Parshat Behar Bechukotai: Why Worry? G-d is in Charge! - Rabbi Yisroel Perelson

[Music] the harbor Hawkeye site the project begins in a very interesting way and the project tells us if we're gonna do the right thing then we're gonna have all kinds of blessings that are gonna be conferred upon us one it says Venice a team Makani beside him I'm going to put my Michigan in your midst and then the pasta can sew up the lacing enough she is fen and I will not be disgusted by you that's very very interesting imagine you tell your wife you know I love you and I will never ever be disgusted by you by your looks yeah I love you and I'll never be disgusted by your looks what is your wife gonna say to you you're done right that's that's it you're on the couch for a long time so what's that got this broke was saying here if you're gonna do the right thing I'm going to be close to you I'm going to put my smitten by you and not only that really Seagal knife Shias fan my soul won't be disgusted by you so we know that in reality the relationship that cloudy Stroh has with a cottage Burkle is a very strong relationship and there's all kinds of dargahs there's all kinds of levels to relationship the perhaps the lowest levels just acquaintances somebody that you know somebody that you bump into every once in a while and it's very easy to smile and be on our best behavior very simple a stronger relationship is now perhaps somebody - you live next to right a neighbor and with a neighbor there you're required more there's more that's demanded of you and sometimes when neighbors when there's fights between neighbors it gets a little difficult but it usually does not get to a point where a person cannot stand they per the guy at all where his mom is disgusted by him doesn't get to that level the highest level of a relationship is a relationship between a husband and wife a husband and wife is the highest level of relationship where there are two separate people but they're almost fused into one fact it says that really technically a person cannot become one with another person the only other means but the only other power that we could become one with is a kind of spark which says Easter look at your brick Alberto write Cercado cloudy sure all could you Brickell is there cards a college bar who arises the tie Ricardo there we could become we could meld into one but with a husband and wife it's actually two separate people two separate realities and they live together and in a sense what happens in the beginning of a marriage we're a couple of husband and wife they ride that wave that euphoric wave of tremendous romance where they each feel like they're completely one entity but as time goes on they hit a rocky period because they realize that they're not really one in other words I am my own individual she's her own individual what ends up happening is each one pulls and says wait I am the one so therefore they want to hold it out to that concept of one of unity of complete unity of way of just taking two people and moving them to one so they want to hold on to it but each one feels I'm the one so each one pulls in the other direction so if they're able to surmount the rocky period that normally comes after romance so they're that end up having what's called mature love which means to say they'll grow into this mature global understanding then you are different than me we're actually not one we're very very different right with totally different backgrounds but I grow to understand and respect the differences between us and that's mature love and that's a healthy a healthy relationship now however if the relationship goes sour and the closet and a husband and wife sometimes hospice all get divorced what happens there they could reach a point it could reach a point of extreme hatred extreme a true where all that a sudden the person is disgusted one spouse is totally disgusted by the other so it could reach that point and the Gemara tells us it's a good Martin son Hedren the Gemara son Hedren tells us that and and this is the way the Gemara puts it down that if a person that where the gamar says when i would when the Gemara speaking about two people when I was in love with my wife the Gemara says so I even the tip of a sword was enough room for me and my wife we would rest together and be very happy together on the other hand when things went south a little bit and we couldn't get along as well says even in bed the Comoros as if 60 cubits was not enough for us so when things went well we enjoyed each other him and a tip of a sword he'd say we were able to live even in a tiny house and we were still extremely happy you wish things were bad even a giant house wasn't enough we weren't in each other's way even enjoyed the house we you we stumbled over each other so that with that understanding of what love means that sometimes love has different different ups and downs and sometimes they a person could fall out of love completely where they end up hating the other person sacrilege Burke who says a human being when he gets married he can never fathom that you could never tell you a bride I love you so much but I guarantee I'll never be disgusted by you because that's an insult because first of all nobody really knows nobody you're back on this book hotels Chloe so I have the relationship of a marriage with you and I will guarantee you that as far as you go even though in reality a human being would be disgusted after I do so much for you and you completely turn your back a human being would be disgusted but I'm guaranteeing you that they Siegel naxi I will never be disgusted by you one of the things that perhaps is the hardest thing to work on and build and it's interesting one time I was being menachem album by Alex Roth for his mother allowed Sean and the mink ature rebel was there and the miniature rubber was there I asked him I got your album what should I study with Micah hello Rob one thing I can't conquer everything so what's what should it be what's your do that