Parshat Ki Tetzei: Dress Code - Rabbi David Kaplan

I you this is a very practical mess up bottom of the page bottom of page 1048 low sorry top of page 1050 I'm sorry second line in 10 to 15 Ted 50 low yeeah klieg ever Alicia a man's how does iris code translated a male garb should not be on a woman below you'll Bosh giver seamless isha a man should not wear a woman's dress or a woman's clothing ki tavo session el caracol SI ella is an abomination for a man to run around in a woman's dress or a woman around a man's clothing as an abomination now why first of all before anything else I mean tell me it's not nice tell me it's inappropriate why is it an abomination why is it abomination so the commentaries explained before the answer like you know it's running when the Jews always answer a question with a question right these are there any questions if the Torah says why is it if they ask yourself well why would somebody do it that the Torah tells you not to do it or doesn't say don't bang your head against the wall because nobody was gonna bang but if it says don't cross dress see if the answer with her said don't that means people do why do people do it at the door he has dominated the first answer is basically for immorality because when when you men dress like women women dress like men Bruce Jenner notwithstanding so then then you're then your then then you're what i call it i was recently nauseated so so then then you then your then you everybody was I hope I was I was ready to cry I mean I he was a hero oh is this guy was the ones in went limp into camp lining guyana a no an operation i was everything we revolted i can't believe it so a man to wear if they're doing this cross dressing is generally for purposes of their morale in the filtrate man wants infiltrate a girls school wants to be in a girls dormitory girl wants to be in a boy's dorm with who knows what they do it knows what mission gas the world's up to you don't need any you know better than I do all you had to spend a few minutes on a college campus so so I'll get the ones like so the Torah says number one it's an abomination number ones abomination number two Torah says let's see what's included in this provision yoga pooram is that were not appropriate the posting they've been there the one thing and I will not let my kid even my kids are from the youngest age I will not let them cross just do anything right there enough other costumes you could dress up like an astronaut you can be Holland's horse you can be anything you'd only have to dress up like a woman and especially when guys dress up like girls and become very unsee looking guys guys dress up like provocative girls this totally in utterly unappropriate inappropriate you can put on you know sometimes parents put on a little boy they put on the mother sheitel to see what a two-year-old look up I will not load now then i'm not very stringent about how ohio you know I'm pretty lenient about the you know long as they're keeping the letter law pretty lenient that's not an area to tamper Kabbalistic Lee could affect us a show kabbalistic oh so the simple talk about automated call the kilt oh I didn't kill not a quilt inadequately Cuba called is called a kilt a kilt the Scots were killed which looks like a skirt it's not a skirt it's actually a wraparound it's a big long piece of meat other wraps around it was originated in the Scottish army who were furious warriors and I actually had a guy here from England once got married and I walked into the hosta his relatives friends relatives came over from England and I walked into the wedding hall in at first I looked up I thought I was in the wrong side of the machine because I saw a bunch of skirts right so when she green and green and Boyd played played skirts so i thought i was on the wrong side of a pizza then i took a second look at it turned out it was his family members and what this is considered fancy dress in Scotland and he actually put a the men wear this wraparound thing he actually put a they put the full dress you put a dagger in the sack it's like like you wear a tie clip is the finish on a tie they put a dagger there's like a pearl I think it's a pearl dagger something that they put in the sack because it was a weapon that was Warner that's the fancy okay so so a kilt a kilt probably probably in a country like Israel to walk around for a man to walk around in a kilt would at least be inappropriate and possibly a transgression because in this country societally it's not done and if you walk around and me assure him with it you might get killed right side so it's certainly not it's certainly not something that advisable certainly not advisable now what's what's limited here is what's limited here is that a man is not a lot too make use of or do anything that is unique to a woman woman I'll explain in a second let me give you a couple of minutes for questions a woman likewise cannot do the same for a man so for example a man is that allowed to shave any bodily here other than the hair on his face and on his head manda xalatan go shaving his underarms or his chest or his legs or anything else because that is something that is unique to women so besides the shaving prohibition of the face of a knowledge a with a razor how long have any battle here because that is unique to a woman hold all the questions for a few minutes for a few minutes a man is that allowed to walk around with something that is uniquely designed for a woman for example a purse make not that you would be friends with anybody who would but in case you have this Yates of her to walk around with a purse right you're not allowed to walk on man's aisle to walk around the person a woman right I am not friends with Satchel people is right yeah so you know a man I mean here it looks like let's say something something innocuous like an umbrella an umbrella man your women are for a man to take an umbrella that's got little red heart little pink hearts on the umbrella you know that sort of thing would be inappropriate because generally it's designed for a woman the same thing with the clothing something like men's buttons are on the which side are our buttons on on the right side women's buttons are on the left side and there for a man to wear a garment that has the buttons on the left side according to post Kim is prohibited because it is a government that is you that is designed for specifically for women now if you have for the women a woman is not allowed to carry a weapon because a weapon is a man's implement so a woman's not supposed to carry a gun out if she's living in a really bad neighborhood she needs it for life-threatening situation