes it out the Walmart Wisconsin so first he takes me you know there's a little put on the skis you know there's a little bit starts sliding around little bit they take you up to what's called the Beatty Hill to take you up on a ski lift up to the Biddy align a bitty hill was like Mount Everest the bitty hill he takes me up there I'm on a mountain right okay so I starts going down in a know as I'm going down I got that Olympic music in my head dun dun dun dun cuz they always he had the Olympics yeah in a certain point I'm picking up I'm picking up the wedding on and also now realize at certain point I don't know how to stop right and I'm moving really fast and I don't know how to stop so I threw myself over in the snow caught one of the skis I could feel the tension on my knee it could I see how easy it is to break a knee and then I just sat down and slid all the way down and then I went into the clubhouse waited an hour and a half and he he hit he had a great height you know I did that was it that was the end of my skiing career right so so when did but when do you develop you develop when you're on your own when you're on your own so the iris tomoko miracle Coco's Roku so to speak withdraws that happens to us and those days when you're not connecting and those days where it's not smooth your goal there is maintain a minimum level go through the motions the big mistake people make is boy every by diving is just horrible and then they don't dive it at all that's mistake that you're gonna drop lower my diving is horrible just keep saying the words tomorrow it will be better might be not on my side here I'm not getting along with people don't don't go hide in your room try to be nice do the minimum you can tomorrow you'll be better safety with learning safety with every Mitzvah that you do don't quit if you quit all you do is you drop even further down so the yaris of milk America goes Roku pulls back a little bit to make it a test the Omaha from Milner of Shula time point Macklemore vine Eber now note I'd go perfectly finished Aqaba vanish of alaikum he says yeah you guys wait here with the donkey this is where we get the expression they are a nation compared to a donkey I'm hadou melaka more that's not clear if he was talking about Eliezer was the Canaan it cannot name or you smell who's the Raven but one of them is like a donkey and he says you stay we're gonna go up we're gonna bow and we're gonna worship but we're gonna come back and Rashi says that he had rough Hakodesh over without knowing it he said we're gonna both come back he didn't know that yet so at this point he was planning on killing in select and shuffling him he says that but you gotta promise I'd say all over yes I'm uh it's like the bird oh he has he it's like carry the wood but he got to be otherwise Asia sigh my fellows he takes the fire and he takes the knife but y'all fish damn you after they go along together and at this point you think doesn't know anything hey dad let's go you know we're going and you'd walk out yeah stuff together pay attention very careful and gentlemen look at buzz excitement but younger gets like a labrum of ease but you're more of a father Marine any minute yes my son the aubergine a I try to answer Lola where there's the fire in the wood where's the Sheep we're missing something the Omar from Elohim you're lol Oh liberty God will show us the Sheep for slaughter my son well you know who stay mad forever they go off together so the commentaries you know whatever really said there's a calm over we're missing a comma well you're a problem hello keep your Aloha God will show us a sheep look hola Benny the offering is my son that's what gets like understood he's getting a shepherd yet they yell Fouchet me after they go off together like they did before he goes willingly cuz he understands that he has to be alarmed so these long now one of the questions that's asked over here is my question is s over here is first of all why it's like listening to him as father chef you what what do you mean right number one number two that Annette because he doesn't want to die because they once interviewed they once interviewed a a mindless actress on TV you know what he's into they gave her a whole interview about her career you know you know all the usual and then at a certain point the answers there's some disaster in Indonesia or thousands of people I said there well what do you say but you know that's go outside world of it what do you say about that disaster in Indonesia and she goes well you know death is really terrible because when you die a big part of your life is gone right yeah thank you very much so so it's a you know it's like just like he's on his way up there it's like he's on his way up there anything he knows about the oven but you're not allowed to kill killing people why does he listen to the answer is Opera he knows a prophet there's a howl of the Prophet tells us to do something wrong we're not allowed to listen unless he's got the status of being we mentioned Kazakh this morning he has been established as it Navi the classic example is a Leo on novae and her are caramel where he brings offerings outside the base of media should they live why to listen a Leon of either doing something right answered because he's established as an avi so yeah it's like knows his father's an of even though he said you have to do it see it's like is willing to go up to thee means Bey off now now what's incredible here is you know as I say the candidates put in the comma got a read into Avram vinas words remember the story about the kid who jumps into a swimming pool at the hotel the kid jumps into so he starts swimming around so the guard season they can't read there's a sinus there's no swimming a lot the kid says that's not what it says it says no swimming allowed he learned Gomorrah you know right make a veteran to the phone right hello Camilla a sec comma hola Benny you're the offering okay now what a taste of the gentleman which which you really have to this is such a fundamental take a look at the entire Club mesh up to this point we find Avram Aveeno he speaks to his wife speaks the sorrow he speaks to lote he speaks to you about to hug her smile he speak now there we don't say it's speaking in there there he throws him out of the house he speaks to pyro he speaks na'vi mela he speaks everybody nowhere in the Torah do you find him speaking this book had a son for if you're a hundred years under your law waited all