one thing be so he sat there like if I see this your elbow you know stroking his beard closing his eyes and you know he stood there for a couple of minutes the moms just thinking back and forth and then he said study with them emunah out of everything he picked the Munna and it's interesting I one time also I went to a live diamond so I asked him I said you know sometimes every once in a while I want to I want to I want to imbue the idea of color limb to my people not necessarily that they should learn in color but they should have the casillas right so we also closed design he's thinking and thinking and thinking and then he tells me teach him that God exists I couldn't believe it I was so shocked as a teacher what God exists I mean they come to shul no no teaching that God exists and in a way when I walked out it it really moved me because he he sets such simple words but this they're so profound because what does it mean that God exists you could take it on infinite amount of levels to understand the existence of God we need to say if we understand totally that God exists we would always be calm we know that occurs rook was governing the world there's a famous story just to illustrate what that means of lives Timon says if there would be one moment one believer in our generation we wouldn't have all the problems Satya said what even if dopey one believer look at you shining don't be one believer says knock dobby won't believe there'll be one person like a Brahma being reset the one believer like a Brahma bina wouldn't have problems just to understand how Brahma winner was a different level what does that mean so I heard a story to illustrate it it was stated in a way that hits home a little bit said this over once it was an individual that was climbing climbing a mountain and he's climbing and climbing and climbing and it's climbing Mount Everest and in the middle of the way he notices he doesn't have enough gear to make it all the way to the top and he doesn't have enough provisions to make it all the way to the top but he doesn't have enough gear to get back down he's gonna take him two weeks to get back down two weeks up so what does he do is in the middle now what does he do so when there's no atheists in the foxhole he begins to diminish and begins to pray God please help me out and he's praying and praying in all the sudden here's a heavenly and the heavenly boy says my dear son I see the pain that you're in and I see the predicament that urine let go of the ropes and I got your back and he thinks for a moment and he looks back up to the heavens and he says is there anyone else up there is there anybody else that can help me out me to say how many people would go through history how many people will actually let go see I'm a Brahmin it's like Yakima let go then how many more people would like a right just ready to go just total trust in our Shannon submits their flesh Arab League's time and Tom tells me teach him that there's a rebuy nationale you will have to learn that that's a week spent on 80 90 years here in this world to learn fishery binder Shalom in the world but this was the concept this is the idea and the front most fundamental idea of Gillis right the idea of him you know and he have this parsha that's how it begins this parsha is beginning with this concept of Emunah you know the plastic tells us been a snow or xperia rocket my so ever be September better holla comes this NASA shmita it's not too sweet to tells us listen no snore xperia the land is going to get fruits and B shaft mo bettah you're gonna sit with a certain security but you're gonna eat you're gonna be completely full nothing to worry about but then the plastic says which is Sam remind us on our serious your ask what will you even the seventh year right Smita Henline Israel - serviced was saying we're not getting together we're not going to plan so what are we gonna eat Betsy VCS beer cozy Lauren Bashan on she sees I'm going to give you an extra buffer on the sixth year Barroso start all the slush on him and that Braco is going to be so intense that you're going to have well that's six year you're gonna have the sixth year the seventh year and the eighth year you can have three years for it so I don't understand what's going on over here on one hand it's telling me that the land will give its fruits and you're gonna eat a little bit the miss Barbra Mayo it's going to be blessed in your intestines you could just see it a little bit and I'll be blessed in your intestines you don't even have to eat that much but then it tells me well what happens if you're gonna ask what will be in the sixth year okay this purple says I'll give you food for the sixth seventh and eighth so which one is it in other words I'm going to have I'm gonna be eating a little bit and that's gonna be mr. Bartolomeo so what do I need that extra Bravo of the sixth year will have will give me so much food that I won't have to even worry I'll just look at my storage houses I got so much that there's nothing to worry about for the next couple of years so I saw an understanding that there's two types of people two types of immunise there's a nimona that a person has right but it's a very simple omona we need to say of course I believe in God but on the other hand I want to work as hard as I can to make this six-figure income so I could live a certain way there's another type of amor not that a person knows this and I'll have whatever I need I'll have whatever I need at the end of the day so here are kotas Burke was catering to both type of Jews to the Jew that understands you know what I'll have whatever I need right so him he says you're gonna have enough other words even if you eat a little bit it's going to be blessed in your stomach so don't worry about it you have a little bit you're gonna be it's gonna be blessed in each stomach the other one unless he has the hundred thousand dollars in the bank you may not ever need to use it but unless he has it he has no security he's constantly