Parshas Vayeitzei Zera Shimshon Shiur by Rabbi Simcha Bunim Berger at Beis Medrash Ohr Chaim

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father's brother that's her uncle right Rifka I mean Raul and yov were first cousins right but you're saying that I'm your father's brother that means I'm your uncle of yes sir yes thank you but is that true no so what's he saying and yov was supposed to be is he's only saying the truth correct the gar wonders about this quotes and he told her I'm your father's brother let me read for you the gamar because the Zarin just gives us excerpts let me tell you the says the as follows that they're not Brothers not brothers that's my that's your uncle your uncle because you just said you rifka's son and RKA love in our brothers The Story Goes Like This jaob told rul on his first date the first time he met her will you marry me he proposed at the well so it's bash basically b b where's all of our I'm looking around the only here today yeah there you go he had all the things to go with it yeah so yeah he said Min Ro was okay with it R would ready to say yes she says you got one problem you got to get through my daddy you have to get through dad dad's not going to be so masra in she said yes the girl said yes in gamar says she said yes but meu however R dad is a Rami that is a Sly individual he's the kind of fellow you shake his hand you count your fingers okay Dad is Father what no what her father her dad her dad's he's a Rite and she said something else you are not going to be able to out out maneuver him you're not gonna be able to maneuver him what's his what's his beef what's the Ramos like what's the big deal why you want to marry me I want to marry you what's the problem I have an older sister right and inish they would say that means goes before the so my older sister comes first we're not he's not going to let me get married before she gets married according toes he says that R was still a little girl maybe only seven years old Leo was already 16 much older so there would be G doesn't just mean because she was let say heavier G Katana means one was an adult and one was still a child she was saying a what was saying a she was saying right no she not saying a she's saying dad is a you're not gonna be able to marry me [Music] first you know what said back I'm his brother where two of I could do the same thing can write I can beat he has experience like we talked about last week right he got as we learned last week I was quite confident that he had no problem taking care of of L here comes the question gentlemen so then she said to him and you could see it in the Z do you mean to tell me Yakov that you are proud and you are capable and that you are as conniving as my daddy is aren't you a sadic I understand dad is like that how are you allowed to do this are you kidding you're allowed to you're allowed to fool somebody you're allowed to do that in says IM if a person is straight so then if somebody is straight if someone's straight you have to be but if he's if he's Sly then you can be Sly too so because I am just acting to him the way he's acting to me says the therefore that's why he gave her the and as we know gave the Sim over to Leia afterwards that's the gar that's the gar now with that background says the Zer I want to understand what was this conversation between yov and ra what said that all I'm doing is just making sure that this person doesn't trick me which is a but it's also very logical what you're supposed to be a Sitting Duck you're supposed to let somebody just go ahead and and fully rip you off yob is right if if somebody's trying to snatch something from you that belongs to you shouldn't you go ahead and fight for yourself shouldn't were you supposed to let yourself be a n you don't to be S you know they once they once said I have to tell you over they once somebody once went to they were learning a complicated talking about this I think it was it was it was or maybe it was a gifter thear was had such a complicated about this tin and that tin so somebody asked rash says Reb you're talking about regular people some of them amarum who's ever going to think of making such a Tiner so the rash said when it comes to his money is there a he can like and other things when it comes to that is he knows very well how to Dr so if somebody's coming to try to take your money away from you if some's trying to fool you so so says the of course is right so what's what's R's and what did what did answer that's question number [Music] one gathered everybody together M I have to read for you the med over here as well to give you the background what happened on that faithful night it's actually the story started before the night yobu makes a deal with let's just be clear yov ainu makes a deal with with Lan Lan makes a deal with Jakob seven years you're going to work for me and then I'm going to give you what Jakob asked for is I want fine Deal's a deal says the medish as follows he gathered everybody together to make a m before yov showed up a few days early he gathered together everybody in the whole city and he said to them do you all remember we didn't have any water remember how we used to have to go gather together the that was before showed up listen to the way L is talking about Yu ever since he showed up there's been water everywhere in other words like they say when the Tide Rises all ships rise with it yobu is here he's making everybody wealthy there's water for everybody and since Yakov showed up it World our life has been amazing you know what he wants to do this guy he wants to take my daughter and leave you think we can let him leave he's good for business he's good for business we have to keep him here what can we do for you how can we help you said the said the people of said the people of of of if you would like you'll help me we'll give him Le this way he really likes my if we give him Le we can milk him for another seven years okay so let's do it you're all my we're gonna do this together what's that we're gonna do this okay we'll do whatever you tell us we we're in we're in first of all I want to guarantee I want every you guys every you fellows give me some give me a mashin nobody dare say what we're about to do in other words Lovin wasn't in this on himself Lovin got his whole town to be on this was he sold them on this because it's not for me it's for you Mas they gave him a Mas this love you know what he did with their money he went out says the he bought meat he bought wine he spent all their money on the okay right you know whose money he used y's so he gets all of their money if