PARSHAS VAYEIRA: THE TORAH PERSPECTIVE ON WELCOMING GUESTS Shiur by Rabbi Nachum Sheiner

This week's para paras vira the whole beginning of the para theory is and goes through of ravenu's not only was he wanted to be and he sat outside in the sun the very strong sun to be machn where is the maknosarim Is it is it the rabbon? Is it from the mitzvah? Let's begin this morning shar with clarifying the to be of course we see was and a lot is learned from how was but what's where's the so the raam the rail ais that's the end of all the raams from the 14 of the last last ais the raam says It's a mitzvah on and then the the raom goes through different which also we see in this week's par and then it says so the rabam starts by saying it's to do the but then the ram continues After going through all the examples says even though all these mitzvah are so they ask already is it is it we're going to leave it on the side for now but the Rambam begins by saying that the but then the Rambam says it's included in one of the mitzvah of the same thing. >> What' you say? >> The ra's going back on all Yes. All or the whole list also. Yes. Speaker the whole list is included. So it's a little less clear from the words it tells from the Rambam if it's the or the however this the safer mitzvah is God the one listing out lists out all the mitzvah he says that the mitzvah is a mitzvah where is it in the where's that so he says it's included in the mitzvah of one of the mitzvah the mitzvah say to go in the ways of the to go in the ways of the rabbin to be clearly the goes through examples of the gumar brings the brings the you should go in the ways of hem So the gor has many examples. The garra says that a person should be should help out a person that doesn't have clothing because that's going in the ways of the gave that didn't have clothing. room. The Gomorrah says a person should be in this week's par other examples you should be void. But if you take a look in that Gmorra, the Gomorrah doesn't list out You're telling me this says that included here. But why doesn't the Gor list it that should be a that is not included for whatever reason but why doesn't the Gar list out in the right of the Gar gives examples what happened to the example of so the schlaw says like this first of all it has to be that it's the of the as we see in this week's para Not that we see that was but as we see that the was expands on the it has to be that that is the of the says in this week's par the could have just said that was the whole with the story and the and was waiting for guest the whole and how he was machn And even more this was did by himself the paid back even in the in the paid back like it's more by through the what he did back. So it has to be that this is from says the that what's the biggest that it's the to all of us every day every minute every second we're all guests by theam all the time we're in his world and not only we're guests we stay by him we live by him. He gives us to eat. He gives us to drink. He gives us to sleep. He takes care of us. Like he says, if the wouldn't be a person for a minute, it's over. So is constantly all of us. So meaning to say is the ultimate all the time. So for sure it's on the say the on the in the in the I think it's from a son asks that the ra brings it theanim learns of I believe what we're more familiar with we should we also should have not in doing things. In other words, not in the MS is that learns I mean it's a but the Rambam learns that how he quotes is what's the examples of is so that's why the Rambam actually doesn't say that it's included The Rama says it's included. But he says they're both true. It's not a like says to be to be and like the says to also do what does I'll step number one is the m for the that we see that was either included or it's included in how is one the So the goyan and kio on the pekk also in this week's parita. So the guy quotes a medish into which is also a rashi. Rashi brings this in. Rashi brings this medish. So to be doesn't have to be that the person sleeps there. You take in somebody they need that's hungry. You give them to eat to drink and you also mava the guest. There was a story that um in the times of the vilgoyan there was somebody a wealthy person. He had a big house and he he had an open house. people came to eat to drink. He was he was a real it was a and he had a fire and his whole house burned down. He lost everything. So they asked the the mitzvah of he used his house for the mitzvah that couldn't be a sh that his house shouldn't burn down. So he said the says what's what's the definition how you of the guest ate you walk him you walk the guest out this person he was tak to drink unbelievable however he wasn't malava the guest and asel if you take away the lambs. It's only a he doesn't say that the came of but he said he couldn't have the of the because he missed a part of the mitzvah part of the mitzvah and part why why is it separate >> it's a good question I hear you asking you give the person to eat so with it comes to drink yeah he's And is a different part being malava the guest but I mean you give him to eat you give him to drink. Yeah >> it's for sure that au gave there was it was in the desert and to give the drink is for sure a separate thing for us. I mean what's the big deal? You just go to the sink. If you don't give the person soda, you don't give them. So it's included. But sometimes it could be a big thing to drink. >> Excuse means consider one but it's very good. Ah we're learning. So the connect very good. Yeah. It's two separate uh two two parts. Very good. Very good. Just for a brief moment to focus on the part of there could really be a full shear just on the ofus but just to bring mish briefly what where's the innus to do we know of course to give to eat to give to drink I mean even if it's one thing but where's the also from this week's para brings because he thought that they were a guest. It's more even than the other parts. It's interesting that the Rambam when he says the I quoted before he refers to the other but the says in this week's now of course it's also to give to eat and to drink the guest more than bringing the guest in is to be malava and the say if you're not malava kill the just to bring out we're familiar more of giving to eat to drink maybe even the person to sleep but the part also to be is super important again there could be a full about it why are we not the mitzvah Slovia the answer says that the world should be nizer I had a grandmother my father's mother my grandmother shiner she was very very whenever they were very they always my grandmother was very she did and when she was older she says to go be malava the guest to the door but the people of malava people unbelievable to be malava so the brings in the name of the kazines's yard site was yesterday nifty the khaz says that lavoya's is only when a person is goes out by himself. But in today's world whenever guests live the streets these full of people wherever you're going these it's not these are rashi and bylashi says that when you came out to say so the the rashi says we didn't see that he went by himself says that's why today it's less relevant it's not so important though these are asked that the when was the wasn't there was three of them just to to go a little bit briefly touch upon onya I want to share with the a story that the Kazan brings besides in honor of his yard yesterday But this is to understand define. So we spoke about we said is to give to eat to