worried where am I gonna make my next dollar cicadas burro who says I'm going to take of both Jews and shemitah each one and you see that nowadays very much you see people sitting and learning in color how do they survive eight nine children how do they survive it doesn't make sense right people making 100 200 thousand hours are struggling so how's this car like a surviving so in a sense because this bar who doesn't say that that they're gonna survive large where does it say that something Ishmael can be eat I'm gonna snort Cebu love it's a so they attend period you can say I'll give that I'll give the rain at the same at its time it doesn't say that if you're going to go in the proper way I'll give you a Lexus in a big house mo Basin doesn't say that it says I'll give you rain and it's time it says I'll give you I'll give you sustenance I'll give you what you need so a person that understands that he could survive with what he needs and he doesn't need so much so he'll have that special Brocklin that oral chemo the nice part of a Mayo he eats a little bit and he becomes foam the other one will not have that Braco but he may have the money so you may feel like he has that security but at the same time you it's the kyla guy how you doing and he's having a good life he's enjoying it he's driving an old car and the only thing in the car that doesn't make noise perhaps is the horn but everything else is noisy he's still happy he's not doesn't feel like he's mean he's missing anything the other guy's driving his beautiful Lexus but at the end of the day he always has that worry now if you think about it everybody really has trust everybody has trust and I'll prove it to you everybody has faith not feel the same you go in the morning everybody's going to Manhattan right now what you don't have to have tremendous faith when you get onto that train you're trusting that the guy who is driving it had a full night's sleep and he's not drunk and he's going to steer the Train right yeah we're very calm so without faith everything that goes on throughout our day we cross the street we're trusting the guy that he's going to stop right the car is coming but we're trusting that's going to stop because it's a red light so in a way a person is wired with tremendous amount of trust but when it comes to rebind assure them what happens how come we're all of a sudden it's hard for us to trust what changes that it's hard for us to trust so in a sense first of all it's a big big weight Sahara it's a big age of Hara why because the moment the person trusts completely in a sham all right just like oh there's Burke who created the world it's complete he has no doubt at that moment the person is McCoy he's obligated and on mitzvos like that wise judy isn't much harder than Christianity because Christianity is go to the Pope and you can ask for forgiveness and everything is done he paid 50 bucks on Sunday and you're done right and that's it you get forgiven in Yiddish guide yes of course there's also this concept of Cuba but there's 613 myths is that behind you right afterwards so the moment there's so many mixes that bind you there the belief is so much stronger it's so much stronger when a Christian person says I believe it's one level when a Jewish person says I believe at that moment you bound by 613 mitzvahs so when you're doing it you're believing on a much higher level so certainly a jewel has a much higher level of belief than a guy but even then where each diamond is saying is that the levels are infinity the levels are infinity and where do we see it we see it at this guy that's in the middle of the mountain he's right in the middle how many people will let go so we see the levels of Ramona are countless therefore a person has to work his entire life on the idea of am you know when a person believes automatically person doesn't have any more pressure look at some of the good Island it's not like they're smiling all day yeah you see a guy's smiling all day that's dominant also there's a fool we see a certain level of tranquility and the person's mind right and you just look at the look at her of crime can you see a certain level just peace right it's it's it's amazing just to watch yeah whenever I go to Charlotte I come to get a bracha from him I look at his face see this is just inner inner tranquility let me say Wow here's here's what a total diamond looks like this is what it looks like this is this is the picture this is the this is the feeling you can't really see it in a picture but you could see it when you're in front of a person if that's something that we could always work on it every step we conquer on a Munna is a tremendous step forward there Frank of the sparkle at the end of the day he believes in each one of us anytime we get up in the morning right boy down neither phone Ephraim Melek IVA Khayyam she is not to be dismissive the camera boom the ceramide a minute when they're calm how could this birth why thank you why because he trusted you because Rocco trusts and believes in us that today we are we are going to do Wow well if we fail you may believe us and I said nah you may believe in us another day so every single day then I could explore who lets us live he believes in us that's the idea Lisa ganache yes honey I will never reject you how cuz this girl who says I have patients and our patients and our patients as much as you drift I know one day you could come back so we should be safer the rest of our lives to work on discontent the vehm you know now we work on em you know we will realize that the wife were supposed to have that's the only wife that I could've spoke was set for us we believe in it the children we believe in it the environment will believe that because it's broken you are running the world and with that a person can never be sent every day of his life is another day in paradise beds awesome we should be safe them the consequent towards that level so every day in our lives will be another day in paradise coming [Music] [Applause]