those years he never find the conversation he never I mean it's like and what's interesting is in the meddra it says they went they'd study Torah together and he taught him I guarantee you he spoke them a lot and not once does he say that he spoke to you it's like until where until the akkada first thing I'm in a slaughter you first time idea where's this sheep you are the Sheep right that's the first time he ever speaks it the first time you find a recorded conversation everything it's like it's a little little little puzzling so you have to know that the Torah is always teaching or something and the lesson is look what he says what he speaks the it's like by Omer avi and pus excited first time you look says the Omer I'll be father the Unruh he nanny Benny Here I am my son what you don't know you it's like as a son and then he again he asked him where's the Sheep says I Shem will show us the offering my son ok so the answer is like this the answer is you don't educate kids by talking so that idea educate kids you have to get kids through your actions I guarantee you have Raveena's spent spoke to you it's like thousands of times especially if he was 37 years old at this point thousands of that there's this an opinion that he was a baby that was right after the bris that's why he didn't resist that's why I couldn't resist that's why it's not considered a test for you it's like he's eight years old right after it reserves around my moment but according to according to most of the Madrasi he's 37 years old he never spoke to him he always spoke to so why is it only over here that Avram Aveeno speaks the answer is because when you're educating kids you don't educate them you don't educate them by talking educate them by example you want your kids to dive in let's see how eww right kids the bench let's see how you bench when he does speak to him then the tour gives us another what's the lesson how he speaks them my son father has to speak to kids with it with affection most kids who struggle especially with yiddish kite let's walk to the kids they feel that they did not have enough attention affection love from their father the mother always the mother's a mother always cooking for any bacon suffering it's the father is too harsh the father's too tough and that turns kids off Avraham Avinu spoke them hundreds of times but if you want to educate you don't educate it went went and one of the mistakes we learned all the sorry one of the mistakes parents think that by getting the kid to do it that's training that's not training getting the kids they can do it as control it's very easy to control kids you're bigger in control kids know properties yell kids go scampering around as soon as you start yelling they go scampering around now everybody gets into bed they start flossing only homework all those action verbs right that's only because yell it's not hard to control it you want to train the kids kids are trained by watching what you do not but when you tell them to do the father if a father is what he got I heard about a kid who was stealing kid got caught in in a school stealing so I pulled money I don't think the teacher catches is I caught you you stole money out of his briefcase yes you got me says let's go take them to the principal principal says you stole money out of briefcases yeah so you don't look too upset about it says no no I'm not he says you know you're big trouble he goes yeah you don't seem to be too worried and that you know I'm gonna call your father don't you yeah so you're not to worry no why not so my father's gonna be proud of you why would you probably proud of you my father walks around all day bragging about how much he rips off the IRS for you know it'll be proud of me right now the kid the kid doesn't know that the kid doesn't know what would that doesn't know the difference the father feels there's a difference cheating ers and pulling money out of a briefcase the kid doesn't hear two different so the father who the fathers that particularly kids gonna be in there you understand that's that's all it's all the difference everyone this is a terrible you love it there was a there's a big school of so they like like a firm scope big school event so to Brinsley got hundreds of parents are there it's like the graduation or something so the kid you know the principal calls up therefore call up the first kitty says you know Schley me what's the big mitzvah in your home that everybody knows with tremendous enthusiasm what's up what's up big bits at your home in our home learning tour oh there goes a little beautiful you know call them zeg is that what's the myths in your own says in our own doing tests at helping people beautiful terrific wonderful turkey ago there was a analysis wearing sits us you know we always get good citizen everybody by cross up to fourth get it says yankee what's the big missing in our home eating charles the principal golf the Ridgway year after they go okay that's re that's everybody what's the myths is done with enthusiasm he says it why would you say that he says listen Shabbos you know we sit down at the table Chavez and you know oh we have some fish and my father you know says says it's our Torah and sing some Samir's then my mother brings out the child and my father is gone I mean he's just in that trouble you know and he is just jolting you know they they they that's what he doesn't what do you want you said that's what the kid sees that's what the kids see the kid sees what the kid sees what the parents are doing so opera The Tortoise teaching a lesson over here never spoke to me always folk this is that how you teach it you teach them through your entrance okay so they go off to the place well you know all I'm on call my share Marlo leukemia but you've been shut my promise that means my parents like ebay Yokota's yes like me no but yes of us all I miss me Molly said he binds you suck up pasta good by Osaka from is your dough the word fight you suck has the other beats he did it eagerly with enthusiasm he stretches out his hand to get tonight by ye cactus Amma tell us he takes the knife leash coat SP note to chef the son Abram Avena this is the pollak that is a merit for the Jewish people throughout history Abram Aveeno without a moment's hesitation stretches out his hand to take the knife to share this honor okay what could they do or finish this tomorrow and go on to high sir because we have finish up what the results of the Acadia [Music] [Applause]