she could carry sure you carry a gun a handgun or something yet but for one of the prom walford say one of the probs were a woman just to be in the Army is that she's walking around with a gun that is considered a man's abuts so much so if you remember the biblical story of Yael who killed seesaw sister ran away from the Battlefront and yeah L enticed them into the tent and it says she fed him cheese which made him thirsty and she gave him wine too rank and he fell asleep and she killed him by taking a tent peg and putting it right through driving it through his temple so so uh the Talmud explains and why did she use a tent peg why didn't she just use a you know they had they had blades and swords much more efficient and Ted peg she had other but because the sword or knives whatever it is are a man's weapon they're designed for a man so she took something a tent peg which is not used normally by a man as a day-to-day weapon and their first uses tent peg to to put through his skull that's what that's what Allah has has anything unique to women anything that's designed for women a man would not allow it to be we're not allowed to be in get involved in anything that's unique to men a woman I'll be back please this year this gets tricky about even even the but even the jeans and pants and that sort of things the first of all jus from women don't wear pants and for that first of all pants are not considered sneeze because it gives too much of an outline of the body number one number two even those who might let's say a nurse a nurse where's the nurses nurses pants ISM summers Oracle scrubs were they right so then it would have to be specifically designed for a woman though those things that are promised permissible are only permissible if they're designed for a woman just to grab I I never just just to put on a for a woman to put on a man's the Blazer just cuz she's cold outside she puts out her husband's blazer that's not acceptable now when you get to something like winter coats sometimes winter coats look all the same again these are these are very these are individual calls depending on the and the specific situation if it meant wear parkas and women wear parkas and they're designed exactly the same so that's considered neutral but anything else anything else which is unique to women when is that a lot too as a matter of fact you know that there's a lot of a man is not supposed to preen himself in a mirror their post getting asthma will be looking at yourself in a mirror preening yourself in really you know you know you know they're taking carry you know you can look in a mirror according to most buzzer you look at a mirror to make sure it's nothing unsightly about you there's nothing there's nothing on or near your face which doesn't long there that you're allowed to do but this is there admiring yourself in gazing at yourself in the mirror that is considered woman like behavior you see that women have what's called a vanity kit they shamelessly call it a vanity kit which is something that opens with it's got about about you know it looks like it looks like a hexagon and they can look at themselves from every angle even even scientific instruments could not pick up and and you know and they'll do it in front of 12 other people you know a woman of war paint rarely could a woman walk past the mural if there's a mirror woman's gonna stop and check herself in you know dude hey lady you know it's the same what is the same you as it's been for the last 50 years yeah good she's gonna check in the mirror for a man if you've ever looked at yourself in the mirror you know one day you're looking yourself than mere and you're you're pretty happy with the work that I Shem did and you're you know you're admiring yourself in the mirror you know and then also in the room of your roommate walks in all saying you're like oh you know you're you're you're pretending yourself why because I mean feeling it's not what I should be doing and it's uncomfortable for man to be caught what do you got such an ego you're looking in the mirror nets does he look at or what y'all yeah you were you and your yours you were to call the sketch satchel huh no what is it what are you looking in the mirror for what a woman looks in the mirror sounds like I can't I i had i take my the mirror i got a mirror my hallway near my doing and where am i study and I've got daughters I had him I gotta move that mirror cuz they're always Gangrel gaining by the mirror with their friends okay guys you know go down the hall will you put it up somewhere else because because that's natural so man's not so for us nowadays cousin our society it's acceptable to wash your face and look in a mirror in the old days where you didn't have mirrors mass-produced so if you had a piece of glass and you can stain the back of the glass that gives a reflection you gave that to a woman because we already have one give it women women need it men don't need it so in our day and age you have mirror so you look at mirror to make sure there's nothing inappropriate there but to sit there and it by yourself is that it contacts or anything any practical needs some people have a mirror they're tolan back so there were certain post schema so you don't even look at your chillin in a mirror roval yashas early i should he had a revelation of held you don't remain had a mirror in his bag so they're different postgame ultimate but so you can take out there a lot of many of a mirror you just check to make sure but if you're checking your chillin and also like yeah yeah yeah that is utterly that's utterly inappropriate that's not there that's how that's not what's supposed to happen right in there hey that's not it's not it's not what he calls that showings oh yeah what did that I don't you move pretty more like you see actors they put my so if you're acting and you put on makeup for the sake of acting it's a very good question i haven't got an answer for you one would have to ask a one would lcf nova for example let's say I think it's something that's not necessarily let's say you're competitive swimmer competitive swimmers down the Olympic they shave off all body here because that increases their speed by about one thousandth of a second and when you're when you're competing at that level you know you're playing for thousands could you shave your buddy I don't know that you're allowed to the halacha says that you're not allowed to say it's a prohibition and the fact that you went to the law says your knowledge to transgress any prohibition for the sake of for the sake of money yeah you might not be allowed to do so and I so we talked about in Syria store provision