you want to know why he's called very simple because look what he did he got everybody to pay for his wedding then the whole day they were getting ready for this wedding why there's so many people over here why are there so many people I learn they said it's thanks to you that we have this so we're here for you according to one they got upset because they saw that all their money was spent on this wedding so now they started saying he but didn't want to say then afterwards they came in they shut the lights they blew out the candles says the medish call he said she said and she said she acknowledged look at that look at you You're A Ramos the daughter of Ramos ramban says he wanted to give her a get ran learns she got pregnant right away right if she wouldn't have got pregnant he would have given her a get as I st ramban he don't had nothing to do with her didn't get pregnant took years and Leia kept on having children so he saw that obviously this is Bash but it didn't change the fact that she was a ra she she had fooled [Applause] him and you kept on saying yes yes tell me something has AAL you're a rabbi right I'm your talet you know why and you said yeah as yeah so I learned from you my husband and you're my I learned from you state in the let's see what does have to say about this didn't know no he didn't know no he did not know as a matter of fact I'm going to tell you something even more tell you something more yeah I used to hear this from my cousin re used to say do you know Howes was he says and this like you know what's going on let me ask you something he would say I want to ask you a question if you live in the same house with a girl that you like for seven years seven years in the Z and they bring somebody else in you're not going to recognize that you're not going to know Yu was in the house ofu wases never looked the fact was that's why we do it now we pick it up to see who it is right but yob think about it s years to Z in the Z's in the same house and doesn't know and and we can go to give somebody else look at that I saw it I think my Ritson told me it says in a medish that Jakob would send presents to ra Lin would take them and give it to Leo take now the gets upset now let me ask you a question so what just happened in the story so gets upset at Leia what does he what does she say what what does he say to her you're a Rami what does she say back I learned from you I learned from you this is the way the emo talk two wrongs make a right what's going what's going on what's going on what do you mean how did she know was it was why was he there you think he didn't know that already knew that also what that yob was somewhat of well according to as we learned last week Yakov had a very good reason to do it correct as we're going to see that as well this week mother right she saying she said you I'm just doing like you but the question is very you're not addressing the question two wrongs don't make a right even according that yob had no right to do it whether Yakov was right or wrong what kind of tin is Le we're not talking about I mean it's interesting story but we're talking about the and so what's the what's going on based on let's learn we're learning the Su of Ramos when it's m and when it's what's called being a and when is it considered run had a you had a warehouse full of wine in one day all of his wine turned into vinegar don't it all turned into vinegar came in and with I'll read you the gamor they say to him um rabbi we heard 400 barrels spoiled you maybe you should make a this obviously doesn't happen by chance maybe make what do you think I'm a so they said back to obviously if the did this to you it's not a coincidence correct so we understood look at the sensitivity they knew something was wrong they didn't tell it to him in punan they didn't say it to him straight to his face because that would be disrespectful so they just hinted to it he picked up on the hint and therefore he said back to them if you heard something tell me I want to know I want to know if you heard something tell me whose barrels went bad and every time if somebody knows that somebody's upset with me please tell me I want to know want to fix it so he says I did something wrong you know something yes indeed rebba we did hear something what did you hear what we heard was sh we heard you haven't paid the wages you had in who is working with you 20% 30% depending on thear says they different you haven't paid the wages of your RS that's what we heard that orus he's supposed to deliver to me wages do you know how much from me do you know how much he stole from me you know why I didn't pay him wages but I gotten it from me says the b gva g b gva when one's person steals you find another stealing meaning two wrongs don't make a right just because he stole from you and he didn't give you what he had to doesn't give you the right to now to now to take away his wages look at thetion of the right you already taste meaning you had to go ahead and pay him says the Z I want to share with you what I learned from this gar and this gar is going to be the of yov R and Le when a person is allowed when a person's allowed to out smart a person who's trying to steal from him and when a person has to Let It [Music] Go a person steals from you that isn't a license to steal if a person Steals and a person is wrong two wrongs do not make a right if my father says just like you can't steal from somebody you can't fool somebody if my father is a Rami how in the world do you have a right to be a Rami as well R had a legitimate how do you have a right to be a ram look at look at the story 400 who gives you a right to be a r you know what y answered but says here's the rule brings him down you might not be able not for sure cannot go after somebody because he goes after you but you could protect yourself not to let him steal from you if you can outsmart somebody so he doesn't take away from you what rightfully belongs to you that's not called to when after the fact he's taken it away and now you want to grab back k a separate Act of G Geva that is prohibited however to stop him and outsmart him he shouldn't steal from you that you're certainly I do one second elzar you can stop the Rami from taking from you to go ahead and take some to go ahead and take something back meaning let's talk about the fellow who lost R whoo lost 400 barrels reuno lost 400 barrels now why did you lose 400 barrels because you're Tina you didn't want to give the person the wages why didn't you want to give the person wag because he didn't give you something don't go ahead and start doing Tit for