give to drink maybe it's not so these other brings the following story there was a person that invited a guest to come to him to eat Friday night to suda proper the person didn't have where to eat he invited the person his family knew about it they prepared they were excited He comes home Friday night without the guest and the family was very let down, very disappointed. What happened to the guest? So the person said like this, what happened? Why didn't the guest show up? Lisa, there was a miscommunication and the goblin in the shul thought that the person didn't have where to eat. He went over to the that that the person and he told the person you could go to this to so and so and when he was to leave when this person the original when he was to leave Shu and he didn't see the person he asked the Gabba said oh yeah I sent him with somebody else was not going to go knock on the door and claim his guest but's family was very let down so he said do you think machn is to have somebody to display a guest. The definition of machn is to make sure that the person is taken care of. He told his family we were mach because when I invited him he was lost. He didn't have anywhere to eat. Okay. Now he went somebody somewhere else. Okay. Very good. It's not the idea of it's not like the is you have an like keep him you should stay on the person is to make sure that he's taken care of. So if he's taken care of, who cares if it's taken care of by somebody else? By this one, by that one, he brings it. He says like this guest is not like it's like to do business with the way we need the person to display to come. The main point is that what a person my d is my my responsibility is that the should have what he needs. It doesn't make a difference if he has what he needs by me by somebody else. It's important to understand the essence the course the way you do it is but it's really more than that. It's it's to make sure that the person's taken care of. You see this concept in the mission obvious says and one of them is I want to give I want to be the giver of so explains what's what is it this unhealthy mid of I should give okay he wants to be the giver okay He wants to be the center of attention. Noo-Noo. He missed the whole entire point. You want to be the giver. That that's not the point that you should be the one that has the open house. The wants that the or they should be taken care of. So if a person just wants that he should be the one doing it and not somebody else, it's not just that he wants to be the center of attention. No, no. He missed the whole point of is to make sure that the the person is taken care of. You should be just as happy if the person is taken care of by somebody else or by you. Like the says that the person that invited he gets the of the mitzvah. This person that his guest never showed up because he did he made sure that this guest should be taken care of. Just to even break it down, this is how important it is. If somebody invites a guest and then someone else wants the guest to come to him for whatever reason, it could be par that the first person the first person is the one. The second one was because he was but the first person was what I need to say is the is talking about a case that the person never showed up. It could even be if you give over your guest to somebody else you gave this person that he asked where to go someone asked to take over that guest. Okay. You gave him the place you took care of him. Now he's taken care of. And the same thing would be as if you go over to somebody and you invite him, he doesn't want to come. These such examples, a person doesn't want to come. Could even be you more than just that is the essence of you took care of him. You you took it you gave him a place to come to understand. Sometimes a person looks at the mitzvah or different mitzvah mid in the practical the practical he came and he ate by you that's the mitzvah the background of the mitzvah theem of the mitzvah that he should be taken care of zatal yardis today once gave a whole with many examples that you find that you can only be mid only we say every day First you have to have the to be able to do my grandfather I've mentioned in the past yes in this week's para in also different examples we're not going to go into it but examples where sometimes something looks but if it's the right thing to do it he brings a if it's the right thing to do the that's for an example you see of Ramino this week's para sent away hoger theim from the outside look goas amik was supposed to kill out amik killing out innocent people if that's what the thera wants so that becomes the right thing to do so that's back to of course the the way how looks good picture perfect would look guest comes we have to understand the background of the guest the background of the mitzv Just to conclude on top of this one more point in but but actually just one thing of course in the mile of the Gmorrah says from this week's para the second sharashi that god And also these I'm going to skip it. I just wanted just to point the med says that we were to the mitzvah of still within 30 days. We were to the mitzvah of because of it's a in this week's para but just one more point to bring out the let's call it of the we said one point that a person has to understand that is to care for the person. One more point we're learning now on the night. Wednesday night I went through together with the mitzvah when you're already giving. It's not enough to give because the wants you to give a lot of and how to go about with it but you have to give sodaka because you want to give has a big about it that if a person gives sodaka because he needs to give sodaka it's not going to last it's not going to happen person has to train himself to want to give sodaka to want to do to want to do to be happy to do it meaning to say is if the comes You should you should be excited. You should want to do the but here we find even more. If somebody asks can I please come eat by you or you see and sh somebody that's and you go and you do you shouldn't just do it because you have to do it because it's the of course you do it because the said but you should do it because you you want to do it. You want to do but it goes even vo you see something in this week's para the wanted that should have an easy and I think made a boiling hot there's nobody passing by like this he could rest up was that he couldn't be the mitzvah was betarian this week's para what's what's the mile that if there's no guest if there's no guest so you're not mitzvah of course if there's somebody that's a a person passes by and he needs to eat he needs to drink you call him in but was says imagine somebody on Wednesday's bit that he it's not chabas today I mean could be a lot of people of they would love that it should be shabas for other reasons but if a person is he can't be mitzvah of shabas today is not shabas wellar right now you can't eat matzah when it's what what does it mean with this I'm going to conclude of course like we spoke that is to make sure that the person's taken care of but to do the hashem to be this to take care of a person should be that he wants to be to be mive to help out. If there isn't anybody, there's no need, you can't do it. But if you want to. So what we see over here is the issue and you see somebody's lost and you call them. That's very nice. But a person should go around all the time. One of the mitzvah is to have guest. A person should be to want to do it. The mitzvah of Have a wonderful Shabas.