Tat if you could have stopped him from stealing from you do whatever you can to stop him from stealing but after the fact once he's stolen already now you want to go ahead and steal back that's prohibited so therefore so when R said to him how are you going to go ahead and be a Rami you know Y is saying I'm going to stop him from doing it before the wedding I'll stop it before my Ramos is to not let him give me Leia my Ramos is to make sure I'll give you the so that he shouldn't go ahead and do it that's okay that's what the says one second what did I do didn't why did you go ahead and fool your father I guess what you're going to say is since you purchased the so therefore as we mentioned last week when yov told was he lying no he wasn't what do you mean he's not lying you want to give the bras to the I bought the B I bought the B the as that was your you don't know that I bought the we I want to be we spoke about last week we mentioned this in the past when a person wants to give a if you want to give a bro you have a son we'll call him asov are you asov yes I'm giving as a what does it help that yov wears he wears as's clothing and he says I'm as but he already told you I'm giving the BR to as what's your name your name is yov so how are you getting the BR if I have in mind to give a br to this and this person and someone else comes and impersonates that but you're not that person so how's the BR working here the the ter is why do you want to give the BR to because you want him to take care of me correct I don't have Ain he's not doing this he's not taking care of me so you want me to take care of I'll take care of me the job that you're looking for which is the as of job of the I bought that so says Le toob so what are you telling me you are allowed to trick him you know why you're allowed to trick him because you said because the belongs to you because in order to stop somebody you weren't taking as's bras you were holding on to your BR because you're timing that because you bought the and the BR go to the B so you're retaining you're not that's what you're saying right you're meaning I'm going to make sure that asov doesn't steal my brus because now they're mine listen to me yov in our country here the older girl gets married first you're taking away my rights by taking my younger sister so I'm taking back my rights in the same way in the same way says says the DU do you know what they would say on the street the big one to the big one the small one to you ever heard that it doesn't say to it says oh you became the you so then you're mine too go it doesn't say that as and Leia what everybody said is the big one to the big one you became the Big Brother me too then I'm also the one because she cried and she ripped herself away from that she DED that yakob should be successful in getting the she that yob should be the God if jakob's the God then she didn't DAV that she shouldn't her Z was the god so she daved if yob should be she I've been ding for your success cuz when I D for your success then I'm in your too I once said this over years ago I look to try to find the medish in's mind if R and Le were supposed to be the two that are going to have all the kind who are they going to have from and together he'll have and he'll have together they be like but has to get the from so he has to become the god he has to come the he has to become take over layers as well too as well you want to go and take away so I'm the one who get if you're the God so come to me if Roo would marry you then it would come out you're not marrying the you're marrying the K that's not fair well I'm doing exactly what you're doing I'm allowed to do it because that's the kind of which is m say you see I'll finish with where where I'll finish with this you see once the world had submerged Into Darkness after the ofish after the and the world was a place in order for the world to be reestablished all of the had to be slept out from all the the more K the more it was surrounded with T it's not a coincidence that R and Leia the two people who were responsible to were in the house of such a r such a swinder such a an unscrupulous person taking R's presence and giving it to the older sister stealing from the whole town because when yob is bringing them to him he's pulling them out from the they're kades like R was Kadesh but you have to take them out from the grasps of the T and bring them like right the which is found in all those like a damsel in distress you have to bring them out from all those to bring them even ineris where we find ourselves so surrounded with Tuma there's probably never been a time in the history of the world where there's so much T every not yours yours is I'm sure filtered right not not more than the Dora mble because they were destroyed we're here they did they didn't have phones of it's unfiltered you could see but they when you grew up NE right in our generation right I didn't have that go Frank there was no phones right payone what you couldn't get anything on that either there was nothing right there was only magazines NE right and there wasn't right and there wasn't on it now all every that a person is all here at the palm of your hand one or two clicks away one or two clicks away so we're living in such a massive of unfiltered Tuma that it takes a person to be able to pull themselves away and have the to say no I'm not looking I'm not going to contaminate myself I'm going to have something is very hard over it's in every single ye where does it come from because this is what the did they pulled out all the Kad from the most Tuma places the path has already been set it's in our DNA it's in our genes the only thing is that a person has to believe that he can tap into that energy and pull out those a person has to know that as Bleak as sometimes he might think it is and it's so hard and it's such a big it is but there's still because G was created through the of taking K from T from L out of his house from from ter all the biggest T places all came from T places all came CL you saw came from was the biggest theer that's where came from that has the of K to be able to take the find the kadha within ourselves as the Gus comes to an end and we find ourselves surrounded with all this t a has to know if there's so much T there's so much tahara there's so much Kad and you can pull out sometimes you have to beamos and sometimes you have to be you have to trick the you have to fool him and give him a little bit of his medicine to not let him take away the kadha that's inside of us so m is we should see all of this negativity so that the of should shine